In 2025, Recon celebrates an incredible milestone - its 25th Anniversary. In our first episode of the new year, Antoin interviews Recon’s founder, and still the owner, Philip Hamill (aka ‘masked’) about the humble origins of your favourite kink and fetish platform. Philip says that “It’s really the members that make the platform as popular as it has become”. They talk about how one guy’s search to find other kinksters evolved from just a simple web page into the creation of profiles and then the...
Jan 16, 2025•43 min
In Part 2 of Boys and Slaves - Shared Experiences, we hear more from boyDonald, slaveJoe, deniedumpling and boyNick about how they each came into making the choice to serve, and what happens when they need to be “corrected”. We delve even deeper into the intimate dynamics of the relationships they have with their Daddies and Masters, their own personal desires, and they each share a few meaningful thoughts for other boys, slaves or subs. Enjoy the episode. “boys” by Donald Shorter: vimeo.com/881...
Nov 05, 2024•42 min
In Part 1 of this episode of the Recon Podcast: Boys & Slaves – Shared Experiences, AJFS71 chats with 4 boys (well… 2 boys and 2 slaves). In the BDSM, Kink and Fetish communities, we often hear more from the Daddies, Sirs and Masters and the boys and slaves are often standing by quietly. But today, boyDonald, SlaveJoe, deniedumpling and BoyNick give us a very unique insight to their experiences and the very unique relationship dynamics a boy’s, slave’s and sub’s perspective. They also give u...
Oct 31, 2024•1 hr 4 min
In this October episode, we are, of course, going to be talking about the increasing popularity of the global trend - Locktober. Ajfs71 is joined by recon member flowfreely, and they talk about his personal experience as a “caged boy - being proudly locked and embracing the beauty of chastity, true submission, his daily cage checks, and being a Kink3D Ambassador”. This Locktober episode of the Recon podcast is sponsored by KINK3D. KINK3D’s lightweight, comfortable and stylish, 3D-printed cages a...
Oct 04, 2024•59 min
In this episode of the Recon Podcast, ajfs71 has an in-depth and revealing talk with serodiscordant couple - HansBerlinxxx and his partner TimberWoofx. They talk about the sexual and emotional dynamic of the relationship (in porn and in kink) as well as the sexual health advocacy that Hans has been doing with Deutsche Aids Hilfe across Europe for the entire pride season, and the educational platform it’s given him. They look at sex, PrEP and kink between the generations, as well as the challenge...
Sep 13, 2024•58 min
In this episode, we’ll be talking about SEX PARTIES. Have you ever organised a sex party at home? Or have you ever been to someone else’s sex party? Antoin is joined by therapist, author, internal family systems practitioner, and party organiser, Ali Bushell. They talk about the “How To”, some of the dos and don’ts, things every organiser should consider, the fun you can have when it goes right, and the pitfalls which could be disastrous for you as a host or for your guests. Ali Bushell https://...
Jun 14, 2024•1 hr 14 min
In this episode ajfs71 is joined by Recon member Kingonjaguar and they talk about BDSM contracts and the law (specifically US Law). They talk about the nuances of making a BDSM contract with a partner, and whether or not it will actually hold up in a legal court of law, and the potential challenges you could face if it doesn’t. Have you thought about making a BDSM contract with a play partner or with your own partner? Hope you enjoy the episode. National Coalition Of Sexual Freedom https://ncsfr...
Apr 12, 2024•44 min
In this episode of the Recon Podcast I want to talk about FF - NOT Fisting - that will be for another episode. Let’s talk about Fetish & Fitness. Sounds interesting, right? I'm be joined by Recon member ‘CoachChris’ to talk about the physical and mental aspects of both our physical and mental fitness and the intersection of how both play into our kink/fetish lives: How we see and present ourselves; How we choose the people we decide to play with; The pressure and Expectations; How we think a...
Feb 16, 2024•1 hr
TOTAL POWER EXCHANGE. Is TPE truly TOTAL? What are the rules? How much control do you have? How much control do you give up? Of course, the dynamic differs for every couple. In this episode ajfs71 is joined by Jonas and Jose for what turns out to be not only informative, but an open and revealing talk about their own personal dynamic. Enjoy the episode. Total Power Exchange by Z. Allora: https://dreamspinnerpressblog.wordpress.com/2019/02/04/total-power-exchange-by-z-allora/ Fetish men are every...
Jan 12, 2024•46 min
Welcome to Season 4 of the Recon Podcast. To kickstart the season, we get personal with our host, ajfs71, as he opens up for an intimate and revealing tell-all with Michael from BDSM Reimagined. You can also join Michael as Season 5 of BDSM Reimagined begins, and he explores his own sexuality, his kinks and rethinking about how he connects intimately. Enjoy the episode. Fetish men are everywhere, discover the world of Recon. Get into the scene. Find your fetish. Show your fetish. Find fetish men...
Dec 08, 2023•34 min
In this episode, we’ll be joined by Recon members TheLeatherOtter and Volfgangbang for what I’m sure is going to be a very insightful and juicy talk about the growth in popularity of one of the sexiest annual kink trends – Locktober. This is the last episode of Season 3, and we hope you enjoy this episode. Are you into bondage, chastity, pup play, pain, pleasure or a bit of both? Whatever interests you, you’ll find what you need in their 10,000 strong catalogue of kink. Warn the neighbours and s...
Oct 20, 2023•48 min
In this episode of the Recon Podcast we talk about GATEKEEPING, and I do things a bit differently. Instead of having just one guest, I’m joined by 3 – Hunter, Pusckatt ONYX, and Master J Tebias. We have an open discussion about personal experiences, as well as about how various forms of gatekeeping affects this notion of inclusivity and the impact it can have within the kink community - often leading to exclusion. What can we do to address gatekeeping it in the future? Enjoy the episode. Are you...
Sep 22, 2023•1 hr 9 min
In this episode ajfs71 talks about one of the fastest growing, and one of the sexiest sexual practices for gay, bi, curious and straight men – Bating. Today’s guest, Nick Woof (also NickWoof on Recon) - founder of Bator Bro, and The Bromance Club, talks about the rise in popularity and visibility of bators on the kink scene as well as the connection between bating, fetish, tantra and brotherhood. Twitter: @batobrobmc IG: @nickwoof.bmc The Bromance Club - https://www.thebromance.club/ Are you int...
Aug 04, 2023•1 hr 9 min
In this ‘Ask The Host’ episode, ajfs71 answers some of your questions about it being your first time at a fetish event, and some of the things you should know. We put it to members on social media to ask us some of the questions they’d like to know about going to fetish events. Our host answers your questions about Venue Rules, Poppers, Dresscode, Nudity, Protocol, Well-being, Consent, Safety, Inclusivity and more. Are you into bondage, chastity, pup play, pain, pleasure or a bit of both? Whatev...
Jul 07, 2023•49 min
Does Fetish Belong At Pride? In this episode of the Recon Podcast, Antoin (ajfs71) talks with Tom (aka TKLondon) about this pressing question that always sparks fierce debate during pride season around morality, ethics, the continued fight for visibility and inclusivity and just who decides which part of the broader LGBTQ+ community has the right to march and make a political stance at Pride. Are you into bondage, chastity, pup play, pain, pleasure or a bit of both? Whatever interests you, you’l...
Jun 09, 2023•49 min
Mental Health is a topic which should never become irrelevant to our community and today we’ll talk about just that. In this episode Antoin (ajfs71) talks about Mental Health and the stigma around Mental Health Shame. Joining him is psychotherapist and clinical sexologist, Dominic Davies – Founder of Pink Therapy. We hope you take something away from the episode. Are you into bondage, chastity, pup play, pain, pleasure or a bit of both? Whatever interests you, you’ll find what you need in their ...
May 05, 2023•46 min
In this episode Antoin (ajfs71) chats with Laurence Malice, the man behind the legendary TRADE club in London, about the club’s history, changes in the scene and about Kinky Trade – the most recent collaboration between TRADE and Recon, bringing together the underground music scene, queer clubbing scene and the fetish scene. Get yourself off and get even with Regulation, the UK’s premier destination for fetish gear, sex toys and restraints. Gear up with a wide range of rubber, leather and sports...
Apr 14, 2023•23 min
In this episode ajfs71 continues the conversation on how the leather scene is NOT dying. The city we’re focusing on in this episode is Sydney, Australia. Our host, ajfs71, spent 3 weeks in Sydney for World Pride and Mardi Gras and chats with Australian leather man, Dick Savvy - also known as The Naked Barber - about the kink scene down under. Get yourself off and get even with Regulation, the UK’s premier destination for fetish gear, sex toys and restraints. Gear up with a wide range of rubber, ...
Mar 10, 2023•47 min
In this episode we celebrate UK LGBT History Month. ajfs71 brings back one of his favourite guests from season 2, Neal (they/them) aka lemonmeringuepie, and they talk about how and why we celebrate our LGBTQIA+ history with the added twist of including some of our fetish history. Get yourself off and get even with Regulation, the UK’s premier destination for fetish gear, sex toys and restraints. Gear up with a wide range of rubber, leather and sportswear including many styles ready to ship next ...
Feb 03, 2023•40 min
In today’s episode, we’re talking about one of those fetishes that often causes some kinksters to raise an eyebrow, and that fetish is ABDL. Recon’s ajfs71 is joined by Miles Roberts (aka TiggerPup on Recon) - Director of Communications at ABUniverse - who sponsored the long-awaited release of ABDL as a fetish interest on Recon. They talk about just what is ABDL, why it’s previously been such a taboo topic and about its growing popularity. Enjoy the episode. Sponsored by https://www.abuniverse.c...
Jan 06, 2023•41 min
Today’s guest is psychologist, Dr Liam Wignall (aka CommonKinkster on Recon) who’s recently written a book called ‘Kinky In The Digital Age’ – where he explores gay men’s subcultures and social identities. Antoin (aka ajfs71) talks with him about how advances in technology plays such a major role in our day to day lives and how it affects our psychological, social and sexual behaviours – especially our kink. The book can be bought from: https://global.oup.com/academic/product/kinky-in-the-digita...
Dec 09, 2022•1 hr 10 min
Welcome to the Recon Podcast. Our guest today is Stephane (aka BLKaiser on Recon)– the face of The London Leather Social. We’re going to be talking about the increasing popularity of the fetish social, our drive for kink visibility, the perception of elitism on the leather scene and just how open and inclusive it is. Or is it? Get yourself off and get even with Regulation, the UK’s premier destination for fetish gear, sex toys and restraints. Gear up with a wide range of rubber, leather and spor...
Nov 04, 2022•56 min
Welcome to the Recon Podcast. In this episode members got to “Ask The Host”. You sent us your questions (some funny and others more serious), and our season 2 host, Antoin (aka ajfs71) responds to the topics about Recon, events and the fetish scene in general. One thing remains clear - it’s all about community and what we are doing to keep it not just surviving, but thriving. Enjoy the episode. Get yourself off and get even with Regulation, the UK’s premier destination for fetish gear, sex toys ...
Sep 02, 2022•42 min
Welcome to the Recon Podcast. In this episode we’re going to be talking about the joys and the pitfalls of fetish, kink, why we engage in certain sexual practices and a clearer understanding of sex addiction. Today Antoin is joined by Silva Neves - one of the UK’s leading COSRT accredited psychosexual and relationship psychotherapists who’s going to talk more about our sexual behaviours, how it can affect so many aspects of our lives and how to begin getting help. Silva's book: Compulsive sexual...
Aug 05, 2022•56 min
In this episode we’re talking with Stefan Dickers – Special Collections and Archives Manager at the Bishopsgate Institute, here in London, about Fetish History and Fetish Pride. As we are in the midst of Pride season and celebrating 50 years of the Pride in London walk, it’s important to acknowledge our fetish roots, the importance of preserving it, making it accessible to up-and-coming kinksters and remind ourselves just why it’s important to have fetish visibility at Pride events. The People’s...
Jul 01, 2022•30 min
In this episode, we're chatting about Fetish Relationships. We're joined by Recon members LeaderOfThePack and Leadersboy (aka EnglishLeatherMaster and elmssub) and talk about how they’ve integrated a Dom/sub dynamic into their relationship as life partners. More on coaching from LeatherOfThePack on https://www.englishleathermaster.com/ Get yourself off and get even with Regulation, the UK’s premier destination for fetish gear, sex toys and restraints. Gear up with a wide range of rubber, leather...
Jun 03, 2022•1 hr 4 min
In this episode, we talk with Recon member DogBoiBailey, about one of the fetish scene’s most taboo subjects: Politics. In his recent article on Fetish and Anti-fascism DogBoiBailay challenges our stance on kink and politics, the symbolism and correlation between fetish and fascism, and why Politics is such a dirty word in some fetish circles. UFAF on Instagram @fetishagainstfascism https://www.instagram.com/fetishagainstfascism/ Pawzitive Influence: @pawzitive.influence https://www.instagram.co...
May 06, 2022•1 hr 25 min
In this episode, we are joined by Michael (Recon member Mongrel87) and Indy (a clinical psychologist based in Sydney ) for an intensely deep discussion about Kink Shame and the flip side of Erotic Humiliation. We also address issues around gay shame from friends, family and colleagues and the culture of Fem, Sex, Gender and Kink shaming that exists within our own LGBTQ+ community. You can hear more from Michael and Indy on their own podcast, BDSM Reimagined, on any of your favourite podcast plat...
Apr 01, 2022•1 hr 6 min
Welcome to the Recon Podcast. In this episode, we're chatting with recon member LoneWolfPig. Many of you might also know him as the fetish legend, Race Bannon. We’ll be chatting about his incredible history on the fetish scene, the incredible work he’s done for our community and, of course, about… Race Bannon the author - The Man Behind The Articles. Please enjoy the episode. Get yourself off and get even with Regulation, the UK’s premier destination for fetish gear, sex toys and restraints. Gea...
Mar 04, 2022•1 hr 14 min
In this episode we're talking with Recon member VikingInLDN about becoming sober, and about how such a profound change - having a real clear head has led to discovering and enjoying Real Clear Fetish. Please enjoy the episode. Get yourself off and get even with Regulation, the UK’s premier destination for fetish gear, sex toys and restraints. Gear up with a wide range of rubber, leather and sportswear including many styles ready to ship next day. Are you into bondage, chastity, pup play, pain, p...
Feb 04, 2022•1 hr 1 min
