You will marry her and then she will call you and that will break your spirit. There are men that will spend on you and they are the ones that will not spend on you. And I will choose the one that will spend on me. And they are ones that will send you good morning in the morning to show how much they care about you. And they are ones that will be nonchalant about even caring how your day is going. And I will choose the one that will send me. Hello, good morning baby, how
are you doing? So it is what you want. I will take him to my home and do something to him to teach him a lesson. After a while I will heal him and tell him never to do that to a lady again in his life. This is what you get when you turn a good woman into a feeling. That is why I mean, if I don't have money, I don't go anywhere. I stay in my house regardless of the invitation that you've given me. I'll stay in my house because I if I don't have my TNT from in
and out, I'll not come. In fact, I need my TNT and, and what I'll either sit on or eat. If I don't have it, I'll not go. Even if it's a date, I'll not go. Why is it that you don't have your singing to yourself and you dressed up? In fact, you went with a date that ran away because he knew. Oh my goodness. If they posted it on social media, if they posted it on social media, if they posted it on social media, then they made
it our business. And since they made it our business, we're going to make it our business. Now let's get into the stories we have for the episode. Dear Akia, I'm a young girl of 25 years, very beautiful and smart. I'm currently doing my national service and the first child of my parents. So you know the kind of pressure and how people will be looking up to me. And in my case, my dad is late. So Fast forward, I met a guy who is also doing his national
service. We met way back on campus, but we got together after school. So I've tried to go clean with this guy. I mean not to have any affair with any other guy. Since we started dating, this guy hasn't spent one gonna CDs on me. I know we are not earning much so I tried to be the understanding girlfriend type. But he gets money to go on trips with his male friends and buy expensive sneakers, perfumes and other things for himself and even sometimes I borrow him
money on countless occasions. So currently I met this new guy who can really take care of me and even want to invest in my small business. OK looks like the pressure I'm going through financially. I really need help and I have decided to give this new guy a try. I hope it's the best decision and me being there for him and keep borrowing him money doesn't guarantee he will take care of me when he gets rich. At the end of the day I think everybody does things in their own benefit.
This is why even if he knows I need money, I'm out of money. He prefers going on trips, or he prefers going on trips with his friends and buying expensive sneakers and perfumes for himself rather than investing money in my small business. You see, you know what? I get what you're saying, but how you're saying it makes it seem like you're being entitled about his money. Mind you, it is his money. So he chooses to do what he wants to do with the money or
not. But I'm going to refer you to there's this lady on TikTok. And then he keeps saying things like there are men that will spend on you and they are the ones that will not spend on you. And I will choose the one that will spend on me. And there are ones that will send you good morning in the morning to show how much they care about you. And there are ones that will be nonchalant about even caring how your day is going. And I will choose the one that will send me.
Hello, good morning baby. How are you doing? So it is what you want that matters. But what I'm going to tell you is that talk to the guy that you know you say you're on the same level with because you don't really know what this new guy wants. The only thing you care about is the fact that he wants to invest in you. But what other qualities does he possess that will make him better than this one? I need you to understand that it's not just about the
financial decisions. There are other decisions you need to make that emotional decisions. Find out why this guy is not spending on you, Let me say, not spending on you particularly, but find out why this guy is not ready to financially support you, right? How you feel like you deserve to be supported, right? And then on top of it, he still comes back to borrow from you. I don't think that is a good sign.
You're not ready to invest in me, but you're ready to take for me. That is not a good sign. And I'm hoping that this new guy that you're saying is ready to invest in, you're also ready to also give something. I mean, it's not always that you tick, tick, tick, tick, tick, tick, but you also have to give something in a relationship.
And I'm not talking about sex because I know that in this generation we keep using since you're not ready to give me your body, I'm also not ready to spend on you. I think that logic is not really making sense. But I know people come and fight me in the comments section. Anyway, have a conversation about it. OK? One thing I know for real is that talking to someone about something gives you a clear
understanding. Their response to what you ask them, right, will give you a clear understanding of whatever they want with you. OK, yes. And also pray. Pray about it. I've come to realize that in everything we do. Well, if you're coming to eat and there's two choices in front of you, my dear, apart from your appetite, pray because you don't know what which one will do to you. Backup to make you sit. Well, all right.
So yeah, whatever it is, pray about it because for you know, both of them are not supposed to even be your partners in the long run. OK. Yeah. Dear, keep me anonymous. I'm a level 300 students in Kumasi Technical University. Recently I met a level 100 lady, a very beautiful lady like that.
We're writing mid same exams and I found out that she's sitting beside me. In fact, she helped me by telling me all the answers of my colleagues who was sitting in front of me, of which I've asked him about some of the questions I can't answer. So literally it was the lady who volunteered by giraffing to look at my friend's answers and telling me short after the exams I approached them thank they a lot 'cause I'm a stranger as well as hers.
To cut everything short, we exchanged contacts and later in the evening we texted. I told her she's really a nice person so I would like to know more about her. She started the first sentence by saying she has a boyfriend and I said to OK but deeply for me I fell for her because of the first start which was like a spark from the beginning. So time went on and she started asking for money although she said she has a boyfriend but I don't hesitate to send her
money. I was hoping this lady would fall for me and it went on several times literally every day asking me for money and I was like what does this lady want from me? So I decided to ask her to go to her boyfriend for money when she needs it and this lady blocked me for seeing such. I don't know whether I was wrong or right. At first she used to call me at midnight but now everything is gone.
I later went to where she stays to apologize to her later that we nearly had sex because she accepted the apology but unfortunately someone banged on her door which was her best female friend so he didn't come on. I went away very fast. Fast forward she didn't unblock me another time as school organized a dinner and awards night so I decided to go along with them.
So I use a different number to call her sis I've been blocked and she picked up. I asked her where she is and she told me she's at a dinner and awards at SG mom and I said OK which means she went there with someone by yet. I don't know I so I let her. I also went there with two of my male friends and one female belonging to the same class. I to cut a short, you've cut a short 3 billion times. When then I saw her with her friends too.
My thought was that maybe she got a date, but I later found out that her dates run away because he had to pay for drinks. Even Laura Fair from SU mall to campus wasn't a big deal. To my surprise I got a text from her saying so you're here and you didn't come to me before that one of my new friends who knew everything about I and her told me that I shouldn't even look at her even to even try to go see her. So I obeyed and it worked.
She became jealous that I was with the same class lady I took along with my friends. She texted me saying that did you bring your date? I told her the truth that no that Lady is my classmate and she said I'm lying. To cut her short she broke she was broke and couldn't afford for a ride or boat. I took it upon myself and ordered a ride for her but to my surprise she told me we should go to a place and I should spend the night with her.
I became very happy but not knowing this lady is very wise. She added one of her female friends to come and also spend the night at her place. So nothing happened. My problem about her is that she becomes jealous any time she sees me with another lady. I know she likes me too but playing hard to get. What should I do? Another time I took her out and guess what she took the food home and told me I should go home. This lady is something else. I don't know what to do.
I need your help 'cause I feel good when she's with me. I love her too because of the spark from the beginning you are a joke because you know what she's doing and you're there. And young lady, what? What are you trying to do? What is your problem? That is why me, if I don't have money, I don't go anywhere. I stay in my house regardless of the invitation that you've given me. I'll stay in my house because I if I don't have my TNT from in
and out, I'll not come. In fact, I need my TNT and and what I'll either sit on or eats. If I don't have it, I'll not go. Even if it's a date, I'll not go. So why is it that let me remove the glasses so she can see my eyes if she's going to see the episode? Why is it that you don't have your singing to yourself and you dressed up? In fact, you went with a date that ran away because he knew. Oh my goodness.
Whatever it is, young man, run. Because even if she loves you, I don't think she loves you enough to want to be with you. Maybe I'm not a speck. She's just doing you last. Last, because she knows that she will benefit something from you in the end and that's what I think. But let the comment section also help you out dear. Keep me anonymous. I'm a level 400 students at one of the universities in Ghana. Very beautiful and a good
student as well. During my first year, I met this guy at my hostel who showed interest in me. I liked him too because of his looks and how smart he is. In one year, three months into our relationship, I caught him cheating on me of which I confronted him in front of the lady he was cheating with. But he denied knowing me from anywhere. So I picked up my pieces that night and had never spoken to him again. I was so broken, cried for some days and moved on with my life.
Fast forward in level 300 I met another guy whom I liked so much but because of what happened in my past relationship I decided not to go out with him. But he didn't give up on me and he kept coming for three months so because of that I thought he was serious about me. He stick accepted his proposal,
I restarted dating. He started giving me attitude some days into the relationship so I sat him down to have a conversation with him about how things are going off which he assured me not to worry because he got mean. One weekend he sent me a text saying he's going home to his family and you call me when he gets there of which he didn't.
Throughout that night my conscience was telling me to go to his place but it was late so I didn't go so early the next morning I went there only for me to see him around. I noticed there was someone in his room so I didn't bother to enter to see the passing and then I went away. Now I want to take revenge on him for lying and making me fall in love with him, knowing perfectly well that he was with
someone already. I will take him to my hometown and do something to him to teach him a lesson. After a while I will heal him and tell him never to do that to a lady again in his life so that he will teach his brothers not to treat any lady in any manner. So this one, she's all looking for opinion. She's just telling us that this is what's two men have done to her, and this is what she's going to do to the second one. This is what you get when you turn a good woman into a feeling.
I keep seeing this is when he became a villain. So I'm going to turn it and say this is when she became a villain. A young, beautiful lady sitting somewhere minding her business. You pursue her and you do this to her. What is wrong with some of you, man? What is wrong with you, my darling me? I'm going to tell you to forgive and let it go. But you've made your own decisions. But I hope that what I've said, forgive and let it go touches your heart enough to let it go.
OK? He's not worth it. I just just cut off communication with him. Cut off anything as a form of communication, anything at all, and just let it be in the right time. The right person will come. There's no entertaining relationship thing right now because I think at the moment you're Brooking and your brain is at that. I want to show these men Shaggy level. So every guy that comes into your life would take the consequences of whatever you know the guys have done in your
life. So just focus on you and try to be good. Heal out heal like heal proper healing before. OK dear keep me anonymous. I'm 26 year old lady in a distance relationship. Two different regions in Ghana but we visit ourselves frequently. My boyfriend and I are gively employed. December last day he came to see my parents to declare his intentions to marry me. My family is also in a different region.
They told him they would give him feedback which up till now they still haven't given him but they advised me to end things with him because of his stripe but I didn't listen. We continue to live our lives and now I think I'm pregnant. I have not been able to go to the hospital to confirm it yet but my period is 8 days late which is not normal to me. There's a program at home this month ending that I must go for, but I'm afraid my mother will notice.
I have not changed. But you know, African parents. A part of me wants to keep it because of my age and I know my boyfriend will also want us to marry this year. But my family, I'm afraid of what they will do if they find out. Please, what do I do? Please let me know when you post it. OK, first of all, that let me know when you post it that you guys, some of you guys add to the thing, right?
I won't know because when I screenshot, I blurt off your names out of it. So I don't know who I'm talking, know whose story I'm talking about at what point. And I don't read it until I sit in this seat. So I won't know. But hopefully you find this, you see this tribal thing, tribalism, right, is one of the
most craziest thing. But sometimes I also understand the families in the sense that maybe they've encountered a few of that tribe and it didn't go well and they assumed that everyone in that tribe is the same, which I think is a colossal mistake. But there's nothing you can do except one person from that tribe comes to change their mind. But now this pregnancy involved. So your parents needs to actually understand. But one thing also here is that pregnancy doesn't necessarily
mean that you guys should marry. But the best thing both of you can do is let your man know what your parents have said or your family have said. Let him go and vouch for himself. Because me, I believe in, you know, from my background right in Christianity, in knowing God and you serving God, I believe in parental consent before marriage in as much as sometimes our parents can be difficult.
As I said in our previous episodes, let this person walk to them and convince them of how much you would take care of you and not behave like a stripe people. It is it is sad that in this generation, education hasn't gone on enough for these tribal things to stop. But and it's unfortunate, but this is the the the bed you're lining now. And so you need to be able to
lead well. I've, I've changed the way, yes, you've laid your bed, you've laid your bed, so you lie in it, but I've changed it into you're lying in it now. So get up, lay it well for your family to be able to also lie in it too. You understand. So have a conversation with your mother, tell her you're pregnant for the man you guys have been bowing on for a while now. You've not seen anything bad about him. And also, I am going to say this again, young people of this
generation, please pray. Please pray. It's sad. Dear Ekia, please keep me anonymous. I'm a guy of 29 years and I've been in a relationship with this lady for five to six years. The lady just completed NMTC student midwife. Upon completing the school she started comparing me to other guys that I can't do what other men do.
The guys she was comparing me with are her roommates boyfriends where some of her boyfriends are dating two to three boyfriends that she knows and sometimes do talk to me about some of their issues concerning the double and triple dating. The leading question is 27 years. I found out that she has been having secret chats with other guys who speak their home language. She speaks different languages and I don't understand their languages too.
What should I do now? I will be in the comments section. That's a red flag. That is something that you need to be very vigilant about because for you know, she's already seen those men and because of the language you don't understand. And so tell her, let her know that this is what she say. And one thing that young ladies, we shouldn't do is to compare our men to other people. Don't do that. Don't do that. Don't do that. Because you see the same way you're comparing your man to
that man. There's something about your man that that other man doesn't have this moment. You allow the seat of comparison comes into your relationship. You are giving room for other people to walk in. It means that first of all, you do not have respect for the man you you are with. Secondly, you do not have any faith in the man you're with. And so then why are you there?
Why are you there when you have a man and he's at he has a job, he has a dream, he's doing OK for himself, taking care of himself. You know it has family values. What else do you need that you need to compare him to women that are doing stupid things? Multiple dating. You are a young lady dating one person, but you're comparing your boyfriend to your friend. That is, you know, to your friend's boyfriend. And mind you, this friend is not dating one person. This friend has multiple
boyfriends. So what is your problem then? I promise you, she's a 27 year old lady that doesn't know what she wants. She doesn't know what she needs, she doesn't know what she wants. And you are about to dodge your bullets because that comparison is not going to stop. You will marry her and then she will call you Bema Pasi. I won't know when you're performing album sing. And that will break your spirit. Comparison is the is the thing
that breaks man's spirit. And so when you and like young lady out there, do not compare a man 'cause you break a spirit, don't. And the moment a woman starts comparing, you know that she feels like she can get something better out there. And so you they must start packing your bags. So this. Hello Ikhya, I'm a guy of 28 and I've been battling with a lot of things for the past one month and I cannot tell my family or
friends about. I knew a girl in Senior High School who was young but a cousin who was supposed to be my friend started calling her my wife because we both had fair skin as she was young. I didn't take things serious until she completed Senior High School and I can tell you she has grown very beautiful while I'm also finishing my
undergraduate degree. Last year at Xmas her cousin went back to their village which is where they met and she asked about me and the cousin said I'm now a big man and I completed university so she took my contact and one way or another we started dating. In addition to giving her 200 cities every week, I also given money for her hair and other stuff because I have a side business that pays me quite
well. I rented a room for her at CRONOM in Kumasi for her to start working as an apprentice for a hairdresser and also paid for everything. Approximately 9000 Ghana cities are involved. Two months into the relationship, I started experiencing some changes in her. She was not responding to my calls or chats. Whenever I saw such things, I called her mother to explain
everything to her for advice. It wasn't until about a month later that her cousin called me and said she had returned to her ex who lives at Cronom and she told me that the guy was in Accra. I ignored her cousin and told her about what the cousin told me. As a result, she and her mom plus older sisters in the family went to fight her cousin and rain all sorts of insults on
him. About two weeks ago I was there where my younger sister called me to check on her WhatsApp status which I did and it was blank. So I called my sister back and to my surprise she went out with the X and posted it on her status and blocked me from seeing. So quickly my sister sent me the screen recording which I will send to you. After the chat I got pissed and called it.
To my surprise this girl started insulting me with a lot of head for words which one way to the other I also insulted her even her mom as well. Now her parents are saying I have to apologize to them. I did and I was even offered to pay something to her for insults. Now she's saying her parents say they won't allow me to stay with her again and other stuff. So last night I called her parents to demand the repay of the money I spent on the renting
of the room. So I called my younger sister to inform her about the incident and she gave me another screen recording which the girl has posted the X with the catching. I have missed you baby with a lot of emojis. So am I asked for to still push for the refund of my money? Information reaching me is that the guy's rent is due and they now stay in their room. I'm hurting, I've eat, I haven't
eaten since last night. So now what pains me most is that a mom all the while was acting innocent while she knew about the relationship with the ex. And please advise me is it right to go for my money or not? Which the mom has promised to pay me 5000 at the end of the month but I actually know the mom can't even afford 1000. Please collect your money. The whole family they are they are deceitful and somebody will hurt their child and they will sit there and cry and they won't understand.
You have met a young man that is willing to be this helpful to you and your family and, and you mess up like that. So you want to be paid for, for the insults. Understand that, you know, in that time, I'm not trying to defend your insult or anything, but you're a human being and you will get ahead. And when you know you're in that position, things will come out of your mouth.
But I also tell you that moving forward, just, you know, be able to learn how to control your, your emotions in situations like that, which I know is not really that easy, but to avoid all this skirmishes, right? With that being said, please take your money. And if, if they want to be messy, you can drag it to what you call a police station that the parents knew what you were doing for the girl. They, they actually were in support in what you're doing
today. They demanded money from you when issues broke out between you and the girl. And then now they they they want to what see when suck one of them from that place, she and I useless boyfriend of hers that you've seen that another man is paying for all this for the girl and you are still doing this and you this Oh God have messy God have mess. We we some of you are some of you women. We are the rich. Let me just keep quiet. Wow. Please take your money. Even if they can't, please go
and collect your money. However you collect the money. Collect the money. 9000 Ghana said this small girl. Small girl. Dear Ekia, somewhere last year I was working at this company when one of our customers asked me to look for a secretary for him. So I asked him how much she was going to pay the person and he told me and I realized it was good. So I quit my job and went for an
interview there. I started working there somewhere last year June. My boss wanted to have an office relationship with me which I wasn't willing to have anything doing with him. This man started being so nice to me like he was so good to me and the money he gives me before the month ends was even more than the salary I was taking. So honestly I started having interest in him and we got too comfortable. We sometimes hang out and then
he buys me gifts. Mind you, he was a married man until one day his wife saw a message he sent to me. Due to that the wife started suspecting I had something doing with the husband. She called me some time to warn me. So due to that I had to stay at home for some time until I had a phone call from her asking to come back to the office. So I did and any time she comes around and sees me in his husband's office she gets angry and walks out. So I decided to quit.
Our boss pleaded with me to stay but I refused so I left. Whilst I was at home my boss finds Ways and Means to come see me. He still buys me gifts and sends me money. It was my birthday and my boss took me out. After the dinner date my boss sends me a message saying someone has sent a video of us to the wife so she has started the things again. So I replied to my boss by saying I think we should stop
talking for pistol rain. Mind you, this was something I never wanted to do even though he was married because I was beginning to like him for real. I saw the disappointment in him but I had no choice. My boss was not on snap but because of me he started using snap and all that. Anytime we hang out, he behaves as if he has never seen a woman before. That one aside, just recently I got a call from an unknown number I picked up and it was my boss's wife raining curses on me.
Mind you any time she calls I ignore her. But this time around I didn't spare her because I have stopped talking to the husband for months so I didn't know why she was bothering me. I said a lot to her and hung on her. Just few days she called me with an unknown number again insulting me.
So I had to call my boss and tell him to warn the wife but it seemed he had blocked me and I got a message from her again saying you prostitute stop forcing yourself on him and I replied by saying if she was a man wouldn't I be her type of woman so why does she think I'm forcing myself on the husband. Few minutes after I replied with that she called me saying let's talk like women. She was trying to force some words out of my mouth but I knew what she was up to so I ignored
her. Woke up to her missed calls and messages saying she has confronted the husband and he has confessed to her. So I texted her on WhatsApp. She has something to tell me that I ignored her messages and before she called me I woke up to see her husband's missed calls. OK I was quite surprised. Ekia, what do you think I should do? First of all, pray and ask for forgiveness because you intentionally dated a married man knowing very well that he's a married man and he can never be for you.
And you went ahead to hurt the wife in so many ways. But then you're coming here to pretend and make it sound like you know, it's, it's not a biggie. And in as much as you know, I, I as a woman, I'm hoping that you understand why the wife was crashing out. I hope you understand why the wife was coming up to you like that and you would have handled it better even if in the time that she came up to you were not in a relationship with her
husband. You were threats to her marriage at some point and so she came at you could have handled it better. That being said, ignore the situation and she calls again. Don't respond fat block all of them and move on, OK? I don't think you need to really set yourself in that. Just do better next time, OK? Dear Aqui, I'm a lady of 24 years and a level 200 student, but note that I am a certificate student which requires only two
years in school. I'm coming from a polygamous home which my mother happens to be the second wife. My father died when I was in SHS two in 2019. Life was rough since I was a teenager. I completed JHS in 2016 with my twin sister but I was not able to get into SHS because of financial problems. At that time, my elder sister and brother was already in SHS which made my mom impossible to send my twin sister and I to school even though I came out to be the best student in my school
with great results. My twin sister being the second position, I hopped on the street for two years to be able to gather money and continue my education. I got admitted into SHS in the year 2018 when my twin sister also got married in the same month. I must start my SHS. Yes, she got married against her wish which I refused to. I was paying for my textbooks and other necessities whilst my mom was paying my school fees.
Though there was sometimes I help when I have some money with me. This continued until my father died when I was in SHS two. Life continues afterwards and I was able to complete with good grades. I didn't thought of tertiary because I knew there was no financial support from home. Note, I'm the sixth born of my my mother. I have sisters who are not educated. It's only the 5th born and I who
were able to get through to SHS. As this continued, I met a lady who introduced the tertiary she attended since I have interest in that sector. So I started preparing myself towards that. I told my family about my intentions to continue to the tertiary side. Though my mom was first against it, I managed to convince her and finally she agreed. At the same year, my elder sister also is about to get into tertiary after six years of staying home. It was due to financial
problems. Finally with the ups and downs, I was able to get into tertiary with the help of my step brothers since they were well to do. It later became an insult and mockery because they helped me with 1000 Ghana cities each which they said they weren't going to do anything when it comes to my education. Finally started tertiary last year but as soon as I got there, no feeding, money comes from home, nothing at all. Everything is left for me to be to dealt with.
Life was really tough in school, no money. Some days I wake up with nothing. Just continue to like. Met a guy who has been really supportive in my life. I worry less of food or anything else. He paid for my house, remaining school fees and my rents together with my provisions. He's literally doing everything for me. It's been one year since we because I met him six months
after I started my tertiary. The issue right now is I am two months pregnant for him and we are willing to keep it since I will be done with my education by December. I really know how to tell my family considering the fact that I'm coming from a strong Muslim background. Though I spoke to my twin sister but she was totally against me keeping it. Right now. I don't know what to do Please I need your opinion because it's either I choose home or myself and my baby.
Thank you. Comment section Please handle this. Muslim backgrounds Is the guy a Christian or a Muslim? The answer to that will determine oh come next. But if the guys are Muslim, I really don't see any problem with it. You give birth, you marry, and you go. If the guy's a Christian, you love him, and that would be a problem for your family, then you need to actually have a conversation with your family. Frankly speaking, abortion really isn't the right thing in general, right?
It is your body, and you choose to do whatever you want to do with it. But at the end of the day, abortion really isn't right and it has its own, you know, side effects. Even if it's not your body that is going to go through something, your mind is going to
go through something. So if you have a man, regardless of the religion, and is willing to be there for you and marry you, I don't really think your family should have issues with it. But one thing that we are prone to doing in our side of the continent is to make religion, you know, the thing that comes between us. Do you understand? So it's dependent on whether the guy is a Muslim or a Christian. And try to have a conversation
with your family. Your sister is giving you that response because she's panicking. She's scared of how your parents are going to respond to it. All right, That's what I actually think. OK, All right. I want to end the episode here. I want to say thank you very much for watching. I want to say thank you very much for sticking with me. My name is Anika Adipando and this is the POV podcast.
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