Breakups 101

Hello you guys and welcome back to The Priestess Perspective. I wish you guys could see my little pepper over here sitting with me. Holy shit, this episode is going to be intense, insane. I don't know if you guys feel the energy shift that's going on right now in the universe ever since this past solar eclipse, but it is incredible. It is...

genuinely like a once in a lifetime sort of transformation. And I know it is impacting literally everyone because every single one of my friends is going through one of the greatest transformations of their entire lives right now. And I'm so excited to dive into today's episode.

And I myself am going through a very big transition right now. I'm going through a breakup and I'm going to be very vulnerable in this episode. I'm just speaking to my personal experience and I'm really making this episode. Honestly, not for me at all. I really honestly didn't know if I wanted to talk about this. I'm making this episode for past me and for really incredible women who deserve more.

who deserve their entire life that they've ever dreamed of. I'm just setting the intention that if this episode found you, it's for you. And I promise you there are messages in this episode that you are meant to hear. And so... Put on your AirPods, put on your sneakers, go on a hawk girl walk, get in your car, do your little Trader Joe's run, get ready for an episode that is about to change your life. I'm so excited for today's episode.

And I'm not even going to edit this episode because honestly, I just want to go pure stream of consciousness and start by saying that I ended a relationship that was the best relationship I've ever had. All of my friends look to my relationship and we're like, wow, your, you know, your ex now, he's my ex, your ex like set the bar for what I expect from men.

what I expect from a relationship. Like your ex really set the standard for the type of man I want to call into my life. And when I tell you I had the most beautiful relationship in the world I really did I had the type of relationship that at the time I was dreaming of I literally wrote down

you know, how this man would treat me. And he came into my life and I was like, Oh my God, this is such a manifestation. And it really was my, my cat pepper is like staring. Like she's scared. I'm like, what are you scared of girl? Um, what's that pepper? Come here.

And I think one of the hardest things to go through in life that I also think... genuinely destroys people's lives. Like I think it's one of the.

curses towards people's um destinies like i think this genuinely fucks people's destinies up is the sunk cost fallacy i also like to call it the golden handcuffs where People are in a situation, whether it's a job, a relationship, you know, a family situation, what have you, any sort of situation, maybe the city you live in where it's good enough, but it's not. exactly what you are hoping for and it's it's almost a curse that it's good it's a curse that it's comfortable because true action

And true action towards your destiny, towards your heart and soul's deepest desires really honestly only happens when we're at rock bottom. Like, I don't know if you've noticed, but the true...

Needle moving things that have ever happened in your life have always usually come as the result of being at rock bottom. And I actually like I live I don't know about you guys. I live my life in extremes. And I think that's the kind of people that I. call into my world my life my friendships I actually really struggle to be friends with people or date people who don't live their life in extremes because my life is like a fluctuation of like hitting rock bottom and sky you know uh is uh and

what the fuck is the word I'm looking for? And, you know, taking off to the fucking moon, like it's like one or the other. And I rarely live in this in between comfortable state because. it stagnates my growth and my potential. And I personally love to live in these extremes. And I attribute a lot of that actually to my ADHD and the fact that like. This is just how my life is. And at least in my 20s, I hope that is how I'm living my life, right? Let me sip my Diet Coke. Sorry.

What pepper? Is that a, uh, uh, whatever you call it? Um, anyways, I live my life in extremes and I absolutely love that. Where was I going with this? Oh yes. And I think a lot of times people look at being on, you know, at rock bottom and they're like,

you know, they view it as a curse. They view it as a very painful moment. They view it as like, fuck this. You know, this fucking sucks. And I actually look at rock bottom and I genuinely am always so grateful. Like if you are, if you recently hit rock bottom, I want you to be so.

grateful that you are in that position because it is going to skyrocket you to the fucking moon um genuinely genuinely and the biggest curse that people could ever have in their life i believe is comfort is like this stagnating comfort that is so unsettling that you feel like there's more to life. You feel like and know that there's more out there and you're just...

And you don't want to sacrifice comfort in pursuit of something potentially greater. It is so much easier to sacrifice something toxic, something terrible. sacrifice someone who cheats on you in pursuit of something greater because you're not losing much and I think about my weight loss journey I think about even you know people like some of my friends who've had to leave jobs it's like wow it's so easy to you know go all in to take these risks takes

take these chances when there's nothing to lose because you're already at rock bottom, right? And, you know, and even if there is something to lose, it's such a minuscule thing in comparison to the golden handcuffs, which is being in a handcuffing situation where you can't quite leave.

because it's so good right and so um yeah when I tell you that I was like genuinely in the most healthy loving princess treatment relationship ever like I mean it. I was so in love and it was an incredible experience. Like I literally have nothing bad to say. And I also don't want to walk on, you know, I want to walk on some eggshells here because I don't want to like say any details at all. You know, cause obviously I want to respect.

everyone's privacy but um but intuitively in my heart I knew that there was something else out there Like, and I couldn't, it's not even necessarily that there was another man out there for me. It was just like, I knew I needed to let go of this connection and that's like as much. detail as I want to give, you know, in terms of this connection. I literally just listened to my intuition that knew.

that I needed to literally like be a butterfly and fly on my own and discover what else, like where the universe would call me. You know, I will say generally speaking, even though I was in this incredible relationship and all the things and even though like obviously my intuition knew that I wasn't like meant to stay here forever.

I will say like my life started to stagnate in a lot of areas of life and feel very unsettling in the sense of how still and stagnant it was. And there's a difference between. comfort, stability, and stagnation in a very healthy and fulfilling way. Because, you know, I think a lot of us, if we come from toxic environments, right, we crave that extreme and that toxicity because it feels familiar. There's a difference between that and an unsettling.

discomfort in comfort because you know there's something else. There's more. There's ascension. There's... a version of you on the moon that has yet to be discovered. I think that's what I knew was out there. And I knew I wouldn't reach that in the relationship that I was in at the time.

And a lot of people actually ask me like for breakup tips. In fact, like honestly, you guys, every single time someone like notices me on the street or recognizes me, it's always someone. I always ask them like, how'd you find me? Like, when'd you find me? And they always say, I found you.

when I was going through a breakup by the way DM me on Instagram and let me know when like at what point of your life or like how like what was the first video that you saw of me maybe it was the podcast we've actually had a good amount of people recently find me from the podcast but You know, I...

really struggle with breakups normally because i am a pisces venus i'm a scorpio mars i'm literally all in on everything in my life i always say like everything you do is a reflection of you from the way you freaking scrub your toilets to the way you take care of your cat to the way you show up in your career, all the little things you do reflect who you are as a human being. And I think like love is just another, um,

you know, level of that in my life. Like I, if I'm going to date someone, if I'm going to love someone, if I'm, you know, giving that much of my energy to someone, I'm going to go all in and I'm absolutely a lover girl, like at heart. Um, I'm such a lover girl and I love love. I mean, I was a Pisces Venus. How could I not? And so I do give all in. And so breakups are very, very difficult for me because, you know, I give up so much of myself and I.

I connect very deeply to people and I like swap souls with people, you know, and I, you know, the vibes, you already know what I mean. Um, and so. Breakups can be very difficult for me. Not that I've gone through that many, but I'm talking as if I've been through like five breakups. They're very hard. And my first breakup ever, I've only had two others besides this one. And the second one was like.

not even that fucking real i'm gonna be honest i was like a short-ass relationship but um my first breakup ever i literally took me two years to get over that relationship until i finally was like wow i've gone a day without thinking about this person like that's how deep I fall in love and so um when I say it's not easy I really do mean it is not easy for me um and I think a lot of that does

in a lot of ways also come from, you know, a lack of male validation, attention, love and communication as a child, even now. And so I think like subconsciously my brain, like really. attaches or used to it doesn't anymore as much but it used to significantly attach to love from men um it makes complete fucking sense but um that being said

I don't know where I was going with this ADHD, but yeah, so I, you know, breakups can be very, very difficult for me. And yeah, so people ask me like breakup tips, breakup advice. And I forgot where I was going with this, but.

I guess I might as well give you guys some breakup tips while we're here. Number one, throughout your relationship, please never ever ever neglect your female friendships my female friendships even when i'm in relationships or talking other men are always my number one priority because my female friendships are hashtag literally for life Um, and the connection I have with my friends is a level of love and connection.

that is so wildly fulfilling that if a man ever left my life, I never feel empty because I have such intense, deep uh connections to my female friendships that are inexplicable like I almost I think the bar is so high for the men I date because of the level of connection I have with my female friendships and it's also you know interesting because my female friends understand me in a way that No man ever really could, you know, like just on a completely like logical level.

You know, the female experience is so unique. And I think that's what bonds us and our level of empathy and emotion for and from each other is just something out of this world. And I also think part of why.

now breaking up hasn't been as difficult for me is in a lot of ways I mean it's it's multifaceted but in a lot of ways on the note of female friendship I've so significantly prioritized my female friends and the connections that I have with them, you know, local or not like friends that are in LA friends that are on the East coast, my friendships from, you know, near far, you know, recent long-term that, um,

I think one of the things that people really struggle with when breaking up is losing one of your greatest witnesses to life. Like you lose. And I think this is a lot of the times why people really struggle with the golden handcuffs is they're like, wow, I've invested so much.

time into this connection I've invested so much time into this relationship like this person has seen every part of me they've seen my come up they've seen me in college they've seen me you know at 22 it's like they've seen they've been a witness to my life and I think Like why it hasn't been as difficult for me is because I have so many very deep, profound witnesses to my life now.

you know my female friendships like I update them on everything we create experiences together they're not just witnesses to my life they're going through life with me they're experiencers of my life as well as I am theirs and so I think that's what what is made this not as difficult as in past connections.

But I would say that's the first thing. And the second thing is the level of love that I have for myself is so profound that like my life singularly and individually is so fucking full that like. a man is just an addition not a necessity to my life and i think that's what's made it not as difficult as well and more on that later but what i meant to say in all of this is I genuinely think, and I really wish, I really fucking need you to hear this.

The greatest and most difficult thing I think people will have to go through in their connections with people is the sunk cost fallacy and the golden handcuffs. The sunk cost fallacy is like, wow, I've already invested X amount of time. into this.

It's too late for me to pivot or it's not worth it because then I lose, you know, the seven years that I've been with this person or what have you, right? I'm in too deep. I can't get out. And I think that is the greatest curse towards people's true authenticity. destinies when they know there could be something greater, when they're so aware of it, when their intuition and their soul knows they either deserve more or they...

There is more out there and they are craving it and they deny themselves that opportunity just because of the sunk cost fallacy or the golden handcuffs, right? I genuinely think one of the hardest breakups I've been through, even though it took me two years to get over my ex, my first ex, you know, that was a toxic connection. And even though it was toxic, like, and it took two years for me to get over that, in a weird way, it was almost more difficult to go through.

like more even though it didn't take as long to get over it was more emotionally difficult to come to this decision in this connection that i was in because it was on the surface literally perfect like i don't have a single bad thing to say like there there was in in i he would say the same thing like this was on paper perfect It was there was nothing wrong. It was a healthy connection. It just wasn't my forever person. And I think that that is one of the hardest.

one of the hardest, if not the hardest types of breakups to go through where it's genuine, like you almost have. Like you have no reason except your gut. Like literally I have nothing to go off of except my own fucking gut, spirit, universe, whatever is fucking guiding me right now to make this decision. I'm literally going off of. Nothing except this feeling that I cannot shake, right? And I can guarantee someone listening to this episode.

has been through this or is going through this. And I want to just tell you right now, like that feeling will never go away. It will only intensify. And I think it's because when you feel that feeling, you're actually connecting to your future. higher self and it's your future and higher self whispering to you in the most quiet, subtle way, leave. This is not.

the connection you're forever meant to be in. And even if it is speaking, I remember now why I was going to tell you guys breakup tips. One of the easiest ways I've been able to detach.

Um, I noticed in life, I talk about this a lot with my students inside of like body breakthrough or, um, manifest magic, whatever. I always say to my students, like one of the reasons that people really struggle to do anything in life is because not literally not because it's hard, but because the stakes are so high in your head. I'll give you an example. When I was launching.

become their obsession. I can't tell you how long I sat on my computer trying to type up an email for hours that literally could have taken me two minutes to write. And I physically like couldn't get myself to write this email. I kept writing it, rewriting it, editing it, destroying it, deleting it, rewriting it, whatever, because my email list used to be one fucking person. And now it's over a hundred thousand people.

the pressure and the high stakesness of, holy fuck, I'm sending this to 100,000 people prevented me from ever taking action in the same way that when I want to go on a walk and... you know, I have this in my head of like, what if I bump into someone and I look like shit right now? So I don't want to go on a walk. It's like, you're creating these high stakes scenarios that.

don't have any true significance that are preventing you from creating your greatest work or making the greatest moves of your life. Like it's crazy how fast. I would write an email when my email list was like 10 people and how potent those, like I go back and reread some of those emails. I'm like, wow, these were some of my best written pieces of work because the stakes were low. I was like, no one's going to read this.

You want to bring that same energy of like, wow, I'm moving in flow. I'm not overthinking. I'm literally just connected, so connected to myself and empower and so trusting of my own first rough draft that you make the best work. That's when you make the best work. But the only way to access that superpower of, you know, my rough drafts are worth millions is to lower the stakes internally, like in your head, like pretend that the stakes are not as high or, you know, like be realistic of like.

And so what? Right. And so with breakups, what I typically. you know what i at least with this breakup what i've been telling myself is like a breakup is never permanent one of the reasons people want to prevent a breakup or they don't want to break up is because they're like oh my god this is a permanent fucking decision i'm going to lose this person for the rest of my life and like that could very well

be the case but it also could very well be not the case right and so i think one of the ways i've lowered the the high stake high stakesness to be more in flow and to make that like correct decision for myself was to tell myself like and this is a fact Breakups are not necessarily permanent. Like situations change. Circumstances can change. Like I do believe in right person, wrong time. And so.

you know, down the line, things could change, you know, as I mean, who I am today is not who I was three years ago, two years ago, you know? Um, and so. It really helped me to get over this to be like, you know what, at the end of the day, if it's meant to be, we will cross paths again. And so I don't know for anyone going through a breakup, I think like that's just something that's been really helpful for me.

But like I said, I cannot tell you how many people I know who are in relationships, in connections. It could be jobs. It could be cities. They're in situations that they know. are not exciting, are not pushing them and propelling them forward, are not activating their soul on the deepest, deepest, deepest, deepest level where they wake up being like, this is like, Like, I know with every piece of me, this is my soulmate. And I could, I could never be proven wrong. Right. Or.

Like I'm exactly 100% where I'm meant to be. Like that's how I feel about my career, by the way. 100 million fucking percent. I am 100% in doing exactly what I was meant to do. Like, like 1 million percent. You could never prove me wrong. Like that is 100 percent the fact of the matter. And the beauty of it is it's like only evolving to become more deeply aligned with that. And I think.

Like that is a very unique feeling to feel, right? Like where, you know, with every fiber of your being, like this is it. And also I am not feeling resentful. Right. I do not feel and I'm going to do a whole other podcast. Please DM me if you want a second part to this where I talk about like what I look for in men, my standards in men and like.

why i have those standards like why yeah so dm me on instagram if you guys want a part two also please please please rate the podcast five stars you have no idea how much it helps if you do dm me let me know and i want to thank you personally for that um But.

where was it going with this yeah like I cannot tell you how many of my girlfriends too who are going through breakups right now who were in relationships with men where I was like this is like I know you I've been knowing you for 10 plus years this is not your man. Like you are a different person now. Like you deserve better than this. Like, you know it. I know it. The only reason you're in this is because of the time you've already spent together. And that is not reason enough.

And I think too many people will resort to giving that more power, like the time that you've already, you know, the sunk cost fallacy, more power than their own intuition and their own. judgment, their own belief in what is out there are possible. And I think another big reason that people never end things with someone or leave a situation is it's literally almost always this is.

The lack of abundance mindset, like living in a scarcity mindset of this is as good as it could get. Right. Or like I'm running out of time. Like I'm already.

28 29 whatever or this idea of like um and I cannot like I'm literally speaking fucking facts because this is what a lot of my girlfriends have been through um or feeling like yeah, like feeling this rush, feeling this limited timeframe, limited beliefs, limiting, um, opportunities or options like oh but like what if I never find someone better or you know did it on I'm like babes did we forget how abundant the world is did you forget

you exist, like if you exist, um, what's it called? If you exist in this, in this world, then your male, female, whatever counterpart also does as well. And I truly believe that. Anyways.

um transparently after I told some of the people in my life about this decision and this situation a lot of them were like why are you fucking doing this like um but he's a good guy but you know, this, but this, right? But what if you never find someone better? But what if blah, blah, blah. And a lot of them are projecting.

their own situations onto me. You know, they're married to a man that they definitely don't like or definitely doesn't treat them well or definitely doesn't provide them with the life that they deserve, that they envision for themselves, who isn't activating them. who maybe isn't the best and the projection of like I settled so you should too right and I also am very lucky to be in this position you guys where I luckily

have actually seen what else is out there. I believed it existed before I ever saw it, which is the essence of a true manifestor is like, you know. feeling it before you actually see it, um, feeling it into existence. Right. Um, I knew in my heart that these type of the exact type of man that I was, uh, envisioning and desiring exist out there. Um, and then one.

day you know and this was before I even was dating my current or you know my ex I and I think I'm in a privileged position obviously where I you know access and see and and meet these types of men often just because like I live in LA I've lived in Singapore I you know I've lived in these major cities and um you know the events I go to and blah blah blah like I have seen exactly

what I've been asking for so many times I know it is out there and I just want to tell you right now oh my god I don't know who needed this fucking sign I feel like universe spirit is telling me to tell you guys like psychic vibes um The exact man you are asking for 100% exists out there. 100 million fucking percent. He exists out there. It's crazy because, yeah, at a certain point, I had such deep limiting beliefs around men and such hatred around men that I was so blinded to.

like for one ever attracting those types of men into my life or even if they were right in front of me right in front of me like seeing exactly who they were you know um and it wasn't until like i truly allowed the universe to almost like prove me wrong and show me what else is out there that i started meeting these men that i was like

oh shit, these men that I was like dreaming up in my head that I thought didn't exist, that I thought would never entertain a woman like me are right in front of my fucking eyes. Like it's crazy. It's so wild. And.

That is why I always say like never settle. It is never too late. And beyond all else, I think like what really fucking pushed me is like knowing there are like 35 year old fucking men who are still single, dating around, who are like, you know. I mean, even on the apps, you can see like just look at the apps and see how many of these 35 year old men are like figuring out my dating goals. And I'm like, there are 35 year old bald ass men.

With receding fucking hairlines who are still figuring out if, you know, what the fuck they want. All right. Like. And like they believe whatever they're dreaming up in their fucking heads exists out there and they're not willing to settle until they find it. And I'm like, you know what? I would have that same fucking audacity. Like it's so not fair for me as a woman to feel limited.

when these 35, 40 fucking, 50 fucking year old men who have been divorced twice still feel like they haven't found the one and are still out here hunting these women down. And there's, you know what I mean? Like, I'm just like the fucking audacity. I'm like, where the fuck was that audacity for me? And I'm here in my fucking prime, 20 fucking four, hot as fuck, successful as fuck, intelligent as fuck thinking.

Oh my God. What if he doesn't exist? Like, what if this is it? What if this is, what if I, you know, what if this is it? No girl, get the fuck up. Okay.

And I could go on and on and on and on and on. And all this to say, you probably know all of this. I knew all of this, right? But actually going out and making that decision is the hardest part. It's not knowing. whether or not this is right for you. You already know that you deserve better or, um, and by the way, I'm saying this as if like something bad happened. No, like.

literally that was the hardest part of like people would ask like so why what happened I'm like literally nothing I just in my heart knew there was something better out there And I know it exists because I trust my gut. My gut has quite literally never, ever, ever, ever led me astray ever. I've built that deep, deep, deep, deep, deep, deep trust to the point where now I am willing to close my eyes and walk in whichever direction.

gut my intuition is calling me to because it has one never let me astray but also overthinking over logic and trying to justify in my head certain situations is what has gotten me to settle in this life right And it was when I did the illogical decision that my gut was calling me to, like going off to college, not being able to afford it.

That has led me to not only exactly where I wanted to go, but also every problem I could have thought of that could come with that decision. Like for example, with college, not being able to afford it was handled by the universe. I literally paid off my student loans a year out of college. that I thought I'd be dying in debt with, right? And so that is all to say, how did I get to make this decision and how?

in the future would I be able to walk away from anything and I'm not saying it's easy it's extremely fucking hard and I think you know a lot of um people in my life actually like 99.9 of the people in my life have been extremely supportive but there's definitely like that 0.1 of people who are like she looks like she's doing fine and so it's okay it probably wasn't that hard no this was like extremely fucking

hard for me excuse me extremely fucking hard even though it looks on the surface like I'm completely fine and okay and I am but really what it comes down to is like what made me capable what gave me the strength to make this decision because it will never be easy right the timing will never feel right it will never feel easy but what made it me able to do it what gave me the strength to do it was knowing

how much I love myself. And when I say that, like that sounds extremely fucking like stupid. Like, you know, everyone in their fucking mom says, love yourself, self-love. I want to explain what I really mean by this. The one person I have known my entire life and I will know till the day I die is me.

The one person who has never walked down on me, the one person who has been with me through the breakups, through the hardship, through the cold, through the fucking thick and thin, the one person who has never ghosted me, the one person. who went all in on everything for me, the one person who never walked away from me, who never cheated on me, the one person who could never walk away, even if she wanted to, is me, myself, and I.

The one person who made the most difficult decisions, the person who's been the most competent person I've ever known in my life for me is me. And I almost look at myself. and my consciousness as this almost separate entity and I look like at my inside and my outside like I don't know how to explain this in words but like I look at the physical creation of Sarah

and the physical creation of her life as almost like a separate person. And this internal dialogue that is in my head and these internal desires in my head are like the masculine. I don't know how to explain it. It's like my second half.

my like soulmate right i am my own soulmate and i don't know how else to explain that and maybe that makes no fucking sense for you guys but literally in the same way that if i was like if i had a child that i loved unconditionally and you know my child was like it is literally my life dream to wear this pink princess dress. I don't know. Right.

I would go to the ends of the fucking earth to make it happen for her if that was her one fucking wish. I would go to the ends of the fucking earth for the people I love to do XYZ and the other, right? And I do the same thing for myself. And that is why I love myself. I have literally given myself everything and I've never backed out on me. I have never looked at a dream I've had and thought it was too big. I've never looked at a dream I've had and not gone after it. I have literally.

never ever ever sacrificed onto me in terms of like what my desires were I never backtracked I never um walked away I never I never thought it was not possible. Like I have the mentality for myself of.

i will literally go to the ends of the earth i will make the impossible possible for sarah because she deserves it and honestly in a lot of ways it's almost like i'm in love with past me right it's it's not even necessarily a romantic type of love it's a like unconditional child like love like the same way i would love my future daughter is the same way i love my inner child and so i always say the first child

you're ever going to have is your inner child. And I always want you to think about every goal you have from your weight to your career, to your relationships. I want you to think about You at 12, you at 14, right? You in freshman year of high school, right? Like you in middle school, like what did that version of you, your inner child, what did she desire and deserve, right? And so in a lot of ways, it's like when I say I love myself, it's like I have given.

baby Sarah, everything she has ever wanted. I've treated myself like a baby. Like I've, you know, I've get, I literally have done, I would like, I would die for her and I would die for me too, you know? And so I have this incredible undying love for. myself and not in a narcissistic way, but in a healing way, right. In a way of like,

I would do anything for me to make my desires and dreams come true. And I don't think everyone has that, right? Like I think a lot of people ask me like, how do I love myself more? How do I become more, you know, higher self-esteem? How do I become more confident? And it's like, that's literally the secret sauce. is like, do you have a desire?

Have you literally gone to the ends of the earth to make it happen for yourself? If the answer is yes, you love yourself. If the answer is no, you don't. And the way I teach in Princess Treatment Academy, the way I teach self-love is self-love is literally the same way that you love anyone else. How do you show love? to a man? How do you show love to your mom? How do you show love to your best friend?

Oh, you get them gifts. Have you gotten yourself gifts or do you cringe every time you take out your credit card to, you know, get your nails done? Do you hesitate, right? Do you hesitate on your own desires? If you're, you know.

boyfriend with you know you're with a really fucking sexy man and he you know he would want to be with like a really sexy girl and you're like glowing up and looking beautiful for him but are you doing that for yourself when you're single when you're single are you putting in the same amount of effort are you only losing weight for a man or losing weight for yourself.

Right. Are you only getting dressed up on dates? Are you getting dressed up for yourself? That is what self-love is. And that is why I've learned to love myself because I have given myself everything in private that I've wanted to not in front of everyone else, not for another.

man. I have given it to myself because I'm healing my inner child. And so, yeah, my standards are really high because of that, but where was it going in all of this? Um, yeah, that's what made breaking up so much easier for me this go around because.

I literally healed my inner child and I was looking at my inner child and thinking, you know, my past self. And I was like, past Sarah deserves so much more than this because she sacrificed everything for the life she has today. And she deserves everything for the life she's creating.

And for her future daughter, too, you know, and I always think about my future daughter whenever I make decisions around love and like what my future daughter deserves, because you get to choose your husband, but she doesn't get to choose her father. And, you know, in that way, I really it's it really is that fucking deep. And I think some people maybe don't look at it that deep. I do. And so that's what made it so easy for me, because I really just thought about.

um baby sarah i thought about baby future daughter and i was like it's pretty fucking simple what the answer is here universe knows who her future father is going to be um who my future husband's going to be and it's it's not this and so I think that's what made it so easy is because I know exactly what I want and I've given that to myself and I just refuse, refuse. Like it is so easy for me to refuse settling because.

it's so and and that's the other thing is like normalization why i teach that in rich bitch boot camp manifest magic all of these things is because what you normalize is not only what you attract, but what you accept. If all you know, if all you've seen, if all you've settled for is X, Y, Z, then that's all you're ever going to settle for in life, right? That's just how it works, right? So.

You have no idea. You have no idea. You have not the first fucking clue how much fucking mental gymnastics and work it took me to get to this point when I grew up in the opposite of what I decided to do. Like what the decision. i made is almost healing my family lineage okay you guys like that's how deep it fucking goes because i went against everything that my parents my ancestors have done um

And I am the generational healer, you know, if generational or if trauma could be generational, so can healing. And I've always thought that. And at the end of the day, I know one thing is certain and it's that. Every decision I make is the right decision for me in that moment. If my gut is aligned with it, if my intuition is on point, you know, or if it's clear what my intuition is telling me, I...

In the same way that I make decisions today for past Sarah, I listen to the guidance and the intuition of future Sarah. When my intuition is speaking to me, it is actually future Sarah, established Sarah, ascended Sarah speaking to me. And you know, what's crazy is as soon as I went through this breakup, I've had the most like fuck men. I'm not even talking about fucking men right now. Like I have had the most insane spiritual awakening and spiritual breakthrough I've had in.

years and probably three fucking years. probably since the very start of my spiritual journey, I feel like I'm fucking high, you guys. It's crazy. I literally feel like I'm on fucking Molly. Like it's, it's insane. Not that I've ever taken Molly, but like, I feel like this is probably what it feels like. And.

It's insane. And I'm like, holy fuck. I've been like, because I didn't listen to my intuition on this one thing, it actually silenced my intuition around everything else. It silenced my connection to source, to my ascended self. insane it's insane on so many levels and you guys we're 40 minutes in so I'm gonna wrap this episode here I'm also like barely caffeinated so I don't know if I sounded half asleep in this episode but

I'm going to go ahead and post this episode. I love you to the moon and back. You are my girlfriend and boyfriends, you guys. So let's date each other. Go date your best friends. That's true love, in my opinion.

Anyways, I love you guys so much. Please email me on Instagram if you guys want a part two. And most importantly, please rate the podcast five stars. Every time I see another five-star review come in, it makes me want to make the next episode. So if I see yours come in, I'll go ahead and record a part two. I love you and have the best fucking week. Trust your intuition. That's my number one thing. Do not let yourself silence that voice inside of you. I love you. Bye.