This episode of the Motive podcast features Shayden Bertagnolli discussing a therapy session he had with a client named Joe who opened up about his struggles with mental health. Shayden shares Joe's lengthy list of negative and self-defeating thoughts to illustrate how writing them down and vocalizing them can be incredibly liberating. The hosts discuss common issues men face in seeking help, the impact of repetitive thoughts in shaping beliefs, and how finding compassion through shared vulnerab...
Mar 29, 2024•34 min
This podcast discusses how understanding opposites can help overcome problems like anxiety, shame, and a lack of belonging. The hosts explore how the true opposite of anxiety is trust in God, and how vulnerability can help men overcome shame instead of constantly seeking approval. They discuss the importance of vertical principles like belonging to God rather than horizontal fitting in. The hosts encourage developing self-awareness, self-compassion, and intentionally designing routines that prom...
Mar 22, 2024•45 min
Shayden interviews his friend Eric Thompson about his experience living with ALS. Eric discusses how his diagnosis has changed his perspective, making him more compassionate towards himself and others. He shares his struggles with loss of independence and maintaining hope in the face of ongoing suffering. Eric emphasizes the importance of living in the present moment and finding gratitude for what he can still do. The discussion explores themes of masculinity, serving others, and the balance bet...
Mar 08, 2024•58 min
In this episode, the speakers discuss their daily routines and the importance of small disciplines in building structure and focus over time. They explore the relationship between busyness, worry, and avoidance, emphasizing the need for self-care, rejuvenation, and downtime. The speakers share personal strategies for prioritizing family, work, and rest while maintaining boundaries. They encourage listeners to reflect on what truly matters and find solutions rather than dwelling on problems....
Mar 01, 2024•37 min
Shayden and Blake sit down and talk about the new direction of the Motyv Men program.
Feb 23, 2024•26 min
In this episode, Shayden Bertagnolli sits down with his friend Erik Thompson to have an open and honest conversation about Erik's experience living with ALS. Erik shares powerful insights he has gained about finding meaning through hardship by focusing on gratitude, acceptance and living in the present moment. He discusses the lessons he has learned about relationships, toughness and embracing life's challenges. This raw and emotional discussion provides perspective on making the most of each da...
Feb 02, 2024•58 min
In this episode, licensed therapist Shayden Bertagnolli delves deeply into the nuances of shame and how it can hold men captive. He discusses shame as an emotion, a state of being, and a thought process ("shaming") used to falsely atone. Shayden offers insight on how shame becomes a lens through which many men view themselves and the world. He challenges listeners to become aware of shame and shaming in order to break free from its grip. Shayden also announces an intensive year-long program to h...
Jan 19, 2024•33 min
In this episode, hosts Shayden Bertagnolli and Blake discuss how resentment and blame can hold people captive in unfulfilling relationship patterns. They guide listeners through an exercise of identifying the benefits of resentment and the disadvantages of accountability and empathy. Their goal is to help listeners gain insight into their own resentments so they can be liberated from those unhelpful patterns.
Dec 13, 2023•44 min
In this episode, Shayden shares lessons from a men's group discussion about trusting God's timing for healing past wounds. He encourages listeners to slow down and experience God's love and presence now rather than waiting for full healing. Shayden challenges people to thank God for miracles not yet received and to consider what differences their lives would show if miracles occurred.
Dec 09, 2023•28 min
Shayden Bertagnolli hosts a discussion on betrayal trauma with Sadie and Phyllis. They discuss the impact of betrayal such as infidelity or pornography use on relationships from the perspective of women. Key topics include common feelings and messages women internalize after betrayal, the difference between simple and complex trauma, rebuilding trust over time, and finding hope through focusing on personal healing and choosing to make the relationship work if both partners are willing.
Nov 29, 2023•46 min
Shayden leads a discussion about gratitude with Sadie, Steve, and Jordan. They discuss how gratitude is not merely appreciation, but something that possesses you. Questions such as “how do you know if you have enough gratitude?” and “how to facilitate deeper gratitude?” are focused on. It’s a quick and to the point, so you can get on with your holiday preparations!
Nov 22, 2023•27 min
How things are said and defined really matters. You need to know the differences between, attraction and lust, depression and sadness, and niceness and kindness. They matter and most people don’t know the difference. Listen as Shayden, Jordan, and Blake discuss these important dichotomies.
Nov 15, 2023•41 min
Shayden and Blake talk about how sometimes we forget to thank God for ourselves. They also talk about the Power of Christ to heal mental health struggles, and the importance of having something positive to put our focus on.
Nov 08, 2023•44 min
Playfulness is more than just laughing and having a good time. Most men lose their natural playfulness for various reasons. The playful consequences in relationships, parenting, and individual life are discussed. Shayden, Blake, and Steve discuss these reasons and propose why men and the women in their lives need and want to see more playfulness.
Nov 02, 2023•39 min
Shayden, Blake, Steve, and Sadie reflect on their own experiences as parents and therapists, shedding light on how a balance between support and autonomy is crucial for a child's growth. They discuss the impact of over-rescuing and enabling kids, as well as the importance of allowing them to tackle challenges on their own.
Oct 25, 2023•19 min
From milking it shamelessly to searching for that precious moment of vulnerability, Shaydon and Sadie delve into the deeper emotional and psychological aspects at play. Discover the delicate balance between needing a break, feeling shame, and the desire for mercy. They offer insights into how the "Man Cold" can be an opportunity for men to let go of their constant performance pressure and for women to understand the importance of allowing space for vulnerability.
Oct 20, 2023•29 min
In this podcast, you'll delve into the concept of burnout, which affects many of us at different points in our lives. The hosts offer a refreshing take on the distinction between burnout and exhaustion, shedding light on the vital role of recognizing our values and living a life that aligns with them. By sharing their own experiences and insights, they guide you through the process of reorienting yourself and finding that elusive sense of fulfillment.
Oct 18, 2023•29 min
The hosts offer practical advice on how to work through the internal struggle of maintaining a balance between our light and dark selves. They emphasize the importance of self-awareness, focusing on becoming the person you want to be, and offering the benefit of the doubt to others.
Oct 11, 2023•26 min
In this episode, Shayden and Blake discuss the importance of understanding behavioral patterns and core beliefs in overcoming struggles like pornography. They explain how to map out a pattern and identify the core beliefs that drive problematic behaviors. They emphasize the role of connection and compassion in breaking unhelpful patterns and beliefs.
Oct 04, 2023•30 min
Is your mind running you or are you running your mind? Did you know you aren’t your mind? The knowledge in this episode will blow your mind! Pun intended. The challenge and announcement at the end is a must hear.
Sep 29, 2023•41 min
Shayden and Blake talk about staying tough while still being able to express your emotions, compastion vs acceptance, and learning how to deal with emotions like sadness and boredom.
Sep 27, 2023•37 min
Sep 20, 2023•31 min
Sep 13, 2023•39 min
Men are motivated by many things. Knowing what really drives you is crucial to living purposefully. Think about the hardest thing you've ever done. Why did you do it? We break down how and why a Crossfit athlete finished on a broken foot and what it means for men.
Aug 30, 2023•24 min
Men are starving for answers as to why they feel stuck, can't kick bad habits, and feel attacked. Addiction has never pulled more strongly at men. Relationships are struggling and men don't know what to do. Motyv men will help you find solutions to those issues. Like most men know, a problem isn't as bad if you have the right tools. Motyv men will liberate you by teaching and giving you tools to solve whatever it is you're going through. Listen to this episode to hear what our program is all abo...
Aug 23, 2023•29 min
God has a way of directing our lives in ways we can never predict. My life's journey has brought me to a point of focus that is undeniably important to me. My time to Liberate Men is now here. I share two powerful laws that dictate a meaningful life and how you can be involved in the Motyv movement!
Aug 16, 2023•28 min•Season 2Ep. 1
This episode features an assessment you need to take about any significant relationship in your life. It will show you how primed your relationship is for connection. Listen in as I dispel a common myth most people believe in their relationships.
Dec 09, 2022•22 min
I don't know anyone who doesn't want more confidence. The power to stand within your own skin and stay there. I open up and share a chapter out of my own life and discuss how you can increase confidence every day and even every moment.
Dec 02, 2022•28 min
Discipline is becoming more rare each day. Our society of dopamine seeking, lust fantasies, and much more are tempting a life focused on motivation more than ever. This is a problem! Change your relationship with the entire concept of discipline as you listen to our take on this incredible dichotomy.
Nov 11, 2022•35 min
Learn more about faith, perseverance, and commitment from a Motyv Man and Motyv Therapist...Steve Stringham, as he discusses with Shayden how a Grand Canyon hike impacted his life for the better. Painful things can bring out the best in us if we let them. Do you let them? Or do you resist the pain and lose the lesson?
Oct 17, 2022•27 min
