The Paws and Reflect podcast

2025 update: I moved the Paws and Reflect blog to Substack. Some of my voiceover posts, where I read essays aloud, will now be available as podcast episodes. All our old conversations will stay live! Original description, 2022: Haley and Sean reflect on life with our delightful (and delightfully weird) blue heeler Scout. Since adopting her in 2019, we’ve trained through fear-based dog reactivity, fostered multiple shelter dogs, dealt with idiopathic epilepsy, and navigated so many ups and downs in between. In January 2023 we hit the road for full-time van life! We hope our blunders and realizations can encourage fellow dog lovers. Find us at pawsandreflect.blog and @paws.andreflect on Instagram.

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15: Dog Training & Ownership Phrases That are Both True and Not True (aka "Semantics are Messy and Everything is Nuanced")

Haley and Sean run through a (not comprehensive) list of phrases I've heard often in the dog world — particularly in online training communities — that I think have merit (I see where they're coming from and agree in some contexts) but can also be reductionist (too sweeping of a generalization, misconstrued in unproductive ways, otherwise taken too far). So much depends on our personal connotations with different terms! We talk about: “Let dogs be dogs” “Let them sniff” “Dogs crave structure” “B...

Dec 12, 2022•37 min

14: Every Dog is Different: Honoring Individuality (While Still Generalizing Helpful Core Themes)

Largely inspired by our recent experiences fostering, Sean and Haley sit down to talk about how every dog is an individual even within a single breed or home or other group. While domestic dogs do share many overarching traits, they also each bring their own quirks and preferences to the table. When we make space for that, it can be so fascinating and fun. When we get caught up in expecting all dogs to be a certain way, though (often subconsciously) we can set ourselves up for disappointment, re...

Dec 03, 2022•41 min

13: "Should" Everyone Foster? Rescue Pressure, Big Emotions, and Multi-Dog Integration Thoughts

Sean and Haley sit down to talk about fostering, which is clearly very top of mind lately. I am absolutely honored to have inspired some people with dogs like Scout (fearful, reactive, otherwise not social butterflies, etc) to open their homes to foster pets. I'd love to normalize the fact that creatures can coexist without directly interacting — it doesn't have to be "throw the dogs in the backyard and they immediately get along" all or nothing! That said, it's also really important to me that ...

Nov 28, 2022•25 min

12: The Rollercoaster of Fostering a Puppy with a Broken Leg (aka "It's Okay if Things Are Really Hard Sometimes")

Sean and Haley are a little tired and frazzled today after some busy weeks... but we sit down to talk about our current foster dog, a seven-month-old puppy with a broken leg, and the emotional rollercoaster we've lived since picking her up on Monday morning. We cover: a brief overview of Mystic's condition and what's made this situation challenging, that it's okay to have big emotions and struggle with things (yes, even if you're a self-proclaimed dog person with high standards!), that I've neve...

Nov 25, 2022•52 min

11: Embracing Social & Observational Learning While Also Advocating for Our Dogs

Sean and Haley talk about social / observational learning with our dogs, how incredibly COOL and worthwhile those concepts are to explore, and also how they can fit into advocating for our pets. (Sometimes "showing our dog a person / dog / situation is okay" and "advocating for our dog" might sound contradictory, especially if we hear extreme statements at far ends of either spectrum, but they aren't mutually exclusive!) Some specific books that inspired these thoughts: Dog is Love by Clive Wynn...

Nov 06, 2022•34 min

10: Van Life FAQ: High-Level "Why"s and Some Build Details

Our van conversion will be finished in just three months! Sean and I sat down to answer some commonly asked questions about our choice to live in a van full-time along with a few build details. We go over: Why do we want to pursue van life in the first place? Why go through a conversion company for our build insteading of converting a van ourselves? Why buy our house a year and a half ago, and why sell it now? Why a Promaster? How is the van temperature controlled? How else have we set the van u...

Oct 29, 2022•42 min

9: Work-Life-Dog Ownership Balance: Nontraditional Career Changes, Guilt, Self Care

Sean and Haley talk about balancing work, dog ownership, and other responsibilities with self care and messy emotions — specifically in the context of working from home. It's been easy for me to feel like a remote work schedule should automatically mean my days are more productive (I don't have a commute to drain my time, I'm with Scout for more of the day so can fit in short frequent play sessions, etc) especially now that I've gone out on my own with a more flexible schedule. On the one hand? ...

Oct 23, 2022•52 min

8: Balancing the "Magic" of the Dog-Human Bond with Science & Critical Thinking

Sean and Haley talk about embracing the mythical magic of our relationship with Scout (how incredible is it that we harmoniously share life with a creature of a whole different species?!) while also staying rooted in an accurate perception of what makes our cattle dog, well, a dog . Sometimes we see animal lovers delving into "folk nonsense" and expecting unfair things from their companions (or creating potentially dangerous situations by assuming our pets automatically understand societal norms...

Oct 21, 2022•47 min

7: Dog Sports Deep Dive (Why Don't We Do Them?) and Internet Messiness

Sean and Haley talk about dog sports, inspired by a thoughtful friend's question of if not participating in them has ever been at all uncomfortable as a voice in the online dog community (or if we've ever been made to feel weird by others in the space). We discuss why we don't do organized dog sports with Scout (just personal preference and lifestyle!), whether or not we are "against" them (absolutely not!), some things we've observed about different dog sports communities as outsiders (many awe...

Oct 15, 2022•46 min

6: Myths and Generalizations That Hurt Me as a New Dog Owner

Sean and Haley sit down to chat through some dog ownership myths and generalizations that have personally affected life with Scout. I've felt a lot of internal conflict on different topics, especially in my first year with her — and across-the-board, contradictory statements from different trainers and friends and family members fueled much of that turmoil. We talk about: The false idea that "good dogs have to love other dogs and people" It's not "all in how you raise them" and the nuance of nat...

Oct 12, 2022•49 min

5: Not Having Kids: Parallels to Dogs, Species Differences, Individuality

A while ago I answered an "ask me anything" question on our Instagram story saying that no, Sean and I do not want human kids. I was completely floored at the number of messages — and diversity of responses — I received. So Sean and I sat down to dig into the topic further! We explore ways that dogs and kids do feel very similar to us, ways they're different, if having Scout fills the "role" of a kid for us at all, and some other nuance along the way. Some links: Strange Planet comic I reference...

Oct 09, 2022•55 min

4: Training Evolution: Guilt? Asking Why, Honing Values, Comparing Our Life Today to the Past

Sean and Haley try to distill a massive topic into an hour of conversation: how our training has evolved over time with Scout and whether or not we regret things we did in the past. This topic was initially inspired by someone on Instagram asking us to discuss guilt about previous training methods and snowballed into an attempt to (at least at a high level) reflect on our journey over time. There's a lot to unpack! So many confounding variables. Lots of emotions, too. But above all, we're happy ...

Oct 02, 2022•1 hr 3 min

3: Fostering With a Reactive Resident Dog: Logistics, Emotions, Reflections

Sean and Haley talk about our fostering experiences. I'm thrilled we've been able to welcome new dogs into our home even with Scout's fear / social awkwardness / general discomfort! We get into some of our personal logistics to make sure every creature in our home feels safe and advocated for ( you can read more about our initial integration process with our first foster here ) as well as the many emotions fostering has brought about and how we manage our own human wellbeing, too. * Note: “React...

Sep 25, 2022•1 hr 1 min

2: Healthy Relationships: Our History, Communication, and Parallels to Dogs

Sean and Haley sit down to talk about relationships. We briefly touch on our history as a couple (I adopted Scout when we'd been dating for 4-5 months and she was just "my" dog at first), discuss things that went well and things we struggled with as we came to own Scout together, and make multiple connections between dog-human and human-human relationships throughout. At the end I share my very favorite (and rather morbid) way to alleviate feelings of frustration with the creatures I love. You c...

Sep 22, 2022•55 min

1: Our Very First Podcast Episode! (Who are these dog owners, anyway?)

Drumroll for an official Paws and Reflect podcast! This first episode is a quick introduction to Haley and Sean, our cattle dog Scout, and how we came to be recording a podcast episode instead of just doing Instagram lives. Take a listen to our previous Haley-Sean dog chats on Instagram at @paws.andreflect or read some of our writing at pawsandreflect.blog . Get full access to Paws and Reflect at www.pawsandreflect.blog/subscribe...

Sep 20, 2022•18 min

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