The Problem With Perfect - podcast cover

The Problem With Perfect

Robin May and Denise Bickelrobinmayministries.com
If perfection is an illusion, why are so many of us chasing it? We live in a world that is constantly telling us we need to be it all and have it all to be worthy. It leads us to hide our imperfections and overcompensate our strengths - and leaves us exhausted. Join hosts Robin May and Denise Bickel for meaningful, cross-generational conversations that will leave you uplifted and encouraged about a future freed from the problem with perfect.
Last refreshed:
Follow this podcast in the Metacast mobile app to refresh it and see new episodes.
Download Metacast podcast app
Podcasts are better in Metacast mobile app
Don't just listen to podcasts. Learn from them with transcripts, summaries, and chapters for every episode. Skim, search, and bookmark insights. Learn more

Episodes

Rethinking Health and Fitness to Reclaim Our Aging Bodies With Ruthie Massman

Aging gracefully is an art- as our emotional, physical, and nutritional needs change significantly. Social media tells us we need products and procedures to remain vibrant and youthful. Today's guest, Ruthie Massman, is a fitness trainer and wellness coach who takes a more holistic approach, “I think it’s worth reframing how we think about aging. Aging doesn’t mean you’re losing your power – it means you’re gaining a chance to own it in a new way.” Hormonal shifts, metabolism changes, and weight...

Jan 21, 202543 minSeason 6Ep. 269

Trusting God's Purpose In Our Work With Tracy Smith

Many of us hoped the new year would bring a renewed passion and enthusiasm for our work. Maybe it did, and maybe it didn’t. Maybe some of us are still looking for inspiration to keep trusting that we’re on the right path. Tracy Smith’s story might be just what we need. When God called Tracy Smith, the owner of Long Row Lavender, to step out in faith, she answered. in doing so, Tracy and her family went from growing lavender and selling it on five days at a local farmer’s market to a multi-facete...

Jan 14, 202545 minSeason 6Ep. 268

From Reflection to Intention: Your 2025 Word Journey

As we step into a new year, we’re taking a moment to reflect on the highs and lows of 2024, sharing the lessons learned and how our guiding word shaped our journey. In this special episode, we’ll look back at how well we lived out our word for 2024, then turn our focus to the fresh start that 2025 offers. Join us as we reveal our new words for the year, explore why they resonates with us, and discuss how they are shaping our hopes and intentions moving forward. This isn’t just about setting reso...

Jan 07, 202552 minSeason 6Ep. 267

365 Days of Gratitude: How One Person's Journey Can Inspire Yours With Special Guest Lisa Kent

As 2024 ends, we are excited to bring you a truly inspiring story. Today’s guest, Lisa Kent, has embarked on a year-long journey, sharing a daily post of gratitude every single day in 2024. Each day, she shares a couple of sentences and a photo to show what she’s thankful for, and it’s all shared publicly on social media. We’ll dive into what inspired her to start this journey, why she chose to make it public, and what unexpected lessons and blessings she’s discovered along the way. To know Lisa...

Dec 17, 202458 minSeason 6Ep. 266

Menopause: Breaking The Silence (Part 2) With Dr. Stephanie Womack

In this must-listen episode of The Problem With Perfect , we’re joined by Dr. Stephanie Womack, a seasoned obstetric gynecologist with 25 years of experience, to demystify the options available for managing menopause symptoms. Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) is often at the center of the conversation about menopause, but how do you know if it’s right for you? What are the risks, and are there alternatives? Dr. Wommack breaks it all down, offering expert insights into the benefits and potential...

Dec 10, 202451 minSeason 6Ep. 265

Menopause: Breaking The Silence (Part 1)

Menopause is a universal female experience, yet it remains one of the least discussed and most misunderstood phases of life. In this episode of The Problem With Perfect , we take a deep dive into why menopause has been ignored by medical research and society, leaving countless women unprepared and unsupported. We’ll explore the common—and not so common—symptoms that women face and discuss the cultural and systemic reasons behind the silence. Whether you’re experiencing menopause, preparing for i...

Dec 03, 202451 minSeason 6Ep. 264

Gift-Giving Made Easy: How To Increase Our Joy and Decrease Our Stress

It’s easy to get wrapped up in the hustle and bustle of the holidays and to lose touch with the reason for the season. Although the gift-giving possibilities are endless, the most cherished gift is often time spent with loved ones and friends. Memories last a lifetime; batteries wear out and Barbies go bald. In this episode, with Christmas approaching, we discuss alternatives that don't break the bank yet give the gift of togetherness. Reminisce, look at photo albums, invite your family to bake ...

Nov 26, 202447 minSeason 6Ep. 263

Where Did Time Go: How To Cherish Holidays Past and Present

The holidays are often the perfect time to reflect and reminisce. When was the last time you thought about your childhood and the traditions your family celebrated? What about the memories you’ve made with your children and grandchildren? Although holidays can be stressful, they can also be the perfect time to draw near to each other with love and appreciation. As we travel through the passages of time, it’s not unusual to reflect on memories of when the holidays were met with joy and anticipati...

Nov 19, 202446 minSeason 6Ep. 262

Holiday Harmony: How To Set Boundaries (And Keep Them!)

The holidays are meant to be a time of family and fellowship. When we remember the Reason for the Season, we may be motivated to pause, reflect, and cherish our time with family and friends. Or, we may feel anxious and exhausted. Both may be true. When you see a commercial reminding us the holidays are upon us, do you celebrate or cringe? The holidays are often a dichotomy of feelings. We love family time (or not), we enjoy finding the perfect gift for our loved ones (or not), and we cherish eve...

Nov 12, 202458 minSeason 6Ep. 261

The One Thing We Can All Do To Shape The Rest of 2024

As we step into November, gratitude is at the heart of the season—but why does it matter so much? In this episode, we explore the science and significance of gratitude in transforming our mental health, relationships, and even our work lives. Join us as we dive into research-based insights, including how gratitude can reduce anxiety, boost resilience, and strengthen connections with those around us. We’ll also share practical, simple ways to foster gratitude daily, even during challenging times....

Nov 05, 202443 minSeason 6Ep. 260

How To Deal With Anxiety Around The Upcoming Election

The Bible tells us, “Let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings…” James 4:8. If there was ever a time when prayer and faith were needed, it’s now. For the 73% of Americans who are experiencing election anxiety and stress, prayer can offer a sense of control and empowerment. Most of all, prayer can bring peace to our lives and the world. We’ve heard that many churches are planning to open their doors on Nov. 5 to encourage prayer for our country. No...

Oct 29, 202430 minSeason 6Ep. 259

Does God Get the Best of You or What’s Left of You?

We live in a hurried world. The modern conveniences that are touted to "save time’" are keeping us busier than ever. We over-schedule, over-commit, and end each day exhausted and already focused on the demands of tomorrow. Quite often, it is our relationships with God and our family that suffer the absence of our time and attention. Do you spend time each day praying, reading the Bible, journaling? Is family time devoted to spending time in communion with each other? Are we setting examples we h...

Oct 22, 202448 minSeason 6Ep. 258

Turning Dreams Into Reality: Behind the Writing of The Flower Sisters with Michelle Collins Anderson.

Today’s episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about the creative process or determined to turn their dreams into reality. We’re sitting down with Michelle Collins Anderson, author of The Flower Sisters , a captivating novel that’s been making waves since its release earlier this year. In our conversation, Michelle opens up about the journey of turning a dream into reality—what it really takes to write this historical fiction novel, face rejection, and push through the challenges to see her...

Oct 15, 202451 minSeason 6Ep. 257

Season Six Premiere: How to Revolutionize Your Life With AI

We are excited to kick off season six of The Problem With Perfect with a very special episode featuring none other than the podcast's original cohost, Rachel Keller! Now a marketing expert and AI enthusiast, Rachel joins us as we dive deep into how AI is reshaping both our personal and professional lives. In this thought-provoking conversation, we explore everything from AI’s role in combating the loneliness epidemic to how it can give you a competitive edge at work. Whether you’re curious about...

Oct 08, 202442 minSeason 6Ep. 256

Sorry, Not Sorry: Mastering the Art of Authentic Apologies

Apologies are tricky. Even when we want to make amends, we can often make the situation worse by what we say (or don’t say), and how we say it. It takes humility and honesty to admit we are wrong and to apologize well. Although a simple, “I’m sorry” is better than not saying anything at all, there are better ways to acknowledge our mistakes. Quite often, an apology is made without an explanation or recognition of the other person’s experience. Did they feel abandoned, less than, or disrespected?...

Oct 01, 202437 minSeason 5Ep. 255

The Anxious Generation: Unpacking Mental Health in a Digital Age

Today we’re tackling a topic that’s more urgent than ever: the rising tide of anxiety and depression among Gen Z. In a world where social media, smartphones, and video games dominate their lives, young people are grappling with an alarming increase in mental health issues, leading to profound questions about what it means to live a fulfilling life. In this episode, we dive deep into Jonathan Haidt’s compelling book, The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidem...

Sep 24, 20241 hr 1 minSeason 5Ep. 254

Digital Detox: How to Overcome Our Smartphone and Social Media Addiction

Today we’re diving into a topic that touches nearly everyone’s lives: the time we spend on social media and our smartphones. In this episode, we explore how the hours we spend scrolling, liking, and tweeting are not just fleeting moments but can be significant in shaping our daily lives and overall well-being. We’ll start by breaking down the problem—why social media and smartphone usage have become such dominant forces in our lives and the subtle ways they might be undermining our productivity,...

Sep 17, 202449 minSeason 5Ep. 253

Why Christians Can't Keep Ignoring The Pornography Problem (With Special Guest & Pastor Justin Garrett)

Although most parents would like to think their tweens, teens, and adult-ish kids would not view or access pornographic material, the statistics tell us differently. And while none of us want to talk about it, many of our spouses are doing the same. As school commences and our teens and young adults enjoy greater freedom than ever before, how can we encourage healthy, meaningful conversations about the dangers of pornography and its addictive consequences? And how can we have similar tough conve...

Sep 10, 202446 minSeason 5Ep. 252

Are You THAT Parent: What are Lawnmower Parents and Is that YOU?

School days are upon us. The backpacks have been purchased and stocked. Lunch boxes have been prepared and a new pair of shoes await by the door. Hopefully, we’ve done everything we can to ensure a successful start to the school year. It can feel daunting to send our children out into the world without our guidance. We may have provided them with all the material tools, but what about instilling confidence and self-esteem? Can they handle feedback, correction, and consequences? Research on paren...

Sep 03, 202441 minSeason 5Ep. 251

Celebrating Life and Supporting New Parents With Special Guests Kyle and Maddie Wolf

Welcoming a new baby to the family is a precious experience. It can also be a time of uncertainty, questioning, sleep deprivation, and unexplained emotions. Our guests, Maddie and Kyle Wolf, join us today to share their experiences as first-time parents of Baby Luka (aka Robin’s granddaughter). What do new moms and dads need? Which is best, breastfeeding or bottle? How can family and friends help? Our guests are quick to point out that everyone’s experience, and baby, is different. Maddie wisely...

Aug 27, 202443 minSeason 5Ep. 250

Unpacking The Pornography Problem We'd Like to Ignore

As a new school year approaches, children, teens, and young adults will encounter a plethora of choices and challenging decisions. With the widespread availability of cell phones and computers, accessing online content, including inappropriate material, is easier than ever. So, how can we protect our children of all ages from harmful materials that can affect their well-being and future relationships? While an addiction to explicit content is not a medical diagnosis, many would cite the negative...

Aug 20, 202439 minSeason 5Ep. 249

Are You The Neighbor God Calls You To Be With Special Guests Chris and Elizabeth McKinney

"Who are the people in your neighborhood?" Those of a certain age will remember Mr. Rogers singing that ditty. Once upon a time, we celebrated with our neighbors, borrowed a cup of sugar from the folks next door, and probably worshiped with some of them every Sunday. Busy schedules, a desire for privacy, or the simple fact that decks on the back of the house have replaced sitting on the front porch, have significantly impacted how we interact with those who live nearby. In today’s world, althoug...

Aug 13, 202455 minSeason 5Ep. 248

How To Set Students Up For Success With Judi Schoonover

Do you remember your first day of school? Regardless of one’s academic status, be it kindergarten, middle school, senior year, or a freshman moving into the dorms, the first day of school is a milestone moment. Quite often, more tears are shed by parents than pupils. There’s just something about witnessing your child embark on a journey independent of you that creates a little (or big) tug at the heart. As the first day of school quickly approaches, we turn to an expert educator for advice on pr...

Aug 06, 202435 minSeason 5Ep. 247

What Does It Look Like to Love The Least of These: A Personal Story of Heartache & Redemption (Part 3)

Mistakes are made every day. Some require a simple, "I’m sorry." Others may result in lengthy conversations and a restructuring of the issue. And then there are mistakes that change a person’s life forever. Robin’s brother, Buddy, made that kind of mistake. Truth be told, we’ve all made mistakes. The hope with every error is that we learn from it and do not repeat it. It is not our job to judge, there are Courts and Commandments that render judgement. Maybe our role is to accept people for who t...

Jul 30, 202455 minSeason 5Ep. 246

What Does It Look Like to Love The Least of These: A Personal Story of Heartache & Redemption (Part 2)

“In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you.” Andrea Dykstra Our guest is a man of faith, a proud Marine, a loving husband, and a devoted father, son, brother, and friend. At the tender age of 22, he was charged with a crime that shaped his life forever. For the next 13 years, he would be incarcerated, making restitution, addressing the alcohol addiction he had nurtured since he was 14 years old, and becoming a spirit-filled, faithful follower of Christ. The Bi...

Jul 23, 202459 minSeason 5Ep. 245

What Does It Look Like to Love The Least of These: A Personal Story Of Heartache & Redemption (Part 1)

We hear them on the daily: When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Turn that frown upside down. Just stay positive. Those adages may be helpful for some of life’s challenges, but what happens when a devastating life event brings pain and suffering? How do we continue to find hope and strength in the face of unimaginable hardship? This month’s series includes Robin’s insight into one of life’s most difficult experiences. Insight into the criminal justice system, restitution, and forgiveness. I...

Jul 16, 202449 minSeason 5Ep. 244

How To Be More Patient In An Impatient World

We live in troubled times. We are surrounded by demands, expectations, and frustrations. So often, the squeaky wheel gets the attention, not the gracious individual holding the door for us. Some might say we’ve become a culture of impatience, and many might agree. Impatience is easy to identify. We become irritable; we let anger and resentment surface; we may even articulate a few expletives just to further demonstrate our dissatisfaction. We’ve all seen impatience in action. Patience, on the ot...

Jul 09, 202451 minSeason 5Ep. 243

Are You Missing Out On This Easy Way To Enjoy Life

Imagine an inexpensive pastime that improves your mental and physical health and cognitive function. Welcome to the world of birdwatching. If you are a birdwatcher, you are in good company. Birdwatching is quickly becoming a national pastime. According to the 2022 National Survey of Fishing, Hunting and Wildlife, 57% of the US population 16 and older reported wildlife watching in 2022. Birdwatching ranks up there with 50% of US adults who follow baseball, and 41% of US adults who say football is...

Jul 02, 202440 minSeason 5Ep. 242

Are You Ready to Come Out of Hiding With Special Guest Dr. Merry Lin

Dr, Merry Lin says that the cultural clarion call to be your authentic self isn’t inherently wrong. The methodology is. While the popular world will tell you to “live your truth” and “trust your gut,” she argues that neither strategy brings you into contact with your essential, God-given identity. In this episode, Dr. Lin, author of R ebecoming: Coming Out of Hiding to Live as Your God-Given Essential Self (Baker Books, July 2024) discusses the hard-won, honest truths of how we can live authenti...

Jun 25, 202450 minSeason 5Ep. 241

Looking Back And Looking Ahead With Special Guest Tom May

Most of us agree that we can all use the wisdom of those who have gone before us. Whether it's a new career, a big life decision, or a transition to the "next" phase of life - some sage advice can go a long way. In this special episode, we surprise Tom May, Robin's husband and co-host for the episode, with words of wisdom from those who are seasoned veterans of grandfathering. On the precipice of becoming a grandparent, Tom unpacks the advice he's given and how he thinks it will help him move fo...

Jun 18, 202438 minSeason 5Ep. 240
Hosted on Buzzsprout
For the best experience, listen in Metacast app for iOS or Android