Imposter Syndrome

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So this concept of imposter syndrome , imposter syndrome , right ? So I went and looked it up . I was like what is this thing ? Imposter syndrome ? Because I was feeling this weird feeling two weeks ago of like imposter syndrome .

Because I was feeling this weird feeling two weeks ago of almost like I know that I'm capable , I know I can do it , but it doesn't feel like I can . And then there's a conflict inside . It's really hard to really put into words and I had another client . He said he's like , yeah , imposter syndrome the struggle with .

So I'm like man , what is this imposter syndrome ? So it says imposter syndrome is a psychological phenomenon where individuals doubt their abilities , feeling like frauds , despite their evidence of their success . People with imposter syndrome often believe that they don't deserve their achievements , in fear of being exposed as quote , unquote fake .

They may attribute accomplishments to luck or external factors , rather than their skills or hard work . This feeling of inadequacy can affect high achieving individuals across various fields , including business , academics , creative pursuits , often leading to anxiety , self-doubt and perfectionism . Y'all stay with me here because somebody is going to speak to somebody .

We all go through imposter syndrome , all of us . We all deal with imposter syndrome , I don't care who you are . I just got off the phone yesterday with an agent . I didn't just get off the phone , but I had a conversation with an agent in the NBA yesterday . Her client that she represents is a top three player in the NBA .

If I said his name , you all would know exactly who it is . So we were having a consultation about possibly maybe working with somebody who she's associated with . I think I knew who it is , but anyway , she was saying how these guys struggle with imposter syndrome . I said well , of course they do . We all struggle with imposter syndrome .

Y'all stay with me because I'm going to give you the real . I'm going to give you the low down on what imposter syndrome is . You know what imposter syndrome is ? It's when you got one foot on one side of the line and you got another foot on the other side of the line , meaning you ain't fully a butterfly yet and you ain't still fully a caterpillar yet .

So now you're in limbo . I know I'm creating a new version of me and I know that I'm capable of doing more .

But yet I'm still stuck in this old life because my surroundings still look the same , the people around me still looks the same , the energy on the outside still looks the same , but inside of me there's something saying you can do more , you can be more . You need to start carrying yourself differently .

In that time in between of when it shows itself in the physical reality , you're going to feel like a fraud , you're going to feel like a fake , you're going to feel this thing that we call imposter syndrome . So I started to look at my life . Y'all stay with me here . Stay with me here because I'm going to be open . I'm going to be honest with you .

I'll say look , I don't have it all figured out . I only know what I know and what I've experienced in this existence right now . So here I am making a pivot , making a push here in my business . It's like I want to start helping more entrepreneurs , because I'm at a place now where I'm starting to realize everybody can have it all .

You can have more time , you can have more freedom , you can have more money , you can have more fulfillment , you can live every day , doing what you want to do , despite what we've been told , that you got to get lucky and you're going to have to do this . So I'm like I have this drive .

I have this desire to help people , to build businesses so they can do things that they love to do , so they'll never have to work another day in their life . So this is something that's like it's just come over me and I'm like I'm in the vibration . You start understanding numerology . I'm in the vibration of five right now , which is change .

But then here's what ends up happening you start to make this pivot . You start to make this change . Right , maybe you're talking a little differently . Things that resonate with you used to resonate with you don't resonate anymore . Now you're starting to make this change , but then there's still the old parts of you . There's still the old parts of your mind .

There's still the old programs that say , yeah , but that isn't who you are . Yeah , but that isn't what we do . Imagine this It'd be like the caterpillar the caterpillar going to become the butterfly and halfway in between , when it starts to grow the wings , but it still has this little tubular body like a caterpillar .

It starts to have this internal conflict of saying , yeah , but we crawl around , we don't fly places , we don't do that . So now we feel like imposters because we're still identifying as the old version of us , but we're stepping into the new version of us .

So we feel like we're being fake , we feel like we're not being authentic , we feel like we're being frauds . So when something does happen that mirrors the inside of what we're trying to become , we'll say that we got lucky . We'll say that it was a fluke . Oh man , that was crazy man , I can't believe this happened . Wow , no-transcript .

So here's what I started to realize in my own life If you're going to straddle the line , you're going to have to go ahead and pick a side . If you're going to straddle the line , go ahead and pick a side , meaning I can't hold on to the old life and move into the new life . I'm going to have to do one or the other .

I'm going to have to get rid of the old way of thinking if I'm going to have this new life . I'm going to have to get rid of the old way of thinking if I'm going to have this new life . I'm going to have to get rid of the old self-concept if I'm going to have this new life .

And here's the warning when you adopt the new way of thinking , the new self-concept , please believe it ain't going to show itself right away . It ain't going to show itself immediately . It won't do it . There's going to be a delay , and this is where we wait for reality to catch up .

But in that in-between , you are sitting here on the inside saying I know that I'm him , but on the outside it's looking like that you were washed up . So what do you feel like ? You feel like an imposter . So here's why I have to say this . I'm not going to shine negativity on imposter syndrome .

I probably might be the only one who you ever heard , the only one you ever heard . It's not like I'm from Memphis or I'm from St Louis . I may be the only one that you hear . That will tell you if you are feeling like an imposter . This is a positive sign that you are beginning the journey of moving into the new life . This is a positive thing .

You are starting to move , to move into the new life of being a butterfly , of being that frog instead of being the tadpole . You're starting to grow your legs , sorry , yeah , legs , yeah , tadpoles grow legs . But so I started to look at myself and I'm like why do I make it seem so negative that you were like imposter syndrome ?

How else in the world , how else did we ever achieve or accomplish a new way of being ? How else did we do it ? You had at some point had to become an imposter . Y'all ain't trying to hear nothing . Y'all ain't trying to hear nothing that I'm saying right now .

How in the world were you going to become a division one athlete thinking that you were a division three athlete ? How in the world were you going to become a division one athlete thinking that you were a division three athlete ? How in the world were you going to get to the NBA if you didn't ever think that you were even worthy of playing college ?

How in the world were you going to build a seven-figure business if you didn't even think that you were worthy of making six figures ? How in the world was that going to happen ? You were going to have to create an imposter .

You were going to have to create a version of you that wasn't actually existing in the physical reality yet you were going to have to become an imposter . So when they say you have imposter syndrome , you damn right . I got imposter syndrome because I knew the only way for me to create this in my reality was I was going to have to be it before I see it .

Y'all ain't trying to hear nothing . I'm saying right now , might as well go ahead and get off and be done . Some of us ain't trying to hear nothing that I'm saying . This was a part of your evolution and of your journey . Everybody's an imposter until you do it . Huh , everybody is an imposter until you do it .

What you are listening to right now , at one point , this was the imposter . Y'all ain't trying to hear me . This was the imposter . Four years ago , when I sat here , I used to sit at a desk when I didn't know whether or not I wanted to live .

I didn't even know what I wanted to do in life and I would sit here at a desk with a suit on and talk to nobody on the phone and pretend that I was having conversations with influential figures , that I was having conversations to helping people . I had to be something before anybody ever saw it .

This was the only way , and here's the thing fully had imposter syndrome and the reason why it was so hard because the version of you , of who you've been , is like oh no , I'm going to have to die in order to become this new thing . So what's going to do ? It's going to make you feel guilty . It's going to make you feel less than .

It's going to make you feel like you're not good enough . It's going to make you feel like an imposter . It's going to make you feel like this is luck . It's going to make you feel like this is just something that randomly happened .

No , it happened because you made the choice and you doubled down and you said to yourself I'm going to be it before I see it and I'm going to keep being it until I see it . And then , when I see it , I'm going to enjoy it . And then I'm going to create another version of myself , and then another , and then another , and then another .

Do you see how this works ? So when somebody tells you , oh well , I have an imposter syndrome , shake their hand and say congratulations you on your way to your new life . Do not turn around Now . I'm going to let this pause so it can marinate and sizzle in your spirit , because I really don't understand .

I don't think you really get what I'm trying to drop off to you right now . I used to walk around and pretend I was something more than I was and lo and behold , it happened . It happened . It happened . And here's the thing I didn't ever tell anybody . I just walk around using my imagination and it happened .

And then I started to do it again , and then it would happen . And then I went through a stage in life where I stopped doing it . I stopped doing it because I focused my gaze on the outside . You got to be a father . You got to be a husband . You got to be a provider . You got to do this . I stopped dreaming . I stopped dreaming .

I stopped creating versions of myself . I stopped creating versions of myself . I stopped creating new actors , new characters . I stopped doing it and for about 10 years of my life it sunk me into . I guess you can call it depression , I guess you can say it . But I realized what it was . My soul , your soul , loves to see what it can become .

It loves to see what it's capable of . It don't want to stay the same . That's why you don't wear the same costume every year for Halloween . Some of us need to start dressing up for Halloween every day . We need to start treating our life like it's Halloween .

Every single day is a new opportunity for me to put on a new character , a new way of being , a new way of life . And in between , when it shows itself , I'm going to have to impostulate , I'm going to have to be an imposter . So when we start to see that imposter syndrome is actually a positive thing , I went a step further .

I went a layer deeper to figure out why am I feeling so unworthy ? And here's what ended up happening . The universe conspired . It conspired to show me what was underneath the surface , what was underneath the hood .

So here I am , trying to step into this new life , this new way of being , this new part of business , this new wave of entrepreneurship , this new frequency . So I start sending people DMs . Hey , you're looking for a coach . Hey , are you looking for somebody to work with ? I'm going to start a mastermind . Do you need help with your business ?

So I send this person a DM . You know what they respond with . Do you know how to sell a business ? Or have you ever sold a business in your life ? Oh , my goodness , it triggered the crap out of me . It brought up the imposter . It brought up the version that you're trying to become . It brought up all the doubt . See , you're not it .

You've never sold a business . See , you've never helped anybody sell a business . See you're . You see how this comes up . So now I was able to see Ah , the trigger . The trigger was just trying to show me something that I was unaware of . You still ain't stepped fully stepped into it . You ain't fully stepped into it . You haven't , you ain't doubled down .

It's like when you catch the ball in the wing in a basketball game and you haven't made your mind up that you're going to shoot it and you like , okay , maybe I'll shoot it , maybe I won't , and then you shoot it . You're like dang , dang , and you miss it and you knew you could have made it , but it's because you didn't fully double down .

You're going to have to , at some point , burn the boats . You know what it means to burn the boats . I mean , you find a new . When they say , when you find a new island , when you find a new place , you burn the boats that you came on so you can't turn back around . At some point you're going to have to burn the boats .

At some point you're going to have to say you know what ? I'm going to start this business . I'm going to sign up for the Elite Mindset group coaching . I'm going to go on a retreat . I'm going to say something within this marriage , I'm going to start healing these inner wounds . We ain't going to be able to burn .

We ain't going to sit here and teeter back and forth . Nah , I'm going to step all the way into it . Oh , and please believe , it's going to be uncomfortable , it's going to be painful , it's going to be scary . You can burn the mother boats , burn them up , and now here's what's going to end up happening .

Here's what's going to end up happening when you burn the boat and you know you can't turn around . This is when the imposter becomes the embodiment . This is when you become him . This is when you become her . When you double down on the impostulation , when you double down on the imposter syndrome and you say I'm going to be him until I see it .

I'm going to keep being him , regardless of the situation and regardless of the circumstances of what goes on the outside , I'm going to keep being him . And here's the deal . I make sure that I have things in place , meaning my daily standards , my non-negotiables , those things that I do every day will support this future version of me .

I'm going to keep doing that every single day . So even if it doesn't show itself , it won't matter , because I've already created the frequency , the version of myself on the inside . But here's what I do know as within . So without . So it ain't got no mother choice but to show itself .

When you start to double down on that energy I will promise you this it will show itself in your physical reality . And hear me when I say this Everybody is different . It may take you two months , it may take you 10 years , it does not matter . That isn't what you were after .

Anyway , on the outside , it was who you were on the inside that you were actually chasing . So I told you that this NBA agent that reached out and his players , like I said , top three . I wish I could tell you who it was , but top three player in the NBA , top three , you got to put him in the greats Hall of Fame . He's a Hall of Famer .

Anyway , agent reached out . I had a dream four years ago . I had a dream four years ago that I was working with this guy . And here's what I started to do . I used to pretend , I used to learn everything about him . I looked everything up about him , learned who his mom was his dad .

I started to move in the energy that I was already working with him , because I got that dream . I had that dream , I had that premonition that was enough to create a subconscious belief that this was even possible . So then , now , guess what ? Here we are four years later , four years later , and this reality showed itself .

Whether or not I actually work with him , in what capacity , it's irrelevant . I took it as a sign , as the universe saying you're at that frequency now . You did it . You did it . You created that version of you that you were looking to create and you were using this physical thing as a reflection to remind yourself and show yourself .

Do we see how this works ? So for us , imposter syndrome , let's reframe it . As we do with everything , there's infinite perspectives as to how we can look at something . Let's reframe the way we look at imposter syndrome . Let's not look at it as something that being negative . Let's instead look in and say you know what this is .

You know what imposter syndrome really is . I'm feeling this because I haven't fully stepped into who I want to be , I haven't fully committed and doubled down on this new life that I want to live , and I have to make sure that I take action on that , because the way to combat imposter syndrome is through you taking action is through you taking action .

When you take action , you're moving in the vibration of the future you . But as long as we don't take action , the imposter syndrome is going to paralyze us . So give yourself permission to create this new version of yourself and then step all the way into it . Burn the boats , burn the bridges , flatten the tires , whatever you need to do .

Step all the way into it . And then here's the deal . I say 90 days . Some people it takes longer . Maybe 120 days is better for you . Give yourself enough time for it to start to show yourself in your reality . Don't just give up so quickly . And I'm here to tell you . I'm here to tell you what's going to happen .

You're going to start doing this and I say probably about day 17, . Oh , it's going to get hard . About day 17 is when you're going to start to question yourself . That's when the imposter is going to come up , about day 17, . And he's going to be .

She's going to hang around for probably about four or five , six , seven days , and then you'll get over the hump and then you're going to ask yourself what's the point of doing this ? Because on the inside you feel like it , but it's not showing on the outside yet .

This is where we got to stop focusing on the outside and focus all of your energy on the inside . I'm just telling you everything that I've done in my life so relish in this new version , this imposter that you're creating . That's going to be needed until you get to the level of being it and actually seeing it , and then you won't be an imposter anymore .

You won't . They didn't tell you that imposter syndrome was actually a form , a process . It was a stage in this journey of creating yourself . It's going to be needed . It's not negative .

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