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Hi, I'm Paige Killian and I'm passionate about helping busy moms of littles organize and style their life in three simple steps. Living this mom life is incredible and sometimes completely overwhelming. Is stressing about overstuffed drawers, never-ending mail piles a mountain of Legos and our kids' artwork.
Really what got intended? No way. Getting organized has been a game changer for me and also my clients, but it has to be simple or it just won't get done. So let's simplify the process and clear the clutter to see the blessings God has for us. I know your time is. So thanks for joining me each week for a healthy dose of organization and a whole lot of motivation.
Well, hello there. Thank you for joining me today. I am hanging out with you in my PJs today. This afternoon. Is it morning? No, it is not morning. Have I just come back from dropping my children off from school? No, it's many hours later past that, but I'm still in my PJs because. I'm a little bit exhausted.
I'm also prioritizing my time, and I've decided that it's more important to get a few other things done than actually put regular clothes on my body. Here's the thing though, I am going to have to get dressed pretty soon because we are in the final stages, the very last week of school before the holiday break.
So if you are listening to this right now, you are getting it. In fact, after. Christmas, but I am trying to vo record some of these before, and that's one of the reasons that I wanted to talk about what I'm gonna talk with you today, because I feel like sometimes we get really exhausted. And the last thing that we really wanna be doing is organizing or making plans or being productive.
So I wanted to do a couple things. One, I wanna give you permission to rest. I always. Have this inner monologue going on because I am a productive person. I feel like I do roll out a lot of things and get a lot accomplished most days, but on the days when I feel like doing nothing, I need to be okay with that.
Because what happens when you don't have any downtime at all is you start to sort of resent maybe people around you who are getting to do other things that you'd like to do. You might look at a lovely family member who's sitting on the couch doing a whole lot of nothing and be like, wow. I can't stand you right now because you know, like we get in our heads about this and when we don't allow ourselves enough time and rest to reboot, we just are sort of pushing ourselves constantly to go, go, go.
And, and then all these weird, yucky feelings kind of creep into our head and our heart. And sometimes they come out of our mouth. Sometimes we say out loud, I really can't stand you right now, all just because someone's sitting on the couch and relaxing when we should be saying, wow, you know what? I am gonna take a page from your book and I am going to spend more time relaxing and rebooting because you look really relaxed right now.
So, First off, I just wanna give you that permission to relax if you need to. And second of all, I wanna say, look, if you are trying to be more productive and you are feeling really exhausted, too exhausted, in fact, to organize your life or to make some plans, I wanted to just offer three things today because I love doing things in threes.
That hopefully will help. There'll be just like friendly reminders that you can do whatever it is you actually need to do without it feeling so overwhelming and stressful. Okay, so the number one. Thing that I wanna share with you. If you are in this state of exhaustion right now and feeling like you need to be productive, but you just don't have the energy, is to remember a podcast episode I did a while back.
I'm gonna put everything that I'm referencing today in show notes. So if you do wanna go back and listen to these, um, then that is just, you know, I. A click away so you can look down in show notes. I'm gonna link this episode. It's called the 1% Rule. If you didn't catch this rule, which I certainly talk about a little bit more in the episode so you can go back and check it out.
I really talk about how when we get in our heads so much about all of the things we have to do and. The to-do list is never ending. That, by the way, may never go away. Uh, whoa. Wow. You guys, I just have to tell you, I'm like being blasted by sunlight at this moment. Um, I think , maybe I just put out into the universe that I'm feeling a little exhausted and I need to be a little more awake and then, you know, Jesus said, let her be light.
And so that's what's happening. But anyway, here's the thing. If you are feeling so stressed out and 1% is all you are capable of handling right now, let's talk about how you do that. So the 1% rule really is something that just allows you to get past that paralysis by. Hey, that happens to be podcast episode two.
Paralysis by analysis is a real thing because we can lay in bed or we could be in our PJs like I am right now. Sort of overanalyzing all the different possibilities for what we can do and how we can do it until we. Stress ourselves out so much that we don't do anything. We become completely paralyzed by analyzing all of these things that we could be doing and how we could be doing them.
So the 1% rule is really a way to attack that thing that you're trying to get done, and it could be multiple things without feeling the stress and overwhelm, and it is truly. You just saying, I'm going to attempt to get 1% better or 1% more organized, or 1% more motivated. So I have mentioned on that episode that I did little things like if I feel like I just don't have the energy to.
Get in the shower and get ready to go somewhere. What is 1% better that I could shoot for? And sometimes it is truly just walking to the shower and turning it on. Sometimes that is all in that moment I am capable of doing to move. Getting to whatever it is I need to do next. I just need to go turn the dang shower on.
So if that is something that you are just, you just have no motivation to get up and get ready, just go turn on the shower and I don't know what it is about that for me. If I can turn the shower on. I will in fact get into the shower. I will in fact wash my hair. I will in fact get out and blow dry my hair, put on a little makeup, get clothes on and go about my day.
But if I'm sitting in that place and I'm feeling like I don't want to move, I wanna sit here and I want to binge watch whatever Grey's Anatomy, the home, edit what, whatever is your choice of viewing pleasure. That seems so much more enjoyable sometimes than actually getting up and getting in the shower and doing all the bajillion things that we as women have to do in the shower to go on about our day looking, you know, like we should be allowed in public.
So I just, that's one thing I just have discovered for me. Is if I could just turn on the shower, all the other stuff follows. Why? It's because it's that first step that is the hardest. So if you need to do 1% better of getting organized, sometimes I think about that never ending mail pile. If I want to do 1% better, I simply will pick up one envelope cuz they all kind of start to look the same, right?
I will pick up one envelope and open it up and process. Maybe it is, shred it and throw it in the recycle. Maybe it is pay a bill, maybe it is. Take it and put it in a file. That means this is in process and it will happen later. Like if there's something that you can't do with it at the moment and you just need to file it away in the appropriate place.
Maybe that's what, like if it's like a tax related document, for example, maybe you don't need to deal with it at the moment, but you need to file it away in the proper place so it's there when you need it Next. Okay. Oftentimes, I think we, we get so irritated by that mail pile because it, it really just increases every day.
Uh, whenever we go take the mail out and we bring it in and it sits on the counter and it makes us a crazy person and it just like stares us down as if it is. Alive and you know, just haunts us. Maybe that's not something that really bothers you, but if it is, it is because we have to stay on top of that really daily, certainly weekly, because it can get out of control in a hurry.
So if you are feeling that that is majorly stressful, perhaps just do 1% better today, because again, what happens when we do 1%? . It is that beginning part where we maybe do shred that one envelope, get rid of it, and we think, okay, you know what? That wasn't that bad. What if I try to do one more? Just one more, one more letter.
Well, that wasn't so terrible either. Maybe I'll do a few more. And before you know it, that attempt at doing 1% better automatically domino effects into doing more, more, more, more. You're inevitably gonna be doing more than just 1%. Now listen, if you attempt 1% and you just get 1%, one letter done that day.
You did what you set out to do. You didn't set out to tackle the entire mail pile because it's just too much today. Okay? Okay. You're exhausted. You have my permission to relax if you need to do that. All right. So pick one thing that you feel like you could do, you could throw a little bit of energy and effort into and do that and be okay with that being what you can handle for.
But I'm telling you, I'm warning you when you attempt the 1% rule, oftentimes it is that getting started element that is just the struggle, and you find yourself doing way more than 1%. So you've been warned. You could shoot for 1% and you could get 10%. You could even get 50% done with that thing that you really were dreading, you know?
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All right, moving on. So that was the first, that's your essential thing that you should try to do if you're feeling too exhausted to organize. Focus on that 1% rule. What's one little thing that you could do to move the ball forward? Okay. And then number two, this is your enhancement. What's gonna add style or value to that?
Okay. You think, look, I've done the 1% rule and I actually feel like I might be able to accomplish a little bit more. Here's what you do. It's the three E's philosophy. This is something that I created when I was a kindergarten teacher. Umpteen years ago. I said umpteen to my Isabel the other day and she was like, what is that even a word?
It is. Well it what? My mom used it all, all the time growing up in the south. Is it a southern thing? Do do other people say umpteen, umpteen years ago? That means a whole lot of years ago when I was a kindergarten teacher, I really. Naturally started to give the kiddos three simple steps at a time to move the ball forward, where they would have to stop for a moment and really think long enough to like accomplish those three things.
So, so they would need to stop and think about it for a moment, but then truly it wasn't too much to make them feel overwhelmed. So if you are too exhausted to organize, I wanna suggest that you break down whatever it is you need to do in three simple steps. and you would have your essentials, your enhancements, and your extras that you're focusing on for the day.
But I'm gonna remind you that if you just get done with that essential thing you needed to do today, the other stuff is just optional. It's really just sort of the cherry on top. Okay. It's really, it's not something that you have to stress out so much about because it's gonna still be there tomorrow.
And if you need to have a bit of. , you have my permission to have a bit of rest, and maybe you might be saying, yeah, but Paige time is ticking on some of these things I should have been doing earlier. Well, then I'm going to tell you about the third step. The third step today we're talking about your extra is ask for help.
It's another episode I did a while back and I just wanna remind you, you don't have to do everything yourself. In fact, it is not a solo mission and that is. Part of the subtitle of my book that I have out right now, it's called I've Got You Girlfriend. Why? Getting Organized and Living This Mom Life is not a solo mission because it's not cause it's okay to ask for help because why?
Why do you think that you have to do everything by yourself? This doesn't have to be a solo mission getting organized, but also just living this life. It, it does not have to be something that you do alone. So if you are feeling like you are alone, ask somebody for. that can be hiring someone. If you need help getting cleaned up in your home, getting organized, hire a housekeeper, hire a professional organizer.
By the way, I know one if you need one. I'm raising my hand as if you could see me. It's me. It's me. Okay. If you need help, I'm here to help you. And by the way, if I'm not local to you and I can't come in your home and help you, hit me up in my email page, everything with style.com. I am telling you we can do a Zoom.
Quick virtual organizing hour, it could possibly change your life. It really could. You would be shocked at how much we can accomplish in an hour, really, truly get done. Uh, I will give you a little bit of homework to work on, and we will do it as simply as possible, and you will not be dreading and hating some of those organizing jobs that have made you a crazy person for so long.
You would really, truly be shocked. So ask for. If that's what you need, ask for help. If you're like, oh, no, I, I'm pretty organized. My home is doing pretty well. Congratulations. Amazing. Especially after the holidays, it's really hard to feel like your home is organized, so that is absolutely fantastic. If you are feeling like you need some help in other areas as well, find somebody that you could talk to about that, even if it's just your kids and say, Mom needs your help.
I really need you. And give them age appropriate things that they could do to truly help. All right. Ask your spouse, ask your roommate. Ask a professional pay for it. Or ask for help from a friend who would do something for you to help out and find a way to return the favor later. And also, I'm always gonna say it.
You have a direct line to God. Ask for help from him. He sees you. He sees where you are. You are not alone in this. Okay? If the organizer is booked out, if the housekeeper is booked, and, and he or she cannot come to help you that day, if your kids are a little too young to help you out, or they've got other stuff to do, and just that day it's not working.
If your spouse is working hard doing something else, if all of these humans here on Earth are a little bit busy at the moment, they won't always be. So don't worry, you always can ask God for help, and if that's not your jam or if that's not something that you're used to, let me just tell you, there's a lot of peace in just stating what you need to get done out loud.
and, and for some people they say, oh, that's just like putting it out in the universe, but I believe that there is a higher power. I believe that God is there. He created you. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, and it doesn't matter if you get the laundry done that particular day. He still loves you.
He sees your efforts and he is okay with you relaxing a little bit sometimes. Okay? So take the pressure off of yourself if you were too exhausted, too organized. I'm going to remind. These three things shoot for 1% better. Inevitably, you will get more done than you even dreamed of. Number two, use those three simple steps.
Go back to the three East philosophy. What are three things you could do to move the ball forward without feeling completely overwhelmed? And then once you've done those three, You can pick three more things, but you can take the stress away by breaking it down to three simple steps instead of feeling completely overwhelmed, especially if you're feeling exceptionally exhausted these days.
And finally, your third thing to focus on, ask for help. It is not a solo mission. You have people all over the place who do truly actually want to help you. Okay? And if you are feeling frustrated and you don't know who those people are, reach out to me. We will figure it out. We will figure it out together, cuz I am here for you.
Okay? All right. I love you like crazy. I hope you're having a wonderful holiday season. If you're not, you do in fact have the power to change that. And if you need help figuring out how to do. That's what I'm here for. Uh, there's a lot of great advice in that book. I gotta tell you and be ready for the audio book.
Who knows when it's gonna come out. I will let you know when it does, but the audio book will be coming out too. If you are feeling like the last thing you wanna do is pick up a book and read it, don't worry. I've got you girlfriend. I hope you're having a great day. And just know I am here loving you, cheering you on.
We've got this together, and talk to you next. For a little more organization motivation. Bye-bye. Thanks for listening to another episode of the Mom's Organization Motivation Podcast. For more resources to organize and style your busy life, head over to everything with style.com and connect with me on Instagram at everything with Style.
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