What if the fear of failure wasn’t the thing holding us back? Could the freedom we deeply want be available to us right now? And how could we quickly shift into a perspective that challenges us to play big? Today we’re going to zoom out and see our problems and lives from a perspective we rarely take. In this excerpt from This Book Will Make You Dangerous, we’ll tap into a universal view to minimize fear in order to access greater freedom and power. If you’re interested in the book you can learn...
Jul 07, 2020•9 min•Ep. 264
Erik Everhard, author of Unleash Your Sexual Superpowers has been in the porn industry for over 20 years. He’s had sex with over 4,000 women. Today we discuss what it was like to have such a unique career, how he ended up feeling lost, and how he found his way again after learning how to help others. You don't have to settle. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, executives, and entrepreneurs. The Daily Toolkit is...
Jun 30, 2020•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 261
Do you get pissed off when someone says something that goes against your values? Do you believe that negotiation is all about winning and getting the best of the other guy? And is calling someone out the best way to make positive change? Kwame Christian is the Director of the American Negotiation Institute which means he knows a thing or two about resolving conflicts and finding solutions. Today he’s going to share some basic tips that will help us navigate challenges online, at home, at work, a...
Jun 22, 2020•33 min•Ep. 263
Does it seem scary to talk about race? How is racial tension similar to an uncomfortable Thanksgiving dinner? And what if the thing that would make a difference is much closer than we could imagine? Recently I learned a valuable lesson: that I could actually talk to my black friends about their experiences instead of making assumptions and relying on the media or some idealogical group to tell me what to say, think, or do. Having these individual conversations has been revelatory for many reason...
Jun 15, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 262
Have you ever wanted something so badly that you screwed it up? Why do our efforts to “get it right” usually end up with us getting it wrong? And how does fear block our ability to be more energized, creative, and bold? Today, we’re going to hear another excerpt from This Book Will Make You Dangerous. In this excerpt you’ll hear how I found myself in a cinematic coffee shop shootout and why I almost blew up my marriage before it ever got off the ground. If you’re interested in the book you can l...
Jun 02, 2020•9 min•Ep. 260
Have you ever felt that you’re waiting to do what you really want to do in life? How could the fact that we’re going to die, help us live more fully? And what are the two key elements needed for us to step fully into our power? Today, I want to share another excerpt from This Book Will Make You Dangerous. First, you’ll go through a short exercise designed to help us create more alignment with what we truly want. And second we’ll discuss how giving away our power keeps us playing small. If you’re...
May 26, 2020•9 min•Ep. 259
Do you ever play it safe when it comes to money or sex? Do you take risks or only go for what appears to be a “sure thing?” And how can we make sure we don’t get stuck in a prey mentality? Today we’re going to listen in on a recent call I had with a coaching client. His work and sex life were feeling flat, so we explored some ways he could get out of his own way, stop playing it safe, and find that mojo again. In this interview: Feeling uninspired in our work and sex life Why playing it safe can...
May 19, 2020•34 min•Ep. 258
What does it mean to be dangerous? How can we ensure we don’t become grumpy, soft, and fragile old men? And could what you’re about to hear be the worst, most disgusting way to open a book? Today, I want to share an excerpt from This Book Will Make You Dangerous. This is the introduction where we take a very unconventional look at expectations and clarify why I throw most success how-to books in the trash. Learn more by visiting DangerousBookstore.com. In this interview: What happened when I wen...
May 12, 2020•15 min•Ep. 257
With so much uncertainty right now, how do you deal with the uncomfortable feelings that arise? What if it actually all came crashing down? What could possibly exist on the other side of your worst nightmare? Our brains are constantly scanning for threats — most of which never come true, but this constant worrying can kill the enjoyment of our short time to be alive. Today I’m sharing a recent group coaching call where, instead of running away from these scary feelings we chose to do something e...
May 06, 2020•20 min•Ep. 256
Do we have to depend on fear for motivation? Can we learn how to put scarcity and pressure into perspective? And how can we learn to forge our own path instead of following the herd? Today, my wife Alyson and I discuss how fear can serve us — or work against us. On many levels we’re being challenged. For many this challenge is simply a matter of being uncomfortable or bored. Others are experiencing great uncertainty with regards to their professions and financial well-being. And then there are t...
Apr 07, 2020•45 min•Ep. 255
Do you think more success and status are the keys to lasting fulfillment? What happens when our achievements leave us feeling empty? And what does it mean to be dangerous? Today, my wife, Alyson and I explore a life beyond constant comfort and how most men are stuck in a trap — striving to play a game they can’t win. In this interview: Alyson recovers from her bathroom noises Getting over ourselves can be painful A threat to our self image feels like a threat to our lives What it means to be res...
Mar 10, 2020•32 min•Ep. 254
If you want more out of life then what’s really getting in the way? Why do we have such a hard time making a commitment? And what’s so wrong with trying to live happily ever after? Today, my wife Alyson and I explore the deep-seated fears that keep us stuck, the ways we operate from a prey mentality, and Alyson’s embarrassing bathroom experience. In this interview: “Why won’t a man commit?” There’s no such thing a commitment-phobe Competing commitments (Robert Kegan and Lisa Lahey) What keeps us...
Mar 03, 2020•32 min•Ep. 253
Do you want to make a change but believe you need the perfect plan before you take action? Does your work or salary or title determine your value as a man? And how do we know when it’s time to make a big change? Today, my wife, Alyson and I pick up where we left off in the episode entitled A Bold Way to Start a Relationship. We explore how I went from feeling very confident to very lost; how I spent years dicking around while waiting for the perfect plan; and how I finally pulled my head out of ...
Feb 25, 2020•33 min•Ep. 252
Do you face your challenges alone or do other men have your back? How does our desire for a plan or vision become a trap? And what’s the key to making a commitment in relationships? Alyson and I continue where we left off in the episode entitled, Should You Settle or Blow Up Your Life? Today we talk about making bold moves, the value of a men’s group, and how I almost killed our relationship by acting like a nice guy. In this interview: Outgrowing a split lifestyle Starting Tripp’s first men’s g...
Feb 18, 2020•35 min•Ep. 251
Have you ever suffered from “imposter syndrome”? Are you okay with simply chasing money or do you want your work to be meaningful, too? And how often do you tell yourself, “I will figure this out”? Today, The Middle Finger Project author Ash Ambirge is here to discuss how she went from growing up in a trailer park to middle class success to sleeping in a K-Mart parking lot with only $26 to her name to eventually making seven figures. In this interview: Growing up in a trailer park Being mentally...
Feb 11, 2020
Do you feel guilty for wanting more out of life? Is it possible to outgrow your current profession or relationship? And would you have to blow up everything you care about in order to make a big change? Today my wife Alyson and I pick up where we left off in the previous episode entitled, The Emotionally Constipated Control Freak. In this conversation we explore taking responsibility for what we want, the seduction of settling, and the one question that kicked me in the gut. In this interview: L...
Feb 04, 2020
How important is it for you to be in control? Do you ever feel like your life is out of alignment with your values? And what does it take to forgive someone who has hurt you deeply? Today my wife, Alyson Lanier gets curious about the emotionally constipated guy I used to be back in my early 20’s. We talk about why I went to therapy, why I hated the idea of personal growth, and how my life looked amazing from the outside but was a fragmented mess on the inside. In this interview: Does Alyson have...
Jan 28, 2020
Lebron James spends $1 million dollars per year on his health. What do you spend to ensure that your body doesn’t hold you back? Functional Medicine Health Consultant Jon Mitchell is here to challenge the dogmatic, cookie cutter approaches so that you can dial in the unique protocol that works best for your body. In this interview: Why so many are settling for aches, pains, and low energy Why regular docs aren’t always the best resource Why chasing your problem with supplements isn’t sustainable...
Jan 21, 2020
Tripp Lanier discusses facing our fears of failure and criticism. Here are a few brief lessons learned from legendary Rush drummer, Neil Peart about living life on your own terms. Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, and influencers. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//resistance
Jan 17, 2020
As someone who makes a living coaching others to accomplish goals, Tripp discusses how our goals can become a trap. Plus: Glorifying busy-ness, how our mindless pursuit “more” is lazy, and why our need to prove that we’re not a failure is making us weak. In this interview: The trap of proving we’re not a failure Why protecting, pleasing, and proving kills our peace of mind Glorifying busy-ness Trying to carry 6 gallons in a 5 gallon bucket Plus: The shadow side of goals Having a great life that’...
Jan 14, 2020
After coaching successful men for over 15 years, Tripp boils down what kills our freedom, aliveness, and peace of mind. Does success really mean we’re stronger? How can we get off the hamster wheel of “more, more, more”? And what would it mean to define success and strength on your own terms? Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, and influencers. https://...
Jan 07, 2020
Following Your Passion is Hard as Hell. My friend Eric Goodman is the creator of Foundation Training. He’s built a global movement by empowering people to overcome back pain. But like many passion-driven businesses, behind the scenes it’s been extremely challenging. Today we talk about growth, failure, chaos, and the fantasy that building a business around your passion should somehow be a cakewalk. #foundationtraining #doafounder #mindset #entrepreneur #business #motivation #success #entrepreneu...
Dec 10, 2019
Are you bored with the whole left vs right, culture war gridlock? What if there was a way that this dumpster fire could make us stronger? And could you possibly find common ground with your bigot uncle this holiday season? Jeff Salzman (The Daily Evolver) discusses Ken Wilber’s integral theory and how it can help us navigate our conflicted world. #integral #kenwilber #culturewar Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses wi...
Nov 25, 2019
David Perel gave up his dream of being a pro racing driver and became a tech startup founder. But dreams die hard. In this crazy story, David recalls his bold (and sometimes reckless) choices to go against the odds to race at the highest level. #granturismosport #gtsport #ferrari #lamborghini #motorsport #blancpaingtseries #lemans Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, e...
Nov 12, 2019
Jon Zazula (Heavy Tales) and his wife Marsha are legends in the metal music industry. With Megaforce Records they discovered Metallica and launched a genre of music that marches on to this day. That said, the road to fame and fortune was a very rocky road. Today, Jonny Z and I discuss his path from Wall Street to jail to metal hall of fame. Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Nav...
Oct 22, 2019
Could changing the way you masturbate change your life? Somatic Sex Educator Alyssa Morin discusses settling for lousy pleasure, what hipster beers can teach us about sex, and why trying to be a “sexual master” often backfires. Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, and influencers. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//resistance
Oct 08, 2019
How to face fear. Understanding the 3 phases of a challenge — When we’re in the creative process and we’re looking at the next scary step it’s helpful to understand what we’re really facing. Often this is where we drain ourselves and get stuck because we can only see our challenge from one perspective instead of three. In this quick podcast we break down our challenge into its three main parts so we can take action. Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindse...
Sep 17, 2019
Brian Johnson of Philosophers Notes and Optimize.me discusses perfectionism, the inner critic, understanding the whole point of life, and why he blames Tripp Lanier for his $2 million dollar business “experiment.” Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, and influencers. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//resistance
Sep 05, 2019
What is your Zone of Genius and how do you find it? Do you have to blow up your life if you want to reinvent yourself? And why do some folks sabotage their success? Guest: Gay Hendricks (The Big Leap) Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, and influencers. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//resistance
Aug 20, 2019
Brian Portnoy, author of Geometry of Wealth discusses the difference between being rich and wealthy, funding contentment, and answering the question, “Am I going to be okay?” Crush procrastination and mental resistance. Click here to learn the same mindset principles that Tripp Lanier uses with his coaching clients — including Navy SEALs, entrepreneurs, and influencers. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com//resistance
Aug 06, 2019
