Emily has always been passionate about decorating her home. It’s a big creative outlet for her! But the online culture around interior design has started to bother her – it's all focused around buying more stuff in order to feel good. And that actually doesn't feel good at all. This week on Should I Quit? Vanessa and Emily discuss how social media and the forces of capitalism intersect in the world of home improvement. -- We are so grateful to our supporters on Patreon who make this show possibl...
Dec 12, 2022•27 min•Season 3Ep. 8
Hannah calls her parents…a lot. Like four times a day. She loves talking to them, but all her friends think it’s weird. So she’s started to wonder: am I being too clingy? This week on Should I Quit? Vanessa and Hannah discuss what makes for a healthy parent/child relationship and how to adapt to aging parents. -- We are so grateful to our supporters on Patreon who make this show possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Dec 05, 2022•27 min•Season 3Ep. 7
Since the start of the pandemic, Shannon’s confectionary business has really been struggling. Now she’s getting kicked out of her shop space and she's wondering: is it worth it to move somewhere more expensive? Or should she just cut her loses and end the business? This Week on Should I Quit? Vanessa and Shannon explore when to accept failure and when to go all in. -- Please help us support Sweet Lydia’s by contributing to our fundraising campaign! You can send us money through our Venmo , and w...
Nov 28, 2022•25 min•Season 3Ep. 6
Casper spends a lot of time scrolling through YouTube videos. He feels like he should have a better evening routine, but the algorithm always pulls him in! Is it time to just go cold turkey? This week on Should I Quit? Vanessa and Casper ter Kuile explore what rest and self care look like in our day to day lives. -- We are so grateful to our supporters on Patreon who make this show possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Nov 21, 2022•28 min•Season 3Ep. 5
Our guest this week has a hard relationship with her dad. After years of hoping it would get better, she’s starting to feel like it might be time to quit. This week on Should I Quit? Vanessa and our guest explore the question: How do you love someone when they continue to hurt you? CW: This episode addresses addiction and includes reference to abuse. -- We are so grateful to our supporters on Patreon who make this show possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See a...
Nov 14, 2022•28 min•Season 3Ep. 4
Mae lives in Texas. She grew up there, her whole family is there, there are a lot of things she loves about her life there. But now that she's raising two small kids, she's beginning to think: Is this really the environment I want my kids to grow up in? This week on Should I Quit? Vanessa and Mae explore the questions: What does it means to make a home in a hostile place? And at what point do you leave? -- We are so grateful to our supporters on Patreon who make this show possible. If you can, p...
Nov 07, 2022•27 min•Season 3Ep. 3
When Eleanor got married, she took her husband’s last name. Now, nineteen years and three kids later, she’s working on a PhD. The PhD feels separate from her family life, something she’s doing just for herself. And so she’s started to wonder: Do I want to get this PhD under my married name? Or would it feel more ‘me’ to get it under my maiden name? This week on Should I Quit? Vanessa and Eleanor explore the power of names and what it means to feel like ‘you’ and be a mother at the same time. -- ...
Oct 31, 2022•24 min•Season 3Ep. 2
Is there something in your life that's making you miserable, but you feel like you need to just put your head down and get through it? Have you considered... just not doing it instead? This week, Vanessa starts our new season of The Real Question with a thesis on why we should all be quitting more. Next week, you'll hear from our first guest who is considering quitting. And if you'd like to be on the show, you can submit a question here . -- We are so grateful to our supporters on Patreon who ma...
Oct 25, 2022•17 min•Season 3Ep. 1
Our first episode of Should I Quit is coming October 24th! If you'd like to be on the show, you can submit a question here . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Oct 04, 2022•2 min
With help from Gilmore Girls and the song Closing Time from Semisonic , Vanessa and Casper explore the grief of endings and share about their upcoming projects. -- You can find out more about The Nearness at https://www.thenearness.coop/ . Should I Quit will premiere in late October. If you’d like to be on the show, you can submit here . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Sep 19, 2022•37 min•Season 2Ep. 16
Casper recently joined The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos for a special episode on overcoming loneliness–a feeling many of us are all too familiar with. On The Happiness Lab, Laurie shares the latest scientific research and inspiring stories that will change the way you think about happiness. In this episode, Casper speaks to the benefits of belonging to like-minded communities and how they help our social lives thrive. Hear more from The Happiness Lab at https://podcasts.pushkin.fm/thls5?...
Sep 12, 2022•34 min
Casper grew up with a lot of confidence. And as he’s gotten older, that confidence has only been encouraged and solidified by the various privileged identities that he inhabits. Knowing that, he wants to intentionally cultivate a practice of humility. But how do you temper confidence, without crumbing into self doubt? With help from the TV show Julia and The Methodist Quadrilateral , Casper and Vanessa explore how to tell the truth in every situation. -- Funding for this episode was provided by ...
Sep 05, 2022•40 min•Season 2Ep. 15
Vanessa has always had very good instincts about people. But recently she's started to wonder: where does that gut instinct come from inside of her? And how can she make sure her 'gut' is reflecting her wisdom, instead of her prejudices? With help from Into the Woods and Gilmore Girls , Vanessa and Casper explore how to give people the benefit of the doubt while still being able to trust your instincts. -- Funding for this episode was provided by UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center , as pa...
Aug 22, 2022•43 min•Season 2Ep. 14
Lily has a boyfriend who she loves. But you know who she doesn’t love? Her boyfriend’s brother. He makes Lily feel small and hurt and honestly angry every time they see each other. But Lily wants to have a good relationship with her boyfriend’s family. So how does she deal with him? With help from Sara Bareilles and a scene from Fleabag , Lily, Vanessa, and Casper explore our relationships with in-laws and how to best deal with a bully. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information...
Aug 08, 2022•52 min•Season 2Ep. 13
Hima’s parents moved to the United States when she was two years old. Her first language was Telugu, but her early teachers encouraged her parents to speak English at home. Now, she’s not entirely fluent. Hima knows that learning the language would probably make her feel closer to her family and her cultural identity – but it feels embarrassing to try, and trying comes with a lot of family baggage. Should she do it? With help from Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer and Jane the Virgin , ...
Jul 25, 2022•42 min•Season 2Ep. 12
When Rachel was working on her PhD, she always thought she would graduate and work at a science museum. But the pandemic changed her plans, no museums were hiring. But now she’s wondering, was that change forever? Or should she try to work her way back to her passion? With help from the show All Creatures Great and Small and the book Ammonite by Nicola Griffith , Rachel, Casper and Vanessa explore the relationship between passion and work. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more informat...
Jul 11, 2022•37 min•Season 2Ep. 11
Mariah has filled her life with meaningful friendships. In fact, she bought a house with her best friend and is helping to raise her friend’s kid. Now she’s starting to think about what role a romantic relationship might have in her life, and she’s getting nervous. She knows a romantic partner would take up space in her life, space she doesn’t really have right now. If she wants a romantic partner, what would she have to give up? And would it be worth it? With help from the songs Into the Unknow...
Jun 27, 2022•40 min•Season 2Ep. 10
We're cross-posting this special episode of Harry Potter and the Sacred Text, which we've released today. This year in commemoration of Juneteenth, Not Sorry is spotlighting The Final 5 Campaign , a coalition working to close the final five youth prisons in Illinois. Vanessa is joined in conversation by one of their leaders, Alicia Brown, who tells us about what it means to be a prison abolitionist and her work with the campaign. Please join us by making a donation , learning more about the fail...
Jun 19, 2022•20 min
Anna had her first child during the pandemic and she found her maternity leave to be really isolating and depressing. It was only once she was able to go back to school and work that she felt like herself again. But now she’s pregnant again and starting to get worried about her next maternity leave. What if she feels the same way? With help from the The Bright Field by R.S. Thomas and A Line Above the Sky by Helen Mort , Anna, Casper and Vanessa explore the sacrifices and guilt associated with m...
Jun 13, 2022•43 min•Season 2Ep. 9
Sarah Steinberg is passionate about making stop motion animation. It’s so satisfying, she could easily spend hours at a time working a single project. But Sarah also lives with rheumatoid arthritis, which makes her art practice difficult and often quite painful. This worries a lot of her friends, they don’t understand why she insists on having a hobby that’s so hard on her body. How does Sarah explain to them why it feels worth it? With help from the Lin-Manuel Miranda episode of Song Explorer a...
May 30, 2022•46 min•Season 2Ep. 8
Marie-Hélène is the kind of person who changed her major a million times during college. But after a while, this habit started to feel embarrassing. So she made a promise to herself: “I am going to become the kind of person who commits to things and sees them through.” Now she’s been at the same job for seven years and is starting to feel antsy. But she can’t tell - is it because her old habit is rearing its head? Or is it because it’s really time to move on? With help from Independent People by...
May 16, 2022•44 min•Season 2Ep. 7
Dani has always wanted to live alone. Now, at 28, she’s living the dream. She owns her condo and doesn’t foresee needing a roommate. But looking ahead at the rest of her life, she’s a little worried about what she sees. If she lives alone forever, is she closing the door on an important kind of intimacy and support? With help from a song from Crazy Ex-Girlfriend and a scene from Friends , Dani, Vanessa, and Casper explore society’s expectations around partnership, family and long-term relationsh...
May 02, 2022•45 min•Season 2Ep. 6
A few years ago, Lindsay left an abusive relationship. Since then she has almost completely cut her abuser out of her life. But there’s one friend they still share - and that friend is getting married. Lindsay has never talked to her friend about the abuse. But now, with her ex likely invited to the wedding, questions are coming up: Should she tell her friend about the abuse? What if he doesn’t believe her? Or still wants her abuser at his wedding? With help from In the Dream House by Carmen Mar...
Apr 18, 2022•42 min•Season 2Ep. 5
Ruth has been a woman their whole life, but that label has never quite felt right. Recently they had an experience where a stranger gendered them “wrongly” and it felt amazing. Since then they’ve been wondering, should they identify as non-binary? With help from Shakespeare’s Twelfth Night and an article by Tre’vell Anderson , Ruth, Vanessa, and Casper explore the confines of gendered language and the possibilities we have to expand it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information...
Apr 04, 2022•41 min•Season 2Ep. 4
Maya Gosh has been in pain for years. She’s been going to doctors, trying to figure out what's going on with her body, but nobody seems to think anything is wrong with her. And lately she’s started to feel like the whole process of trying to get good healthcare is more painful emotionally and psychologically than the physical pain she’s in. Should she stop trying and protect her mental health? Or is that giving up? With help from Mythbusters and the Liverpool Football Club , Maya, Vanessa and Ca...
Mar 21, 2022•38 min•Season 2Ep. 3
Last fall, Sophie Clark broke up with her long-term partner and it was one of the hardest things she’s ever done. Trying to organize her grief, she began a weekly ritual - lighting candles and journaling about the break-up. But now, several months later, the ritual is feeling a little flat. What can she do to reimagine her practice to better fit where she is now in the grief process? With help from Jane Eyre and a William Prince song , Sophie, Vanessa and Casper explore what kind of thoughts and...
Mar 07, 2022•41 min•Season 2Ep. 2
Dana Schwartz is a #1 New York Times Best Selling author (go read her new book !), top charting podcaster, and Twitter super-star. But still, she sometimes finds herself looking at other writers with feelings of professional jealousy. She doesn’t like that feeling when it comes up, but she doesn’t know what to do about it. With help from Nick Jonas and the movie Amadeus , Dana, Vanessa and Casper explore how feelings of inadequacy often lead to jealousy. -- If you’re interested in joining Dana a...
Feb 21, 2022•38 min•Season 2Ep. 1
Happy holidays! We're dropping in your feeds to share some news about the future of the show. If you’re interested in being on the show, please fill out this form and we’ll start contacting people in the new year. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dec 26, 2021•4 min
Vanessa's step-daughter is *very* cool. But...is that a good thing? And what is coolness really? With help from West Side Story and Gone Girl , Vanessa and Casper explore the social capital and social manipulation of coolness. -- We are so grateful to our supporters on Patreon who make this show possible. If you can, please considering chipping in Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Dec 13, 2021•44 min
We got so many questions for our "bad chaplaincy" episode last month, we decided we needed another round! This week, Casper and Vanessa answer your questions about work, exes, and how to know when you're on the right path. -- We are so grateful to our supporters on Patreon who make this show possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Dec 06, 2021•48 min
