You Are So F*cked In 2024 | EP 011

In this episode, Phil discusses the importance of perseverance and dedication in achieving success. He emphasizes the need to avoid mediocrity and challenges us to endure hardships and commit to our goals, even if it takes years. Phil insists that life's challenges are lessons to be learned and encourages us to embrace these difficulties as opportunities for growth. He urges us to not choose immediate gratification over long-term goals, and instead, break away from the majority who settle for less. Phil shares his personal experiences and convictions, advocating for a relentless pursuit of one's purpose, regardless of the challenges.

Welcome to The Phil Bohol Show, hosted by USMC veteran, mindset coach, sales expert, self-made entrepreneur, husband, and father, Phil Bohol. On this podcast, we don't just offer strategies — we offer a war cry, a call to arms, a challenge to rise, to break free from the shackles of mediocrity. You’ll learn the raw truth on how to break your limitations, scale your business to 7-figures, and level up every area of your life. Together, we won't just face challenges. We will crush them. Relentlessly.


Timestamps:

(01:15) - You Guys Are F*cked

(04:22) - How To Really Find Yourself

(06:55) - How Committed Are You?

(09:44) - Are You Ready To Pay The Price?

(17:55) - Don’t Get Left Behind


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Transcription:

[00:00:00] I would rather f*cking die than to do what mediocre f*cks do because they're too pussy to do anything about changing their life. 

I would rather suffer far longer on my hands and f*cking knees and show everybody what it actually takes to win, even if it takes me five or 10 years, I would rather do that than to settle for a mediocre f*cking life like the rest of the sheep in this world.

You have to understand, there's a different type of person. 

[00:00:30] There's a very specific element in somebody that you can see, that you can sense when they're winners. 

When they got that ember that they can turn into a flame, you know who that motherf*cker is. 

Are you that motherf*cker, or are you just a talker that says they are?

[00:01:00] What's going on you guys, it's Phil Bohol, and welcome to the Phil Bohol Show, where we have real talk about family, fitness, finance, and everything that would hold you back from leveling up in every area of your life. 

And more importantly, how I personally got through them. 

Everybody else in this world wants to bullsh*t you.

I'm here to give you the truth.

You guys are so f*cked this year in 2024, if you still let people and their opinion about you, your life, and your business carry more weight than your opinion about yourself. 

[00:01:30] I get it. 

Maybe the last part of 2023 was a sh*t show for you. 

Maybe Q4 was a sh*t show for business. 

Maybe this season was one of the hardest times of your f*cking life.

Maybe you've gotten hit after hit after hit, and sh*t just won't go your way. 

And it hasn't been going your way. 

And you've tried every f*cking move that you could possibly make, and sh*t's still not going the way that you hope and you pray and that you dream. 

[00:02:00] But this is the point, if you can get through this time, what makes you think you can't get through the next season, the next quarter, the next year, even if it is hardship?

Life is not designed to be easy, it never is. 

It's supposed to challenge you, because if life is challenging then you're not at the level yet that you think that you are in your mind, and you have to get past all of your f*cking ego and pride to believe that you should be somewhere else, no motherf*cker, you're here for a reason.

[00:02:30] There's a lesson you have not yet learned, and all you have to do is be present right here in this f*cking moment, and you'll learn it. 

It's right under your f*cking nose, but you're too worried about the what ifs, you're too worried about other people, you're too worried about things not going your way.

You not achieving the timeline or the results that you want right f*cking now. 

It doesn't matter about your timeline, the timeline will happen on its own. 

It's by design, but you can't do anything to manipulate it. 

[00:03:00] You just have to surrender to the fact that you're going to go through the sh*t that you're going through right now, and you will go through it for as long as it's needed.

For you to get to where you need to get to. 

But some of you guys are too worried about trying to get there faster. 

Wanting the end result. 

You're too f*cking impatient so you start making these emotional based decisions. 

Or you start self sabotaging. 

You start doing other sh*t. 

You start drinking or smoking pot to start the year.

And you're just like, “Oh yeah, I'm gonna feel f*cking good and pretty. And then, at some point in the year, I'm gonna finally take my life f*ckin seriously.” 

No, you gotta get to work right now, motherf*cker. 

[00:03:30] You gotta get to work right now. 

Every second, every minute, every hour, every day counts towards your purpose.

But some of you guys even f*ckin are messaging me right now that you don't know your purpose. 

You don't know what the point is for you being in this life. 

But you're not willing to do anything about it. 

You're not willing to actually go above and beyond for yourself to find your purpose. 

You're not willing to seek the answer.

[00:04:00] You'd rather read books, listen to audiobooks, listen to people that have zero f*cking reason to even say this is what it takes to be successful when they have not even been battle tested. 

You look at their life, they don't have a family, they don't have the business, they don't have the obvious proof that they've accomplished something with their life.

But you'd rather listen to them than taking the hard path of investing into yourself, figuring out a way to make sh*t happen so you can change, so you can evolve even during the hard times.

Here's the thing in the hard times is where you will find yourself. 

You're going to find all of your fears. 

[00:04:30] You're going to find all of the failures that you have. 

You're going to find all of your self esteem issues, your confidence issues. 

You're going to find all the gaps in your knowledge. 

You're going to find all of the f*cking kinks in your armor.

You're going to find all the reasons why you get unconfident. 

You're going to go through so much f*cking turmoil and darkness. 

But if you see that as a gift, if you see that as. 

I'm going through this so that way, I can see a mirror to all of the things holding me back from being the next level version of myself.

All I have to do is stop fighting it and just surrender to this f*cking process. 

[00:05:00] Listen to like the voice of God, listen to the universe, listen to life, whatever the f*ck you believe in. 

Listen to the thing that's trying to guide you versus trying to logically override with your small human f*cking brain.

That's why so many people in this world are lost. 

They are trying to guide themselves and lead themselves, but the truth is, you're not leading yourself. 

You don't have the business, you don't have the money, you don't have the fitness, you don't have the health, you don't have any of the sh*t.

[00:05:30] You don't have anything on your record saying that you should trust you, but you'd rather listen to you than listen to all of these different things in your life that are starting to align and all you have to do is walk the f*cking path, but instead of walking the path and really having faith that all of this shit is guiding you to your purpose.

[00:06:00] You'd rather say, “No, it doesn't feel good. It's not comfortable, so I'd rather go this f*ck off direction because I logically think, based on all of my losses, that's the best course of action. That makes f*cking sense.” 

Does that, does that make sense? 

No, it sounds f*cking stupid. 

That's why you're losing.

You're losing because you're trying to override with a brain that hasn't been able to compute success yet, in life. 

Yet you think that you know better than somebody else who is winning at life. 

That you know better than the, the higher power, the higher being that's guiding you in the right f*cking direction.

And you're just like, nope, I know better. 

Keep losing in 2024 and see how much that thought process actually serves you. 

[00:06:30] You have to understand, you have to be a student to this game of life. 

You have to understand that everything, every failure, every hardship, every sh*tty Christmas, every sh*tty quarter, all of the things that you've been experiencing the past few months, all of that is for a purpose.

It's to teach you a lesson you haven't learned yet. 

So that way you can apply it to your life and finally start seeing that change. 

You can actually start seeing that there's gaps in your operating system, your ways of thinking that's preventing you from getting to the next level. 

[00:07:00] Or maybe you just haven't learned how to actually commit to something for long enough to actually see life changing results. 

I see so many people try to change their life, try to go to the gym, January f*ckin 1st, “New Year, New Me, guys! I'm gonna f*ckin crush it! New Year, New Me! I'm gonna buy all the supplements, I'm gonna buy all the BCAAs, I'm gonna do all the muscle recovery things, so that way I don't get sore!”

And then what happens? 

Midway through the month, or the end of the month, you're f*cking gone. 

You pop smoke. 

You give up on yourself again. 

Because it's not the outside things. 

It's not the external things that's gonna get you the results. 

It's internally. 

[00:07:30] Did you f*cking commit this time? 

Are you finally ready this time to change your life?

Are you finally committed to the life? 

Are you committing your whole life to getting to this level, or are you just for right now? 

Because it's convenient right now for you. 

When you got motherf*ckers like me that are in it for life. 

I'm on a lifelong mission to win. 

I'm not in here for a f*cking day, a week, a month, a season.

I'm here for life. 

[00:08:00] And you have to understand, when you commit for life to success, to self actualize, to find your purpose, to live your purpose, that doesn't mean it's gonna feel good every step of the way, motherf*cker. 

It's gonna feel like sh*t sometimes. 

But that's what it takes, that's what people who win at life, and in business, and with their family, that's what we sacrifice to get to the level.

What are you willing to sacrifice? 

Or do you feel like some type of f*cking entitled motherf*cker, who just thinks that sh*t's gonna be handed to them. 

That if all you do is complain enough, that life, God, or the universe are gonna say, “Oh, I don't want you to cry anymore. Here's success.” 

[00:08:30] No. 

You don't rate sh*t.

That's what you have to understand. 

You earn the sh*t that you have in your life. 

And that is done through a day to day basis. 

That's waking the f*ck up early when you don't want to. 

That's doing and committing to the path even when you don't want to, even when it doesn't feel good. 

It might be f*cking raining.

It might be snowing. 

All of the f*cking elements might be going after you, but you have to stay on the path. 

[00:09:00] If this is the path to your purpose, and you know that if you just walk in this same singular direction for the next decade, the next ten years, you will arrive at a life that you couldn't even f*cking dream of.

But on this path, over the course of the next decade, you're gonna go through hail, you're gonna go through snow, you're gonna go through rain, you're gonna go through shine, you're gonna go through heat. 

Blistering f*cking heat, then you're gonna go straight into the cold, then you're gonna go into the darkness, then there will always be light and you never see darkness so your eyes can't actually rest, you're gonna go through all this sh*t.

But how committed are you to staying on the path? 

[00:09:30] How committed are you to not giving up because the seasons change? 

Because times get harder? 

Because you're pushed so f*cking thin you're redlining and you don't even know what the f*ck's happening right now? 

How much are you willing to commit to the rest of your life to your purpose.

I want you to get this through your thick f*cking skull. 

The thing that everybody wants to do is the thing that you shouldn't do. 

Did that go over your head? 

[00:10:00] The thing that everybody wants to do, party, drink, smoke, chill. 

Netflix all the time, not, uh, not doing the things that's going to help them accomplish their mission in this life, wanting to basically work hard for nothing, do things without intention, be a zombie in this f*cking world, just talk sh*t on social media and be trolls and not give any value to anybody else.

And do stupid sh*t. 

That's who you want to follow. 

That's what 99 percent of people do.

[00:10:30] And you want what those people have, or do you want what one percenters have? 

The people that X all of that sh*t that are like, “Ah, none of that sh*t serves me. None of it.” 

The excuses, the mentality, the, “I don't have the money?”

No, we find the money. 

“I don't have the time?” 

No, we make the time. 

“Oh, I don't have time for my kids?” 

Yeah, you do motherf*cker. 

[00:11:00] You're just, you're just trying to keep yourself busy over here so it feels like you're doing work even though you're not achieving results. 

Because you're so unconfident with yourself that you can't look your wife or your kids in the eye and say that, “I'm doing my best.”

Because you got nothing to show for it.

It's so much harder to be.

But if you do what the 99 percent of people in this world who are losing, if you do what they do, why do you think you're going to get any different result if they're all losing? 

You will be the next loser in line. 

Just understand that if you want to be a winner, you have to do the opposite of what everybody else is doing.

That's how you win at this game of life. 

[00:11:30] If you see everybody running in that direction, and if you could just forecast that in that direction.

There's this huge f*cking cliff that everybody's just going to fall down to and just fall to their death. 

You would be dumb to say, “I'm just gonna do that thing. I'm just gonna, everybody's doing it, I'm gonna go f*cking do that thing.” 

[00:12:00] It'd be very smart of you to say, “Well, there's this whole ass f*cking mountain that I have to climb that's basically like a wall. It's not even curved, it's a wall. And I have to somehow rock climb my ass over this mountain. That might take me five to ten years, but it's a lot better than f*cking dying over there.”

Why can't you have this mentality? 

Why can't you be willing to sacrifice the short term pleasures for the long term results that you want in your life? 

Why is it that immediate and instant gratification is more sought after than learning the discipline of delayed gratification and learning to put in the work even if you don't see the results for the short being?

Why is that not normal? 

Why is it so normal to just give up? 

[00:12:30] To just give in, to say, “Ah, it's too hard, I'm just gonna f*ckin settle.” 

I don't know about you, but I would rather not live a life where I f*ckin settle. 

Because, in my head, in my heart, I'm always gonna know that I could have. 

I could've done more.

I could've put out more. 

I could've sacrificed my comfort more. 

I could've figured it out more. 

I would rather embrace that pain on a daily basis for years than to settle for a mediocre f*cking life that everybody else has. 

Because it's so easy to live that f*cking life. 

Like, you just have to give up.

[00:13:00] You literally don't have to try anymore. 

All you have to do is give up. 

But I, I don't know, I don't know if it's just been my whole f*cking life, I don't know if it's because from 10 years old, life was taken from me and I never want to let anybody have command and control over my f*cking life. 

That if I ever lose anything, that's on f*cking me for not putting out.

I don't know what it is about this chip on my f*cking shoulder, but I would rather f*cking die than to do what mediocre f*cks do because they're too pussy to do anything about changing their life. 

[00:13:30] I would rather suffer far longer on my hands and feet. 

And show everybody what it actually takes to win.

Even if it takes me five or ten years, I would rather do that, than to settle for a mediocre f*cking life like the rest of the sheep in this world. 

You have to understand, there's a different type of person. 

There's a very specific element in somebody that you can see, that you can sense, when they're winners.

When they got that ember that they can turn into a flame. 

You know who that motherf*cker is. 

[00:14:00] Are you that motherf*cker, or are you just a talker that says they are? 

Cause if you're that motherf*cker, you have to understand, you're gonna have to pay a price that you weren't ready for. 

That bill's gonna come, and you're gonna be like, “Jesus Christ, I don't know how to how I'm gonna even afford this sh*t. I'm gonna have to put this sh*t on credit cards, I'm gonna have to take out a load, I'm gonna I don't f*cking know, bro, I'm gonna have to put my life on this.”

Because, it is your life. 

That's what it takes to live the rest of your life purpose driven. 

You commit, you pay with your life to it. 

[00:14:30] It's not just for the now, it's not just for the short term.

You pay with your life, that is the cost of being great. 

And everybody wants the results that the great have, but they're not willing to pay the f*cking price, and all it takes to win is for me to show up more than anybody else. 

So what does that mean for you? 

How are you gonna win? 

All you have to do is show up more than anybody else and you just don't f*cking stop.

You have to understand, this game of life, it's not a race. 

At all. 

[00:15:00] Everybody thinks it's a race. 

How fast can I get to the end result? 

That's not what the game is that we're playing, just so you know. 

We're playing the game of, who the f*ck can last the longest? 

Who can endure pain far longer than anybody else?

Who can sacrifice more than anybody else? 

Who has the mental fortitude to not break? 

Who has the emotional resilience to pick themselves back up when sh*t just won't work? 

This is an endurance test, motherf*ckers, because everybody's gonna give up at some point. 

[00:15:30] Somebody's gonna get broken off. 

And you got to ask yourself, where are you lacking in your personal development, in your drive, in your mental fortitude, in your emotional state, in your confidence, in your ability, where are you lacking?

Because if you fortify those places, then you will be the person that can stick around for the long term, the person that never stops. 

And the only thing that I've ever done different than anybody else in the world, in the industry that I'm in. 

Any of it is I just never f*cking stopped. 

[00:16:00] I chose to keep going and take the hard path, even if I don't see results because I'm just going to keep going because I can see mediocrity.

I can see working a corporate job again and just hating my f*cking life. 

I remember what it was like to commute two to four hours, depending on f*cking traffic, to go to work. 

[00:16:30] That is so easy to be a f*cking robot and a zombie and just say, “Hey, I f*cking settled for a sh*tty life. I settled to work a job where I can barely afford sh*t, to go home just to drink because I'm a f*cking alcoholic now, and to smoke weed because that's all I can do to make myself feel better.”

And that could be Anybody's life.

It's so easy to live that life. 

Like crack heads could live that life. 

They don't even make money and they can live that life. 

And you want to settle for that life versus doing what needs to be done for you to win at this game. 

And all you have to do is reinforce different parts of yourself that are breaking every time you're challenged.

You have to understand, you will be challenged on the path to greatness. 

[00:17:00] The question is, are you willing to do what motherf*ckers like me are willing to do? 

Are you willing to do what motherf*ckers like me are willing to sacrifice? 

The price we're willing to pay. 

The life commitment that I have to this mission.

You might talk a big game, but let me see it. 

You understand the difference between me and you? 

You could be. 

You probably have that ember. 

You can probably turn it into a flame, but will you? 

That's the question. 

[00:17:30] Every year, since I started this journey, 2018, 2019, f*ck, this started when I was 13 years old.

My first business. 

F*ck, this started when I was 10 years old, when I lost everything, and I chose to never lose anything again. 

As long as it was in my control. 

Everything is in my control now. 

So everything that I lose, that's on me. 

That's when I know nobody else took it from me, I lost it. 

And I also made a decision that I would never lose anything again.

Not if I have anything to say or do about it, cause you know I'm gonna f*cking put out. 

Who are you? 

[00:18:00] In this next year, I want you to ask yourself that very powerful question, “Who the f*ck are you? Who are you meant to be? Who do you say you are, but who actually are you? What are the actions that you take that actually clearly define who you are and who the f*ck you're not?”

Because if you spend 2024 just being a talker, just understand nothing's going to change for you. 

2023 is the same thing. 

2024 will be the same. 

2025, the rest of your f*cking miserable life will be the same. 

[00:18:30] Unless this year you actually choose to decide to be a different person, a different operator in your life and in business.

You commit to being that person, no matter if shit is going your way or not, if it's rain, if it's shine, if it's hail, if it's snow, if it's dark, if it's f*cking blistering heat, you're committed to the path for life. 

And when everything starts going against you, making absolutely no excuses as to why you will not succeed, that is the formula to success.

I teach this to my people all the time. 

[00:19:00] Those are the three things that if you do in that order, you will win. 

The only thing you have to detach from is how fast you win, because that's what breaks most motherf*ckers off. 

They're willing to decide to do it. 

They're willing to commit. 

They won't make excuses, but they have to achieve the result now, or in this time frame.

And if they don't, then they break off. 

Then it really is not having an excuse. 

That's an excuse. 

I guess you really aren't committed. 

[00:19:30] I guess you really haven't decided again, a talker choose who you're going to be in this year. 

Be that person, figure it the fuck out like the rest of us do who went at life and in business and just see how your life changes or by this time next year.

You will watch this video again, and you will see how your life hasn't changed, and how the rest of the world who decided to take action, decided to commit to it, and decided to make no excuses how their lives changed in just one f*cking calendar year. 

Don't be the [00:20:00] one who gets left behind, because you decided to follow the sheep of the world, versus finding who the f*ck you were meant to be.

That's the show. 

Don't just listen to everything I just said and do nothing with it. 

Take everything you learned, go out, and execute. 

Send it.

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