Learning to Let Go

It's your personal mindfulness tool that you can wear and use anytime , anywhere . Discover the tranquility that comes with mastering your breath . Visit KomusoDesigncom . Backslash Life is Mental and use code LifeIsMental at checkout for 15% off your next purchase .

Once you see what you actually are , that you're an infinite , limitless being , you'll see that nothing exists outside of you . I'm your host , derek Grant , and this is the pathway to your results podcast . Ladies and gentlemen , welcome to the Pathway to Results podcast . It is your boy , dg . I tell you what boy .

I tell you , when you make your mind up to do something , there's nothing that you can't do . I'm going to go ahead and tell you that right now .

I didn't want to start preaching this early , but for what it took for evens to get to this point , to this podcast , I tell you you know how those days where life just feel like it's life and where you feel like everything was working against you and it's like , hey , how come , you know , how come the universe doesn't want me to do this and how come this

isn't ? Let me tell you this I briefly explained in the last podcast about how , basically , instagram had did not want me to be , you know , promoting my retreat . One of my retreats is a plant ceremony retreat and it did not find that favorable and not want that , and I asked myself why .

And I sat kind of reflected on it and never I try not to assume the victim of like why me ? But I ask why , why , why ? And then here's what I realized I understand how the system works . In the system , just like in business , you need systems for anything to run autonomously . Good God , oh , my name will start preaching .

For a system to work , there has to be some type of autonomous mechanism . So when we say the school system , or we say the , the pineal system , when we say the judicial system , the legislative system , there's all these systems , systems , systems , systems .

All of these systems are put in place so the business can run , the business of what we would call you know , this country , and I'm not going to say any names because I'm not trying to get banned again . But when you start understanding how the system works , the system can only operate within the physical reality .

In order for you to transcend the system , you would have to do it from the reality that comes before that , the mental plane , the spiritual plane . So I realized that there's no way in the world that something you know , you know a system such as social media , could allow someone to essentially set people free . And you can't . You know there's nothing .

They're not . They're not that crazy , right ? They're not that crazy where they're going to say , well , no more spiritual talk , they ain't going to do that . But here's what we can do . We can criminalize and make something illegal that will help people to realize what they are . That would keep the system from being able to run it autonomously .

Think about it like that . You do realize the only reason why something got banned , something such as psychedelics , was back in seventies and sixties , when they tested it on US military and US military . They found and they have video of it they could not fall in line . You know they tend hot and they start marching . They couldn't do it .

They over here laughing and giggling and having a good time being free as a lark . They couldn't do it . They couldn't control them and they realized at this point , at this point , this cannot hit the mainstream .

Because if it does , how are we going to use these people's attention , how are we going to use their energy , if they can't be controlled , to create our reality ? That's the thing that we got to understand here . That's the battle , that's the war . Good God , almighty , you're only trying to hear me .

You think it's against your money or no , it's just your attention . That's the real energy . So I need your attention to build my reality . That is the underlying phrase . So anytime that something or someone is maybe against that or or or moves in the complete opposite direction , this is what we see .

So I have to say this to you you can try all you want , you can try all you want , but if your mind's free , they cannot be , you cannot be controlled .

So I have to say this , because the amount of effort that it took to even get to this point if you could have seen it , it would have been , it would have been that's a whole podcast in and of itself . My point of this is I remember my mom used to always tell me where there's a will , there's a way .

Where there's a will , there's a way where there is a will , there is a way . When you make up your mind , good God , almighty . When you make up your mind that you're going to do something , when you make up your mind and say I'm going to , I'm going to be the one that says no more to this generational trauma .

I'm going to be the one that says no more to unconsciously projecting the wounds onto my children that my parents had unconsciously put on me . I'm going to be the one that's going to go to therapy and go to these places that can hurt , that sting , that are painful , that bring up the most insecure parts of myself .

I'm going to be the one who's going to do it . When you make up your mind , you will see that there was no thing that the human spirit could not do , and this is the beauty of this existence that we call life . But that's not why I wanted to talk to you today . That's not what this episode was about .

You know me , I just got to get going preaching just a little bit . I want to talk to you a little bit about this thing that we call detachment . Good God almighty , detachment . You heard that bump . I just hit my knee . I just hit my knee on the desk Detachment . But we got to understand on an energetic plane , understanding how energy works .

We talked about that and how . That's the language of this universe , that's the currency of this universe . But , more importantly , I got to understand how energy works with detachment , because what a lot of these I don't know what you call them , teachers or spiritual they're going to tell you manifestation and creating your life , and you got to be attracted .

No , no , no , no , no , no , no , no , no , no , no , no . Hold on now , hold on now . Let me go ahead and break some things down , because you know me , I'm not just going to eat the cake , I want to taste the cake , I want to taste every ingredient in the cake .

So now I can bring it to you and tell you there's two teaspoons of cinnamon , there's three cups of flour , there's a half a cup of sugar . So now you will have the recipe . Good God , almighty , you will have the recipe so you can start cooking your own cake . So I'm going to break this down to you real quick . Okay , let's understand how this works .

You will always create your life from either the level of your wounds or your level of detachment . So here's what I mean , most of us are creating our life from the level of our wounds , meaning it's unconscious . You're not even aware of the wounds that you have . You're not even aware .

The only reason why you want to be a professional athlete is because maybe then , if I'm a professional athlete , I will get the approval and validation from my mother and father that I was seeking . So that will make me enough . So that's why I want to be a professional athlete .

And then you end up being a professional athlete and again , guess what happens Now . What ? What do I do ? And now you're looking for something else to put your validation and approval it . Okay . That's just an example . I see this all the time . Here's the next part of it , though You're going to consciously create your life from the level of detachment .

So in the last podcast , when I talk about the magnets right and the magnets , we have the positive end and we have the negative end . They attract to each other . But if we take two positive ends , it does not work . We have to have the opposite . We have to have the masculine , we have to have the feminine .

Okay , when we take the opposite ends and put them together , they will attract . The same end , will repel what this means for you and your life . People come to me I want this in life , I want this relationship and I want this . Okay , deal , you have to be the opposite energy , then , because isn't that how magnetism works ? Isn't that how it actually works ?

So this even me . I've said it before . Oh , you are whatever you , you'll attract whatever you are . Uh-uh-uh , let's , let's partly true , but let's break that down just a little bit more . You won't attract what you are . You will attract from the level of your detachment .

So if we think of detachment as the negative energy , we think of attraction as the positive energy . So , yes , you must be it before you see it , but by being it , you are already it . So that's why you don't have a desire for it . But what ends up happening is we put our identity in the desires . So now , I got to have it . I got to have it .

Oh my gosh , I got to get this . I got to have it . And what are you doing ? What are you doing ? You're repelling it from you because you're coming from the place , from the energy that's in line with the actual thing . I want it , I want it , I want it . I don't care if I have it , who cares ? Who cares if it happens , great .

If it doesn't , great , I don't care . Sometimes , in layman's terms , we say I don't give a f ? Right . That is the energy of detachment . This is how we magnetize and pull it into our life . So maybe you're in a relationship and you want your man or your spouse or your partner , you want them to be whole and healed . I want you to just be this way .

They won't be that way , and here's why You're not going to be that way until you will be okay with the way they are . And by you being okay with the way you are , you have just now moved into the complete opposite energy .

And now there was a neutralization that takes place because we have the masculine and the feminine energy , and this is how you will create it . Everything I've ever looked back in my life that I've written down oh , I got to do this , I'm going to do this , I'm going to create this , this goal they have always been accomplished .

At the moment that I said man , I don't care who cares , man , I don't even care if it happens now , do you not understand that everything in the universe is trying to get you to this point ? But here's what we end up doing . This is the way the ego works . The ego needs it . I got to have it . And the reason why it has to have it ?

Because it puts its identity in having it meaning . It puts its worth in obtaining it . It puts its worth in accomplishing it . It puts its value of itself in whatever it is doing in the quote unquote future or what it has done in the past .

But we do not realize , we do not get taught that all manifestation will take place on the spiritual plane , and the spiritual plane does not exist within space and time . So , therefore , the only thing that exists is the thing that we call now , is the thing that we call the present moment .

So this is why I'm trying to tell you the spiritual plane is the causal plane , but you have to understand where the spiritual plane is . It's in this never ending , constant thing that we call the present moment , the moment . You see , every time I snap that's a moment and that's what this is .

It's just a moment that just keeps doing this , moment after moment after moment after moment after moment . And this is why it's so dull , gone , hard to stay in it , because by the time you get in it and it's gone and the new ones here .

So this is why I'm telling you it takes conscious effort , effort , conscious action for you to stay where you're going to create your life from . It ain't going to be from the future . You may have to go off into the future , but at some point you're going to have to reel it back in . And when you reel it back in , this is when we had to be it .

And if I'm being it , I don't give a if I get it anyway , because I'm already it . I'm already it , I don't need it . So now that I don't need it because I'm already in that state , that vibration , that frequency , I'm fully detached from it because I already have it . You see how this works .

So understanding the next part of it , okay , so this is the way my mind works , right ? I'm looking in my mirror the other day and I'm like okay , life is a mirror , right , I figure out the magnetism thing .

I got to come from the opposite energy , meaning I don't care , meaning I don't have the desire anymore because I I guess I already have it right , I don't care . That's the negative . The positive would be having it . Boom , the two have a love child together . Here it is in my physical reality . So then I started to think about the mirror , the mirror .

This life is a mirror . But I'm sitting here staring at the mirror and this is the way I am , right . My wife walked in . Carly was like what are you doing ? I'm just sitting here staring at the mirror , right , not saying nothing , nobody . I'm raising my hand , keep putting it down . Raising my hand , putting it down , she's like .

She's like oh , here you go , he's on one of his , he's on one of his things . Again , she just lets me , just lets me be , and I would raise my right hand . I would raise my right hand while I was looking in the mirror , and the illusion was that this reflection in the mirror would raise its right hand too .

But in reality , if I turned and looked at it really from the perspective of the mirror , the mirror was raising its left hand . Good God Almighty , you're all in trying to hear me right now . Do you see how this works ? Sometimes we'll call this the law of opposites . I'm raising my right hand , but the mirror is actually raising its left hand .

A mirror reflects the complete opposite . So if this world , good God Almighty , y'all are getting this straight from the source right now . If this physical reality is a mirror of me , that means in order for the mirror and the image to link up , it would have to be opposites .

But it's going to be an illusion , because when I raise my right hand , it looks like it's raising its right hand . No , it's not , it's actually raising its left hand . Dang , what , what ? So it clicked . All of these things that you ever desired to create , you had to come from the opposite energy . The opposite energy , the goal was just the thing .

The opposite energy . The goal was just the thing to get it going . The goal was just the thing to get the momentum going . But then , at some point , the desire would have to subside and you would come in from the complete opposite energy of desire and attachment and you would come in from the energy of detachment and letting go . Do you see ?

And now , now the two energies link up . They link up even though they look like they're opposite , even though it looks like it's not working , because it's like well , I'm raising my right hand and the left hand is a . No , they're actually in harmony . What did Paula Abdul say in her song ? And don't ? You know , opposites attract .

And you know it ain't fiction , just dimension . What did she say ? Opposites attract Opposites , attract Opposites , attract Opposites . You ain't going to make no more money . Want more money . I'm going to tell you that right now . You will never make more money wanting more money . You're never going to get more playing time , desiring more playing time .

You're never going to get your spouse or your partner to live in this harmonious union that you are so desiring . It will never be that until you decide to come from the complete opposite energy of detachment . Wow . So here's what I realized it's all clicking just a little bit more right , just a little bit more In 2024, .

If you really want to score , it's about you not needing more . This is Dr Seuss In 2024 , if you really want to score , it's about you not desiring more .

We have needs and then we have wants . Wants and desires go together . See , when you come from a place of not needing , now you're coming from a place of abundance . Now you're coming from a place of abundance . So I don't need none of this . I don't need any of it . Why ? Because I know that what I actually am is everything . Do you see how this works ?

So I'm not coming from a place of lack , I'm coming from a place of abundance , and true abundance , like we talked about episodes ago was you having the recognition and the awareness that everything that you ever needed in this ever-fleeting moment that we call the present moment , you were always going to be supplied with it .

This is this , honestly , if we really want to break it down , why do you think Jesus was who he was ? I'm just using Jesus as an example . I'm not using this from a religious . Why do you think Jesus was him ? Why do you think this dude knew what it was ? He was always coming from the place of the present moment .

That's why he looked at it and said Yo , don't listen to the ones who say it's over there , it's over here . You're only going to find it inside of you . I'm just . I'm just imagining Jesus in 2023 . If he lived in the South side of Chicago , how he would be ? Yo , I'm just telling you you love your neighbors . You know what I mean .

Love your neighbors the way you love yourself , dang . So you mean I got to love my name . No , listen to what I'm saying , dude . Listen to what I'm saying . I'm telling you you love your neighbors the same way you love yourself . So if you want to love your neighbors , you need to start loving yourself . First . Love yourself , then you'll love your neighbors .

You know what I mean . Yo , peter , matter of fact , paul , no , not Paul , judas . So just imagine the way Jesus was speaking . It was always coming from a place of detachment . That's why I told you , yo y'all , don't worry , don't worry , do not worry , don't worry , do not worry , do not worry for the birds .

The birds don't worry about what's coming , what's going on . Do not worry . Don't you think ? Don't you think our dad , don't you think our father in heaven , is going to take care of you If the birds are taking care of you . Do you see what he's seeing ? Do you see ? I'm just using this as an example to show that this had been being told for millennia .

Let it go . Let it go Because here's the deal . You don't realize that you were unconsciously holding on to something . You were unconsciously holding on to this old narrative . You were unconsciously holding on to , oh , what they did to me and the way I grew up and this had happened . But you don't understand D you don't know what I've been through .

You have no idea . You're right . I don't know those situations that you went through . You're absolutely correct . I don't know the trauma that you experienced . You're absolutely correct . But I will tell you this you got the ability to let go . You got the ability to say this was just a situation . But I am not the situation .

I am the supreme , conscious , eternal , infinite awareness that is behind it , that is observing that . But if you do not have that awareness , you will think that you were the situation , you will think that you were your traumas , you will think that you were the abuse .

You will think that you were suffering , that you were the victim of ancestral unconsciousness , that you were your DNA . I'm going to tell you this If the body can heal a scab without you telling it consciously , hold on , hear me what I'm saying now .

If you can cut your hand and your body can heal it itself without you consciously telling it , why in the world can you not heal the past ? Why not ? Why not ?

If you skin your knee to the white meat and you got your leg bus wide open and your body will heal it up itself without you sitting here having to journal and give it prompts and do all of these things , why in the world can you not consciously fix your past ? My point of this is where there is a will . There is a way .

Do not fall for the illusion that this thing hurt too much or it was too big , or it had been going on for too long in my family , that I could not be the ones to break the chains . Do not , y'all are not trying to hear me right now . Y'all are not trying to hear me . You're not trying to hear me right now . You are not trying to hear .

I'm here to tell you there was no thing that you can't do . But you have to come from an awareness of detachment . So people ask me wow , what's your ? What's your ? What does it look like with your , with your healing ? Here's what it is . I detach from it . It used to be an attachment . I got to heal . I got to heal , I got to fix this .

I got to fix it . Well , all you're doing really is just taking the two negative ends and putting them together and they're just repelling each other . How about this ?

How about you come from a place of I don't need to heal , I don't need to , and now , because you don't need to , you've just stopped the energy , you've just neutralized it , and now , because I'm coming from a place of I don't really need to , the universe is due to rest . That's the beauty of it . It's going to meet you halfway .

It'll meet you halfway , and then certain things will be put in place so that you can continue on your journey of healing . Here's what happens too . I just got to say this because I see this happening all so often in my life too .

You want something and you desire something so bad because , unconsciously , you think that that thing , right there , is going to be the thing that's going to make you whole and happy and at peace .

Okay , if I'm saying this and it's triggering , I apologize in advance , but you think that that thing , that amount of money , that relationship , that weight on the scale , that um , uh , that amount of followers hold on , let me finish now .

Uh , that approval from that family member , this goal , if it gets accomplished , you think that that's going to be the thing that will give you permission to be who and how you truly are , and all we're doing is pushing it away and pushing it away and pushing it away .

But the moment that you come to the realization , we say sometimes we see , we see people in church . They go like this they surrender right , I'm open , I'm naked , I'm coming naked , I ain't got nothing . What you see is what you get . When you come from that place , you were actually coming from the most powerful part of you .

You're able to let go because I know that I don't need this in order to be that . But the universe is like yo . I need you to let go before I can give you what it is that you wanted . You hold on so tight , why you got life like this . You got life around the throat and you're like why won't you come home with me ?

And you choking the dog mess out of , out of life , and life is like I don't want to come home with you . In the life it's like I'm out of here , I'm out Whatever you want , I'm out of here . You over here , choking . But the moment that you just relax your grip a little bit , if it happens , it happens .

If it doesn't , I'll be okay , I'll be fine , it'll be exactly the way it's supposed to be . So you got the element . You got to . You got to , you got to do the element of trust you got to . You got to sprinkle in just a little bit , just a little bit of trust , just a little bit , just a tad . That trust is just a little bit .

Here's the thing about trust . I can't sprinkle trust until I spread just a little bit of courage on there . Hey , if I spread just a little bit of courage , that courage will give me just enough so I can sprinkle my trust . And if I can sprinkle my trust now , I can start to let go .

And while I let go , I don't have to keep opening up the oven to check and see if it's baking . I don't have to keep opening up the oven and sticking the knife in it to make sure that the cake was done .

I can go ahead and leave it in there and trust and understand that the heat , that the pressure , that the struggle , that the hardship , that the adversity , that the trauma , that the abuse is going to do its job . It's going to do its job to continue baking this cake and bringing everything together just as it's supposed to be . You ain't got to .

You ain't got to go in there and keep checking the oven . So this is where , like the mentality of you moving forward and detaching , it's really about you spreading the energy of courage and sprinkling as much trust as you can that nothing in life is ever meant to harm you or hold you down .

All it's trying to do is help you to become more self aware , and the more self aware you start to understand and see exactly what you are . And when you see exactly what you are , guess what ends up happening . I let go , I'm good , I'm good , I'm good , I don't need nothing , I don't need anyone , I don't need anything , I don't need to be anywhere .

I am all that I am and I'm just going to be here right now . Here's what's going to happen . Here's what's going to happen . You're going to start to tap into this infinite seed of creativity .

Now , because you're coming from a place of detachment , everything in this universe will just start flowing and just start coming to you the ideas , these relationships , maybe a synchronicity . Maybe you were just thinking about , like , how do I do this ?

And all of a sudden , somebody said something at the grocery store and you heard it because you came from a place of . I no longer need this for me to be enough , I no longer need him to be happy , at peace , because I have found peace , I have found joy , I have found contentment .

And it was not out there , it was in here , it was in the realization of that which I am . But the only way I realized this was by me first forgetting . It was by me first forgetting . But the only way I could forget was when the unconscious traumas were inflicted upon me , when I too was unconscious .

So , really , my wounds , my childhood , my past , my abuse , it was always working for me . It was always working for me even when I didn't know it was working for me . I just couldn't see it in the moment , though .

I couldn't see it in the moment , but now that I've gotten a little further down the path , I can see why it happened , that everything actually was divinely orchestrated . It was divinely maneuvered so that I would get to this point of loving and knowing myself . And now , guess what you can do ? You can trust now moving forward . You can trust and let go .

Let go Ask yourself right now , in this moment of space and time Ask yourself am I paying with the currency of this universe ? Am I sitting here paying my energy through my attention ? Am I paying something that's not paying me back ? If it's not paying me back , I must ask myself why do I continue to put money into it ?

Why do I continue to put energy into it ? Why do I continue to put my attention into it ? When you have gained the lesson . The next thing you must ask yourself is this Can I let go of this now ? Can I let go of this ? Can I stop holding on to this thing that is not paying me back ?

I am oh good , god Almighty , y'all ain't trying to hear me right now . I am done . I am done being a sugar daddy to my past . I am done being a sugar mama to my traumas . I am done . Y'all ain't trying to hear me right now . Y'all ain't trying to hear me . Y'all ain't trying to hear me . We done , it's finished . It's done . No more , no more .

At no point , at no point Do I need to do this anymore . I'm done . I'm not going to keep giving . I'm not going to keep giving energy . I'm not going to keep giving energy to it . For what ? For what , why , why ? I'm going to just keep giving energy to it . I'm going to keep giving energy to something that's not serving me anymore . I'm done , I'm finished .

It's over . I'm not doing it anymore . Do we see how this works ? Do we see ? Where am I putting my money right now ? Truly , where am I putting my money ? Where am I putting my attention ? Where am I putting ? Am I still putting myself in the places in the past . Am I still going by the old narrative ? Am I still living off of past narratives ?

Am I still just giving energy , just making it rain ? I'm over here . We clown people . I don't know why you're wasting your time on him . I don't know why you're wasting your time . You know he over here doing this and that you know what . This is what the universe is saying to you .

I don't know why you over here , sitting here wasting all your time right now . I don't know why you over here , sitting here worried about what could be and what isn't Well , mom did this and dad didn't do that , and dad wasn't here . We're here . You know what the universe is saying . Why don't you do something about it ?

Why don't you sit here and go into the depths of your soul and figure out what you need to do ? Maybe I got to sign up for DG's free three steps to healing my inner child . Maybe I got to go get a new therapist . Maybe I got to sign up for a coach . I don't know what I need to do , but I know one thing I ain't going to keep being a sugar mama .

I can't keep being a sugar daddy to something that ain't giving me back . That will never be work . That'll never be work . It never will . So detachment is about you letting go . Let go Do the work . Don't let go before you got the lesson . Don't let go before you got the lesson , because if you let go before you got the lesson , guess what ?

You're gonna have to do it again . This is one of the laws of being a human being . Everything , everything is just a lesson to help you to become more self-aware . Do not abort the lesson before you have obtained the information . When you have the information , you can let it go .

So the reason why I was so clingy in that relationship was because , maybe , maybe , I had a fear of abandonment , I was afraid of being alone and before , before he left me for that other person , I started to realize this .

And the universe did the rest and pushed me to that point where I was forced to listen , I was forced to take the lesson , I was forced to take this test right now . And now I realize , oh my goodness , oh my goodness , this only happened because I was afraid of being alone .

But if I had been okay with being alone , I would have been okay and this would not have happened because I would have not have pushed him away anyway . Do you see how this works ? Go find your lessons , learn them . After you learn them , let it go . Ask yourself what it is you really want 2024 .

Ask yourself what it is that you want and then see what's my attachment to it . Do I need this or do I not need this at all ? One of the things I gained going into that cave for five days in my darkness retreat was I told you guys that I realized that there were still parts of me that was so goal oriented and so driven right .

These are the three-dimensional words that we call oh , he's driven , oh , he's goal oriented . Look at him . He's so passionate what he does . Please , please , you over here . You over here , accomplishing all these goals from a mother wound . You over here , think that this goal is going to make you enough .

That's really why you're doing it and that's why you're so dog on driven to get it done . But when you realize that you were already enough , you just had to accept that and there was nothing that you could do to make you more enough .

When you fully accepted that , right there , now you would go on to do things and accomplish things because you didn't need to Paradoxal effect , isn't it ? I can do anything . I can do anything now because I don't have to , I don't need to , I don't need it anymore . I don't need it . I don't need to do this anymore . I would .

I it'd be great if I could , but it'd be equally as fine if I didn't . And that goes with everything . And this , my friends , is the opposite energy of the mirror , of the magnet , but because of the way the mind works , it says no , no , oh no , but then it doesn't look like we're going to get it . Oh no , why ?

Because the mind is rooted in fear and survival . So , live through your heart , trust , trust . You got to have 2020 vision for yourself . The only way that you can have 2020 vision is through your heart , though . This is the battle . Can you let go ? Can you let go so you can sign up right now at life is mental dot DG . Mindset dot com .

Backslash revamp dash 90 . Life is mental dot DG , mindset , dot com . Backslash revamp dash 90 . Go , get yourself signed up . I'm going to go ahead and do this . I'm going to go ahead and give you a code , even though the code expired , it's the holiday season Transform 100 . Transform 100 .

Go ahead and type transform 100 in the coupon , you'll get 20% off Transform 100 . As always , keep going , please , keep going . Don't you stop . Do not stop . I know it's gonna get heavy , it's gonna get hard at times , but understand that this is just a perspective . Please , please , don't stop .

And here's the other thing I'm gonna tell you , like my mama told me .

My mama used to always tell me , son , it's gonna get heavy , it's gonna get hard and you're gonna want to throw a pity party , you're gonna want to throw a pity party for yourself , but I'm telling you , don't you stay your butt at that pity party too long , don't you stay too long at that pity party . It's okay to slow down , but do not stop .

Keep going , my friend . Please know that you matter , you are loved and , as always , I wish you nothing but the best on the pathway to your results .