Hello and welcome to PartnershipProject's first Parent Podcast. This year we are focusing on Parental Presence in the form of monthly podcasts and blog posts. These voices will be from current or past parents who have been referred to PartnershipProjects via a local authority or agency to work with our accredited NVR practitioners. Here, they are permitting us to host their stories, their struggles and successes in their own words, using this platform to share their growth and continued practice...
Feb 18, 2025•46 min•Season 5Ep. 1
A special edition by Peter Jakob and Joanne Buchmüller, writer and Specialist Family and Systemic Psychotherapist in which they discuss the dilemmas in how NVR can be used to support parents and their children with Neurodivergence. They highlight how the exploration of parental erasure and not mattering are the starting points and that resistance methods such as announcements are secondary ways in which parents raise presence, hear their own voice and sense of agency. They caution on the dangers...
Jan 22, 2024•40 min•Season 4Ep. 1
Shila Desai and Peter Jakob discuss some additions to Child focused Practices in NVR . Unmet needs were categorised in four ways which included the need to belong, to feel safe and secure, the need for autonomy with a sense of accomplishment and fourth the need for a coherent and benign narrative of worth and being loved. This podcast throws up a fifth need which is the 'Need for Justice' and how NVR has ignored this 'big elephant' in the room. How do we help adults to initiate justice seeking f...
Jan 03, 2024•33 min
In this episode Jill Lubienski and Dr Peter Jakob discuss the wider applications of NVR, focusing on areas of practice not originally considered within the NVR family approach developed by Haim Omer. Discussion includes how NVR could be used for example in situations where a young person refuses to comply with diabetic medication; in communities where there is gang-related violence; how practitioners might utilise imaginary methods with siblings to resist escalation; and NVR practices in wider s...
Nov 30, 2023•30 min•Season 3Ep. 8
In light of recent events (war) taking our focus, we felt strongly to reflect on what builds peace. This is an emotional piece that we were compelled to speak about. With Shila Desai & Peter Jakob. PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are hosted by highly qualified trainers and practitioners, including Shila Desai, Jill Lubienski, Dr Peter Jakob, Rachael Aylmer, and influential ...
Oct 11, 2023•33 min•Season 3Ep. 7
In this episode Shila Desai speaks to Vasiliki Loumpa- a Family and Systemic Psychotherapist/ NVR Accredited Practitioner about how she uses NVR and its adaptations in working with young people's mental health. We explore how de-escalation in symptoms is possible and how practitioners create space to re-connect with for parents unheard needs. Don't forget to check the PartnershipProjects Website for our 1 day conference on 12th September and also new dates for our training courses from Autumn 20...
Aug 29, 2023•30 min•Season 3Ep. 6
In this podcast, Shila Desai and Peter Jakob explore the difficult impact of situational mutism, social withdrawal and shutdown faced by parents and carers when young people are no longer engaging with the world. The conversation explores the needs of young people and their withdrawal being situated within an attempt to find a solution. Peter and Shila explore how resistance by parents and a caring community can bring back life energy, the ability to persevere and to invite dialogue again. Some ...
Aug 02, 2023•37 min•Season 3Ep. 5
In this podcast, Jill Lubienski and Peter Jakob consider the position of women and NVR. Many of our clients are women in situations of distress, who are left alone to cope in often dangerous family situations and then frequently blamed by agencies and others for not being 'good enough' parents. Peter and Jill explore NVR's lack of consideration as a whole of issues of gender and violence. They discuss how this lack of a feminist sensibility has left women exposed and their struggles underappreci...
Jun 22, 2023•28 min
In this episode, Jill Lubienski and Peter Jakob discuss possibilities for how to keep going in tough times. Peter and Jill elaborate on a metaphor of climbing a mountain - how our work in NVR and within the systems in which we are located, can be akin to such an experience, where we have to find ways of coping in unfamiliar locations and in inclement weather, employing various resources and survival skills which we may have needed in the past, but forgotten. Jill and Peter discuss their ideas of...
May 25, 2023•29 min•Season 3Ep. 3
Peter Jakob introduces Shila Desai and together they discuss the idea of how to cultivate stillness in the demands and uncertainties that families and practitioners face. The idea of a First Aid Still Box is explored and how both physical supplies and mentalising practices can be included in such a box to create a halt before taking action. PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are h...
Apr 17, 2023•32 min•Season 3Ep. 2
Peter Jakob and Jill Lubienski take inspiration from Martin Luther King Jr. in exploring the theme of connecting heart and mind and taking action in an NVR frame. PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are hosted by highly qualified trainers and practitioners, including Shila Desai, Jill Lubienski, Dr Peter Jakob, Rachael Aylmer, and influential guests. Listen in as they discuss curre...
Mar 23, 2023•31 min•Season 3Ep. 1
Peter Jakob and Rachael Aylmer have discussions about practitioners working on cases that are tough. It is farewell from me (Rachael) as I hand over to my colleagues Shila Desai and Jill Lubienski for season 3. Thank you for listening to my ramblings. Please check out the PP website for info on: Eli Lebowitz who is coming to the UK to deliver the first face-to-face training in the S.P.A.C.E model in London 17th & 18th of April and Birmingham 20th & 21st of April 2023 Please check the NVR...
Dec 13, 2022•22 min•Season 2Ep. 23
Peter Jakob & Rachael Aylmer talk about "The Struggle" between caregivers in NVR and practitioners in NVR. Note * this is a 50-minute podcast We ask the listeners in this podcast to consider a question: What helps generate "hope" ?? From a parental position..... how do you as a parent/caregiver grow a sense of hope in the NVR work/process? From a practitioner's position, how do you help guide/coach/contain parents toward hopefulness? Please respond via email: info@partnershipprojectsuk.com P...
Nov 17, 2022•39 min•Season 2Ep. 22
Peter Jakob and Rachael Aylmer talk on this week's podcast about the "Language of Love". reference: Carl Rogers - https://counsellingtutor.com/biography-of-carl-rogers/ Unconditional positive regard (UPR) PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are hosted by highly qualified trainers and practitioners, including Shila Desai, Jill Lubienski, Dr Peter Jakob, Rachael Aylmer, and influenti...
Nov 03, 2022•27 min•Season 2Ep. 21
Peter Jakob and Rachael Aylmer talk about resistance in our practice. How do NVR practitioners challenge other professionals with different scripts and narratives in our family work which may cause distress and /or harm to parents? PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are hosted by highly qualified trainers and practitioners, including Shila Desai, Jill Lubienski, Dr Peter Jakob, Ra...
Oct 21, 2022•29 min•Season 2Ep. 20
Peter Jakob and Rachael Aylmer discuss how a diagnosis in a young person can affect how parents and caregivers utilise NVR. Referenced: The National Autistic Society - https://www.autism.org.uk/ Haim Omer - https://www.haimomer-nvr.com/ PartnershipProjects: - www.partnershipprojectsuk.com PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are hosted by highly qualified trainers and practitioners,...
Sep 02, 2022•22 min•Season 2Ep. 18
Peter Jakob and Rachael Aylmer talk about "Clarity" on this week's podcast. A short and sweet conversation about how practitioners gain a sense of clarity in their work with parents/caregivers. PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are hosted by highly qualified trainers and practitioners, including Shila Desai, Jill Lubienski, Dr Peter Jakob, Rachael Aylmer, and influential guests. ...
Aug 19, 2022•22 min•Season 2Ep. 17
The vulnerability of parents was today's discussion between Peter Jakob and Rachael Aylmer. PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are hosted by highly qualified trainers and practitioners, including Shila Desai, Jill Lubienski, Dr Peter Jakob, Rachael Aylmer, and influential guests. Listen in as they discuss current events, and relevant topics within the NVR community and beyond. Thi...
Jul 26, 2022•30 min0
Peter Jakob and Rachael Aylmer talk about young people's disabilities and diagnoses and how aggression can be normalised. PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are hosted by highly qualified trainers and practitioners, including Shila Desai, Jill Lubienski, Dr Peter Jakob, Rachael Aylmer, and influential guests. Listen in as they discuss current events, and relevant topics within the...
Jul 15, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 15
Welcome to the first NVRA community podcast. This month: Rachael Aylmer talks to Warren Matofsky Clinical and Community Psychologist from West Sussex CAMHS who has developed the S.P.A.C.E model in his service using the New Authority Model NVR with children and young people suffering from severe anxiety problems. PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are hosted by highly qualified tra...
Jul 15, 2022•36 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Peter Jakob and Rachael Aylmer talk about Inequality and the fear of Social Control and how NVR practitioners' roles can be portrayed ad misunderstood within parent groups. PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are hosted by highly qualified trainers and practitioners, including Shila Desai, Jill Lubienski, Dr Peter Jakob, Rachael Aylmer, and influential guests. Listen in as they dis...
Jul 05, 2022•26 min0
Peter Jakob talks in detail about the interaction between parent and child and parent to parent. How mutual blaming can make life difficult. How can parents interrupt this? PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are hosted by highly qualified trainers and practitioners, including Shila Desai, Jill Lubienski, Dr Peter Jakob, Rachael Aylmer, and influential guests. Listen in as they dis...
Jun 21, 2022•28 min•Season 2Ep. 13
Peter Jakob and Rachael Aylmer muse over the understanding of heroes and role models in today's society and our history. Please contact us on: info@partnershipprojectsuk.com PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are hosted by highly qualified trainers and practitioners, including Shila Desai, Jill Lubienski, Dr Peter Jakob, Rachael Aylmer, and influential guests. Listen in as they di...
Jun 07, 2022•29 min•Season 2Ep. 12
Tony Meehan and Rachael Aylmer talk more about NVR in schools and education settings. Please see Haim Omers Book Courageous Teachers: Courageous teachers: Developing a new authority to cope with violence and chaos Should a listener want more information about how to start NVR in a school setting please email: info@partnershipprojectsuk.com Should a listener be interested in NVR Association please visit: www.thenvrassociation.org PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance...
Jun 01, 2022•31 min
Peter Jakob deconstructing the term "nag". PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are hosted by highly qualified trainers and practitioners, including Shila Desai, Jill Lubienski, Dr Peter Jakob, Rachael Aylmer, and influential guests. Listen in as they discuss current events, and relevant topics within the NVR community and beyond. This Podcast supports discussions about NVR and rela...
May 22, 2022•25 min•Season 2Ep. 10
Tony Meehan and Rachael Aylmer discuss how staff within all educational settings might differ by using NVR and how staff can unite their approaches to challenging behaviours. NVR Association Conference (Face to face) 14th May at Eastbourne Tennis Club Free event - sign up to become a member which entitles you to a ticket to the event. Order of the Day - 10 - 4 Key note - Peter Jakob Presenters Haim Omer, Jill Lubienski and Tony Meehan PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resi...
Apr 21, 2022•30 min•Season 2Ep. 9
Tony Meehan and Rachael Aylmer talk about how schools can adopt a new approach to behaviours in school, using New Authority. We referenced a book by Paul Dix - When the Adults Change Everything Changes We referenced a YouTube clip - Dads Patrol (in the US) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OdPaqt6RY_Q We referenced Toby Newton - Headteacher in a Hong Kong school - ICHK and a exert of the behaviour policy in his school. "Our conviction as a school is that for 95% of the time and for 95% of the st...
Mar 16, 2022•37 min•Season 2Ep. 8
Peter Jakob and Rachael Aylmer talk about the current war on Ukraine and how this sits with this week's topic The Nature of Non-Violence, acts of resistance and solidarity. PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are hosted by highly qualified trainers and practitioners, including Shila Desai, Jill Lubienski, Dr Peter Jakob, Rachael Aylmer, and influential guests. Listen in as they dis...
Mar 09, 2022•34 min0
Rachael Aylmer talks to Vasiliki Loumpa about her work as an NVR accredited practitioner in the NHS inpatients unit using NVR as an intervention to support parents and staff who are supporting young people with their mental health illnesses. PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are hosted by highly qualified trainers and practitioners, including Shila Desai, Jill Lubienski, Dr Peter...
Mar 02, 2022•30 min•Season 2Ep. 6
Shila Desai and Rachael Aylmer talk about "Taking a stand" ..... how might parents find the strength to do this. PartnershipProjects is the UK's leading NVR (Non-Violent Resistance) Training provider for professionals and parent coaching. Our professional Podcasts are hosted by highly qualified trainers and practitioners, including Shila Desai, Jill Lubienski, Dr Peter Jakob, Rachael Aylmer, and influential guests. Listen in as they discuss current events, and relevant topics within the NVR comm...
Feb 16, 2022•30 min0
