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Garrett White: The Truth About Wealth, Identity, and Relationships 📜 E164

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Dan Fleyshman and Garrett J. White explore how wealth impacts a man's identity and relationships, sharing lessons from building and rebuilding a life. They delve into why money conversations are difficult in marriage and how success can strengthen or destroy a household. The discussion also covers practical advice for entrepreneurs on client acquisition and investment, concluding with the significance of charity and family values.

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In this powerful episode of Money Mondays, Dan Fleyshman sits down with Garrett J. White for a raw conversation on the real relationship between money, marriage, masculinity, investing, and purpose.

Garrett shares hard-earned lessons from building, losing, and rebuilding his life and business, along with what he has learned from coaching tens of thousands of men. Together, Dan and Garrett unpack why money conversations become so difficult inside relationships, how a man’s identity must shift to reach the next income level, and why success can either strengthen a household or quietly destroy it if growth is not shared.

They also dive into practical advice for entrepreneurs and service providers on getting more clients, raising rates, building through referrals, and deciding where to invest once income starts to scale. The episode closes with a meaningful discussion on charity, family values, and why generosity should be modeled for your spouse and children. This is an honest, high-level conversation about building wealth without losing yourself or the people who matter most.Like this episode?

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Introduction to Wealth and Purpose

Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to a special edition of the Money Mondays podcast where we cover three core topics: how to make money, how to invest money, how to give away to charity. We rarely ever bring a guest back. But you're gonna see this guest multiple times throughout the year. If I have to travel to him, fly to him, drive to him, walk to him, send him a carry pigeon, I'm gonna get this guy on the episode because he covers all three core topics.

So well. He's lived a lot of lives. He's trained over fourteen thousand men. Seventy thousand coming through the program in total. The numbers are mind blowing of what he's done to help change lives for marriages. households, communities, and offices by helping those men, what happens is the butterfly effect. And we're going to dive right into that.

As you guys know, there's no advertisements here. I do work with high level because I actually use them. I do work with fanbases because I actually use them, but there's no like fancy affiliate codes. I just love fan bases and high level because I actually use them. As you guys know also, this podcast is ranked really, really high because of you. We have a 93% listen through rate because this episode will be less than 40 minutes.

Since the average workout is forty five minutes, the average commute to work is forty five minutes, this episode will be under forty minutes for your listening pleasure. So without further ado, Mr. Garrett J. White giving the quick two minute bio so we get straight to the money. Beautiful. So I'm the founder of Wake Up Warrior and fifteen years ago I started down a path to guide men to find predictable power. I was an entrepreneur before that, twenty-five years and had fallen apart.

Built my empire, lost my empire, found myself in an affair, drugs, addiction, sedation, and chaos. And I didn't have a map. I didn't know how to rebuild my life. So I created a game, I created a system called the Wars Way and for the past fifteen years We've actually crossed now ninety thousand clients in Wake Up Warrior. Uh not in active programs, but guys in app subscriptions, guys using our content, et cetera. But that became the birthing place of a system and that system has worked.

Um, it started trying to help me. How do I be a great husband, a great father, connected to God, physically fit, and be rich? At the same time, that seemed impossible and we've proven that it is possible. And so we're sitting here too, Man Arena Tour. All of this was like part of what we put together, you and I, uh, to help more men come to understand this possibility.

Money, Identity, and Relationships

Okay. There's a lot to unpack there. But one of the first questions I actually have for you is why you think it's hard for men to talk about money in their households? Wow. So well you're gonna have two different levels of hard, right? So you got hard when you don't have any. Yep. And then you've got hard I should say three. You haven't n when you don't have any it's hard because scarcity is like the dominating energy and when scarcity's there the woman feels unstable, unsafe, unse insecure.

Which means sexual connection goes down, communication c becomes tough and hard to have. Then you have a second phase, which is when you're building something and it's working. And you're obsessed and your business becomes your mistress and your your side your side piece and that's like the game and you're obsessed with building and then you face chaos and destruction. And even the money goes back into that. Exactly. So now the money's going into the company.

And then the third level it's hard I think is probably the hardest, which is when you actually have money. Because you start to ask interesting questions. And the question a lot of guys have been asking in the been the last couple of years is, okay, so I built this thing. Does this woman actually want me or does she just like the money in the world that I've created? And if I went back to zero Would she stay? Would she stay? Wow.

This is a this is a hard question. I've asked that question myself. I've been married to my wife for 23 years. We've been together for 25, five kids. And I I've asked that question myself. And there's a part of me that's like I'd like to believe she would. But I don't know how long she could endure. Like the collapse. So I think the money conversation's a very difficult conversation for people to have, but I think it gets even more complicated when dealing with the dynamics of your woman.

I think that Danielle White stays. I I would I my soul believes she would stay. I think she rolls up her sleeves and fucking goes to war with you. I would like to believe this. I if my soul believes this, my mind. She might race you to become the next military. again to run it back. I might get competitive in the household. Okay. I mean you guys twenty three years. I mean you've been through every roller coaster and that's the definition of what I call ride or die. Yeah. Right. Okay.

On the how to make money side. A lot of times guys get to sixty grand a year, eighty grand a year, a hundred grand a year. And they're just becoming complacent with life and they're just kind of groundhog day repeating everything. What do you think holds them back from taking the next step to go to 120, 150, 180 and really go to maximize their potential?

I d l regardless of the level of the money. I think I think this happens happens with guys that we run with too, that they're making ten million, twenty million a year. There's a piece of you that becomes identified. So you set this target, you become this thing, and your identity becomes this thing.

And that money provides a lifestyle at a certain level that possibly might be bigger than what you ever experienced before. And as you settle into that, your mind becomes connected to this is who I am. This is what I do. Then you listen to a show, or we somebody follows you on social media or connects with you or connects with anyone that you run with, and you're like, Holy shit. There's something bigger. Right. So the transition is so hard as a fact that you have to break who you are.

To go to that next place. So if I'm making 80 and I'm trying to go to 250, the guy at 250 does not see the world the same as the guy at 80. His drive's different, beliefs are different, stories are different, his commitment's different, no different from two fifty to five hundred, to five hundred to two million, two million to ten million. It's like the place I'm at right now. Like there's just you have to break and it's painful.

Like it hurts. Like it physic physically it hurts. Your nervous system freaks the fuck out and thinks, what am I doing? Because you have to let go of patterns that got you. There. Right. You see this with employees who have been employees for fifteen, twenty years working for other people, and then they finally make the launch to do their own thing.

And they realize real quick, holy shit, I might not be as qualified. Sure. And I might have talked too much shit about the people I worked for. Yep. Then I imagine because all of a sudden the weight of it is there. So it's heavy. I think the identity shift is the most painful piece.

How Growing Wealth Impacts Marriage

So guy starts to make more money. Yeah. Starts to get some changes. Starts to get a little fit in his life. Goes from sixty to eighty, a hundred twenty. His house actually has a good exit, brings some new valuation. Man makes four hundred thousand dollars selling one of the houses.

Now he's got it, right? He's got made an extra half a million this year. What changes in the household? Why do you think that they change with their wife or their children or their lifestyle because now they got some money? Well, I am in the world of man and I will tell you exactly what happened.

When a man begins to make more money, he stops tolerating things around him. Now, what I mean by that is things that you tolerated when you're making a hundred thousand a year, you won't tolerate at a million. Mm-hmm. Why? Because the man that you were at 100 is different than the guy at 200 and different than the guy at a million. Well, that doesn't just apply to business strategy and partnerships.

Things you would tolerate in the past, things I would tolerate five years ago in a business partnership, I would never fucking tolerate today. Things I would tolerate in my marriage. Ten years ago, I wouldn't tolerate today. So the challenge becomes if the marriage is not super stable and there's not great communication and a guy makes a bunch more money, he does this silly thing. He looks at his wife, down at her. Oh. Now she the funny part is she might have pulled him along.

For ten years while he was fucking off and trying to figure himself out. And within six months to a year, all of a sudden he makes money and he forgets all of the history that this woman had to go through to be with that man. Right.

And the dude leaves. There was an example of this with I went out with one of my guys and his girlfriend. And I was like, So what's your story? And she's like, My husband and I were married. I was like, she's divorced. She said, Yep, we were married for thirteen years. She said, I was got pregnant twice. I put him through medical school.

I was working two jobs, had two babies. She's a beautiful woman, Egyptian girl. And my guy's like amazed, never been married. He's 52, and they're together. Probably, they'll probably stay together. And I go, so what happened? She's like, this motherfucker. Finally gets done with medical school, goes through all of his time. He's doing this for a decade. Makes four hundred thousand as a doctor his first year and starts fucking one of the nurses. And then tells me I want a divorce.

She's like, I I built you. I built you. I funded you. I created I drug your ass to the finish line within 12 months. It was like nine months. Wow. And she would like the paint it. And dude, I've seen this happen with guys over and over. That's why guys if they come into our program to warrior and they're not married, I'm like, don't don't plan on that one lasting.

'Cause the level you're gonna rise with us, if she didn't rise with you, you are you're gonna be done. Marriage is different. You got kids, you got marriage, there's contracts and commitments. But dude, you and I have seen this happen. We've seen this happen not once. We've seen this happen you and both. We know this this is happening right now to dudes that I know all over the country.

There was another guy here in town like in Miami. He called me like About a year ago and I'd met him, we're in a yacht thing and and he was just struggling and he was like trying to put some stuff together and trying to figure some things out.

And then you got and I I told him listen, man, here's what's gonna happen, predictably. Okay, you got some momentum, the things that happen you're gonna pop, you're gonna get some money this year. Like it's very clear that you have the pieces dialed in after five or six years of this.

I was like, you're also going on the fitness path. Nice. And let me tell you what's gonna happen. You're gonna pop and get the money, you're gonna get the fitness, and if you're not careful, this marriage you're in right now, if you don't keep her part of the problem, it's gonna change. So this guy ends up doing exactly what. So I get a call from him like a couple of months ago. He's not a client, he's just a dude here in Miami. He's like, How do we have my wife?

Oh interesting. I was like, well, give me the narrative. Well dude, he ran the Miami Circuit. Ugh. You know exactly what I'm talking about, you run the Miami Circuit. So I found out and I'm like You got fit and you got rich and you forgot who you were. Like this in Miami has become like is a thing. If I mean because of what I do, I just get lots of calls and three way texts from people. Hey, can you talk to this guy? Sure, happy to talk. And over and over, same pattern.

They forget. I don't know. It's it's weird. I've gone through it. I've gone through it myself like about four or five years ago. We moved in a twenty eight million dollar house and we had all the cars and we had all the stuff. And I remember even having the feeling about my wife, she better level the fuck up.

Hm. You better you better get your shit together, woman. I remember having these thoughts. It was even fights and arguments we'd have. So I was forgetting. So I could see why guys do it and why it's so hard to talk about.

Growing Business, Nurturing Relationships

All right, put on the business hat this time. Pop quiz, personal trainer in Miami. They only have four or five clients. They want to get a bunch more clients. They want to raise their rates and really build their personal training business. What would you say to that?

Well, listen, social media is bombarded with every fit jack dude on the planet. So you got competition out like crazy on social media. I'm not saying don't post, I'm not saying don't share your world, not do your thing, but there's this unspoken power that comes with

delivering case studies and getting referrals from those case studies. Like and tapping into networks. My trainer, Carter Montgomery, Carter's been training me for two and a half years. His company went from like Two hundred thousand a year to like a million a year. And it wasn't because of his social media campaigns. It's because he was plugged in and he trained a guy like me.

And when he trained a guy like me, I sent him a hundred and fifty dudes. Right. Cause dudes watch the results in me and they're like, Who's your guy? Yep. So I think right now the advantage for particularly personal trainers, anyone that's doing hands on I dude, I go to the gym and I see the trainers. The the trainers are all over the clients. Like my wife's trainer's all over her. Like they're doing you're so intimate with this person every day.

Getting re results for them is number one. And number two, asking for referrals. Ask them to tell people about you. And it in reality, don't pay them'cause the minute you pay them referral fees, you're gonna mess it all up. You will fuck it all up because people get weird about this. Uh I kinda wanna refer damn, but getting paid's no, I don't have a problem with it. But

Most people do. Sure. You know, the book Drive talks about that. Once you start compensating people for referrals, most people will stop referring. If I got paid every time I show told you to go see a cool movie It changes it. It's not that you shouldn't get paid. So I think the referral game and actually getting results

Like case studies, not testimonies. You're awesome trainer. I love you. No. Your dude was here. Now look at him. Your woman was here. Now look at her. These are the case studies. And then you glorify it. We do in our salons too, where women come and get the MBR hair. And they go from normal hair to like Victoria's Secret model hair. And then we we shake the photos in a way for them that lets them feel pride and excitement about being the girl on the photo.

But then we've had them post and tag and share, and that brings more clients into the salon too. Case study before, after, ask for referrals. Same trainer, he does it. He listens to Garrett White, goes from, you know, have four or five clients to 30 clients crushing it. What does this girlfriend do as this guy levels up? He's way busier, he doesn't respond to texts anymore. How do they keep the dynamic so they can keep the relationship going?

Well, number one, uh being a trainer and training women is always gonna be a situation. So I've seen I've been seen two kinds of trainers, guys that are very flirtatious with all their clients. And sleep is on the same. And there's guys that are very committed to their girl and they're not that way and they just trained. Like

No matter how busy you get, there has to be a deliberate energy. Number one, I'm focused on this woman. If my energy is fractured and shattered and going all to every woman I see and train or every woman at the gym, trouble. Second piece is once I've collapsed that energy and I've focused it. I'm saying, okay, I have to be as deliberate with my woman as I am with my client.

If I want case study results from my client, I have to produce a nutrition plan. I have to be there for the training protocol. I have to be there for training them. On top of this, what else do I have to do? I have to be as deliberate with my partner. But most of us don't think that. I never thought that. I didn't think that for fifteen, eighteen years. I would operate one way in business and then I'd look at my relationship and go,

Nothing. I got nothing. Like it was there was no plan. There was no planned date nights. There was no planned trips. There was there was no plan. But I had all the plan going in business. But then when it came to the relationship No one ever told me I should have a plan. So if you executed the macro plan for your client the same way you executed the date nine plan with your girl, You'd be amazed at what happens.

Investing in Self, Company, and Growth

All right, let's go to the investing side of things. So that guy starts make money. He actually goes from up to three hundred K to a million dollars. Just starts crushing it, raises his rates, gets other trainers underneath him. He's like, Bam, making commission off of them, overrides, million dollars. Investing. There's so many options. Real estate, stock market, Bitcoin, cash flowing businesses. How the heck can someone figure out what they want to invest in?

So I come from a little ancient place with this, so I believe the first place a man should invest is himself. Yep. Once he's invested himself, invest in his company. Mm-hmm. So if I have a hundred thousand dollars, where do I have a better shot of getting a high positive ROI on that? I could put it into someone else's company, I could buy stocks, I could put it into a real estate property and get cash flow, I could

invest in a software or startup, I could do a lot of things. But the one thing that will always give you the highest rate of return is you and your own company. So I watch and I did this. I would build my cash in the beginning, my first round of companies from two thousand, two thousand eight. I want to feel like an investor. Yeah. So I remember writing checks for six hundred thousand dollars, having no fucking clue what I was doing. Oh my god. And thinking

I'm an investor. I had the you remember the checks, the the the big fucking open up the book, long check. Yeah, the long one. And I would write the check. I remember exactly a six hundred thousand dollar check. I had no idea where that money was really gonna go, but I wanted to feel Like an investor. Now on my floor I had a hundred plus guys on my sales floor. I have this company that's crushing.

I didn't ever look at that as an investment. I was looked at I had to get somebody else's company money versus my money to my company. Third place is cash vaults, which is storing cash. And then once I've done those things, then the only time I invest is in something that I have an impact on. Can my human life value impact it? Example, they started building surf parks. I was deep into surfing for five years. They wanted me to invest in one of the surf parks.

I said, That makes sense. I love surfing. I love surf parks. I have a passion for this. Yeah. And then I said, What involvement can I have? And they're like, silent vester. I was like, eh, not gonna play. Yeah. They're like, why? I said if my human life value can't affect the marketing, affect the sales, affect the park, affect the game. If you want me part of the team, yeah, I'll invest my time, my energy, and my money.

But if I can't be involved, I'm not I'm not saying that's not how pro professional guys that do that, that know how to invest in other companies, yes. Guys that know real estate grant card ones are mentoring they're like, You should do this, you should do this, and I'm like, uh It's not my thing. It might be my thing. I'm turning fifty this year. I'm sure real estate will become my thing. Sure. It just hasn't been my thing. So I think what particular guy's doing a million.

Better systems, better teams, better process. Build the company. Make the investment there. Could you put it somewhere else you could. You definitely. So on the investing into yourself side of things, let's talk about live events like Man in the Arena Tour. Warrior program, masterminds, and as high as up to one on one coaching. Let's walk through the four. So man the reintour, I you've heard me say this before. Cheap, affordable, holy shit, right? Cheap.

We actually made it super cheap to go to Man the Arena. It's a hundred bucks, five hundred bucks, three hundred bucks to go to it for people that you know, thousands of men to come into the room. affordable is going to you know mastermind groups where it's five K, 10K, 25K in that range. And the holy shit is when you get to 50K to 100K for one-on-one coaching with guys like us or people that they look up to that can really move the needle for them. Walk us through those multiple layers.

Um, I think well, number one, you you you should be involved at all in all three. All three levels are amazing. Like we're going to Dr. Joe Dispenza. There's like thousands of people at this event. It's a couple thousand dollars for the ticket. My wife wants to go. That's an experience, right?

Truly, I'd like my wife to work directly with Joe Dispenser. So I always try to circumvent the thing and go to the top thing. Like that's what I did with 10X. I'm like, I want to work with Grant and Brandon Dawson.

How do I do that? Uh two million dollars. I'm like, okay, that makes sense. And then I get all the rest. Yes, for sure. But for a lot of us too now, large virtual or large in person is a great place to start because you get a taste for what something's about. You also get to be around a ton of people.

The step up from that though is implementation. So you're not gonna get much implementation, get information, experience in these. Then it comes to am I gonna I like the information? Can I implement the information? Okay, well you're not gonna pull that off in a big arena then. You're gonna now have to go to a smaller environment where it's more customized, more intimate, and you can actually get to know the people. That's where masterminds come in play.

Then you get top producing people who move fast, who are at the large event experience, and they think just like you and I. What is the fastest path for me to get this done? I could do it by myself. I'm gonna fuck a bunch of things up for sure. I could do this in a large group, but I won't get personal attention that I want. I could do this in the mastermind, which works, but it's still kinda diluted and powerful, but

I want the guy. I like the group. I want the guy. And so now there's a commitment saying if I went to the guy, Maybe it is 100,000, maybe it's 500,000, whatever it is. But does that increase my speed, collapse my mistakes, and give me the result that I want faster? So it depends. You'll see people go all the way up through them. Start here, go to the mastermind, come to 101, and then you got some people who will just Experience first one and go.

Yeah, I'm just gonna go there. Right to the top. And that's kind of become my mode a lot in the last like five, eight years. Like if I wanna if I wanna be like you, I go to hundred million dollar mastermind. But if I really want the heat, I'm coming straight with you. I'm gonna be on your phone dealing with you directly because the counsel you can give me in a thirty minute conversation, I might not be able to gleam.

In two or three masterminds. I might get it, but I for sure get it if I'm with you. That was me with Brandon. Go to a 10x event. Or I could sit in a one on one conversation with Brandon for an hour or Grant and they just shatter my frames in like twenty minutes and they're like, Okay, are we done? I'm like, Yeah, I'm fucking done, dude. Thank you, Knuckle, I'm out. Which that might have taken me six months to get that breakthrough versus

Maximizing Personal Development Returns

So there's three mistakes that are made at the low low level ticket price, mastermind price, and one on one coaching. The low level ticket price when you're going to main in the arena tour, Aspire tour, large format events, a lot of our 10x, et cetera, what happens is you're on your phone during those eight hours.

And you're missing so much because you're texting, Instagramming, doing the things during eight hours while Gary V's on stage and Grant Cardone's on stage and Garrett White's on stage and like

You're missing out on the Shark Tank and all these people that you paid to go there. You traveled to go there and you're messing around on your phone. Please, when you're at these large format events, focus on the stage, focus on what's happening there, and network during the breaks with everyone that's there. The medium size, the mastermind sides, where you're paying 5k, 10k, 25k, et cetera, you are not networking enough.

You should know everyone inside of that room, not just for themselves. They might have other people in their ecosystem. You're like, oh, that's a real estate person. I don't care. Or that lady owns seven gyms. Who cares? She might know some interesting people that are useful for you. So network with everyone inside the mastermind. On the one on one coaching side. A closed mouth doesn't get fed.

If you do not ask questions, and preferably have your questions done in advance, So that you come to the phone call and you're not just like So I'm doing this and I'm doing this, I'm doing this. Come there with five or ten questions for your 30 minutes or your hour one-on-one coaching session.

And have that thing prepared. Think about it for days in advance. And I promise you your one on one coaching will become that much more efficient. What's wild to me is to watch I've had men wire me five hundred thousand dollars. in one on one programs and get into problems. and hide. Oh my gosh. Yep. It's the weirdest shit ever. Dudes will dudes will invest hundreds of thousands of dollars for help. Right. When and if Things start getting shaky.

Then they get shaky and dudes retreat. I had one client a couple of years ago. And he he wouldn't respond, he wouldn't my teams call him, I'm calling him, I'm sending videos and like, bro, what the fuck is going on? Finally get a hold of him through his girlfriend. I'm like, What it where the hell is he?

She's like, dude, he's collapsing. I was like, no shit, he's collapsing I knew he's collapsing'cause he went Ghost Art Protocol Zero on me for two months. Where's he at? Finally calls me up, finally get on the phone and he's like, Rex. And I'm like, What the fuck? Right.

Like the reason I came into your world was so what the fuck doesn't happen? Yeah. And you avoided me. Why? He's like, I just felt fucking horrible and da da da da and all the stories. And I said, Well, dude, you're coming to me now I was your fire insurance. The house is burned down. There's smoke and ashes now. He's like, what do I do? I was like, we rebuild. Like I'm gonna speak to you directly. You're fucked.

It doesn't mean you're fucked forever, but you're fucked right now. And you didn't have to be fucked. That's why I came into your world six months ago. We knew you were going into a season. But you chose. The crazy part in masterminds, I used to do this. When I first was the ma my first masterminds was Brandon Burchard. I felt so insecure that when I went to the mastermind I didn't even know how to get help. Right.

I was so scared. So during breaks, instead of talking to anybody, hide in my room. Right. And then we'll come down for a session, not realizing the power of the mastermind is exactly what you're talking about. The breaks. It's yeah, it's Dan sharing and giving wisdom. That's awesome. But the real power of the mastermind is exactly what you said. You don't you're not just looking at individuals. Each one of these individuals in that group have networks. Right.

You are one conversation away from an explosion in your business because you connected with somebody and the mindset you should have is well what can I get from you? That was my mindset. First it was hide, then it was what can I get from people? What are my angles? Then it became Hey, what's up?

How are you? And I want to know about you. Right. With no agenda, no like I need some shit from you, which you're you're elite at this. You're like the highest level version I've ever met in my life of this. But then it's like, okay, well, if I come to Hundred Million Dollar Mastermind or I come to a mastermind of Man Arena. What you can see are the people. What you can't see is the ripple. Yeah. of these networks. I mean somebody comes into my world, dude, I'm networked as shit. What?

So are you. Our networks come together and collide with all the networks around. Dude, there's not a problem you cannot solve in the ripple. Somebody has a connection to someone that you don't know about with a strategy you can't consider with a possibility you've never conceived. Right. But you're over here hiding. Here, let me give you twenty five thousand, come to the mash amount, a hundred thousand, and then

Or worse, you started thinking the whole time, I wish I could just talk to Dan or Garrett. You're like, I get that, but The money is right in front of you. And if you're not an asshole and you just show up and be authentically you, some people like you, some people won't. But the ones that do

I mean I still have people we did we did a hundred million dollar mastermind in my backyard. Yep. Just that there are people I still connect with. Like Josh Kirk, all these guys I still connect with that we don't we we just connect. That's it. Oh I wouldn't have met him if you hadn't brought him to my backyard.

They weren't gonna come to my backyard without you. Hey guys, come to my backyard. So even in that, like my team even I had some people asking me, why why are you why are you why are you putting this on? I was like, cuz I'm going to business with Dan. He needed help. That's it. I got a house. It's a cool backyard. Yep. Let's fucking throw some shit over the pool. Let's build a thing for'em and and go. Well, the value to me

Was just getting to meet all these cool people. Sure. And value to you was a place to do it. Yep. And also was helping us in the beginning stages what we were building with Man Larina. Yeah.

Charity, Family, and Abundance

Third and final chapter. Charity. Why is it important for the wives and children of the man, hopefully running that household, for them to see him involved in some charity and potentially, hopefully, involving the kids and wife in that charity. Yes. Your children are watching. Always.

They watch your habits, they watch your patterns. My kids know my morning routine. They know dad's praying, dad's in the Bible, dad's stacking. I do my they know I work out. They know my wife and I cold punch. They see everything. But what most guys don't realize is your kids are watching your patterns with money.

They're watching what you do. So my kids, I like I I believe in a tithe, but I don't believe in a tithe to a church. So I tithe differently, which is that's one way of charity for me, which is there's a percent of my money that I fully plan on just giving people. And so I make sure my kids see it. So when we're supporting somebody's child to go through rehab and I'm funding it for ninety days to it to six months.

I want them in the conversation of it. We did this with one of their swim instructors. He was coming to the house to give two swimmers lessons for younger kids, and his son was in a horrible place and suicidal and he didn't have the cash to take care of it. And so we sat with him with my kids and had him share the situation with his son. I said, I got you. And they gotta watch this grown man break down in tears. Yep. They got to see the process and experience of it.

The thing I still struggle with is my kids have been raised in so much abundance that They're quick to tip everybody. But they don't have I'm working now on trying to help them understand. Because the whole world they're in is kind of this abundant bubble. They're used to pushing buttons and shit just happens.

They push a button and shit shows up. Food deliveries, DoorDash, Ubers. Everything. Everything. Like my ki my kids for the first time, like a year and a half ago, we took them to a Regal Theater. to see a movie, but they've always gone to theaters with the buttons and the servers and the lay you down and the blankets and the people coddling over you. And my my little ones were like totally confused.

Dad, Dad. How do we get food? Where Dad, where's the button? Right. There's no button. Dad, my chair doesn't go back. My chair doesn't lean back. Why is it sitting like maybe that's how the that's how it is. What what do you mean? So I'm I'm in a season now, I'll be fifty this year, where I become very aware of the fact that abundance can be a curse.

If there's attachment to the giving. So now we moved into this chapter this year with very deliberate about creating experiences for my kids to see how life is outside of the bubble, but also to have them be in a place of giving. So anytime we're tipping anyone, or I'll tip valet, or tip, I'll have the kids go do it. I love it. Like take the cash, go give them a tip. Yep. And then they're learning on the receipts.

What percentages are here in Miami, everything's like twenty percent guaranteed, eighteen percent, twenty, whatever. Well, how much do we give them? I was like, Well, let's figure it out. Well, why why are we giving them so much? Who is that? That's a lady. No, that's a mum. Do you know if she's married? Is she a single mom? This is how she pays for food. This is how she lives. Daddy goes to work, this is her going to work.

So you are you're on a different level with it with the foundations and all the stuff you do with toy drive, which is like very inspiring. Like I watch your passion with it and your obsession with it. Obsessed. Like it's an obsession. Like what drives you to do that?

For you. I still remember the one toy that I got it was a little Hulk Hogan that you put your thumb in the back. Yeah. Like I still remember that. Like we just didn't have any money when I was a kid. And so I remember if I had that emotion to that, what would happen if I gave Kids, five toys each that don't have money. And the relief for the parent.

And so when we did our first one twelve years ago, I just watched like the parents' relief when they would walk in and they've got three kids and the kids are getting five toys each. That's fifteen toys. That's like hundreds of dollars. Oh my God, right? That's a big deal. And so then it just kept compounding from eight volunteers to twenty volunteers to now stadiums and arenas. So but it started from like I just saw the

The things that would happen to a child and things that would happen to the parent as well. We had during the during the Christmas season, we had a a a gentleman who's connected to my kid. Who supports him and coaches him and he he probably made the hardest call a a man could ever make. It's like two days before Christmas and he calls me, we're close, but not real close.

And breaking down in tears, he's like, my daughter's coming down, my wife's had a miscarriage, the salary I make, like, gee, I'm like, man, I'm hurting, dude. Mm-hmm. Like I I like I can barely like provide food right now. Like Christmas and I'm not I'm not asking my car just broke down. Like I fixed the car do I buy toys? He's just stuck, dude. He has no car, his situation, and I'm sitting listening to him and I said so first one. I said, Bro, the fact that you had the courage

To just ask. Right. Number one, huge. Number two, the fact that you were willing to reach out to me speaks volumes two. I said, I'm not giving you a loan. As I what's your venue? I say I'm gonna send you a gift. God delivered abundance under my life, let me help you. And we sent it. And then I sat with my daughters who are connected to him and I didn't specifically talk because I don't want it to be weird for the kids with him. But we talked about the principle.

We drive past this guy on the road too and he has on his wheelchair and I just felt called God told him to pull over and I like pulled over and I started talking to him. This dude was like a Has a huge beard, no legs, sitting in his wheelchair. He's got a Bible on his lap and he just starts breathing the power of God through his eyes to me. It was the wildest experience. I said, What can I what can I do to help you? And he's like

Nothing. I just want you to be a great man. I'm like, wow. Okay. I say I I received that. What what else can I do to support you? He said I need it. My wheel's broken. I need a new wheelchair. So I called my team and I said, Hey, I'm gonna connect you. I said, Give me your number, got his number, connected the team and I said, Hey, we're gonna get this dude a new wheelchair. Yep.

And my teams were so excited. The girls on my team were like freaking out pumped all day. So they spent the whole day coordinating, finding that finding the hand the the wheelchair that he needed. Right. Taking it, didn't want the SUVs, going downtown, f finding where he was, got him the wheelchair. So there's just moments I think that we're doing every day. There's huge stuff like you're doing, which is amazing. I wanna do stuff like this. It's a path I'm on for sure.

Connect and Support

But guys, there's like the day-to-day stuff of just helping people around you that you can do no even if it's twenty bucks, it's like just being able to help time, energy, and money to help up. All right, where can they find Garrett J. White across social media, Man the Arena Tour, the the Warrior's way, all the things. Tell them everything. Uh Wakeup Warrior.com, probably a good place to start.

Um we run events every single month. We run Man Arena Tour every couple of months. We've got a lot going on in social media, Gary J. White, on Instagram, many of the platforms. Um, and those those are probably a good place to start. Like Wake Up Warrior, you just Google it, you'll find it. There's a lot of paths there. You can also pick up a book called Warrior Book, which we have hundreds and hundreds of those go out every single month. You can get that at Warriorbook.com.

What about Danielle? What's she got going on? Danielle, my wife's in the hair space and she is we're currently working a deal. We'll see if it if it goes through with a a very, very large um brand in the hairspace. And we'll see if we can we're we're at like stage three on this one. So we'll see. The next testing phase happens. If it works, then it'll be the biggest partnership she's ever had.

Uh which would be real exciting. But she does hair extensions, trains hairstylists, has her own hairlines. She's a producing woman. If if if I if I died or was a total idiot and fucked up the marriage and she left this woman's fine to take care of herself for life.

Uh but she can find her she's all over the place with a a brand called Natural Beaded Rose and Isla Hair. Uh runs one of the top hair extension lines in the country and one of the top hair product lines. So and then she just got into wigs. wigs and she's taking it a different angle. She's taking wigs, not just to the African American community.

But sh her partners, partners are black and they are deep in the wet in the the the Whig world and she got fascinated by this, so she actually building a foundation to deliver wigs to White women and black women, any woman, but those are the partnership, but the real angle she's taking, she's like, I'm gonna make wigs cool for white people. She said'cause she runs with so many ethnic and Latino black Asian women in hair world.

But white women have always been like no and they used to be that way of Parricens are like, No, this is not a this is not a white girl that but she's going specifically after w women with l alopecia. Like cancer, hairs falling out, fin breaking, I'm gonna do wigs, so

We'll see how that goes. She's super excited about it. I love it. I'm actually interviewing her partner in two hours. I love it. All right, guys. As you know, we need your support. We need you to share, like, comment, subscribe. When you listen to episodes like this, it's not just about you. This might trigger something in your mind six months from now, a year from now, for a friend, family, or follower from someone from your past, present, or future.

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