Trusting The Direction of Life

Ladies and gentlemen , welcome to the Pathway to Results podcast . It is your boy , dg . This is presented by DG Mindset . We're here . We're here . Before we get started , I just have to give you a bit of information to let you all know . Mindfest is still available right now . Right , go to wwwdgmindsetcom , get your tickets for MindFest .

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Now we can go ahead and get into the regularly scheduled program . Now I want to do this episode for you out there . If sometimes you struggle with trusting that things are going to work out , if you struggle that things are going to manifest themselves in the way that you had had planned and you saw fit , this episode is for you .

If you sometimes question the path that you're on and like why does it feel like I'm getting ? I'm moving further away from where I said I wanted to go , then this episode is for you . This episode is about you trusting life , trusting the universe , trusting God , trusting source , trusting the absolute , trusting Allah , trusting Brahman , whatever you want to call it .

It's about you learning how to trust and really what trusting is . So whenever I do an episode , I always like to think about examples in my life . So I'm going to just kind of give you the creative process of how it works . I think of an episode , I think of a topic and then I start to find situations in my life where I've experienced that right .

So maybe it's trust , right . We're doing an episode on trusting the universe and maybe I'll look back on my life and see when it looked like this wasn't going to happen , but then it ended up happening and then it finally happened . And when it happened , it didn't happen the way that I thought , but it did happen .

So that gave me more fuel to trust , more context to be able to trust , moving forward . So I'm saying this to you all , because you all have been through something in life that you had to exercise this muscle that we call trust . You have experienced something in life that forced you to have to trust . Okay , so trust is a little bit .

It's twofold , and I'm going to kind of break down what it is . In order to trust something or someone , you're going to have to surrender . At first , we got to understand what it means to surrender . In order for me to surrender , I'm going to have to accept . In order for me to accept , I'm going to have to stop denying . You see what I'm saying here .

You see how it's going . So if I'm going to trust , I'm really going to have to surrender to what is . I'm going to have to stop denying what is and start acknowledging that this is what it is . Am I going down the road that I thought I was going to down ? No , maybe not , but that doesn't mean that I can't get there .

My mom used to always tell me there's more than one way to skin a cat . There's more than one road that leads to the city center . There's more than one way for you to get to where you're going . Please , somebody hear me right now , because I don't think y'all are trying to hear me .

So trusting is you , surrendering to that fact that I'm going to get there exactly the way I'm supposed to , most importantly , when I'm supposed to ? But here's what the logical , egoic , linear thinking mind does it starts to think of all the ways of how it's going to get there , what it's going to look like , when we're going to worry about that .

This is the cool thing about being a co-creator being a co-creator , there is another creator , there's another part of you that is creating outside of space and time , and you are co-creating in space and time . But you also have a part of you that's outside of space and time that already knew the answers . It already knew what the deal was , as they would say .

It already knew what it was . That's who you're co-creating with . So that's why trust and surrendering was going to have to be ushered in . It was so you could get the lower self , the logical , linear , egoic thinking , mind out of the way and move into the higher self that existed outside of space and time , that already had all the answers .

So here's why I'm saying this . I started to think back in my life . I told you all I had . This is probably another episode , but I had a speech that I had to give four times . Right , this is my speech . Right , the power of perspective . And I talk about past examples of me . You know having this dream of being a professional basketball player .

I want to be a basketball player . Nobody in my family looked like a basketball player . Nobody in my family played basketball Nobody . I think my dad played JV when he was a senior , but that's about it . A little joke , you can't play JV when you're a senior , but y'all get what I'm saying .

But I didn't have anything or anyone showing me what this looked like , that this was a possibility , but I also didn't have anybody saying to me that it wasn't a possibility . So I just was playing basketball and had this dream because I just loved it and there was nothing saying , well , you can't do this . This was me in third grade .

I knew that this was a possibility . I knew that I could do this because I didn't have anything or anyone saying that I couldn't See . Trust is only needed when you don't see the possibility as being a possibility . Then I need to trust . But there was no trust there , it was a knowing .

And then , as life went on , I started getting indoctrinated and started taking on the social paradigms and other people's perspectives and seeking other people's approval . I started to move into the space of yeah , but how ? Yeah , but when ? Because I'm taking on somebody else's perspective , somebody else's linear thinking , and now I'm applying it to my life .

See , I've always had a big imagination . I've always been able to imagine outside of the box . I can tell you exactly what it looks like outside the box . I can tell you exactly what it feels like . I can show you all of the facets outside of the box .

Most of us , unfortunately , we only think about what it's like inside of the box and we never go outside the box . We never think outside of our paradigm . We never think outside of what we've been told we can and can't do so growing up , middle school , junior high , high school I knew I'm going to do this , I'm going to do this , and I can remember .

I may have told you all this story . I was 16 years old . I was 16 years old . This was when Vince Carter was at North Carolina . Antoine Jamison , ed Cota , all these guys I loved watching them . Allen Iverson was hooping . I loved all these players and I'm like , I'm like , I'm going to go play at North Carolina , I'm going to play at Duke .

And I remember thinking at 16 years old mind you , you're a sophomore in high school . By then you should be getting recruited . I'm like , how do you do it ? I had no idea . I remember thinking inside of myself , thinking to myself how do I do this , this ? It was still real to me , it was still a possibility .

Now , knowing what I know , man , you must have been crazy to think you was going to get there and you didn't have nothing . I mean no recruit , nothing at 16 . But even then , that's my logical , linear , egoic mind , trying to pull from past experiences of when it has already seen this before . So , as time goes on , it became real .

And here's when it became real . And every place we lived we lived in . I grew up in . I was born in Virginia , grew up in Maryland , grew up in Pennsylvania , grew up in New York , grew up in Louisiana , grew up in New Jersey . I moved around a lot Every place that we lived . We never lived close enough to a metropolitan city like a big city .

I didn't live in New York City . I lived in upstate New York near Rochester . I didn't live in New Orleans . I lived about 40 minutes outside of New Orleans , right . So I was never close enough . And where I lived at there was no basketball team . Good God , I'm trying to hear nothing . I'm saying right now . There were no NBA teams where I lived .

There was no NBA team in New Orleans . When I lived in Louisiana . There's no NBA team up in upstate New York by Rochester Buffalo . They got hockey , but there was no basketball . There's no basketball team in Maryland . There's no basketball team in Virginia . There's nothing for me to see up close .

To make it real , my mom did get us tickets one time to go see Michael Jordan because they played an exhibition game in the preseason . They were playing the Sacramento Kings in the Superdome down in New Orleans . I'm like , oh , I get to see Michael Jordan . I finally get to see Michael Jordan . Man , tell me why this man retired . Five months before he retired .

Five months before , maybe three months before we were supposed to see him , he retired , so I didn't even get to see him . I remember sitting in the nosebleed seats of this big old football stadium and Scottie Pippen and Horace Grant . They didn't even play , they just sat at the bench .

But my point of this is it wasn't real in my mind yet , but I knew there was a possibility . And then I had a coach in college Shout out Coach Bouchard . His good friend growing up was a guy named Malik Allen . Malik Allen now is an assistant coach for the Miami Heat . Malik played 10 plus years in the NBA .

At the time , in the off season , I went to go help out with Malik's camp , so in between the two sessions I was able to work out with Malik . Now , mind you , I'm a junior in college . I'm a junior in college , right . I just love the game . I'm still working out , right . Never even thought about playing professionally .

I just knew I didn't want to work in an office . I knew that I didn't know what I want to do . But I can tell you what I didn't want to do .

I was not about to be sitting here wearing a monkey suit and going to work all day and sitting in a cubicle and being told X , y and Z and get anything done , because I'm walking around talking to everybody , because I'm actually trying to get out of doing this work if I worked in an office , but anyway , I got to work out with Malik .

Now Malik's like 6'10" . He plays the four small like power forward . He can shoot , pick and pop right . He can do all that . But this was my first time ever being around a professional athlete . I had never been around a professional athlete . I never been around anybody who was in the NBA . Mind you , I'm 21 years old .

I'm 21 years old and I'm watching this man . I'm watching how he shoots and watching how he runs and I'm literally pretending this is me . Good , god , almighty , y'all stay with me because I promise you I'm going to tie it all together . This was the water that was needed for the seed to grow .

The seed had been planted so many years before , almost 10 years before , but now it became real because I experienced it . I saw it . I saw that this was a possibility . I'm watching somebody who's playing in the NBA and here I am working out with them . Well , if he can do it , why can't I ? Am I 6'10" ? No , but I can do all the same things .

Was it too late ? I don't know if it was too late , but I was 21 years old , but I still had this insatiable appetite Sorry , it's insatiable imagination . And now fast forward . I'm going into my senior year . I said I'm going to play professional basketball . I only got a year to do it . I got one more season

left . I said I'm going to do it and I sat here and wrote out a plan . Here's what I got to do . I got to get more athletic , so I started going to the track every morning by myself . I'd go to the track and I'd work on my plyometrics and I'd get more athletic . I didn't have no coach . I didn't have nobody to teach me . I would do it myself .

Then I wrote down how many points I had to average , because I figured , if I'm going to play professionally , I got to have attractive numbers . So I said I got to average at least 20 . I got to shoot this from three point . So I started to develop what I had to do and every time that I work out in the summer , that's what I was focusing on .

I was shooting the ball . Everything I did was with intention , so Right . So why I say this ? Because I ended up getting Conference Player of the Year Regional Player of the Year . I was an All-American , I was all these things right . And now it's time for me to go into these waters to try and go play professional basketball , right ?

So in my mind I'm like , yeah , I'm going to go make a half a million dollars , I'm going to be playing in Italy , you know what I mean ? France somewhere I'll probably get a Maserati , probably get a house and all these things right . So I had in my mind where I was going to be at this point in my career .

Right , I had in my mind I was going to be making good money playing basketball . I was professional . If I wasn't in the NBA , I was going to be somewhere close to it . And then I worked my way to the NBA here in a couple of years , right ? So this is what I was telling myself 22 , 23 years old . 22 years old .

I didn't know the process , just like I didn't know the process of how you play college basketball . Mind you , this was before YouTube . This was before recruiting services really Having Instagram . You could just post highlights . This was before that . We were straight VHS tapes .

So if a coach wasn't there , oh , and AAU isn't what AAU is today we weren't playing 100 games of summer . There wasn't no AAU . If you played AAU , it was because somebody asked you from two states over and they really wanted you . So now here I am trying to figure out now how do I do this , how do I do this ?

So I started to hear about these exposure camps . So I go to an exposure camp in Utah in May . School got out in May , a week , two weeks later I went to this exposure camp in May .

I'm like , okay , yeah , yeah , there's going to be agents there , there's going to be GMs from teams overseas , there's going to be scouts , and I go there and it's just me and my dad , right . And now , knowing what I know , now , it wasn't even . It was never about basketball , it was never about basketball . I didn't tell you why we went .

We're out here in Salt Lake City , just me and my dad , and this is the first time that we had ever really just spent quality time with just us two like this , right .

And he gets a call from one of his brothers and I can see my dad's face , I can see his face and my dad's face kind of drops just told that his younger brother , robert , who was a trucker , fell asleep at the wheel , getting on an off-ramp and he died . My Uncle Robert died . Now here I am . I'm in Utah .

Arguably this is the new part of my life that's coming up Now . I see my am . I'm in Utah , I'm at . Arguably , this is the new part of my life . It's coming up right Now . I see my dad . I feel his pain .

The baby of the family , this was his little brother who he took care of , his little brother who , when Uncle Robert was seven years old , uncle Robert got hit by a car . He was in a coma . He almost died then .

And now to see now he gets in another automobile accident Now he actually died and to see my dad's pain and I realized it wasn't even about basketball at this point Basketball , who cares about basketball ? I got to be here for my dad , so I didn't focus on basketball , like probably I needed to . I didn't play all that great .

We get back home Two weeks later . I had to go to another exposure camp in Richmond . And we get back home Two weeks later . I had to go to another exposure camp in Richmond . I show up and I'm registering for it . And this was an invite . Only this was only the best players from around the country . Now , mind you , I was a Division III player .

I was not a Division I , but really , at the end of the day , that doesn't mean anything . That's like saying , just because you're from one part of the city , that means you're not as intelligent as somebody from the other part of the city . That ain't nothing but a belief . So here I am . I have this belief that's subconsciously hanging in the background .

So here I am with all these Division I players that I see on TV and March Madness , everything I walk in . I feel less than , I feel inferior . And then the universe matched that energy . So now I'm registering , I'm at the registration table and the guy's signing me in . He goes hey wait , oh wow , you realize how big of a deal it is that you're here .

You're the only Division III player that's here . You had to be invited . I'm like dang and I remember I felt less than and I'm coming off the heels of my Uncle Robert being laid to rest . So now I don't play very well . I remember feeling scared . I felt intimidated . I felt like dang . I don't know if this is for me .

So then I had another exposure camp coming up in Boston . I went to Boston , played well . Had another one two weeks after that in Florida , went down there , played well , and I started to realize that a lot of these were money grabs . I wasn't getting any offers . Then I had another one down in Georgia . I went to that one .

A guy comes to me and said man , we would love to offer you . Man , I have a guy in Argentina who would love to have you . We have a contract waiting for you . But he says you know , you play division three .

You play division three , so I don't know if you can , if you look as attractive than a guy who played division one who , even if he sat the bench , division one , is going to sell more tickets than a guy who , division three , they never heard of . I said what ? So now here I am .

August Most people sign contracts to go play professionally in August , september at the latest , season starts in October and I have nothing . I used to go to the gym every single day with my mentor , slash coach , my summer league coach . His name was Phil Vigliano . Shout out , phil . I used to go to the gym every day , every single day , workout .

He trained me every single day , every day , with no contract , with nothing on the table , and I remember I had given up . This is where it starts to apply to you now in life . I had started to give up in my mind , but something wouldn't let me stop . I started to give up and say , well dang , I guess I can't do it .

I guess nobody in my family has ever done this before . This is too hard . I started to think of all these reasons , but something wouldn't let me stop .

I would still work out , I would still show up to the gym , I would still watch what I ate , as if I was going to somehow play , even though in my mind the mind had already conceded and the mind said we can't do this . How are we going to do this ? So , my good friend at the time , derek Brown , no-transcript .

I'm going to stay out of school and then I'm going to enroll back in school here the second semester so I can finish up my degree , because I still had a couple of credits left . We go to this tryout and I play well , right , play great , busting everybody , killing everybody right . Play great , busting everybody , killing everybody right .

And the coach walks up to me . I'm like , okay , yeah , he's going to offer me right . No , I'm only going to make maybe $250 , $300 a game play twice a month , comes up to me and said man , you are great , you are a great player , but , man , I already got my team . I already got my team from another league that I'm bringing over .

I'm like what he said but I think you're a good player , I think you should try out for this team , though . I can put you in contact with GM . I'm like , okay . So he gives me the name of the team . It's called the New York Nationals . The New York Nationals were at the time with the team that the Harlem Globetrotters played against .

Y'all , stay with me because I'm going to tie this in Yet another stepping stone . That seemed like he was moving me further from my dream of making money playing basketball , playing basketball . Now he's saying go try out , go talk to this guy . I'm like , man , I ain't doing that . I'm an All-American . I'm not doing this .

I'm not going to go try out for a team and be losing every day . That's what I told myself . See , right , pride had to go first , pride had to leave , but I couldn't let go of it . So now I end up going to meeting this guy named John Ferrari . He's telling me this is blah , blah , blah . Here's what we're going to pay you , all right .

I said , okay , cool , it wasn't anything . I spent most of my money that first year on buying shoes . That's all I could afford Still living at home with mom and dad , and every night I'm being paid to lose . I guess you could say I'm playing against the Harlem Globetrotters . I remember how much shame I felt . I remember how much embarrassment I felt .

I'm better than most of these guys , I would tell myself . And now here I am running around chasing them around . Why am I saying this ? What's my point ? Because everybody knows . Oh , yeah , yeah , you're a former Harlem Globetrotter , dizzy Grant , yeah , yeah . But nobody sees the backstory . Nobody sees the exposure camps . Nobody sees the nights that I was crying .

Nobody sees when I stopped believing that this was even a possibility . Nobody sees when I was showing up at the gym by myself at Princeton Seminary , it was just me and Phil Vigliano . All you could hear was the ball hitting off the rim and it bouncing on the ground . Nobody saw that , nobody .

Ball hitting off the rim and it bouncing on the ground Nobody saw that . Nobody saw you crying in that room by yourself , wondering if you were going to make it to the next day of life . Nobody saw that .

Nobody saw you when you walked away from that job , because you knew it just didn't resonate with you , because you knew there was something more for you in life . Nobody saw you when you were sitting at home , knowing that nobody ever approved of you .

Nobody saw you as being capable , but you somehow had an insatiable belief deep down inside of you that you could do this . But you didn't know how . Nobody ever saw that version of you . They may see you now on the top of the mountain , but , good God almighty , they didn't see you when you were in the valley . See , we hide the valley .

We hide the valley because we're ashamed of the valley . But here's what I'm telling you what the valley represents . The valley is where the growth is . The valley is where the development is . The valley is what's giving us the energy for us to get to the top of the mountain .

Saying to you is no , let's bask in the glory of being in the valley , because , though I walk through this valley of the shadow of death , you know how it goes . That valley was what preceded the mountaintop . So now I know what I know . Now , right , obviously I didn't know this back then , at 22 , 23 years old , I can look back on it .

But here's my point when I know the valley has a purpose , good God Almighty . When I know the valley has a purpose , I can trust , I can surrender to what is . When I'm in the valley I can trust . Whatever I got going on right now this is somehow going to play into the life of where I'm going . You see how this works .

So now I can look back on you and tell you every tryout , every workout , every time I was told no , every contract that did not come , every naysayer I had teammates who said , oh , you ain't going to play professionally . Every doubt that I had within myself . It still played a purpose in me getting to where I had to go .

So I signed my first contract with the Globetrotters . It was a 10-day contract . They wanted to see whether or not I could do it . They wanted to see whether or not I was prepared for this . Did I have the personality ? Mind you , the year before I played with the New York Nationals . So I was with the Globetrotters all the time . Wherever they went , we went .

Yeah , they may be staying at the JW Marriott , I'm staying at the Days Inn . I still have to be around them . So my point of this is this universe , this life , god , source , the creator , had put me in a position for me to get acclimated and know what I was going to have to do .

What did I have to be prepared in , what was I going to have to be able to do in order for when the blessing , the opportunity , came ? So then , a year later , the opportunity presented itself hey , you want to come try out for the Globetrotters ? I could try out for the Globetrotters . I make it .

But here's where I had an advantage over the other five rookies that got signed . This wasn't new to me . None of this was new . Yes , it was new being on the Globetrotters and having the limelight on me instead of being on the other team . But here's the difference I already did this . I already did this . I was prepared . I was ready .

So my point of this is this I can look back on everything in life . I told you the episode about the washing machine right when we moved out of Florida and we had the washing machine . Why did we have the washing machine ? I brought it from the old house to the new house and I shouldn't have brought it .

But then , when we moved and we went through the hell in the handbasket . That washing machine was what we needed , because the house that we had didn't have a washing machine and we didn't have the money to get it . So really , everything worked itself out . So my whole point of this episode is get you to trust .

But you can't trust if you don't know where you're going . You see , trusting can happen when you have clarity on where you're going . When I know where I'm going , I can trust it . I will have only trust . I have clarity on the destination . So for us moving forward in life , oh , trust was going to be needed .

Now you can use a religious context and call it faith . Right , faith was the belief that knowing that something was positive was going to happen . But really , at the end of the day , I'm realizing that trust is not an outside job . Trust is an inside job . Good God , almighty , y'all stay with me .

Trust equals clarity plus destination , meaning when I have clarity on where I'm going , and trusting is what will manifest from that . I had to trust myself . I had to trust myself . I had to trust myself . That means I had to be clear on who I was becoming and where I was going . See , we're all constantly creating new characters .

This is why we say , oh , he has good character . Yeah , he has good character , because that's the character in the script in his movie that we call life . But here's the problem we don't create our life . We don't create our life . So , because you don't create your life , you didn't say here's who I want to be by January of 2025 .

Here's who I want to become by the time the kids get 10 years old . We haven't said that . So now we don't have a destination . Because you don't have a destination , you can't have clarity on it . And not because you don't have clarity , you can't trust .

But you see what happens when you start to trust , when I got clarity , when I can trust on , I know where I'm going . I know where I'm going , I can tell you where , where you hear what I'm saying , I can tell you where I'm going . I can tell you where I'm going and I can tell you what it's going to feel like .

I ain't just get in the car and just start driving around . I know where it is . I know where it is . I know where the store is Winn-Dixie , kroger , shoprite , whatever it is . When you hop in a car and you say I'm going to the grocery store . You know exactly which store you're going to .

So , even when there's a detour make a left , make a right , make another left , make another left you still can trust that the detour is going to take you where you need to go , because you know where it is that you are heading . You know the destination . So trusting is us having clarity on where we want to go in our individual life .

When I start saying this , I'm trying to get you to realize that you had to create a new character . You got to create a new character for your existence , for your life , because that was what was going to determine the destination .

So when you say hereby , within 90 days , I want to have this mindset , I want to have this perspective of myself , I want to have this self-concept , I want my confidence to feel like this you see what you're doing now . You're doing two things You're determining the what good God Almighty .

You're determining the what and you are determining the where , and that was all your responsibility was . But this is what ends up happening , this little thing that we call the ego . Right , the ego wants to know when and it wants to know how . It wants to know when and it wants to know how , and that's why you feel stuck . This is why we get in trouble .

This is why we can't trust . It's because we're too fixated on things that you never had control over to begin with . I can tell you . I can tell you where I want to go . I can tell you what I want it to look go . I can tell you what I want it to look like .

I can tell you what I want it to feel like , but I cannot tell you how I'm going to get there and I cannot tell you when I'm going to get there .

That is why trust was needed , because the universe is going to fill in the gaps , and the gaps were how you were going to achieve it , how you were going to become it and when you were going to manifest and become it . Do you see how this works now ? So I can look back and tell you yeah , I play for the Globetrotters .

I can tell you and recite the story . I do a whole podcast . I'll tell you exactly how I became a Harlem Globetrotter . I'll tell you exactly how I became X , y and Z . I can tell you how , after I do it . So that's why we say hindsight . Hindsight , that means the sight behind your hind parts behind you , the rear view mirror is always 20-20 .

Hindsight is 20-20 . I will always be able to tell you the vision and the way it happened after I do it . So when you put that out there , when we speak it into existence , you say here's where I'm going , here's what I'm going to do . Better believe that people who live through the ego , who are unconscious , they're going to say yeah , but how ?

The world's going to say but yeah , but nobody's ever done this before . How are you going to do this ? This is when you politely respond with I don't know how and I don't know when . No-transcript . When you can do this , you'll be able to surrender , you'll be able to trust . I told you I'm going to be a New York Times bestseller .

I'm going to be a New York Times bestseller . How are you going to do this ? I don't know . I'm doing what I feel as though I'm supposed to do , but I can't tell you how exactly . I'll tell you after . It'll probably be a podcast , it might be another book , I don't know , but I'm going to be a New York Times bestseller .

And then I had somebody send me a DM . They said , yeah , but I don't think you can be a New York Times bestseller being self-published . And I said , oh okay . I said isn't this funny ? Isn't this funny that the universe , life source , god creator , is doing a vibe check , a vibration check . It wants to make sure that are you really who you say you are ?

So you can sit here and say that I'm healed and I'm whole and I'm enough and I'm worthy and I accept myself and I approve of myself . But life's going to quote unquote test you .

And it's not that it's testing you , trying to get you to fail , it's just trying to make you , just trying to get you to say and stand on business that I am really who I say I am and you'll know by the way you feel when you have this rebuttal .

So I knew that this was a vibe check and I said , well , I don't know , I don't know all that , I don't know all those details , I don't know . I'm just doing this because I know that I can . I'm saying this because I know that this is a possibility . See , what you have to understand is the possibility existed within you , the possibility existed within you .

It can't exist on the outside until it exists on the inside , as within . So without , so without as within . So how we trust life . We start to look back , look back , look back on where you've been , look back on where you've been through what you've been through , you didn't think you were going to make it , and here you are now .

Let that be a testament that you can start trusting , moving forward . Now , when I say trust , does that mean we sit back and do nothing and eat bonbons on the day on the couch ? No , you've got to have to do something and we know , by the way you're acting . It's going to show the level of trust that you do have that it's going to happen .

And here's the beauty of it Once you start to trust , once you start to trust fully , that means you have clarity on the destination , where you want to go and what you want it to feel like . Once you start to trust , good God , almighty , you ain't going to care whether you get there or not , or when you get there . You ain't worried about it anymore .

Who cares , who cares ? I know I'll get there when

I'm supposed to . I had an intention . I had a goal manifested itself . It took nine years . It took nine years and I wanted this so bad nine years earlier . I wanted it so bad , and then it looked like it wasn't going to happen . The reason why I let go of it was because it didn't look like it was going to happen .

See how life has a funny way of getting you to surrender . How many times you go to church and you pray , and you pray , and you pray . I used to pray so much . God would be like , oh my goodness , this dude calling me again . What does he want ? He over here begging for this and begging for that . I was praying so much . I altar .

They said why is that man walking up to church ? He got on knee pads . I'm going to be here for a while . I'm going to beg God for everything . God please deliver me from this . God please , help me , god please . So you weren't really trusting that this was going to happen . You weren't really surrendering .

So when you trust you'll be able to surrender , you'll know . See , when I surrender , I know that this is what it is . It's going to happen exactly the way it's supposed to , and this is how you brought it into your existence . This is how you brought it into your reality . This was how you did it . So trust that everything that has happened in your life .

Trust that everything that is happening in your life . Trust that everything that will happen in your life will divinely fall into place exactly the way it's supposed to . It will end up exactly the way it's supposed to be . That is your responsibility .

And here's what I found how much more enjoyable life is now that I don't have to worry , I don't have to get stressed out , I don't have to be like , oh my gosh , why is it not happening ? Why is it ? No , it's happening exactly the way it's supposed to . It's happening exactly the way it's supposed . Now .

I'm telling you this as a father of two , a married man , an entrepreneur . There's a lot of things that happened in my life that I could easily not trust , but I found that life is just a little bit more enjoyable when I trust , meaning I have clarity on where I want to go .

And then I kick my feet back and then I watch life do the other half , and then we start to marvel in these things that we call miracles . Good God , almighty , y'all ain't trying to hear nothing I'm saying right now . You realize . You realize that every time that you see a miracle , that was you just recognizing how it happened in real time .

See , when I figure out the how as I'm moving through . That's what we call a miracle . In the spiritual world , we'll call this like a synchronicity , almost as if I'm seeing it unfold in real time . I know how exactly this happened , I saw . So , you see , you didn't have to wait for life to get down three , four , five miles down the road .

So this is a miracle . So why am I saying this ? It's because miracles are all around you . They're everywhere . How you got to today is encoded into today . We find the how . Yeah , I did this yesterday and I did this and I did this . Okay , that was the how of what was created today .

Just because you can't see it , that doesn't mean that it's not there . So what's my point of today ? What is this for ? Okay , cool , yeah , yeah , we get it . D . But what now ? Give yourself five days . Give yourself five days , that's it . Just Monday through Friday . It doesn't matter , you don't have to do Monday through Friday , but let's just start there .

Maybe . Give yourself five days to start to become aware of when you're not trusting life , we're not trusting the unfoldment , we're not trusting that everything is falling into divine order , we're not trusting that everything is exactly the way it's supposed to be . Is it the way I want ? Absolutely not , but it's exactly the way it's supposed to be .

Is it the way I want ? Absolutely not , but it's exactly the way it is . Don't confuse the want with what is . I told my little nine-year-old daughter she would get sad at school and I said , hey , you know why you're sad . And she was kind of struggling with the stuff on the bus and all this stuff was going on .

We found her iPad and she was Googling private schools and all this and she was looking for a way out . And I sat with her on her bed and I said hey , I know you're sad right now and I don't want to deny what you're feeling , but I also want to help you to hold yourself accountable . The reason why you're sad right now is because you're denying what is .

You're looking at other schools , you're wishing for other circumstances . You wish life was different , but the reality of it is is . This is what life is right now . Will it always be this ? No , but this is what it is . And I told her . I said every time that you cry , it's because there's a deny . I said let's not deny what is anymore .

Let's not deny that this is the reality that we're experiencing . Let's not deny that this is the school that I go to , this is the grade that I'm in , this is the bus that I ride , and I asked her how school went the next day . She said it went great . I said yeah , she said I started to get sad , though , and I said why .

She said when I got on the bus . And I said what did you do ? She said I made sure that I didn't deny that this was what it is . Now I know what the ego is probably thinking . So what am I just supposed to roll over it ? No , no , no , no . We're just accepting that this is what it is . It's not that we're just accepting that this is what it is .

It's not that we're not trying to change it , we're just not trying to change it from the outside . Goodness gracious , see , this is where we get in trouble . We try to try and change life on the outside . So I kept telling her like hey , you can change schools , but you realize it's going to be the same thing .

You can switch jobs , but you see it's going to be the same thing . You can get another relationship , go and get a divorce and get another . It's going to be the same thing until you change the inside . I'm sorry if this is triggering , but until you change on the inside , life ain't going to change on the outside .

But I know we live through our unconscious ego and we think for some reason it was school . For some reason we think it was the bus . Then I looked at her . I said listen , I'm going to tell you something . I'm going to tell grandma's , my mom . She calls her grandma . I said grandma always held me accountable . I mean , she was always giving me my power .

I said I'm not going to let you sit here and give your power away , even at nine years old . I said don't you for one minute , not for one IO , to think that it's the school , it's the bus , it's the friends , it's anything outside of you ? It cannot be , because without you none of these things exist .

I looked at her and said listen , it cannot be , because without you , none of these things exist . I looked at her and said listen , you got to take back your power . And she already knows what it is the power of perspective , the power of how I'm looking at it . That is an inside job . That's happened inside of the vault , inside of the bank .

That has not happened on the outside . See , only the thief could come from the outside and rob the inside . I said do not allow it . You must be accountable for your emotions , you must be accountable for your perspectives .

And I said , lastly , I said you need to trust and walk in this energy of knowing that it will always be exactly the way it's supposed to and if it's not the way that you want it to be , sweet child of mine it's because there's something that you need to develop , it's something that you need , it's because there's something that you need to develop , it's

something that you need to work on , it's something that you need to practice on for you to evolve and grow and learn to get to the next iteration of who you are . So I told her , I said we're going to take this week one week , one day at a time . We'll go five days .

You may feel the sadness , but we're not going to wallow in the sadness because we're going to know why we're sad and we're not going to deny what it is and we're not going to deny how we're feeling . We're going to accept everything just as it is , just like all animals do and every other creature in this physical existence outside of a human being .

Now we're a couple of days in now . She's been . It's been smooth sailing . Now we're a couple days in now . She's been smooth sailing . So if a nine-year-old can do it , I'm sure you can at 25 , 35 , 45 , 55 , 60 . You can do it . And I know what you're going to say .

You're going to say it's hard , and if you believe that it's hard , then it will be hard , because hard was just a belief as well , and beliefs are what you will gain as you will process as your truth . So if you believe that it's hard , then it will be hard and that will be your truth and that will be what you experience .

So let's be careful how we talk to ourselves

. I walk in the energy of trusting . I know it's going to happen , it's going to be exactly the way it's supposed to be . You hear how I say that . You see , when I walk in that energy don't get me wrong . Now there's times when life comes up and it says , no , it ain't going to happen . But I still have to walk in that energy .

I still have to move in that space and say it's still going to work itself out . And I make sure I journal , and the reason why I journal is so I have proof . I will have context .

So when I get a little further down the road and the bigger storm comes , I will be able to look back on it , on those previous storms , and say I remember how I felt when I wrote this . I remember thinking how am I going to make it to today , how am I going to make these ends meet , how am I going to get through today with a smile on my face ?

And how am I going to get through today with a smile on my face ? And how am I going to wake up and do this again ? I can look back through that journal . I can look back in those notes and I date it . I put the time and I put the date . So I have context . I have a point of reference . I have a testimony to show . You've done it before .

You can do it again . So take this with you along this journey that you call life Trust , trust , trust , trust , trust that it will be exactly the way it's supposed to be . Trust that it is exactly the way it's supposed to be . Trust that everything that is needed along this journey , you already have it . You have it equipped .

You had your utility belt , just because there were tools in there . That you did not know how to use it did not mean that those tools were not in there . They are there . You have it all . Sometimes we just got to learn how to use them a little bit , and that's what life is doing .

So keep going , keep going , please Don't stop , keep going , please Don't stop , and I wish you nothing but the best on the pathway to your results .