Well hello Friends! I hope you guys had an amazing week. Today I want to talk about something that I think we’ve all struggled with at one point or another in some part of our lives, and that is Self-Sabotage. It’s something I see my clients do on occasion. I’ve seen it play out with people at work and I’ve done it myself on occasion. As I said, we all have at some point. So, this episode is going to be super helpful for all of us, I think. In this episode, we’re going to learn the definition of...
Oct 31, 2021•33 min•Ep. 45
This morning, I changed my mind about what I wanted to talk about today. Hey, I’m a Libra. That’s what we do. It’s about the whole scale thing. lol But seriously, it’s kind of a big deal for me to do that and it’s not something I usually do because I spend a lot of time preparing for each episode. I do research, I prepare a script and then record and edit. I invest a lot into each episode. It’s something I enjoy but when I choose to scrap a topic at the last minute that means I can’t just record...
Oct 24, 2021•24 min•Ep. 44
Well hello Friends! Welcome to this bonus episode of “Ask the Coach.” This is something I started a couple of month ago and I promised I’d do it every month or two. And it’s been a few months since the first one, so I thought we’d do another one. If you recall, for these episodes, I do some specific coaching based on questions you submit. So, for future episodes, if you’re struggling with something at work or if you have a question about anything else related to your career or life, send me a DM...
Oct 17, 2021•25 min•Ep. 43
Today I want to talk about belonging. And specifically, we’re going to explore the difference between Fitting In vs. Belonging. And how to create a Sense of Belonging during times when you might feel a bit like you’re in a situation or a workplace or whatever where you’re on the outside looking in. This is a super interesting topic and a relevant one, because it affects every person on the planet, regardless of age, gender, education level, culture, country, income or whatever. This is an issue ...
Oct 10, 2021•36 min•Ep. 42
So, LAST week, we talked about How to Stay Strong During Challenging Times . And in that, I introduced a concept called Inner Leadership which is central to what I teach in my business. So THIS week, I want to take the concept a little deeper and discuss How to Be a Great Leader to YOURSELF. There’s no denying that leadership is a popular topic today. We hear about it in business, politics, sports, religion. In fact, according to Forbes Magazine, it’s a $400 Billion a year industry. And growing....
Oct 03, 2021•31 min•Ep. 41
Today we’re going to talk about something we all deal with from time to time, which is how to stay strong during challenging times. Like most people, I know a thing or two about this. And I wanted to talk about this today because it gets right to the heart of what my business is all about. And my own struggles in this area – coping with personal catastrophes – is really the biggest reason I started this business. So, let’s start there on my WHY. Then we’ll get into the meat of this episode. For ...
Sep 26, 2021•38 min•Ep. 40
Today I want to talk about something that I believe we can all relate to whether it’s in our career or life. And that’s Doing Something We Later Regret . And specifically, today we’re going to talk about how to AVOID that going forward. So first, can you relate to this? I know I CERTAINLY can. Most everyone can. I mean, there are so many ways this can come up for us in our career and in our personal lives too. First, we live in an intaworld right now. So, there’s this expectation that if we send...
Sep 19, 2021•24 min•Ep. 39
Today I want to talk about “ What You’re Telling Yourself .” This topic was inspired by one of my coaching clients and something she’s been wrestling with for the past few weeks. And as we explored the issue, it brought up so many similar situations that I’ve personally experienced myself or saw others deal with during my career that I just knew I needed to share it with you. I’ve asked her permission and while I won’t divulge the company or her name, she’s excited for what it can do to help oth...
Sep 12, 2021•31 min•Ep. 38
Today we’re going to talk about When It’s Time to Leave. This episode was inspired by a phrase I keep seeing in the media. The Great Resignation. This is the name that’s been given to the wave of mass resignations supposedly taking place inside companies across America. And the typical explanation for this great resignation is the pandemic. We all know it’s upended our lives and careers and everyday norms. And the narrative out there says that because of this, people have started to rethink what...
Sep 05, 2021•33 min•Ep. 37
Today I want to talk about How to Stop Comparing. I thought about this topic because I saw a quote from Teddy Roosevelt this week that said, “comparison is the thief of joy.” And that made me want to talk about it in this episode because our careers (and our lives for that matter) are full of opportunities to compare ourselves with others. So, let’s look at where this need to compare comes from. According to psychologists, it gets programmed into us from a very young age. It might start when we’...
Aug 29, 2021•31 min•Ep. 36
Today I want to talk about how Decisions in Uncertainty. As we all know, life is a constant lesson in uncertainty. And we kind of get used to it, right? We’re all aware that we never know what’s around the corner. What tomorrow will bring. Or even if we WILL be here tomorrow. But as we grow up or grow into situations, we get used to what I call “the uncertainty we know.” We’re all pretty resilient when you think about it. We get used to kind of not being in control of what might happen to us. I ...
Aug 21, 2021•19 min•Ep. 35
Today is the second in our two-part series on Labeling. Last week, we looked at “why we label others, how it impacts us (and others)…and how to stop doing it.” In that, we explored the origins of labeling as it relates to our human brain. We learned that our instinct to label comes from the primitive part of our brain and that in ancient times, this ability to “INSTANTLY categorize” people and situations actually served a purpose. It helped our caveman ancestors recognize danger so they could ma...
Aug 14, 2021•24 min•Ep. 34
Today, I want to talk about LABELS because it holds so many of us back in our careers and lives. So let’s start by discussing the definition of labeling. For psychologists, labeling is defined as a way of compartmentalizing people based on attributes, situations, or behaviors. This happens in families, groups and society as a whole. As humans, our need to label runs deep. It goes back to our primitive or reptilian brain, the part of our brain that’s evolved over the Millenia. The part that’s res...
Aug 08, 2021•25 min•Ep. 33
Today I want to talk to you about something that’s foundational to having the career or business you want. And that is self-confidence. Because you aren’t going to get very far if you don’t believe you can. Most of us believe that people are either CONFIDENT or they’re NOT. That SELF-CONFIDENCE is an attribute we’re born with. But it’s not. Self-confidence is a skill we develop if we choose. And it’s definitely a skill WORTH developing because being self-confident is linked to having greater suc...
Aug 01, 2021•22 min•Ep. 32
Welcome to this bonus episode of the podcast, which I’m calling Ask the Coach. Like I've said, we’re experimenting with this new segment, which I’ll plan to do the last Wednesday of the next few months. If you like it, we’ll keep doing it. You guys submit your questions to me and I’ll answer them. They can be about anything related to your career from job searching and purpose to getting promoted, getting laid off or changing career paths. Even starting a side hustle or business. Whatever you wa...
Jul 28, 2021•23 min•Ep. 31
Today I want to talk about Being in Uncertainty. I was originally going to talk about something different but with the news of the virus being on the upswing in almost every state (and around the world) and with that, delays in returning to the office and putting a return to the classrooms in question, I know this is something that would be helpful for everyone. It’s been quite the year of uncertainty for everyone with Covid. We weren’t sure if our family or friends would stay healthy. We dealt ...
Jul 25, 2021•27 min•Ep. 30
If you’re a regular listener, you know I’m all about helping people build a career or business they love. And while I do share strategies and approaches that address your career or business broadly, I go deep in the one area that I KNOW holds most of us back in some way. And that’s about overcoming self-doubt and building strong self-confidence. The reason I focus on this is because self-doubt is an issue that affects most of us at some point in our lives. In fact, research shows more than 85% o...
Jul 18, 2021•23 min•Ep. 29
Last week we talked about Managing Disappointment. This is a super important skill to cultivate in your career and life. Because we all face ups and downs. And it’s how we manage the downs that make the difference between staying hopeful and possibility oriented or sinking into disbelief and low self-confidence. If you haven’t listened to episode 27 on Managing Disappointment, you might want to give that a listen first. In that, we share that the key to managing disappointment is to shift your f...
Jul 11, 2021•28 min•Ep. 28
This week, I’m LOVING the breakthrough one of my clients had. You know, that’s one of my favorite things about being a coach. And it’s why I’ve always loved leading and mentoring people in my corporate career. You get to experience people’s growth and evolution and personal victories up close. Watching people turn a goal or dream into reality is so inspiring for me. I love movies and shows and books about people who try to do something big, go all out to make it happen and when it DOES…it’s such...
Jul 04, 2021•30 min•Ep. 27
Over the last three episodes, we’ve been exploring the role our thoughts play in moving us forward or holding us back. So, if you haven’t listened to those yet, I encourage you to go back to Episode 23 as that’s the beginning of our Thought Series. And as we’ve discussed all through this series, our career and life will go in the direction of our consistent patterns of thought. We’re not taught this. We don’t think life works that way. We’re taught that the way we feel and our ability to be succ...
Jun 27, 2021•36 min•Ep. 26
Managing your mind. It is THE key to not only a more rewarding and meaningful career. It’s the secret to living your best life. Sounds a little woo woo if it’s the first time you’re hearing this. But it’s true. I promise. Given the interest, I decided to go a little deeper into the topic with a concept I call Thought Pathways. And this one is relevant to every human on the planet because it’s about repetitive thoughts, which is where all thinking, feeling and behavioral habits come from. Hate yo...
Jun 20, 2021•26 min•Ep. 25
Well hello friends. I hope you guys had a good week! Mine has been amazing! June has been a month of big important (and I believe life-changing) decisions in my career and life. That has inspired and motivated me. And as a result, I’ve probably gotten more done in the past week than I have in the past three months combined. Though my own daily self-coaching, it’s been fun to dive in and explore the reasons for this sudden burst of motivation. You see, the past few years have DEFINITELY been inte...
Jun 13, 2021•29 min•Ep. 24
Before we dive into today’s episode, I wanted to share a few thoughts. First, I just want to say a heartfelt thank you to my regular listeners and if you’re new here, I want to welcome you and thank you for giving us a listen. We’re growing and I appreciate each one of you. I wanted to share a bit more about the upcoming Workshop we’re planning for June 12th. It’s called Train Your Brain. It’s going to be so great. It’s going to be a one-hour video conference via Zoom with a workbook. It’ll be r...
Jun 06, 2021•27 min•Ep. 23
I don’t know about you but I’m having a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that it’s already end of May. We’re almost HALFWAY through the year. What? I’m always amazed at how fast time moves. And for me, this is the time of year that I love to look back and reflect on where I was six months, 12 months ago and decide if I’m where I wanted or hoped I’d be at this point. It’s an important question because we’re never going to get what we want from our career and life if we’re not intentiona...
May 30, 2021•33 min•Ep. 22
Today I want to talk about Why We Quit at Things. Or maybe more specifically, Why We Quit on Ourselves. Most of us do this in one way or another. And it’s never a great thing. But for many it becomes a pattern that holds them back. You know what I mean. We start the diet determined to head into swimsuit season at our ideal weight. So, we start the diet determined and motivated. And then a few weeks or a month in, we give up. We decide this is the year to find the ideal job. So, we dive into the ...
May 23, 2021•36 min•Ep. 21
Today I want to talk about something most of us don’t like to talk about. I want to talk about bad experiences. Now you might be wondering WHY we’d want to talk about bad experiences. The truth is most of us will go to any length to avoid focusing on them. We’ll engage in all sorts of numbing behaviors like overeating, overdrinking, overspending, over-whatevering, just to avoid having to think about them. But today I want to serve up a different perspective because if you’re going to have any so...
May 16, 2021•27 min•Ep. 20
Today I want to talk to you about a trend that’s been growing steadily for the last several decades. And that is the degree to which we’re fulfilled at work. Or to be more specific, the degree to which we’re UNfulfilled. According to a Gallup poll conducted a few years ago, more than two thirds of workers say they’re NOT ENGAGED in their job. Think about that for a minute. Only one in three of us say we’re ENGAGED in the work we do? Wow. No wonder so many of us LIVE for Friday nights and despise...
May 09, 2021•23 min•Ep. 19
In last week’s episode we explored Fear of Success, a topic I think we don’t hear enough about because I know it holds so many of us back. Deeply rooted in this concept is the fear of letting go of who were used to be in favor of who we want to become. And that gap between past us and future us can be huge and I think too many of us leave it up to chance. This week, we’re going to talk about how to create future you. On purpose. So, let’s dive in. As humans, we’re trained to look at our past for...
May 02, 2021•30 min•Ep. 18
Let’s start with a definition. In the simplest of terms, Fear of Success involves the fear of GETTING the very things that you want. What?!!? I know. I know. It makes no sense logically. But as you dig into it, there are actually three big themes that come up around Fear of Success. 1. Fear of Isolation that comes from the success. This is about the fear of what it means to be “different” from friends and family. It’s our primitive fear of being cast out of the tribe. It can also be in part conc...
Apr 25, 2021•29 min•Ep. 17
Fear of Failure is the irrational fear that we won’t succeed at doing something that’s important to us. This fear happens when we have thoughts that overestimate the risks that we associate with attempting to DO the new thing. These irrational risk-based thoughts create feelings of fear, which cause us to engage in avoiding behaviors like procrastination, hiding, playing small and a host of other self-limiting actions. So first, let’s look at what we mean by ‘overestimating the risks’ we associa...
Apr 18, 2021•20 min•Ep. 16
