Welcome to the new manager podcast. I'm your host, Kim nickel. Hi, thanks for joining me today. I hope you're doing great today. I wanted to talk about Job change and also just recognizing that the relationship we have with our workplace is one of the most significant relationships
that we have. I mean, think about it, it connects to our sense of identity, our sense of community, our financial well-being, and how that works for us. So So it's not a small thing to be looking for a new job to be laid off from a job to be fired, like any kind of job change in your life. Really does have this profound effect. And also I mean, even if you are in a happy relationship with your work, That's also not insignificant.
I mean, think about the effect that a happy relationship in your work has in the entire rest of your life. I feel now at this stage in my life and my career, I wish that I'd had a coach or some kind of relationship therapist just to help me get my head clear and to get some clarity around how my work relationship like my relationship with this organization. Ation really does affect my sense of well-being, my sense of identity and what it is that I want to do while I'm here on the planet.
So the reason this topic is coming up right now in the podcast is because there have been so many people in my world and in the world who are facing all kinds of challenges and changes around their jobs. So many Industries, I've been disrupted due to covid and shelter in place. And people changing behaviors about, you know, working from home, and not going out. And just everywhere, I'm seeing this, and I wanted to share some thoughts with you.
Also, in my coaching practice, and in my classes, this has started to become a topic that's coming up. It's coming up with people who are currently job-seeking with people who are currently employed, but are thinking about gosh, I'm not sure I want to To stay at my company anymore because I'm feeling a little uncomfortable about, you know what I'm what, how I'm seeing the industry affected by covid.
I'm also seeing it with people who are first-time managers and now have the very uncomfortable task of furloughing, people laying people off and we know when they started managing people at the beginning of this year, this was not what they had planned was going to Happen. And so that's why we're talking
about this today. So, a few things one is that Even if you are not job hunting or, you know, personally affected, remember too that there might be people in your personal life who are going through this, but also at work on your team, you might have people that you work with and maybe their Partners or their family members or their close friends are having jobs disappear, or they're getting
laid off. Or they're just deciding that their industry is, you know, they need to rethink how they're going to do their work now. So remember that to. So this perspective of as a person who is managing humans, even if it's informally remembering that a person, as a whole human, is also connected to the well-being of others and that if someone in your personal life is struggling, then it might affect you, too. So this is also helpful perspective for you So, a couple of thoughts.
If you are actively job searching my number one tip be kind to yourself this process, takes a lot of energy and a ton of emotion, even under the best circumstances. If you have been furloughed or let go or if you've been fired or if you're realizing that, you've outgrown your current company and it's time to go give yourself some Grace. Be kind, be gentle, realize that this is going to be a little bit challenging and uncomfortable. So be sweet to yourself.
If you did not expect to be job searching right now or if you haven't done it in years, give yourself some Grace. You're not supposed to know how to do this. You know, like how would, you know you have like the skill of job searching of networking, a writing, a resume, like this is something that nobody knows me. Like, just waking up in the morning unless you spend a lot of time actually doing it. So there might be some things that you have to learn.
So give yourself some Grace, be gentle to yourself. Care about your mind and your heart, notice the thoughts, you're thinking, notice the emotions you're feeling and care about that because the more that you can get into a good headspace and really create room for all of the emotions. Those two things will help with your both your energy, your creativity, your resourcefulness, and your ability to just show up to tend to whatever you need to tend to.
On this particular day, there will be so many emotions in this process. Grief is a big one disappointment or anger or fear might show up self-doubt. can come in big and also anxiety with the feeling of uncertainty and also hope As you go through the process of job-seeking, one thing that happens is that all possible, Futures will play out in your mind and activate your heart. So the mind has an idea, and then the heart has an emotional
response to that idea. And even if the idea is imaginary, the emotional experience is immediate and feels very real. So, as you're going through this process, your mind will imagine a best-case scenario. you a worst case scenario and everything in between, this is also why it can get exhausting. So manage your mind, tend to your heart, just be aware that that is part of what happens
sometimes. Also remember, you know, this is not a timeline that you're in charge of this is something you partner with life in. So you can influence the timeline, you can't control it, you can influence the outcome but you can't control it. And that can create feelings of powerlessness the under discomfort of the uncertainty, because you don't know how or, when, or if things will work out. So what I do know is this I do know that life loves living itself through you.
Life loves living. It's all for you. I do know that humans are creative. You're just made that way. We all. Are I know that Serendipity is active here and I love Serendipity because it's a perspective that reminds me that there are people and forces and things happening beyond what I can perceive that I am kind of in this dance with all of these other elements and You never know when something that is exactly, the right person or conversation or idea will show
up in your world. There's this wonderful Rumi poem and the short part of it says, remember whatever you are looking for. Is also looking for you that to me is the magic of serendipity that things are happening even without you controlling them, right? If you go and you dance you don't have to Play every instrument. You just need to listen to the music, allow for it to invite you and engage with the dance floor, and the music and just you know, feel it.
Another perspective to someone is looking for the skill and the experience and the energy that you have to bring and more than one person is looking to hire right now. There are companies and industries and people that are looking to hire more than one. And so, you know, with one of my clients whose whose job seeking, one of the conversations we had was The goal is to have lots of conversations. We don't have to put a lot of pressure on.
Okay got a nail this interview. Let's just start by having conversations and let's just take it one conversation at a time, right? What is like what is it that we want to have happen in this conversation? Just take it one at a time and the goal is not one job offer. The goal is, what if the goal is 3, wouldn't it be nice to have three offers. So let's have some Oceans and the process of how we think about it changes.
How we feel that changes the energy and that influences the actions that we take, it's all connected, but more than one person is looking to hire right now, let's help make it easy for them to find you. I want you to remember also that you are designed for growth. You are a human and humans, learn and grow. This has been true since the day you were born. Also take time to rest. This is also been true since the day you are born and growth
requires rest. This doesn't necessarily mean just, you know, watch like an entire Netflix series, but sometimes resting means, I'm just going to go for a walk and rest, my brain from my screen time. I will feel rested by giving myself time in nature. I will feel rested by taking a hot bath and just enjoying the feeling of the water all around me. Take time to Best take time to enjoy and to play.
And to let yourself be nourished beyond the narrow scope of the job because you are so much more than that for this Dynamic, vibrant living being and you need rest. Also celebrate small wins, you have to acknowledge and appreciate and celebrate. All the Little Steps along the Way doing so will help to nourish and support you and keep you aware that one step at a time, is how you get to where you want to be, and also, just acknowledging and enjoying where
you are right now. Just in this one breath, just this one breath celebrate. You are alive, you are here. You are learning, like, I believe in you, you can Get through this, it's okay. Care about your energy, your mindset and your heart space. Let other people know that you are looking. And let people help you to feel better about this process that can feel very isolating and it can feel very alone and there can be so many uncomfortable emotions that come up along the way.
So let people help you feel better. You don't have to do all of this by yourself. And remember, you're bringing something wonderful to the conversation, your skills, your energy, your experience, your care. I want to offer you a lot of love today for being alive for being here, for caring about yourself. When you do it, affects everyone around you. This is one of the reasons why
self care is so important. This is also the idea of by tending to your own inner whether by really caring about your experience and who you are as a person it does Ripple out in a A positive and useful way to others. If what you're feeling right now is a lot of uncomfortable, emotion, grief, or anger, or fear or self-doubt. Then I want you to bring a lot of love and a lot of tenderness to the part of you, that's feeling those things.
It's not easy. We all go there from time to time and when you're in it oh my gosh. It can feel like the heaviest scariest, most alone, kind of feeling, it's not fun, but it's part of being human, right? So, I hope that this episode has been helpful for you and maybe giving you some perspective and ways to think about the other people in your life right now who might be Going through a hard time and maybe just need a little bit of human. Kindness, a little bit of appreciation.
A little reminder that, you know what? Like this is hard, it does take energy one step at a time. One breath. At a time. You're not alone in this. You've got some friends. You've got some support here. All right, thank you so much for listening. I hope you have a really great rest of your day. Bye. Do you want personal confidential help with your situation at work? I offer one-on-one coaching and can help you overcome challenges reach your goals and become a
more effective leader. The schedule a consult go to my website, Kim nickel.com coaching and we'll schedule time to talk about what's going on with you and how I can help talk to you soon.