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I think I'm actually going to be praised. To be honest, Grace will get you on the show next, but we can't wait to hear because it was a great wedding. Thank you. Forty dollars isn't enough? Man, coming up next, it's after this. Hey, this is a conversation that we had off here that we're now doing live on the show. Or our beautiful producer Grace produces this show, Holly Grace. Oh, the wedding bells, the wedding dong ding dong. She got married about two weeks ago, now almost three weeks ago.

Yeah, and we.

Congratulation be very in our little love honeymoon bubble and I hasn't burst yet.

Yes. Well, the thing we were talking about is because it's always weird after you get married, right, you get the wishing well and you get all the cards and stuff, and you never really know what's in there until like the day after your wedding, you sit down with your partner and you open those envelopes and then you know who of your family member is the tit ale married?

Who is that?

What happens?

Yeah, the next day when Matt and I got married, my husband we sat down the next day and you open up your wedding card and you're like, you read the beautiful messages. But then most people these days, most people don't give gifts, they give money, and so then you're kind of like, Okay, well there's fifty dollars from Nana,

Well that's where this conversation started because Grace was like, came into work after her leave she went to Fiji, and Grace, you said on Mitch like you were so generous. I was like, thank you so much. You gave me way too much money. I need to know how much is way too much money? And that too much sharing. I don't think I'll tell you off it. I'll tell you off. I'm or do you think how much do you think as we work together?

You two hundred dollars? Two hundred dollars is generous? I think, yeah, it was a lot more two hundreds each though.

No, no, I've only with my partner in a new relationship. But he doesn't really know Grace, so I'm not going to make him fork out you cash. It was more than double anyway, I just grab money bags. I love Grace and she works on the show.

Some people gave way too much money. Some people didn't give anything at all. Okay, whatever, that's fine, But it made me realize that I personally have been undergifting at the weddings that I go to.

It's hard.

I've been popping in like one hundred bucks that kind of thing, going yeah, that seems about right, and very few people gave less than two hundred.

See, I think that there's rules, though, I think that this is dependent.

It depends.

It depends on how close you are to the person. Like if it's someone who's a close family member, a best friend, then of course you're going to give more.

But I do you think you should?

You should probably give enough to cover what the food and drinks would have been that you would have had. If you're going to spend one hundred and fifty dollars on a night out on a Saturday, which that's a stretch. Not everyone is comfortable spending that, But if you are okay with spending that on a normal night out, that's what you should put in to an envelope.

On the wedding day, That's where my head was out. I thought, well, covey costs. Yeah, Grace, you invited my new partner, Steven, So I was like, great, So Steven and I it's two hundred dollars and there's no gift involved in that, that's just paying back our food. But then I don't I also don't know.

I don't know because I'm like, I want you all to be here. I'm happy to spend total money on you. So I actually, like genuinely wasn't expecting people to be so generous.

But it's also.

Cultural as well, right, because it depends on So I mean, that's very kind of you and generous of you. But then some cultures within weddings, the expectation is that you earn money from your wedding, and I think it really depends on whose wedding it is. But we for our wedding got everything from like a seventeen year old coffee table book that had obviously been in someone's cupboard for a long time to Missina Vouch, you've got a fifty dollars mescena.

From your wedding. Someone gave you a fifty dollars see about you.

You're kidding, which this is not me being ungrateful. It was delicious, but it was a random choice. But like also very specific, fifty dollars on.

Ice cream was unnecessary. I don't need that much sugar. I love ice cream.

No, no, I'm not really partial to sweets, to be honest, I would have preferred fifty dollars at a savory bake anyway you feel.

And then it was and.

Then it was cash and like other things are really beautiful. No, you got me a beautiful cheese board and serving set.

Oh I did? Did you bought a gift? ID? People don't buy giets. I'm traditional. Yeah, boy, okay, I think we need to open this to the country. Thirteen one o six five. What is standard for a wedding gift these days? Like gone are the days of a firma mix and you know, a bedspread, Like you need cash.

But you also don't want it. You don't want to be stingy and you don't want to be giving too much.

If you work in the industry too, I love to hear from you. Thirteen one O six five will take your calls. Next, real heated discussion. How much do you gift a friend, a coworker, someone that's getting married that in your life you've been invited to their wedding? How much money do you get?

Like what's an appropriate wedding gift? Because it's the thing that no one really talks about? Right, you kind of sneak it into an envelope and then you shove it in the wishing well. And how do you know if you're stingy or generous? Yes?

Where is the ball pip our producer here on the pick up? Grace got married two weeks ago. I've known Grace for years, so I gave her, like, like, well, over a couple hundred bucks.

Are we just talking about this so that you can like continue to like tell how generous you are?

No?

Because no, no, because this is this is why we're having the conversation, I didn't realize how generous I was. She said to me like that was too much money, and I thought, I thought, that's what you gave. Do you do that because you're expecting it back at your wedding one day? No? No, no way, never, no, no no. It's because she works for me, she produces this show. I don't want to be a bastard and give her a fifty bars. She also knows you own enough working on radio.

Anyway, let's get the calls, okay, So thirteen one oh six five, what has like?

What do you think is an appropriate amount to give it a wedding? Totally? All right, let's go to the phones. Sue on thirteen one six five? Sue, what do you think the standard is? How much money should we be gifting people at weddings?

I think for like everage people, the minimum should be like two hundred per if you're attending on your own, and then four hundred if you're a couple.

No, no, there's two hundred. Wow, Now I've been undergifting.

Why do you think that's suit? Why? Two hundred? That's hard.

I used to gift a lot, so I used to give like like three four hundred of if I was by myself. The last thing I went Toll, I gifted seven hundred because they were quite close to me and I was on my own and a lot of people were telling me off, like you give too much, and I was like, well, that's why I have money.

Rye, all right, everyone invites SUITI your weddings. That's what I'm getting from there.

Sue, what do you do for work?

Me?

I work for what wars online?

Oh, Sue, you you are so generous. That is such a generous amount of gifting.

Yeah, and I.

Can't like, I can't help it.

I'm just really generous.

But these days, like people for a wedding, they are paying nearly two hundred for you per hit.

Totally. I agree. All right, thank you sir. Good call Lauren hello. How much do you think is appropriate to give as a gifted.

A wedding depending on the relationship with the person, Between one hundred and one hundred and fifty per person.

See, I think one hundred and fifty bang on. I think that's pretty standard. But here's the thing, it's if they're a really close friend. Like the reason I gave Grace so much money is because she's a close friend. I've known her for years and she works on my show. You can't give someone like who works with you and knows what you do for a living. We're radio presented and not barristas like we have to kind of we've got to look after us.

There's nothing wrong with being a barrista. Lauren, what do you think is that?

Lauren? What do you think is a stingy gift? Though?

If you were like at your wedding, if you received it, you'd be like, oh, okay, scrap them from the Christmas card list.

An empty card?

Yeah, there's nothing worse than do you know what?

Almost?

An empty card is worse than no card because a no card can go undetected.

But an empty card, you know. I agree. If I got a twenty dollar note, i'd be I think i'd be offended. Orange twenty dollar note, I'd bit fifty, I'd be like, okay, but twenty I'd be offended.

So anything less than than an orange, well, what's a fifty that's brown? Anything less than brown? I think we need to get the opinion of a professional here. I'm going to come on, give a little call call up my girlfriend, do a little call so Kaya, she owns modern rituals by Kaya. She's my celebrant. She's also my best friend. But I don't know anyone who goes to more weddings than this woman.

Oh okay, Kaya, thank you. She did your wedding, she did my wedding. She's an exceptional celebrate everyone. She only does celeb weddings and she'll do any wedding. Okay, Oh she's got it now, Kaya, are you there?

Yo, I'm here, Hello, Hi, Okay, we're having a debate. Well, it's more discussion around what constitutes the appropriate amount to give for a present for a wedding.

Correct, And we've kind of landed on one hundred to one fifty is ballpark two hundred is a lot?

Yeah, but also we didn't really consider the whole concept of like, you know, destination weddings, Like there's there's other things to consider here, and there are other fashions to consider.

Yeah, so look, as someone who works at weddings, what do you see?

Yeah, well, I completely agree with that one hundred to one hundred and fifty per head I think is like pretty standard gift. I think if you have to travel for a wedding, you'd probably give a little bit less. But it also depends where that is. Like, if you're going overseas for a wedding, you're probably not going to give a gift.

A gift for an overseas wedding, I agree, yeah, gift at all? Actually paying to go over there.

It's expensive. Like if you're going to Europe. Well, we went to Philippines, remember that. Did we give them again?

No, we didn't, And then I felt really guilty about it. Kara and I went to a wedding together. It was my friend and I never gave her a gift, and I was like, no, but they have to expect that because people paid.

Do you got to travel over You've got to get travel insurance, You've got to pay for fly it's a combination. What is that?

Yeah?

What is too much?

Like?

What's what do you think is the maximum someone should be giving? And I'm talking like as a friend, not a relative or someone who's really close.

Yeah, I think on the higher end is probably about three hundred bucks ahead. But I've just realized I actually don't think I got your wedding present.

Did you give me anything?

You talk?

I think my servants were your gift.

And I charged about fifteen hundred dollars, so I think I'm pretty generous.

To also do well to be fair modern Richel's by Kaya everyone. She's a great celebrate a gift. She is here. If that keeps someone giving, well, thank you, Kaya, thanks the investigation. There you go. I'm for this.

I think one hundred and fifty dollars is a good solid gift.

Then I want about three hundred dollars back Grace all right. Next on the show, Laura, I'm excited for Australia to hear what you're about to play.

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