The Children We Are Raising

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Once you see what you actually are , that you're an infinite , limitless being , you'll see that nothing exists outside of you . I'm your host , derek Grant , and this is the Pathway to your Results Podcast . Ladies and gentlemen , welcome to the Pathway to your Results Podcast . It is your host , dg , thank you . Thank you for being here , thank you for joining me .

As always , it's always a privilege , it's always an honor . You know this episode . I've been thinking about it , I've been studying my life , I've been studying my journey and seeing my relationship with my children .

Obviously , my children are getting older , but seeing how the dynamic between me and them as a father has changed and I can't help but notice that while , yes , they are evolving , they are growing .

I realize that , basically , these people that we call children are really just these vessels to help us continue to evolve , to help us continue to grow , and they're actually just reflections of our perception . So I say that because seeing my children and my relationship with them change , I realize it's yeah , they are growing , evolving , but it's really me .

I'm the one who's growing , I'm the one who's evolving , I'm the one who's healing . So now I see not just them , I see everything differently , do you see ? So understanding how this works is like . This is why I always tell people if you've got kids , do the work on you , please , not for you . At least bear minimum , do it for your kids .

Do it for your kids , because you're going to see your kids from the same level of self-awareness that you see yourself . Okay , so I can't see my child for what it is , because I'm really seeing my child from my level of self-awareness , and my level of self-awareness is based upon the healing that I've done in my past on my wounds .

So if I haven't done the healing , if I haven't come to the realization of why I am the way I am and how this actually pertains back to me back when I was a child . I'm going to unconsciously project this onto my child . Do you see how this works ?

So this is why I tell parents because people say , oh , it's hard , it's hard , you'll do anything for your children . You'll do anything . You will do anything for your children . Do the work on yourself , because your children are going to be the ones who end up reaping it . That's what an inheritance is .

Good God , almighty , I'm going to start playing with you right now . Y'all are going to make me go . It's too early . I just got started . That's really what an inheritance is . Inheritance you are giving your children something that you could not be given when you were a child , do you see ? So I realized when I was in a meditation .

I was in Tulum on my retreat and I realized that everything that I needed as a child internally , emotionally were the things that I needed to reconcile within myself so then I could give it to my children . But if I didn't reconcile it and heal with it and deal with it myself , I couldn't give it to my children , do you see ?

So it's about me doing the work on me first , so now I won't project the unconscious traumas and wounds onto my children and keep the perpetual cycle of generational curses . So the reason why I'm saying this , here's why I'm saying this the school system , the school system . I Used to sit here and blabber about the school system and they're not doing this .

And you know what the school system has . It has a job to play . The system in general has a job to play in a soul's evolution . The matrix has a part in it . Remember , it's all working out for this universe self-awareness to become more self-aware . So nothing is ever bad , nothing is ever good , nothing is ever right , nothing is ever wrong .

All it is is the cosmic pathway , the cosmic segue for Self-awareness , consciousness , spirit , whatever you won't call it to become more aware of self . So I started to realize the system is set up for you to be ego aware . It's not set up for you to be self-aware . This is what we refer to as the matrix .

When you start to understand what the matrix is , all it is is a set of programs To keep you ego aware instead of you being self-aware . So when I start looking at my children , I start looking at their curriculum and what they do in school . I see , oh , this is why you go to school for 13 plus years . This is where ego awareness starts .

So now my children over here wondering about their all of a sudden failures somehow introduced . They know good , and goddamn well you know such thing as failure . They know that when they leave the house and they gone for eight hours and they go out there and they're told if you don't do this , if you don't do that , you will fail . So guess what I learned ?

Guess what I've learned . I got to be so intentional . I Gotta be so intentional With everything that I teach them . I gotta make sure that I'm walking in it . I have to make sure that I'm leaving it , living it . I gotta make sure that I'm embodying it . I was working out the other day and I was . I was , I mean , I was going hard , you know .

I talked to myself I'm , I'm going hard , right . And I came and I came back inside . My wife she's like yeah , I saw you outside working out and I thought to my why do you , why do you work out so hard ? D ? Why are you sitting here doing you , 40 years old , you ain't gonna play again . Why are you doing this ?

Because I got to make sure that everything I tell my children to do or not to do , because I am their leader . For now , I have to make sure that I'm actually living it .

I have to make sure that I'm living it Because here's the deal if I don't live it , if I'm not embodying it , if I'm not doing all these things that I'm saying , guess what they're gonna do ? They gonna look at you , say , nah , may daddy ain't doing it , while listening to him and guess what not ? And now and now , who they listening to ?

They're listening to the system . They're listening to ego awareness . They're listening to the , the , the , the outside world , instead of seeing it from the inside . Now , this is a microcosm , right , but it's about you understanding it's inherently set up on the outside for you to be ego-aware .

It's never set up for you to be self-aware , never , never , is it never , is it ? So here's what I realized I had to go on a journey . I had to go on a hunt for self . I had to go . I had to go on a journey to figure out who I am in the unconscious parts of my , of my life , also known as childhood .

I had to go back and see what wounds do I have that I'm projecting on to my children . Am I judging my children , saying that's right . That's wrong . You better not do . This is it ?

Am I doing that from a place of the unconscious wound that I have in me that I had to be perfect , that I had to make sure I did everything right , because I was only pointed out , I only heard what I did wrong . So now I have a wound of a fear of rejection , a fear of acceptance , because I Want to make sure I'm pleasing , am I doing good job ?

And now here I am , unconsciously projecting this on to my children . I had to go , do that work . I gotta do that work . So now I won't keep the cycle going . But here's my point Stop thinking somebody else gonna raise your kids . Stop thinking somebody else is going to raise your kids .

Your kids are Actually what the universe use for you to get to these unconscious parts . So if I can use my children and ray and parent them and be and become aware when I am Unconsciously projecting onto them , guess what ? Now my children good God , oh my , my children become my teachers . They're my teachers . They're showing me , they're showing me .

Do you see ? Do you see how this works ? So I started to realize I Watch my children . I just sit and watch them . I just sit and watch them . I just sit and observe them . They probably like daddy , why you just staring at me ? Because I start to see , oh wow , I remember when I used to do that how I forgot , I forgot .

I became an adult and I forgot and I started to watch and I start to see , oh , my goodness , that's just when they're just sitting there . What about when we're interacting , when I'm listening , when I'm talking ? When they're talking , they're like little passages back to your past . So here's that , here's the , here's the big thing .

They had something , they had something in school called self , and it was basically to teach you to become more Self-aware . How to , you know , regulate your inner world ? And they took it away . They took it away and I'm like why would they do that ? Why would they do that ? Because the system's not set up for you to become more self-aware .

So now it's got to be my responsibility , but I can't . I can't teach you to be self-aware if I myself am not aware of the self , if I'm not aware of the self , if DG is not aware of the self , how can he teach his child to be self-aware ? You see what this works , see how this happens .

So when you start to become more aware of self in your own life . Now you're just going just a little bit deeper . So now you can teach your children how to go just a little bit deeper . Think of it like swimming .

If I'm trying to get my child to swim in the deep end , but I don't even know how to swim the deep end , how am I gonna teach them to swim in the deep end ? I can't teach them how to tread water . I don't even know how to tread water .

But the deeper that I go , the more that I learn how to swim , the more I learn how to navigate the currents and the waves of life within my own life . Now I can teach them how to go just a little bit , a little bit deeper . And here's the deal . We know good and well that our children they may not be listening to you , but they're watching .

They are app , salutely watching . This is why I'm telling you this . Here's why Because I'm using school . But it's with everything . It's with athletics . Look , I coach my son's 11 year old team going on the second year now and I just see parents Screaming at their children , screaming at the ref .

The stuff that they're saying is coming from the unconscious wounds inside of them . It's coming from this unconscious child that feels like it was never enough . So now it's mad at the referee . What the you doing ? Not calling that foul ? Why are you ? Yeah , you know why because you had put .

You had put your worthiness in the in your own child and now your child got fouled . So really you felt like someone's inflicting pain upon your Unworthiness and now you feel like somebody's against you , aka the ref , for not calling the foul . But it really has nothing to do with actual basketball . So this is why I'm saying this .

I started to realize , if you come and sit and watch me coach , you think that I don't even care . It's not that I don't care . Oh , I care , I do , but I'm aware enough to know . Now , is this the wound projecting or or is this the self-observing ? So I'm constantly sitting there trying to just observe what thoughts , what perceptions , what judgment .

Just yesterday , look , I was coaching my son's team and I knew the referee , and you know he didn't . He didn't make a call , which I don't care . I mean , I really don't care . But I asked him . I said yo travel , yo like why are we not calling ? Are we not calling this today ? What's going on . He just snapped , went off , went off .

Now I know him , you know , I know him well enough , I know his background , I know his childhood , I know his wounds .

Right , I could have easily gone down the road of the unconscious ego and said , okay , you gonna sit here and yell at me . Well , let's go ahead and get it in then , because I had already seen him yelling at parents who were yelling at him .

But after the game I said , hey , man , look , I just want to tell you , man , I didn't mean anything by it , I was just simply asking . There was never anything . I wasn't showing it because the reason why I was asking ? Because your colleague told me that he doesn't call everything because he likes to let them play through stuff .

So I was just asking you genuinely . But I realized that you didn't know that because you didn't know that your colleague had said that . Do you see how I'm not coming from a place of anger ? You see I'm not coming from a place of and I'm not saying like , holy , I look at me , look at me .

No , I'm saying the higher energy of compassion , of love , of empathy , that energy will always drowned out the wounds of the unconscious ego , not that one's better than the other . It's just the higher energy with the higher residency will always drown out the lower residency .

But in order for me to come from that place , I would have to be aware of self , I would have to be self-aware , and the only way for me to be self-aware is to go sit in those places that I'm not aware . And the only way to sit in those places that I'm not aware is to deal with the wounds and feel it , to heal it .

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Enroll today at LifeIsMentaldgmindsetcom and take the first step towards a better you . Do you see how this works ? I'm what y'all about to make me . I'm about to man , I'm about to . I have to just say this please , you're not just working on you . You're not , you're not , you're not , you're not . This is why it's so efforting , hard , so to sometime .

This is why it's so heavy , this is why it's so exhausting . It isn't just your life , because most of your wounds were unconsciously projected onto you by your parents and your parents . Wounds were unconsciously projected onto them by their parents , and their parents were unconscious . You see , and he keeps going , it keeps going and it keeps going .

So , really , what you're doing with you're dealing with you are healing generational wounds . It's energy that has been passed on over and over and over again . So now , the wound that you're dealing with is really the wound that your mother had , it's really the wound that your father had . That's really what you're dealing with right now . And then , guess what ?

You ain't just healing the good , god Almighty , and ain't trying . You ain't just healing the past now , because you are healing your , your ancestor , stuff . You're also healing your children stuff , because the future now won't be raised from the unconscious wound of the , of the programmer . Do you see ?

So now your children , your children , will go off in a different trajectory . They will be at a different residency , at a different frequency , a different level of self-love , a different level of self-awareness . They will see themselves good , god Almighty .

They will see themselves in a different light than what you saw yourself growing up , because they didn't have an unconscious parent projecting its inner child wounds onto them now . So now guess what they're gonna do .

Instead of looking in the mirror and questioning themselves , instead of believing the rig of a role of that failure exists , now they're gonna look at themselves and say you can do anything , you are capable . There is no such thing as failure . All I'm doing is learning . Do you see how this works ?

So hear me when I say this , because , the spirit speaking good , god Almighty , this is straight , coming straight from the source . It ain't just you . It isn't just you . It isn't just you . Stop waiting for someone outside of your house to do your work for you , and if it's triggering for you , I've got to look .

I gotta shoot you straight , just like my mom would shoot , shot me straight . Stop thinking somebody else is going to do your work for you . Stop thinking someone else is going to do your work for you , one raising your children to healing your wounds . That's why I try to tell you .

I try to tell you over and over again all I am is a vessel , all I am is a vehicle . I am just a resource . But I cannot do your work for you , nor can you do your work for me , do my work for me . It is about you doing the real work on yourself so you can give your children a fighting chance , to give them a chance .

So I let my son not to have a conversation with my son and my daughter all the time , all the time , all the time I let them know that there are times when DG or daddy gets scared , that daddy's worried , that I let them see . I let them see . I look , I'll apologize to my children .

I will tell them I probably should have done better , I should have done better , but now that I know that I should have done better , I will do better . I don't want my parent , my kids , to see me as something as this , this , this God , this superhero . No , I want them to see like dang , my damn . My dad was . He was a human being just like me .

So now they won't feel this need to be perfect . I was tell my kids you got to be who you are . You got to be who you are and it's your . It's your responsibility to find that I can leave all the resources behind . I can show you when I'm dead and gone . I can you look ?

You go through my library , you go through my journals , you go through all my stuff . It will all be laid out there . But every soul must work , walk its own path . So the reason why I'm saying this is your children are so much more than children .

They are gateways , they are segways , they are portals , they are pathways to get you to where you need to see the unconscious parts of yourself .

So next time you go to spaz out on your kids , next time you go to say something and repeat the same things your mother or father said to you , that maybe was unconscious and that you didn't like and still maybe holds you back , use this thing called self-awareness and ask yourself Am I just really living out of the program ? Am I consciously doing this ?

Am I consciously doing this ? I told my children one time I Forgot oh , they were eating . They were eating , and I said they were full and I'm like you to eat all your food .

Nope , you're gonna see her eat all your food , eat all your food , and they're like I'm full , though , and the way they said it , it brought me back Right back to my childhood , going to my grandmother's house . You , you put on your plate , you better eat it all . I don't care if you bust , net the seams , you better eat it .

And you fill that a glass up with tea , you better drink every bit of it , but I'm full .

So now I realize , after doing the inner work , I realized now Food was just the manifestation of a pover's consciousness that had been put on me Unconsciously , because my grandmother grew up with not having very much and my parents didn't have as much as maybe I did grow Enough . So now they are unconsciously living from the wound of poverty consciousness .

You better eat all of that . Why ? Because the assumption that we won't have something to eat tomorrow , that we don't know where the next meal was coming , do you see ? So now here I am , not having to worry about what I'm gonna eat , still living in the vibration , the frequency of lack .

And we know cotton picket Well , they know , such things lack in this universe . There is no such thing as limitation in this universe . And now , guess what ? I've just taken something that I know was at least three generations old , the energy and I'm projecting on these two little babies right now .

I'm telling them they better eat it , even though the food had served its purpose . The food had provided sustenance , they had eaten enough to the point that they did not physically need any more food . But this is what happens when you are unconscious and you are unaware . This was at a point where I was not aware and I the way they said it .

But we're full . They said this like Translation what the fuck am I gonna keep eating ? For what kind of dumb is that ? Why am I gonna keep eating when I don't like ? Literally , I was just eating to get full and I'm full , I'm gonna keep eating . That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard in my life .

That's the way they said it , and I'm like oh my goodness . So now , if you're done , then you're done . If you're full , you're full . Do you see , cuz , that limitation , that lacking mindset , maybe that maybe you have , maybe you do this in your life , that lick , lacking mindset , that's the same energy that you're using when you look in the mirror .

You don't think you can be or do something . That's the same energy that you're that you're using when you , when you doubt yourself . You're coming from a place of limitation . You're coming from a place of lack that does not exist . So the whole premise behind today and here's the deal my mother was a teacher .

So I gotta say this to teachers too Teachers , you have the responsibility of having the future in your hands for eight hours . You don't think that you are nothing more than a surrogate parent . You are the parents . You are parents in schools and look , during the season , during school , those teachers have more access to my kids than I do .

My time is concentrated . I don't have that much time with my kids because they're in school eight hours a

day . So , teachers , hear me when I say this . I'm saying this from a place of encouragement . You must also do the work on yourself . It isn't just the parents , the teachers must do the work on themselves , because you are the one who is raising these children outside of the home . So you must come from a place of self-awareness .

I can't tell you how many teachers used to tell me stuff and knowing what I know now , the wildest stuff I used to be told no , you can't do that . Oh , you're never going to be able to do that . Oh , you know how hard that is to play professional basketball . You know the odds . I'm sitting here looking .

I'm like now that I know what I know you over here putting your unconscious beliefs on me and I believed it . I believed it . What if we started to develop teachers and show them how to do this inner work and become more self-aware ? Now , guess what ? They got access to these babies all day .

Now , when they're teaching these kids , they're not coming from a place of impatience , they're not coming from a place of frustration . They're actually using these children to get just a little bit deeper into themselves to see . Why is this making me mad right now ? Why do I have less patience with Timothy ? How come it irks me when Brittany doesn't listen ?

And now they're using the children to become more self-aware . Now we start to see that these children are really the gatekeepers . The gatekeepers , the children , are the ones that will be teaching everyone .

That's why , when you look at these teachings from an esoteric level , nobody was going to get to the kingdom unless , unless they assumed the role of the child Meaning . You got back to the part of you before the wound . You got back to the part of you before the paradigm . You got back to the part of you before the doubt .

See , what you got to understand is you already came into this incarnation , into this physical vessel in the third dimension . You already came in Gratitude , love , abundance , peace , joy , kindness . That's your foundation . That is what you are . We saw the rigmarole that we started building through being in the school system .

From being told we can't be something , from being told you can't do something . From being told , oh , you're too black . From being told you're too fat . From being told you're too skinny . From being told you can't sit here , from being told you can't play on our team at recess All of these things were just accumulated . That is not what these children are .

This is what . This isn't what you are . So I have to say this , and I will make sure I stay on topic the school system starts inside the house . Really , the school system starts inside of you . That's where the real school system was , you see . So I know now my children . They leave the house for eight hours .

They go do what they need to do at school , but guess what , when they come back home , the foundation is already laid . So I don't worry about my children when they leave the house . An incident happened the other day on the bus my son . They were throwing paper on the bus . My son wasn't one of it . He said there was three people who were throwing them .

He's like I said did you do it ? He said no , but the bus driver came back and said who did it ? Who did it ? Who did it ? My son . He's a Leo , so he's going . Hey , if you see him , point him out . If you see him , that's my son , he's going to tell you . We used to say he was a tattletale . He'll tell you . No , he did it .

So he said them , them , them . The bus driver looked at him and said somebody's coming up to the front you , you and you , and you're sitting in the front for the rest of the year . My son was one of the three that got picked . He came home so distraught , so distraught . I said what's wrong ? He said they .

They had me sit in the seat with the seat belts and they said I have to sit there for the rest of the year . The bus driver said I said why ? He said cause they said I was throwing paper . I said well , did you throw paper ? He said , dad , I swear , I swear I didn't throw paper .

And I'm sitting here listening and say I'm not listening to what he's saying . I'm really reading his energy and thankfully , I know my child well enough I say , yeah , he didn't throw no paper . He didn't throw any paper . He knows better than that . He didn't throw any paper . I said , no , I need you to tell me everything here .

Did you throw the paper or did you touch it ? He goes . I didn't even touch it . I didn't even touch the paper . I said , okay , he goes . What are we going to do ? I said , well , I'm going to talk to the bus driver tomorrow . He got scared and I'm like I don't know why you're scared , for what ? What are you afraid of ?

He said , well , what are you going to say ? I said , buddy , I'm just going to talk to her . So here's what I have to tell you this . Okay , I realized that everybody has their own perspective . Everybody has their own . They have their own lens of how they view life .

I realized that this bus driver has 30-something kids on this bus and she can't see everything by herself and she has to do what she has to do . My job , my job , is not to come from a place of judgment , my job is to come from a higher perspective . So now guess what ? We can have this conversation . So I told my son .

I said look , here's the alternative . Okay , because I'm not going to give energy to the fact that she made you sit on the front of the bus . Who cares ? Who cares ? Here's what it is you sit in your seat or I'll just take you to school . We don't have to sit here and we don't have to like . You will always have a choice .

So let's choose where we give energy and what we give energy to . So the next morning he was nervous . He's like dad , what are you gonna say , buddy ? I'm just gonna talk to her .

I Made sure it was so important that I came from a level of awareness of the self that I didn't judge this bus driver for picking my son that Did not throw the paper and the kids who did throw paper , they got to sit wherever they wanted . I made sure that I didn't come from a place of unconscious , the unconscious ego .

So I just said to her say hey , miss D , how are you ? She said I'm good , hey . I said yeah . He told me about what happened on the bus yesterday . I just want to tell you I Wasn't there . I don't know , but I know him well enough . He swears up and down . He didn't throw it . You have to do what you have to do .

I realized that , but I just wanted to tell you , as an adult , here's , here's the intel , the information that I've gained . So , and she looks at me with a smile on her face and she says Thank you , we got it all figured out .

And my son went and sat at the back of his and his seat and when the bus drove by he stood up and looked at me and he had the biggest grin on his face .

Why am I telling you this ? Because if you don't know me , if you haven't known me long enough , before this journey of self-awareness really truly began intentionally , there was a point time when I maybe would have Come at her sideways .

There was a point time where I would have felt like , oh , you coming out , my kid , you picking my , you picking on my kid , because it was the unconscious wound inside of myself who felt insecure . But this is what I'm trying to show you is you doing the work on yourself Improves all facets of your life , all facets .

And where they do that at you find you , let me know where there's a one-stop shop , literally . It will improve your marriage , it will improve your parenthood , it will improve your business relationship . It will help you make more money . It will help you become more peaceful . It will do all of these things by you becoming aware of self .

So now guess what the responsibility is here in this incarnation To teach the children how to become aware of self . Remember , the system is set up for them to become aware of ego . The goal was to become aware of the self , self-awareness . This generation coming in , these babies , are more aware of the self than we were at that age .

So I say that because they already got the rocket boosters on , they already got the the , the power packs , they already got the turbo boosters on , ready to ascend and get to the top . But we are the gatekeepers , we are the ones who are going to lead them there by us doing the work on ourself .

So do the work on yourself , so the children , so the children , so the children , we'll be able to take this thing across the finish line . As always , you know where to find me . There's a myriad of resources I'm trying to provide for you . We had the conscious evolution community . You can join it right now for the month of October . It's free .

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