The Real Question

The Real Question is a show that holds space for life’s tough questions. Each episode, a guest brings a personal question they’re grappling with, and Chaplain Mauricio Bruce helps them find an answer. This season, our focus is on future-oriented questions – those that start with ‘Should I…’

Mauricio sits down with guests who are contemplating big and small changes in their lives — whether it’s habits, careers, or relationships. In every episode, he asks the pivotal question: “Who do you want to be and what’s the best path to get there?”

The Real Question is produced by Not Sorry Productions, a feminist organization that produces podcasts, educational content, live shows, and immersive experiences with the explicit goal of addressing the spiritual needs of its participants. Through community, rigor, and ritual, we treat traditionally secular things as if they were sacred. To learn more about what we do, visit https://notsorryworks.com/

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Episodes

Neighbors

What do we owe our neighbors? When Casper first moved to New York, he put a lot of effort into getting to know the other people in his apartment building. He even threw a rooftop party so that everyone could have the chance to meet one another. Now, as he’s settling into his life in NYC, he’s asking himself how much effort he really wants to put into knowing his neighbors. Should he throw another party for the new people moving into the building? Or is okay to spend his time building community w...

Apr 05, 2021•40 min•Season 1Ep. 6

Apologies

Sometimes apologies that seem 'good' technically, don't actually make Vanessa feel any better. Is there a formula for a good apology? How do you explain yourself, but still take responsibility? Drawing upon Dirty Dancing and Letter From Birmingham Jail by Martin Luther King Jr., Casper and Vanessa think through which apologies feel the most genuine and why. -- We are so grateful to our supporters on Patreon who make this show possible. If you can, please considering chipping in ! Hosted on Acast...

Mar 29, 2021•42 min•Season 1Ep. 5

Grandparents

Casper wants to feel closer to his paternal grandparents. But there’s a problem: they’ve been dead for a few years now. Is there a way, as he grows older, for him to keep his grandparents an active part of his life? Drawing upon The Suitcase by Frances Stoner Saunders and Children and Art from the musical Sunday in the Park with George , Casper and Vanessa think through how grief changes over time. -- We are so grateful to our supporters on Patreon who make this show possible. If you can, please...

Mar 22, 2021•41 min•Season 1Ep. 4

Voyeurism

CW: This episode discusses multiple instances of sexual assault and violent crime. In 2014, Vanessa was obsessed with the Woody Allen/Dylan Farrow case. Now that there’s a new documentary out on the topic, she knows she’s in danger of falling back into the ‘story’. But what’s the virtue of following a story of sexual assault so closely? Is it good to know the facts? Or is it just using the horrors of someone else’s life as our entertainment? Drawing upon The Art of Cruelty by Maggie Nelson and t...

Mar 15, 2021•45 min•Season 1Ep. 3

Driving

If you don’t learn to drive, are you failing to equip yourself for adult life? Casper has promised himself every summer that *this* is the year he’s going to learn how to drive. And yet each year passes and Casper is no closer to having a license. Drawing upon The Sabbath by Abraham Joshua Heschel and the song Walk the Road by Kate Rusby , Casper and Vanessa try to sort out which goals it’s okay to give up on. -- We are so grateful to our supporters on Patreon who make this show possible. If you...

Mar 08, 2021•33 min•Season 1Ep. 2

The Tooth Fairy

Is it weird to steal children’s body parts in the middle of the night and teach them that it’s okay? After playing the Tooth Fairy for her two step-daughters, Vanessa is having doubts about the appropriateness of this supposedly silly childhood ritual. Drawing up a recent article about the Marquis de Sade and the song Super Trouper from Mamma Mia, Vanessa and Casper try to wade through the fears that a parent can have for their kids. -- We are so grateful to our supporters on Patreon who make th...

Mar 01, 2021•44 min

Trailer: The Real Question

Welcome to The Real Question, a new show from Not Sorry, hosted by Vanessa Zoltan and Casper ter Kuile! Each week we’ll explore life’s questions through a surprising mix of pop culture and academic insight. Episodes come out weekly on Monday. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Feb 19, 2021•2 min

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