Keep Trying- Mini Episode

Beatles famously were rejected. We've all heard the stories about it took Edison a thousand times to make the lightbulb, you know, a thousand tries that didn't work, and he finally made it zen. And the art of motorcycle maintenance was rejected a hundred and twenty one times. It took me three tries before I achieved my first long term sobriety.

So these are the sort of stories that we hear all the time, and they're usually presented to us in the sense of things like keep trying at business, or keep submitting your book, or in my case, keep trying to get sober, which are all very valuable points, and I think we all need reminded of that success doesn't often come right at the beginning, that it takes us

a while to achieve success. But I wanted to talk about these ideas in a slightly different way today, and I wanted to talk about him in the sense of what it takes to change the way our mind works, and what it takes to change our emotional makeup and how we deal with the world. Because the things that we talk about on this show a lot mindfulness and meditation and getting some distance from our thoughts and learning to question our thoughts and taking action even when we

don't feel like it. These are all things that take a lot of work. And I know, for a period of my life, I would try something like this. I would hear like, do this thing, question your thoughts. Let's let's use that as an example. And so I would question my thoughts for a day, and I would still have this and crappy thoughts at the end of the day, and I would give up. So all of these practices that we talk about take a lot of time. We

have to do them again and again and again. We have to have the tenacity, uh, like the author of Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance did to submit his book a hundred and twenty one times. Apparently, Howard Schultz, the founder of Starbucks, was rejected by over two investors.

So the point is, these things take time. So if you're working on a meditation practice, if you're trying to be more mindful, if you're working to change your thoughts, if you're working to question your thoughts, if you're trying to build an exercise practice and you failed again and again, keep trying. That message is so important. We just have to keep doing these things. There are no easy answers.

I wish there were. I wish there was a way to say three special sentences to you and suddenly all your troubles in life would disappear and all your negative thinking would disappear. But that's not been my experience. And believe me, I've looked high and low for those sorts of things and they don't exist. So the only real answer we have is to keep practicing these these things, do them over and over and over, and be patient on the results. But by taking these practices we will

see benefit. We'll see small benefits right away and will reap larger benefits over time. But it's definitely a thing you have to keep working for, keep trying. So if you try that new communication technique with your wife tonight and it doesn't go great, don't go well, that didn't work, and and give up. I mean I've been guilty of that. Like I'm going to go home, and what I'll do is when that person gets angry with me, I'll respond

with kindness. And I do that and the person still is angry with me, and I think this just doesn't work, and I give up. But I need to realize that patterns that have been put into place over years and years and years take some time to unwind. The same with thought patterns that we've been having since we were very These take some time to unwind, but it's worth doing. Keep at it, stick with it, be patient with the process.

If you're looking for a little bit of guidance along the way, we have the one you Feed coaching program. You can go to one you feed dot net slash coaching to learn more about it. We'll have another episode out on Tuesday. As always, thanks for listening, Take care, talk soon. Bye.