It Was You vs. You

I got to make sure I always include that . Oh man , we are here . We are here . I've been looking forward to this episode . A lot of things have really transpired in the last couple of days within my own existence , within my own life . Share it because my journey has been all that I'm doing .

I've been sharing my whole life , not all of it , but most of it , for the most part , my journey , my awakening , my expansion , my initiation . I've been sharing it with you all in hopes that it would help you along your journey . And something came to me the other day . I was sitting there thinking about , really , what does it mean when we compare ?

I've done an episode on it , on comparison . You go back to season three , you'll find it . But why we compare ourselves to others ? Why do we do it ? Why do we feel the need to compare ? We're constantly comparing , we're comparing . Well , he has that and she's doing this and he doesn't have to do this and she didn't have to deal with this .

And we're comparing this journey . We're comparing this evolution , this and she didn't have to deal with this , and we're comparing this journey . We're comparing this evolution , our evolution , to somebody else . And I sat and thought about it and I think I understand why , at least to this point . I'm going to break this down with you and share this with you .

So when we start understanding , in order for comparison to take place , there has to be at least two parties . Okay , there's got to be at least two parties involved . You can't compare when there's only one , when there's only one . This is what we call perfection . Y'all , stop playing with me before I get started here .

This is why I was trying to tell you that you was always perfect . I've been trying to tell you Y'all you are perfect because there's nobody else to compare you to , because you were the one of one . There is not another thing . While it may seem like this thing is separate , that was just only your egoic mind making it so it could find separation right .

So we know there . Anytime that we feel like we're comparing , it's the unconscious mind . It's the unconscious ego right . So when we start understanding that in order to compare , there had to be two parties . And if there's two parties , that means one is fixed and the other one is relative to the fixed one . So here's the example I'll give you .

Okay , you hop in your car and you start driving . Where are you going ? I don't know . Okay , were you getting closer or further ? I don't know . Why don't you know ? Because there's not at least two parties Right now , there's only one party . The one party was you , so you are .

You don't know if you're closer or further away , because there is nothing that it's relative to . We needed a second party . But when you get in a car and you mark a destination say , I'm going to the gas station . Now , where you are , versus the gas station , we have two parties . There can be this .

I guess we're going to call it like a quantitative difference of what we call comparison . I can see where I have to go versus where I am . Y'all see where I'm going with this . You see where I'm going with this . You already know what's going to happen . So when we find ourselves comparing , it's because we have two parties involved .

There's nothing wrong with that . There's no issue . Here's what the issue is . The issue is that the second party wasn't yourself . Y'all ain't trying to hear nothing . I'm saying right now . You over here , comparing yourself right when you are today , but your destination is based on somebody else's life . Your destination is based on what mom thinks you should do .

Your destination is based on what society says about your gender . Your destination is based on what the critics or what the AP , the Associated Press , says your career should be at this point in your career . So you see what ends up happening . You never set the needle , you never set the destination point , you never set the waypoint of where you want to go .

So here's the first thing we must do , because I've been teaching you accountability from day one . Right , this is the love language of DG accountability . If you don't say where it is you want to go and what you want to do in life , the only thing you will do is compare yourself to someone else .

Because we needed a second party , we needed a destination , we needed a place to look to . Because here you are , moving through space and time , or at least that's the illusion . Here you are right now . Are you moving closer or further to where you want to go ? You don't know , because you never picked a point . So it's because you didn't pick a point .

What'd you do ? You look at what he's doing . You're going to look at what he's been doing . See , this is what the ego does . It looks at what he's doing and what he's doing right now . Look where he is , look at him , look at all that he making , look what he does . And he's only 35 , and I'm already 39 . And how come ?

You see you picking somebody else's waypoint and now you're measuring against that waypoint . No , no , no , no , no , no , no . Let's backtrack a little bit . Let's backtrack . Okay , how about this ? How about you ask yourself what is it ? Who is it that I would like to become ? Because here's the reality . You're going to say the business .

You're going to say a certain amount of money . You're going to say a car . You're going to say a relationship . But you know good and well that ain't really what you wanted . You didn't want the relationship , you didn't want the amount of money , you didn't want the contract . What you really wanted was the version of yourself that came with it .

Y'all ain't trying to hear me . See , at times I got to stop , sometimes I got to stop and sometimes I got to pause because I feel like it went over your head . You missed it . You don't want the physical things , you don't want the destination . You want the version of you that was resonating at the destination . You see what I'm saying .

So you don't want the happy marriage . That isn't what you wanted . You don't want the money . That isn't what you wanted . You wanted the version of you that could achieve that . That was what you were chasing . So now that we know that , I'm really only chasing myself .

So that's why I had to put a destination for myself , so I would know whether or not I was moving closer or further from that version of me that I was chasing in the first place . Do you see how this works ?

So I put myself I draw out the 10-year plan , draw out the five-year plan , draw out the 10-year plan , draw out the five-year plan , draw out the , whatever it is , put what it feels like , what she looks like , what she walk like , how she talk . And then here's what we do . We now know where we are relative to where we have to go .

But if you don't do that , you're going to naturally look at somebody else's life , and this is why they said comparison was the thief of all joy , because the joy was in the journey . Go ahead and say it with me the joy is in the journey , the joy is in the journey , but if I ain't got no destination , where in the world am I going ?

And this is why people feel stuck . It's probably the number one thing I hear people say I feel stuck . I feel stuck , I can't get over this relationship . I'm going to shoot you straight here . It's going to be triggering , but the only way is for me to shoot you straight . Know that I'm coming from a place of wholeness with you .

The reason why you can't get over them is because you never picked the destination of what it would be like or what it would feel like without them . Huh , you see , you see . Do you understand what I'm saying ? Do you see it ? You never set a destination , you never built out what life would be like without them .

And you've been broken up for seven months and you still talking about I can't get over them . You know why you can't get over them Because you never picked a place to go without him . Good God , almighty , y'all ain't trying to hear me right now . Set the set . Look , I told you all . Do with it as you may . It is your life . Do with it as you may .

It is your piece of paper . Draw what the you want , draw what the you draw whatever you want on there . But don't talk about I can't figure out what to draw . There's nothing . It was your choice . Put whatever you want on there , scratch it up , do whatever you want , make doodles , make infinity signs , it does not matter .

But you got to make a choice , and this is what it is with your life . And I say you got to . I'm not saying you really have to . That's a choice too , that's a perspective . But how about this ? How much different would it be if you had gotten in that car which we call your body , this vehicle ?

How much different would it be if you knew where you wanted to drive ? Then , mother , if you knew where you wanted to drive , you'd probably drive a little bit differently . You'd probably push down on the accelerator a little harder . Huh . You'd probably make turns a little quicker .

You'd probably do things that were in alignment , meaning there was a straight line with the mind of that which was in the quote unquote future and the version of you right now . You would probably do things that were in line with that version of you . Do you see how this works ? Really , quite simple .

We've talked about this , how we intentionally manifest our lives , but , most importantly , you are the one who is to decide where it is you want it to go . And that takes courage , my friend , that takes bravery , that takes intentionality of you saying this is what I want from life . I was just walking with a client today . We switched it up .

We didn't meet at his office , we went outside and enjoyed nature . Beautiful day , beautiful day . It took me back to when I was like five years old . I used to play outside at our house when we lived in Harrisburg , pennsylvania . Actually , we lived in York , pennsylvania , but we lived in York . We had this big , huge backyard . It was an acre .

Now there was a pheasant that used to run across the road and he'd run down through the two yards and he'd run across our yard and my brother used to go out there and chase him . I didn't even bother because I knew there was no chance in chasing him , but my brother thought he could . The weather today reminded me of that .

It took me back to when I was five years old , before school started . I hadn't been indoctrinated yet . Me and my mom used to hang out all day . She was a stay-at-home mom at the time . We'd go to 7-Eleven and get subs . We'd go to 7-Eleven and get subs and we'd sit on the right where the sun would come in and we'd call them catnaps .

We would eat subs . This was my first introduction to Italian dressing on a sub and I remember this . This weather reminded me of this .

Okay , I just went off on a tangent , but you stay with me here . So we're sitting here walking me and my client . I'm asking him . I said , hey , do you know what you want or where you want to go ? He said , yeah , I do . I mean like , yeah , six months out . I said , yeah , but what about years out ?

Because six months out will be like you driving a car and you only looking at the hood of the car . When we go a couple years out now , it's like looking 20 , 30 feet down the road . You see , find that sweet spot .

You don't want to look too far , you don't want to look miles ahead , you don't want to look at the hood either , that sweet spot right in between , because before you know it , two years ago , by like that . You see , and it's based on your vibration and your ability to self-correct and your ability to evolve and grow .

That will determine how quickly you can bring this into space and time . See , I'm telling you right now people are like , oh my gosh , you've grown so fast . Yeah , that's going to work on me . So much I'm evolving , I'm growing at a rapid pace , consciously , on purpose . So I know this version of me that's five years out . I ain't going to wait .

No , five years . I might be able to bring this mammy tabby man here in like two years . It may take a couple months , I don't know . It depends on how much healing , how much understanding of myself I have . That's really what's contingent on . So when people ask me , well , how do I manifest quicker ? I'm going to make it simple for you .

However quickly you can move into that state of knowing that you are this person already and there was no doubt in your mind , that's how quickly it's on you , it is totally on you . So I'm walking with this client , we're talking . He's like the hardest part is for me to dream . I'm like to really give myself permission to set that destination .

I said hear me when I say this ready . This is the paradox of life . There really wasn't even a destination . There wasn't . There was no destination . The destination was an illusion . Because right now , here I am 2024 . This is the version of me that I had written down five years ago , in 2019 . This is who I wanted to be , and now here I am .

But it's funny now here I am , I'm already thinking about where I want to be in 10 years . I'm not even focusing on being right here . I'm not even focused on being him . Right now , that version of me is gone . I'm trying to bring in a new one . Do you see how this works ? We end up striving for the next thing .

But I told him , I said this is the way evolution works . So it's not that we're not content with where we are . We're continuing to evolve . We're expanding our capabilities , we're expanding how much self-worth we're expanding the value we see on ourself .

As you do that , the easier I put air quotes , easier it will be for you to see yourself in this quote unquote dream . But you can't dream as long as you don't see your value . Sometimes we call this self-worth , and he realized why . He said I put all of my self-worth in what the business is doing .

Well , he started a new business , so of course he's losing money because he has to get so much . Get it off the ground right . So now , guess what ? He thinks like I'm not good enough , I'm not valuable enough . Now he can't dream , and this is a perpetual cycle that just keeps going and going and going . So instead , how about this ?

We know that our worth isn't contingent on anything outside of ourselves . Our worth is contingent on how well we can see ourselves . Say it with me again my worth is contingent on how well I can see myself .

That's why some people will go to Ruth's Chris and pay $100 for a steak , and some people are going to go to Texas Roadhouse and get that deal on Tuesday and get it for $11.99 . How come ? Because one sees different value in the other . So when we start understanding that value is subjective , the most important value was the value that you saw in yourself .

When you see more of yourself , you will see your value more . When you see your value yourself , you will see your value more . When you see your value more , you will see your self-worth . When you see your self-worth , everything will be in direct correlation to it . Y'all ain't trying to hear nothing .

I'm saying right now Everything's going to be in direct correlation to your level of self-worth , point blank period , do we see ? So now , here's the deal . The key is for us to understand how we see more of ourselves . So we're going to go through a series of these things that we will just call them initiations .

Okay , initiations , let's just look at it like that . Initiations Initiations are basically situations that come up in life . Yeah , they're situations that come up in life and we have to understand that they're going to come in certain stages , and we have seven main stages of when we go through life , right . So the first stage is what ?

What's the first stage of life ? Birth , right . When we go through birth right . What's the second stage ? Think about it . We call it birthhood , and then we'll call it what Childhood ? Okay , we have childhood . And then we'll call it what ? Childhood ? Ok , we have childhood . Then we have adulthood Right . Then we have a sagehood Right .

We start going through all of these and I'm not going to go . I'm not going to go through all this , but what ends up happening is , through these different stages , you're going to have initiations , and I'm reading a book right now . This book is phenomenal . It's called the Illumination Process , and I had underlined something to share with you all .

So if we look at the initiations , they're birth , then manhood or womanhood , then we have the first love , then we have marriage Sometimes it's divorce too Then we have parenthood , we have sagehood and we have death . These are the seven stages .

Okay , so it's possible that you won't go through all these passages of the physical world , because some of us may not get married , some of us may not have kids . Okay , but we all go through it , through the energetic process .

We all go through this in the energetic world , meaning you may not have physical children , but don't think that you didn't have a baby . That baby could have been your business . That baby could have been that puppy that you got . That baby could have been that car .

We go through these stages and these seven stages are part of the initiation process . That , basically , it presents you with an opportunity for you to awaken . It presents you with an opportunity to grow . It presents you with an opportunity for you to see your divine nature and identify with that which you truly are instead of what you are truly not .

So know when you know this . Know when you know this . Of course , you're going to know when you know this . Know when you experience your hardship . It doesn't matter where you are . It doesn't matter if you're married , it doesn't matter if you're , it doesn't matter what it is .

When you go through these stages , the whole point of it is so you can see more of yourself . Because when you see more of yourself , that was the one that was actually dreaming the true you , the real you , the self , the higher self , the being .

When we live life from that world , we start seeing that everything along this journey is to help us to illuminate , to help us to enlighten , to help us to be able to see the version of us that lives in light . So when we are comparing , it means we're not living through the version of us that is light , because there is only one source of light .

There is only one thing that you turn on the light , right , you turn on the light , even though the whole room may be lit up , it's only coming from one source . It's coming from one thing . That's what everything is , this entire physical universe . It is the one thing .

So now I know , when I'm comparing , I'm not actually living through the illumined side of me , I'm not actually living through the illumined side of me , I'm not living through the enlightened side , I'm not living through the spirit , I'm not living through consciousness , I'm not living through the being , I'm living through the fragmented side , the dark side , the

unconscious side . Hear me when I say this this doesn't mean that it's bad quote , unquote bad it just carries a lower energy . This is the ego . So for us , along this journey I'm going to say it till the end we're not here to heal and stay in that place , right ?

This is where we got to be careful , because I know sometimes people will start the process of healing and then we'll stay in that vibration . We'll stay like oh my gosh , I've dealt with this and I'm this . No , no , no , that was just initiation process and I'm this . No , no , no , that was just initiation process , that's all it was .

It was just an initiation process to get you going , to get you an awaken . The question is are you using it for what it's for ? Because we know that whenever we awaken , whenever we enlighten , that just means more light . And what carries information ? Light , so the more information , meaning . I'm extracting the lesson from this situation that I have .

Now I can move into this space of being enlightened . There is no enlightenment , it's just enlightened . So my point of this is this when I was telling you earlier about the , now that you know there's no destination , dang , they just made this so much more process oriented . Now , the process is what's going to get me to where I'm going .

You see , if I ask you how to drive a car , if I'm asking you how to drive a car because that's really what we're doing right Now it's the microcosm of us in life . We hopped inside of this car that we call our body . Sometimes they call it Megan , sometimes they call it Janine , sometimes we call it John , sometimes we call it DG .

We hopped inside of this car and we said I'm going to drive this car . The IM said I'm going to drive it , but I need to make sure that I plug GPS . And what was the GPS ? The GPS was your mindset . Your mindset , your mindset , your perspective . Where you set your mind at that was the GPS in the car .

That was what was going to determine where this Ferrari of a body that you had was going to go . But if you don't set the GPS , the car will not know where to go and the driver will continue to just keep driving this meat sack , this meat flesh around , and then here's what's going to happen .

Finally , life's going to say now we got to turn this thing over . We got to pull it over . We got to pull this thing over . We got to pull this thing over . Something's going to hit you , just like it hit me five years ago , when I lost everything and before I know it had this awakening .

It could have been through health , it could have been through a relationship , it could have been through anything , but life is going to give you an initiation to say wake your ass up and get yourself going . Do you see how this works now ? So , whether you're going to do it or not , life's going to give you the opportunity for you to do it .

But what I'm saying is what happens when we start to do it on our own ? What happens when I start to plug in the GPS Because I go back and erase the old coordinates ? You know how it is .

When you got those first , when the GPS first came out the first one , the garments I think they were called garment and you had that big old window thing and you put it in . My dad had one , I remember I thought it was so cool because my dad had a garment that you could put it in a little little Velcro sack and take it wherever you want .

It was portable , that GPS . Whenever you put in an address , it would save it , so it would keep , like the last 10 addresses . This is what's happening right now . You got all these old addresses from these old destinations where you went , the trauma , the abuse , the transgressions , the cheating on all of this stuff .

You had all of these things in the past that you still got them plugged into your GPS . Y'all ain't trying to hear nothing what I'm saying right now . We still got the old coordinates from the old life plugged into the GPS right now , meaning you still live in the old life with this mind , and this mind just keep taking you to the same place .

And here's what we'll do . We complain about where we're going , we complain about life . Reprogram your GPS , reprogram it . We got to get rid of the old so we can have the new destination of where we want to go . Ooh , dg , you spitting right now . Ooh , dg , this one right here is getting down .

Okay , okay , if I'm spitting , then if this is what's happening , what you waiting for , hmm , what you waiting for , you can't go where you want to go . When you still got the old , you still got the old destinations in there . But guess what you got to do ? You got to wipe away all of them . You got to wipe away all of them . Hold on .

Now let me say this we're going you know , we're going to bring a home here . You're going to have to wipe away all of them , wipe away the old ones . You got to wipe away the old one . Every time you wipe away one old one , it gives you another slot to put in the new one . So what happens ?

If I wipe away two of them , two old programs , if I wipe away two old paradigms , if I wipe away two traumatic events and I heal that version of me ? I do the inner child work , I apply the seven laws of healing the inner child . If I wipe away two of those and heal those two versions , I've just created two new versions of myself in the future .

You see . So now , when I create a version of myself in the future , now I got something to dream about . I got a new place to put this destination . Good God , almighty . So now , guess what ? The more that I delete , the more that I delete , the more that I increase the opportunities in the future .

And here's the deal we're not trying to get rid of them without getting the information . Don't just wipe away and say , oh , I didn't need that , no , it served a purpose . It served a purpose . Do not get rid of it and delete it before you have gotten the information meaning how it has helped you . How has this served you ?

How has this helped you along this journey ? What did you learn ? Because if you don't guess what , you know how it is . When you got to go back to that house but you had already deleted the gps , dang , how do I get here again ? How do I get here ? So I told you all . I'm just gonna try to make this as simple as I could .

I love metaphors , I love analogies , I love them . This is how I understand life . It's really quite simple . It's really simple . This journey , this life , this experience in this human body is nothing more than it's like a school . We just came here to develop . We just came here to grow . We just came here to evolve .

Everything in life , everything is constantly evolving and growing . Everything . There's no thing that's not . Everything is . Do you think that you were supposed to be excluded from this ? No , you too . You grow , you evolve , you develop .

So if that's the case , that means everything here , in this entire existence that you experience is to help you to evolve and to grow . Everything , everything is here to help you grow . Everything's here to help you develop . So you tell me this Somebody stop playing with me . If everything is here to help you develop , how in the world are you going to lose ?

And if I know I can't lose , why am I not dreaming as big as I can ? Why would I not be dreaming as big as I can ? Man , I'm done playing . I'm done saying that . I'm done playing . I'm dreaming as big as I can . And it feels uncomfortable , that's okay if it feels uncomfortable .

If I have a big dream and it's uncomfortable , that means I just got work on myself to do . That means I just don't see myself as worthy of achieving that , because here's the way to understand that's what we actually are . It's the thing that's created this entire physical universe , this 3D reality . So there is no big . Huh , there is no big .

So if I think it's big , it's because I'm still operating as the little me . I'm not operating from the I am , and that means I got work to do on me . I got to see more of myself , I got to see my value , I got to see my capabilities , I got to see my worth instead of looking at it from this old GPS program , this old GPS destination .

So what is the point ? My whole point today , my whole point of this episode and you might listen to this a couple of times was to get you to realize why you was really comparing . Why were you really comparing yourself to everybody else ? You were comparing yourself to everybody else because you had not designed your life yet .

You had not became the architect , you had not become the author , you had not become the director , you had not become the script writer , you had not become the creator of your life yet . And where you wanted to go ? Yes , we know that there's no such thing as time , but on the mental plane , that came before the physical plane . So as above , so below .

So I got to pick a place where I'm going to be mentally . I got to pick a place where I want to go emotionally . I got to be that . And then , once you do that , the comparison will only be with yourself . Teachers or coaches or whoever , whatever these labels that humans create .

I stopped comparing myself , and I know if I start comparing myself , that means you ain't clear on where you want to go . D so I started to realize that there was no comparison . It was just me . Literally , it's just me . I'm comparing myself To the future self Of who I am going to become , hold on now .

Who I'm going to be in five years Is who I'm comparing myself to , hold on now . So I'm really just comparing me To me , huh . So really , I'm just comparing to where I am today , to where I'm going to be tomorrow . That's the comparison .

Because , remember , way back at the beginning of this , I told you you had to have two points you had to have one where you were and you had to have another one of where you were going . So let that be , let that be , let that be , let that be , let that be , let that be who you compare yourself to .

Because that's the front end , the front end of when I compare myself to where I am right now and to where I'm going . That's going to invoke the energy of inspiration , and we know that inspiration comes from the same Latin root as spirit , spri , rare , the thing , the light that lit up all of mankind .

And when I compare where I am right now to where I have been , and I look at myself and I got tears going down my face and I say I may not be where I want to go , but I know good and well I'm not where I was , I'm not that version of me , and I may see people along this journey . I say I don't like him , I don't like him , I can't stand him .

It's not that you don't like him , you didn't like the version of you that at one point resonated with him . For him to come into your life , that's what you don't like . Let that be a sign that you have grown . So when , if I look back where I was compared to where I am right now , I'm going to invoke this energy of what we call gratitude .

So the only comparison should have been with you , against you to you . But you had to have a version of you in the front and the front and you had to have a version of you in the back . And when you got them two bad boys and them bad girls locked in , the game is just you versus you . So continue , keep going as always . I wish you .

I wish you nothing but the best . I give you positive energy , positive courage , lending my energy to you to say keep going . That's the whole point of this podcast . You don't even realize . See , I'm transferring my energy . I'm giving it to you . You can receive it if you want or you cannot , and if it resonates with you , give it to somebody else .

You see how this works . We can take energy . We can take the energy from someone or something and transfer it . That's why you feel the way you feel right now . You feel like yo , I can go , do anything because you borrow my energy . Right now , I'm literally giving it to you .

Take it , go , go , set your destination , go , set your waypoint , go , don't stop , stop wasting time . I don't know what you're doing right now . Go , go , go .

It's like my kids when I tell them it's time to go upstairs , go , take a shower , go , take a shower , it's time to go , yeah , but no , go , go , go , go , go , go , go , go , go and set your destination , go and set your waypoint , go .

And when you get there , please don't be surprised if I'm waiting right there clapping for you , and please know I wish you nothing but the best along this pathway to your results . You .