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150 Excerpt. Carol Sanford, as No More Gold Stars comes out (& brief update)

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What a week at the regenerative agriculture conference in Margaret River. Fair to say we’re still buzzing, and recovering. More on that later. Normal podcasting will resume next week, but this week has actually been lined up for a while – in anticipation of that recovery, and the release of a very special book.

Carol Sanford’s new – and sadly last – book is out this week. It’s called No More Gold Stars: Regenerating Capacity to Think for Ourselves. You might remember her talking about it back at the start of the year in a profound 150th episode, that drew such a wave of response from so many of you.

This is an excerpt of that episode featuring the last 20 minutes or so of our conversation. We pick it up at a particularly poignant and funny moment, where Carol is talking about one of her many great success stories in engaging with business globally in education and leadership. This led to my voicing a hint of doubt about the capacity of big business to change adequately, given the way the systems and structures are oriented. I was summarily admonished, in a way I enjoyed then, and recount still.

Here’s part of the blurb from the full episode:

Starting the year with Carol Sanford feels incredibly special. She’s been at the heart of what we might call the ‘regenerative paradigm’ for decades. Friends and colleagues have spoken about her with me for years, right up until the end of last year. And last month, a previous guest and author of Sand Talk, Tyson Yunkaporta, featured Carol on his podcast. That’s when I learned the sad news that she has only a few months to live. When I wrote to her expressing my care and respect, and to see if she’d possibly be up for a chat with another Aussie podcaster, she said sure, but ‘I am declining and so can’t wait long.’ Days later, we shared this conversation.

To hear the conversation in full tune into episode 150, A Regenerative Life: Carol Sanford on living, dying & changing paradigms, where you'll also find a few links.

Head here for automatic cues to chapter markers, and a transcript of this conversation (note the transcript is AI generated and imperfect, but hopefully provides greater access to these conversations for those who need or like to read).

This conversation was recorded on 2 February 2023.

Title slide: Carol Sanford (source: NHBSR 2019 Conference page).

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No More Gold Stars: Change Through Education in Business

Carol

Including, we only lost one white manager in Africa who said I can't do this , and he left . Everyone else stayed, because we didn't tell them they had to change , we educated them on assessing how to do their own change . They moved . So the reason we get the question you asked like , well , how do you get people to do this ?

Is because they assume it has to be a doing . You have to move them , you have to change the laws , you have to influence and control , and they don't understand the power of educating people to see their own mind and its effects . And so it's a simple answer .

And the thing is , in South Africa , what we did took six months for something a year or a few others in the mining industry that took only a couple years , but it was all through education , not on what to think , but on how to think and see your own effects . And then you choose .

Anthony

Yeah , and you were invited in to do that right , and this is true of so many businesses , including big companies around the world over your lifetime , and it's always made me like I've had this bit of a struggle throughout the time .

I've particularly known your work because I think you perhaps represented to me most in the sense that you've had this enormous success like with , with how you've worked with these people and yet a lot of these companies I mean even Google , for example , but not just a single out I guess I've wondered , are the structures that they operated in operating still holding

them tightly so that whatever they've benefited from with you , they still can't really act out ? I mean , they can act out to the extent that you've described it there , for example , but with shareholder structures or infinite growth oriented economies or extractive surveillance mode . Online technologies Are these things ?

Carol

you sound like Tyson you're referring , referring to everything that doesn't work . I don't work for it , I work . I find leaders who are willing to make great change and we go work there and it influences hundreds of thousands of people .

And , like in South Africa , when they replaced they little seishos with a GM I was working with , they put in a guy who was basically a Nazi and he pretty much undid , undid the structure we put together but you couldn't take it out of the people . No one who worked in the company reverted .

They kept doing the things the right way and trying to lift up these guys and eventually he has to be moved and to leave his new GM position . So the problem is that you can move by moving probably the minds of a few hundred people in a company with 3,000 , they all change and they worked in the township .

Those people who are in the townships are still bringing about change at the level of everyday work , especially in Soweto and Alexandria , and the people who were in Colgate no longer have the structure to be up in the police , but it's in the mind and heart of the people who are still leading things . Mandela started , so quit looking at what doesn't work .

Anthony

It's exhausted .

Carol

And it was the same thing I was saying to Tyson Don't be so skeptical . It takes very little to move a whole lot . And if people go , find the places people are ready , even if that's 5% of a neighborhood , go with them 5% , because research has shown it probably takes 2% to 3% once those people move . So I don't look at where people are stuck , I look .

I find leaders who are ready to move .

Quantum Social Change and Spiritual Journeys

Anthony

It reminds me of a recent guest I had late last year , karen O'Brien , and she just released a book called Quantum Social Change for a Thriving World . That was the subtitle . It's one I remember . You met her more than you think was the title . That's right , it's Quantum .

Carol

Social Change .

Anthony

And yet extrapolating what we're learning from quantum physics into the social cultural domain . And it's a terrific hypothesis and it really reminds me of precisely what you're saying that in everything , everywhere , in every moment , embodying a way of being is going to bring about all these reverberations or fractures .

Carol

Well , I don't think that's enough . What do you think ? Yeah , I think that I believe in all that theory .

I have a technology to use it , to apply it every day , working with people , because that level that you're talking about I don't know about her it's such a high level of abstraction you can say , yeah , well , of course , but what do I do to help grow people to think ?

Well , I don't have a really book , but I find a lot of people who say to me well , you're talking about something somebody else said , but most of them don't have a technology , a way of every day redesigning works . So it lives up to those principles , and so that's what I have been building .

I have two communities one with change agents who are consultants , teachers , owners of companies , and they meet with me for several years and then suddenly they see what that meant . They entangle one of the quantum and so forth , but they now know how to redesign a company based on it and how to educate people .

And then I have a change agent group or sorry , a company group where you have teams of people who come in and learn how to redesign their business . And so when you're a part of those two communities , we give you a technology .

A technology means how to transfer theory into practice , into design , and so I think there are a lot of people who are well , something enough maybe , that are getting the new theory . My work is based on quantum science , on indigenous teachings and on lineage wisdom .

Teachers like out of various countries , raised like Buddhist traditions and different versions and also a Hindu . All of those have threads in them and have had for decades or centuries that we draw on , and so I take my grandfather and other indigenous and I find their threads in all of those things and then we translate them into a technology .

We don't teach them those things directly . We show them a technology , but what that means , how do you design with it . So I think the theory is good . I think a lot of people are ready , more or less good ideas , but they don't know how to tell you what to go do with this .

So I've got these 3000 who I've managed to amalive them , share our technology with .

Anthony

Yes , indeed , you mentioned those other wisdom traditions . Have Western wisdom traditions been important on your journey as well ?

Carol

Yes , subquatic method is a Western philosophical tradition . It's a big part , and so we have Eastern and Western . I did happen to mention Eastern , but there are quite a few philosophical traditions , western wisdom traditions . Socrates is probably the most intense one we work with , and Pythagoras .

Anthony

Can you describe , yeah , how you work with that ?

Carol

Wow . That's a really probably impossible question because it takes years to get connected . But Socrates had five things he was working on all the time , which we have technology for . One was being non-mechanical . Humans are so sound asleep , and so we have a variety of practices that help you wake yourself and your team up . One is like a disruptive practice .

If you sit in a workshop with me , I may insult you on purpose for something I can see you're insecure about or you're not thinking about or you've seen in the lessons . Like mechanicalers I might say . So is that an idea you've had all of your life and you've never questioned it ? And people don't come defensive .

Oh , so , okay , now you're going to become defensive . Well , is that a mechanical response ? So I do that to members until they're no longer bothered by me doing it and then . So that's a Socratic process , because it's about waking you up . Humility is another one .

Can you be with people , even as a teacher , and not feel a need to be smarter than them or a need to teach them as you as an authority ? And so I'm constantly . When people first join , I say especially students that did teach at a couple of universities I say don't trust me , never , don't assume that I am any kind of authority or expert .

So don't reject well , don't accept anything I tell you , but don't reject it without testing it with your own personal experience .

That's the only time you can say you know the answer to something is we're doing that , so , so I'm going to use and most people who are out there teaching work hard to get to be an expert and look like they know more and can teach you . So we learned from Socrates how to help everyone learn to think for themselves .

Anthony

And you've created you alluded to before . You've been part of creating peer groups and networks as well throughout your life quite a number and quite a scale too , and they're now sort of moving along on their own steam .

Carol

No , I have not quit teaching any of them . They meet with me eight times a year to learn the next evolution , but they all have independence , so no one's dependent on me . I'm not in charge of anything , I just happen to have some ideas it's good to play with . So they've never not moved on their own .

And when I was learning it , the learning has I moved on my own . I don't report anyone , no one's in charge of me , so we're all independent forever .

But I still , and they've asked me to keep teaching as long as I can and that's probably coming to a closer in a couple of months , because I will choose to sit down and die like the sages and be gone , and then everyone has their own new seed , a place to start a new level of work , and I need to tell you I'm getting really tired .

Yeah , and so let's think about Kind of some wrap up questions for all right five minutes .

Anthony

Yeah good , you've actually given me the perfect segue when you said to sit down and die like the sages , because I was wondering if , if you would contemplate life in this moment for you , if you'd contemplate life as a spiritual journey .

Carol

Well , I've always thought of it that way I am . I don't know whether karma exists or not . Better choose to believe in it Because it makes me a better human and I believe there are some kind of Development . I personally believe I chose to die before I was born with the alf . It's a terrible disease , people . You know how people die with alf .

They suffocate your lungs . Quit working doesn't sound horrible , yeah , yeah , it's always Very few people would want to get it . But I think I chose it before I was born because I figure I would get to learn a whole lot , since I'm terrified of suffocating and of being Custrophobic . So I figure all that was in my plan . Now , how do I deal with it now ?

Pretty well , mostly . The good news is I'm not afraid to dying . So I get , I'm leading conscious dying workshops because on this Western Plain of existence we don't teach people how to die . We don't teach them how to be conscious and in the moment with the deteriorating body .

So the people in one of my two communities are Are meeting with me every other month and I report what I'm doing , watching my dying , and Also I've invited them to be present with me as I go through some phases . One is the Sages dying , and for me that is you stop eating and drinking and your body let's go with your spirit , so to speak .

You can end the state and most places do death with dignity , which means you administer a Substance to yourself that kills you . I the feel that feels unnatural and I probably couldn't qualify for it . But you have to be able to see yes to doing the drugs and you have to administer them , and without you can't do anything that you can't move .

I slowly , I can't even go get my microphone Right . How would I go get while anyway ? But the stages throughout history have said my work is , it's completed .

I can do it this time I'm gonna sit and It'll take about three to four weeks if I don't eat or drink , and I've asked people to come be with me doing that and including online , but they have to be in the Community with us working on their own exercises and work I'm offering .

And then the second of the last phase is after of a left of my body to sit in Practices that we are using in a Tibetan Buddhism for helping us all . We need to weigh on to its next body or whatever it shows them and To be with me for that 49 days . So I'm doing the best they can to spiritualize it and to invite people in .

In want to learn about dying and to the fighting from it , so yeah it's a beautiful journey .

Anthony

Oh yeah , and that is an inspiration . I was just think , I was just listening , with my wife , to friends and colleagues of my wife , one of whom's become a death doula . Yeah yeah , works with people just like this .

Carol

I've done that . Hmm , I did when I said I work with hospice , what they called us . We got trained to be death the doulas , or dying doulas , I think we more called it .

Yes , it's a process , not about the moment , the only , of dying , but the process of Choosing how you will die if you can , and how you will be be engaged With other family members and friends .

Anthony

Yeah , and you did say at one stage a couple of years ago you were going to write a memoir . Is that woven into this current book ?

Carol

No , well , it's woven into many of our books , like my grandfather's story , but the one I'm into right now and I doubt that I'll make it . I had two books I'm not going to get written . The memoir was called Amnus , what was it called ?

Anthony

Oh , yes , I remember this . I am too smart .

Carol

I am too smart exactly Because my father told me repeatedly I was stupid and I spent my whole life overcoming that constant daily . I know it's a terrible thing to do to a child . My last book is about how smartness really happened , and so it has some of my story . So I think what I've done is getting all the way to a memoir is woven it in .

I thought you might say that .

What did I promise to do before I was born? A last word from Carol

Anthony

I think of the impact Thomas Coon and that moment had on you . When I feel like you're having that increasingly still that sort of a moment on other people now and I guess what would you like to say in this particular context as we go out , in terms of passing the baton ?

Carol

No , there's no such thing . Each person . They die , who they are and what they came to do dies with them . The thing is , you have to know and ask what did I promise to do before I was born that I've not completed ? And when I'm asking , people are sitting with me during the V-set . It's called voluntary stopping , eating and dying .

I've asked you get to touch a portal by being connected with me leaving and you were to ask yourself what is mine yet to do ? I'm sitting here with you , Carol , leaving your body , and I can feel now my entire life and my work . And now , what is mine left yet to do ?

Anthony

I'm really taking stock of that , Carol .

Music & silence

Let's go out with a reflection on a piece of music that's been significant .

Carol

I've never played music , none .

Anthony

Really .

Carol

I have silence . Silence is what I do . I don't listen to records . And then when I was young , you know in my 20s and 30s , but music's never been my doorway to anything .

Anthony

But silence has Sorry . No , this is good , this is Silence , yeah .

Carol

I love silence .

Anthony

Your life has been so full . How would you ? Would you have practices that you would consciously then go and be silent somewhere ?

Carol

No , I've lived alone a huge amount of my life . My husband died 20 years ago and he always was in the shop when we lived in the woods and he was all day , except for dinner , in the shop . So it was silent all day and he walked in the woods in silence we did together .

I've always lived with a lot of silence around me , except when my kids , of course , were very young .

Anthony

They were noisy . All right , I can't thank you enough . Thank you so much for being with me .

Carol

You're welcome . Thank you for asking and for listening .

Anthony

Yeah , I will certainly be thinking and feeling of you before you throughout this next period and , yeah , taking a lot of stock of what you've said . Thank you .

Carol

You're welcome . Thank you , Anthony . AJ: That was the legendary Carol Sanford .

Anthony

For more on Carol and her life's ongoing work see the links in the show notes . I'm still sitting deeply with this one and wonder how you might have found it . Thanks very much for joining me for another year of The RegenNarration and , of course , thanks as always , to the generous supporters who've helped make this episode possible .

If you value what you hear , please consider joining this community of supporting listeners so I can keep the podcast going . Just head to the website via the show notes regennarration . com forward slash support . Thanks again . Thanks also to cousins Maz and Kor-B for loaning a studio to me for this one . Reno's to the unit upstairs of us here sent me packing .

A nd , as always , if you think of someone who might enjoy this episode , please do go ahead and share it with them . The music you're hearing is Regeneration by Amelia Barden off the soundtrack to the film Regenerating Australia . My name's Anthony James . Thanks for listening .

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