David Deida discusses how The Man of Zero differs from The Superior Man, why there’s more to life than purpose, and how meaningless is the doorway to something truly fulfilling. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/05/david-deida-man-of-zero COACHING - To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com - To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com BOOK - We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men se...
May 13, 2026•55 min•Ep. 412
Can burnout steal your life force? Jon Rose (Waves for Water) survived 47 disasters and 5 conflicts — here's how he came back stronger. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/05/jon-rose-burnout COACHING - To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com - To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com BOOK - We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that lea...
May 05, 2026•59 min•Ep. 411
Are you worn out by the circus of uncertainty and anxiety? Do you find yourself wanting to check out, numb out, or just give up? And is it possible that all of this craziness is an opportunity to go deeper into what makes life truly meaningful? Philosopher and CEO Brian Johnson returns to discuss how we can break free from the forces distorting our thinking and draining our reality. We talk about how to reclaim a sense of control and why now is the perfect time to get out of the shallow end of t...
Apr 23, 2026•44 min
Are you tired of fear, scarcity, and anxiety being a normal part of your life? Do you think trauma only comes from combat or some crazy intense experience? And if you’ve got some emotional challenges, will doing magic mushrooms with a backyard shaman make them go away? Will Van Derveer MD on healing anxiety, trauma, and what actually works. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/03/psychedelic-therapy-will-van-derveer-keith-kurlander COACHING → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit...
Mar 30, 2026•56 min•Ep. 409
Why do so many capable people struggle to get things done? Learn to identify the roadblocks that hold us back and the necessary ingredients for getting things done. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/03/get-stuff-done COACHING → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com BOOK → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, c...
Mar 18, 2026•53 min•Ep. 408
Do you feel like your life is supposed to be bigger than it is? What would it mean if you weren’t exceptional? And why do so many successful folks still feel like they aren’t enough? Today Alyson and I explore why some people feel pressured to reach their full potential. We discuss the expectation to be exceptional, how fixating on the future kills our satisfaction, and why having what we truly want may be much simpler than we think. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/03/reach-your-full-poten...
Mar 03, 2026•47 min•Ep. 407
Are you tired of being the one who just handles everything? Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “I shouldn’t have to ask for help”? Or are you on the other side feeling like no matter what you do, it’s never enough? Today Alyson and I discuss what’s really happening when things don’t feel fair in a relationship. We explore why score-keeping poisons a partnership, how doing whatever they want makes you a burden, and why complaining and nagging aren't going to solve the problem. https://www.thene...
Feb 17, 2026•57 min•Ep. 406
Is it clear that something has to change, but you’re afraid to make a move? How do you know when it’s time to throw in the towel? And how does “hope” fuel anxiety and keep us stuck? Whether it’s our business, a relationship, or whatever, we tend to stay stuck in a painful place because we don’t want to do the hard thing. Today, Alyson and I discuss why we avoid reality, how we can reclaim our power, and what we can ultimately do to allow peace of mind. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/02/st...
Feb 02, 2026•33 min•Ep. 405
Whether it’s your looks, your job, or whatever — do you feel a lot of pressure to get it right? Do you ever beat the hell out of yourself for making a mistake? And if we all know that no one’s perfect, then why do so many of us think we should be? Today Alyson and I dig into perfectionism: how we get wired for it, why we let it abuse us, and why striving to get it right makes it harder for us to have what we truly want in life. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/01/perfectionism-makes-us-weak...
Jan 19, 2026•39 min•Ep. 404
Do you know what you really want in life or are you just reacting to whatever comes your way? Do you do things because they actually strengthen you or because some guy on a podcast said you should do them? And how can we get out of autopilot to begin the process of forging our own path? Today we dig into a question that scares a lot of people: What do you want? So many of us are firefighting, reacting, or quietly living a “prescribed life” and then wondering why we feel chronically trapped, drai...
Jan 06, 2026•50 min•Ep. 403
Do you care more about the relationship than your partner does? Does it seem like something else is getting their attention? And are your efforts to create time together actually pushing them away? Today Alyson and I talk about what it means when one partner is always busy or distracted. We explore why pushing for more connection can actually drive them away and why choosing to be busy may sometimes mean they’re just not that into you. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/12/too-busy-for-relati...
Dec 16, 2025•41 min•Ep. 402
Are the holidays a source of stress and dread for you? Do you feel boxed in by family obligations? And does the thought of doing things differently feel like it would blow up the whole season? Today Alyson and I dig into the pressure, guilt, and expectations that show up this time of year. We talk about why it’s so hard to break old patterns, what drives the “I have to…” mindset, and how to start honoring what you actually want without torching the relationships that matter most. https://www.the...
Nov 30, 2025•36 min•Ep. 401
Are you afraid of being trapped in a sexless marriage? Does your partner treat sex like it’s just another chore? And what are the ways you’re killing your sex life without even knowing it? Today Alyson and I discuss sex — or the lack of sex — in long term relationships. We identify some of the ways we unconsciously kill attraction, what might truly be in the way, and why avoiding the issue just makes it worse. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/11/sexless-marriage COACHING → To learn more abo...
Nov 18, 2025•56 min•Ep. 400
Why does talking about money with your partner feel so loaded? Why can financial conversations turn into full-blown fights? And what if the real issue isn’t money at all? In this episode, Alyson and I explore why finances are one of the biggest sources of stress — and even breakups — in relationships. We talk about how money has tested our own marriage, the hidden meanings we attach to it, and what shifts when we start to see what money truly represents for each of us. https://www.thenewmanpodca...
Nov 04, 2025•43 min•Ep. 399
Why do so many women chase the jerk but overlook the nice guy? Do you ever lose yourself once you’re in a relationship? And what does it mean when a man’s powerful at work but neutered in the bedroom? Today, Alyson and I dig into why so many guys struggle with relationships, power, and emotions. We breakdown what it means to be a modern integrated male as well as the ideal balance of brains, heart, guts, and balls. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/10/why-men-struggle-with-power-emotions-and...
Oct 22, 2025•54 min•Ep. 398
Why does trying to be a “real man” scream insecurity? Why do so many guys turn into neutered, “yes dear” pushovers? And could all this talk about masculine and feminine energy be a big distraction? Today Alyson and I break it down. What do people really mean when they talk about masculine and feminine energy? Why do some swear it’s the secret to passion, polarity, and purpose? And what if the whole thing is missing the bigger point? https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/10/masculine-feminine-ene...
Oct 08, 2025•41 min•Ep. 397
Do you know what needs to be done but fail to follow through? Does life constantly feel like there’s just too much to do? And are you waiting for everything to be done before you can really enjoy your life? Today Alyson and I share a simple way to look at our mindset and understand why we make life harder than it needs to be. Whether it’s our inner visionary, manager, or soldier, chances are if you’re struggling to make progress at least one of these guys is needing backup. https://www.thenewman...
Sep 24, 2025•35 min•Ep. 396
Do you have someone in your life that, no matter what you do, it’s always your fault? Do you often walk on eggshells, worried the next thing you say will set them off? And at what point does “difficult” cross the line into a personality disorder? Today, Alyson and I dive into one of the toughest, most confusing topics in relationships: personality disorders. Borderline, narcissistic, and other disorders can be hard to spot, until it’s too late. We’ll break down the red flags to watch for, the pa...
Sep 09, 2025•38 min•Ep. 395
Have you ever hit a big win…and felt nothing? Have you chased success, only to realize it was shallow or meaningless? And what happens when we finally start living in alignment with our soul instead of our ego? Today, Alyson and I dive into success, comparisons, and the art of getting over yourself. We talk about who we are underneath the urge to protect, please, and prove, and why it’s actually a gift when our wins feel empty. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/08/success-without-soul COACHI...
Aug 27, 2025•38 min•Ep. 394
Do you have a voice in your head telling you what you should and shouldn’t do? Why does this “tyranny of should” drain our aliveness, passion, and connection? And how might your life change if you weren’t afraid to be who you truly are? Today, Alyson and I talk about how we all “should” on ourselves and each other. We explore how this can leave us feeling trapped and emotionally constipated—and what life can feel like when we loosen our grip on control. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/08/s...
Aug 12, 2025•46 min•Ep. 393
Do you treat the pizza delivery guy with more kindness than your partner? Do you frequently bicker or cut each other down with biting humor? And how is this disrespectful behavior killing your aliveness, connection, and sexual spontaneity? Today Alyson and I discuss the all too common problem of disrespect, resentment, and contempt in relationships. We explore how we can ditch the sniping and bickering and instead learn how to keep things clean, have each other’s back, and handle disagreements w...
Jul 30, 2025•46 min•Ep. 392
Do you feel like you keep getting stuck in the same old arguments? What drains our aliveness more than work? And what if the thing killing your sex life had nothing to do with sex? Today Alyson and I reveal one of — if not the — biggest killers of aliveness, intimacy, and trust. It’s the drama triangle. We explore what it truly is, how it keeps us from finding solutions, and what you can do to pull yourself from its trap. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/07/drama-triangle COACHING → To lear...
Jul 16, 2025•52 min•Ep. 391
Do you ever feel stuck about what to do with your life, relationship, or career? What’s really going on when we say, “I don’t know what to do”? And how do we move forward without a clear vision or plan? Today, Alyson and I discuss feeling stuck and uncertain about what to do next. We explore what fuels anxiety, why comfort is different than peace, as well as some ways we can move from uncertainty into clarity. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/07/stuck-and-uncertain COACHING → To learn more ...
Jul 01, 2025•44 min•Ep. 390
Do you talk to AI like it’s your therapist? Is it wrong to prefer interactions with a machine over a human? And how is our pursuit of comfort killing our sense of confidence and meaning? Today, Alyson and I discuss the rise of AI as a substitute for friendships and emotional support. We explore why people are forming real bonds with artificial companions, how these tools can actually help, and what we risk when we forget the value of real connection. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/06/ai-t...
Jun 17, 2025•38 min•Ep. 389
Why do some guys crave women who aren’t good for them? Is the “nice girl” always boring — and the “bad girl” more fun? And do we really need to put on an act just to make a relationship work? Today, Alyson and I talk about something a lot of people wrestle with — feeling torn between who we’re attracted to and who’s actually a better fit. We explore why we often contort ourselves to be accepted, how that shapes attraction, and what to do if feel like you have to choose between chemistry and conn...
Jun 03, 2025•51 min•Ep. 388
Do you get drained by small talk? Does it feel like no one else likes to talk about the things you love? And how can you have deeper conversations even if you don’t see eye to eye? Today Alyson and I discuss some ways to have deeper and more meaningful conversations — even when interests don’t align. Whether you’re chatting with strangers or deepening bonds in a long-term relationship, we share a few key ideas that’ll help you get out of the shallow end of the pool. https://www.thenewmanpodcast....
May 21, 2025•55 min•Ep. 387
Should you settle in your relationship? Do you ever wonder if there’s someone out there who’s a better fit? And could raising the bar too high leave you alone forever? Today, Alyson and I dig into the idea of “settling” in relationships. We talk about what it really means to raise your standards, how we sabotage relationships, and why it’s tempting to focus on someone else’s flaws instead of facing our own fears. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/05/settle-in-relationship COACHING → To learn...
May 06, 2025•45 min
Do you ever fantasize about escaping your current life? Is fear the one setting your goals and expectations? And do you have any idea what would truly bring you peace of mind? Today, Alyson and I try to help a listener who is tired of the grind and wants to hit the eject button. We discuss how to know if you’re on the right track, why we pile on the pressure to succeed, and accessing our deeper selves to find peace of mind. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/04/on-the-wrong-path COACHING → To...
Apr 22, 2025•45 min•Ep. 385
Is it easier to do a cold plunge than to deal with your partner’s emotions? If your partner’s in a bad mood, should you just be their punching bag? And do you spend more time focusing on solutions or who’s to blame? Today Alyson and I explore navigating big emotions in a partnership. We explore how to deal with intensity while also setting boundaries against aggression and good old-fashioned drama. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/04/dealing-with-blame-and-emotions COACHING → To learn more ...
Apr 08, 2025•37 min•Ep. 384
What does it mean to 10X your life? Why are we so afraid to go “backwards” financially? And what’s really driving our desire for more, more, more? Today, Alyson and I talk about developing a healthy high achiever mindset. We explore scarcity, motivation, and what really drives us to be “set for life.” https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/03/set-for-life COACHING → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit ...
Mar 25, 2025•45 min•Ep. 383
