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Ep 220: Five Things You Can Do to Have More Fulfillment and Meaning Everyday

Feb 23, 202543 minEp. 220
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Unlock the secret to a fulfilling career and life as we explore the transformative power of an inward journey. Ever wondered why you feel stuck in midlife despite all your achievements? This episode promises to guide you through five actionable strategies to reignite your sense of purpose and satisfaction, proving that true change starts from within and not just by switching jobs or relationships.

Our discussion takes a deep dive into the pivotal role of self-image in shaping our success. We challenge the notion of self-perception as a fixed truth and reveal how you can actively reshape your identity to align with your aspirations. By adopting a more empowering perspective, and possibly seeking professional guidance, you can forge new neural pathways that not only enhance your career but also enrich your personal relationships.

Balance is key, and nurturing passions outside of work is a crucial step toward holistic well-being. We emphasize the undeniable benefits of engaging in hobbies, from boosting happiness to staving off burnout. Hear personal stories and practical advice on overcoming the fear of judgment, so you can confidently pursue your dreams and passions alongside even the most demanding careers. Embark on this journey with us to achieve a more balanced and satisfying life.

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Finding Happiness and Fulfillment in Career

Speaker 1

This is the Purposeful Career Podcast , episode number 220 . I'm Carla Hudson , brand strategist , entrepreneur and life coach . Whether you're on the corporate or entrepreneur track , or maybe both , decades of experience has taught me that creating success happens from the inside out .

It's about having the clarity , self-confidence and unstoppable belief to go after and get everything you want . If you'll come with me , I'll show you how Well . Hello , my friend . I hope you had an amazing week .

Today , we're going to talk about something that I think is really important , especially at midlife , which is what do you do when you feel like you're in a place where you're stuck or stalled or your life is lacking happiness , meaning fulfillment ?

A lot of times , when we're in our career and we're in that phase and we feel like that , we think that it's because of our job or because of issues that might be going on at home , and so a lot of people will wallow down in the misery , and the other most frequent thing people do is try to change the thing , change the relationship , change the job .

Today , though , I wanted to offer you up something different . What if it wasn't about changing the thing ? What if it was about changing yourself ? And what were five things that you could do today , and what were five things that you could do today , no matter what the situation is , where you're not changing the situation , but you're changing yourself .

These are five things that you can do that I promise you . You don't have to do all five . Even if you just did one , it would change your life every day and how you feel about it and what you think your possibilities are , and the energy you put into it and the satisfaction that you get out of every day .

So that's really at the center of what my business is all about . I really just want people to feel great in their career and their life , and that , to me , is what a purposeful career is . It's not just about climbing the ladder . Yes , we all want to achieve the levels of success that we want , because that enables our life .

It's important and it always has been important to me . So I'm not going to lecture you on that , but what I'm going to say is that actually , a purposeful career is about so much more than that .

It's about you being at your best in your personal life and in your career , because those two things feed each other , and you being at your best is the key to the whole thing , and so when you're not feeling great , instead of looking at things outside of yourself your boss , the work culture , the things going on in your day pull your focus in and focus on

one or all of these five things , all of which you are 100% in control of , and I can promise you it will change how you feel every day in your career and your life , feeling actualized in every part of it . So enjoy this episode on five ways to find happiness and fulfillment and meaning every day and fulfillment and meaning every day .

Today we're going to talk about how to get more happiness and fulfillment and a sense of meaning in our career and our life , and it's interesting because , when I think about the people that I coach privately and in my group , what I hear a lot is that they believe a hundred percent that the things that are standing in their way at mid career and midlife are

the obligations that they have in their career , and that it's just incredibly demanding and it sucks all their time and attention .

And a lot of people believe that it's their job that's keeping them from having the sense of happiness and fulfillment , and today I want to offer up an alternative to that , because you can't change jobs all the time , and in the United States right now it's a bit more challenging to find a new job , and that can lead people to feeling stuck or trapped , and I

don't like to leave people there , because changing your mindset is not going to change the hiring environment . That's the truth . But there are many things that you can do , that you can control , that will completely reorient how you feel every day , not only at work but in the rest of your life .

So that's what we're going to talk about today , and we're going to talk about five things that get in our way , and a lot of times when we're not happy or fulfilled in our career , we think it's the work stuff that's in our way . It's too much work , it's not enough hours in the day to do it all .

It's too much hard things at work , it's too much politics , it's too much stirred up things in the culture at work . Maybe it's a boss that's challenging , and I'm not going to say that those pressures don't exist . But what is important to know is that you can't control those things .

I think we all know that , but we forget it , and so a lot of times we focus disproportionately or only on those things , and so we stay stuck and unhappy because we think there's just all of these issues pushing against us .

And today , what I want to offer you up is there are actually five things that you can do today and every day that will make you not only happier on the job and more productive and more energized and adding more value for your employer which , of course , directly impacts your progression in your career and how you're rewarded financially but it can make you so

much happier in the rest of your life , which we all want . We all want that balance , and that , to me , is a purposeful career . It's not just about being career focused . It's about having it all and striking that right balance so that the things you're doing in your personal life enable you at work and the things you do at work enable you in your life .

That , to me , is the perfect balance , and it's hard to get it right all the time , but what I want to give you today are some strategies and some perspectives that you can use to take a different approach to how you're doing things and how you're thinking about things .

If you find yourself in a season where you've just had it , where it's just difficult and hard every day and you're thinking , oh , you know , what I need is just something new , I need a new job . And yet you look at the landscape and think , oh , there's all these people laying off . It's not a great time to look .

Whether it is or isn't varies by geography and industry . But I want to just take it out of that for a minute and say , okay , if you're not totally happy and fulfilled , let's forget about a job change .

Let's look at ourselves and our perspectives and how we're approaching our life every day , inside and outside the confines of business hours , and let's think about resetting that and doing it a little bit differently , so that we can control the output of our life and how we're thinking about it , and that the emotions that we feel every day are feelings of

empowerment and passion and excitement and fulfillment . And you find that in yourself . A boss can't give you that . A good one can inspire you , but you've got to find those lasting feelings of being energized and passionate and determined and focused and feeling like you've got life by the tail . That comes from you .

Empower Your Identity for Success

So let's talk about the five things , because these are five things that are 100% in your control and if you reorient yourself around these five things . This can truly change not only how you look at your career and your current job , and even your current boss and the culture of the place and the whole thing .

It can change how you feel about the rest of your life as well . So let's go ahead and dive in . So the first thing this will be no surprise for anyone who follows this podcast or is involved in any part of my business the first thing is about your identity , your self-image . That is core to what I teach here .

So we don't just work on a positive mindset or changing how you think about things . We do work on that but at the center of it all , we get down to the nucleus , which is how are you thinking about yourself and is that serving you ?

So , for example , at mid-career , midlife , you want to see yourself in a way that doesn't limit you but instead empowers you . And that might sound great , it might sound like common sense , but here's the truth of it .

By the time we get to mid-career which in my business , I define mid-career as the time between like 39 , 40 and your early sixties , that period of time is when there's a lot of things happening in our life and we've been through a lot . So by the time you get to age 40 , post-college , you probably have 18-ish years in the corporate arena .

So you've had your experiences that have shaped the early part of your career .

And now here you are , in the middle part of your career and the culmination of all of those things that you've experienced and that people have told you about yourself good and bad and the things that you've interpreted , based on the experiences you've had , what you've made that mean about you and your potential .

It's all started to shape your self-image in the professional arena . And then we have the personal you , because it's like we're one person experiencing both our personal life and our corporate life and it's like , personally , you've got the same thing .

You're , you know , 18 , 20 years into adulthood by the time you get to your 40th birthday and you know you've experienced a lot of life . You've had relationships that have worked and not worked . You've had successes in the career arena or not .

You have your family of origin that you were born into and all the things that that has created inside you in terms of how you think about yourself . And now here you are and , if you're not careful , that default self-image .

So the net effect of all those things that got stored away in the personal life and the professional life over those 18 or 20 years or , if you're older , those additional years . It's like that can limit you . Very rarely is someone's self-image exactly aligned or fully empowering them .

That is something you have to work on , you have to decide and you do get to decide your self-image . Your self-image just isn't true and I think a lot of times we think that it's like no , this is just who I am . It's like no , that's who you are . If you , that's who you decide to be . If you choose . You can take a string of failures .

You can take a lifetime of challenged relationships or whatever the issue is that you're dealing with . You can take all of that and you can just decide that go forward . It is completely different . You can decide to see yourself in a completely new way . That takes work . That's about from a neuroscience perspective . That's about forming new neural pathways .

There are ways to go about doing that . There are purposeful ways to kind of gain awareness into the limiting thoughts you have about who you think you are in the world and identifying those gaps and deciding to think something entirely new and going about building that .

That is a very purposeful , psychologically empowered , neuroscience empowered approach to doing that , and we're not taught this in school . So we think that the way we see ourselves is just the truth of us and that either empowers us , if it's a positive thing , or screws us . We think if it's not and I'm telling you it's a choice .

It's a choice you can make today if you want to Now . This takes work and to do this depending on the issues you've had in your past . If there's trauma there , I always tell people it's best to go to a therapist who specializes in cognitive behavioral therapy or things like that .

But if it's more of a just a limiting thought base and there's no trauma in your past , it's just more about a limiting set of beliefs that you have based on either your family of origin or the experiences that you've had to date , a coach can help you with that , and that's what I do inside my business is I help people let go of the limiting parts of who

they think they are and form a very positive and proactive and empowered new way of looking at themselves and aligning their goals and interests with that and starting to pivot themselves into that new , empowered future . That is about identity shift and it's critically important . It is the foundation of everything .

If you want to lose weight , if you want a different approach to your career , if you want to jump a level or two , if you want a different type of a relationship than you've ever had in your life , it's like that starts with the relationship that you have with yourself and how you look at yourself .

All of those things are not about your boss or your spouse or anything else . It starts with you , and that is something you can control . If that's of interest to you , I do encourage you to . If that's of interest to you , I do encourage you to

Unleash Your Potential Through Passion

. If you'd like to set up some time to chat , you can go out to my Instagram at the purposeful career and click in the link in my bio and there's a link to . You can set up a free 30 minutes if you just want to talk . If you don't want to do that , there are other things that you can do inside of my business .

You can um are other things that you can do inside of my business . You can um join a masterclass Um . You can join my monthly membership and I do have um some new courses coming out that will help with this as well . So you know I'm here to help . That is what I specialize in and it will change your life if you change your self image .

So that's number one . Number two is something that might surprise you , and that is about if you are not feeling your best and most fulfilled . Sometimes that isn't actually about your job . It's about what you're doing outside of your job to feed the rest of yourself , because your job isn't your whole life .

It enables your life , it empowers your life , and I think it's a great place to become actualized . I've really enjoyed my career , but it's also very important that you're doing things outside of your career that feed your spirit , and that's different for all of us .

So number two is about if you suppress your interests and your passions , you are not going to be fulfilled in your life and it will leach in to how you think about your career .

Versus if you're somebody who has a handful or even one area of interest in something you're truly passionate about and you carve out time in your work week , during the work week , on the weekend , to pursue that . To give that some time , attention , care and feeding the emotions that you derive from that . To give that some time , attention , care and feeding .

The emotions that you derive from that , the satisfaction that you get from that will bleed positively into your career and it will change how you think about the hours between eight and five , right ? So here's some interesting things to think about .

A study in Nature Medicine found that individuals who engage in hobbies have better health , more happiness , less depression and higher life satisfaction . So that's one stat , a couple of stats from the Harvard Business Review on the subject . It highlights that people who pursue passions outside of work benefit in both career and personal life .

It makes you more creative , it helps make you a better problem solver and it makes you happier and more fulfilled in your work every day .

And lastly , a study by the Journal of Occupational and Organizational Psychology found that employees who have hobbies outside of work are more likely to experience higher levels of job satisfaction and lower levels of burnout , because hobbies provide a sense of fulfillment and relaxation and meaning , which in turn positively impacts your attitude towards your job .

So it's interesting to think about .

Like a lot of times , I think , what we think is we're in a job that's truly challenging , maybe it's a very intense period during the work , and so , instead of coming home and disconnecting to the extent that we can sometimes work bleeds in a little bit , but you know , disconnecting a bit and allowing ourselves to completely remove ourselves from the focus of the

day and get ourselves into another area of passion . We don't do that and instead we have all these other behaviors where we overeat and we overdrink to numb our feelings from the day . Eat and we over drink to numb our feelings from the day .

But if , instead of doing that , you said no , like whatever you're interested is I'm going to go to the gym tonight or I'm going to go to this pottery class or whatever it is that you're interested in and you allow yourself to do that , it completely dissolves the remnants of the difficult day because you're now focused on something intensely that you actually care

about . And when you go into work the next day , you've reset , it's a completely new day and you're attacking the day with renewed energy and passion . So I know it can sound a little tough to do during an intensive work period , but it's actually really important to not divorce yourself from the things that you actually enjoy and care about outside of work .

Your whole life can't just be about obligations and appointments and things that you have to do .

Give yourself some space in the course of your life the weekend , the weekday , whatever it is and allow yourself to have some enjoyment , experience some joy and lose yourself in those things that you're passionately engaged in or care about , because that will positively impact your career .

Like you'll go in the next day re-energized , and how you go about doing things and even thinking about how to solve some of the problems that come up during your workday . Well , it might be completely different , because you have kind of cleared the slate in your mind . You haven't stayed mired down in the problems of yesterday , you've reset .

You're pursuing your passions at night , outside of work , and you're coming in the next day fully recharged . So I know it can seem a little . I don't know how I'm going to find time for that , but I would say we'll talk about time in a minute , because that's one of the five Challenge yourself on how you think about time and how you think about your time .

That's all I'll say here , cause we're gonna talk about it later . But find some time , put it on your calendar . Like you do a meeting and pursue something you enjoy and that you really care about . And if you don't know what that is , and if you don't know what that is . Start making a list of things that you used to enjoy and , just one by one , do it .

Join a book club If you'd like to read . Join a writer's group If you like to write . You know , take a pottery class If that's always been something of interest . Take a painting class , like . Do something at some point during the week . Give yourself something to look forward to .

Thing at some point during the week , give yourself something to look forward to , and in doing so , you're honoring the things that you actually truly care about and you're allowing yourself to be more holistic in terms of a person . You're not just the career person or the bomb or the dad or the whatever . You're a whole person who is interested in all of it .

So that's number two . Number three is knowledge , and all I'm going to say about this one is most people that I have coached , of every age , across the career spectrum lots of new graduates , tons of people at midlife all say the same thing .

I don't know how , when it comes to pursuing something new or allowing themselves to try new things or experience new things , the number one thing I hear is I don't know how . And what I will say to you is . We live in an age of unprecedented availability of information . You can find out how if you don't know how .

So , and don't let the lack of knowledge about something keep you from pursuing something new , whether it's a new job or whether it's a new . You know interest outside of work . You can learn how you can allow yourself to be new at something . Allow yourself to not be the master of the thing .

And that , I think , at midlife can be a little more challenging for some of us , because we are used to having a level of competence at the things that we do and unlike , I think , earlier in our life or our career , where we're just learning it all and so we kind of give ourselves a pass on having to know how to do it .

A lot of us , by the time we get to midlife , are like oh , I don't really feel great about being a beginner again , and I would challenge that . I would say , first of all , if you don't know how to do something , great , read a book , take a course , just dive in , you know and start learning , like that's how you do it with anything .

But I would also say , when it comes to not knowing how you feel about trying something new or , you know , allowing yourself to not be good at something new . I would actually challenge you that , instead of it feeling bad , I actually think it reignites your passion .

There's something about trying something you've never done before that brings you back to those emotions and the feelings about yourself that you had earlier on in your life .

I actually think it's a , if you feel like you're lacking inspiration or motivation , picking something new to do and just diving in and allowing yourself to not be good at it but to start to learn , it is a huge way to press the reset button on feelings of , you know , inspiration Like you can literally recharge your battery by trying something new .

So , instead of draining you and feeling hard , if you let it just be about , hey , this is totally fine , that I might even sort of suck at it for a while . Great , you're new . You don't have to master that thing yet . You can master it over time .

And that journey from being a beginner to becoming great at something that's the journey you went on so many times earlier on in your life and I think it's a really great way if you're feeling a little stalled , a little stuck , a little beleaguered about life , trying something new and allowing yourself to not be good at it is a really great way to find your

passion again . So you know , whatever it is and it doesn't have to be something earth shattering it can be learning how to knit . It can be learning how to design clothing , if that's what you're interested in . It could be learning how to uh , you know , if that's what you're interested in .

It could be learning how to uh , you know , do things around the house . I have a friend who can do anything she can . She can , like , use electric saws and , like you know , put things together . I'd cut off a finger if I was doing that , like I can't do that , but it can be anything that's of interest to you .

Learn how to cook , learn a new language , it doesn't matter what it is to you . Learn how to cook , learn a new language , it doesn't matter what it is . Dive in and find a renewed passion and inspiration , because you will . That's number three . Number four this is a oldie but a goodie .

Letting how other people might think about you stop you from doing something that you want to do , so other people's opinions , that is .

The OG of problems in midlife is that we don't allow ourselves to pursue things because we're very concerned about what the people in our personal life or what the people in our professional life are going to think about us doing this new thing or putting ourselves out in the world or trying something new that we've never really done before .

And I just want to share a couple of stats here . One is from the American Psychology Association that says over 60% of people report that they often worry about how others perceive them . And the other piece of research I found is from something called talker research , and this is sort of the other side of it .

As you age , 35% of Americans regret not pursuing their dreams because they were concerned about what other people might think about them .

So here's the truth of that , and I will refer you to a really great book that I'm halfway through if this is a problem for you and I will say this has been a problem for me , so I'll give you a couple examples here in a minute but allowing what you think people will think , or even if they do say mean judgmental things , and to allow that to keep you

from doing something that you want to do , is pointless , because the truth of the matter is people are going to have an opinion no matter what you do , whether you do it or you don't do it , they're going to have an opinion and I would challenge you to keep reminding yourself that it actually doesn't matter . Let them have the opinion .

And this is the book I'll refer you to . If you haven't already read it , I would encourage you to pick up the book Let them by Mel Robbins .

Fear and Time Management Overcoming

I got exposed to it on the Oprah podcast . She actually interviewed her and Oprah was saying she thinks it's the issue of our time , like everything , because of social .

Everything is so transparent and people are so conscious about putting out this curated image of themselves into the world and so concerned about the judgment of others that they might get reflected back to them .

And the truth of the matter is people are going to judge and , yes , it is a social world and people are going to see and people are going to say what are you doing ? And the truth of the matter is they're going to say that anyway , whether you do or you don't do it . So what would you rather have ?

Would you rather pursue your passions and let people say what is she doing , or would you rather not pursue passions and still have people judge you ? I would rather pursue my passions right , and I'll give you an example , because this business is an example of that for me . I have wanted to do this business for a very long time .

I've never actually shared this before , but the first time I actually thought about doing a business like this was a very long time ago . It was 20 , I think it was 2011 . So it was 14 years ago .

Not necessarily like the coaching thing , but just taking everything I'd learned in my career and like trying to kind of just package that up into solutions and stuff that other people could find and make their way easier . It's just been something I've wanted to do for a very long time .

I did not do anything with it Zero , zero until 2019 , when I actually formed the purposeful career , and , if I'm being very honest with you , it's really only been in the last two years that I've really started to put myself out there , and this year will be the big year that I actually break out .

And the reason why it took me five years I think it was five years is because I kept thinking what are people in my corporate career going to think ? Because I'm very in it . I'm very in my corporate career and it is where I spend most of my time . It is these two things . Don't bleed .

I do this on the weekends and in a very structured way at night , and so it's a balance that I strike , and my career is not easy . It's demanding and it's very fast paced . It's in the entertainment business , so we're launching two or three movies a weekend and it's a relentless pace .

And I was concerned that people would either think I wasn't as committed to my career as I am and or I was also equally concerned with people saying she's like a brand person , like why is she talking about this other stuff ? Like why who does she think she is ? You know , like be doing talking about mindset and other stuff .

And so I just kept getting credential after credential so I could prove to myself that I was qualified to talk about it , when , in actuality , I have the credentials of my career as well that entitle me to give these kinds of advice and perspective .

I started in a very unusual way , as I've shared on this podcast , and it's like I didn't come from an entitled family and I didn't have anyone opening doors for me or even able to give me advice . Like all of this journey has been my journey and I'm like a first generation person who has gone to college .

So you know , I didn't grow up with a silver spoon in my mouth and I didn't know what I was doing and I worked really hard to get here .

And I guess what I'm telling you is that , even with that like and I am very passionate about helping people have a better career and a better life and just trying to share things that I've either learned in my certifications or things that I've learned , you know , as I've climbed the ladder myself um , it took a long time to convince myself , to give myself

permission to actually do it and to put myself out there because I was concerned about what people would think . And now I really don't care .

Like , I know why I'm doing it and you know , if I go back to number two on , like passions and hobbies , this is that for me , this is time where , when I do this and I'm giving to you guys or anyone out there who needs , is having a bad day and needs a perspective reset , that charges me , that's meaningful to me and it makes me better on my job during

the day and it's a demanding pace , you know . It makes me a better problem solver , like even this business uh , doing it myself , cause it's it's very bootstrappy . I can build a website . Now I I've taught myself how to work with email . You know service platforms , like in my corporate job I have other people that do that stuff .

I don't do that , but it's like I do brand strategy , which sort of sits at the top of the pyramid and it's really strategically directing things . But here I do all of it . I'm the copywriter , I'm the advertising person , I'm in the business manager buying the ads , I'm writing the emails like it is me and that has made me a better marketer .

So all I'm telling you is don't let what anyone else thinks about you stop you from doing something that you care about , because they're going to judge you anyway . It doesn't matter . Like I get , it feels icky . You don't . Nobody wants people to be looking at them thinking who does she think she is ?

But the truth of the matter is they're probably going to think that anyway , no matter what you do like you go on the big vacation , who does she think she is ? You , you know , show a picture of yourself and your significant other out on a romantic night . It's like there's jealousy there , like it's the world we live in .

So I'm just telling you , no matter how small you try to make yourself or how much you try to shrink yourself down , other people are going to judge you . So just let them get the Mel Robbins book , read it .

It's very free to just , and not from an ugly place , but just to say you know what , let them judge me , it's totally fine , doesn't matter , you know I'm going to do what I'm going to do and that fuels me and I know why I'm doing it and that will set you free .

And you do not want to be that person who kills your own dreams because you're worried whether people will think it's not worth it , because they're going to think it anyway . And the last one is number five time . This is a good one .

So 48% of Americans feel that they are too busy with work and other obligations to pursue anything new or interesting in the rest of their life . And I am here to tell you I've talked about time a lot on this podcast . The truth of the matter is this I don't have enough time .

I get we're all busy and I get if you've got kids and a career and a spouse and you know parents I had the aging parent thing and , um , you know , taking care of them Like I get . I get that there's very real time pressures . I'm not saying it's all in your head . What I am saying , though , is you need to carve out time to give to yourself .

That is just as important a slice of the time pie as what you do at work , what you do to take care of your spouse , what you do to take care of your kids all of it . You are equally important . You deserve a slice of that pie .

How you fill that slice is up to you , but it should include things like taking care of yourself , feeding yourself well , clothing yourself while putting yourself together , and so you project to the world the image you want to convey . Finding a little time for interest and passions , and finding some time for friends . That's a lot , but you have a lot of time .

We all do . We just don't always spend it as wisely . And listen , I'm right there with you .

Like I've told you before , there are times when I'm like , oh , I can't possibly go to the gym tonight because I don't have enough time , and yet I will somehow magically , on that same evening , find an hour and a half to watch , you know , the Real Housewives or Selling Sunset or something ridiculous on Netflix . So you know , I get it .

There's something nice sometimes and that can be a form of self-care , like losing yourself in an enjoyable show . I'm not saying you should never do that , but I'm just saying make sure you're filling your time with the things that you care about . That's the key .

So I think a lot of times we don't use our time well because by the time we get through the obligations that are scheduled and we haven't scheduled ourself in , it's like we're so exhausted that it's about the glass of wine and the selling sunset thing , which isn't the end of the world but it's like if you're doing that all the time instead of actually pursuing

some other things you're interested in , that's not living the fullest life that you could . And so those are the things that I wanted to share . The perspective , so number one just to go through them again is about your self-image .

How you look at yourself and how you think about yourself matters to what you allow yourself to go and do in your life , and that is up to you . That isn't just the truth of you . How you see yourself . It's a choice and you can change it If you're not happy with where you're at or if you're not happy with how you see yourself .

You can change that and I can help you . Number two if you suppress your interests and passions and you don't allow yourself to pursue them , you are missing out on a significant source of joy in your life , and I would challenge you to take that time , pie , and put something in it and allow yourself some time every week .

It doesn't have to be a ton of time . An hour or two that you're giving truly just to yourself . That's not selfish , that's actually incredibly important , especially midlife when you have all these things pressing on you . Number three knowledge . Do not let your lack of knowing how to do something keep you from doing the thing .

Allow yourself to be bad at something new , allow yourself to begin again . That is a great way to recharge your battery and to honestly develop new confidence in yourself , to realize you can learn something new at any age , and it is a great way to stay passionate about life . So that's number three knowledge . Number four other people's opinions .

Other people will always have opinions about you . You will probably usually not like those opinions and you can just let them have their opinions . It doesn't matter , and this is very important to cultivate as a mindset , not from a negative or hateful perspective , but just they're going to have the opinion . There's nothing you can do about it .

You're just going to have to deal with it and allow them to have the opinion and just do the thing anyway . Doesn't matter what they think about you that's number four and number five is time . What they think about you , that's number four and number five is time . We all have a set amount of time . Make sure you're scheduled into it .

You get a slice of that pie too . It isn't just about your obligations . So those are the five things and five perspectives . You are 100% in control of all of them , and that , I hope , feels empowering . There's something you can do today , no matter how miserable you feel , and it does not involve changing your job , changing your spouse or anything else .

You can literally change how you approach these five things and completely change how you think about where you're at in your life and how you feel about that , and when you change that , what you give to your life and the others around you and to your career really explodes with possibility . So that is what I wanted to leave you with today .

I hope you enjoyed the episode and wishing you a very great week . Do you have a life coach ? If not , I'd be so honored to be your coach . I've created a virtual coaching program and monthly membership called Next Level . Inside we take the material you hear on this podcast , study it and then apply it . Join me at the purposefulcareercom backslash next level .

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