Aloha Friday with Tyler Deveraux: How To Network

Welcome to the Aloha Friday podcast, Drip here on the Growthcast. My name's Tyler Deveraux here with Jackson Campbell. Here I am. We're here. I love doing these, man. Me too.  I'm so excited. I'm really excited for this episode, mostly because of the mindset drops that you're gonna drop in the ear lobes, dude, you're gonna, no, I'm excited because we're gonna, we're really gonna dive into how to network totally.

How to actually get the most out of networking events, right? Yeah. Yeah. And I love that we synced up before and chatted about it a little bit and just watch it, understand that networking is massive to you in everything that you're. No matter what you're doing now, you need to understand how to network, how to get in these environments and what that even fricking means.

Yeah. You pay a lot of times when you pay, when you go to these networking events, you pay a bunch of money to go to these events.  So, you wanna make sure that you're making the most out of every second of these events. So, we're gonna dive into that here in just a minute on how you can really take advantage of every second that you go to these networking events.

Totally awesome. We, but we wanted to start with a new segment where we go over some personal wins. Okay. Yeah. So personal win from Tyler. You start, you want me to start? Yes, I'll start. We wanna share some personal wins here as well. So, a personal win for me. One of the biggest ones is my consistency in the gym.

Yeah. I've been able to stay consistent in the gym last. Hit my goal of five, five workouts in the week, which was awesome. This weekend, I'm going for seven. I'm going for the Yachty. I want to get in the gym every day, this week. But that's a huge win for me. That's been mean it's been a long time coming to be able to get five workouts in a week.

I put in some work. So, I'm, it was a milestone for me that was pumped about it. That's awesome, dude. That was a great win. Thanks dude. I would say a personal win is I've been coaching PAX at his football, at football and man it's been a sacrifice to make sure that I leave here to get there on time, but people here sacrifice anything.

That's a bad thing. No sacrifice is a great thing, man. It's giving up something for something better. That's what sacrifice means, right? Yeah. And it's been awesome. I still need to get work done in certain areas. So, it's forced me to just reallocate that time which has also been beautiful. I did, I freaking loved it, man.

Another thing is we've closed on. We closed on another apartment building. Yep. And then another thing is we launched our new fund and that fund it was awesome. All the, all of y'all who were on that webinar. Awesome. We were able to, I think we're about 50%. We were like 50% committed or something.

Yeah. Like right after the call. Yeah. Which is awesome. And then that's continued to rise, so thank to all y'all investors out there. Thank you for your continued partnership, man. We love and appreciate y'all and love, love, like just love taking down these opportunities with y'all so fun. Yeah. So awesome.

That was the next thing I actually wanted to touch on too. Part of this new segment was company wins. Yeah. But you just, you definitely just covered a huge company win there for M FCP as the launch of that new of that new. Anything on the MFM side that you wanna share big wins there, dude.

There's a lot of wins there. There's so many... just progress being made all the time. It's awesome. Here. Listen, all of y'all listening out here who are working on a goal, working on something you're grinding through it. You're grinding through this process and you're like, man, is it gonna pay off?

It has been amazing to see all of a sudden, I'll just build up. Boom boom. By the way, if you're watching on YouTube, we got window cleaners that came in right as we started to record and you know what we might, we should have maybe been like, Hey, should we pause? No, absolutely not.

You need to just focus up. Okay. Don't be looking at the window cleaner. Dammit.  but thank you, sir. Appreciate that...what were we talking about? Wins...wins just see the progress that's happening within the network, students that are getting into deals and putting 'em under contract and closing and just that momentum that's building and then paying off.

And just understand that those of you who are putting in the work you're putting in the work, you need to know that it's gonna pay off. You have to know that you cannot doubt that you can be nervous. You can be fearful, that's natural, but do not doubt because doubt comes back to you and it's not okay to doubt yourself ever.

No promise you the work pays off the process. If you focus on the process and fall in love with the process, dude, the results inevitable. I don't know why people doubt that all the time. I do know. I did the same shit. Yeah, of course. I know. Yeah. It's like we all can't. We have to re remind ourselves all the time, not to do that.

Exactly. Exactly. It's such an easy thing to fall into, but it's that constant reminder. That's why Dallas's mindset drips are so important, dude. It's that daily reminder, totally. To really home in on those things and take care of your mindsets, dude. And listen comes right into play with today's episode because today we're talking about networking and people think about networking as just getting them into different opportunities.

Do you know what networking does keeps you fricking moving forward, man? Yeah, I'm moving forward. Like it's critical man, to continue to just surround yourself with people that can keep you on track, it's necessary for you to stay on track and people that you surround yourself with that are gonna either take you off track or keep your ass on track.

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We've seen our numbers soar. Yeah. As of lately. And that's due to everybody sharing the podcast for real. Thank you for that. So grateful for that. So, thank you understand, like we just talk about putting the work in....  and knowing that there's gonna be, let me just tell you, man, putting in this work, putting in this work and I just speak for me that do that.

Do that does one episode a week you do two or Dallas. Dallas does four. Yeah, listen, man, we, I just need you to know that we appreciate it because. As you are sharing you do, you might not see a reply from us. You might not see first I've tag us in it too. Cause I've seen some shares that we're not tagged.

I wanna see 'em but I need you to know that we appreciate the hell of it, man. It lights us up, man. That's our payment from it. Love it. So, thank you. The fact that we know that we're providing that in enough value for you to feel comfortable, to be able to share it with your loved ones. That means a ton.

I know we... it means, can I say something though? I know we're providing enough value. What, the reason that makes it makes me happy. Yeah. Is cuz you're finally outta your shell to sh to share it. Yeah. That's a good point. Instead of just and providing that value to other people instead of just being selfish and pushing it past, and I don't mean selfish with us.

Selfish with those that you could share that with. And know that sounds cocky. No, that's confident and I'm dead serious about it. You're right. And I'll tell you how I know that or why. I know that I'll tell you as you continue to pour into other people and give these people other opportunities to learn and grow, learn, and grow.

I promise you that it will come back to you, tenfold, dude, what has that done? I know we have an episode we want to talk about, but what has that done for you? Feeding other people, pouring into other people cuz you do that, dude. You've I don't need to get into it, but what has that done for you, dude?

Yeah. More than I could ever try to describe on a podcast. Yes. Wealth. Yes. Happiness. Yeah. Wealth first. Tons of it. Yeah. Success, all that kind stuff. Would you say that's the, that was your first step to. Absolutely. I think that's and I'm dead serious when I say that. Yeah. I talk about value creation all the time.

And why do I talk about value? Creation? Leads to wealth creation is because I had a very scarcity based mindset, which is probably why I also love to talk about scarcity abundance. And when I saw people succeed, it almost it not almost, it did discourage me. Yeah. And I did not celebrate those people. Yeah.

Nor did I feel like I should be spending my time helping people succeed. I just needed to help me succeed me, succeed. And then I started to read these mindset books, read these success books, study successful people. And I realized, man, the path to success is to help other people succeed that's path to success.

So yes, dude. Yeah. So powerful. So powerful dude. Can I give you an example serve like just service man. You serve others with, we talk about this almost on every episode, dude, because it's so powerful. Give without expecting a return. Yeah. And the return's gonna, the return's gonna come even totally man.

More than you could ever expect it. Yeah. We wanted to add one more thing. Sorry. Yeah. Pat, let me just give you this example than a real life scenario of like outside of real estate or whatever. Paxton playing football and Paxton is, has been a little bit timid. It was the first year in football tackle football.

This is worth smacking heads. We're smacking heads. And it was so interesting because, and here's actually, there's a huge life principle we can take from this. Kay. Listen to me right here. It's way deeper than, okay. Here's what happens first play of the game, his first game, first play of the game packs.

His D he is playing D line and he gets through the D line. So quarterback gets, the ball, gets through the D line PAX does, and is able to sack the quarterback and tackle the quarterback before the quarterback can even hand it off. Or pat what? I don't even know what he was gonna do, but it was, I think PAX was kinda like, oh shit, I'm here.

I just did that. Yeah. Yeah. And his, everyone goes crazy. Cuz it's first play of the game. All of his teammates congratulate him and I've seen, PAXs be timid in practices, timid into practice is timid. And all of a sudden this flip switch. It was like he had been Tim timid. There was just one experience where all of a sudden it was like, he tasted that, that success.

And a couple things happened that rest of the game, he had more energy, more conviction, more just confidence. Yes. That's what I was looking for. Thank you. Confidence than I've ever seen him have yet two reasons why number one, cuz he, all of a sudden that work paid off, he tasted it. Number two, his teammates celebrated the hell out of him.

And then I posted this video. I dunno if you saw this video, I think you did. You commented. Yeah, I did. And PAC said, I asked him, dude, I said, so what was your win? He said I had my best football game that I've ever had or best football experience he's ever had for sure. And I said, and I just, how come, why do you think that is?

And I'm thinking he's gonna be like because I tried my hardest and I put an extra effort. No, he said his first go-to.  I celebrated other people cuz I celebrated others and I watched PS what's interesting is I love that. That was first off his go-to. Yeah. Yeah. And I watched him during that game.

Yeah. Celebrate other people. Yeah. Do you wanna know why he did that though? Cause he TA he, he understood what that felt like after that first play  that first play he killed it. His team celebrated him and no, I know PAX and PAX was like, wow, that's what it feels like. I wanna make sure other people feel like that.

That's awesome, dude. Yeah, no dude. That's awesome. I hope this isn't too personal, but I just remember PS at the Easter egg hunt in April  when he didn't find any gold eggs and he was so pissed, dude, bro. And this, that so I kudos dad kudos for sure. Dad, shout out dad, shout parent dad, parents, shout out for sure to see that progression that fast.

Bro, but it's real. I love that. You just pointed that out, but it's but it's also really amazing that maybe that's what it took for Paxton to really learn that was experience it on that back end. Yeah. You know what I mean? Being on that receiving side of it is a way to learn it and a way to really understand how to implement it as well.

Yeah. Which is why everybody should always be doing that. Yes. And should always be encouraging others because you have no idea what that can do for that person, whether they're winning, whether they're failing, whether they're conf whatever their confide confidence is at, you don't know that don't so you should always be celebrating others, not for yourself, but for them, because you really don't know how much it can help you.

Yeah. How much is gonna impact them and that ripple effect that it's gonna have for other people that they've impact. That's a great call. It's right in line with networking too. It is dude. I was, do you mind if we just start diving in here to these questions about guy where we're like, we are just rolling right into it.

So I do have some questions that I want to. What qualifies something as a networking opportunity, a quality networking opportunity. What qualifies as a networking opportunity? Yeah. Yeah. Dude, freaking anything. I think people overthink this honestly. Like they think that they need to go to an event.

They think they need to go and events are awesome. But it is any conversation that you have about your business. Can I give you a failed networking experience that I just had? Yeah, absolutely. Listen. Y'all I've been doing, I've been in the multi-family space since what? 2014 been, I talk all the time about dialing elevator pitch.

I talk all the time. How it should be conversational, but do you know what? Sometimes we get in our own way. Think about what I do. Okay. I'm passionate about multifamily. I'm passionate about passively investing in multifamily. I'm also passionately passionate about actively investing in multifamily.

You wanna know why, cuz both of those areas. It's where it's, how I've been able to change my life, dude. Yeah, not one of both of those areas. I just got my biggest profit distribution from M F C P that I've ever received. And what am I doing with it all back in the fund all back in the fund? Why?

Because dude, I believe in what we do. Okay. Okay. But I go to this birthday party. Britt's birthday party. This is, let me just explain my wife.  Bri. I ask her what she wants to do for her birthday. And she says poppy, this is a little three year old, may four, three toddler child. Yes. A toddler girl that her birthday's the same birthdays.

Mine. I wanna have a shared birthday with her. I'm like BR what? She's no, I do. I think she, I just do it's love her. I wanna have a shared, I just, we're just gonna have a shared birthday party. I'm like, oh, that's my wife though. Dude. And I love her for that, but we're there. And there's a gentleman there that I have seen around, but I have not chatted with him.

And the other people there. I know, but I he, I don't know him. Yeah. And he's, he like comes and he is chatting with me and he is asking me questions. He doesn't know what I do. Then I start telling him what I do. But I did not go into that opportunity thinking, man, I'm gonna go in here.

Cause first off I thought I knew, I thought I would know everybody there. Secondly, I didn't, I just wasn't in the proper mind mindset space for whatever reason. So think about this, he's coming up and asking what I'm doing. And I start very unstructured telling him what I do, but what am I talking about?

I'm talking about the active side. And he's oh, okay. So if I want to get into something like that like what do I, how do I do that? I'm like you can come to a class. We do these trainings and it's, it'd be difficult for you to, start from here.

You have to really have some connections, but I'm, I, he is asking me how to passively invest. Yeah. And you just, I am only talking about actively investing. . I don't know why, dude. Yeah. And he man, I just I'll be honest. I don't. So I have to go to these events to put my money to work.

I'm like, oh no, you just give it to me, give it,  give me a call and we'll, I'll show you what it is. You know what I mean? Walk you through what that means, right? Yeah. But it was funny cuz I totally missed it. Why did I miss it? Cuz I wasn't prepared. I didn't think about it going in and realized that literally every place that you go can turn into a networking opportunity.

If you are aware that it can turn into a networking opportunity. So you really need to be very clear on what it is that, that you should be doing, and do I believe that most people should do. I believe that everybody should do both. . I do not believe everyone should do both. You wanna know why, cuz not everyone's gonna be pass passionate about passive or sorry, actively investing.

Do I believe that everyone should passively invest? Absolutely I do. And that's not, I absolutely believe that. Yeah, this individual's passionate about what he does, which he runs a YouTube channel. That's very successful and he just wants to put his money to work. You just need to go in and understand that what you're there to do.

Yeah. Conversations you're willing to have and always remember those things too. You know what I mean? Ask questions before you just start dumping  yeah. No, such a great experience and to so much to learn from that experience as well. So to answer your question. Yeah. Anything qualifies as a networking event?

Yes. Go to events. Shit. The bed definitely do that, but anything, man, I've found investors at the beach at my son's birthday party. I've found investors at line of Starbucks, meaning found investors like, like literally just talking to people. Talk to people, that's it. And it's not even always about finding investors either.

Dude, like networking is so much more than just looking for investors. It looking for teammates, it's looking for people you can connect and others, you can connect with each other that may have nothing to do with yourself. Yes. Which I'm sure will dive in. We'll dive into that here down the road a little bit, but it's so much more than just looking for something for yourself.

Totally dude. Okay. Next question. In line with that, but why we always are talking about networking and the importance of it. Okay. So to Tyler, why is networking so important? That's a loaded question, but for a number of different reasons, networking is important. So I'll sum it, rise it down or two at three.

Can I summarize it down at three? Sure. Yeah. Number one for what you just mentioned, which is it puts you in a unique position to connect with other people, sorry to connect other people to be a connector. Yeah. I believe it's one of the most valuable things you can do is be a connector of people.

You find out that this person is doing X and somebody else that does, Y this is complimentary. And now you're because you've been in a position to know these people, you can connect them. That's a, that's something that is Ryan. That's some that's, Ryan's absolute area of he's so good at it.

It's literally he's amazing. Amazing, because he remembers these different things. It's incredible to me, Ken. So you put yourself in a position to provide value by networking. Number two, is it helps it'll help you grow your business. And what I mean by that is connections for yourself, right?

Connections that, that maybe it's a, maybe it's an investor, like we talked about, maybe it's an, another operator within whatever space that you're within. But number three is what I want to explain and really hone in on for a minute, which is also education learning from people like it is at, I don't care what level you were at.

I don't care what level you're at. If you're not networking with people that can help take you to the next level you're gonna be at that same level or worse, people are gonna leapfrog your ass all day. Dude.  Kobe Bryant. Okay. Kobe Bryant said in his what's his B his book that he wrote mama mentality.

Yes. Is that it? Yes. Yes. In there. He mentioned how he mentioned how he networks or why he networked. And he's dude, you look at who was at my retirement ceremony and it give you a good understanding of why I was not retirement ceremony. Sorry, my was it retirement? I think it was his retirement.

Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And it'll give you a good understanding of why my Jersey is in the rafters. That's what it was. Yeah. And he says, and he lists off these players that were there. Big players that were there. Magic Johnson, magic. Oh, definitely magic. You know what I mean? Kareem, all these old schools, who's the one that just passed.

Who just passed. Geez, that's gonna drive me nuts. A me too. Basketball's my thing, dude. Anyway, has more rings than anybody. Bill Russell did just pass. He was there. He was Jordan, Michael Jordan was there. And he's saying the reason that my jerseys and the rafters is because I went to these people who went before me and learned from them and he's listen, I was I asked questions and some people were very re receptive of those questions.

And I, wasn't just asking a question to ask a question. I was asking a question with purpose and knowing that I'm actually gonna go and apply the guidance and the direction that they give me, because the quickest way to discourage somebody from wanting to continue to communicate with you is when you ask a question, they give you guidance and you do nothing with it.

And then you continue to ask more questions. It's like, why the hell am I gonna spend time pouring into you? If you don't even do anything with what I'm giving you. Yeah. Yeah. And so he goes on to say, he goes on to say, first off, that's why his jerseys doing the rafters, but then he also, this is critical cuz he said, some people weren't so receptive, meaning some people did not want him to ask questions that did not like that.

He was asking questions. They were not receptive to it. And he said, I'm okay with that though. I freaking loved how he said this, something along the lines of, I'm okay with that though, because I would rather look stupid now or be embarrassed now than be embarrassed later without having any titles.

So I'd rather be embarrassed now that this person's like shrugging me off and giving me the GF, Y go after yourself. I'd rather be embarrassed there by that one little baby short term than at the end have no rings. And I was like, It's powerful. Yeah. So dude, go ask questions, man.

What do you want? Do you wanna be embarrassed? Then maybe they reciprocate. Maybe they don't man, who care, but what do you really care about? Who embarrassed you? What are you really gonna remember? What are people gonna remember about you?  people are gonna remember, have you done shit with your life?

They're not gonna remember. I'll remember when he asked that question and that guy was a total jerk to shit. You're not even gonna fucking remember that. You don't remember that right now for half the people that done that. And if you do well, then that's a problem in and of itself. Yeah. Go ask questions, learn.

It was an eye opener for me because if we're being fully transparent, which of course it's all we do here. I am like that. I get very hesitant. I get very, oh man. I might come off a little bit needy or come off. I that's me, dude. I know that about myself. Yeah. Reading that. I was like, dude get, come on.

What are you really in this for? And then I anyway. Yeah, no dude. That's awesome. That's awesome. By the way, side note, Kobe's the only one to have two numbers in the rafters. Oh I love that's cool. Smile. Can I get an actionable though? Yeah, absolutely. I wanna make sure that you're taking an actionable for this.

Here's your actionable. I want all of you listening to this to write down at least three mentors, three people that you want to that are at a point where you would like to be someday three people, at least dude, who are those people, identify those people identify what and why they would be a mentor and why you want them to be a mentor and then figure out what you can do to become like them and, or go connect with them, man.

How can you add value to them? Yes. Yep. And definitely that too. Ask yourself that question. How can you, but a lot of people don't even know who their mentors are. No, it's first. You gotta identify that for sure. Yeah. Who are those three major people that you want to connect with and want? Cause it makes it real, man.

It makes it, yes, it makes it real. That's the best way to say it for sure. Okay. Awesome. What are, what would you say are your top three networking tips? I know that's pretty, that's a one that I've mentioned in the past is, and this is for maybe even just specifically for me, but I actually think it should be specific for anyone is the five second rule.

I love that rule. Yeah. Which immediately when you're there, you need to, within the fi first five seconds of walking in, or you need to talk to somebody within the first five seconds of walking in, or the first person or go have a conversation, break that ice. And why do you do that? Cause you gotta put yourself in a position to have the opportunity to continue to network throughout that event or throughout that experience.

And that first, so many times we wait, I see people do this at our events all the time. They sit back, they wait, they sit back. They wait, they sit back. They wait and then. Then they realize they're like, oh man I need to start taking. And then they're man, they've wasted half the freaking time.

So I've started now. One of the first things that I talk about when I'm teaching an event is I'll say, Hey, listen, there are, you need to understand why you're here, which is to meet and grow your network. So understand how you're being perceived, but also understand you need to go have conversations right now.

Like you're not here to just sit back as a fly on the wall. You're here to meet people. Yeah. Go meet people. Yeah. And the people that do that compared to the people that don't do that, what have you seen? Yeah they build lifelong relationships and they get the most outta the weekend, but not just the most outta the weekend or any of whatever event I'm doing.

They get the most out of the business. You wanna know why? Because momentum demands movement, man.  yeah. The quicker that you're able to take the quicker that you're able to shorten this gap from.  idea to execution the quicker that you're able to shorten that gap, meaning I'm here I'm exploring. So maybe exploration, not even idea exploration to execution.

The, I believe that success of people, of those individuals who are able to shorten that gap. Yeah. The IM which is immediately taking action is what, people wait to take action before they really have this full scope of the environment, myself included. It's totally how I am, man. It is. I go in and I really survey.

I really look, I really watch, I really see how things are going. I look at social cues I look at, and then I dive in and there's strengths with that too. But I'll also tell you that hurts me more than it helps me most of the time. So getting in there and getting after it immediately would be tip number one.

Yes. And biggest tip probably. Yeah. I, the momentum going through, but it's so true too, dude. A lot of times at these networking events, there's, everybody's standing against the wall, not really wanting to talk to each other. So you hold on, you can be that person rewind. Listen to what Jackson just said.

A lot of times there's people there that are gonna do exactly what Tyler is talking about, what his struggles are. If it's a struggle for Tyler, it, chances are it's gonna be a struggle for somebody else. Okay. So rule number two yeah. Is understand that everyone there feels that same trepidation that same, and they're waiting for someone to come chat with them.

Yeah. So you're nervous to go chat with someone. Everyone there is nervous for, so dude go chat that. How do you provide value? Go help, break the ice with that person for them. Yes, exactly. They might not even be the connection that you're looking for that you want, but there's definitely something to be learned there or value to be given or it meaningful connection that it can become for sure.

Yes. And then if you are, if you do know a bunch of people there, let's say that you're at this event, a bunch of people dude, then it is your responsibility, your obligation to go meet people, to connect with the other people that, Why because that's gonna help that person and all those other people ton.

Yeah. So it literally, at that point, it's your obligation to go meet people. This is what I tell my team all the time is it is our job to connect these people. , I'm like, dude, don't be talking to each other during these events. No. Go talk to everyone there and then make sure you're introducing to everyone else, right?

Yeah, no dude. It's huge. And again, that's such a huge part of networking that I think people forget about. And I just really wanna hone down on that dude. It's like you connecting other people. Yeah. I'm a big believer in what you put out, you get back. Yeah. So like I can just envision walking into a room nobody's really network.

If you're the first person to network there with somebody, chances are, everybody's gonna notice that and want to network with you. And it's gonna be a more successful networking event for you totally in the end. No, these are three very crucial things. When networking, these are three things that are must, I'm not even gonna say are tips.

I'm gonna say that they're must when networking can I give a, an example of that? Yeah. I go to this grant Cardova, right? And Steve Harvard is the one who invited me there, made that connection. Shout out Steve Howard prime corporate services for all your tax needs, set up stuff, anything, reach out to them for sure.

Great, man. They're awesome. And he's awesome. Yeah. You should put the link in definitely by the way. Definitely because lemme tell you what that guy. I watch him once again. What do I do at these events? I watch and what do I see Steve doing? Connecting everyone, everyone there knew Steve, how come they knew Steve cuz Steve's goal.

There was to connect.  do, what did he do for me? I could show you like, dude, can I like just to yeah. Watch this first time. He just sent me a video yesterday, but look at what this text message. Hey man, this is who I want to connect you with. Hey man, I sent this message to this person. This is what they said.

They want to connect with you. Hey, here's a video that you can use to help connect. Hey, here's an audio message of who I think that you should connect with. I swear to God, that's my whole text feed with Steve AARD Steve dude. It's value. I, you inspire me, man, because you inspire me because I learned so much from you and how you do these different things.

So man, go connect, man, go connect. And who probably gained the most value out. In fact, very confident of who gained the most value out of that event. Steve, why? Cuz he was focused on anybody but himself. Do you know who probably gained? Maybe some of the least value me. Why? Cause I was focused on myself.

The most of these lessons that I teach you y'all I'm not teaching you this. Based on a based off of some sort of theory. No, it's fucking fact the things that I'm teaching you, why? Cause most of the times I've fallen on my face, doing the wrong things. Not just back in the day, we're talking like a couple days ago but the difference is, and the diff the reason that I know that I'll continue to progress and grow and Excel is because I'm at least willing to sit back and be like, okay, yeah, no, you totally F up at that event, you did not.

You, you weren't, you didn't put yourself, you weren't open enough to truly capitalize off of that event. Those relationships. And it's because I was all internal, right? These, the same things that aren't preach all the time. But we have to understand that even though we talk about 'em and I'm great in certain environments, I have to really bring it, be aware in every environment, if I really wanna maximize that and the best way to be aware, the best way to get the most out of any environment is to forget about yourself and provide value to others.

And when I was there, I was really like, how can I get the most out of this event? How can I get the most out of this event? The questions that I asked myself was that, how can I get the most outta this wrong thing to ask wrong thing to ask? It is sure. Better questions. Better results. Yeah. Papa Johns.

Just kidding. Sorry.  Is that better? What's their tagline. I'm so sorry. Nobody. So what is their tagline? Better, better ingredients, better pizza, Papa Johns or something like that. Hey, am I right? Stresses? Yes. The thumb. I don't know why that came to mind. I apologize. But Luci throw on the podcast. I bet they know how to network guaranteed.

Guaranteed. That's awesome. Okay. Awesome, dude. So again, just to highlight those three things, make a connection within the first five seconds. What was the second one? Make a connection. I can't remember. I've just that again, that joke just got me sent me off. Hopefully y'all remember a comment and let me know that you re I honestly, the third one's connecting others in the room.

Yep. And the second one was, it was an actionable off the first one, recognizing that you have the ability to start the networking in the entire room. So to kick it off, that was the second thing. Okay. The second thing was, the second thing was, I'll take your word for, I literally don't. Yeah. The second thing was to remember that you have the ability and you have that power to go into a room and literally start the networking for everybody.

Okay. That you, that, that service that's what it was to the service for the other people in the room. Yeah. That they're probably froze up too. They're probably up against the wall. Yes. So that actionable that you can go in and that's it, and provide that service for them to get their networking going for them as well.

Okay. One more. One more on that. Yeah. Okay. And do have we only done two? Is that two? No, we've done three. What was the third one? The third one was your responsibility to connect others in the room as well. Okay. So I'll give another one that goes, that piggybacks right off of that. Thanks for keeping track of these.

Yeah, you got it is build relationships. I understand that you're there to build relationships. Is that, does that fall in line? Is that another? No, that's good. That's great. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And what, because the example that I thought of that I just, we just chatted about was Brittany. Yeah. And I see this couple at the gym all the time.

I mentioned this on a coaching call recently too, but I see this couple of the gym all the time and they're the nicest fricking couple. I don't, they're just, they just are cool, dude. And then what happens is I also see them when I'm heading into. Because they are usually coming to the gym right.

As I'm leaving. And then I see them at the same spot at the Cove here in Maui, sitting on the back of their, for Bronco, which is a bitch in for Bronco. They have, and just chatting, drinking some coffee, just chatting. And I'm like, man, I love these guys are cool. Like I actually was telling Brit it's Bri's birthday.

We pull up the Cove to surf and I was like, oh, and they're there. I was like, oh man, this couple's so freaking Allison mane. And I just relay what I just relayed. And Brit's oh, so what's their names. I was like I have no idea what their name is. And these she's what? And I was like, no, I haven't.

I just see them. And I wave and they wave. And then I see them hear the Cove and I wave and they wave back again. She's you don't even know their names. I was like, no, do you know what they do? Nope. Nope. Let's go meet them. Brittney. Immediate is let's go meet him. Why is Bri? Britney is wired like that because Brittney just know Britney's man, who I know Brits, Britney knows that she can provide value to other people.

And she knows that people are, of course they're gonna wanna be her friend. So she just dives right. Full force in, this is why Britney's great for me. We go and we meet him and dude, I'm so glad that we chatted with them. And now all of a sudden this relationship that I've had from a distance for two and a half years,  two and a half years crazy, man now is all of a sudden at a whole new level where now I chat with them every day as I'm leaving.

Yeah. And I do know their name and we actually do have connections and it's dude, different ballgame. Yeah. It's awesome. Yeah. That's awesome. But to remember, to do that, as well as such a, to actually build relationships, you're not just going there for, to to yeah. To make money. It's not all and yeah.

And to make money, like a lot of people I'm going to this networking event because it's gonna provide ROI. Yeah. It's gonna, it's gonna provide this, but that's not always the case, dude. Building those relationships is gonna give you that is the ROI. Exactly. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. The relationships are the ROI.

Listen, man, go. Life's about human connection. Yeah. I believe there's no better return on your investment than human connection. That's where that's the whole purpose of life is to connect. Yeah. So yeah, dude, some people have a hard time building the confidence.  To make those connections dude I, I don't want to call you out, dude.

I don't know if it was confidence while you never talked to that couple or you just didn't want, you just, it just never passed your mind to introduce yourself. Never. Yeah. But a lot of people might have con like might want to meet that couple and then not because they're, they don't have the confidence to be able to do that, dude.

Yeah. So how can somebody build confidence to be able to make those connections? Listen, I heard something from his name's moose O moose is he works with et yeah. It's E's boy. I was wondering, I was trying to figure out who's moose. Moose is a stud I was able to connect with et was at our P partnership event.

Moose was not there, but et connected me and Mo we all connected afterwards and I connected with moose and moose said something recently. He said on a social, which we should drop his link in here too. Cuz I, if you don't follow, et you should follow, et. If you don't follow moose, you should follow moose because I really like I have tons of respect for moose because he had mentioned that he's, been nervous to post here or there.

He didn't wanna share a story or exactly, but long story short, he's a freaking study. You should follow him. And he said, if you don't know what to work on yourself. If you don't know what work on yourself. That's powerful. Yeah. It's powerful. So your question, how do you gain that confidence?

If you don't know what to do to gain your confidence, work on yourself, that's how you gain your confidence. And why do you do that? Because, or how does that enhance your confidence working on yourself? Cuz you know who you are, you wanna know who the most confident people are. They know who they are, they know their identity.

Who are you? Yeah. Like who are you if I just listened to et on Ed's podcast and et says, man, I see people that drive Lamborghini and all these kind of things. And he is I love Lamborghini. Like I, I watch the, and I see these cars and it's man, what? Craftsmanship what's. But that's not what drives me.

My, my dream car was an ESADE and I love my Escalade. So I don't see what other people are doing and feel like I need that too. I know who I am or what I like. I don't like something because somebody else likes it. I like something, cuz I like it. Yeah. But I it's because I know who I am. How does he do?

Why does he know who he is? Because T's put in the fucking work, man. Yeah. To know who he is. You have to continue to define who you are, what that means to you. And then as you define that, you'll have confidence going into there. It makes networking so easy, dude. Easier. It didn't mean to cut you off.

No, geez, no dude. But it makes it, it makes that it makes it so much easier when you know what you can provide to somebody. Yeah. You know exactly what you know exactly what you're going in to talk to this person about when you know what. Downfalls are and what your weaknesses are, you know what you're looking for to add to your team or whatever it may be.

Yeah. To make that, to make those connections. So understanding yourself, dude, I love that. Totally love that. Understanding yourself is going to help you make connections with other people. But what happens, bro? When you do understand yourself, you have put in the work, but then that internal narrative, before you go to the event is not about the work you put in.

But it's about the lack that you have because that's what happens. A lot of people put in this work. Yeah. A couple things they put in the work. Listen to me when I say this, because I guarantee some of you fall into this and I know that I do. I did. I put, I know I put in the work. I know the thing about the, how we begin the podcast.

Yeah. You should share it. Not because I need you to share it. I don't need you to share it. I know the value that we provide. I believe you should share it because, or I know you should share it because of the value that's gonna provide others, which means you're valuable at that point. Okay. So I know that I know I put in the work.

I know you put in the work, but I go into these events sometimes. And I look at the grant card event as an example, why am I only focusing here on what, how I can get this event or the most out of this event for me? Because I forget to take a I forget to remind my internal dialogue at that moment of who I am and what I should be providing value to others.

So it's like you have to put in the work, but then you have to recognize the work. So along the way, recognize the work that's actionable. Number one, recognize it. Dallas's journal has wins for a reason. It's because you need to document those wins. And then don't just document 'em once go review 'em where are you?

Housing 'em and I'm talking to myself right now. Where are you? Housing them go review 'em because those wins are gonna help you win. Again, those remembering those wins are gonna help you remember that you can win again. Do. It's fact. Yeah. So remember that, but then when it goes into that moment, really have this internal dialogue of who you are and how, who you are can help others.

You have to have that. Yeah. I didn't, once again, I did not have that going into the grand event. I still here's. What's crazy. I still pulled a ton of value out of that event. Obviously. We've talked about it ton. Yeah. I could have pulled way more value out of that event. Yeah. Next time I will.

Totally. No, but it's so important that in these moments that you take again you mentioned it a little bit ago, but what sets Tyler apart is that he can take these opportunities and take himself out of it and really be able to look at these experiences that he's had and be able to learn from him and know that maybe he didn't take advantage of it as how he should have at the grant Cardone event.

But it's taking that moment. To really digest it and have it. I don't even I'm having a hard time putting the together what I wanna say here though. But it's like really just dissecting every moment of that event that you were at and what you could have done better.

And, oh, I did actually learn this here. It just take that's really what sets people like Tyler apart is taking that time to have that. Self-reflection that's another actionable though. That's why I, made me think of again, is Kobe bro. Yeah, because in the book, Kobe talks about the preparation is so super, super important, but then he also talks about how a lot of people at the end of the game would immediately want to, I can't remember how exactly you phrased it, but they would just get in the locker room, shower, be out as soon as possible.

He's I, it's not what I did. I would go and I would ice. And I would think through what went well. And he said, when I watch would watch tape, first off, he watched tape. Okay. So think about this is, you tie it into sports. He watched tape that's great. And what he was watching initially, he was watching, what he was trained to, to watch, which is what went well essentially, or what didn't go well. But then he is okay, then it took at the next level of, I'm not just watching tape to see what went well, I'm watching tape to see what could I have done better? Hey, yes. This went well. But what if I would've done this or this didn't go so well, but this next step of what if I did this instead that could've made this experience better.

Most people don't, most people don't dissect it afterwards. Like you, you were, you used the word dissect. It's why I love that. I have to fly to Maui. It's one of the, it's a long flight. That's a ch it's ch definitely poses some challenges, but that flight almost forces me to dissect. What went well and what did not right.

But you have to do that at those events, because if you do that, if you really take this step to go one more, not just go to this event and then rush to the next one, but really go to this event and then dissect the event and be honest with yourself, dude, did it go really well? Or did it not go so well?

And even if it went really well, how could you do better? And if it went shitty, how could you do better? Yeah. Yeah. No dude, it, but it's just one of those things that I've seen time and time again, dude, such an actionable. Yeah. And I I think that's an actionable, not just in networking, but everything that you do, dude, everything that you do take a minute, take ownership of whatever's happening. And that's really what I heard when you were talking about dissecting it. Yes. What I could have done better here. What maybe I could have done different here. That was good, but I could have maybe done it even better.

That's ownership, dude. Yeah. That's taking ownership of every circumstance to see what you could have done different. I love that you just tied that in, because you just did that today. You do that all the time, but just literally, before we get on this call, you did that. We have a call with M FCP and Jackson leads all those calls with M F C P and I come out of the office to tell Jackson, Hey I was gonna tell you went awesome.

Yeah. And you said, Hey, I know, man. I can do better. I know that these calls can go better. We needed. And I was like sure. They can always be better. But like you did awesome. But I love that you do that. That's a separator for you. Thanks. It's a separator for anybody. I love that in life, dude, par parents, if you're a parent out there,  shit, man.

How often do you really sit back and be like, okay, that didn't go so well. Not because my kid is an ass, but because I'm an ass , yeah. Can I give you one experience with that? Yeah. Are you gonna say you're an ass. Never  cause I have a good internal dialogue.  go on. I am very much wired. I want to be that dude.

Yeah. In sport. I I haven't played sports for a while. Okay. But in a past life, sports is all I knew and I didn't wanna just go be somebody on the field. I wanted to be that dude. That's who I wanted to be. And football was my sport that I, it just was. Yeah. I never so I watched PS. And I'm at PAXs practice with PS on Monday.

I think it was Monday, maybe Tuesday. I can't remember honestly, but no Monday. Sorry. It was Monday. And he does a great job at practice. I see him sometimes when it comes time for them, like the coaches see his talent, his speed, his sizes, that kinda stuff. And they want to give him opportunities.

The other coaches. Yeah. I won't be that person that give him, gives him the opportunities. It's not my job. Yeah. You've seen that with me with a bunch of areas. But the coaches, I could see them wanting to do that, but P's kind of had shirked the responsibility a couple times. And in my mind, I'm like, you know what, I'm gonna talk to him about this.

Like we step up in those moments type thing. We get in the car. This is PAX says dad. Oh my gosh, man. Did you see that play? When did you see the play? When man who's or Malu? Sorry, Malu. Who's one of the best. He's a great player, dude. He's very good. And he is like, when Malu was running the ball, did you see?

I did. I was running with my, I, he was a receiver PAX the receiver at this point I was running with my guy and what I did is. Remember how the coaches were telling me to fake it. Like I was catching it. So I was running as fast as I could. And then I was like, faking, like I was catching the ball. And so that offender goes to tackle me, which means Malu runs right past and scores a touchdown.

Did you see, I totally faked out that defender so that Malu could get a touchdown and he was so pumped. It's awesome. That Malu gonna touch me. It's awesome.

It made me, I just listened and I was like, God, man, PAXs has full capability to be that dude, but he finds just as much joy in helping other people be that dude. Yeah. And it, I was so proud, super proud, so much to learn from Paks there, dude. Totally man. Yeah. And he's gonna, and he's gonna benefit from that.

He doesn't even realize that dude. He doesn't even realize the huge mindset principle that he's playing there, that he is living there. It's incredible by celebrating others' wins and  I was able to like, take a sacrifice so he could make it. Yeah. I put in my hard work. Yep. So that the team could get the ultimate sacrifice.

Totally. And it's just it's a huge lesson to be learned. Totally, man. So reflecting back on that and being like, man I'm so glad that I didn't go in with the approach that I wanted to go in with. Yeah. Just reflecting back and being like, okay, I'm not PAX. Isn't me. Yeah. You know what? He's better than me.

because of who he is. Yeah. He's remembering that he's better at him being him yes. Than him being you. Great way to put that. That's a great way to put that. Exactly. No, that's awesome, dude, man, we've covered a lot. We've covered a lot tons. We can keep going. I still have some more questions or we can wrap it up.

What, how are you feeling? We've been, I don't know how long we've been going. I have no idea. I never pay attention, dude. One more question. Let's wrap it up and then we'll do our, we'll do our Hawaiian value for sure. Okay. Multifamily mindset is a huge network that we have of yep.  aspiring real estate syndicators.

A lot of them are real estate entrepreneurs and are doing the business and they're doing a fantastic job. But for people that aren't within that network, how can they get involved? How can they I'm actually gonna speak to the other side? Okay. So first off, easy those people who aren't in the network come to our events, man, come to our events.

If you don't know about the events, come to our website, the multifamily mindset.com or hit us up at the growth cast app, the multifamily mindset.com. Okay. I didn't know if we had a growth cast email. I couldn't remember. No come to an event, you'll be blown away at those events. And I don't, I know that.

Yeah. Like I know that. That's why I love you to come to those events, come to an event. But I wanna talk about if you don't mind those individuals who are already within the network and how they network within. Yeah, bro. I just recently looked at some stats. On our Facebook page. I haven't even talked to you about this.

No stats on our Facebook page. I do this all the time. I know exactly what you're talking about. You're talking about the, I was gonna talk about the percent of people that engage. Oh, that's not what I, what were you gonna say? Like our top users, the people that, that network the most on there. And bro, if you knew the percent of people, it's funny because people will ask me when they come to these events.

Sometimes it's actually a freaking common question. I love it. I actually try to almost pull it out of people. Which is what percent of people that do your, that go through mentorship succeed. And I literally try to pull it out because I know they have this question and my, my, it's always can you track that?

And they're like, yeah, hell yeah, you can track it. I'm like how success is different for everybody? You have to define it. And I know what they're asking. I'm just trying to paint this picture for 'em and then I will tell them, okay. So what if I tell you 5%, they'll be like you'll get a mix of people.

Okay. They'll say that means that's. That means 95% of people fail. It means it's a shitty conversion. It means it's a shitty success rate. And then, and I'm feeding it. I'm not arguing it, I'm feeding it. And I'm just not 5%. I'm just like throwing a number out. Yeah. And then you'll get somebody to be like then I can be part of that 5%, the fuck 5% could do it.

Fuck. I can definitely be part of the 5%, and I'm like that's key. This is the key, the percent does not matter. What matters are you that person? Yeah. Or are you not? Yeah. It really gives you a good understanding of where your mindset is. Okay. But then I go and I look at the percent of people that actually engage, bro.

It is super small. Meaning there are the people that make people into the, onto the Facebook page that actually engage on the Facebook page. They're there. Yeah. But they're not really. They just consume, meaning they're there. They're seeing EV all this value being spit out.

These questions that are being answered. These questions that are being asked, they're there consuming, and never producing. You need to be a producer, not just a consumer, a producer of value, not just a consumer of value way too many fucking people are just consumers. And they're okay with being consumers of value instead of producers of value.

So how do you network within the multi-family space within the multi-family mindset within our network, within any network, make a decision to be a producer of value, not just a consumer of value. And that means get off the goddamn sidelines and go produce some value. How do you produce value? We just get off the sideline you that could mean comp commenting.

I look at this, I see we just talk about, listen. I want everyone who is in our network right now to listen to this. And any of you who are in any other networks to listen to this, these. People get into the network for the first time. And I just want you to put yourself in their position. They're nervous to start a new venture.

And all of a sudden they're part of the network. And a lot of people will introduce themselves. And I can just imagine some people it's easy for 'em to go do that, but I can imagine that some people it's man, I'm gonna put myself out here. I'm gonna post this post about myself. And hopefully somebody gives a damn.

And when you give a damn, when you show them that literally think about how simple this is for us to go in. Like that comment on that. Great to have you here. And I see this in the network. I see people pour in and it's the same people that pour in every time. And those are the people who are also the most successful in our network.

Interesting. Isn't it, period. Yeah. A lot of people see those posts.  A lot of people see those posts and a lot of people don't even take the, like literally they don't care. They are so much a consumer. They're not even willing to lift a finger, literally a finger to go like literally a. Couple fingers to be like, nice to have you.

Yeah. Be a producer. That is, that alone is valuable. Cause you know what that does when that person comes and checks back as silly as it is. It's not even silly, dude. That person goes to check back. They're like, holy shit. I just had 20 people. Welcome me in God. I'm so grateful to be here. I can do this.

You just enhance somebody's belief.  By just deciding to be a producer instead of a consumer. Yeah. And that's a small aspect of it. So you wanna really engage within the network. You wanna really get the most out of any network, be a producer. I love it. I love it. And it's such a, it's one of the things that you said as you were going through this being a producer, it's so interesting.

The correlation of the students that are having the most success. Yep. And the correlation of the students that are on the Facebook page, providing value for others. Yep. It's not a coincidence. Totally not a coincidence that those two things are hand in hand Vicky. Yeah. As an example, Vicky, did you see her post the other day?

Yep. Yeah. Three months in just, now gonna be a GP on her first deal. That's massive, dude. Massive. That's massive. I don't think like that's huge dude, three months from entering. Sorry, I'm getting a little lit right here, but three months from entering dude. Yep. She's already a GP on a multi-family multi-unit apartment deal.

Yep. GP, a general partner, something that a couple months ago she didn't even know was possible. Yeah. But how do you know Vicky's name? I definitely do. I do you know what? She looks like. I know exactly what she looks like, everyone in the network. Does you wanna know why? Cuz Vicky's a producer.

 She's a producer. Yeah. She's commenting she's a producer. Yep. So take note of these things. Take note of these things. I don't want, I'm gonna drill one more thing home on this. This is for all of y'all who were on a coaching call recently? I did a coaching call with Ryan, a Q and a.

That was awesome. And it was supposed to be an hour  and it went two hours. Why? Because Ryan and I said that we would answer everyone's questions. And we went to a lot of the feedback that came in after I told them, I, Hey, I wanna know how we can, what do you need? What can we help you with?

What are what's something we can help drive the needle? What can we, I wanna know how we can help you please fill out the feedback form so we know how we can help you. And a bunch of the feedback was I don't, I didn't like the Q and a at the end because some of the questions didn't apply.

Some people took too long to formulate their question and.

Once again we took an extra hour to answer those things. This is after you already answered, I think it was 10 questions that, that the coaches gathered from the network. Yes. So 10 very good questions. Yeah. That you took an hour answering. Yeah. We took another hour to answer the other ones. Okay.

Yeah. And I put a message. I put a video out on the Facebook page after I saw this, some of this feedback and I lit into some people, but, and, but I don't bring this up right now at this point, because, and I said this, I was like, man, if the only thing that you can think of when I ask this question of how can we help you?

Is your answer to that is not answer other people's questions. Maybe think bigger, maybe think a little bit deeper, but I say this right now at the end for everyone that it was on there. And everyone's listening to this because I think some people thought. I took that as the call. Wasn't valuable. And I love you for commenting and being like, no, that call was so valuable.

Thank you for answering those questions. That's not what I'm saying. I know the call was valuable and I love you for saying that. I do love you for saying, but I wanna bring it up because it's not, it wasn't about me at all. It's about those people who are judging other people, because that is the quickest way for you to ruin your relationships.

It's the quickest way for you. And what I said is that what surrounds us is within us, I've said this multiple times, because this is an ed, my let quote, ed. My let said, what surrounds us is within us. So what I mean by that is you're out there. And a lot of these questions are all about, I don't feel valid.

I don't feel like I have the experience. I feel like sponsors are, not looking at me as a player in this industry. And I just doubting. Why do you feel like that? I really wanna drive this home. Why do you feel like that has nothing to do with those people actually viewing you like that?

It's because you are on this call. Or not this call. So you're in the world, period, viewing other people like that. You're judging them for their questions, not being exactly how you would formulate it. You're judging them for however, they're doing whatever they're doing so that you think other people are judging you.

So I say that because I need you to know that if you're judging other people, you will feel like other people are judging you. But if you just take a minute, instead of judging you love and you support and you encourage those people, you'll realize that people love and encourage and support you. So it's about you period.

And I wanna make sure that, that is the one thing, one of the biggest things that will hold you back, no matter what connections you have, no matter what opportunities you have, no matter what skill sets you have, is that what surrounds you as within you so powerful. Yeah. Thank you, dude. Yeah.

Thank you for going down that path because it's a, it's not necessarily an easy thing to talk about, but you are articulated it so well, so thank you. Is there anything else you wanna wrap up regarding networking? Yep. Making those connections. Every one of us feel that way, by the way.  everyone. If you're crazy, if you don't think that during some of these questions, I'm thinking to myself, God damn, but you cannot.

The key is to catch it.  Correct. And the minute that you here's a Sam, okay, this is a good one. You already know. No, this is awesome. Ma'am Sam who lives out here in Maui in total St. And he said, you shout Sam, shout out Sam. So fricking losing man, Sam Spurrier. He said, the minute that you start judging someone is the minute you stop loving them.

The minute you start judging someone is the minute you stop loving them. I choose love is what he said. So understand this. You're gonna judge people, cuz you're a human being, but if you can catch it and choose love instead, that's the key. That's what's gonna separate you from somebody who's miserable in life and unsuccessful to somebody who is massively successful and happy.

Because you choose love. How could somebody chose love in that circumstance? Think about this. You think that this person, cuz there are people that ask questions that were off topic, not good questions. Not concise, not there was one that wasn't even a question. Yes. Yeah, but they don't know how they're being perceived.

So how could you love that? Love that person be a producer. Hey, reach out to that person. Build the relationship with that person. Exactly. Hey man, I wanted to reach out to you man that I think I knew what you were looking to get to. Can I give you some advice? Can I give you cuz I've, maybe you've chatted with them.

Maybe you haven't. But I think that when you're on there, man, you have, I can tell you have so much value to give, like maybe you could ask it this way or you don't even need to bring that in. Just let them know that you hear them. Maybe you list out five things that you really like about that person. The most likable people are the people who like the most people it's so true.

Yeah. So find ways that you like that person. If you don't know how you like that person give 'em a call, figure it out is what you're gonna figure out is.  most people are fucking great, man. Uhhuh. They're great. Yeah. You just gotta give 'em an opportunity to be great. Instead of judging them for all the things that they're not great at, they're learning how to be great.

Just like you  help. 'em help. 'em yeah. Help. 'em turn that judgment into love and help now, dude. That's so awesome. Not so powerful, Tyler, thank you so much for breaking down so much. When it comes to networking, I love how granular we got on some of these. We did off, I loved it though. We did go off on some tangents here and there, but I think overall there is so much, really good information.

This episode. I know. I know that to be true. Yeah. See what I'm doing right now. I'm giving myself credit, told you to give yourself credit, pat yourself on the back. I'm writing this motherfucker in my journal as a win that's max. That's a good one. It's a good one. Okay. Hawaiian value to wrap up is. Do it take it.

Yeah. Okay. I'm just gonna read what we had. What's written here is Pono is a Hawaiian concept that advocates living with a conscious decision to do the right thing in relation to yourself, others, and the environment. It's also about feeling right with yourself and the world feeling aligned with who you really are calm and centered with everyone around you.

If you're not feeling Pono, but you're clear on your authentic values, you can realign shit. That's awesome. It's totally it's that talks about, so of the things that we just talked about. Yeah. It's freaking awesome. Yeah. Yeah. So as we wrap up here, the Hawaiian value Pono, one of the biggest things that you can do before you even start networking is come to grips with who you are, your relationship with yourself and how you can add value to other peoples in, in that, in those networking situations.

Yeah. Cause ultimately. That's what's gonna benefit you the most in these networking situations totally is providing value for others balance perspective. That's what I think of when I think of Pono balance perspective. I love it. That's awesome, dude. Thank you. Thank y'all for staying in tune for tuning into the growth cast for sharing the growth cast for being here with us each week, man, I just, I appreciate it.

I love being able to do these. Have a great week, a great weekend, a great day, a great evening. Whenever the hell. You're listening to this and also remember to live always with low high peace.