Here's the shocking thing about herpes- it's not a big deal. No really, it's not a big deal. It can seem that if you have herpes, that is just the story you need to tell yourself to make the sting of having an STI feel better. But here's the thing about having herpes, or any STI; suddenly you are forced into a world that is unfamiliar, and so you LEARN. You read. Research. Educate yourself. And suddenly you are shocked to learn that truly, this is not a big deal. After my diagnosis I thought my ...
May 07, 2024•27 min•Season 2Ep. 45
Consider this your formal invitation to my pity party. In this episode I sit down to discuss why I have had such a hard time producing more podcast episodes, how I like to indulge at my pity parties, and how I am learning to show up- even when I absolutely don't want to. We all have moments, some longer than others, where we just can't. We just can't cope. We just can't put on a happy face. We just can't see the bright side of things. I am here to tell you that that is absolutely ok. But, does t...
Apr 09, 2024•10 min•Season 2Ep. 44
The silent treatment seems like a childish game...but it can have a heartbreaking effect on a person. It's easy to want to just ignore an uncomfortable situation, maybe you want to prove to your partner that your mad, so you will just ignore them, or maybe you become like a turtle in the face of discomfort and hide in your shell. Whatever the reason, it can be easy to forget what the effect of the silent treatment can do to a person. If you have anxiety, and then layer on a dose of the silent tr...
Feb 07, 2024•22 min•Season 2Ep. 43
"Hey, I know it's been a while since we've talked, and I'm really sorry to send you a message like this, but I just tested positive for chlamydia, so you should probably go get tested and see if you need meds." No one wants to get a message like this. It's no fun sending that message either. But if you have sex, and especially unprotected sex, there is always a chance that you will send or receive one that is similar to this. And what do you do when that day comes? In this episode you will join ...
Nov 06, 2023•25 min•Season 1Ep. 42
Sexless relationships is a topic that is not discussed often enough. So many couples suffer silently behind closed doors embarrassed to discuss a problem that a surprising amount of couples are going through. Inspired by a listener question inquiring if it is ok to look for sex elsewhere if his wife is no longer interested in sex, I explore what can cause a sexless relationship, the effects it can have, and what the solution is. I reflect on my own experience in a marriage that suffered from clo...
Oct 04, 2023•21 min•Season 1Ep. 41
Welcome back to part two of the episode where I share with you what women wish that more men knew about sex. Part two brings the conclusion of the list, sharing simple things that you can do to help improve your sex life with your partner. While this list is compiled from research on what women wish men knew, it is important to understand that many of these tips can apply to all of us. Many times, there are small things that we haven't even taken into consideration, that if we can work to improv...
Sep 18, 2023•27 min•Season 1Ep. 40
All of our egos can get pretty attached to our sex lives. It can be hard to think that maybe you could be doing something better. Or maybe even LOTS of things better. I know it can be hard. But if you are able to set your ego aside and listen with an open mind, you might find some simple ways to improve your sexual encounters. This episode is NOT an episode to make men feel bad. The intention is not to make you feel like you are being picked on, or being made to feel as if you are lacking in the...
Sep 11, 2023•25 min•Season 1Ep. 39
Welcome to another Listener Questions 5 in 5! In these episodes I answer 5 randomly selected listener questions, each answered in five minutes or less. In this installment I cover everything from what BDSM is, to advice on how a couple can bring a third person into the bedroom. If you want your questioned featured on a Pretty Uncomfortable episode you can reach out to me anonymously HERE : https://ngl.link/tera_vee or send me a DM on Instagram @prettyuncomfortablepodcast Episode Question Line-Up...
Aug 21, 2023•28 min•Season 1Ep. 38
This B-Side is a companion to Ep. 36 "Butt Plugs; Plugging Into Pleasure: A Beginner's Guide To Looking Past The Taboo And Exploring The Pleasure Potentials Of Butt Plugs" In episode 36 I wanted to make sure that you understood that playing with plugs does not automatically mean you need to explore any further than that. I wanted to make sure you can do this, and not feel like you have to do THAT. But for those that do want to explore further, and get their bodies ready for a pleasurable experie...
Aug 11, 2023•9 min•Season 1Ep. 37
When it comes to sexual taboos, any kind of anal play it right there at the top of the list. Sheesh, just saying the word anal can lead to embarrassment, judgment, and awkwardness. The opinions on anal play can be very polarizing- they love it or they hate it, but rarely do you hear someone in the in-between. It is easy to have a quick reaction of "No" when you are presented with any play that involves the backdoor, especially when those taboos have been shoved in our faces for so long. But here...
Aug 07, 2023•30 min•Season 1Ep. 36
In part 2 of "My Journey To Madness" we pick up where we left off from part 1. After a long and violent day, I find myself on the way to the emergency room, where I know I will inevitably then be sent to be admitted into a mental health facility. I bring you through the degrading process of being admitted into the facility, the dramatic decisions I made for myself once I got home, and how I chose to find the good within all of the wreckage. In this episode I explore the ways that we ignore ourse...
Jul 31, 2023•29 min•Season 1Ep. 35
In honor of premiering the first episode under the new name, The Pretty Uncomfortable Podcast, I chose to get, well.....uncomfortable. In this raw and vulnerable episode I share a story that I have never publicly shared before. One that is, quite honestly, filled with a lot of shame and embarrassment, but also a story that is important to tell. In this episode I share my journey through my darkest days. It is a difficult story to tell, but it carries so many themes that we can all relate to- tox...
Jul 31, 2023•34 min•Season 1Ep. 34
"What?! YOU'RE single? I don't believe it!" "You're too good looking to be single!" "What is someone like you doing single? That seems impossible!" When did being single become such a terrible, shocking thing? And WHY? For many, being single shows strength. Strength that they are making their way through this crazy world, solo. For staying true to themselves and not settling for anything less than what they deserve. And YET. Many people will have a tone that quietly whispers with pity as they qu...
Jul 24, 2023•20 min•Season 1Ep. 33
5 listener questions randomly selected, each answered in 5 minutes. In this episode I randomly select five questions that were sent from YOU! This was a fun episode that discussed everything from depression after a major surgery to how to get more confident with re-entering the dating world, and if I would sell pictures of my feet. Enjoy this mix of personal stories and advice. I enjoyed making this episode for you. I love the variety of serious and silly...I would expect nothing less from my li...
Jul 17, 2023•28 min•Season 1Ep. 32
Welcome to another B-Side episode! In this B-Side I revisit episode 29, where I discussed how difficult it can be for me to be complimentary to a partner. How I struggle with the feelings that come up when I show kindness to a partner. And how I was proud of myself for working to change that. Episode 29 aired on a Monday morning and then, that evening, I got a call that immediately pushed me right back into the headspace of saying fuck vulnerability. Fuck showing affection. This is why I stay gu...
Jul 14, 2023•11 min•Season 1Ep. 31
Imagine this: you start a podcast. You brainstorm with a friend and end up with the most amazing name for your podcast. You love it. You want to roll around in it, fold it up and put it in your pocket to take it with you everywhere, you want to live inside the name. Ok ok, maybe I got a little excitable there, but you get the point. I love my podcast name. Pretty In Kink debuted in January 2023. I sit here today, a mere six months later, and I am planning a re-brand. WHAT the hell am I thinking?...
Jul 12, 2023•13 min•Season 1Ep. 29
Hey you! Yes, you. Look at you looking all gooood over there. You are looking GOOD today, has anyone told you that yet today? Hopefully they have...but I probably haven't. Over the years I have struggled with the simple act of complimenting my partners. It has created problems that should have been easy to fix...just give a damn compliment. Yet I couldn't. I would be overwhelmed with the feeling of embarrassment if I tried to give a compliment. It left me with a feeling that I didn't like and so...
Jul 10, 2023•23 min•Season 1Ep. 30
The classic friends with benefits scenario: have a friend, add some fun, and throw in a few orgasms with zero commitment. What could possibly go wrong? A broken heart is sitting on the sidelines, just waiting to be called into the game. But I'm here to say that there is also the argument that a FWB arrangement can be exactly what someone needs to GROW their heart. To learn how to practice connection without that scary thing called commitment. In this episode I discuss why someone may benefit fro...
Jul 03, 2023•32 min•Season 1Ep. 28
The G-Spot. Is it real? Is it not? Do we care? In this episode we explore the history of this elusive erogenous zone, and HOW to explore it. Once you find it, your partner (or yourself) may be screaming omGGGG! ……. Stay connected with Pretty In Kink and Tera Vee: Pretty in Kink | Instagram Pretty in Kink | Facebook Tera Vee | Instagram Tera Vee | Website ……. Have a topic you would like to talk about? Or a question you may be shy or embarrassed to ask? You can safely ask all of your questions ano...
Jun 22, 2023•22 min•Season 1Ep. 27
You have herpes. You KNOW sooo many other people have it. YET. You are still too nervous to openly discuss it with people in your life because you have heard the jokes, the judgements, the stigmas that make you feel embarrassed of something that is incredibly common. You create adult content for the popular platform, OnlyFans. You know there are MILLIONS of others that also create on the site, and even more that purchase the content. YET. You keep that side of your life hidden from so many peopl...
Jun 12, 2023•20 min•Season 1Ep. 26
"You wouldn't go down a waterslide if it wasn't wet"...while researching for this episode I read this line and immediately knew there was no better way to get my point across. Foreplay seems to be a bit of a lost art. Sure, there's some kissing. Maybe a hot little make out session. But the kind of foreplay that so many women need for their body to be READY? *ahem, wetting that waterslide* Men, I want you to get your notepads out for this one! The problem starts with a lack of knowledge. How can ...
Jun 05, 2023•23 min•Season 1Ep. 25
Dating can be exhausting. You meet. You have fun. Things get serious. And then BOOM you're crying alone on your bed on a Saturday night. You eventually wipe your tears away, get brave, and get back out there. But you get a sense of déjà vu as you are once again spending the weekend with your cat. Ok, fine. Yes, I am describing my dating life. In this episode I discuss why my dating life was so unsuccessful, the lengths I went to in order to prevent myself from being hurt, and what I realized I n...
May 29, 2023•25 min•Season 1Ep. 24
In the same way that death comes when someone loses their battle with cancer, so too does death come when someone loses their battle with mental illness. May is Mental Health Awareness Month, which is a topic that lives close to my heart. I have had this episode on my mind since even before Pretty In Kink launched it's first episode in January. I wasn't ready for it. But the whole point of this podcast is to show you that when we discuss the uncomfortable things, we get more comfortable. The con...
May 15, 2023•23 min•Ep. 23
Porn can be a useful guide to exploring your sexuality, discovering new techniques, and unlocking new desires. But it should never be your rule book. It should not be an instruction manual. If your main point of reference for your sex life comes from porn there is a chance that you have been duped by the slight of hand that occurs so often with porn content. And if you have been duped by that razzle dazzle, there is also a chance that your partner is left feeling unsatisfied and unimpressed. I a...
May 08, 2023•22 min•Season 1Ep. 22
Last night you had the most amazing second date. Things went great and you can't wait to see them again, so you text them to tell them exactly that. You hit send, and your heart flutters in anticipation, waiting for them to respond that they feel the same. A couple minutes go by. Ok, maybe they're in the shower. You've made it to the afternoon, and still no response. Maybe they went out with a friend and they're just not glued to the phone. The sun has gone down, the sound of those crickets comi...
May 01, 2023•26 min•Season 1Ep. 21
You were watching a movie the other night. And there was that super sexy scene...you know the one I'm talking about. The one that made you feel all tingly, that made you feel curious, made you think, "hmmm, I want to try THAT!" And now you are wondering- how can you ask your partner for this without being embarrassed. Or maybe you're with someone you just met at the bar. You want to tell them there's this thing you REALLY like, but you're nervous they might judge you, especially since you barely...
Apr 24, 2023•33 min•Season 1Ep. 20
There are times in life that things just get...hard. Hard to stay positive. Hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Hard to feel like you can make it through. And then the internet tells you that you are not doing enough. Just meditate. Read that popular self-help book. Change your mindset. Practice gratitude. Get outside more. Focus on the good things. Journal. Meanwhile, you're just trying to get out of bed today. Suddenly you're thinking "Fuck, I should be doing more. It's my fault I ...
Apr 17, 2023•33 min•Ep. 19
It's easy to fake an orgasm. We can make it pretty believable, I promise. Oh, you don't believe me? Go watch this classic scene from When Harry Met Sally. Go on, I'll wait. Ok, you're back. See? I told you so. But here's the problem, when we fake it all we're doing is tricking our partners into thinking they are hitting all the right spots. They walk away feeling heroic. The Master of O's. And so they come back and repeat the same actions. Over and over again this plays out. You walk away unsati...
Apr 10, 2023•23 min•Season 1Ep. 18
You look in the mirror. You take a second look. You think "dammmmn" as you admire your reflection. And then you immediately feel guilty. You think, "I can't act like I'm a hottie, what will people think?" It has been ingrained in many of us that to shine bright is equivalent to showing off. That we should not proudly present those parts of ourselves that we feel good about, whether that is our appearance or our abilities. We've all been guilty of watching someone strut by, glowing in that main c...
Apr 03, 2023•24 min•Season 1Ep. 17
The B-Sides...where I take content from the cutting room floor of the previous episode to share in a mini-episode. Episode 15, The B-Sides: In episode 15 we talked about if size matters. I touched on the fact that we also judge on another aspect of a man's size...his height. In this companion episode I expand on that, and what the dating world looks like for men as they are judged not just for penis size, but for their height, their bank account, their car. Ladies, this mini-episode is for you. ...
Mar 27, 2023•8 min•Season 1Ep. 16
