Ep 223: The Voice in Your Head is Wrong: Moving Past Imposter Syndrome

It's about having the clarity , self-confidence and unstoppable belief to go after and get everything you want . If you'll come with me , I'll show you how . Hello friend , I hope you had an amazing week . Today we're going to talk about imposter syndrome . An amazing week . Today we're going to talk about imposter syndrome .

This is a very important topic , particularly for women . It does impact some men , but it definitely is disproportionately something that women deal with . In the episode I'm going to share all the reasons for that . But this is also very personally important to me . It has been the most significant issue or challenge in my career .

Certainly , for the first two decades of my career , I didn't even really know what it was before 2015 when I first got exposed to it , and I'll share more in the podcast about how I got exposed to and things like that . But suffice it to say like I will never forget that day or that moment when I heard this person on stage talking about it .

It was like an out of body experience . I was like I don't know what's happening . I thought I was the only person up until that point who dealt with that , who had thoughts like that , who struggled with those feelings and who spent their career avoiding chasing the big opportunities but avoiding the spotlight .

It was this very weird push pull that I had for the first two decades of my career , and so it's so important to me , and I would say the last eight years have been nine years .

I've been really working on the long term fix of that , which we'll talk about in the podcast , but I wanted to share this with you today because I don't want anyone else to spend two decades of their life dealing with something that is so easily addressed . I'm not going to say that it's simple to overcome .

I'm not going to say that you can solve it in an instant .

This is deep , deep work , because the reason you have imposter syndrome if it's something that you struggle with is that in your family of origin and those early formative years , a combination of things happened things people said to you , things that you observed , things people said to you things that you observed , things that you experienced , and you made all that

mean things about you and your self-worth . That has imprinted on you , and so it takes a while to evolve that , but it can be done at any age . So I'm super passionate about this topic and I hope that if this is something that you struggle with , that you get a lot out of this episode .

I'm going to share both a in the moment tool and technique you can use on the job to overcome the impostery feelings in the moment . But , like I said , I'm going to also share the longer term fix , which is what my business really focuses on . So I hope you enjoy it .

If you know a friend who's struggling with this , please forward the episode to them because there is help out there for people who are and it literally is , was for me torture .

You just torture yourself because you've got this driving ambition but at the same time , you've got this deeply rooted feelings of self doubt , and my mission is to help women resolve that . So enjoy this episode on imposter syndrome . So enjoy this episode on

imposter syndrome . Today we're going to talk about imposter syndrome . That is a meaty topic and one that is very relevant to most women . According to a study by KPMG , 75% of high-performing executive women have reported experiencing imposter syndrome .

55% of young women report feeling they're not good enough at their job at least once or twice in the past week , and 62% of women have said that they rarely have felt confident in their career . This is an issue . It is an issue for more women than men , although some men do experience it .

I've coached a few very successful , high-performing men in very senior roles who sometimes have feelings of imposter syndrome . If you've ever felt this way in your career , you're not alone . This episode is for you . I got through about 22 years of my career before I'd even heard of imposter syndrome .

Until that day and it is a day I will never forget I believe that I was the only person who felt like I didn't know what I was doing , even though I regularly got promoted , my roles were always expanded and I loved what I did .

I just had this continual torturous voice inside my head that sometimes whispered and sometimes screamed , telling me that I was a fraud and that in about two seconds , people were going to find out . But it wasn't until I attended a writer's convention in San Diego in 2015 that I heard about it for the first time .

By that point , I was 22 years into my career and I had been suffering with this for so long and I was at a writer's convention in San Diego . Writing is one of my hobbies and in my spare time I like to write romantic comedies .

It's a nice relief from my business and corporate career , but of course you wouldn't know that because I published them under a pen name . If you ever needed proof that I've got imposter syndrome , there is a major symptom of it .

That is a big deal , because it takes a really long time to write a book from developing the characters to developing the sense of place , to developing the plot , to getting the pacing right , the dialogue , the points of view . There's a lot of craft in a story and it takes a long time to write it . And most people don't even finish a book .

But when you do unless you're a bestseller , you don't make that much money off of it . So it's a labor of love . You toil and you sweat and you put all this effort into it and then put it out into the cruel world of Amazon and the other publishing platforms . You'll have some people who are kind , but there are others who will .

Just it doesn't help with the whole imposter syndrome thing . So I did all of this work and published it under a pen name . Total imposter moment . I was at this convention and there were thousands of authors there . They had a guest speaker , as they usually do at conventions .

There was a keynote and , like any other convention , you walk into this huge ballroom and there were thousands of people sitting in groups of 10 around these round tables waiting for lunch to be served . When I'm in a situation like that , where I don't know anyone , I tend to be a tad uncomfortable and get very chatty in those moments .

So I was sitting at this table talking to these other nine writers that I didn't know . In a situation like that , I don't always pay attention to the guest speaker . It's almost like background noise . So when this woman was introduced , I vaguely registered her name as Dr Valerie Young .

She walked onto stage and , vaguely aware , she started to talk and enough of what she was saying seeped into my consciousness , even though I was talking and listening . That I'll never forget it . I stopped talking to the people sitting near me and I turned my chair . I was just fixated like a laser beam on the stage .

I remember the room had gotten really quiet . Writers notoriously agonize over their craft . They never believe they're good enough . She was the perfect person to speak to a group of thousands of mostly female writers at this convention . I remember sitting there and , as she was talking , until the moment she walked off the stage , I was just transfixed .

My mouth was probably open . I remember thinking holy crap , what is happening ? Every single word that came out of this woman's mouth was me . It was like seeing a 100% accurate diagnosis or description of a condition from a person you've never met and that you've never even told about your convention . That they just sort of magically knew what was wrong with you .

It was insane . Knew what was wrong with you . It was insane . So I , of course , immediately left the lunch , went up to my room and ordered the book on Amazon , and I remember pouring over it on the plane right back on my Kindle .

And then , just a year later , after seeing her and immersing myself in her work and reading every other book I could find on the subject , I was introduced to this cognitive-based coaching approach that I got certified in in 2016 . And that is all about gaining awareness into your patterns of thought and shifting those that don't serve you .

Cognitive behavioral therapy is

a perfect technique for someone dealing with imposter syndrome . Since I have spent the last nine years working on gaining awareness into and systematically undoing those patterns of thought and replacing them with new , more empowering and less impostery thoughts . Empowering and less impostery thoughts .

I consider this work to be the most important self-development of my life . Imposter syndrome will take an enormous toll If it goes unchecked . It did for me For 22 years of my career . Every rung up the ladder , the imposter syndrome got worse . It will steal the joy from your life completely .

It will minimize every success and keep you from fully living your life . The ripple effects of imposter syndrome will impact every part of your life , not just your career , but all of it relationships , self-care , you name it . So it's hard to think of a topic that would be more important than this .

It affects so many of us women and its impact is so profound on our life . I actually thought initially that when I started this coaching business , I would focus my business there . I did it for just a minute and then I decided , no , I don't want to focus there because imposter syndrome has a root cause , and I've decided to go deeper .

I wanted my business to be fixated on helping people build a strong self-concept , one that is about where they want to go , not where they've been , and not about the mistakes they've made or the things other people have said to them , but a self-concept that is aligned with where they're going right .

So the best way to think about it is a self-concept should never be fixed . Way to think about it is a self-concept should never be fixed . It should always be evolving in the direction that you decide to go . We are not taught this and very few of us ever do it right . The problem with imposter syndrome is that there's a cognitive dissonance .

Typically , imposter syndrome affects high achievers . When you're a high achiever , you've got something driving you forward . There's part of you that is confident enough to go after those big things that you're dreaming of and to push yourself through the discomfort that you inevitably encounter .

But at the same time , there's another part of yourself , a deeper part , that is about your default self-concept , the one that was shaped by your family of origin , by your early schooling years , by the things that have happened to you , that is telling you that you can't do it .

As someone who's lived with it for most of their career , I can tell you that it is torture to have big dreams and to achieve many of them , only to have this voice inside of you telling you that whatever you've actually achieved is a fluke and that you're a fake and a fraud . In about two seconds , everyone else is going to know it .

Imposter syndrome steals your joy , it holds you back . You say no to things that you should say yes to , and if you do say yes to a big new opportunity , but you fail at it , as we all will from time to time that voice will absolutely torture you .

And if you say yes but succeed , it'll tell you that it was all just luck , it was just a fluke , right ? If there was an imposter syndrome spectrum of zero to a hundred , I would say that at the beginning of my career , for the first eight years , I was probably a 20 .

I think we all feel a little , you know , or most of us when we're doing something new . It can feel a little intimidating . We think , oh , I don't know , am I going to be able to do this ? But it didn't really bother me , it wasn't strong enough .

But as my career really started to pick up steam and I climbed the ladder and got more and more successful , the imposter syndrome intensified to where , by the time I was sitting , you know 22 years , maybe 23 years into my career . By the time I was sitting and listening to that woman , dr Valerie Young , at that writer's convention , I don't know .

I would say I was a 90 out of a hundred , and not just in the writing area . Actually , in the writing area I was so new I didn't even know to be afraid at that point In my corporate career . It was like a raging monster . So let's talk about how imposter syndrome shows up and kind of what it feels like . Imposter syndrome is .

In the simplest of terms , it's a voice of self-doubt and criticism . It's a voice that can tell you things like you're a fake or a phony , or you got here by luck . It tells you things like everything you do has to be perfect or it's not good enough .

Interestingly , this happens to some of the most successful people , people who appear and in some ways are very confident in themselves and in their skillset and in what they do , but inside , even though they do know , intellectually speaking , that they're good at what they do , they have this old narrative playing on repeat . That's what happened to me .

I had more and more success , but because I didn't do the work on changing my inner narrative and quieting my inner critic because I hadn't evolved my self-concept . I didn't even really know what that was or that you could evolve it . I thought it was just who I was . I felt more and more exposed the higher up I went .

So from the outside in at work people around me , my boss , my peers , the people who reported to me they viewed me in one way and I would say there's one level of myself that viewed me in that same way . So I got that I was good at stuff , but from the inside out I viewed myself in a different way .

There was this push pull and it was very confusing and it will totally mess with your head . On the one hand , I was confident in the job and I looked for and craved those opportunities that came my way , and when a door would even crack open , I ran through it . So it didn't stop me from doing it , it just tortured me every second of the day .

In some of the roles I've managed budgets as large as 250 million . I've had teams as large as 26 , with another 50 or 60 that I was managing at outside agencies and dozens , if not hundreds , of people that I would work with cross-functionally inside some of these larger corporations where I was selling in my ideas to people from the C-suite on down .

I would do those things , but I constantly tortured myself while I was doing them . I had zero questions about my ability to make the right decisions and to lead those brand marketing efforts that I was responsible for and to lead the teams . I knew I could do it and I was successful at that .

There was just something off with my internal hard drive , with my brain , and sometimes the imposter syndrome would quiet down , but then an event would happen that triggered it . We would be off to the races with the push pull .

The triggering events for me were if I was asked to speak in front of a large crowd , even if I had a great case study to share or a big success , I would turn down the opportunity because I would think who am I to speak to this room full of experts ? They've all done more important things .

But the truth is the thoughts that I was thinking who am I to speak to these people ? They've all done more important things . That was just my inner narrative . Were the people in the audience accomplished ? Yes , and did they know ? A lot of things , many of which I don't know ? Yes , but did I have things to share that might've helped them ?

Yes , but I didn't believe that , and so there was literally no way that I was going to put myself on that stage , in that situation , to make that speech .

And there were times a few of them where maybe it was a smaller group , maybe at a networking event or something like that , where I would be asked to speak If I really liked the person that asked me or knew them well . Sometimes I would say , oh , you know , let me look at my calendar .

But then every single time the narrative would kick in and convince me that this was a huge mistake , that I don't need to put myself into that situation . So you might be listening to this and thinking if you're a high achiever setting big goals and achieving them , where does this imposter syndrome come from ?

According to Dr Valerie Young and many other books on the topic , it comes from early childhood topic . It comes from early childhood experience . Some things that can impact it include gender stereotypes , for women most struggle with imposter syndrome , especially for Gen X and boomer women , maybe even some millennials . I hope this is lessening for Gen Z and Gen Alpha .

I hope women won't struggle so much , but think about that for a minute . Women in the workforce is kind of new , even for older boomers .

There was a lot of traditional roles for women in the generational spectrum and you know it's just been a few decades now that it's become the norm call it a handful of decades that you know women in the workforce are there . So it's kind of wired still , especially for Gen Xers and younger boomers , into our psyche .

We've got this push pull between a traditional gender stereotype and maybe where our aspirations took us , and for those on the older end of Gen X , like I am , there aren't a lot of path pavers ahead of us For me and my family of origin . I was a first generation college graduate and a high flying corporate career was just not something my parents

instilled into me . That ambition came from me and some of the people I got exposed to and the things that I saw and the things that I just decided I wanted to do . I went and did it but I didn't have any role models or anyone who could help me and it made the journey a little overwhelming at times .

I don't know if you can relate Maybe you've had a similar experience but some other things that can trigger beyond gender stereotypes are cultural , ethnic and religious origins . So these not all , but some of them can be part of instilling things into us at an early age about the role of a woman in what our role in society should be .

It can make you feel that you're doing something wrong if you want to pursue a career outside the home or be a woman business owner . For some cultures , ethnicities or religious backgrounds that can be a challenge right . Family expectations can also play a role .

If you have parents who might have incredibly high standards , be hyper overachievers , you can get imposter syndrome . You might've had very good models for what's possible , but maybe for them nothing's ever good enough . Maybe their standard is so high you feel like you can't ever hit the mark . Standard is so high you feel like you can't ever hit the mark .

Having parents who are very protective , who don't ever really let you put yourself out there and make your own decisions , can cause you to feel like you're just not smart enough to be able to do that . So that's where the origins for imposter syndrome come from .

It's hardwired in at a very early age through familial expectations , the environments you're in , things people have said to you , things you've observed all of it gets hardwired into your brain and it becomes the not very helpful way you have of looking at yourself , whether it's through the lens of what it means to be a woman in a corporate setting , or what it

means to be your ethnic or cultural or religious origin in a corporate setting , or what it means in my case to be the third of four kids . Birth order can sometimes play into it . I was the classic middle child , the second daughter , third of four .

You can go one of two ways you can be a ne'er-do-well black sheep who's getting into trouble , or you can be like me , who is constantly trying to achieve , probably to prove your worth .

So while on the one hand , you are very confident and know that you're capable of doing the things you want to do , your unhelpful recurring patterns of thought are either holding you back or stealing your joy if you do push through the discomfort and have success . According to Dr Valerie Young , some of the symptoms of imposter syndrome are a fear of failure .

So if you're somebody that you're just not sure if you can do it , how often do you find yourself afraid to put yourself out there or not doing something because you're afraid that you might fail at it ? That is a symptom denial of your ability or pulling the rug out from under yourself because you're so afraid of what it would mean if you failed right ?

Deflecting praise is another symptom . So do people praise you and instead of thanking them , you say , oh , it was nothing . I used to do that all the time . Oh , it was just luck , or oh , I was just at the right place at the right time . Meanwhile , it was actually years of study and years of hard work that built the skills that delivered that achievement .

Another symptom is fear or guilt about success . So the more you achieve , the more you feel weird about the achievement . While you believed you could do it and you did do it , your self-concept hasn't kept pace with your upward climb . You still see yourself in the old way . You don't see yourself as the woman who's accomplished all the things .

My self-concept did not keep pace at all with the things that I achieved , so for me it was just torture and I got triggered a lot . So let's talk about the triggers , because they are a very real thing . Let's talk about what happens in our brain when we get triggered into impostery thoughts .

According to Dr Valerie Young , there are things that trigger these thoughts . Typically Dr Valerie Young . There are things that trigger these thoughts . Typically it's around new situations .

So new professional settings , the big promotion , the new title , the new level , a new academic setting , a new boss , new social situations , a spotlight situation where all the lights are shining on you Like . For me it was public speaking . It was just like it's so deeply fearful inside of me . Any and all of the above can trigger feelings of not enoughness .

You're afraid you're not good enough , but something inside keeps driving you to ever higher levels of achievement . So these patterns , it's important to know , aren't what's causing the imposter syndrome . The patterns are actually neutral . The problem is what you're telling yourself or what you're thinking about the situation .

So it wasn't really the public speaking opportunity that caused my imposter syndrome . It was what I was thinking about . The public speaking opportunity , right , that's the problem . The problem is that we think thoughts I'm a fraud . They're going to find out that I really don't know what I'm doing . Everyone else knows what they're doing except me . I'm not qualified .

I didn't deserve this promotion . I don't deserve all these accolades . I can't do it . I'm not good enough . I don't have anything smart to say . I'm not going to speak up at the meeting they're going to find out that I don't belong here or that I'm not as good as they are when we are suffering from imposter syndrome and say things like that to ourselves .

The reason the imposter syndrome feels like torture is because it causes us to feel an emotion that's on the more negative side of the spectrum , so it can range from sadness to fear , to panic , to anxiety . And the hardest part of imposter syndrome is that there's this battle going on in your head .

You've got this constant tug of war between your ambitions that are driving you forward and the tortured thoughts and feelings about what it will mean to be found out or exposed for the fraud that you believe that you are .

And when you're feeling all of these feelings of fear , anxiety , panic , stress , overthinking , really , the big way it shows up is that most of us , a lot of us , will say no to opportunities , like for me . I said no to every speaking engagement . It was just like I invented new ways to say no to those things .

But a lot of times , like me , you will say yes and you'll just push yourself hard through the discomfort . You're living with that constant state of agitation and self-torture because you're doing it and you're compelled to do it but you're telling yourself the whole time that you can't do it .

And then , even when you're done , if you fail at it , you torture yourself because you failed , or if you succeed , you dismiss the success . So there's just zero way to win in the imposter syndrome world . And the higher up you climb , the more exposed you feel , because your profile is raised inside the company and the more anxiety you have .

That starts to bleed into every other part of your life , like for me . One way it showed up is that I wouldn't take vacations like ever . I had no work-life balance for at least a couple of decades . I would work before that all the time . I remember one vacation . It was a few decades ago . It was right when my career was first starting to take off .

My ex-husband and I we did not get divorced because of my imposter syndrome or chronic overworking , but I don't think it helped . He won a thing and there was some big award ceremony and we were in Orlando at Disney World . There was a part of Disney World called Animal Kingdom which was cool . Like I really liked all the animals in their habitats .

It was cool . Like I really liked all the animals in their habitats . It was cool , but anyway , I remember walking through the park , conference call after conference call Granted , at that time I was in a very intense startup environment and the wireless space I'm not saying that I was just inventing reasons to work . It was really legitimately tough to disconnect .

Inventing reasons to work , it was really legitimately tough to disconnect , but it was insane . When I think about it now , I'm sure people were walking by me going what is she doing , my ex-husband ? I didn't say anything about it , but how rude , right ? Conference call after conference call , I just never stopped working .

I wanted to make sure that I maintained that high level of contribution so that I could prove to myself that I had earned my spot , that I deserved it . That lack of balance takes a huge toll on your life and I would isolate in other ways too . I would

put off returning calls , I would cancel vacations . There was just no room for fun . It was all work for a long time . It isn't anymore , but it was for a long time . Some people overeat , some people over drink , some people over shop , some people over Netflix .

Imposter syndrome and trying to escape those torturous feelings is where all those overconsumption behaviors come from in your personal life .

Because those thoughts are so torturous and make us feel such bad emotions like sadness , anxiety , panic , self-doubt , fear that instead of letting yourself feel all those bad emotions , we stuff them down and numb them with food and drink and shopping and TV . This is why you have all these behaviors that sometimes can confound you .

You cheat on the diet even when you don't want to . You watch TV instead of finishing the report . You overdrink the night before the big meeting . You watch the full season of Selling Sunset instead of going to the gym .

Anything that you're over-consuming doesn't serve you , Not only because it's masking the emotion that you really need to feel and process so that you can move through it , but it doesn't serve you because it creates all these other problems in your life , like overspending causes financial issues , over-reading causes weight issues , and over-drinking can cause health issues and

relationship issues . If you're still not sure that you have imposter thoughts , sure that you have imposter thoughts a good way to diagnose this is to get in touch with how you're feeling . If you're getting ready to be in or have just been in a situation where your profile is raised , a big meeting . When you're asked to speak in front of a crowd .

If you've just been promoted , if you've got a big presentation coming up , if you're getting a new job , going back to grad school , whatever it is , anything big where you feel visible , you might feel like you've been thrust into the spotlight , anything big that's come up . Ask yourself how are you feeling ?

If that makes you feel anything on the more negative side of the emotion spectrum , like fear , self-doubt , anxiety , panic , depression , you might have imposter syndrome thoughts in your head . You might be telling yourself some version of I'm not good enough . There are many different versions of that thought , but that is at the root of imposter syndrome .

I'm not good enough to do this . And so what you want to do ? If you feel like this is an issue for you and that you've got these recurring patterns of thought , it's important to know that the triggers we talked about the new job , the new academic situation , all those high profile moments are not the cause of the imposter syndrome .

The triggering event isn't the problem . It's what you're thinking about the event , because that is the root of it all in your brain and that is also your point of power . That is where you can change it . So if you feel trapped in the cycle of imposter syndrome , there are two things I want you to do .

One is short-term , or in the moment , and another is the longer term . So , for the short term , when you find yourself in a triggering situation in your daily job , I want you to practice something that we call the three C's Number one . We call the three C's Number one catch the thought .

When you're in a triggering event and you feel that negative emotion start to rise , pause and catch that thought . Just reflect for a second . You'll get better at this as you practice it . Why do you feel triggered ? Try to get in touch with a thought that flared up . Let's say , your thought is something like what if I fail ?

Maybe your boss is hinting that she thinks you're ready for a promotion , and while you feel excited about that , you feel anxiety well up , and behind that anxiety is probably a thought like what if I fail ? Right , so that's catching the thought . The second thing I want you to do is cancel the thought . Canceling is about neutralizing it .

It's about putting water on the fire and making the fire go out . So if you wanted to neutralize your failure thought , you might choose something to replace it , like I choose not to focus on negative outcomes , right ? So that's just saying we might succeed , I might fail . I'm not going to focus on the negative potential of this right .

Find a way to take that fear-based thought and just neutralize it . That's number two . Cancel it . And number three correct it . Find a new , more empowered thought to replace it . Like I'm the girl who always figures things out , or this is a great opportunity to learn something new . So the three C's catch the thought , cancel the thought and correct the thought .

That is a great tool . Now , it does require a lot of thought discipline and it can be tough the first couple of times . You try to do it in the moment . But that is a great tool to use on the job .

You have to be in touch with if you've been triggered , so you need to connect with that emotion and then quickly back into okay , I'm feeling like anxious why ? And then let that thought come . It'll be something you can get to in the moment . I can catch my thoughts instantly now , but it takes a minute to be able to do it .

It's something you can practice and that three C's thing is great . You could use it in a meeting , interaction with a peer or your boss , but it does take several tries so you can become aware of when you're feeling that negative emotion and the thought behind it and then pick a thought that'll cancel it and pick a thought that corrects it or empowers you .

So the three C's are great for in the moment kind of recalibration . It keeps you calm and focused so you don't spiral or say no to something that you want to say yes to just because you're panicked or feeling a little fear . But longer term it's going to take more than that to undo a lifetime of

imposter syndrome type thoughts that are recurring . You've got to go deeper and you need to create a new self-concept . Now . That would have been totally foreign to me even just a handful of years ago . I have always thought that how we think about ourselves is just the truth of us . But it's not true .

How you think about yourself , in a default sort of way , is really just a combination of things people have said to you , things you've observed , things you've experienced and what you've made . All of that mean it's all stored away in that hard drive of a brain . But it isn't just the truth of you .

The truth is that we have free will , we have agency over our life and we can decide who we want to be what we want to think about ourselves . That is a choice . You need to gain an awareness into how you think about yourself today and then decide where you want to go and who you have to be in order to be that person who has that thing .

Look for the Delta between where you are and where you want to go . That self-concept evolution is the work . That's what happened to me in my upward climb . I had all these things that I used to believe about myself .

I had all these things that I've achieved and accomplished through grit and hard work , but there was a ginormous Delta in between those two things .

And so that's the work that I've had to do is to evolve where I want to actually go and making sure that my self concept catches up to that , so that there is no room for imposter syndrome to live in that scenario .

Right , it gets hardwired in early childhood programming and it doesn't matter if you're 22 , 42 , 62 , 82 , you can evolve your self-concept at any age . The human experience is one where I think we're always supposed to be growing and evolving , and that means that our self-concept can't be a static thing .

It has to always be growing and evolving too , and that takes work , that takes discipline , that takes awareness . You don't want to be the person gritting it out for the rest of your career and driving yourself forward with incredible tenacity , because the imposter syndrome will only get

worse . It lives and thrives in that Delta between the way you used to see yourself when you were younger and who you've become and who you want to be in the future . There's a lot of room for imposter syndrome to get louder and louder and it will disrupt every part of your life . Take it from someone who knows there's a duality . That can happen .

There's enough confidence and desire and belief to drive you forward , but if you don't shift into a new way to think about yourself , you're going to suffer from imposter syndrome and it will only grow louder and impact more parts of your life . It can impact relationships , your health , all kinds of things . That is self-concept work .

That is the key and that's why I decided not to focus my business just on imposter syndrome . It's almost the symptom of a faulty self-concept . I want to focus on the root cause of imposter syndrome , which is a problematic self-concept , and how do you evolve that ? So this impacts so many of us and that's why I wanted to talk about it today .

I wanted to share with you a little bit about what it is where imposter syndrome comes from , the types of triggers that precipitate an event , the thoughts we have about the triggers , which are actually the real problem , and the things that those triggering events make us feel and what we do as a result .

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