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Too Holy to Sit Next to a Woman

Mar 25, 202421 minSeason 23Ep. 1201
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Jewish Passenger Sues JetBlue After He Refused to Sit With Woman, Was Thrown Off PlaneBusiness Insider, By Grace Dean, on Mar 12, 2024

https://www.businessinsider.com/jetblue-orthodox-jewish-passenger-sues-lawsuit-refused-sit-woman-seat-2024-3

The discussion delves into a highly charged incident aboard an airplane, where a passenger adamantly refuses to comply with a request to switch seats to accommodate a fellow traveler's religious beliefs. Tensions rise as the situation unfolds, with the crew and other passengers becoming involved in the escalating dispute.


The conversation explores the complexities surrounding the accommodation of religious practices within the context of communal spaces such as airplanes. It raises questions about the extent to which individual rights should be balanced against the needs and beliefs of others, particularly in situations where there is limited space and resources.


Throughout the discussion, various viewpoints emerge, each reflecting different perspectives on the matter. Some argue passionately for the importance of respecting religious freedoms and accommodating diverse beliefs, while others emphasize the need to uphold principles of fairness and equality for all passengers.


The debate extends beyond the immediate incident, touching on broader issues related to cultural sensitivity, ethical dilemmas, and the challenges of navigating diverse societies. Participants grapple with the question of how best to strike a balance between honoring religious practices and maintaining a sense of inclusivity and respect for everyone on board.


As the conversation unfolds, it becomes clear that there are no easy answers to these complex issues. Each perspective presented carries its own validity and raises important considerations for how to approach similar situations in the future. Ultimately, the transcript prompts reflection on the ways in which society can work towards creating environments that are welcoming and accommodating to people of all beliefs and backgrounds.


The Non-Prophets, Episode 23.12.1 featuring Scott Dickie, Infidel64, Richard Allen and Jason Friedman


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Transcript

A lawsuit against Jeed Blue involving Abraham Lunger, an Orthodox Jewish passenger, sheds lights on a disturbing display of closed mindedness. Lunger's refusal to sit next to a woman solely based on his religious beliefs resulted in his expulsion from the flight. His uncompromising stance highlights a rigid adherence to outdated principles at the expensive common

decency. This incident underscores the challenges airlines face when passengers prioritize their beliefs over the convenience and comfort of fellow travelers, and it serves as a stark reminder of the intolerance that still persists today in society, even in seemingly trivial situations like airplane seating arrangements. This story is from Business Insider by Grace Dean on March twelfth, twenty twenty four. And I'm sure my fellow panelists are going

to have plenty to say about this. This is just like a this is the low hanging fruit, proverbiably so. But before we do, I just want to point out a few things here. There is more to the lawsuit than just that particular part of it. They're also alleging that the airline was mistreating them both during the incident and afterwards. So there was some other claims made by the accuser. They were told they're according to them, they were

told that they could ask around to see if anyone would switch. The flight attendant apparently yelled at them to return to their seat and then wouldn't let them switch, even though other passengers were saying that they would be willing to switch. And then the pilot came out and said that they was refusing to let them switch and that they would have to get off the plane, And so

they got off the plane. Apparently they weren't allowed to collect their luggage, and then they had to pay for the price difference for a flight for the next day, and they even had they were charged a ticket change fee, So there was more than just the just the seating arrangement. Obviously, that's a ridiculous expectation, clearly sexist and really actually kind of creepy. But there's good ways to deal with those kind of things, and there's bad ways to

deal with those kind of things. So if we're assuming that all of those details from the story were correct, because really we're only hearing one side of the story. The airline itself didn't didn't have any lengthy statement about this, probably because you know, it's an on it's an ongoing case. But I don't know, I'm kind of leaning towards the passenger should probably wins. It sounds like they were kind of mistreated after the fact, and but it wouldn't

be necessarily because of religious intolerance. It was just because of the way they were treated afterwards. Having said that, Having said that, I do have to say that I think it can make a good business sense for for airlines and businesses in generals to have certain a certain level of accommodation if it can

be done fairly and consistently. For example, I'm a teacher. In the school that I work at, we generally go go out of our way or put it put some effort into to accommodate students that have religious holidays and things like that, and we're asked to work with the students and so forth.

And my approach, being an atheist, my approach to this in the past has been to I kind of work a little flexibility into the system, okay, instead of instead of saying, well, you can take this holiday, because you know, because you have a religious holiday, I just give everybody you know you can, you can have one flex day or things like that. There are certain things that you can do to to accommodate, not to kind of accommodate what I like to call preference requests, okay, And I

think that's really the way to approach these kind of things. I don't like the idea of going out of your way to accommodate a religious request, but I do think that that falls within a category of types of requests. Maybe somebody wanted to sit by the window, or maybe, you know, somebody needed to sit near the bathroom because they're not feeling well, or maybe somebody didn't want to sit next to a particular person because of their you know,

because of their religious well because of their religious bigotry basically. But you know, I would categorize all those into kind of like a preference style requests, and I think that they can be addressed and they can be treated fairly and consistently. You can already in many airlines you can specify where you know where you want when you buy your ticket, you can say where you want to sit, and so there is some of that flexibility worked in infidel. What

are your thoughts on that? How do you what was your take here? It's funny you mentioned that because a while back my son flew Jet Blue and said he would never do it again because they nickeled and dimed everything. And one of those things that they do nickel and dime, though, is the fact, if you want to choose what seat you sit in, you can

pay the fee. So at the end of the day, this guy had every opportunity to avoid sitting next to some dangerous worldly woman who could have tempted him into something by just choosing to pay the extra money and sitting next to his wife who was actually on the flight, or the other gentleman that was with him as well. So for that, I feel that their expectation of accommodation seems more of an idea of privilege than actual need, because it's a

fabricated need. They could have avoided this by paying the money. I also found it interesting though that it's Jet Blue, because one of the heirs of Beneficiarias of Jet Blue is one of these tad wife people, So I would expect the company to look rather positive towards these closed minded behaviors, you know, they promote something, and that's pretty much akin to this idea, you know, along with people like Mike Pence, who you know, can't go

to a dinner with a woman unless his wife's there or someone else is there to chaperon him. But really, for me, what I find most disgusting about it is it really feels like a build in excuse for bad behavior for men, because if you can't control yourself sitting on a plane sitting next to some woman, then then that's a problem you have, not the airline and not a woman. You know, we mentioned not too long ago, we discussed a story about a pastor who excused rape because of a woman wearing shorts.

And I just find that this type of mentality is all just wound up together. And when it comes down to the flight attendant getting upset and yelling at them, well, I don't know how that was. We weren't there, but I will say that the last time I was on a flight, to think about somebody just standing there mildly in the in the middle of this big, wide, okay not so wide aisle, saying just politely standing there because they couldn't sit next to the woman who was in the seat next to

them. That just seems so disingenuous because it's not like we can you know too deep. I mean, two people walking past on those aisles is tight enough already. So just the mirror act of standing there with you know, with your thumb up your ass and in the middle of the aisle. I can understand why an overworked flight attendant would say, hey, come on, sit down, let's get this going. Does it excuse bad behavior? No?

But is it I understand that, yes, because look, just sit down and fly, fly where you want to go, or pay the fee. But you know, I could go on with this forever, so I should probably not. And with that in mind, Richard, what do you think about this? Well, you said something that I that I was not aware of. Maybe I missed it about the guy's wife was on there with him, obviously, Yeah, they should have booked those together with with him next to the window and her in the middle, you know, some way.

But why didn't the wife switch with him and sit next to the woman and he go to the back to the other seat unless there was also a woman there. That's just you know, there's a lot of facts here that my legal background tells me I can't. I can't decide who's right or wrong without really seeing the evidence or taking a deposition or two. I mean, it's these are these are he said? She said, they said kind of stories, which, you know, until you get people under oath and find

out what's really going on, you're probably not going to know exactly. But what's at the bottom of this that bothers me that you know, this kind of thinking is still going on. It's basically early biblical patriarchy. I mean, that's what it is. Over two thousand years this has been going on, and these people still think the same way. I mean, aren't they ever going to move along with history and the advancements of science and the fact

they're on an airplane. I mean, they didn't have airplanes when those rules were made back in four or five hundred, you know, BC or whatever. So it just I don't know. I mean, we've got to work toward figuring out how to change things. The problem is a lot of these people that think that way, you know, they indoctrinate their kids to think

the same way. And the only way we're going to get our society to be better is to get their kids and our kids to have the ability to ask questions and investigate and you know, have an open mind and see what's out there without you know, being you know, how would I put it impeded with dogmatic blinders? Yeah, oh, Jason, I'm sure you've got

something to say. No, No, I do agree with you. You know, that's one thing that really stood out to be on the fact that you know, it does feel like a double edged sword, he said, she said, type of thing. But you know what really made me think about this. It's funny because half my family's Jewish, you know, so

I think about this. One of my best buddies that I trained with is a very devout jew But you know, we spar together and we actually, you know, we talk a lot of This is very old friend of mine, family friend of mine. But you know, so here, here's what I'm saying. Here's scenario. So if a person who happens to be a member of let's say an obscure religious belief system, you know, let's say, doesn't allow them to sit next to black people cause this type of problem

on an airplane, would they be given this type of gravitas? Would they would anybody even really care? Would we even be having this conversation. So I'm saying, you know, I feel like this article may even be a

little politically loaded given the current state of affairs in our world. It's just, really, it fucking blows my mind that blatant sexism is given any form of consideration when it is upheld by a religious belief, especially that of you know, like what everyone said, it's like an archaic, ancient religion, and because of the nature of it, especially being in a Christian nation, it's given a special pass. And again I say this as a person who

has a Jewish last name. Half my family's Jewish, like I said, very close friends are Jewish. I just but the thing is like, if he were to act that way, if any of my familys were to act this way, I'd be pissed and I'd actually strongly question my relationship with him. I don't I have to disagree with maybe disagree with Scott, And I'm going to shoot it back to you after this, so I want to see your take on it. I just I don't think people should be given special

accommodations when those accommodations involve xenophobia and bigotry and racism and sexism. It's like, tough fucking luck, man, Like, this is a woman, this is a black person, this is a white person, this is a person from a different country. Your religion says you can't sit next to them in a fucking airport or in a public place. Tough shit. It's like, Richard, this is a modern world. You chose to go on the plight flight. You didn't spend the extra fifteen dollars to get a seat next to

the woman that you choose to be with. There's a lot of things you could do, but instead of doing those things, you fucking impose your bullshit on other people and then blame them if anything is just it's just gaslighting or borderline type behavior, and then it's justified by patriarchal, fucking archaic bullshit like with Infidel brought up. I don't know, I have a big problem with

this. I don't have problem with people believing in religions, but whenever your religion starts imposing on other people, and that's a problem, and I don't think any accommodation should be made for that because at that point you're just accommodating bigotry. And we're taking two steps foward and four steps backwards, Scott, I'm gonna throw it back to you, man, I'd like for you to maybe clarify or yeah, no, common yeah, I agree, I agree,

I agree with you and kind of disagree in the same respect. I think that I do agree that accommodation shouldn't be given because of those particular reasons, because they're saying, well, my religion says I can't sit next to a woman. Clearly, that's ridiculous. I think. I think for an for an airline to go out of it so well, let me let me rephrase that, for there to be expectations of the other passengers to accommodate that

thing, I think is going too far. I think, up to a point, though, airlines can accommodate for any number of requests, like I mentioned before, like I do some of this in my teaching, and the way I like to do it is I'll give you opportunity. Like if I was running the airline, maybe I would say, I'll give you an opportunity

to switch your seat or to select your seat. I wasn't aware that Jet Blue had the option to to, you know, pay the extra fee to to choose your seat, but up to a point you can choose you. I don't care the reason. I don't care the reason. It could be because of your religion, that's fine, that's your decision. It could be because you're you're not feeling well, that's your decision. It could be maybe you just don't want to sit by your friend, you know, whatever the

reason. Up to a certain point, I think accommodation can be reasonable. But like I said, when you start infringing on the other passengers, when you start when you start expecting I think it was infidel you said something about privilege, right, and so if you start expecting that people will accommodate you just because it's your religion, then I would definitely agree that that's too far and that's unreasonable expectation. Speaking of that, I want to ask a question

of the panel here. If you were on that plane, I want to ask you, would you trade seats with somebody on a plane if somebody asked you and they specified it was because of their religion. Now, you might want to say yes because you're just showing kindness to a fellow passenger. You might want to say no because maybe you feel it's an appropriate way for you to protest against those religious demands and accommodations. Would you change seats? Let's

say you're traveling alone. Let's say you have no other requirements on sitting at a particular spot. Would you do it? Infidel? What do you think would you change seats if somebody asked you to. I'll give you the short answer, because the long answer would not be appropriate for you to. No,

not at all. And it does go back to what I feel comes across as a sense of smugs moral superiority because their morals are telling them, or their profess morals is telling them that they can't sit next to this other

person. And if this was a discussion we were having of someone saying I can't sit next to that guy over there because he's an Orthodox Jew, I'd be slamming them too for bigotry, because that's just as unacceptable and with that expectation, and I think that they would be offended if someone said that about them, and rightly so. And on the flip side, I think that they should give that same expectation to other people, whether they're women or people

of color or whatever reason of a new bigoted nuance. Me personally know I would have absolutely no problem in life, generously laughing in their face and saying move along. But Richard, what about you would would you change your seat if somebody said, please change my seat? My religion requires that I can't sit by a woman. I guess it would all depend on the circumstances, the way the person's tone of voice was, how they looked, you know,

and if and if you know you said we're alone. I would say if I was with my wife, I would say no, I'm staying here. But I have done that for people on a plane. But they didn't actually say religious. It was they needed to be next to their kids. So I said, fine, you know, I mean, I'm I'm an easygoing guy as long as you're not stepping on my toes, so I'm probably you know, would say, but I might. I might have commented about it, you know, I might. I might have said, sure,

but you know, it's pretty weird that you can't sit there. So I don't know. It's hard to say without being there for you know what I mean? Right right? I agree kind of, but I don't know. This just reminds me of some back of the bush shit. It really does. I have to agree with Infidel. This is just like this is. You know, women sit on one side and minsit on the other back of the bus here below me. I'm above you. I get to do this.

I get to impede on everybody else's shit to do my shit. I'd know, fuck them, man again, I cannot separate it from any other form of bigotrees inophobia. Just because it's allowed and acceptable and we're used to it, we give some kind of fucking exception for it. I just can't. I can't deal with it. To me, it's just the same way as treating a person of color. I don't know. I've been treated that

way. I'm covered in tattoos and it's it's it's you know, so you know, I've definitely not Luckily nowadays people are a lot more used to it, but fifteen years ago, you know, a little different. So I've definitely been treated that way. And uh, you know, fuck people who treat me that way, and fuck people who treat anybody else that way. I don't w anything to do with them, and I'm not going to accommodate them. Will you answer that way? Would you say that I already have

I do it all the time. I have no problem public all right, no problem. It's it's it's you should talk to my poor part nor my poor kid. I get strangely conversational when I feel like people are acting, Yeah, just don't bring me around abortion protesters. I don't know, this is one of those things. So yeah, okay, all right, cool, great answers. Let's try another question here. So how does this compare contrast to other situations where individuals are making requests and possibly being denied. For

example, if a gay couple wants to buy a wedding cake. Okay, different situation, But are there any contrast there? Are we going to have a rule of inclusiveness? What are the important differences here and fit on? What are your thoughts on that? For me, it's rather simple. First, as you mentioned earlier, there's no rule in the Bible about where you

sit on an airplane or where you do or don't make a cake. So whenever they use biblical excuses to rationalize bad behavior, to me, what they're doing is they're just retrofitting their own bigotry into a little box that they can say, oh, this is this is why I feel this way. So for me, I feel that when you start closing doors like that, I think that's something that I'm not willing to tolerate. I have no interest in being part of, and I have no interest enabling people who do. Richard,

how about you? What is it? How would this compare to the situation with a gay couple wanting to buy a wedding cake. Well, I'll give you a slightly different example. I mean, I think that's a real problem. I'm very familiar with the Supreme Court case that had that happen and found it very uncomfortable. I live about a mile and a half away from a hobby lobby, and I drive by there all the time, and every

time I do, I not nice words go through my head. So in any case, yeah, I mean, I just think most people live about a mile and a half away from a hobby unfortunately. Yeah. No, just my whole thought is, like with what Infidel and Jason and everybody's saying, you know, we need to have a situation where you treat people as if they're all the same equal rights. Everybody should be, you know, unless they're doing something harming you or harming somebody else, leave them alone.

And if they want to buy a cake from you, or if they need a wedding dress. I mean, if you're open for business, you need to be open for business for everybody. It's just that simple. Yeah, and I agree, I agree. I just you know, I won't take it too much time with this, And look, I don't know, it's

a spicy take. I have no problem with assholes making private clubs where assholes pay to be part of the asshole club and they do assholes shit and everybody knows this is where the assholes go and do assholes shit, that's okay. But if it's open to the public and we enable this type of bullshit and

bigotry, all we're doing is being traders to America. I mean, if Americans who are citizens, paying taxes, putting back into the system, or not given equal opportunity, not equal outcome, but at least equal opportunity, equal rights, equal access to healthcare, blah blah blah, and treated fairly, than what you're doing is being a fucking trader. Your behaviors are treesiness and your impact and place society should be reevaluated. So that's how I feel

about that shit. All right, all right, well, any any last words before we wrap this one up here? Infidel, Yeah, I agree, entirely because I think that oftentimes we put a veneer of tolerance upon things, and really what we're talking about is enabling as long as we pass a blind eye to things. What we're doing, is this allowing these things to be had? I agree, Yeah, yeah, that's a great way to

put it. It's like disguising bigotry and enabling in the four in the guise of tolerance, kind of like a wolf in sheep's clothing kind of set up there. Yeah, good point, good point, And we had a great conversation here, and great conversation. If you would like to continue this conversation, check out our fan run facebook groups. We also have a fan run discord server at tiny dot c c slash A C A discord. Nope, my mistake, Sorry, nope, that was tiny dot c c slash A

C D discord. Jason, I keep mixing up my A C A S and my A c DS. It's all right, man, we'll forgive you eventually. Let me repeat that, I keep mixing up my A C A S and my A C D S c D DS. Nuts. All right, So I was gonna do. I mean, you left some hanging out for me, but you know, there. I understand you're even on the show for a while. You're a little rusty, but

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