In a Ghanaian, you know, we will say it's a mechanic playing in it, playing far. Any woman that wants an unavailable man is broken. When you you you're about to date somebody. Please check your genotype. If she can play someone, she can play you to what's so special about you that she can play you dude? So do you my dear, but no that a lot of the times the things that you do is a reflection of the kind of person that you are. We're back again with another exciting episode of the Few
Report cast. You're going to read some confessions or some dilemmas and then talk about them. My name is Nanukya Depar. And then every day I say that in as much as you didn't send a story does not mean that you would not resonate with one or two of the stories and use a few of the opinions I will be giving to you in the comment section.
So please share for other people to also have access to it just like you have access to it. Now, before I get into this, you know, this particular episode, listen, I'm sad. I'm sad because on Saturday, right? The Saturday episode I posted in the snippet, there was an angle where I was talking about intentionality from people. I live in gender specify it, you know, intentionally. I just spoke about it in in a sense that people should be intentional about dating people. They should stop being
nonchalant. And I'm sad because it looks like our generation of men seem to think that women like and want nonchalant men. This may just be my opinion, but I'm going to say the street in the Ghanaian, you know, we will say it's a mechanic plane, an airplane farm. Any woman that wants an unavailable man is broken, is
damaged emotionally. That person needs to go and see a therapist and find solutions to their problems because I tell you that men that are emotionally unavailable are straining and draining to be with any young lady that is OK dating a man that is nonchalant. A man that is emotionally unavailable has a problem. I've said what I've said and I said before if it's just my opinion, I mean, it's just my opinion, but I strongly stand in it.
And my sisters that actually agree with me, please come into the comments section. Let's talk about sense. Let's let's, let's, let's talk about sensible women, women that actually have sense and know what they want in life. Not all these broken women, I mean all of us are broken one way or the other. But to think that in your life, an unavailable man and one silence man is who you want to be with for the rest of your life, then something is wrong with you. We need to get you checked.
Seriously. Now let's get into this episode or this session. Let me get straight by saying that if they posted it on social media. If they posted it on social media, if they posted it on social media, then they made it our business. And since they made it our business, we're gonna make it
our business. When I say this, I'm basically trying to say that yeah, they posted it and so we're gonna talk about it. The fact that they sent it to me does not mean that I will be disrespectful about it. I will not be, I will not be disrespectful, but I'm going to tell you what I think about whatever you're sending me. If I need to be hard on you, I will be hard on you. If I need to be soft, I will be soft. All right, so let's get straight into it, dear.
Keep me anonymous. I don't even know where to start from. I've been dating my mom for six years now. Yeah, when I met him, I made him understand that I'm a sickle cell patient with genotype SC, so you should check his before anything happens between us. But he convinced me that he isn't having any sickle cell disorder because there hasn't been any day that he has experienced any pains in his arms or legs before. So I agreed to be with him for the past six years.
He's the only man I know because of my condition. I don't want to be sleeping elsewhere because of my condition. Again. Any small thing makes me get crisis only for me to know that is also a sickle cell carrier with genotype. As as I'm typing I'm in tears. He said he doesn't care about the status and we can still get married. But OK. I know how painful the sickness is. I can't let my children suffer the way I am suffering and he is the only man I have ever known.
He's scaring, genuine and he loves me and I love him too. I don't know what to do I'm in a deep mess. Please I need your opinion and your followers too. I will be in the comments section. Oh Lord have mercy. Lord have mercy. That is why, you see, I liked that you were asserting that he should check it. I can't sit here and be judgmental and say that's leaving, leaving, leaving.
But there's been lots of awareness about genotype issues and the effects of genotype with genotype issues when it has to come with children. And I like that she said that your children must not go through this because you know the pain. Now you need to make a logical decision here. Don't think about just the emotions about how you love him. Is there a possibility? I don't think there's a possibility because both of you
are carriers. So there's no way that it will be like, OK, because maybe one person is carrying, there's a chance that the child will not be carrying. But because both of you are carrying, I may not have all the details, but I'm assuming that the child may, may, may also carry. So as you're thinking about the future of your children are like that, let it be like that and make a decision that will be beneficial to your children, not just you right now. Don't just think about how you
feel now, OK? I mean, at least that's what I think. But the comment section should also let us know what they think. This is extremely sad. Let me just use the opportunity to say that when you, you you're about to date somebody, please check your genotype. Check and be sure. Even if the person said, oh, forget I don't have it, please check because this is evidence that's the passing may have issues. The passing may carry it too. But because of the fact that they want you, they will
probably lie to you. So let them check and maybe be there to to get what you need to get to be able to, you know. Yeah, that's. How? It that's how it dear it can. I have a boyfriend who is 30 but mind you my boyfriend doesn't look his age. This guy has been so good to me ever since we met that I felt he was sent to help me. My parents have separated, my mom wish to help me financially but she's not capable.
My dad also provides for my fees and who's still but I have to cater for the rest which I'm not working. This boyfriend of mine has always been supportive. He bought me a laptop to school my provisions, pays for my hair, bought me clothes and he assists me any time I need. He puts a lot of effort in this relationship. Apart from this he's gentle, calm, caring and God fearing.
Since we started dating he has not done anything bad, he's just been kind and he supports my dream and encourages me anytime my separated parents frustrates me. He's always been there and he's my kind of man. Fast forward I was sick one day and he drove me home so eventually he saw my mom and I introduced him. Two days after he left my mom told me he doesn't like him because he's fancy and asked me if he's rich.
Mind you my dad is fancy but because of his marital issues she said no daughter of hers would be married to a fancy man. I feel I love this guy and he's been too good to me that I feel that I shouldn't pay him with bad even not for anything. He's always been there for me, but my mom is the problem. OK, I will be in the comments section. What should I do? Should I break up with him or? I'm confused? He's good to you. Don't just jump and break up with him because of what your
mother has been through. Just not long ago I've had a very crazy experience about stereotyping, right? And I'm gonna tell you the hard way, a very good friend of mine said, Nana, I know that you've been through shit in the hands of a lot of men, but you need to take the fear out of your heart and out of your mind. And when a good one comes to you, you take it. And you, you, you enjoy the moment. And if it goes, SAR, it does. And you know that you've enjoyed the time with him.
But in this case, it has not gone SAR. It is good for your mom to even ask if he's rich is a problem for me. Your mom has a problem. You need to be able to set some boundaries with your mother. Recently, I think I've been having a lot of conversations with people about how to deal with their parents in terms of communication on my life in personal life.
Right here with stories. And let me tell you straight, the fact that your mother is older than you or your father is older than you does not mean that everything they tell you is the right thing. I'm not saying disrespect your parents. I'm not saying tell, you know, tell your parents that they are not wise. I'm telling you that they're human beings and they can make
mistakes. So if this man is good to you, has not done anything to you, please just have a conversation with your mother that maybe my father was bad to you, but this man has not been bad to me so far. So I do not have any excuse to just walk out of his life or ask him to walk out of my life. And if that is what you are seeing, then pay everything that this man has done for me. Every money, every expenses that this man has spent on me, give it to me. Let me go and give it back to
him. At least I'll pay him back for you know, I'll pay him back for all the money wasted. I, I'm people may come for me in the comment section, but I understand that the Bible says obey your parents in the Lord for this is right. And I your father and mother, so you can have long life. It is there, it is in the Bible. So don't go and disrespect your mother, but make her understand in a conversation that you think that the the advice she's giving
you is not right. I don't want you to regret in future and blame her for something that she could have done something about. All right, dear Ekia, I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 years now. We are now in separate universities but both in Accra. She's brilliant and I truly love her because I see potential and bright future. I took her virginity about a year ago, but she wasn't very into sex at the time. However, towards the end of 2024 she started wanting us to be
intimate all the time. Most of her conversations now revolve around sex and it feels like that's all she thinks about. She used to be very focused on her education, brilliant, but now it seems like she's addicted to sex. I don't want her relationship to go down that path and I don't want to lose her either. I really don't know how to help her or handle the situation. I tried talking but she feels like I want to ignore her. I love her but I feel like if we continue like this it's not
going to end well. She doesn't seem to understand that she can be with me anytime she wants but I want us to focus on things other than sex. Please any opinion. I need your opinion and I don't want to lose it but also I want to. I want to help him move away from this path. I'm concerned about her becoming addicted to sex. OK, first of all, some people go to a point where they want to really explore sexually in as much as is not really bad. It's also, you know, has it's
own complications. And I like that you're actually willing to focus on your studies and make her focus on her studies. Start by having a conversation with her. Maybe find an elderly person that can intervene between the two of you and have a conversation with her. I think just telling her that you can have me anytime is not enough.
But let her know that you love her, you want the best for her, and your thoughts about slowing down on sex is not for just your own goodbye for her own good too. You see, there's a downside to this. The downside is if she meets someone that is willing to give her all the sex that she wants, she will cheat on you. That's the downside of it. If she doesn't understand the conversation you're going to have with her, she may end up
cheating on you. So you need to thread really carefully when dealing with this. The conversation you're going to have with her must be serious but subtle at the same time. Maybe give her one and then after giving her that one, you can have that conversation with her. All right, let's love it. Let's love it. Dear Agrea, please keep me anonymous. I'm really confused about something. I've been seeing this guy for a couple of months and to be honest I really don't know what
to think anymore. We've been in a thing for a couple of months now and he has not asked me to be his girlfriend. I personally I'm not the type that doesn't like to rush things but months have gone by and this guy has not officially asked me to be his girlfriend. And to be honest I'm the type of girl that have men all in my DM but I feel like leaving him. I'm gonna be too fast to do that. I really don't know. Please give me your opinion. OK? Listen, open communication must happen OK?
When you and someone talk for months and you realize that the question is not coming up is it? Some people don't really think asking someone to be your girlfriend is important, but to some of us it is very important because we don't want along the line when things start going sour and you talk about it and he says, did I ever ask you to be like or did I ever propose to you? We really don't want those things popping up on us. So we'd rather want you to ask
us so that we would say yes. Even though we know that we already, you know, are in something together. You are banking on the fact that a lot of men are your DMS to live in because they are not. He has not asked you to be his girlfriend, but what happened to you openly telling him that? Listen, I don't like what's going on. I'm not comfortable that we're doing this without you popping the question of me being your girlfriend. And I don't think it's fair to any of us.
Openly communicate openly tell him how you feel rather than thinking that yeah, I'm young, I'm beautiful, there are lots of men in my DM. So I'm gonna walk away. What's if the next one who doesn't propose, you're gonna walk away on that one too? So why not communicate? Why not just speak to him? Why not just tell him?
Why not? If he's doing everything right in the talking stage, like consistently putting an effort to talk to you, like committing to you, it won't be hard for you to open your mouth to say, oh, my chairman, we've been doing this for some time now. We've not popped the question. And when he says that, I, why do I really need to pop the question? Then you can tell me that. Well, I don't want tomorrow you come and tell me that. Did I ask you to be my girlfriend?
Do you get it? So open up, talk you to your mouth. Ask, you know, don't ask him to be your boyfriend, but tell him how you feel. Let him know that you're not comfortable. Then jumping from man to man because no one didn't ask you to be. You know, it's Nah. I don't think it makes sense to me. I don't think so. That's why. That's. Why dear Aqua, please what should I do 'cause I really love this girl.
She has done a lot for me back then in school, she even helped me to attain the assistant school prefect. Please, what do I do? So there's this girl that I love very much. I dated from SHS one to three. She told me about this guy whom she claimed she's playing. I disagree but I never knew. I continued. One day she texted me insulting me that why did I send our chat
to the guy. I was confused before this incident she posted a video of her in the guy's room so I decided to break up but I wasn't able because of love. We settled that issue before this one. She blocked me and according to my sources of information about her, she stays with the guy. I was really hurt but she came back telling me that the guy told her. I said I don't love her and I'm just playing here. And the guy linked the phone to the laptop.
See, you didn't finish this story, but I can tell you points blank that that girl is going to be the death of fear. You're too young. You just complete anesthesia. I'm assuming you're in the uni, so there's no girl in that uni that you can go. And to say like that you are letting one girl do you like that Ogga, ogga Ogga, please, please. You better focus on school and if you think you want to date find someone proper in date and stop all this rubbish that this girl is doing OK.
She doesn't deserve you. If she can play someone she can play you too. What's so special about you that she can play you? Dude, that's. Why we? That's why we dear Ekia, please don't mention my name. This is what I've been going through for some time now. My girlfriend has been cheating on me for more than eight months now. This is how I caught her. I created a new WhatsApp account with different number which she doesn't know. I stole her for four months and this is what she does.
Whenever I go to work, she goes to the other guy's place and post videos of the guy on his status which I cannot see. But the fake account I create, I see everything she posts. The craziest part of it is when she goes to the guy's place she puts herself with a guy kissing each other and in the evening time back from work I force her to have sex with. I know she has already given the cake to the other guy so I have
also gave my part. I saw I also saw some naked videos of her and the guy on her phone she slept with often her phone. So all this why I see her to look like a hookup girl who I paid to fuck. On the 30th of February 2025 she went to see the guy. Sometimes I watch her and I start to laugh. She thinks she's very smart but Nah. OK my dear, I don't know why you're still entertaining her. Maybe you're doing that thing where when a guy finds out his girl is cheating, he just fucks her some.
If that's what is, that's what makes you feel good my dear, go ahead and do that. But understand that at the end of the day, you're not just, you know, messing with her. You're messing with your own self. You see, let's acknowledge something. I don't think I've ever sat here to say that every woman in this world is perfect or every man in this world is perfect consistently. You need to look out for your own self and not listen to people. Yap. About things that will not be
beneficial to you. I've seen so much on the Internet where men embrace that thing where if we catch you cheating, we'll be chopping you and they will go and marry someone else, yada, yada, yada, yada yada, yada, that kind of thing. You think you're just, you know, messing with her. You think you're just hurting her. At the long run, you are just going to marry someone else, my dear. Mentally, something is happening up there. Mentally something is happening up there.
So you're not you're just messing with her physically. Maybe the day she finds out you've married someone, someone else, then it will hurt him mentally. But you in the time that you're sleeping with her while she's also sleeping with someone else, knowing very well that you have loved this woman before this laughing emoji you have to see. We all know that you're crying inside you too.
So do you, my dear. But no, that a lot of the times the things that you do is the reflection of the kind of person that you are. It is not of what the person is, but you. So why not save yourself and that relationship and move on with your life? Why not, eh, why not do that? Because you men that keep doing them chopping this. And when I'm ready to marry someone, you're not just hurting, you're hurting your own self too. Really you are, you just don't
know yet. Anyway let me stop before do come and blast me. Dear IKEA, I need your opinion. It's about me and my girlfriend. So she said she wants me to treat her like a baby and be romantic to her. I try my best to be all this but it's like I'm not doing it well and because of this she almost broke up with me yesterday as I talk to her and convince her not to and promise to be better. Please. How can I treat her like a baby and pump her hair and also be romantic morphing?
I need your opinion. Be spontaneous OK? When I mean to the best of my knowledge right? Whenever I talk about setting things I say it from my personal perspective. It could not be what she wants. But I see romance in different forms. OK. When someone is spontaneous, be spontaneous is one of that that is planning a date. She doesn't, you know, she didn't see coming. I'm not saying carry money and take it to fast restaurants. And that's what we call fun. What do you call a romantic
norm? I think if you have a laptop you can buy popcorn. If it's not the popcorn thing you can buy yourself. You can buy the corn and come and do it in the house. If she drinks you can get a bottle of wine. If she doesn't you can get soft drinks, can get some sweets, you know chocolates. Lay a blanket on the floor. Lay a mat on the floor. Depending on your tax brackets, lay something on the floor, put some pillows on it. Sit down with her.
Watch a movie, watch a romantic movie, watch a comedy. What type of movie does she like? If you your finances are intact, one afternoon you can order some cupcakes for her with the sweet message on it. You know she wakes up in the morning, you've written her beautiful poem. All these things, right? They're spontaneous, they're beautiful, they're nice. If that is not what she wants, then I don't really know what type of romantic she's asking for.
There's that. There's the whole, you know, home date thing. One of the things I love, right, is getting a call from somebody that I'm with. What are you doing? Oh, I'm just home. OK, I'm coming to grab you. The person comes to grab me. Maybe in the time the person is coming, this is holding a bottle of wine, maybe some chocolate. If it's a walk that we need to even go, we just go for the Walkita chocolates and just
talk. If it's the wine, we sit somewhere, pour the wine, drink and just talk. If it's home, we sit down, conversate. Just you know, all these days can be termed as romantic. So what is your woman talking about? Because sometimes too, some people assume that romance is spending so much money on them. Some people assume that. So I really don't know what your woman wants, but hopefully I've been able to help. Yeah, yeah. Be a bit spontaneous and let's see how she responds to that.
Let's. Love it, let's love it. Dear Akia, please keep me anonymous. I'm dating this girl who has been my friend for a year. We started the relationship well until she told me that her ex's mom wanted to see her. Advised she doesn't go but she felt I was trying to control her. She later did not go but a friend of mine who acted like a guy in my girlfriend's name asked if she was less busy so that they could meet. Her reply was my boyfriend wants
to visit me today. I was left in a dilemma because I don't remember telling her I was going to visit her. When I confronted her, she got annoyed. Even before then I told her that what if she went to see her ex's mom and she asked them to reunite. Her reply was that I would have to fight for us. Whenever she does something wrong and I try to tell her, she ends up getting annoyed. I love her and I know she loves me but she keeps giving me reasons to stop loving her.
How do you know she loves you? When when when you say I know she loves me. What do you mean? Because think about it, your friend texted her, let's meet up and she says my boyfriend is coming to see me. And you know, you didn't tell her you were going to see her. Maybe she was just trying to blow your friend off. That's 1-2 or she probably went to see her ex's mother. They got reunited and that's the boyfriend coming.
And for her to say that you would have to fight for her, does it mean that there's a chance that she's going to give her ex, you know, an opportunity to get back in a life that both of you would have to banter? Not physically, but both of you would have to impress her so she could choose one. Which one is it, my dear? I've given you multiple scenarios. Look at this very well and see what you think will do best for you. OK, I'm here with something to think about.
And based off of that, maybe you can ask her a few questions. What she means by you. You need to fight for her. What does she mean by that? You could also request why she said her boyfriend was coming there when you did not say you were going there. That's another thing you need to be able to actively ask her what is going on. Ma, why is this happening? Do you give me? Yes. I'm gonna end it here. Thank you very much for watching the episode. It has been exciting. It has been educative and
informative. I'll see you in the next episode, please. And I'm going to repeat this again. Please share for someone else to also have access to the POV content. Because what we do here is real life. Our ultimate motive is to be helpful to people, to help people deal with the things that they can't, you know, process alone. That being said, recently it has become a routine for me that I get to talk to people a lot. Like somebody can just call me and say, hey, I want to talk to
you about something. Yes, you're free to do that. Just hop into my DM and then let's have a conversation as to how you can get access to me. And then let's talk about what's going on with you. Thank you for watching. I'll see you in the next episode. Bye.