You cook, clean, wash for him. A common compliment you can't get is this love? So this is love hey? His so-called ex sent a video of them kissing. When I asked him he said it was an old video that was two years ago and the song they were singing was With You by Own One and the video which was released this year. He said they learnt the song before David sang it and recorded Make Her Lie, Make Her Lie.
New week, a new episode. As usual, I'm here to let you know what what's going on on social media and then also read some threads like a few things that are going on on social media. Now I have a thread right? And this thread is coming from TikTok. Basically I chanced on it when I found Iffenanya. You know, when you you start watching something on your FYP and then now your FYP feels like, hey, you enjoy those kind of things so it brings them to you.
So I was enjoying Efunanya on TikTok and then they brought me this particular thread. A young lady put on her TikTok that what's that lie a guy told you that left you pep placed? What's that lie that a guy told you that left you pep placed? And this is the side loot you get as mango lie give you where you go. First pause, move back small, can't find small chest. Sit down. Then you admire the talent. It means that this kind of light can cripple you. Alright, so now the first one
says. He told me that he has never cheated on me since we got married. He kept saying it so we had four kids. I believed him. One day he came home late at night. He woke me up to show me some blood stains. I got so scared and asked if he had fought with anyone. He only asked me to take him to the hospital, which I did. That night stroke morning, he vomited 3 mineral bottles of blood. I called his family after changing hospitals and we started to take him to the village.
After consultation we're told that he slept with a lady that had tender boot. They asked him the name of the lady he slept with so that they can get solution and he mentioned 7 different names. I told them not to listen 'cause he might be suffering from loss of blood and all that because he has never cheated on me and his parents said that I'm the one that doesn't like to hear the truth. My husband kept rubbing his hands together telling me he's sorry. I couldn't believe my ears.
Two hours later, he gave up. He left me with four kids at 29, I now face my fear alone. No supporter, no capital, my life so private that no one knows how I plan not to wake up ever again. Why would you subject somebody's child to this? Why would you? You see why in my last week last week's episode, right somebody said girls are running away from motherhood because they don't want to be what to be disrespected and mocked.
See you see you there's somebody who come and write it in the in my comment section that as a woman child matches your purpose without that, yeah, yeah. You just say you have not You see this rubbish. You see this rubbish. First of what's the next one. He said that he was I saw at his place was his own say in the way I'm if you want change over Gen. or NEPA like. That make her lie.
Make her lie. Oh no. Came home and found strands of lash extensions on the bed which I had none on me. I confronted this boy. He said it was from his dog. Almost. My brain stopped working for a while. I like that you said boy not because what the helly? What the helly? Oh God this one said his so-called ex sent a video of them kissing. When I asked him he said it was an old video.
That was two years ago and the song they were singing was With You by Old One, the video which was released this year. He said they learnt the song before David sang it and recorded. See, let me teach you one thing about lying. OK 'cause I think it's a bit to learn that when you're lying, the tokro like find small space on your end. So that one issue coming, just jump into that. Oh 'cause what the hell this is
crazy. I saw earrings complete soon I guess I removed them before sleeping Baba say in baya so they use remove SIM card me some shock. I video called him and a girl picked. When I asked him he said it was a photo. These are lies that men told women that perplexed them. Like they sat down at work and saw. The man said oh God you have talent. You're busting my brain cause what the hell. So crazy. This is the end of this particular segment but I've laughed my heart out 'cause what
the hell is this? I'll see in the next segment we are going to read stories from people that sent it to us so that we can give our opinions on them. And I call that part Yeah, yeah, we'll bring it back. If they posted it on social media, if they posted it on social media, if they posted it on social media, then they made it our business. And since they made it our business, we're going to make it our business.
This means that you've given me the opportunity, the audacity, the temerity to talk about your situation. But I'm not going to be disrespectful about it. But if I need to also be me for you to understand that what you're dealing with or how you're dealing with the situation you're playing around with your life, I'll let you know. So let's get straight into the stories. Note that every story sent here is anonymous until the person wants me to mention them.
So don't come to my DM asking me who sent it to you. Let's go. Dear Aklia, keep me anonymous. I've been dating this girl for almost a year now and anytime I need something or I need money from here, I have to borrow from here and I have to pay back. But anytime she needs something from me, I'll give it to a wholeheartedly, but it's a very big problem for me. I don't know what to do. What do you think I should do? First of all, I think you're dealing with a girl that thinks this way.
My money is my money, Your money is our money. That's the type of girl you're dealing with right now. So if you think, say long term, you can't deal with that and I think you're in a wrong relationship, 'cause people like that say I don't think they are going to change. I don't think it's something that somebody can change from because it's them. They've come to understand that, yeah, the man is the sole way to take responsibility.
They are not part of those people that feel like, yeah, I have to be able to support my money. I have to be able to, you know, when my money. No, they don't. They are not wired like that. So it's either you, you deal with it or you probably talk to you about it or you move on. That's it. Because that's how I see it. My money is my money. Your money is our money. Yeah I met this girl here on TikTok and took her number. We chatted on WhatsApp and I proposed my feelings and she agreed.
She's a year older than me and I'm at Koforidia and she's at Kent Temple. A long distance relationship. This is my worry, please help me. She never calls. I always do the calling but if I also don't for some time she'll complain. She keeps referring how old she is than me sometimes in normal talks. Do you think I'm safe with it? OK. You see, I don't think I've ever started to say that I have a problem with age gap, but they're setting age gaps. You are normal like 20 and 40
years. That's that's crazy. But something like a year older, you know, that's not is I mean, it's not bad, but in your situation, the way she goes back to refer to it's, it's not giving. I don't think that's mature. Like even if you're older than the person, I don't think it's mature. That's every 5 seconds. Be like you don't expect to, no. You can put it in, you know, a joke once in a while, but it shouldn't be like a behavior or an attitude.
That's what I think anyway. Comment section please help him out. But you kept repeating that she's a year older than you. Do you also have a problem with that? If you do, then it's not for you. OK Dear Akia, So I was dating this girl while doing my service in the same school I completed where we met. Everything was going on well I noticed the guy in her class trying to come in between us.
Anytime I try to know about them, she says they approach hey but they have nothing more than normal friendship. So later I think when I left there, the guy now got the chance to get more close to here. Even though I wasn't around. We're still dating. One night she told me that the kids from there our relationship started shaking. Later on she asked for a break only for me to find out that she's dating the same guy. Now she wants to come back to me but the problem is she feels I
won't just stay again. I love it too but now I don't know what to do. Do you trust? No, if you don't then she's right. So there you go. Dear Eklia, I'm really worried and disturbed about this issue and I think I need your opinion. Been dating my man for almost a year and so far so good. Everything has been going on well, though we have our ups and downs sometimes which is absolutely normal in every
relationship. Fast forward some time ago, I noticed my boyfriend has connected my phone to his of which he receives my messages without me knowing. He knows about every conversation I have with everybody but I found out I didn't get that angry even though I was. He apologized and said it wasn't going to happen anymore. My boyfriend is this jealous type of guy and he's very insecure.
I always assure him that I ain't going to leave him or ever cheat on him but still it looks like he has no trust for me. I love him very much but I have no intentions of cheating on him or ever leaving him because he's the very best. He does everything for me and always makes me feel comfortable. But just recently I found out again that he has connected my phone with his and he has been reading my messages and his words. He he's like Congrats I know everything but the truth is I'm
not doing anything wrong. And those I chat with, I've made it clear to them that I'm not single and there can't be any form of relationship between us. My chat with them is normal even though sometimes we chat and say I miss you and I miss your company and other stuff. I don't even know how he reads and understands those messages and I don't know the impression he has created about me but he makes me feel I'm the worst embodies person. This thing he is doing is really
making me feel bad. We know each other's passwords so I don't think it's right for him to keep doing that. I really don't like it and it's and this time around it really has broken me and I feel so stupid. Sometimes I chat with people and delete the messages because when he sees it he'll make a big deal out of it. I decided to delete those messages because I don't need them on my phone. And that's one to. Yes. Issues with it.
I'm in the university and of course some lecturers, students and other people who make advances at me because of my body type. I explain everything to him, but still. OK. Yeah. What should I do now? Please advise me. You see, an insecure man is an insecure man. Just so you know, you can do everything in this world. Yeah. And you will still be the same. That's how he's going to be. It's a cancer, that thing. It's a cancer.
Like not literal cancer, but I think it's the cancer of illusions, Insecurity in the sense that it eats you up. It goes to places, your brain, your stomach, your appetite, everything. Then it messes with you and destroys something good I've been building. So my dear you 2, don't entertain people. If you want to keep that relationship, then don't entertain anybody. Don't. It means that you can't make friends. It means that you can't have friends.
Are you ready to live your life like that with someone like that? It's, it's a crazy situation. Think about it. If you can't be with somebody like that, go ahead and be with him. But if you can't, you don't stay because of all the other benefits you are getting. Because you see, that's the exchange of business services you're going to gain. You understand you're collecting things and he's not correct. So choose what? OK? Dear Akia, I'm a student of Umat Takwa and will be in level 200
next year, God willing. I live in an apartment. The thing is I have a girlfriend who stays at La Paz. She lives with someone as a house girl and she's like she wants to stop her job and move to stay with me in Taqwa. That's next year. At first she told me it was cool but I have been thinking of some things. You know in life we don't wish for bad things to come our way but bad things happen. So I was wondering what if something happens to her at my place, who am I going to tell or
call? I love this girl and I don't have a problem with her coming to stay with me. So please can you show an idea what you think I should do this thingy? It's I like the fact that you are not just thinking about the fact that Oh my goddess, come stay with me. There'll be you know, unlimited sex, there'll be unlimited, you know, food, unlimited lovey dovey stuff. But you're thinking about what
if something happens to him? What is in the middle of the night or who said I'm coming to snatch here? What are you going to tell her family, her people? They will let you sleep by their corpse. You know that thing. Where is the account people that do who straight tribe when somebody they are dating dies, especially in your house, especially for the men. Say the person dies in your house.
Why she cried? They will prosecute you for murder on top of it because they don't really know what your day now 2 when we come to the traditional side normal cocina, I can see you sleep by the way to bury it. You sleep by the crops for three days before they do some memory. Do you have that topical drop? You know, all those things come in, but I think normally what the family says that if you want her to be living with you, then you have to do something on her
head. And I'm pretty sure that you're not in a place. Let me 200 you are not in a place to when to wear and do something on a woman's head. So my dear, whatever it is, I need you to have a realistic conversation with a girl. Let's you understand what's at stake. Do you understand? Don't, don't take a chakra 'cause as you know, anything can happen at any time. Yeah, I'm almost 28 years old, working as a security personnel and my boyfriend is also a
personnel. We've been dating for a couple of months now. We look OK, but not that OK. He doesn't come to my place, I go there when I'm off work. I do support him when he needs my help from sending him money for groceries but sometimes feel like he doesn't love me. I like the way I love him from my places. This is like 4 hours drive but I still go. I cook, clean and wash as if we are married.
But when he gets the chances I get from work he hardly and comes to see me or even say I'm sorry to me when he is at fault. The painful thing is he entertains some girl on WhatsApp which I have seen some of his chats and I complain. He said that that's him, he is filled with them and nothing more. When I talk about things that I'm not happy about, he says I complained too much. I have changed. When I take new photos I send them to him just for him to admire but he just looks and
says nothing. I complain about that. She doesn't like you. Sorry he doesn't like you my dear, you have written plenty here. He doesn't like you. You deserve more than anything for all the things you do for him. You cook, clean, wash for him and common compliments you can get. And he does something that you talk about. You entertain other people and talk about. You say your whole cleaning is this love. So this is love.
Hey that no, you're 28. Don't entertain this rubbish or somebody's come and stress you because of love. Hey, no he doesn't, OK? He doesn't love you. He doesn't even like you. Let's love it. Let's love it dear. I'm a guy of 24 years. When I was 19 I met a lady and let's go home. I realized she was interested in me but I told her I wasn't ready and still healing from a previous relationship. She is very caring and understood me.
But one thing led to the other. We had sex even though we're not dating so so you people can lead to 1 limited lead to the other. It has sex once you have plans that you will never date. What kind of lead to the other is that's one though we were not dating so it was like friends with benefit. I moved from that area and we lost contact. Five years later, I'm not in my final year in the university and currently dating a lady. Let's go here.
She's in level 300 and been dating for 2 1/2 years now. Yeah, is some way. One moment she's acting like I'm her wealth, another moment she behaving like an angry possessed person towards me. I know they do sometimes get mood swings so I just ignore her when she's acting that way. What? Our parents are aware of our relationship and even her mom sometimes sends me stuff from abroad. Fast forward, I'm at the friend
with benefit. Got my number from a friend and now she wants a relationship with me. I told her I were acquainted with someone and now dating the person. She understood. But sometimes she brings up the idea of dating and even uses the shagging that occurred between us as a weapon against me saying I used it. I don't think I used it because we both agreed to have the sex and nothing else and moreover, she's now with one kid and that's one of my red flags.
For me. The lady is very caring and supportive but the depth of my feelings for her is superficial and I don't want to give him vanity hopes. My girlfriend Yao on the other hand is not caring and supportive as AMA but I feel like since our parents are involved, I shouldn't just end things with her like that. Plus, her mom really likes me and even queries my opinions and decisions sometimes when it comes to her daughter.
I'm really discombobulated because in my mind, Amma is a very supportive and caring person for a wife. But my heart is for ya. My mom also loves it. What should I do? You see, in all that you have said here, you kept saying this person loves this, this person loves that. It wasn't really about you. It feels like you're looking about you're looking at everybody from the outside by not yourself.
The only time you said my heart is foyer is towards the end, but you had given lots of you know this person is my dear. What do you want? That's the thing. What do you want? You clearly stated that someone with a child is a red flag for you. So why do you want to go back on your red flag? Oh, you think that's all the other qualities that you mentioned of her, you know, covers for the one child that she has? I mean, what exactly do you want
as a person? Look at it that way and sit within yourself and assets what you want and move on. Thank you very much for watching this particular episode. It's been a lot, but I hope you enjoyed it. I'll see you in the next episode, which will be coming. I mean this weekend, I couldn't bring you a lot because I have I wasn't feeling well. So I posted on Tuesday alone.
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