🗓️ Wrapping up 2022 - my favourite practices for reflection + growth 🌱

today. And I do I miss it when I don't do it. And I I'm excited to talk this week, but also a little bit of a life update. So I like I wrote this in a caption very recently. I felt like it has been the most incredible, hectic, expansive, ridiculously uplifting, soul satisfying and emotional and tiring year that I have possibly ever had. It's been the best year of my life. I must say I was writing I was making a real yesterday. And I was looking back over the year

and I was just bloody hell. What do you hear like what a year 2022 has been. And we've still got almost five weeks left, which is crazy. Crazy to think like how fast this year went. But I was looking back over the year and and, you know, this is my this time of year like summer, new year's Christmas. It really is my happy time like the summer, the family time, the time for reflection, the time for setting intentions, the time for really tuning into what matters tuning into that.

Alright, what is my intention for the next year? What have I come to learn Lola. And I've been in a very, very, very reflective state. And the last week or so I honestly I hit a wall I was just like, oh my goodness, we had for a couple of weeks there we had two Weddings and a Funeral. We've had personally like in the business front I've had, we've got product lines coming. I've got courses coming in the background, I'm building a bloody school in the background.

That's all happening in the background level ups been coming to an end. And that's always so emotional. We had a lot of crying. Like this week, we'd level up we've got the level up retreat this weekend. I've got my parents are but it's like Christmas parties here Christmas parties there. And then when you add to that, you know health things and all that things or just being a human and experiencing life I got to about two weeks ago, and I was like, Okay, I need to go sit in the

bush. And something's got to give and I need to protect my energy. And you know, this is I guess, just a reminder, sometimes, and I had this conversation with a couple clients last week, they'll like I'm juggling so many balls. And I just don't know how to keep them all afloat. I don't know how to keep them all up in the air, something's got to drop.

And my answer to that is, so drop some, like, we have to get really good at understanding that we can't be all things all the time, we can't be, you know, balance is a very interesting, I'm not going to get into that I'll do a different episode on balance. But you can't be doing all things all the time and being there for all people all at once. It's just not possible.

And so sometimes, the most empowering thing we can do is to actually look at all of our balls, or all of the different buckets that we're having, we're trying to hold, or we're trying to fill with water in our life and go, Okay, which 1am I going to ignore for now? What's the priority? What's the intention, and then just accept that like, for example, last week, I said to man's, there's no podcast this week is just not going to happen. I need to protect my

energy. I am actually I spent the time that I would have been podcasting. I read a bit of a fiction book, I went and got my nails done, because I know that this is the week of the level up retreat of Christmas parties of so much. We're doing a Jedi jump the level up girls, like there's just so much going on. And my priority is my clients, my priority is being the best

version of myself for them. And so I had to accept that decision that I'd made and give myself permission to drop something and just focus on one thing, prioritise and always know what the priority is. I feel like it's so important. This time of the year, I've had so many conversations with people where they're like, Yeah, I'm tired, I am exhausted. And that's okay. It's bloody beautiful. Like, we've gotten to the end of hopefully a very full year, like a very full and hopefully

satisfying year. And sometimes we just need to come get to get to the end. If that's how you're feeling. Make a decision. What's my priority right now? And what do I need to give myself permission to just not have as a priority, and then accept the results of that, you know, like last week, it was like, I accept that there's not going to be a podcast this week. I'm making this choice. It's from an intentional place and I'm okay with whatever consequences may

arise from that. Which by the way, none, because there are no consequences. This is something I do for a passion project. This is something I do to help people this is something I do because I want to and because I'm the boss, this is a reminder to anyone Who's their own boss who has a business, you're the one that makes the rules. And the reason you did this was for satisfaction, fulfilment, freedom, impact all of that. You can't be the best version of yourself if you're tired, and

you're drained. And you know, just massive permission slip this time of the year to just take that time to fill your cup right back up. And this is what I this episode today is all about doing a little bit of reflection, having some practices or carving out some time over the next five weeks for you to really get intentional about reflecting on the year that was 2022. I can't remember who it is, I think it was Joey, it was a really great

quote. And it's, we don't learn from experience, we learn from reflecting on the experience. And I love that quote, because it's so true. And next week, I will be doing a podcast all about setting intentions and making sure that 2023 You know, that you turned 2020 23 into everything that you're hoping for and how to reverse engineer your goals, how to align yourself with the energy that's going to attract the things you want. I'm going to go into my favourite practices, I'm going

to go into all of that. But I never set goals without reflecting, I always say reflect and then set, reflect and then set, reflect and then set. Because like, like myself, and I know a lot of you guys listening, you're very type a very goal centric, very focused very, it's the best, like the best, you've always got a goal, you're always trying to you listen to a personal development podcast, you're probably somebody who's often focused on the future. It's the next thing.

It's the next goal. And that's beautiful, because human nature is for expansion, right? Human nature is for expansion and fuller expression, we always are looking at what else like what else once we get to our goal, we're like, Oh, I see that I could go a little bit further. I say there's room for improvement here. And whenever done, and it's beautiful. However, the beautiful and often challenging part to this is making sure that we never like take for granted, the moment that is the current

moment. And looking back in reflection. And looking back in how far we've come. We are so the brain will often focus on the negative. And this is just how we're wired will focus on because it's about survival, right? Our monkey minds have been trained for us to always be on the lookout for any threats always be on the lookout for things that could be a threat to our safety. And because of that, our brains will often go to the critical like will critique ourselves, we'll look at what we

did wrong. We'll look at how far we've still got to go. We'll look at why we're not there yet. We'll look at how far we are from our goals. Instead of looking back and going, how far have I come? Oh my gosh, I've done so much. I'm where I want wished I would be? or these are the things that I've learned this year that I'm taking with me into the next year. Or actually, I'm not feeling to crash at the end of this year. What can I learn? And what can I

change? And what can I put in place as I set my intentions and look forward? So always always it's let's look backwards. Let's sit in gratitude. And then let's set some intention. So this episode today is practices and some of the things I would love if you're up someone who like me is about to go into the new year period where you start thinking about like, Alright, what's happening next year? What do I want to put in place? What are some goals? What are some things in my business? What are

my financial targets? What are my health goals, like all of it like before you start doing that, let's look back at 2022, because you learn from reflecting on experience. And so what I think is really, really, really important is that we look through the lens of true things, because first we're going to look at truck trials and tribulations and opportunities that we had this year for growth things that challenged us and things that we need to let go of things that are no longer

serving us. That's what we're doing. For the first part, I'm going to break this down into two parts. So the first one is looking at the tribulations or the things that are no longer serving us. And then we're going to change and shift gears into moments of gratitude. That's yeah, moments of joy, things that lit us up things that brought us happiness. And you'll see this is actually a strategy

that is very intentional. Once we've got ourselves into that state where we're feeling all of those positive and grateful appreciative thoughts and feelings, then we get into the energy of goal setting because we want to activate that state before we set goals. Right? So part one to this reflection, we're looking at 2022 through the lens of what no longer serves me. So I'm going to ask a few questions. And I actually want to take you through just a

moment right now. We are very busy this time of year can be very full. And so this can be your practice right now. Just start thinking if you're walking, if you're in the car, start thinking as I asked questions, and then if you want to take out your journal later, when you're doing your journaling. PS I have a journal coming very very soon. I'm so excited. I just I wasn't meant to say that but there we go. Ah, I have a journal coming up. It's just uh, anyway, let's not get

into that right now. So if you have a journal, get your journal out. And what you're going to do is start looking at this here from the lens of what am I letting go of? Because before we expand, we must create space, right? nature abhors a vacuum in the words of Aristotle, Aristotle, which means all spaces will be filled, but there must be space. And for us to create space, some things need to crumble, right? There's always a contraction period

before we expand. And we're going to intentionally create this by letting things go by letting things crumble and by just citing what we need to let go of. So I want you to think, how am I feeling? First of all, how am I feeling at the end of 2022? How am I feeling? And why

am I feeling this way? What throughout the year has contributed to how I'm feeling how for me, I got to this year, and I was like, Holy crap, I'm equally as like, fulfilled and satisfied and just completely blown away by the year as I am exhausted. And I think that goes hand in hand with me. Like for me, I was just like, I'm exhausted, I need some time to rest, I probably need to have a look at my boundaries next year as I take on more because I am growing a lot of things. But I

was feeling exhausted. And why I was feeling exhausted was because I actually had a very full year doing things that mostly I love. However, what needs to go, what is no longer serving me, I had to write that down. And like I said, there's a personal joke with the VIP group of this round of level up ladies, please, you know, I swear this isn't for you. I swear you didn't break me. But I've told the level up ladies. Look, next year, there is not

going to be a VIP round. And we have a joke because this is the most hectic, hectic group of VIP cohort students I've ever had. Like, if I don't check the WhatsApp group for maybe four hours. It's like ping, ping, ping, ping, you've missed 30 messages. And this is just normal, like so connected. So engage so incredible wouldn't change it ever this so divine, so beautiful. But I had to ask this question, what is no longer serving me? Or what will no longer? What do I need to let go

of to create space? For what I know I'm setting into motion next year. So into motion next year is, you know, the mind school, I'm building certification programmes, I'm building trainings, I'm doing so many other things, I'm writing my book, what do I need to let go of, it's got to be that I'm letting go of one on ones, it's got to be that I'm letting go of that extra VIP call. Because

something's got to give. And that is going to create space, so that my time is spent aligned with that, that I'm, you know, focusing on next year. But before I do that, I have to know what I'm letting go of what no longer will allow this, you know, if you want to change, something has to change. So what needs to change? And that is the next question. So how am I feeling? And why am I feeling this way? And then what needs to change? What needs to change? And why? Always ask yourself the

why? Because we're emotional creatures, the more we emotionally attach ourselves, to our goals, to our habits to our routines, the more likely we are to follow through. So we have to get emotional. So what needs to change? And why? Right now as I asked that question, I really want you to think about that. What needs to change what is no

longer serving you. Now what you can do if you're doing a little bit of reflection in your journal is actually write down all the different I've mentioned in the beginning of this podcast. So many clients and humans, just adults, it's it's the life of being an adult, we're juggling a lot of balls, or we're holding a lot of different buckets. And for some of us, it's just like, holy

crap, the end of the year. It's like, oh, too many buckets, what I want you to do is actually label each of those buckets, or each of those balls, labelled

them in your journal. So let's say you've got social life, you've got your health and fitness, you might have your career or your business, you might have your financial, you know, financial situation, you might have your intimacy and you know, sexual intimacy or romantic intimacy, you might have as another bucket, your personal growth or your spiritual growth, whatever is like the main buckets or balls in your life, write them down. And even as I'm talking now, where are they at? Where are

they at? If you had to write them, for example, in terms of satisfaction, and how satisfied you are with where they're at? How's your relationship feeling? What do you need to let go of in order to make it better? What do you need to adjust? What do you need to have what conversations need to be had for you to create space to make it better? Right? So look at your relationships,

and this might be romantic. This might be your friendship circles, you might be saying yeah, after too many things, you might be feeling burnt out by saying yes to all the things, you might have a group of friends where you're just like, oh, wow, I obsessed with them. And I actually need to create space next year to see them more like I am not doing enough to see them because they always like my cup, like, Fill my cup up. So how's your friendships? Where that? Where is it at what

no longer serves me? What can I let go of? What can I create space for? Look at that, look at your finances, look at all the different buckets and just give it some real honest reflection. Where is it at? How am I feeling about each of them? And what do I need to let go of and what is no longer serving me? Remember this whole first part of the reflection process is to let go so that you can let in. There's a quote that says let go and let God I say let go and let in when

you let go. When you actually create space, you allow room for answers to come for manifestations to arrive for new opportunities, but we need to let go. So what are you letting go of right? Look at all your buckets and ask that question. So what you'll do once you've done a really good solid reflection practice, and you're really looking back on like, what were the triumph? Sorry, what were the challenges? What were the trials and tribulations? What no longer serves me and where can I

improve? The next thing you'll do before you wrap up? This part is you're going to answer and you can answer it now. What have been my biggest lessons? What what all of these obstacles or tribulations here to teach me? What have it What has it taught me? Right? What has all of this taught me? What is the lessons that I'm taking with me. So what you're going to do, then after you've written this all out, and I really highly recommend, I

won't go into it right now. But please write like handwrite I'm not gonna go into the brain science of it all the energetic principles behind it, that's probably for another podcast. But write it all out, write it

all out. And then if it's something that you're letting go of, if it's the things that no longer serve, you create a practice to get rid of it, burn it, if you want to burn it, tear it into a million pieces and take it out to the trash, like physically get rid of it energetically dispense of it, it is gone, it is gone. And you are

creating space, right. Now, if you want to just do a little bit more on this phase, which is what I actually spent almost all week at the office this week doing this once I've done this reflection, the next part is action. Right? The next part is action. If you've decided what you need to let go of what are you going to execute. And I actually went through my diary already for next year. And I put in some things that helped me to execute the things I'm letting

go of. So I blocked out certain things that I'm no longer doing. In exchange for writing my book, I executed the things that I learnt. And then I've put a plate put an action step in place, so that I can then put it

into motion. So I've decided what's no longer serving me, I've decided what I need to let go of, and then it's like, Alright, I need to have a conversation with this person, let's put that in, I need to increase for me, I need more support, right, I need a lot more support next year is going to be very, very big. This is pain big. I have had conversations with my amazing man who's like my fucking godsend. I'm like, man, let's do this. Let's do more, let's get you in to support me more, let's

increase your hours. Let's look at how we can do more together, I need more support, I need you to help me I said to her, I actually need you to help me manage my own time and my diary and I need you to sit with me and do like Just hold me a little bit because I need some

more support, right? So execute, execute, execute, execute, execute the things that you can put in place that are reflective of your reflections that reflect the things you're letting go of put it in place, create an action step, right, then we tie it up. And you can make this two different practices or two different days or, you know, let it whatever however you want to

do it is perfect. As long as you're just doing the two basic principles, reflect on the tribulations and what you're letting go of close that off, energetically let it go create space. And then the next page. The next phase, which is probably something that I'll be getting really into around the new year period, is let's look back on the year through the lens of gratitude, joy and

triumphs. So for this part, what I would recommend you do is actually sit down with your journal, open up your camera roll open up your diary. If you're somebody who just puts everything in your Google calendar like me, I would be lost without my Google calendar, which is a productivity hack. Are there guys please? Oh my god, Google calendar that like lifesaver. Anyway, I will open my Google Calendar and my camera roll. I actually did this

yesterday. I was creating a real that was all about like reflecting on 2022 and it was so beautiful. Like I went back to the New Year's I've 2021 Like going into this year, and I was like, Oh my gosh, and just went through my camera roll and thought, Oh, you just forget right? Our human mind is so

future focused. And we're like, next thing, next thing, next thing and we really struggle sometimes to be to be present or just to look backwards at how far we've come or the things that have just been, you know, beautiful. And so I opened my camera on I went through the and I was like, God, this was the best year ever. The best year ever, like so much growth, so much heartwarming moments got engaged to my best friends, like my couple of my best friends got married. My business is I'm

obsessed with my clients. I'm obsessed with the work I do. I've spent more time with family, which is just so incredible. I've been planning my own wedding, like, there's so much good stuff this year. And it felt so good to look back on it through photos and through memories. And so what we're doing now is we're looking at the triumphs. And were listening, literally writing it all down. Like write it all down. Who made this year better.

What are the moments in your camera roll were like, Oh, that was special. That was so special. I loved my time with that person. Let's put more time with them next year. Like, look at what moments like you are what really satisfied your soul this year. What made you feel like you were on purpose, what made you feel like you were losing track of time in that moment, Where were your moments of joy wherever your happy times where were the most incredible

memories made. Write it all down, like really write it down. And this is something that we're going to do before we set intentions before we roll into next next episode and New Year's and we start setting intentions. I really want this to be part of the practice the gratitude sitting in the basking in the appreciation before you set a goal is so important. Because then you're in the energy to receive you're in the energy to

call in. So look through go and create a massive big 2022 reflection and gratitude list. Write down all the moments go through the year. And then I want you to wrap it up with a letter of gratitude to 2020 to a letter of gratitude. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you to the universe. Thank you to God, whatever your language is, thank you to myself, you know, I want to thank me I always say Snoop Dogg. I love Snoop Dogg for those of you don't realise I'm uh, I actually think Snoop

is really sexy. It's kind of weird. But I want to thank me, I'd like to thank me, I always hear that bloody real, where he says, Yeah, I want to thank me. But do that do a letter of gratitude to yourself to you for showing up for creating this beautiful life. Write a letter of gratitude to the people who were in your life that makes make it better write a letter of gratitude for all of it, like just write bask in it, really

bask in it. And then next week, we're going to learn how to set intentions properly, so that 2023 can be just fucking incredible. Because the better it gets, the better it gets. I truly believe that the better it gets, the better it gets. And it gets better when you learn to sit in gratitude. So what I another thing that I'll do, I'll suggest after this letter of gratitude is actually and this is something that I didn't intentionally do, but it's become something that I

absolutely love. So it just so happens that Paul and I have our anniversary always around New Year's. And so it started off as a cute little thing that I did. For our first anniversary, our second anniversary, I always print out a physical Photo Album of the Year. And it's so awesome, because like, I don't know if you feel the same, but like, all these photos we take, and it's like, what do we do with them, they just sit in a cloud somewhere, like and clog up our phone. We do even look at

them. And so what can be such a nice practice is to actually go through, if you've already got your camera roll out, go through it and print out your moments, print out the moments that brought you joy, print out the really beautiful things of 2022.

And physically go in, print them out, go to the shops, go to Officeworks, go to Kmart, if you're in Australia, and go and get a really beautiful album to put on your coffee table or to go through with your family to go through with your partner to make for your friends, you know, like create, you can do it as a photo book that sits on your coffee table. Just do something that physically symbolises this

year. And look at it in gratitude, look at it in gratitude, look at it in how far you've come and really bask in it before we start to set intentions for next year. So I hope that was something that you found useful or that you're going to put into practice. If you've had any aha moments or little moments of reflection while you've been listening. Please share them on your socials and tag me so I get to see what your aha moments are.

I'm so excited for what is coming next year like honestly, this reflection piece it will put some fire in your belly. It really will. It'll make you excited. It will make you full of gratitude. It'll make you even really appreciative of the tough times of the lessons you've had to learn. I think it's Gabby Bernstein that has a beautiful quote about like sometimes your highest self will actually request obstacles so that it can learn lessons to get to your next destination. It's

along those lines. I probably just butchered it. But doing this also makes you so grateful for the trials and tribulations because it's taking you where you're going. And when we look through everything with that lens there's nothing that can't stop us. There's there's nothing that will stop us. And next year just gets to be even more

expensive. All the all the things that we reflect upon with this year, we take with us for our own development for our own growth, for our own learnings, and we make we build on it and we build and we build and it's all about learning, right? Like we're humans that came here to learn and have really cool experiences. And I think reflecting is a really good piece before we start to go into

the New Year's craziness. So let me know how that landed for you and tag me in your stories and I will be back next week with let's start setting some seriously fucking potent intentions. And let's make 2023 Even better, because the better it gets, the better it gets. See you next week. Bye.