Big Dreams Require Big Sacrifices

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Elizabeth? Hi. There you are. I was worried sick. Okay. We were so concerned. How are you? Yes. Hi, I'm good. How are you guys? We're doing great. How can we help? Okay, I'm really nervous. I'm going to pretend like you guys are just my buddies and I'm talking to you. Don't worry, we're extra nice to Canadians. We love Canada, so you're great. You're in good hands. All right.

So I need to know if I'm being a baby and if I have wrongful resentment. I am a Christian, so I want to make sure that I have nothing between God and I, and I'm just going to give you guys a quick snapshot. So I'm wondering, am I wrong to feel resentment? I come from a family of four girls. My husband and I are about to enter baby chef number three in about two weeks, Lord willing. So we're really excited about that. Congratulations.

Thank you. Yeah. So my parents have been renting for my sister and her husband for about nine years. They pay well above market rent for our area. And they take care of their kids before and after school. They fix things around their house. They do all their yard work, et cetera. So I've been asked to be the executor of their will. I know their will is going to be divided equally between my sisters and I, so poor girls, so divided equally into four.

And this is the part that really bugs me. I'm wondering, like, I feel like in some ways my sister has already gotten her share. of the world. And it's not even about the money. Like I just, I'm concerned that my parents are being taken advantage of, but my parents are happy to do all these things for them.

It's kind of like they had this agreement a long time ago that they would take care of their kids. And I don't know. I feel like, am I wrong to feel in some way that... resentful towards my sister that maybe she is being taken advantage of by my um that they're taking advantage of my parents No, not necessarily. Where are you? From a physical location. Are you close to them? I'm about 40 minutes away from them. So why did they originally rent from her and not another sibling?

You know what, and the thing is, they do, they're fine. Like, they make over, my parents make over $100,000 a year. They could have bought a house even by now, right? Like, they... I don't know why they decided to rent from them. I'm not sure I wasn't part of that conversation and that kind of deal they made with watching their kids. But they seem fine. Correct. The only person upset here is you.

I know I'm the baby. No, you're not. I think your emotions are valid. You feel hurt. Yeah, I would feel the same way. So is it bad to be resentful? Is it a sin? No. if you let it eat you alive, you're just drinking your own poison. And so that's the part that worries me more is how do we get you to let go of this and go, this is between them. And, you know, I feel like this is a confession where the priest here, she's coming to us with this.

But I do think there's a level of this where you go, listen, we're all going to get our fair share. We're all going to be fine financially. They're adults. They can make decisions on their own volition. And yes, it can also hurt that. Your sister got the long end of the stick and you got the short end. Sibling order, Elizabeth, where are you and where is she?

So I'm the second oldest, and she's the third oldest. So she's right after me in the order. Okay. And I know, like, I've spoken to even my older sister and then the baby of the family. They seem like, oh, okay, they have a pretty good gig happening, right? And I know I have to keep checking my heart and the thing is like both my husband and I have great jobs we've made great headway in terms of paying off her debt and I know we'll be okay and even my husband always says

You know, I, he's like, we're fine. Like we wouldn't even want my parents to live with us. It's not even that. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's not the, it's not the actual help. that you're longing for it's almost more of this connection of feeling like man I feel like we're working so hard over here And not only has anything never really been extended to us, but also never even asked maybe. Right. So there's a level of probably.

just at the end of hurt feelings of not feeling cared for and seeing your parents still in that parental role for another sibling and not for you so there's like this like kind of abandonment like Hi, I'm over here. I'm not getting attention. Was that similar growing up for you guys from a personality standpoint? Oh, that's a good question. Like, I...

I've always been, like, more the older sister. Like, I think with even my older sister with all of them. So that part's been... So you were more independent. You needed less attention in general because you were more self-sustaining. Yeah, maybe. Yeah. And I have like, I have, I have four kids and my sisters have two and it's like, but I'm, I'm like, that's what I wanted for me. I love to be.

like busy and you know and we've done fine and i don't know i would you want to trade places with your sister today No. I think there's our answer. I think that just gives you perspective to know you're only seeing the parts that you're jealous of. You don't see the other parts where they go, oh my gosh, I just want my own space.

We don't know what's happening on the other side, good or bad. And so it feels like you're festering on this, making up stories and a narrative in your head that they've abandoned you. And I think you should have a conversation with them if you feel that way. Otherwise, I would just let it go and move on with your life, and we'll all be friends, and you'll get your inheritance. Now, if you were getting zero inheritance and you put in all this work, I'd go, that is unfair.

Yeah, yeah. But everyone's getting their equal share. They just have a different situation. Yeah, and I think it's less about the money. I think it's the relational aspect in it all. For you. Yeah. The hurt that's there. So, so yeah. So I think that's, yeah. I mean, yeah, George is right. I think if there's anything that needs to be said for you to say for yourself that you need something, that's fine.

But don't go, if you do have a conversation, I would not go in with the motivation of somehow I'm going to change the situation or I'm going to say this so that my parents... will then do x y and z like you know i mean that and that is i mean i feel like that's an issue that happens all the time where we think like okay i'm gonna go into the conversation

And what I say is going to change what they're thinking or what they're doing. And you just can't control them, right? They're still going to do it. But if you, Elizabeth, do have... Things within you that you're like, I just need to verbally say this for me. Regardless of what happens, like for my healing, I need to say these things out loud. Then maybe that is a conversation you guys need to have. Or maybe Elizabeth, you kind of just like read the cards.

own that yeah this hurts and this isn't fun but there's also a level of I'm an adult, and you just said you would not change your situation. You wouldn't trade places with her, right? So no, I don't think you're being a baby. I think that's shameful talk. I wouldn't say that by any means. I think you're hurt. And I think that's totally fine, right?

and so what we do with that I think is what's important so I don't want the resentment like George said that eats away at your life and your happiness and so there's like this level of acceptance with our family and dynamics that I think the quicker we can get to the acceptance part. Yeah, it's like five stages of grief. Maybe you write a letter, maybe you give it to them, maybe you just rip it up. But I think just getting it out on paper.

would help you move through this instead of just wrestle with it. And that's such a prime example, George, of how with relationships and money and family dynamics, it's really about the actual money, right? It's about the relationship and the people that are handling it that can be hurtful. So, Elizabeth, thanks for the call.

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And this thing has just been giving me so much trouble over those last two years. Over the last two years, I've spent 7,800 on top of that in maintenance. I know quite a bit, and it's kind of been getting out of control more recently to where now I need another probably $1,500 to fix this thing and get it moving again. So what I'm asking is...

how you would kind of handle the situation if you're me. This is starting to now affect my clients to where I'll have to push off my schedule a little bit because I don't have the truck up and running. And that's costing me money there. And I can't continue to keep paying $325 a month in maintenance. And that number is kind of growing at this point. So I'm just wondering. I know you guys are against leases.

I don't exactly have the money to buy a new car. I also really don't want to go down this road again and put, say, 10, 15K into a truck and then just end up buying a truck with all kinds of issues. I mean, this last time I did take it to a mechanic, have him check it out beforehand. And he kind of okayed it, but I don't know much about cars. Cars are not my forte.

i've kind of gotten killed over this whole thing to be honest yeah well it's frustrating that you put almost what the car is worth back into maintenance right and it's still breaking down it hasn't fixed the issue so no your frustration is totally legitimate, but also I don't want, because of our frustration, to make a stupid financial move, especially when it comes to cars, because

George and I, we talk about this a lot on our shows in Smart Money Happy Hour, about how cars and car payments, car leases, all of that is one of the biggest wealth killers in America. It's the trap that people get in. So even though your frustration is legitimate, I want to make sure your solution is as well. Yeah. What year is this for? How long have you had it for? So I've had it for probably 22 months. I believe I bought it in July about two years ago.

The truck had 139,000 miles when I bought it. It's right around 150,000 miles now. I live in kind of a small beach town community, and most of my jobs are not too far, so I don't put crazy miles on this thing each year. Did you do a pre-purchase inspection on the truck? Sort of. I took the truck while I was on my test drive. I took it to a mechanic and had him inspect it. And I said, hey, I'm thinking about paying around $8,000 for this truck.

Do you think that's worth it based on what you see? Is there anything that I should really be aware of? Essentially, I told them, I was like, I don't want to buy it and have a bunch of maintenance. I was like, I just want a truck that's going to run. Give me from point A to point B. It doesn't look pretty. I mean, it's two different colors, but, you know, it was getting the job done. So I sort of took it to get a pre-inspection.

Okay. I'm just, I'm trying to figure out what went wrong here where you poured the eight grand into it. And was there anything kind of red flags along the way? What is it worth today if you tried to sell it private party? So I've had it listed out there on the market for $4,000, and I've had people hit me back between $1,500 and $2,500. That being said, I haven't met any of those people in person. I haven't actually gotten them to come out and take a look at the truck.

I can't imagine this thing's worth more than two grand, to be honest with you. How is that possible? Less than two years ago, you paid $8,200, and you fixed it up. Where did you buy it from, Trevor? A private party or a dealership? I did buy it from a dealership, and to your point, I have probably made some mistakes here, at least in terms of the purchase. I probably should have been more aware. Yeah.

Yeah, so you probably overpaid is what you're thinking because of the condition it was in. Obviously, it wasn't in a great condition. It should have been probably a $5,000 truck. Yes, I mean, I 100% agree with you. Mistakes were definitely made here on my end, which is also why I'm very hesitant getting back into this game. That's kind of why I'm calling you guys, because I don't want to make this mistake again. This is bad.

You know, I'm not going to say one of the biggest mistakes of my life. No, but it's frustrating. It's legit frustrating. Yeah, I mean, every month if you're pouring money into this thing and it keeps breaking, it's not dependable and you're using it for your work legitimately, right? Not even just getting to and from work. It is your work.

So making sure that this is a sustainable idea. Okay, do you, yeah, financially, where are you at, Trevor? Do you have any money saved, anything that's not in retirement? I'd rather not acknowledge that if we don't have to. I have money in retirement and I do have some other money outside of that. We're trying to figure out if you have enough money to go buy a truck. In cash, do you have $10,000?

Yeah, I do. Okay. Okay, well, you can buy the truck. So I would, this time, do a bunch of research, do a pre-purchase inspection, maybe go private party, maybe go independent, use dealership, and make sure that they're well-reviewed. So you're going to do your due diligence this time. And what you're not going to do is go lease a brand new truck because you don't want issues.

Yeah, because there are. That's the dumbest thing you could do. Yes. Yeah, that was not on the table. Yeah, unlike your experience, there are cars and trucks out there. that go way past the mileage that you're in that are in fine condition, right? Like you said, they're not pretty. It's not like it's like top of the line everything by any means. But it should get you to point A to point B and stay together and hold together in this.

is not so we've all had a toxic ex and so this will be your future toxic ex it doesn't mean all women are like this it's just the one that you dated she was something else she was something she did a lot of work didn't she exactly you'll look back and laugh But you've got the money, and so I would just really start doing your research. What are you making from this handyman business? What's your income per year?

Well, it's close to zero. Essentially, it covers my living expenses. Do you make $50,000 a year, $100,000 a year? I'm going to go between $24,000 and $36,000 a year. Are you working full-time on top of that? No, sir. I'm confused. You're making like $12 an hour in this business. You could go work retail and make more.

Yeah, yeah, I definitely agree with you. So I worked in the corporate world for a while, and I made a little bit of money, saved off, and I decided I wanted to go pursue this. So I make pretty good money while I work, but I've only been in business for about a year and a half. I'm 26 years old.

And I can live off $24,000 to $36,000. I really believe that I can grow this to where I'm making around $100,000 a year in due time. But I probably only work consistently 20 to 30 hours a week. So I somewhat sacrifice. A full work schedule. To have your flexibility. To where I'm able to learn and do other things. So yeah, I'm kind of investing in myself long term. I do understand that this might not be.

the most positive economically right now, but I do believe in myself to be able to make this work more down the road. And Trevor, you're not going into debt for your living expenses. You're able to cash flow everything. You're not like deep in credit card debt. Yes, I'm pretty intelligent and savvy when it comes to that. And yes, I do have some credit card debt right now revolving. Not that I paid any interest on it. I know that sounds bad, but I've paid zero interest in credit cards ever.

So essentially I run my monthly bills through my credit cards. But you can't pay the bill in full. No, I have no issues paying the bills in full. Why haven't you paid it in full? Do you have a balance you're carrying month to month? For less than 30 days, yes, sir. Okay. Well, that's a call for another day about how we would recommend running your business. But, man, I'm telling you, you run that thing with a debit card, you're going to be spending differently.

So I would be, you're 26, you're single, I'd be working full time. Because you have goals, right? You have future goals. You want to buy a home one day? You want a nicer truck that's not giving you issues? Do you have a home? Yes, sir. Do you own it for A&C? uh no okay you have a mortgage no i haven't so what i'm getting from you trevor is you did well in the corporate world what was well was your best year when you were working besides you're doing this what were you making

Um, well, okay, not that well, but I made $80,000. Okay, that was great, yeah. So, I think I can picture Trevor. He's in West Palm Beach, working the corporate world. Living his best life. Working 50, 60 hours, making 80 grand. He's like, what is this life? What am I doing? So, you quit. You saved up money is what I heard you say earlier, right? You have savings.

And retirement. And you're doing all of that. And you're like, you know what? I'm going to just pump the brakes. I'm going to enjoy life a little bit. Start my own business. get an $8,000 mechanic truck and start my own business and slowly grow it and all the things. And I don't think anything in and of itself is wrong. I want to make sure that you're doing all of this and able to support yourself.

and your business with cash, because long-term, that's going to set you up. And if this business isn't moving faster in the next 12 months, to George's point, you can make more doing something else, just from a time perspective. So some things to think about. But to answer your original question, Michael, Trevor, yeah. I'd go buy a truck cash. Yeah, for sure. Get a $10,000, $12,000 great truck and... Yeah, continue living your beach, Florida life. Thanks for the call.

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Today's question comes from Brianna in Illinois. Is there ever an appropriate time to stop investing? I'm 32 and I'd like to invest up to $150,000 in a 401k with an annual rate of return of 10%. At 60 years old, your calculator says I would have nearly $3 million to retire with without investing anything additional. If I understand correctly, this will generate $300,000 of interest annually to live off of and still be able to leave the original $3 million to my family.

This seems more than reasonable to live off of, though I know things will be more expensive due to the cost of living, but I'll have less expenses. My thought was, why would I continue to invest? I could apply some of the die with zero principles Rachel has mentioned and give more to my children during the times they need it most if I stop when I have $150,000 in my retirement account.

Wow, this is very thought through, Brianna. Thank you for this question. Yeah, it is. I've got to really think through this. Yeah, so the Dive Zero book. I've mentioned that I've read it, and I really like some of the stuff. I mean, some of the things were really interesting that he talks about. I did say I didn't agree with 100%, so I don't think

And when you kind of get to the end of the book, you kind of mention, like there's a little bit of this feeling of like, okay, it doesn't mean like you like truly die with zero. Like the goal isn't to like, Because you can't predict your death, right? So it's not like, oh, we're going to just like... If you knew exactly when you would die, that would help. That's right. Most people don't. That would be, yes.

So that's not the theory. So if you leave money to your kids, which we talk about, you know, a wise man leaves an inheritance to his children's children. It says that in scripture. So there's something about that legacy that I am not against by any means. The idea is if you do this stuff early and you start to build wealth and you pay off your home and you do have a surplus from a high income and you're maxing out investments,

At what point is it just saving to save, right? And so I think that that is a good question to ask. And I don't know, Brianna, I'm going to assume you're done with everything because I would want you to pay off your house.

before any of this other discussion starts to happen. But for those who have, you can kind of start thinking, okay, Yeah, I mean, if I get to the point that I can max out 401ks and all of that, should I maybe shift after that to investing in things that are not tied up until I'm 59 and a half so that you have investments that are growing that you can get to sooner without penalty?

to then maybe help your children if there's enough surplus there when they're 25 or 26. And if you want to help with a down payment or you want to actually use your money in this life, to help your kids when they do need it most in their 20s and 30s, I believe. Is that a reasonable option? So all that to say, I think there are some ways if you are doing what you're doing and you're maxing out. I mean, she says invest into $150,000. Um,

Oh, maxing it out. Okay. Well, she said $150,000 in a 401k. I wouldn't let the number of $150,000 just leaving, just having that in a 401k and leaving it. I wouldn't. I would still be investing 15% of my income. and still following that. But again, if you want to shift from investing in retirement funds after you max out a Roth or max out a 401k, if you have that high of an income,

to then invest in other things that you can get to before retirement, I would be totally on board with that. Does that make sense? It does. My confusion remains with the invest up to $150,000 in 401k. You can't do that at once. You know what I mean? You can't just throw 150K in a 401K. So I wonder if she's saying that because it's like 22,000. Is that it? 23,000 is the max? Yeah, she's saying I do this from 32 to this age and then I stop. What would that happen?

You know, and I haven't crunched the numbers myself to see if this is accurate. And the 10% is just the average. You're not going to just get that every year. So you're not just going to see 300,000 show up in that account every year. There might be years where it loses money. There might be times where you get more than that.

We don't know what the future holds. And because of that, I'm kind of a glass half full kind of guy and go, well, I'm just going to invest more. I'd rather have too much than not enough. Right. Totally. That's a good problem to have. I can give more. I can spend more. I can bless my kids more with that money. So I would continue investing because you have the margin to do it. And in the same breath, enjoy your life.

spend some of it give a lot of it and so i think the balance is important there right otherwise you get a flat tire yeah i i'm held up i'm Yes, she's going to put in $150,000 in her 401k and then stop and then just let it grow. And I would not do that. I don't think that's a wise plan. I would still be putting money in my 401k every single year. And if you have the income, again, to max it out.

That's amazing, right? I would be doing that. And then if you're beyond that, then you can look to say, hey, how can I get creative with this investing and not just stick with a 401k where it's tied up until I'm 59 and a half? And at 32, you just truly don't know what life is going to throw your way. So I'd rather just keep building for the future. At 32, yes. You've still got, potentially, 60, 70 years. Totally, yes.

Totally agree. Who knows? We might have hyperinflation. One day. A wealth of rent is going to be like rent. You're like, oh my gosh, I should have invested more. What are we doing? What are we doing? All right, let's go to the phones. We got Jeff in Salt Lake City. Hey, Jeff. Welcome to the show. Hey, thank you so much. It's good to be here. Yes, we're glad you called. How can we help? So three weeks ago, I'm 46 years old, three weeks ago.

My wife and I paid off our house. Wow. Congratulations. Thank you. Honestly, I'm a therapist, but it's a weird, open, vulnerable feeling. It's just one of those things you never thought you'd get, especially Beth. family and finances I came through my wife's parents were immigrants from Holland post-world war too so they were very cool and smart with their money so we came from different worlds but honestly you know how we did it is

If we had a little extra money, we just threw it at it. But then our payment was like $1,254. And for years, we've just been paying $1,700. And it's funny how... Unexciting, unsexy that is, but all of a sudden, you know, about a year and a half ago, maybe a year and two months ago, I looked at it and the balance was down to 27. Wow. Oh my gosh. How much is the house worth? Probably 800 now. That's amazing. Jeff, well done. Incredible. What's your question today? So,

The 1700 that we've been using, I mean, I've been limping the car along for like 20 years, literally on May 6th. Tomorrow, it'll be 20 years I've been driving that car. We've withheld putting carpet downstairs. We have 600,000 invested and saved right now and just letting that grow. And we keep contributing, you know, 15% or more like with that.

that we've been paying towards the mortgage each month, what do we do with that now? I mean, I have some things I could do, take care of the house, get another car, but what do you recommend there? Yes, yes, and yes. I would do it all. And you can increase investing at this point beyond the 15%. You can increase your giving and you can increase your spending. And so I would absolutely be now cash flowing all those upgrades you wanted to do to the car, to the house,

on top of investing more, you should have the margin to do with that $1,700. Plus, you probably have more margin where that came from. Yeah, it's interesting once you start working on that stuff, how you just feel blessed. Like, I can't even tell you how the Lord's just taking care of us. It's an amazing feeling. Wow, you guys have been so diligent as well, right? So, I mean, that's...

That's incredible. But yeah, Jeff, I would make, you know, yeah, the next goal, probably upgrading the car. If there's some house stuff around that you guys make a list and make like a three to four year, you know, by the time we're 50, what do we want life? to kind of look like and and i would be using that mortgage payment for those things and then once you kind of have some of that settled then you can look and be like, okay, yeah, let's invest more.

let's be giving more i mean all of it but yeah there's some upgrades you guys could be doing here in the next couple of years that you've kind of held off is what it sounds like to get this house paid off yeah just sacrifice just to get it done and it feels good you know we're still alive but uh I want to be totally done with work by the time I'm 60 and do some other things, but I'm almost 47, so hopefully I'm on the track to do that.

Yeah, I would be tracking all of that. Hey, are we on track for this goal of retiring at 60 with our retirement? Are we on track to upgrade the car in the next year with the sinking fund and the budget? Are we on track to replace the carpet in the next six months? So start to outline all those goals and make it real in the budget with a line item. That way you don't feel guilty about using that money.

You already had the goal. That money had a name already. It's not, oh, I feel bad. So the hardest part for you, Jeff, truthfully, is going to be, reversing this gazelle intensity sacrifice life and going, oh, we can breathe. We can have fun. We can upgrade the car. We don't deserve this car. We've been driving the beater for 20 years. Jeff, drive the nice car, man. Live like no one else so later you can live and give like no one else.

Statistics show that half of Americans don't have enough life insurance. Or they don't have any at all. I don't understand this, John. Why don't people want to take care of their family? They think they're going to die or something? Well, I used to be one of those guys. I didn't even think about it. And one of my buddies said, hey, the only reason to not have life insurance is if you hate your wife and kids.

And I immediately went and got term life insurance. That's a gut punch. And you're telling me for decades, Dave, I've sat across people who've lost a spouse. They've lost somebody important to them. Me too. And they don't know what to do next. Me too. I mean, you're going to have a crisis here, and you've got two options while you're sitting and talking to a young widow. She's concerned about how she's going to invest all this money properly and not mess this up.

or she's concerned how she's going to eat tomorrow. That's exactly right. These are the two options. And take care of your dadgum family, man. Term life insurance can replace income, have dads, cover funeral expenses, so your family can actually... have the opportunity to just be sad. To just miss you. That's exactly what it's supposed to be. It's saying I love you to your family. Term life insurance.

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That's right. So, you know, I understand that you guys promote outrageous giving, and I am in a position in my life where I'm able to do so. I also think about cheerfully giving and where do you draw the line. So I recently... had a niece who reached out to me to help her with her down payment on a new apartment. She did state that she just found out she was pregnant. She hadn't told anyone but just shared that with me.

but has a past of asking a lot of family members, including me in the past, for money, potentially for drugs and bad boyfriend experiences. And I feel like there's a bit of manipulation in terms of making sure I'm the only one who's been told about her pregnancy where we don't really have a solid relationship either. But my sister, her mom had passed away when she was seven.

Unfortunately, dad and stepmom didn't treat her well, so I feel some sort of an obligation. And like I said, I'm in a position to, but where do you draw the line? where do you draw the line on being yeah cheerfully giving well and sort of that you know that nagging sure yeah because you're you don't want to enable and that

a little bit of the feeling with this situation. So not every chance we have to give is going to be the right situation to give just because the opportunities there doesn't mean that we actually have to take it. And I think this would be a situation that... Finding that balance between helping and enabling. On this show, we are always teetering on that line because a lot comes into play to decide that actual boundary. There's not this hard and fast rule.

But I think what you have to discern in the situation is how can you best help her. And I think acknowledging. you know her situation is hard right and i i mean i think there is a level of like yeah if she's not done any level of healing or growth like having having a parent die at a young age like that and then being in a toxic situation growing up it's kind of like yeah of course this is probably her road right unless

She decides to do something different. And I think that would be your hope as her aunt. is that she can start to make different choices with her life. Because if she continues to be consistent in these choices, she's going to keep getting what she's been getting. And it's not a fruitful, peaceful life, right? Right. She's not feeling that. So when it comes to the financial side of it, how can you best love her well and help but not enable is the big question.

Right. So one of my thoughts was, hey, happy to help, but I'd like to directly pay your potential landlord. Yes. When you said down payment, is she trying to buy a house? No, it's for an apartment. Oh, like a deposit. Oh, yeah. I do think that is one of the best ways to help is to do it directly. because you don't know if she's going to use this for something else. So say, yeah, I'd be happy to help. Give me the landlord's name. I'll work with them directly to handle the deposit.

Okay. So you can do it that way. You can also say no. That's also an okay answer. I don't know that anyone's told her now. Yeah, and, you know, she has no one else. Like, I think a lot of people have said no, but because of her bad behavior previously. Yeah. And... Yeah, yeah. She just moves on to the next person, and Bank of Sierra was up next. That's right. What's your relationship like with her? Are you involved in her life at all, or is it just you hear from her when she needs money?

I'm with you. We kind of go on and off. So, you know, dad had cut us out of their life. We held financial money from when my sister passed. that it wasn't to be given until they were 21. So when we reconnected, when they were both her and her brother were 21, to give them the money they... You know, they were told that we stole the money. But that wasn't the case. Yeah, it's a horrible, horrible, I mean, it would take me days. I'm so sorry. Anyways.

Yeah, and so they did get the money, and at that point we thought we were sort of you know, kindling, you know, building a relationship that was broken. And then from there, it just, you know, she spent the money I guess within three months and started asking people for money and we understood that she had a boyfriend in her life that was deep into gangs and drugs so we

You know, when she asked, I said, I'd love to buy your groceries, but can I take you to the grocery store? And then she wouldn't respond to you. Okay. There you go. I think this is your way out is to start giving directly. And if she says nope, then you know the red flags were there and you did the right thing and your conscience stays clean. Yeah. And Sierra, what George said earlier too, I do want you to have permission that this is your money and you want to... to see it being used.

In the best, wisest way, right? I mean, I think there is a responsibility there. I'll say with the caveat, just because there's a family member who is in need and is asking does not mean you automatically have to or you're a terrible person. So you could have your own conviction that you don't want to give.

Or your heart may be, and again, I think this is up to you. This is not a right or wrong. I think it's just two different options. It's either like, I don't feel good about this. I don't, the responsibility doesn't feel right to me. I don't like it, and I just don't feel good engaging it. So that is one option. And then the other is,

That you love her and you're like, no, I do want to be able to help. I just want to do it in the right way. So that right way to me would be going straight to the landlord and helping with food, shelter, utilities, transportation, like the four walls. helping her in those ways, not going on vacation or something like that. And then talking to her and saying, because I love you so much, I want to see you do better so you're not having to depend on people for money. So let's look at...

job opportunities let's look at doing a budget let's put you through financial peace university and go through and learn how to manage money like i also want to give you these resources you know maybe you pay for therapy for her right i mean like seriously i don't know what What else is out there? But it's like tools to help her.

become a healthier person how can we do that and sustain that right so um so that that's option b but option a is okay too sierra i want you to feel that like that that is up to you yeah but then there's option b if you feel that way but i think um what you're saying is why this is going straight to. to the things that you can help and and even you know and it's and it's so sad but it's the reality you know she's pregnant

So like, I don't know what health insurance looks like for her and all of that. So it's like.

there's a part like we need to understand the reality we live in niece whatever her name is um but also maybe sarah you say i feel like i do want to give and maybe it's maybe through the medical baby route and you help pay for medical bills you know to help with that right so like I think there's ways to help her, but also helping her to become a healthier whole person in the process is going to be the best gift that you can give her.

Yeah, I really like that because I think I haven't taken time to do that. And I think I was also struggling. I'm kind of in a position in my life where I haven't always outrageously given, right? Like I've, you know, and I've kind of... turn the corner where I feel like I have to oh I can help there I can help

Yes. I think I was trying to find that balance. And so I think that just even having a, you know, we've kind of chatted back and forth and I've kind of gone a bit radio silent, actually, just to sort of. discern and pray about this. I think that answer is just you know just having a proper conversation with her and how she can grow and sort of

determine from there, but also maybe directly help her with the four walls. We have great healthcare in Canada, so baby care. Oh, that's true. Be good. Okay, good. Yeah, that's great. That's fantastic. Yeah, well, I love your heart, Sierra, and I think, you know. This is the thing about money. It's a tool to help, but we want to help and not enable. And with family members, I think it's sometimes that hard line that can happen. Giving should be intentional.

Yeah, that's right. You're doing this the right way. Yeah, for sure. Sarah, thanks so much for the conversation. Well, that puts the sour of the Rams All right, Dave, you have some strong opinions. Possibly, yeah. I think so. Because you really prefer credit unions over big banks. Well, credit unions, for one thing, are... nonprofit, which means that the members, the customers own the credit union. So any profits that the credit union makes goes back into customer.

So you get better interest rate on savings, cheaper checking, and so on, that kind of thing. But what's more important than that, though, is the fact that the customer is the owner changes the spirit on the credit union. So I find very few credit unions that aren't very customer-centric. Well, and I think we have found one that is incredible, and that's Fairwinds.

They're an incredible credit union that is really out with the heart to help the customer. They're the right kind of people with the right kind of values. And they've done a really, really good job with customer service. And the deals that they're offering, the Ramsey Tribe is incredible. Yeah, absolutely. And I love it. The things that we teach, they so line up with. And you're right, their customer service is unbelievable. Winston and I just signed up.

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We'll chat about your life, your money, your career, relationships, anything and everything. We're here for you. Rachel will get into it. She's not scared. We are here for you. All right, let's have Kevin kick us off this hour in Springfield. Hey, Kevin. Welcome to the show. Hi, so I just have some questions trying to figure out how to get us out of doubt here. I mean, we are drowning. I've got some charge-offs, some credit cards. I've got some rental properties.

A couple years ago, it kind of took a turn. We were doing well. A couple years ago, it took a turn. We have seven kids under our roof right now. My wife's sister had lost two of her children. We ended up having to adopt them, bring them in. So it's been, since it's kind of just financially been straining us, as you know, grocery prices going up and all that. We've got some hard decisions to make. I've got some rental property. It's got three duplexes. I owe about $268,000 on them.

I could probably sell them around $360,000 to $390,000. And then I've got another house that's around property. I could probably sell it around $80,000. So I'm just trying to decide whether I should stick with the rental property, sell the vehicles. What's your total debt outside of the rental properties? Put those aside. What's the total consumer debt? Total debt would be about $520,000. That doesn't include any mortgages?

Oh, I'm sorry. Yes, that does include all the mortgages and credit cards. So, I mean, consumer debt you're looking at. Probably around $40,000. Okay. Between me and my wife both. And that's credit cards. There's multiple car loans. Yeah, so I've got two vehicle loans. I've got my truck and then my wife's SUV. And you could clear $100,000 profit if you sold the duplexes? Yes. Well, sounds like you just found your get out of jail free card right there.

What's the net income you're making off of all these rentals? For a year? We're not so yearly income. We're not making a whole lot. I know we're bringing it about probably after the insurance and taxes and payments are made. Probably around $4,000 a year, so it's not really my idea. This is a big hassle, and there's really no ROI, because you're not even factoring maintenance and repairs and tenant vacancy and all kinds of other risks.

Man, I'd get out of this and get a clean slate if I were you. Okay, so the one issue with that is we've got my wife's parents living there right now. We're kind of trading them for babysitting. My wife's not working because the babysitting is kind of so high right now. So it just doesn't make sense for her to be able to work.

So we're kind of, we're letting them stay there. They're not in great health. I know my wife's dad had cancer. He recovered from that, but he's not able to work. They can't afford anywhere. So we're just kind of like, what are we going to do with them? So, yeah, it's very stressful. Is that one of the duplexes? Do you have one duplex or three? We've got three on one lot. Okay, so could you sell the other ones? One of the duplexes.

Yeah, probably, that was probably basically just, that was, yeah, pretty close to paying them off. If I sold out or two. I would do that for now, just so you guys can breathe. Because you said you're drowning. So trying to get your head above water means let's get rid of two of these duplexes, pay off the debt, build some emergency fund, then we can reassess the situation with the parents after that.

Okay. Are the cars worth anything? Are you underwater? I mean, we're pretty well underwater in a truck. Oh, you told me you had $40,000 in consumer debt. Sounds like there's a lot more. Yeah, so we asked for this. I've got a student loan. I went to school to be a cop, and of course they don't pay very well. What's the household income?

really just my income right now, we're at $63,000 a year. I thought the kids were helping, I thought the parents were helping with the kids so your wife could work. Well, they do, but we're kind of in a mess right now where... Everywhere she goes, it's just been a nightmare because all the appointments and stuff, mom can't take them everywhere, so she plans on going back into it.

But, yeah, we're trying to find something. She doesn't want to go to school and do all that. And, yeah, like I said, we don't know if school should hold off. She should just go back to full-time really quick. What was she doing? She was a nursing assistant at a nursing home. Okay. And how much was she making if she worked full-time? Oh, probably $32,000 to $36,000 a year. Okay.

Well, so you got truck 42, SUV 27. How much is in credit card debt? How much credit card debt is it? Between me and her both, we're at about 20,000 credit cards. Okay. And then how much in your student loan? Student loan. It's not very much. It's almost $2,000. Okay.

Yeah, well, I mean, yeah, y'all are bumping up to, you know, $92,000 in consumer debt, making $63,000. So, yeah, you can't, so all this rental stuff, Kevin, you guys can't afford it. So, you have a rental house, too, is that what you said? Yes. Okay, I would sell everything from a real estate perspective. And if the parent...

But, you know, you told us that, well, the parents have to live here because we always exchange for babysitting. You know what I mean? Like, all of that, I would put them in an apartment. You know what I mean? And do what you can. Because you guys can't keep saving. everyone's situation while you're drowning and so you got if I were you from a real estate perspective you would make you just say you would clear 80k from the house

Uh, so we, yeah, we would get about, well, we would get, we could sell for 80 by 60 on one rental house. 10, 15 on that, not a hundred off the other one. Yeah. So this is. Yeah, this is my second problem. So my other house I've got right now, we got solar and we do not know a whole lot about solar. Is that the $20,000 one or is that the $80,000 house or is that another house? That's the current house we're in right now. Oh, that you're living in. What do you go on the solar? Yes.

Oh, my goodness. Okay. I know. All right, so... This is everything must go. Yeah, yeah, 100%. Yeah, so I mean, I would sell these duplexes. You guys can't afford to keep them. So that gives you 100 grand. That clears basically all of your other debt. with about 8,000 left, and then you're going to have to work to pay off these solars. Or if you sold the other house and maybe made 20, That would give you guys close to $35,000 left.

And consumer debt, $35,000 for the solar. And that's it. I would do all of that today, Kevin. And the problem is, though, what I'm worried about is that you're selling all these rental properties and you're going to pay off all of this and not feel much. So you guys have to cut up the credit cards. You guys have to just tell yourself, we're not doing this anymore. Because this isn't going to fix Kevin and your wife. What we're saying is going to fix the money situation. It's not fixing you guys.

You need to be fixed to stop making some of these decisions or you're going to continue. Yeah, the real estate transaction doesn't fix the behavior. That's the route you need to get to. But right now, the transactions are a good start. There's a time in your life and the baby steps for renting. But you don't want to do it forever. Because when you rent, you're still paying for a mortgage, just somebody else's. Plus, rent means instability in your budget. Because it always goes up. Never.

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Hey Rachel, I'm George. I hope you guys are doing good and stoked to talk to y'all today. Oh, well thank you. Thanks for calling. How can we help? Oh, yeah, so I'm 27 years old. I'm an aircraft mechanic. I make about $70,000 a year, give or take. We get overtime and stuff, but I just had a baby about 30 days ago. Oh, congratulations. Thank you. Thank you. So me and my fiance, we're getting married in October. We're not currently married. So I bought a house back in 2023.

And she has a house and her house is bigger. So we moved into her house. And in the meantime, I have my house being rented. And I just wanted to know, like, it was always a goal of ours to get into real estate. I just wanted to get a clear picture if we're doing this the right way and get a little advice on what you guys will do as far as my situation. Are they both in the Atlanta area? Are they nearby each other?

Yes, sir. They're about probably like 10, 15 minutes apart. That's great. What kind of debt do you guys have consumer debt-wise, you and your fiancé? We'll just say wife for the scenario. Once you guys get married, how much consumer debt will you guys have? Yeah, so luckily we have no consumer debt, just our mortgages. Oh, that's great. Okay, how much do you owe on your primary? So on my home, I owe $177. And on her home, she owes $270. Okay. How much is your home worth?

My home is worth about $225 to $230. Honestly, Ryan, if I were you, and you're making $80,000 a year, how much does she make? She makes $80 as well. She'll be getting a promotion next year. She'll be making $80 next year. Then they'll creep up from there. She'll be making $150 together come October. Yes. Are you guys going to combine finances completely? Yes, sir. And how much are you making on the rental property, yours? It's renting out for $1,750, and the mortgage is $1,160. Okay.

About 7,000 a year, give or take. Yeah. I'll tell you what I would do, Ryan. And George, I'd be curious your opinion. I don't know where you would stand with this. So if I were you guys, Ryan, I'd probably just sell your house. And I would take the equity.

in it which will be maybe 40 grand or so yeah ish yeah after fees fees and taxes and stuff yeah and I mean you put it towards Your mortgage now and you guys would have about 210 left on your primary mortgage And then I would work just to pay it off and that be your single goal. I mean, you know, because again, you're making seven grand on the rental. It's not a ton, right? Like you're not, it's not life changing. So if I were you, I would focus on the primary home, get that sold off.

And that will take you guys, I mean, depending on how, you know, how hard you're willing to work and focus, maybe five, five-ish years, maybe. And then from there, reevaluate and say, okay, now what do we want to do? Because real estate investing will be beyond baby steps. It's baby steps seven really is where I would put it. So once your primary home is paid off, then save up and pay cash for an investment property. Yep. And I say that, Ryan, because, you know, in five years,

You guys can have two more kids. You know what I mean? You can have three kids. The way life looks, you know, and your priorities. could shift then when you actually say, hey, we have the ability, your income's going to go up. You guys will have a great income, no house payment, nothing. And if you wanted to save, you know, a hundred grand to buy, you know, a fixer upper and let it be your first rental.

have had it and do it you know what i mean like that absolutely or you could see i don't know that Man, once you're juggling life and there's, you know, kids running around and everything, you're like, you know, just a good mutual fund feels like really easy in life right now. And go simple with investing and then maybe get into it later, right?

It's the idea that it's not a never. And I come from a real estate family. I mean, my family loves real estate. And so I am all about it. But I do want the priorities to be in the correct order just for peace and for you guys to have as much autonomy as possible. That's what I would probably sell it.

And then throw any equity you have at your primary home. You guys get married. I would probably do this after the wedding, by the way. I would probably just like, hold still. Nothing's on fire here. Nothing's on fire. After you guys get married. All of that from a legal standpoint is there, then make this move to sell your home, put the equity into her home, which you should be on the title deed. That's what I was going to ask. Are you going to get added to the deed and the mortgage?

I love the idea of throwing that lump sum from the proceeds at her mortgage and then you can recast it. or refinance it, but probably you should be able to recast it and just add your name to it with that lump sum, and that'll make that payment so low, you guys will knock that mortgage out so fast, making $150,000, and the mortgage is now down to $230,000 at that point. Bye.

That was actually a segue into, so I have like 80 grand and a high yield savings. And so I didn't know if it would have been smart to like. throw it at my mortgage now and then recast it towards a smaller payment. But so based off what y'all are saying, it would make sense to sell and then just throw that entire lump. Yeah. Anything beyond your six month emergency fund. I assume that includes your, that's all your savings.

Yes, sir. Okay. So anything beyond the six-month emergency expenses, yeah, once you guys are married, throw that on top of the lump sum from the proceeds, use the extra savings, you'll knock that thing down maybe closer to $200. Okay. That'd be amazing. And you guys still have time? You're going to cash flow a wedding, I assume, by October? Oh, luckily, yeah, we're blessing that her dad is in a position to help sell that. No, that's great. Awesome. That's great.

Yeah, I mean, this sets you guys up, Brian, really well. I mean, to get the primary mortgage down that low. And how much is the house worth? The house, so she just bought it, like, not too long ago. It's probably $3.308 or something like that. Okay, that's great. But to think that you guys can have a paid-off house

in what, four-ish years maybe even? I mean, it's just wild to think. And then what you guys can do from there is amazing. So if real estate is still... what you guys are wanting then we'd be all about that just cash flowing it and going slow we always say move at the speed of cash so it's not going to be fancy and big and great but

My husband's flipping houses right now, George, and there are some nasty houses that are going for a lot. Hey, Winston, I was like, oh, and he's like, man, there's some good days, there's some bad days. I know, yeah. So you can find some not great, you know, get a contractor in there. figure it out. But real estate's fun. I think it's a great way to diversify.

money eventually you know we're not i'm i'm not just like oh just invest in a mutual fund and sit there i do like the idea of you know you're making money on turn i don't know it's fun real estate is fun but i just want you to do it the right way i'll have more peace about it yeah for sure and if a deal Doesn't go well, George, you know, you just say, well,

That one didn't take. That one happens. And when you do it with cash, it just changes the desperate, the desperation involved. It really does. It is wild. Like it, it, he had one that, and it, sat and I mean like it was painful and it was it was a larger one than a deal we would normally do

But we had no mortgage payment, right? So it's like, you know, you can afford just to let it kind of sit there. You're not like bleeding money. Yes, yes. I'm like, seriously, there is something so powerful about it. But yeah, there's some nasty. How's this, George? Well, if you just watch TikTok, you don't see that. All you see is buy my course and I'll show you how amazing this is and how I worked one hour a week to make all this money. But the reality of it is

It's a lot of pain and turmoil to get the reward on the other side. Yeah, for sure. It's a lot of work, yes. oh no it's and that's the interesting thing you know that's you know flipping versus holding right so the investment real estate where you hold and yeah and that's the thing too is you don't make a ton of money on the rents always but it's what you what you make at the buy right if you if you get a good deal

which is beautiful too so yeah so there's some fun stuff there that um is great not everyone does it the wisest smart peaceful way so we are slower with it but it gives you more peace which is way more of an enjoyable life george amen This show is sponsored by BetterHelp. More and more people are becoming aware of the need for mental and emotional health resources.

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Where are you guys from? So we're from Smith Station, which is close to Auburn, Alabama. Awesome. And how much debt did you pay off? So we paid off $163,427. Oh my gosh. How long did it take? 29 months. Okay, so great. That is wild. What kind of debt was it? It was an aircraft.

Whoa. We got a plane. We got an owner of a plane. You know he's serious and he calls it an aircraft. Yeah, an aircraft versus an airplane. Makes it feel like a business expense. What is the difference? Airplane versus aircraft. Aircraft is anything that flies. So it can be like a helicopter when we consider it an aircraft. Okay, but you have an aircraft. Are you a pilot? I am. Okay, amazing. So now you have your own aircraft paid off.

Actually, we sold it. Oh, we got rid of it. Yes. And we paid it off. Actually, we paid it off. Oh, my gosh. Okay. So, it was an aircraft. What else? A truck. Yeah. And a vacuum. And a vacuum. Wow. And our house. And our house. Wait, what? Your house? We should have left with this. Wait, and bury the lead. Oh, just the house. The afterthought. The house has paid off. The bigger question, how much was this vacuum that it required going into debt?

Yeah, that was about $4,000. Okay, I've heard of these. What are these vacuums? Are they like miracle workers compared to a Dyson? Oh, yeah. They're pretty great. It's got to be to go $4,000. Not worth the debt. They're pretty good. Is it for your home? Vacuum for your home? Yeah. I've never heard of this. Have you heard of a $4,000 vacuum? Because someone else was like, yeah, we have vacuum. It's $4,000. What?

I don't even know where to buy a $4,000 vacuum. So funny. Oh, my gosh. I don't have access to this. Yeah, I told him I wanted it. So, yeah. He said, yes, man. Put it on the card. Oh, gosh. Okay, so 29 months. So what happened 29 months ago that caused you guys to change what you've been doing? So I had gotten a new job several months before that, and it was considerably more than I've ever made in my life. Okay. But several months that goes by, and nothing's changed.

Still living basically paycheck to paycheck. And I was like, this isn't okay. Something's got to change. So I remembered from high school, Dave Ramsey. Wow. And I was like, hey, we need to do this. And so we did.

Oh, my gosh. Okay, so how much money were you guys making during the step payoff? So at the beginning, it was about $160,000 together. Uh-huh. And then towards the end, it was about $140,000. Of course, now, because the promotions and stuff, we're back up to about $160,000. Awesome. Okay, okay. So great, you guys. Oh my gosh.

So you're like, okay, we are making great money, but we're literally living paycheck to paycheck. So what would be, because I'm actually was brainstorming with the team, this exact type video content of like, you know, why wealthy people, you know, people making $200,000, which was basically you guys.

are still living paycheck to paycheck. Because what did it look like for you guys? Was it just payments? Was it just not budgeting? Like, what was life like? So he's the spender. Yeah. So it's mostly him. Okay. I love how quickly she threw you under the bus. It was a lot of things. yeah I mean obviously aircraft truck I mean vacuum just payments that we had coming through we didn't do credit cards I never touched credit cards but Kind of the big thing is that we're just buying stuff.

That just really didn't matter. Aiding out a lot. Aiding out a lot. Yeah. All the subscriptions. Yep. Just not really saying no. Correct. Basically, if you wanted it, you were going to figure out a way to do it. Correct. You were like a toddler in a Richie Rich blank check situation. Yes. I love it. So what was your life like during that 29 months?

Show us the other side of the sacrifice. What did you do? The first about six months, which is when we paid off all our consumer debt before we got into the mortgage, um it was rice and beans you know i mean like we weren't we weren't eating out hardly at all we have date night. That was a required thing that we would do.

But we cut all the subscriptions up. We didn't buy anything. It was bare bones. Only if we need it did we buy it. Yeah, we started making a list of stuff we wanted to buy after. Yeah, that's good. That's great. And did you say for the first six months, that was it? That was the mentality? Right, the first six months was that, and then we got through baby step three, so we hit four, five, and six. Yes. And so that slowed down that kind of mentality a little bit, let us grow a little bit.

But towards the end, I was like, man, this mortgage just really stinks. And so that's when I started talking to her about, hey, maybe we should sell the aircraft that we've paid off. And that sped the whole thing on my baby. Yeah, I told him, I said, I'm not telling you to do that. That's going to be your decision. How did it feel when you sold it? I was sad. Did you kiss it goodbye? I didn't kiss it, but it was close to that. How much did you get for it? How much was it that fled?

We bought it for $39,000, but we sold it for $65,000. Wow, yeah. So we got it right before COVID-19. And so the market went crazy high in general aviation. And then on turn of that, we put $24,000 into it. as well new paint job new stuff inside all kinds of stuff wow so you've got no aircraft now no air well

Not mine, no. You fly professionally, but you don't have your hobby. Well, it's actually not what I do for a living. Oh, wow. It's just what I do on the side. I do stuff with Civil Air Patrol, so I fly with them. But on the primary side, I'm actually IT. Oh, nice. So this was a hobby of yours. Correct. An expensive hobby. It's a very expensive hobby. So now what do you do when you want to go fly? Well, it depends on

What I want to do, if it's with Civil Air Patrol, then I have to get a certain mission set for that, and there's all kinds of training requirements and stuff I have to maintain. There has to be some purpose behind it versus a joyride. Correct. That's probably for the best. Oh, my gosh. I'm so proud of you guys. That's a big sacrifice. I mean, you think about trying to convince a guy to sell his truck. He sold his aircraft.

Oh, he's on his truck, too. That's on my truck, too. Whoa! Did it all. You were just, like, all the way. Okay, so how do you convince another guy listening out there who's gone? No one's taking my truck away from me. It may not be a truck truck. It's always a truck truck. No one takes my Prius away from me.

No one's ever said that in history. Yeah, I would say the number one thing, you're living now, you're not thinking seven years from now. So start thinking about what your life's going to be like and then make the sacrifices now so it can be that. And so it's more of a mature mentality. Yes. Micah said it so much nicer than I could have. That was good. So good. Oh, man. Okay, were there people cheering you guys on during this process?

Did you talk about it, or did you kind of just keep it between y'all? Oh, we definitely talked about it. Yeah, we talked about it. I love it. We actually led several Financial Peace University classes as coordinators. And so we had our parents and stuff who were happy for us. They weren't necessarily on board with everything we were doing, but they were happy that we were going down this path. But really it was each other.

keeping our nose to the grindstone so to speak and just doing it anybody make fun of you During it. Oh, yes. Yeah, mainly for the credit card situation. Yeah, because everyone thinks it's crazy you don't have a credit card. And we're like, we didn't have one to begin this process. That was interesting, too. What was your retort? What was your big comeback when they would come at you with this?

with the credit cards or just in general. Credit cards, I would point out something that's been brought up several times is obviously statistics, right? I'm a big statistics guy, being IT, right? Very numbers oriented, being the nerd. But on top of that, I would bring up what these credit card companies do and who they target with their advertising and who they're going after. The sliminess of all the predatory nature. Oh, I love that. So good. Wow, what's the house worth?

It's about $242,000 this morning. Awesome. Amazing. So you guys are well on your way to Baby Steps Millionaire now. We are. In Baby Steps 7. That's incredible. What do you tell people the key is to getting out of debt if there was one thing? So we were talking about this on the way here, what we would say if you asked us. And my take was invite people into your journey.

because you get to minister to people that way, tell them why you're doing what you're doing and what's so different about Ramsey compared to all these other financial institutions. That was my takeaway with it. Invite people in. Just keep them updated on what you're doing. It keeps you motivated. It keeps you motivated, definitely. And then you can bring other people in because they'll start asking questions like, oh, how'd you do this?

you get to tell them all about it. Yeah, that's beautiful. And there's some accountability. It's like, oh, yes. they're gonna ask about this yeah we were teaching the classes while we were in like baby step three we're like we just sold the truck that we had paid off and they everyone thought we were walking the talk yeah

I love it. Oh my goodness. Well, we have a parting gift for you guys. We have two every dollar premium subscriptions, good for a year. So you can use those, pass it on to the naysayers or the cheerleaders to help them on their debt-free journey as well. All right, here we go. You ready? Let's do it. All right, we got Micah, we got Jessica. $163,000 paying off in 29 months, making $160,000. And they sold the aircraft, the truck to do it. Count it down. Let's hear a debt-free scream.

Three, two, one. We're dead friends! Yay! I love it. That'll do it. Man. I felt that. House and everything. Golly. So good. Alright, let's cut to the chase. It's easy to get discouraged about crazy house prices and interest rates. But when you have the right real estate agent to help you buy and sell the right way, you'll have confidence to make smart decisions. Ramsey trusted agents aren't just experts who guide you through buying or selling. They're people you can trust.

to have your back from the first call to closing day. Find a Ramsey trusted agent near you at RamseySolutions.com slash agent. That's RamseySolutions.com slash agent. George, you know when you open your phone and you're like in an app and you don't realize you're there because subconsciously you just end up... Do you ever do that? You've never said anything more relatable. Okay, okay. So I looked up the other day. No joke. Judge me if you want.

I was in every dollar and I literally was like subconsciously the budgeting app subconsciously and I literally was like I don't even remember opening my phone I don't even remember how I got here or what I was thinking to get here but every dollar is an app that I use on the daily instagram and every dollar just muscle memory muscle memory it is i'm like i don't know because i love this budgeting app i really do and as a spender and as a free spirit it is the thing that like

It just keeps me in line. It gives me peace. I even did an experiment where I tried not to budget for, like, two weeks to, like, see, like, what, you know? And I just, I don't like it. That's Rachel living on the edge. I know. And I'm a spender, y'all. Like, I, like, I'm, you know, I'm not one of these, like, cheap people in life that I'm like, I love to budget. But I do. too. I love to budget. And I...

give every dollar a lot of credit because it helps and it's just like, I just love this app so much. So here's the ad. If your muscle memory is leading you to DoorDash and Uber Eats and Amazon,

Download the EveryDollar app instead. Yes, so you can get a whole new rhythm on your phone so you can be looking at your budget more and more. But it is. If you are living paycheck to paycheck or wherever you are, budgeting is something that is going to help you. It really is. It is a tool. It is a habit to get in. And EveryDollar helps. And our team is actually hosting a free budgeting training this month, George. So you're actually going to learn.

step-by-step how to use EveryDollar, how to create a budget, how to stick to it. So spots are limited, but you can sign up for free at everydollar.com slash webinar. And there'll be a Q&A as well. So a lot of things just to kind of get started. But it is, it is a... It is a habit I'm glad I have, George, for my free spirit. So proud of you. Spending self. It's very helpful. It is. That's a good humble brag. Thanks. You said thanks is too late. Like in a job interview where they're like,

What's your worst trait? I just care too much, you know? I just care too much. I budget too much. I just budget too much. All right, let's go to Elijah in New York City, one of my favorite cities in America. Hey, Elijah, welcome to the show. Rachel, George, how are you guys doing? We're doing great. How can we help today?

Excellent, excellent. All right, so my wife and I are preparing to start a new chapter in our lives. We're going to be taking over her mom's business. It's a children's consignment shop. We're just kind of curious about what are the logistics behind moving the business over to us?

Wondering things like, should the business be in one of our names? Keeping one of us as an employee, is our tax benefits behind that? And also, when it does get passed over to us, is there going to be a cost to us as far as taxes go? Yeah, when is that? Are you guys doing like an official purchase?

her mom doesn't want to sell it to us she just wants to give it to us just gift it okay oh yeah that's great that's nice so it doesn't cost you anything and this is a physical brick and mortar location just one Correct. And what's the real estate there? Does she rent out of somewhere or does she own the real estate? She rents. She rents out of it, okay. And we just signed a 10-year lease, so we're going to be there for a while. Okay, that's great. What's the structure right now as it stands?

Do you mean like a strip mall sort of thing? Like whose name is on what? Got it. So right now it's in my wife's name because we had to update the lease. So my mother-in-law said, all right, we'll put it in her name. So it's now my wife's name. Okay, and is there an operating agreement? Is there something in paper like a buy-sell agreement? What have you guys outlined so far? My wife signed a lease contract. That's about it for now. But nothing with the original owners, your family?

Correct. Okay. Alright. But is there anything in writing saying that they gifted this to you? I guess that's what I'm trying to get after is transfer. It was just a handshake deal? Pretty much, yeah. My mother-in-law wants to retire and wants to hand it over to my wife and I. Does your wife have any other siblings? No. Okay, so it's just her. Okay, so there's not like a issue of dividing assets and all of that.

At her parents' death, that won't be an issue. Luckily not. Have you contacted a small business attorney to help with this?

I have not. I didn't even know that was a thing, but that's something I will look into. We have no idea where to start with this. Yeah, there's attorneys that will specialize in small business, or even an estate planning attorney can help with This and the things I would want to look into is just making sure that there is some sort of ownership transfer agreement in place Not yet.

So there would be one piece of homework there, filing the right paperwork with the IRS and your state, licensing transfers, the lease agreement, that part's done, which is good. Any liabilities or any debt attached to this business? no doubt at all oh good okay and then on the tax side i'd be working with a good tax pro

to figure out are there gift tax returns? Does your mom need to file any forms to make sure she doesn't get hit with a gift tax for the sale of this business? Yeah, what's the business estimated at, Elijah? Do you know? Um, as far as, like, yearly profits? Sure, yeah. Yeah, so last year, um, projected around, it was around $740,000. Wow. Gosh, is this, like, a high end?

More or less, yeah. I never realized how much it actually brought in until I started asking more questions. Yeah, so that was top line, how much is after everything's paid. Not entirely the net. She said between the two of us, it would probably be around 350, 300. Okay. And she just isn't needing that money anymore. Correct. She doesn't need any level of stock. She doesn't need any stock or anything.

No, she wants to stay home and babysit the grandkids. Wow, that's amazing. What a great situation. I know, what a gift. I've married into a phenomenal family. Oh my gosh, and you guys obviously want the business, correct? Like this is... exciting to her there's not like a burden or like a gosh we have to take this just from an emotional level

Not at all, no. My wife loves it on multiple levels. That's great. About two years ago, I got hurt on the job. I was an electrician, so I can't do that anymore. So this is kind of my fallback, and it's something I enjoy. It's amazing. So great. So just to recap, there's three people I would reach out to if I was in your shoes. Number one is that attorney who can specialize in this and help you make sure that the T's are crossed, the I's are dotted. Number two is a CPA to help on the tax side.

And lastly, I would make sure you have a good insurance pro in your corner to help with liability insurance and workers' comp and whatever other pieces that the business needs. And make sure that's all in your name and you have the right coverages.

Beautiful. Beautiful. Yeah, but it sounds like it's as simple as it gets. Yeah, for sure. Yeah, thanks, Elijah. Yeah, and I would say, too, you know, it doesn't have to be necessarily in both names, but making sure that your family, Elijah, you and your wife, your will stay.

that the business is put in your name in the event that your wife passes away or something you know what I mean like if there's clear communication on that end yeah that'll bleed into your personal estate planning with this business of what's going to happen with this business one day that's what I'm thinking yep 100% so that's great

And that is a, you don't hear that often. It's usually much messier from the financial perspective, right? Of a lot of parents that build a business, you know, they need that. the sale of that business for retirement, right? That's the retirement plan for a lot of these business owners. They didn't invest. They just went, I'm going to build a business, and one day I need the cash, and now it's on the kid to pay or go into debt for this business, and they call in saying,

Well, my dad said it's a great opportunity. It's valued at a million. Should I take out a million in debt to buy the business? And we're like, no, don't do that. Don't do that. Don't do that. Yeah. So this is.

This is what it looks like when you do it well. I know, 100%. Yeah, so Elijah is in a very... Oh, you know what I should do for Elijah? Send him a... I think he's still on the line. Hang on, Elijah. Kelly's going to pick up. We're going to send you the book from Dave, the newest one, Build a Business You Love. It's going to walk you through the stages of business, the drivers that move through the stages, and I think you're going to find it really helpful as you take on this new endeavor.

to do it with a lot of wisdom, which Dave will outline in that book. Yeah, for sure. 30 plus years of running this thing. Yeah, and it sounds like you guys have a great relationship with her mom, who's gifting you all this business. And there's probably a lot of ins and outs of running it as successfully as she has. I mean, she's done this without debt. She makes, you know, I mean, a great return. It's amazing. Close to seven figures in this business.

So that's amazing. I mean, she's really done a great job. Selling used kids stuff. I'm in the wrong business, Rachel. But luxury. They're in New York. High end. This is the kind of place my wife would love to shop at. I know. I thought I should go. I said I'm in New York. I'm going to find a life. Go find your shop. This hour of the Ramsey Show in the book. Don't call everybody. Hey, what are you still doing here?

You know the rest of the show is happening on the Ramsey Network app, right? So you've got to jump over there to continue watching. You can download it for free. Just go to your app store, type in Ramsey Network. It's completely free, and I'll drop a link in the show notes to make it easy for you. So if you're watching on the app, you're in luck. But if you're watching anywhere else, this show is over for you. So jump onto the app and let the fun continue. All right.

Go on now. Don't make it weird. Okay, I got nowhere to go, so you need to go. Okay, bye-bye now. All right, this is getting weird over there, guys. What do we do?