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Hey guys, welcome back to The Read. A day late, but not a dollar short. Well, first of all, my name is Kim. Possible. And I am Roy Ayers. And this is indeed the read. Thank you for returning. It is. This is the month of March. But we are no. Less black. We are no less excellent. Unless we continue. Today in Black Excellence, I would like to give it to Paul Tazewell, who became the first Black man to win an Oscar for Best Costume Design. An Oscar which he was more than deserving of.

if you have seen the film Wicked Part 1. He's putting over 35 years of experience into costuming, a lot of which took place on the Broadway stages. And now he has taken home the little golden man for his costume work in film. Wicked was nominated for a ton of stuff. I'm very glad that they won costume because, wow. The outfits and costumes in the Wicked film were incredible.

And mama, they were cinched. So good for him. I mean, I agree fully. When you look at Ariana and Cynthia's wardrobes alone, it is unreal. Even down to the fucking students at shiz, the details in their school uniforms. Madame Morrible like and her looks like it's just so very very very well deserved and I saw a photo of him with Ruth Carter yeah of course and so

Just love to see our, and I love that he said that on stage and he was the first black man to get that award. So, you know, get your flowers, you know, black man, you very much deserve them. Congratulations. Yes, indeed. Congratulations also to 17-year-old Kimora Freeland, who's become the youngest licensed pilot in New York and one of the youngest in U.S. history. She learned to fly a plane before she even had a driver's license. Sharing her private...

private pilot license on the 26th of February, which allows her to captain a single-engine aircraft with up to 12 passengers. She got her driver's license the very next day. Work. Love it. Kamara admits, aviation wasn't initially a part of her dreams. She said, I never wanted to be a pilot, but after my first flight, I was like, wow, I could do this for a living.

She's part of the United Youth Aviators Program, an initiative that trains people between ages 13 and 18. And in the fall, she will attend Spelman on a full presidential scholarship where she plans to study economics. Congratulations. Oh, yes. I love to hear that. Excellence going to excellence.

Congrats, boo. Oh, that's one. I just love that. That reminds me of that. I think her name is Bree Clark. She's like the first college gymnast to do the Biles one or something. Another black girl. And it's just like, oh. Stuff like that, just my heart. Because I need all of that just random bursts of joy and Black people being in it.

1,000%. Needed now more than ever. Did you tune in to that presidential, that joint address that happened the other night? Did you watch that? I don't want to think about it. Baby, when I tell you it was the ramblings of an incoherent aging. We're back. We're back. This nigga said we spent $8 million on transgender mice. I hate it. I just, it's like, I watch this stuff, and then I'm just like, why am I here? What does this have to do with me? Oh, my God. It's just, it...

I watched as much of it as I possibly could. And then he went when he started. Has it been two months? He started doing like his type five. This nigga was he started doing stand up. And I was like, yeah, I hate it. I'm actually cutting this off. It's so. I don't understand how anybody listens to his voice, listens to him speak for more than 30 seconds. It is un...

bearable. He is the president, so I do try to stay, you know, remotely aware of what he is doing. I try to. But I can't. I have to care about my mind, too. The way he acted with President Zelensky in the fucking Oval Office, I said, um... Well, that was kind of tea. No, no, that wasn't no kind of tea. Because for like... Absolutely not. I got past the 30 second mark only because it was kind of like, oh, this is Housewives.

It was like that level of like unhinged and stupid and speaking over each other and both y'all bitches are wrong. It was just like... Because you and J.D. Vance is over here trying to tag team this man whose country... Right. Right now. Well, have you said thank you since we sat down here in this office today? Bitch, are you? Is that what you expected? Did you want me to come in here on my?

hands and knees and kissing your fucking feet and thanking god for you is that what you wanted that was like his entire thing he was it was just kind of like yelling how ungrateful i feel like you're not showing me right some sort of god-like, king-like level of respect. You're two presidents. Like, what? How?

Oh my God. It is so embarrassing. It is. It's so, it is actually so humiliating. I'm just like, I hope y'all know that like I'm a black woman in New York city. So there's no way I agree with this nigga on like anything. I just hope. the rest of the world knows like I am on y'all side Canada pull it off you just go to the bodega for some eggs or whatever and they're like oh yeah shit ain't got nothing to do with this it's just like

She just happened to be here, but this ain't none of her business. You just walked Laney and I'm like, yeah, she ain't got none of her. Oh, yeah. So I do try to stay tuned in, but he makes it so hard because he is so fucking stupid. And just outright lies. And just outright lies. Lies within the first 60.

It's trying to tell jokes all the time. He gets one left. Always off topic. Oh, God. It is unbearable. It is. It's really bad. Like, he and Elon are just... doing ketamine in the OVA office and then going out there and saying whatever the fuck they want to. so here we are yeah good luck to the rest of us you know he's going back and forth with what he says he'll do and then what he actually can end up doing it's just like

Just fucking with people's emotions for the hell of it. Oh, I might get rid of the Department of Education. Oh, I actually can't just do that via executive order. Oh, okay. My bad. But you did this. Tariffs on Mexico. No tariffs on Mexico. Okay. Just back. Just saying. China said, whatever you bitches want to do, let's do it. I was just about to say that. Chyna says, we will match whatever y'all energy is. Chyna said, whatever time you're on, just know that I'm past it.

We can handle this in a real respectful, demure, classy-like way. Our clocks run fast. So just know, whatever time you own, we better know. I guarantee you don't want to see us. So... So... Oh God, it's not funny. It isn't, but it's just like, what else are we supposed to do? Right. And Democrats are singing, we shall overcome. in the middle of the house floor. So that's where we are right now. Who was it? What governor was it that was like...

Bitch, if you're trying to fuck with the Department of Education or something, understand that we're not paying no tax. I think it was the one in Maine. Yes. I think it was the governor of Maine. I think it was Maine. And I will see you in court behind it, Miss Girl. And I will see you in court. Know that we're not paying you no goddamn taxes if that's how you feel. He just be saying shit. See you there.

He just be saying shit. And then he sees what can actually stick. It was just stressing everybody else the hell out in the meantime, which is the point. So I limit the amount of time that I subject myself to this mess. But the first four years I was like, how do people not realize that this man is a star-cooled dumbass and that he just says whatever? They don't care because they are too. And then a couple of months ago, I saw that Giardians commercial and I watched live television.

And I was like, oh, yeah, Americans are stupid. Here we are. Here we are.

Well, today for the hot box, let's just say and give honor to a couple of people who've passed on to glory. Assuming. Angie Stone. passed away the age of 63 in a car accident. Yeah. Awful. I saw that. That's scary, you know? That is really scary. Just anybody, but that's how, yeah. Very, very sorry to hear that. Very sad for her family and friends. I can't say I was the biggest fan of her music aside from that one era, you know, so it's not like I really kept up with her a lot, but.

Yeah. Fair enough. Tragic nonetheless. Chris Jasper of Isley Brothers also passed away at the age of 73. Cancer. Great. And Michelle Trachenberg, as we found out last week. Michelle Trachenberg of... Buffy the vampire slayer gossip girl hired the spy. Passed away at 39. She was found unresponsive in her apartment on the 26th of February. All of this sucks. Yeah. Duran is actually the one who told me about Michelle Trachtenberg. Yeah, he told both of us. That was just so crazy. I gagged.

how can this but then i saw she had been having health problems and she recently had a liver transplant so it could have been yeah you know complications with that yeah you just never know but Yeah. And then Roy Ayers, he just passed away a couple of days ago. Oh, yeah. So it's been a lot of, you know, pretty legendary people leaving us here lately. Honestly, they're probably better off. I mean, the other option is existing here. Well, you know, that's giving a bit.

Y'all know what I've been through. I was going to say, this is a, I feel like this is perhaps right on that line of like, relatable depression versus, do we need to check on you? I mean, look at earth. Okay. Valid. I'm just saying. Valid. I'm just saying, nigga. I know you. The Oscars took place. Okay. What else?

Wait a minute. Wait a minute. We have to talk about the opener if we don't talk about nothing else. Oh, okay. Did you watch the opener of the Oscars? No. Were they the ones who opened it? Lovely. I saw that. Yes, yes. Ariana came out in a red gown with the red suit on the back. Okay, so you did. Okay, good. So you saw this sparked in. Fierce. Fierce. Whoever was like...

Because they could have easily just done some songs from Wicked. Whoever was like, let's do both Dorothy's. And then half of Define Grady. Right. Having Cynthia do the whiz. Smart. Right. Smart. Because when Ariana Cremont, she was singing Somewhere Over the Rainbow. I figured, oh, they're doing like, you know. Yeah. A little medley. Yeah. When that Black woman came out and started seeing Diana Ross, I was like, this is so clever. Oh, man. Yeah. And...

It looked great, sounded great. I loved it. That's literally where I was about to go. I loved Cynthia's giant white gown with the flowers. Gorgeous. The way Ariana kissed her hand after they did their moment in Defying Girl.

they do the literal pedestal lifting her up while she does this huge moment in that song and of course the the Defying Gravity Battle Cry or whatever y'all call it it was just I think they do call it a battle cry so fucking good it was you make it look easy i actually wept i don't know what it is about these two bitches i really don't know but

It is something about the two of them singing these songs together that really fucking gets me. Home got me. Home got me. Because Somewhere Over the Rainbow is already a beautiful song. But... Yeah, there was something about the unexpected performance of Home, which is also a very beautiful song, which is closer to me for obvious reasons.

So the fact that they honored both versions of that story to me in that way was so clever. It was really beautiful and very emotional. And yeah, I just, any excuse to, at first I thought it was kind of strange that.

they were performing because i don't know how many i mean actually lots of times people who are performing songs i haven't yeah i'm nominated for something yeah I think we just don't see it a lot at the Oscars what they gonna do go up there and do a monologue like people don't go up there and act as a performance but this was quite different because they are yeah I was gonna say like

I couldn't think of the last time I saw nominated artists perform songs from the thing they were nominated in. But I'm like, girl, no, they do. that all the time but i gotta they do do that all the time like i'm thinking of at least like a couple of performances right now where people were like oh yeah we were nominated for la la land or for fucking tangles well they do it yeah they

do for whatever song is nominated for best song. They do that, you know, they perform typically each song that's nominated in that category. I don't know what those other performances were. I'm not sure. Oh, wait, you know what? I didn't watch Ray. I didn't see Ray's. Oh, well, Ray, that's a shame because Ray's actually saved it. I mean, I'm sure, I'm sure it did. Because Ray actually saved it. Bless those cat heart.

Bless her heart, but I was sitting at home. I'm like, is this one of those times where it's so bad it's good? Like, I'm trying to figure out, do I actually like this? And then Lainey started having an absolute fit. I mean, barking at the television nonstop. She said, you actually have to turn this off. Like, I cannot hear it. So... And he said, no, actually, there is time to die. Right now.

Cut the mic off. But then I saw Doja posted on Instagram about how, you know, she, because that was the next question was, was she trying to sound bad? You know, she don't take nothing serious. She be trolling all the time. But she said, no, actually, but she worked very hard at this and she was very nervous. And so she was a little flat, but oh, well, she had a great time and she can't wait to do it again. Like, that's a very healthy attitude to have.

Because people are rightfully dragging it. It was not a good performance, sweetheart. And it would have been easy to say, y'all know how I am. I'm a big jokester. You know, that's the Doja Cat way. I mean, she wouldn't win for that either. They would just be like, no, you weren't, bitch. You might just be honest. That's true. You cannot win with the internet, so you might as well tell the truth. At all.

Yeah, that was nice. She's right. I think that is a good attitude to have. Because first of all, girl, who asked you? Did you go out of your way and bang down the Academy door and say, I will perform here. You won't have an award show. Somebody rang your doorbell and said, will you come sing at the fucking Oscars? And you were like, why would I say no to that? The end. Why was Lisa there? She didn't sing nothing. So...

I want to know. Amber told me Lisa has a billionaire boyfriend. And I said, a lot of things are making sense for me now, if that's true. And he's like on the committee or something. So then there you go. Asked and answered, but it was. Yeah, that was not. It's a shame you didn't see Ray because she really did save that whole moment. I did wonder why we had three or four songs for James Bond and only one for Quincy Jones.

James Bond, not even a person. This is like a franchise. Quincy Jones is like an actual legend. I'm just so confused. I'm not. I wasn't mad at it. Right. Of course. But, you know, they had my dad doing the tribute. So I loved it. But I just felt like. Quincy. Now, I get the show is long, but that's why we can cut out a bunch of fillery, dumb shit like Conan spending 15 minutes doing a song about how this year we're not going to waste time.

I get it that that's the joke. Ha ha, we're wasting time by singing about how we're not wasting time, but you are actually wasting time. And then you'd be cutting people off and trying to rush them through their speeches or not giving Quincy Jones the honor he deserves because of this dumb shit. Why is it 35 minutes? Oh my God. That Adrian Brody and I didn't watch it. Karen.

First of all, I mean, a lot of... They said he had the longest success in speech in history. When I tell you that man got up there and fucking rambled and they played the music and he was like, no, don't. He told him to cut it off. Yes. It's like... Nigga, we are already running late. And Kieran Culkin does the same thing. He gets up there and he mumbles and says three words. And then when his time is up, he decides to go into a fucking anecdote. Nigga, wrap it up.

You are not the only person winning today. I can name at least like 10 other people who were there where if they were to say, stop playing the music, that would be the end of their career. Yes. I mean, and some people who, who won and get cut off, they don't even have, there's not. That's not even an option. They simply turn the music on, cut the mic off, fade the camera away, and that's it. That's it. Yeah.

But these entitled white assholes get to get up here and take as much time as they fucking want to and shoo off the music, girl. Fuck that. I hate that bullshit. I actually don't like it. I don't care how talented you are. That's so fucking entitled. Get up there and take your 45 minutes. Unless he's talking about some like real shit. I mean, I'm sure he said something that was like valuable or useful. It's just, we do not, you can also do that on Instagram.

This is a live broadcast event. Not only Instagram, and this is no shade, because I've never been, never won a goddamn thing. But not only do you get to do it on Instagram, after you win the award and you walk off stage, you go to a press room where there are a bunch of people who work for the media, where you discuss winning and what it means to you and answer a whole bunch of questions. Yes.

anything that you didn't get a chance to say and a lot of the time that's not televised but a lot of the times you will see that immediately after or very soon after because the different people who are reporting shove it up their streaming immediately so if there isn't anything that you get to say on stage let's say for instance you forget to thank your director or your mom or your baby

or whatever we go back to do the thing right afterwards you like oh and I just want to say a really quick thank you to uh Patrice you should be asleep right now but you know mommy whatever you do it back there Like, look at B when she won her Grammys and she went backstage and told Entertainment Tonight that she forgot to thank Rumi on stage. And she know Rumi's watching. Thank you. Like, you don't have to...

You can just take your 45 seconds, minute, minute and a half, whatever you, you can just take your time, keep it cute and brief and get off the stage because even though you won a very big award. This whole entire night is not actually about you. It just isn't. It's about Enora. That gets...

That gets on my nerves. That movie is fierce. Have you seen it? No, everybody... Well, not everybody. It really, really, really is good. I'm gagged that Mikey won Best Actors because I don't think she should have. But... No, Mikey was...

amazing in that movie. I just think that everybody was amazing in that category. And a lot of the other actors had, in my opinion, more that was physically... asked of them and emotionally uh asked of them but anora to me was when i finished watching anora a couple of months ago as soon as the credit started i text mike uh

Mike, the actor and director, my friend. Oh, yes, Mike. I texted him right after that, and I was like, nigga, have you seen Enora? He was like, no. I was like, watch it right now. Best picture. It's movie of the year. It's gonna win. Wow. And, yeah, it's like a movie movie. I think you would really like it. Okay. I think you would like it. Maybe not Best Picture like it, but I think you would get a kick out of it. It's better than Amelia goddamn Perez.

Everybody is dragging it. Cheska Lee was just supposed to clip from her podcast on Instagram where they are like, this is the, how you make a musical with no songs that anybody would ever sing or. Like want to sing. Didn't it win song? It won best musical at the Golden Globes. It won best musical at the Golden Globes. I've never seen it, but I'm really... Here you are. Ariana Grande. Finally, finally portraying the role you've always wanted to. Singing just...

your damnedest while doing high kicks and shit. Right. And here come the bitch from Avatar talking about, um... Liposuction. Whatever. I saw a clip. Rhynoplasty. Whatever the fuck. Yes, yes, yes. I was so... What are we talking about? This looks really bad. It sucks. And Zoey's a fine actor. Great. Amazing. This role? This was a very confusing year.

But Anora was tea. That's really all I can do. Okay. Because, I mean, I did not see... I can't say whether she deserved that Oscar. I do know that her acceptance speech felt a little...

You know how artistic, creative theater people can just get so into it that when they express their emotions, it sounds like they're performing as opposed to just... saying how they feel right yeah it felt more like she was delivering the most powerful monologue to close out the end of the season of scandal you know it just it felt more like she was

Just up there, you know, giving us a show as opposed to... But whatever. The artists are like that. Actors are like that. I think I was just gagged because she's so young. And I do think that the other performers had... Yeah, I think. She would probably be the last person I chose to win this, even though I thought Nora was the best movie. Also because she's so young, she's going to be nominated again. Well...

So yeah, that was the Oscars. Yeah, I guess it happened. Hey y'all, so listen, I'm approaching...

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What also happened are these two years of jail that Karen Huger was sentenced to on the 26th of February by a Maryland circuit court judge. She was found guilty of driving under the influence, negligent driving, failure to control speed to avoid collision. I feel like that should just be inside of the DUI portion. Like, DUI also covers these other five... Negligent driving and failure to control speed. I mean, goddamn it. I guess Tiag is specific on what kind of negligent driving it was.

Listen, you're actually fucking up in so many ways. We are going to have to narrow it down. And failure to notify of a change in a dress. Now, that sounds very Housewives. That sounds very average everyday person. Most people don't just go update their address with the DMV, get it updated on their license every time they move. So this is just the sort of thing they tacked that on there because they could.

Yeah, because why not? I don't understand why she insisted on taking this to court. Why didn't you take the plea? Why would you take this to trial? I heard she had a... a plea of like six month house arrest right baby why you didn't take the six months especially knowing you have a record that you've been arrested for DUI before

And that you are, they have you on camera. Like, you know, these officers have body cameras or whatever else. You are pissy fucking drunk on this footage. Why in the hell would your attorney let you take this to trial? Six months at home? Most people would call that a blessing. One year's sentence is suspended, meaning she's expected to serve one year in jail. In addition to her time in jail, she faces a $2,900 fine, no driving for a year.

Which is also nothing often considered. And five years of supervised probation. I also don't know why she wouldn't just take the six months. Right. You know that you have a record. Like you've been caught driving drunk, I think twice before. That's just how many times you've been caught. But bitch, you have two DUIs and you've been...

They've been letting you skate by with no jail time. And then this happens and you have the nerve to take it to trial. Like, I just know they're not going to put me in jail. Yeah, they actually did need to put you in jail. How did you. I don't know why. Was she drinking when she met? Were you and your attorney drinking? Was your attorney just like, you know what? This is billable hours. This is billable hours.

You want to take this to trial, girl? That's fine. But no, ma'am. And you have this extra spotlight on you because you're on TV. Well, surely you see now the error in your ways. You're going to be missing. Maybe she was, you know, six months house where she couldn't shoot housewives or something, but you're not shooting housewives regardless. Right.

And they could have still catered to your house. And you could absolutely shoot, this is what I'm saying, you could absolutely shoot that shit on, on, on. First of all, listen. Andy's gonna shoot whatever the fuck the camera can get. And you can bet your blackest bottom dollar on that. Especially if it's something as dramatic as this. Right.

They would have found a whole entire way to build the entire season around. She's going to have a garden party. Yeah, she's going to have a garden party every month. So they can always, they shoot enough and she causes enough mess to carry on through. Other storylines like this. She would bedazzle the fucking ankle monitor. Get the dogs to have matching collars. Baby. Only God knows what she was thinking. Only God. Because the arrogance to think that they wouldn't throw your black ass in jail.

On your third DUI, Ms. Mail? Your black, drunk, female ass. And you clearly do have a problem with drinking and driving. Like, you do actually need to go to jail. In this era of Uber and Lyft and you've rich... Come on. It makes no sense at all for you to be driving drunk at all, baby. So it do sound like they did the right thing. You actually do need to go sit down somewhere and really think about yourself and the choices you're making.

Because aren't you a grandmother? Jokes aside, talking about something you can't drive for a year after, that's nothing. For someone who seems to genuinely have a problem with drinking and with driving after drinking. Telling them that they can't drive for a year after or whatever to me is nothing. It's absolutely nothing. That doesn't make me someone who also exists on the road. Right. feel safe exactly that karen huger is not going to mow me down you like what else can be put in place right

to address this person's actual issue. This is a fucking problem with the judicial system now in this country. What are you going to actually do to help this person not do this again? Not only for their safety, but for the safety of other people. I'm assuming whenever she was pulled over, maybe it was late, but it really doesn't fucking matter. It's like ultimately other people on the road. Right.

can be seriously and are very, very often seriously hurt because of another person who was under the influence driving. So just being like, okay, go ahead. You're going to be giving you two years, but you're going to spend a year. and then you can't drive for a year and then whatever, get out. What does that do?

Hopefully the embarrassment of being in prison jail for a year will stop you from doing something like this. And they're like, hopefully you learn a lesson over the next three 65 that you spent incarcerated because the thing about it is that. Karen is not somebody without resources. You have every opportunity to not drink and drive. And all they can do is take your license, but they can't take away your access to keys.

The only way to stop you from driving is to keep you locked up. Now, if you keep drinking and driving, these people don't have no choice but to keep you locked up. You don't need community support. You don't need a connection with a social worker to help you, you know, get into fucking substance abuse therapy and shit like you have. Everything you could possibly need right in front of you. Yeah. Whether you take advantage of it is up to you. Yeah. Believing that that.

will fall on Karen's ears and she will do something about it. It's also assuming that you're dealing with somebody who has the sense to know that after they have already caught a DUI charge and they are offered a plea of six months to stay at home that they should take that instead of going to jail for two years. That is not the person we're dealing with, unfortunately.

the fuck knows how this will go well I've heard that if don't nothing change your mind jail will so let's see I've heard the same I have actually heard the same so we will see

Party next door versus Tory Lanez? How? Speaking of jail, how's this still happening? Why is Tory Lanez still in my news? Somebody come get him. He's still got a lawyer. He's still got a lawyer, so... Okay, wait. Party Next Door previewed a song on Instagram Live that dissed Tory Lanez after hearing Tory had made some comments about Toronto artists. But Tory's from Toronto, isn't he?

Fuck what Tory Lanez say. I did everything he did. He's just a running man, drama man. I'm the daddy. Let me slap you, okay? You said I sound like, I don't care about this. I'm so sorry. Yeah, I barely could even understand what you were saying. I got, I got, I don't even know how many words that was into it. And my brain just said, you know what? You are tired.

And if anybody against Tory Lanez, I'm probably going to be on that person's side. Yeah, I'm going to be on the other person's side anyway. So there, you know how I feel about it. I didn't even hear the details. And I'm like, let's hear this party next door nigga out. Yeah, it starts with, fuck what Tory Lanez say. Okay. Same. Also, Drake has reached a legal settlement with iHeartMedia and his ongoing legal dispute.

over Not Like Us, the two parties have, quote, reached an amicable resolution of the dispute. So, our heart gave him some money, I guess. Maybe. Who actually knows? Actually. Right. We really don't know. We really don't know. This is just... Because what could have happened is I heard after me. Yep. That's what I'm thinking. Open the MacBook and hit a link. Close the MacBook and say, I think we're done here. I think we're all done here. Yeah.

See you guys later. And that was that. Thanks so much. Yep. This nigga. This is just one of the lawsuits, right? He has other ones. Yeah, he still has the one with Universal. Yes, right. So. But what a little bitch. This is... He's so silly. You couldn't just make your little dumb bops for girls and let it be that. Like, you couldn't just make your little... No, he feels some type of way about everybody dancing to this song calling him a pedophile.

Well. I'm not. Listen, I'm giving you the perspective I believe I know to exist based on the things I've seen and read. If you have some type of way, everyone is singing A minor at the Grammys, Oscars, Super Bowl.

Mega Bowl, Garden Bowl, Orange Bowl, Rose Bowl, Cereal Bowl. Lanny Bowl, Link Bowl, they are singing A minor. Any side of it. Well, I mean... you probably should not have been texting 12 year old girls and just saying if there wasn't nothing to base the rumor off of then you know this came from your own behavior Niggas didn't pull this out of thin air. So, oh, well, you just got to stay mad, I guess. And the poor thing.

Oh, Millie's getting really big. All the young people are getting big. Oh, they're growing up. Yes, they're adults now. She's married. I hate it. Wait, she's married? Yes, she's married. Oh my God. All the kids, Kaya and Anthony is in a commercial with Carmelo and they're the same fucking height. And I was like, oh, I hate it. Get me out of here. Get me out of here. Snoop. Snoop brought his son. I don't know if it was Corey. But one of his boys...

that I swear, like, yesterday was, like, high to my knees. And he brought him out of the Game Awards. They're starting, like, a game company together. Same height, bass in his voice. No, thank you. Like, I'm just like, what is happening? I belched. It does happen just about that quickly. Bon Jovi's gift? That's fierce. I had no idea. This is crazy. Okay. Getting old. I'm there. That's where I'm at now. All these people's kids just like, uh.

I mean, literally, she went to dinner last night with Jade and Noah, and it's like, how are you this? She got her little adolescent attitude now. She just put her headphones on and ignore us. Like, okay, work. I told Jade. I was talking to Jade like a week ago or so on Facebook and she was like, she was like, we're going to fight one day. I was like, I don't know what is going to happen, but I know who you're going. I know me.

I know myself. I know her. And I said, not only are you going to fight, you have to prepare now for the conversation you're going to have after. Both of you start making, writing notes. Oh, Lord. Not on my watch. You both pull your notes out. And I was like, attitude or not, you read those notes and you love each other. And you knew this day would come. Not on my watch. I'll be mediating all of that.

Of course. But yeah. Motherhood. These little girls. Man. I'd be stressed out with my daughter. Like I'd be. Listen. Lainey went back. So Lainey has, she's finally out of heat. She has healed from her spay. So she's back at daycare. Thank God she was home for. for five weeks and I felt like y'all when COVID hit and y'all were like, open the schools. I don't care if they die. Open the schools because this child has to get out of my house. That, caring for her through her heat.

And then the intense care she needed after getting spayed. And it's just me. It wore me the fuck out. It wore me the fuck out. I don't know how y'all do it with human kids. I don't. I called Crystal on FaceTime a couple of days ago. And as soon as the phone, as soon as she picked up the phone, before she could say anything, I heard Lainey say, and it's the last time I'm going to tell you.

In my home. This is how she's doing me. I wish I could say it gets better. She's back at daycare now and they texted me the other day like she has been running around nonstop. It's so hype to see her friends. And then when I picked her up, the guy was like, yes, she had a great day. Just nothing but energy all day. And she was doing a little humping.

Lainey said, look, that spay ain't changed. Nothing but the pregnancy status, bitch. It's still up. I'm like, you could not be going to daycare trying to hump on them little boys at school. Anyway, I don't know how we got on my child, but. Yeah, because the kids are growing up fast. Oh, yeah. Motherhood. Yeah. I mean, I do feel like what I do. I feel like a mother. I do. Yeah, you are. I am.

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We're back. And it is time to read your listener letters. Yes, it is. Send your questions to asktheread at gmail.com. We may read them aloud on the show. Well, well, well. So our first letter this week comes from Frederick, who says, first off, I love y'all so much. I've been listening for years and I need y'all's wisdom on this because I truly do not feel like I did anything wrong.

I have this friend who I'll call Mr. Therapy. We've been close for about three years. We're both in our 30s. And though we used to live in the same city, I moved about an hour away to the suburbs. We still keep in touch, but obviously life gets busy and I don't see people as much as I used to. A few weeks ago, out of nowhere, he messaged me saying that there were things in our friendship that haven't sat right with him and he felt like we needed space.

Number one, I unfollowed his fitness Instagram. And number two, I unshared my location with him on Find My Friends. Neither of these things were personal. I unfollowed his fitness page six or seven months ago. This was not recent. I have been doing a cleanse in my feed, removing fitness and body focused content.

Because body dysmorphia is real and I was trying to be mindful of what I was consuming. And it's not like I unfollowed him entirely. I still follow his main page where he actually posts about his life. The location thing was an accident that I didn't even realize had happened. A few weeks ago, he noticed and asked me about it casually, and I just said, oh, I must have hit something by accident. Now you can't see me trapped at school all day.

That was the end of it, or so I thought, but in his message, he framed it like I deliberately went into my settings and manually removed him, something I 100% did not do. So, of course, I tried to respond to him with some clarifying questions, but he completely ghosted me. No replies. No discussion. And this all went down on a Friday before his big birthday weekend where he was going out of town to see some men. So it just feels like he wanted to make a dramatic exit and shut me out.

I would like to save this friendship, but if I'm being honest, it feels like I need an apology because what did I actually do here? Is an Instagram unfollow from a niche account and a location sharing accident really worth blowing up a friendship? This all went down on the weekend of Trump's inauguration, so the timing of it all makes it feel even more ridiculous. I get that people have feelings, but in the grand scheme of things, Kim, girl, there are people that are dying.

I feel silly even asking y'all, but is there a chance I'm in the wrong here because I truly don't think I am? Should I even bother trying to work this out or should I take this as a sign that our friendship isn't as solid as I thought? I would love to hear your thoughts. Thanks again, Frederick. Woo, child. Frederick, I think both of y'all overthink a lot. Okay, interesting.

I think that he obviously sounds like he was overthinking when it comes to the unfollowing of the Instagram, which is incredibly... Common thing for people to get in their feelings over. And then overthinking what the location thing is as well, right? And being sensitive to it. But I also noticed that you mentioned that you feel like he hasn't responded to you because of the date, the timing of this.

feels as if, you know, he wanted to make some sort of dramatic grand exit on the weekend of his birthday. And so that's why, when in fact he could just like... Be in his feelings and not know how to have this conversation. And so he left. I also don't know why you're bringing up the inauguration. I don't know what that has to do with this. It sounds like both of y'all have done a lot of assuming. I see what you mean.

uh, missing interpretation. Now I do take into account that you said you, I don't remember how he worded it, but it said that he tried to like explain what did he say? About the location sharing or? About both of them. He said that he was like, he tried to have a conversation to clear it up. Yeah. Like clarifying something. Yeah. He tried to ask some clarifying questions about like, this is what you're mad at, but he just.

completely ghosted him didn't respond at all so okay yeah um i think your friend could be in your feelings it's very it's very i think it's okay and probably normal to maybe Think, hmm, does this person feel some type of way about me? Or is this personal? If you try to explain to them, oh no, this is where that is coming from. And they still take it another way. I don't really know what more you can do outside of that. But I'm not 100% sure that you've had like a...

a sit-down, sit-down about this. Because this isn't just one incident. This is him and the Instagram thing, him and the... Him and the Instagram thing, him and the locations thing. And then you sounds like feeling maybe not so comfortable or safe in the friendship because it's like...

well, this person's making me feel like I've done these things wrong and they were accidents. And like, what is the status of this friendship? So it sounds like you need to kind of have like a nice general meeting about your friendship. It doesn't sound... like anything yet has happened that's so dramatic that you shouldn't be able to do that and have like you like i think you were saying clarifying conversation about

you know, why you unfollowed fitness pages and how, you know, the location thing and reassuring that, like, I don't feel no type of way about you and such and such. Is there anything that you feel? About me that we haven't said yours or anything. I can be doing differently. I try and just. Be. Have open ears and open heart. And like a full.

fully rounded conversation. Uh, but like I said, it does sound like he kind of attempted to tap that a bit here and didn't really get the greatest, uh, response. Any response. So, yeah, so if you don't... get response or whatever, you just have to kind of be prepared to move on. Because I think that some people kind of get kicks out of making someone else the bad guy.

And that doesn't really have anything to do with you. So, you know, if there isn't anything there to fix or clean up, then party's over. Go home. Yeah, it's, you know, if all this happened... Inauguration weekend, which was six, seven weeks ago at this point. And you've reached out. I don't know if you've reached out other than that one time when you responded with questions.

I don't know if you've reached out since then, but if he has continued to ignore you this many weeks later, I would actually say that y'all don't have a friendship worth saving because you, you. You feeling like these are reasons to end a friendship anyway, to me, is a sign that this is not a relationship that I'm really invested in keeping in my life.

I could see if I had blocked you and unfollowed you on all Instagram accounts, but this is like one very niche thing. It's not even your main account, like you said. And then the sharing your location with people. If I do that, normally if I share my location, it's because I'm going out of the country and so it's more of a safety issue than anything else. And then I will actually turn it off because I don't like the idea of niggas being able to track my location.

24-7. I actually do not like the idea of that. I forget it's a feature until somebody mentions it. I actually don't like Find My Friends. It's useful as fuck, though. It is. It is. In certain instances, yes. If we're out of the country, if we're at a huge event, like a huge festival or a theme park or some shit, bait your kids. you know something like that something for kids absolutely I mean even if you just even if you just lose your phone a lot having it turned on so other people can but so

I'm saying these are not reasons that I would blow up a friendship. This is not even something I would notice or care about. 100%. 100%. So the fact that he said all this and then it's just refusing to communicate to me is more, to me, it's more likely that he's been wanting a reason to not be friends with you.

these are his good enough reasons and there's nothing for y'all to talk about because there's nothing to save so yeah yeah i agree sounds like it's maybe it's probably deeper than right whatever these old two nonsense things are. And if it's not these two, it's going to be something else down the road. Because it's something, you know, yeah. And if it really is these two, do you want to be friends with somebody who is that shallow? Like, this is just...

This this really got you that deep in your feelings, really? And you didn't just say something about it. It was, oh, this ain't sat right with me. And now we're not speaking no more. Really? So you're immature. And I don't have the time or the inclination to babysit grown ass people like working through conflict is a part of being in relationship with people. But yeah, like, and I mean.

And at that point, friends cannot fix that. You can only fix that. You and your qualified mental health professional don't have to work on that because your friends do not have an obligation to never, quote unquote, abandon you. They will get married. They will have kids. They have jobs. Especially your niche fitness account and not even your real one where you talk about you. Not you doing the... It's getting worse and worse.

So, Frederick, I would let this thing go. I would. Me too. It ain't too many times I'm finna hit you up over something that I, when I didn't even do you wrong. Like, I truly didn't do you wrong. No.

Good luck, though. That sucks. Our next letter comes from Clark, who said, I wanted to get y'all's input on something. I'm a 38 year old black single mom. And my seven-year-old son is supposed to be a historical figure for school. He chose to be a person named York because York is a hunter. I asked his teacher for more information about his character, and this is what she sent me.

Of course. York was William Clark's enslaved person who went on the Lewis and Clark expedition. He wasn't treated as an enslaved person on the trip. He was a great hunter and dancer. He helped them make peace with many Native American tribes, and they called him Big Medicine because the Native Americans had never seen anyone with skin like his. They probably wouldn't have survived the trip without him.

Unfortunately, when the trip was over, he remained enslaved. It was many years before William Clark freed him. I'll also send you a picture of him. Here is my dilemma. York is the only enslaved person historical figure being presented, at least in my son's class. Though other historical figures of color are being represented, I don't know how I feel about my son being the only enslaved person.

Keep in mind, this is a predominantly white school with a super liberal politic. With a super liberal politic and a lot of people of color, but still predominantly white. What are your thoughts? Thanks, Clark. This is a good question. And I feel like there could be like a dozen right answers to it. Yeah, there's many ways to approach this. If it were me, I'd be cool with it. I'd get cool with it. Because at first I would be like, huh? Uh-huh.

But no, honestly, you know what? I think the two things that are kind of like in my head right now are, one, it's the person my kid wants to play. Mm-hmm. Oh, this is, he chose York because York is a hunter. oh that's so sweet seven-year-old was like hunter yeah me that'd be cool you know yep um and then the other thing is like This is, it's not Django. You know, like this is a real person. Yes. You know what I mean? Yes. Okay. Okay. And so, um, I think.

Help me here, because I feel like kids, especially if this is the only person that was enslaved that's being portrayed here. These children need to know about this. And they need to know about, like, the different effects of it. And so much of that is being stripped away from their education. That's true. Any the fuck way. So a lot of these little white kids in their classes don't have to understand or know anything about that. So I think.

If I know that what they're actually having them do is appropriate and safe and it's the thing that my kid wants to do, I'd be fine with it. Especially if there are other Black historical figures in the classroom that will be portrayed that aren't slaves. Yes. This is the only enslaved person. I think I'd be okay with it. But that's me. Yeah. Yeah, I understand your trepidation because as somebody who went to predominantly white schools in elementary and middle school.

i'm trying to picture letting my black baby be the only enslaved character and like i i want to i want to I want to be able to say these are seven-year-olds. Of course you chose this person because they're a hunter and you think that's a cool job. And just let you do that. I don't know. I don't know. What do you think is some of the negative ramifications? Well, so I don't know these other kids, first of all. And.

The idea that somebody even might get into some sort of role play slave master shit with my child. is enough to send me to the stratosphere. Like, just the thought that somebody might be like, oh, well, I can be mean to York because York is enslaved and, you know, or that they might do that. might tease him for that or, or be mean or say something like that. That was my first thought. Outside of this, outside of this little play presentation, whatever. Yeah. So, I mean, but it's up to the,

I'm sorry. I'm just saying I also went to school like... in the Bible Belt in the South. It was not super liberal and predominantly white. It was super racist and predominantly white. So I might feel better about it, you know, if I was... In San Francisco or Brooklyn. But that doesn't mean it won't stop. Right. Right. Right. That's what I'm like. Because sometimes liberal parents and kids are almost as bad. If not worse. Where it's just like.

So I'm like, maybe can we get a list of every character? Is there anybody else you might want to be like? I might try to get my kid to play somebody else. I really might. Just because of my own history in being in a school environment like that and how I really feel like that was not for my best to be around white people like that. I really don't. I would.

want to know what they're wearing and what they're saying and like what what is this is there a script for this i need to see the script for this play or this skit whatever they're doing like How are the teachers handling this? I have to know how we stress. I feel like it's just much easier for us to go down this list for somebody else for you to be.

Like, oh, you don't want to be Madam C.J. Walker slinging that perm? Like, come on. That's a hard one, though. I think it's fierce. I think if you can talk to... the teachers and everybody around and feel good about it or feel like your baby won't be harmed by it, then that's fine. But my gut reaction is to say... My gut reaction is to say I would try to find something else for my child to do. I think that, yeah. Damn.

No, because you made an excellent point. And I don't want to disregard the fact that these are kids. Seven-year-olds really not thinking about it the way we are. But... Yeah, but they're still seven-year-olds. A lot of seven-year-olds will find any reason to just pick a samadhi. Yeah, exactly. I would have a lot of questions. Well, best of luck to you, Clark. Let us know what you decide to do, but I don't think you could be wrong either way, pulling your baby out of that or just whatever you do.

Good luck, because that's a rough one. Okay, we have a little extra time. Let's do one more. This one's from Allison, who says, I've been in therapy on and off for about seven years.

My first therapist was great, but she wasn't black and she felt a little like a yes man. So I went looking for a black therapist who I could trust to call me on my shit when I needed. And I found her. I found a therapist that felt so comfortable and connected. that she almost felt like more of a friend than a therapist. And now that's exactly the problem. Over the past few months, she has gradually spent more and more time talking about herself and her own situations.

I know all about her marriage, her past jobs, her other clients, her career aspirations. And I thought I was OK with it, but I also found myself wondering if I was just paying her to be my friend since our conversations don't feel particularly therapeutic. Well, the straw that broke the camel's back was our last session where I started off by sharing that I was experiencing intense anxiety over the inauguration and seeing Elon's double Nazi salute behind the presidential seal.

I shared that I was exploring moving my family to another country and Miss Man proceeded to tell me that she can't relate because moving out of the country isn't an option for her because her mother is sick. I mentioned that I feel responsible for the world I'm choosing to raise my son in.

And her response was that she doesn't know what it's like to be someone's mom. She encouraged me to take part in collective action and organize. And I told her I found it emotionally exhausting when I was most active in political organization. And I'm tired.

She then proceeded to tell me all about her college experience as a student activist in a mostly white college. I mentioned Ghana as an option and she said Ghana isn't as cheap as you probably think it is, et cetera, et cetera. You get the point. I actually found myself feeding into her emotional needs, telling her that she's wise and insightful. But I was really just saying that so she would shut the fuck up.

I got off the call feeling icky and I felt no less anxious and I was mad that I even had to pay for that session. So my question for you both is, if this was your therapist, would you say something to correct it or just dryly break up with her without explanation? Thank you for taking the time to read this. and for generously sharing so much of yourselves with us. Thanks, Allison.

What is, real quick, Allison, I'm so sorry. What is it with niggas and their fascination with using the word preceded to describe the following? They love it. They love it. Niggas. They love proceeded. They love therefore. Niggas could barely get through a Dr. Seuss book, but we'll tell the police that somebody proceeded to do something. It's just one of those things we do. I don't get it, but I love it and I hope it never stops. Negro storytelling. Yes! Yeah, that's us. And...

Now here's Allison with the therapist. The Black Lady Therapist meme. Have you seen that in TikTok of the Black Lady Therapist? No. There's probably like a million of them. I was going to say, I feel like I don't know this specific one, but... I've seen a lot of like me as a therapist and I'm thinking that's why y'all should not be therapists. This is a black girl who literally came in. Oh, I have seen that. Yes, I have.

I know exactly what you're talking about. Okay. Yeah. Allison, you're not even supposed to be in the position of having to correct. your therapist in this way she has completely abandoned her her her professional responsibilities here I would both say something to I would say something and I would break up with her. I wouldn't just break up and not say nothing. I would say, you know, as the therapist, I am really not supposed to know this much about your life. You're simply not supposed to be.

sharing like you you said that you know about her her marriage her past jobs her other clients that's a huge problem especially if she's If she's giving away identifying information, she's now breaking the law. Her career aspirations. There is no therapy is not a two way street. Did you see that? this episode like the last it has to be like the last season or second to last season of golden girl where dorothy's uh dorothy's therapist is dating the girl that lives next door to them

And she comes over to the house and sees... Stan is just like, Dan and Morty! The therapist is like, shh, shh, shh! She's like... You talked about us? No, no, no. And she, like, literally goes on and tells them all their business, but he, like, changed their names. No, it's a different Dan and Morty.

They, that's such a common joke in those older sitcoms and stuff. They do this stuff all the time. There was even on the Golden Girls one where, remember when... the dumb one Rose Rose was volunteering at like a mental health clinic or something and it got robbed on Christmas or something one of the one of the patients right and and so

Rose is like oh don't pay him any mind he's just crazy because his wife left him and it's like you you're a therapist and you're saying this you're literally telling a waiting room full of people what's going on with this person like

In real life, that is not how therapy works. It's definitely not how it's supposed to work. She said, oh, he's a compulsive liar. Right! She was... Yes! She was... fucking spreading everybody's teeth like that's not I mean she did get fired later on in the series you should have gotten fired immediately that is grounds for immediate dismissal but

I'm saying this because we are taught to be very, very discerning with self-disclosure with clients. Yeah. And you mentioned in parentheses that this therapist is about six years younger than you. now that shouldn't make a difference but because you know a professional is a professional allegedly you still have these same standards you're supposed to adhere to but

This is why I say that I understand why people looking for black therapists, but a black therapist is not the end all be all just by themselves. A lot of black therapists are not great. therapists unfortunately and this one has an issue with boundaries she does there is no reason in the world for you to know that much about her

Or for her to be, you know, you talking about moving out the country and then her saying, well, I can't do that because my mama is sick. Bitch, this is literally not about you. We're not friends. This isn't a back and forth. I don't care about your mama. That's not what we're here for. that's literally not what we're here for. So yeah, I would definitely get her together. And, uh, I mean, I,

If she has a supervisor or somebody, this is actually worth escalating to whoever's in charge of her because you should not be hearing shit about her other clients. And I'm so serious about that. Yeah, that's really bad. The rest of that is up to interpretation, but that one I don't play about at all. If she wanted Kiki or say a couple of things about her own life, because even my therapist right now, sometimes it will mention his kids. If it's...

For instance, like, oh, I have to change our next appointment because my kids da-da-da-da. Something like that. Or like, my therapist in New York. Throughout the time that we were together, she had two kids. And so sometimes she would talk about the babies because it was relevant to the time. Or whatever. Other than that, you know, maybe sometimes they would talk about personal things if it was relevant to a point they were making for me. But otherwise...

It's kind of like, I don't even know if anybody said this specifically, but it's kind of like this time that you're paying for is for you. Yes. And for you to be better. Yes. And so we're going to focus on you. Right? That is what that's supposed to be. It does help to feel like they, you know, like you and you have a good relationship and they care about you and stuff. But, yeah, I'm not supposed to be kicking and asking, you know, what kind of...

What kind of mixer you get? Right. Flavored margaritas you get from BBQs. Like, you know, this isn't... That's not what we're here for. We are not Judy. That's not what we're here for. Like, at all. Yeah. So she... I think she needs to go, but... yeah because if she's talking about if she's talking about other clients with you that means she's talking about you with other clients absolutely the fuck not absolutely the fuck not so

That's really good luck in your search. And remember, I like I fully get it. I also look for black first, but yes. There's other things that and another thing that I'm going to just add on really quickly, because Antoinette said something about this on her show several months ago. A lot of black women I have noticed look for therapists who they feel like will call them out.

I just need somebody to hold me accountable. I need somebody to call me on my shit. I need blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Some people actually do need that. However, I think a lot more of you are very used to being bullied and shamed and harassed.

because of your quote-unquote bad behaviors and what you actually need is empathy and love and understanding and patience so a lot of you are looking for a black therapist because you think only a black woman is really gonna get me together and call me on my shit

You've had a lifetime of that. Some of you need some grace. Not everybody. Some of you absolutely need somebody to call you on your shit. But some of you are dragging yourself for your shit. You're more than... aware enough what you need help with is feeling it processing it getting it out of your body and moving on um that is so true

And a lot of us aren't used to grace, patience, understanding. You don't even know that that's what you need because when did you ever get that? So when this person is giving you the exact things that you need, it's like... Therapy ain't doing nothing. This bitch just sit here. Why aren't you yelling at me? All she does is tell me how she understands my feelings. The fuck? We ain't getting nowhere. Okay. Okay.

Just saying. I'm just saying. Something to keep in mind. But good luck to you, Allison. And I hope it works out. If you have a question for us, send on over to asktheread at gmail.com. We're going to take another quick break and then we'll be right back.

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A long one. I just want to say. I have been eating a lot of Doritos. Crying and watching TV this week. So. Disney Plus. Why is all this Hulu in my Disney? Why is all of this Hulu in my Disney? I have the Hulu. For the Hulu. And I have the Disney Plus for the Disney Plus. Why is all of this Hulu in my Disney Plus? I don't understand why I'm logging into my Disney Plus and I see how to get away with murder. And I see, you know what I'm saying?

like prey and predator too. I want Disney in my Disney plus. Disney said we own all this shit. We own all of this shit. Why they all have to be together. I have them. I have them. I can just pop over there. I want Disney in my Disney Plus. I don't want Hulu. I want Hulu in my Hulu. I want Disney in my Disney Plus. I don't understand.

Why they have to be together? It's just like when foods touch and you don't like them. I don't want them all together. It's upsetting me. It's upsetting my homegirls. I don't know why all of this Hulu is in my Disney Plus. That's it. That's all I had to say. Furthermore, you have to watch Win or Lose. Win or Lose? It's the new Pixar original series on Disney+. When I went to Pixar a couple months ago during my tour, and they were amazing enough to let me watch two episodes of their new show.

it was win or lose oh and it was amazing and I think you're going to love it okay win or lose I got it on my list so you should watch win or lose and then we'll watch we'll talk about it okay All right. Yeah, I'm sure that's Disney just saying. You're going to love it. You're going to love it. I think you're going to love it. Okay. I'm excited.

Well, I just have a couple of quick things and then I'm also going to get out of the way. First of all, Eric Adams, you pompous piece of shit. This bitch. Girl, as soon as we sent the audio over, Eric was like, tap, tap, tap, tap, tap to the microphone. Because he knew you were getting in that ass.

Nigga! He knows you ain't that. I think he knows you ain't that. So Eric Adams is really feeling himself. He is smelling his dick because Kathy Hochul said she's not removing him from office. The DOJ said they're not going to continue to pursue these charges. The judge has. So he hasn't dismissed it. The case. I think it's just.

permanently suspended, you know, until the judge can decide, blah, blah, blah, whatever. But so he is really feeling himself right now because it's looking like he done got away with all this shit. So this nigga... in this press conference, is talking about how this is a biblical moment. He literally said, quote, this is a biblical moment. When Jesus was on the cross, he said,

God forgive them for they know not what they do. Yeah. All these Negroes that was calling for me to step down. God forgive them. That's what he said. That's what he said. And then just like Trump, he held for applause and laughter and. positive reactions and then he started talking about how y'all must be stupid if you think that he gonna drop out of his race and he he running his race right now

And you niggas are not going to get in the way. Okay. Okay. Okay. I'm so tired of this Butterfinger BB face, bitch. Are you comparing yourself? You, Eric Adams, lying scammer, police dick sucker, don't even live in the city. Absolutely. stole money, misappropriated funds, moved shit around, wheeling and dealing with Trump to allow him and his federal agents into the city to harass our people so that

these charges would then magically go away. Are you comparing yourself to the Jesus Christ of Nazareth, son of God? Is that what you're doing right now? son of God oh my god that nigga straight up said remember when they did this to Jesus And like Christ, I'll say, Lord, forgive them. They know not what they do. Nigga, do you think you're pious of heart?

He really said these Negroes to really said these Negroes. And so on Good Day, New York, Kurt Menefee said, are you implying that if you're black, then people have to support you? And he's like, no, I'm not saying that at all. You know, I want all New Yorkers to support me. And so then Kurt Menifee is like, OK, so then who are you talking to when you say Negroes? And so Eric Adams, instead of saying I'm talking to the black.

people that said they didn't want me in office he's like oh well if you look at the whole speech the speech was about you know lighting your flame and letting your flame be bright and shining and that's what we've done in this administration so for anybody who's called for my flame to premature be extinguished that's who I'm talking about and Cartman if he's like

No, so are you saying all New Yorkers are Negroes? Like, I'm still waiting for you to define the Negroes for us. Yeah, we haven't gotten an answer. And straight up said, like, I'm pressing you about this because a lot of people are pissed off. your choice of words here who the fuck do you think you are and who the fuck are you talking to

People called for you to step down because you're a corrupt son of a bitch who don't have no business being in office. That's what that's about, girl. It's not about you being Christ-like. If you were Christ-like, we wouldn't be calling for you to step down. We wouldn't have been harassing Big Kathy. They're going to call to extinguish the flame if the flame is burning down everyone's goddamn homes and their hospitals and where they eat at and where they go to church. Like, yeah.

He said calls for him to step down are undemocratic because democracy is based on who the people elected. And so if the people elect me, how are you going to try to disrupt the power and take that apart? We are the people. We are the people. The same people who vote are the people saying we don't want you in office no more. It's New Yorkers. We are right here saying it. It's me in New York City right now saying it. I don't want your bitch ass in office. I was never a fan of your lying ass.

I wanted to go to like a town hall meeting. Oh, please be serious. Please be serious. Hi, New York City speaking. Um, when were you... Would you be ever so politely fucking off? Bitch. Oh, God. You done had four or five different officers in your administration step down since you decided to join forces with Trump and allow ICE into the city. Like you...

Girl, I cannot wait. And when I say I cannot wait to vote for literally anybody over this bald headed bitch, I want him gone yesterday. And I mean that shit. And speaking of people who need to be gone.

I don't even like to come for my elders like this, but Sherry Shepard, girl, what are you doing? Cause this late and it's tired. This whole, so if you don't know what I'm talking about, she. was showing on her, she has a talk show, a daytime talk show, and she was putting up pictures of different people at, you know, Oscars after parties or at the show, whatever, in varying degrees of undress. Megan was one of the people.

That she highlighted because Megan was wearing, you know, pasties over her nipples and in this incredible dress. So she starts talking about how. The same old tired ass Gen X auntie rhetoric of like. Y'all need to be aware that you're a role model for young girls and young girls are looking up to you. And you can't say, well, I'm actually not a role model because it comes with the territory. And y'all always be like, well, that's none of my business. And but the girls, I know that the girls.

are looking up to you because they're looking up to me and they come up to me all the time and say Miss Sherry I want to have a talk show like you and I want to be an actress like you so they see you girls and they want to dress like you girls and then that would be terrible because you know y'all which one of those girls Girls came up to you, Sherry, and said, I want to dress like you. Okay. Continue. I want to be an actress like you. Yeah.

But you see how Sherry Shepard wears clothes? And you see how none of those alleged people ever mention the clothes that she wears? Okay. Continue. So... Yeah. So she's going on and on about how the celebrities have a certain level of protection. And, you know, you have bodyguards, you have people around you, blah, blah, blah. But these girls who are dressed like you, they might just go to some party. They might just go to some club.

and some man sees them and assaults them or whatever. And it's like... And so she so she wraps all this up with, you know, and so Auntie Sherry has spoken. You know, I'm just saying y'all need to be more mindful of like with the message that you send into these young girls because it's not good. It's not safe. We won't. Right. So now I wasn't. First of all. So I wasn't even going to make it about like what Sherry Shepard chooses to wear or not. Because she even pointed that out like.

Everybody ain't got to be in no ankle length frock like I'm in right now. Like she even is like there's a there's some self-awareness there. But people quite literally do not owe modesty to your kids. They don't Megan Thee Stallion does not have any children. She is not.

Your baby's role model. If she is, that's because your child chose that because you allow that. It's not because she decided to step into that role. Nobody said, because I am famous, I am now going to be responsible to the children. Children of the world.

Nobody said that she does not actually have that responsibility. And even if she did, every female celebrity could be dressed head to toe covered in everything. And men would still be out here sexually assaulting people because that's what the fuck they do. regardless of what you got on, regardless to take. Something as heinous as rape or assault and put the blame on what the girls are wearing as opposed to calling out the men and boys who are doing the raping and harassing?

That's really where you thought your energy... That made sense to you? I don't know how many more times women even, or people, have to have this conversation. I don't even know how anybody could still be in communications and have a platform where they use this narrative. Those people are grown adults. Someone like Megan is a young woman herself. She's like, you know what I'm saying? Like she, she's not, you know, she has full rights.

To move around in her body and wear what she wants to and dress how she wanted, eat what she want, say what she want because she grown. And she pay her own bills. Like, what the fuck? I don't understand why. We're still acting as if young women cannot understand that when you reach a certain age and you have a certain level of autonomy and freedom. You do what the fuck? And with that is going to come a lot of bullshit, including...

Yes, the male gaze, misogyny, patriarchy, and even foolish old bitches like you who are going to tell them that they can't wear whatever sheen dress or sexy thing that they got from Ocean Drive or Hasties or whatever the fuck because... you know, rather than, I don't know, holding hands together, clasping hands and kicking each one of these niggas directly in their scrotum. I don't understand why you can't, like why you have to.

It's just so tired. And we have been saying this for so long that I'm shocked y'all are still giving out these same weary ass arguments. And the only reason I brought up the thing about Sherry Shepard's... Clothes, not to say that Shira Shipper can't dress. You can't. But that wasn't the point. The point that I was making...

was that not every person who was a quote-unquote role model, like a Megan or a Sabrina Carpenter or whoever the fuck else, like, not every single one of the young girls or young people who look up to them is like, I want to dress like them! Right.

Especially if clothes ain't what they do. They're probably like, I want to make music too. I want to be fly. I want to, you know. I want to have an NBA boyfriend. I want to be rich. I want to have an NBA boyfriend. I want to perform at the Grammy. I want eight dogs. I want them shoes. I want that band.

I want them dogs. I want a pool in my backyard. It doesn't always have to be, like, I think this person's fly. I want to dress just like them. But even if they do want to dress like them someday... Like Crystal's saying, create a world where they can be free to wear what they want to because they feel good in it.

Insane, man. Insane, girl. While also demanding that the disgusting, drooly-mouthed mongrels who feel like taking advantage of them regardless of what the fuck they got on should sit the fuck down and act like they got some natural... goddamn human sense before we take them all out back and set them ablaze. That's what we should be doing. And give Wendy her goddamn show back. Okay.

I completely forgot that that's how she got that show because Wendy was no longer able. Well, yes, please stop saying this same ridiculous bullshit. If we wanted to raise kids, we would have them. You worry about.

Your kids. The ones you claim and the ones you don't. You worry about them. And that will wrap up this week's episode of The Read. Check us out on social media at This Is The Read. You can find our merch over at shoptheread.com. Anything else? Anything else from you, friend, before we say goodbye? Fed up. I'm fed up. I'm fed up with that dumb shit. Women don't get violated because of what they wear. They don't. And being famous don't protect you. Megan was famously shot.

What are you talking about? Everybody made it her fault. And everybody made it her fault. What the fuck are you talking about? Oh, my God. All right, auntie. Oh my God. Even the women, even like. Church women, like gospel singers, will wear like a nice gown. Oh, yeah. You know what I mean? But it's just a little too fit in the hips or it's just a little too tight in the chest. And all of a sudden, what kind of... We need to talk about women.

and how they are not serving God as if God didn't make them hips and titties. What the fuck are you talking about? All of a sudden you a stumbling block. Meanwhile, men ain't even at church. I don't even go! bitch shut up okay all right anything else before we before we cut this off patreon.com Follow us on The Read and Shit. All right, y'all. Take care. We will see you next week. Finding the music you love shouldn't be hard.

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