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email. And don't worry, Your identity will be kept anonymous. I can't wait to get into this for you at recess. We're back it's right this time. It's fucking November, mental. Absolutely. Mentor Christmas is looming. It makes me so excited. The Christmas decorations are out. Yeah. Do you know I went past? You know Peter Alexander. Yes. Oh my gosh, there's all these like Christmas like family sets,

Christmas PJ sets. And there's always I always say to Paul that one day, one day, I'm gonna dress all of us and our kids in the same stuff. And he's like, You disgust me. Last year was the first year that we did that. And it was honestly ever since I gave birth to Lola. I was like, one day, one day we're all gonna I'm gonna get hauled into a matching set. And it's gonna happen and that was it was last year and at the end, he even let me take a photo of gross.

He's not a photo person. But we do have a family photo of all of us in our pyjamas and it was yeah, it's love. That's I just fucking love this time of year Christmas. It's like the families coming around the sun's out you like a brown bombshell right now? Just accidentally, just from little tiny little like stints in the sun. I'm not even actively trying to do it. Yeah, I actually thought you were wearing fake tan when we pressed it. Like when I saw your face. Are you wearing fake tan?

No. Oh, natural route. Yeah, summer looks good on you. Thanks, girl. So what's the questions like this week this month? Okay. There is a slight theme but as always, it's a bit of a mixed bag. Okay, got a few left of centre, but that's okay. Just mixing. So, nothing, nothing. Nothing too spicy. Okay, okay. Well, let's get into them. But first, I want to know your week. Well, what are we going to do weekly? We know this is one of the month because oh my god,

this is one of my life. Actually what I'm about to tell you and I can finally announce it. I'm going to be oh my god. I actually thought I can post she posted it with a dog. Was it the dog? Or dog her dog Finley? Who is just the best boy and they did the little like, you know, picture attached to his collar and oh my god, I cannot I have honestly waited. It's been nine weeks. It's been nine weeks that I've had to hold this in. Yeah, that really struggled with it. But yeah, it's my sister and her

partner Jackson. It's their first little baby and it's a girl. Oh my god. It's just I did not understand how exciting it would be to be an RT and it's just, oh my god, I cannot wait. And it's also there's this real sense of pride as well for like my little sister. She's going to be a mom. And you know, just even seeing how like she's had a really good pregnancy so far,

like no sickness. And you know, they went and did the scan the 12 week scan and the doctor let her listen to the heartbeat and she thought that she burst into tears and it was just it's too much. Your heart must be exploding. It is it really is. And Lola is so pumped to be a cousin oh my god because all of her cousins are grown like they're all adults. She ASMs Wow. And so to have someone just remotely close to her age and a girl as well.

Oh my god, you should have just seen her face when she found out so yeah, I'm really excited. That's the best during April April next year. Oh, wow, that's the best. It's the best. It's such a love bubble. One of my very good girlfriends is pregnant actually do around the same time. It's a love bubble. That's what it is like, and it's a connection.

That's the other thing. It's a connection piece that I didn't realise was, I didn't realise how much like the expectation of a baby connects you to people like I'm like, how is she going? How's the scan? How are you feeling? show me show me how big she is now, like, because we know that she's a girl as well, which we've already named her and I'm gonna be like her auntie. And it's so much. It's connecting as a friendship as well. Yeah, yes, I'm invested in it. Yeah, of

course. Just hoping everything goes well. And just I have to tell you, I don't know if I told you already. But I spoke to my granddad, my eight year old granddad. So this will be his second great granddaughter. And he rang me and and I knew that Kate had rang him the day before to tell him and his his the first thing he said to me was, I heard Kate's gone and gotten herself into a bit of strife. calls it show as granddad even he was just I could hear the

smile. It is fine. Like it was just, yeah, it's so such a special time. So that is a very big win, or loss in the family. So I love that. What's yours? Probably what's going on behind the scenes at the moment, like big stuff in the business world. Like in the business lens. I've hired an incredible, incredible human who will probably have on the podcast soon, who is my curriculum development leader. And we're just doing some really cool stuff behind the scenes.

And that's been big and scary, but also very exciting, because I feel like there's a lot of impact that will be had. And we're going into schools. And then I've got another thing coming out very soon, which I'm sure we'll talk about on this episode. But yeah, there's just so much moving behind the scenes and having these conversations with Bella who is new to the team has almost like lit a new fire in my belly. And I can see it as well in you. And it's just so incredible to

be able to witness it. And I am just waiting for everything to absolutely take off. It's going to be incredible. So stay tuned and money will definitely talk a little bit more about it later in this episode for sure. Yeah, definitely. So hit me with the questions. So we're gonna start with easy breezy one. And I know that you're just absolutely love answering this question. Is there anything you would have done differently on your wedding day? What were your top three favourite moments?

Oh, my wedding day. I know. It's crazy. It's gone so fast. It's funny because one of the level up girls got married last weekend. So we've been talking a lot about weddings, and just you know, all of that. And I was reflecting a lot this week, what would I do differently? I would have, it's so easy to say now. But I think on the day, it's just such a whirlwind. And it's over so fast. And there's not much you can do about it. Because time doesn't fucking

standstill for anyone. But I think if I had, if I had my time again, I would probably pull Paul aside because I felt like I didn't really see Paul all that much. There was so much like family and stuff going on. And we're all socialising and dancing. And I would have just pulled Paul back for a moment to have a second to ourselves and just stand and look at like, what everyone we love was in a room and everyone was on the dance floor. And and it was just

so special. I would have loved to really take a moment with Paul to take it in. This was a little bit of funny, but I actually feel like the next day I was like, God, I don't know if my memory is hazy, because it's such a whirlwind and an adrenaline dump. Or if because, like you do slowly over the day people are like passing you a champagne and you're having a toast and you're having a champagne getting ready. And I don't usually drink that much.

So I actually was like, Ah, did what do you mean the cake what the? And I was like, oh gosh, and I don't know if it was because I wasn't like mom said no, you were fine. You were absolutely fine. But my memory was hazy. And I don't know if it was champagne, or just the adrenaline dump. But again, I don't regret anything because I just was having the best time I didn't get off the dance floor. And what were your top three save moments are definitely walking out when my dad was in like the first

sort of look with my dad. And there was so many moments like Dad's not the most. My dad is a typical, like, that generation bloke male blokey bloke he doesn't always have the feels and is not always the most comfortable but just he cried a lot and cried and cried and oh my god, I gave him first. Yeah, he it was like the best day for me and dad like I gave him these socks and the socks had embroidered like it said on the socks. Of all the walks. We've taken together this This is my favourite.

And like when I gave it to him, he just burst into tears. And then I was like, oh God and he had this little like, what's that thing you put in your pocket your suit pocket. I don't know. I just gave him all these gifts on it said like Father of the Bride and something that was another one that was like, even though I've found my prince, he will always be my king. Like I just had all these things for Dad and they were like, so beautiful that I loved gifting that. Like it was

just so special to dad. He hasn't stopped talking about how it was the best day of his life. That was really nice. Paul's listening to Paul's vows was like, Well, I did not show them to you. I think I Yeah, you did. They were incredible. They were absolutely incredible. Did you get emotional? Did you cry? You didn't know I didn't know I really it was so

weird. And I think I got a little bit out of body almost because it was so much to take in that I had to keep reminding myself that grew up ground yourself down because it was just so intense. Like all your family's there. Everyone's watching you there's a high emotion and then pause like confessing his undying love for me and I'm like God and so much but I fucking loved, loved his vows. He did such a good job.

And also, there was a moment the day before our wedding where Paul's mom I'm very, very close to his mom. And we were doing a rehearsal just practising like getting the kids because we had flower girls and a little boring boy and it's so cute. But like, they were so nervous. I was just telling them. This is where you walk to and this is where you walk out. So we did a little rehearsal. We all sat around and had a drink together. And Paul's mum gave me a necklace that her

mom gave to her. I think when she got my wedding day on ya know, and I never met Paul's Nana. And like she's, they were very close Paul's mom and his mom. So yeah, I got a I got that net close from her and, and his mom was crying and I'm so happy that my son's marrying you. And I was like, Oh God, this is just so much so that she gave it to you to keep or just yeah. Yes, yeah, she gave it to me to keep and it's the most beautiful necklace like i And Paul said to me, he every time I've only put

it on for special occasions. And Paul said he just loves that. When he sees that I'm wearing it. It feels so special to him. And that is so special. Yeah, I'm I feel so touched because I just love I love Paul's family. I love his mom and to receive that was just like, so there were so many moments, find many moments. getting emotional thinking about all of that stuff. That's so nice. Yeah, it's, that's the thing I said to pull off. Like, it's really interesting. I heard so

many. And I hear and it's beautiful. You hear so many people say like, that was the best day of my life. You know, the wedding day was the best day of my life. And as Paul and I were like, don't get me wrong, like it was fucking awesome. I don't know if I'd say it was the

best day of my life. Because we have pulled on I love our moments I went and when we're camping, when like when we're on the road when we're in a waterfall in Darwin, or something like those to us are like the most that we live for. Yeah, but it was a gift. I got so much out of gifting this to my parents like and to my family and to the village that raised me like I was, to me it was such a thing that I wanted to give to

them. And that was what was so special about it to me it was like I got my moment in my speech to thank every Auntie every uncle, every cousin, every friend that was there because I've had I've got the beautiful experience and life and husband that I have now because I was raised by good people with good hearts. And I got to say that to them. So that was actually what it was about for me like wow, that is so special. was really beautiful. I'd love to relive it.

And remember a little bit more clarity would be great. Okay, this one says my partner wants to have a stable home base, whereas I'm itching to move around and get out of the city. How do I approach the idea of moving and working or is it something I should just go and do even though I know he's the one love? Oh, this

is actually so juicy. There's so many ways to go about this because it's obviously something that is she wants to do it like it sounds like this is something she needs to do and is it travel or what was the word she I'm itching to move around and

get out of the city. Her partner wants to have a stable home base so it makes me think that she wants to work but she wants to be mobile like she wants to be travelling around that's kind of the I got had, how do I approach the idea of moving and working? So in my mind, I think I'm thinking like campervan vibes to know maybe he wants to travel around and and where the partners going like not not really the my vibe I just want

to hang. I just want a stable home life wherever they are currently But what I loved about this question was the way that nowhere has she mentioned that it's not an option for her to not do this. Is it something I should just go and do even though I know he's the one she hasn't gone? Should I give out and do it? Or should I just Should I just give up on that dream and stay and create a stable home base? Because that is just a breeding ground for resentment. And personally, it's

obviously very layered. Because it's very easy to sit here and say, absolutely go and do it. Definitely, you know, you're gonna regret it. But having that conversation and what that brings up, and what that could potentially mean for their relationship is really probably quite scary. And so, yeah, it's definitely something that needs to be considered carefully. Mind you, if she's saying, I know

he's the one. Maybe, maybe she knows that if she does raise it with him that he's going to be like, yeah, that's, you know, if that's what you want to do, that's what you're going to go do. And then we'll meet up when you get back or whatever. He is certain that he's the one. Yeah, I factored into that is that he would understand. Yeah, there's so many ways that

could go. But it's really interesting, because this actually came up for Paul and I a few years ago, and it was a very similar scenario, almost identical, actually. And we had all these conversations, because when I started, I started to wait when we met, we lived in different ends of Perth, like I was south, south, south, and he was north north north. And I was stubborn as fuck, I was like, Well, I'm not leaving. I love my school. I love my students. I'm not leaving, I've got

permanency. This is where I'm staying. And he was a bit the same. And then the years went on, and we were like, Oh, I really fucking love you. This is annoying, we got to figure out our living situation. And so first, it was about where are we going to live. And we couldn't agree and all of this, like just deciding where to live. And then it became very clear that he wanted to buy a house like he, for Paul, it was very, very important that we had stability,

and a mortgage. And he wanted that whole, like that whole vibe, you know, you've got your mortgage, your stable that was so important to him. And I was like, I don't give a shit about that. To be honest, I could rent forever, like I remember at the time I had only ever rented. So I was like, Oh, really, that's a bit lame. So anyway, we bought a house, we bought our house down, down where we are now near my school. And that was a huge conversation. Down in my school.

And then right after we bought the house, I quit my job. And I was like, I don't like it. And and I don't want to the mortgage life, I want to travel, I want to I want a laptop lifestyle is and I had already compromised by doing the mortgage the mortgage thing with him. I was like, I don't want to be tied down. I don't want stability. I don't want this I was a bit of a gypsy. And here he was i i compromised. I stayed in the job longer than I wanted to so that we could get the mortgage. And

that was important to him. And I did that we got the mortgage, we got the house near my school. And then I wanted to quit my job. And it was all just a shit show. Because, yeah, we wanted different things. And it brought up so much, but it actually did. Because I didn't know he was the one we had the conversations. And there were so many where Paul was like, whatever you need to do, like if you need to get this thing off your chest, if you need to go, I will be here I

will come and meet you. I will do parts of it with you. But I need stability. And I want this life. And I was like oh, so I kind of got to have both. And we were like there was so much compromise. And again, because I knew he was the one. There was a bit of compromise, but it never felt like I was giving anything up because I got both. That's how it felt to me.

Yeah, it sounds like a really good opportunity for some very open, honest conversations about exactly what you want now what you want in the future, like where you hope to be in 510 years time. And this might be something that she can go off and do you know sooner rather than later. Yeah. Back and then sort of do the settle down thing again. If she said she knows he's the one potentially that that is an option, you know, yeah, there's so many options. And I think it's nice even to

like go beyond that. This is what I want. Like I want to do. It's for example, if Paul's like I really want stability, I really want a home that we don't you know, Paul's biggest fear was like what you lose control of your life if they if your landlord decides that you know, I'm selling the home you've got 30 days to move and find a house he hates that. And you know so underneath it like it sounds just like I could easily have been like you're boring you're you're lame. You're you want to

be stable. You don't support me you don't understand what I want. But it was so much deeper. It was like he we were able to have conversation was around, he wants stability because that's the value of his, because he didn't necessarily felt feel like he had it when he was, you know, a child and he wants stability for us and for our future and for our family. And he wants that so that I can build a foundation to be able to

up and leave. So he was actually, it was cool to see like, he wanted something that I saw as the opposite to me. But he saw that as what was necessary to give me my, my wings, so to speak, like you need a solid, you need that stable base, so that you've got the freedom to fly. And I was like, Oh, I'm like, Cool. Yeah, so it's getting underneath it. Yeah, having those conversations, getting really down to the nitty gritty of what what it means for each of you to

want those things. And, and, potentially, Yeah, cuz it's not just I want this and you want that there's, there's a value underneath it. There's something that you're trying to there's a need that you're trying to get met. And there's something going on underneath it when you understand each other's needs that are being met and the values that you're trying to align with. All of a sudden, it's like, Oh, that makes sense.

I get that. Cool. I can support that for you to like, and yeah, meet in the middle, hopefully, I hope I hope they do. I really do, too, because like I said, I think if one of them sort of gives up on on what they want and goes along with the other one just for the sake of avoiding those types of conversations. That doesn't go well. Future at all, no. So I think it's good that she's acknowledged it and that she wants to sort of figure it out.

So good luck to this person, I really, really hope that you can figure it out. There's always a way. There's always a way 100% Okay, next question, teacher question. In regards to studying for final exams, can you give any advice on how to study when you're in your mid 30s? Is this even a thing? I'm trying my hardest to study. And it's like the stress of looming final exams is

turning my brain to mush. And I can't remember the most basic bits of information that I've learned, the pressure I'm putting on myself is almost swallowing me up and suffocating me. Fun. Exam teacher. You're assuming I was a good student? I, there's so much to this. There's just so much to this. I find it interesting that she said, giving advice for studying in your 30s? Like, what's age got to do with the fact that

you're studying? I don't know, I don't know if there's some sort of underlying, I think when I read that it made me I suppose I'm in my mid 30s. So I sort of put myself in this category. Yeah. And information retention is not a strong suit for me, like I can read something or hear something. But I really find it difficult to retain the information. I wasn't always like that I was a relatively student, you know, I,

you know, fine at school. But I think with being in your mid 30s, it means that you've got a lot more on your plate. Yeah, you've got a lot on your plate, you've got a lot more general life, pressures and stresses, I don't know if this person has children, or what their work is, or what their relationships like what their family life is like, especially as a woman, I feel like you've always got 10,000 things running through your mind that you have to get done and

that you need to do. And so there's already less spent it has to be Yeah, yeah. And I think that for me, is where the age thing sort of came into you. You do have different capacity in your mid 30s. To what you had when high school studying for an exam. Because what did you have to fucking worry about when you were in high school? You're in the grand scheme of things.

Yeah. Yeah. The things I've caught, of course, there are certain situations where we'll have circumstances that they need to worry about, generally speaking, yeah. You don't have to worry about a whole lot. You know, what, to where to substance UPS party on the we're gonna get, we're gonna get our boozy and or whatever it is. Yeah, it's not about gotta get the kids here. You've got to get this large. I've got to get this dress up for school. I've got again, I think, yeah, just

mental load. There's a lot of mental load that needs to be taken into consideration. So that could be something that there Yeah, I think that's the answer. Yeah, the answer is in that like looking at your mental load if you don't, if there's other things that need to go for a little while, or you can get rid of or offload or delegate or ask for support, and I'd be looking at the mental load. But I also think this was there's two pieces, there's two ways that I want to come at it

and like speak about it. One is you're not going to be able to retain information, think clearly and think strategically, analytically, whatever it is you

need to do. If you're already your nervous system is in dysregulation and you've got like this stress response, dumping your body back Because of the mindset that's going on where she said, like, there's so much pressure I'm putting so much I think she said, I'm putting so much pressure on myself that I want to, like it's swallowing swallowing her up. Yeah. And that is that right

there is the first thing. And that's why I always, this is why I get soy like guys, with with schools with education systems and with teenagers that are trying to study for these big you know, all these exams that have got all this pressure attached. If you don't teach them mindset, if you don't teach them emotional regulation, good luck teaching them how to get like you're jamming all of this content and curriculum down

their throat. They're dysregulated, they've got all this pressure, especially the high performers. The high performers are the worst, the high achievers, they're the ones that usually put the most pressure on themselves, because they've been so their whole. And it could be the same with this woman, I don't know. But if your whole identity and worth is tied to the outcomes, you get the

results you get. And you've always been a high achiever, the pressure that you can put on yourself if you fail, or if this lady, for example, is in her 30s. And maybe there's all that pressure of like, this is my chance I'm studying again, I've put my family through the wringer for me to study I'm potentially financially stressed, there's so much stories going on mentally, that means you can't study from a calm and grounded space, when

that's all going on, too. So I'd be looking at all of the pressure all of the stories and just seeing if you can neutralise and do a little bit of work on that. Because you just didn't that's not the optimal state for learning. Really, it's stress cannot learn when you're stressed. Like you're not gonna retain anything. No. So there's that there's the mindset piece, and the unpacking of the pressure and the stories and all of that.

And then the other piece, like just from a practical perspective, I always learn with alpha waves on always, like if I'm learning as well, yeah. Alpha waves are just like, oh my gosh, they they put your brain into this, this brain state of congruency for concentration. So alpha waves, binaural beats all of those little things, putting your notes into a format that you understand. And this is where it's like knowing how you best learn. Some people are

visual. Some people are kinesthetic, some people like I always used to make up little songs and jingles and like, what's the word? An acronym for things like I would think, in music or in pictures. And so my study notes make sense to absolutely nobody. But it didn't matter because it made sense to me. And then I would revise, I always revise, if you've got something you need to retain, revise right before you fall asleep. So I always said to my students, I read your notes

before you go to bed. But then also do your work to make sure that you can regulate yourself so that you're not in a state of complete panic right before you walk into an exam. And that's what sucks for a lot of people. They're incredibly intelligent. They know all this stuff, but it's the actual environment of the examination. Yeah, and get some people just don't they don't test well, because it's a mindset thing. Yeah. It's a pressure. It's a stress inducing environment to walk into an exam

as well. The stakes feels so high. And yeah, yeah, it doesn't really lend itself to be, you know, zoning out before you're about to do an exam. I got just on the, on the topic of the alpha waves in the binaural beats, I'll actually link some in the show notes, because I've got a couple of playlists that are on high rotation for me, and I swear by them, and I know you do as well. And I know so many people that weren't using them.

And after I've told them, that it works me it seemingly works for anyone that might have told about them. So I'll link them in the show notes because I think that could be really helpful as well.

Yeah, there's so many little tiny it's little things and I know it sounds ridiculous, but also like your diet, your hydration all of these things like just you've got a general well being if you're trying to retain more information and study, you just don't want to be having a like a sugar crash and feeling lethargic and then having to sit sit at the books.

So it's all general well being but I think a lot of this stuff stems from the pressure and the mindset, the stories that are going on that are making it feel potentially potentially a little bit overstated in the in the mind. Yeah, good luck. I hope those tips are helpful. Bree has mentioned that she's training in various modalities can you share what you're trained in and where to get certified? What a brilliant question how timely so timely I actually seems arranged but it's not that

themed. We did not plan this question guys. Yeah, it's wild because that didn't that question come in a little while ago. Yeah, did actually but just this is a perfect time for it. Yeah, it is perfect. All right modality. I mean, so first of all, I'd say the place that you should get certified is the mind school. And the mindful method. Hello, we're coming are coming very, very soon with opening enrollments. So I'm going to backtrack and answer what I've

studied and my modalities. I. So when I was actually a teacher, I started really specialising in wellbeing. And that meant a lot of training in positive psychology, a lot of training in mental well being mental first aid, all of those things. Then I went and started my coaching business. And NLP was the thing that I really loved and that I use a lot in coaching, which is neuro linguistic programming. And it's phenomenal. I love it. I love it so much. I really love

it. And I started to notice over the years, and even through talking to lots of other practitioners and using it for so many clients, I found there were some things in NLP that could have been that, that basically I updated and improved because they were a little bit outdated in the science and in some of the techniques. I just and I had the same response from lots of practitioners. Yeah, I don't use that technique either.

And I was like, yeah, interesting, there was just a few where I was like, I personally don't like them use them, or they didn't, I didn't find them effective. So I've created a lot of my own versions and variations and upgrades of NLP techniques, which will be in the mind school method. And then there is I've also recently been doing shadow work, which is a lot of, there's a whole, we could probably do a whole

podcast on that. But shadow work is very much revealing all of your unconscious stories, it's a lot of inner child work, there's a lot of trauma informed coaching, I'm not going to say trauma as in, that's definitely not what I am. It's not my vibe, it's not my thing, like being trauma and uncovering that. But it is essentially unravelling the pieces of us that we have repressed for a long time, and that now is playing out in weird kind of triggers, projections, self sabotage, all of that so

that I absolutely adore. And I think what I've come to realise in my time as a coach, and in the years and years that I've studied, everything to do with human behaviour, and the coaching industry itself, is that the coaching industry and personal development is on a spectrum. And what I've seen is there's a spectrum where there's the Yin, or the feminine approach, which is very, it's beautiful, it's intuition and energetics and healing and inner child and tapping into your

intuition. And it's that real loving maternal sort of yin energy of coaching, which is beautiful, and I think that there's a time and a space for it, and it's so effective. And then there's the other side, which is the mindset and the action taking and the subconscious rewiring and the real sort of masculine get shit done ri right way your mind, change your state make goals take action. And there's that sort of masculine approach on the other end of the spectrum.

And what I started to find in the coaching space, and even within my own coaching methodologies is that when you rely too heavily on one side of the spectrum, you end up looping and becoming unproductive. And you cannot because humans are so layered, and nuanced. You need to be addressing all of you from all of the different lenses and angles, you might for example, tell a client just use your mindset keep reframing your thoughts, change your state take

action lalala that's great. And that might get them to a certain level, but it's probably actually going to feel really hard and really draining and there'll be sabotage playing out and it may not be sustainable if their nervous system is cooked and they're doing it from the

wrong space. And there's actually a whole bunch of unconscious programming there that hasn't been addressed and so there's just a whole broad range and spectrum and I feel like now I'm very much caught up in the whole spectrum but my certification is going to be a real marriage of the two worlds because I don't believe that you can be one or the other I think you need both and so I always stand for nuance and middle ground and I've seen in the coaching space a little bit of

your either this or that and that is not a lot of us yeah oh fuck I'm like stop demon like if you're in mind if you're in the mindset world and you're very like for example Tony Robbins is that kind of coach is the mindset that NLP the taking action, change your state, rewire your mind reframe your thoughts. It's very do action. Love it like Yeah, nothing incredible. But I've also seen that work, sometimes demonised if you're in that pole of the

polarity. You will and some people, some coaches will demonise the trauma space the healing space, they'll think it's almost a bit airy fairy, the energetics it's airy fairy, it's, it's yeah, it's Whoo. And demonise that and then you've got the people on that side of the spectrum demonising the mindset world because of it, you're not taking into consideration feelings and emotions and trauma and and all of that, and I just think demonising each other is not the

answer, either. It's a middle ground, and it's having the tools to be able to pull out what you need at the right time. Yeah, that's where I feel like my my modalities of are in both and the certification that I'm building and launching very soon, is like a marriage of all of that. So that leads us into the certification. So the mind school method is underway. It's coming. It's so damn exciting.

So can you give us a little bit more information on what is the mind scoring method and for who is it going to appeal to? I think the mind score method is mostly going to appeal to coaches and aspiring coaches, all sorts of coaches, whether that's mindset healing business, whatever current health coaches in general will learn a lot. And even just for their own work, I think every coach, if you're a coach, you need to lead first.

And that's actually one of the prerequisites for the mine school method, like, I will not take people that won't lead first and be vulnerable and do their own work. Because you're a leader, you can't be coaching people and not doing the work. So anyone who wants to do their own work, and particularly coaches who work with other humans, I think I've had quite a few parents reach out actually who want to learn more just about emotional intelligence, regulation, mindset, all of that

stuff. Especially there's a few parents who I know, they homeschool, so they just want this toolkit. So I think, you know, teachers, educators, coaches, people who want more for themselves, it's going to be very, very, very impactful. And yeah, was asked the question, Who is it for? Yeah, what is it? What is it? And who is it for, like, what you'd be covering off in the certification, because it's a five day certification, is that right?

These days, as Yeah, so six full days, it's a full immersion, it's a certification where there will be six foot full on days, which I'm excited about. And again, going back to the way people learn, and the way I believe things should be taught. This is so exciting, because it's my final, it's like finally my opportunity to teach how I've always wanted to teach and that's immersive. And that's through, not sitting at a fucking desk for nine hours straight being lectured at,

which is not how we learned. So I want to take people through a full experience to understand how your state impacts as your emotions and how that impacts your ability to heal and to and to have incredible results. So it's a really immersive experience where you will be taught how I believe we are more wired to be taught and to get results so that you can experience it and then have the

same impact to your clients. So full immersion, immersion six days, there will be like an assessment at the end, there is six months of ongoing support afterwards and follow up and a few more extra pieces. The the certification itself covers mindset. And so again, when I talk about the poles, yeah, we're starting with the the masculine sort of mindset and LP, subconscious reprogramming,

and all of that world. And then the next module is more of the sort of emotional intelligence, emotional regulation, central nervous system, work, Shadow Work, inner child work that side of the spectrum. And then we finish off with relationships, rapport building and communication skills. Because if you're a human who works with humans, which is what this is for, if you work with humans, you need to understand rapport building and relationship relationship building is exactly

that. It's a skill set. And that's actually where my life that's a lot of my background and studying. Yeah, careers have all been around relationships and rapport and making people feel seen and heard and connected with creating safe spaces. And that's a skill set so that we'll tie it all up so that people can walk away with techniques experiences, knowledge and firsthand experience after they've gone through their own complete

journey and process. Learning this stuff, applying their own stuff to the work yeah. Oh my god, I just love it so much. And it's in person as well. We should mention it's going to be in person certification. So it's online certification and if people want to apply or express interest, how are they going to be or when can they do that? Oh, obviously set something up for them to be able to apply but When are they

going to be able to do that. So hopefully by the time this is aired, the enrollment page will be very shortly up. If it's not already up there is a waitlist I am only taking 20 as, as the founding students because I just think it's important that we have a small cohort cohort the first time around. And I've always, this is actually so funny. It's come full circle, I used to get such a bee in my bonnet. When I was a teacher about large class

sizes. I couldn't give them I was like, stop over fucking stop overworking teachers with 32 kids in a class of no support, we need to get to know our students so holy. And so in you know, intimately I love that. So I'm doing that now my my school my rules, 20 students that I get to really know and nurture and be there for and support. So there is a waitlist, there's already I think 60 people on there. So get on the waitlist and make sure you're on the waitlist to get the information

first. Because it is important to me that I have intimacy this first round. And I'm just so so excited to see this come to fruition. So yeah, all of the details will be in the show notes. So look out for those folks. So that's so exciting. It feels crazy. I'm like, yeah, it's been a long it's been coming. I just love listening to you talk about it as well. Like you just get on such a roll that you can just see the passion is just flowing out of us. I could honestly just sit here all day.

It's so thank you, I'm so excited to like, feels like my mum was I had mum and dad up this weekend. Last weekend, and mom was like, you've just come full circle. Like when I was a teacher, I remember that this last year that I lasted, I was obsessed with this particular programme I was running with teenage girls, I was I was 22 of them. It was just me and them every single week talking about really important big deep stuff. And I was like, I love this, like this

is important stuff. This is so important mindset, emotional intelligence, all of this stuff that I now teach. And I was like, I want to just teach this. I want to teach this but in my own way, because the system doesn't work. And I want a classroom that feels like mine and beanbags and music and celebration and connection to what we're learning and real embodied experience. And, and my mom, I'm just talking to her. She's like you've come full circle, like it's all happening

now. And now you actually get to choose your own classroom and being so cool to teach people who a want to be there. Because yeah, it's obviously you know, if you want to do a certification, you're interested in it. And that's fucking cool. Like, it's so cool to have people that a want to learn and be get to learn in an environment that's actually conducive to results and to impact the full circle moment. It's amazing. I think we need to do a whole

podcast. But there's a whole new branch that's actually being added to this, which we're going into schools. We're doing training for schools and educators and we're doing wellbeing for for schools and teachers. So there's just so much happening behind the scenes, because what actually happened was I have had some incredible teachers do my courses, and I've worked closely with school principals, I've got a few clients, like one of my clients is a school principal.

And so many educators have done my courses and they all reach out to me after and say like Bree, we need to get this into schools for the students and for the teachers, because so many teachers have actually come to come in to level up wanting to quit, and found a new way to exist inside a system and reignite their passion for teaching, which makes me so happy. A few teachers have stayed and found a way to love it through the tools that I teach, which is so important

because it's sad. It saddens me that passionate teachers leave because you know the system, but also we're not taught these things in university about how to how to thrive and emotional intelligence and mindset and all of these things. And so one of my beautiful clients who went through it, and she has a PhD in curriculum development and all of this stuff. She's now working

inside of my company. And we are doing so much incredible work behind the scenes to give back to teachers and to do some well being, you know, professional development, learning and wellbeing days for teachers. So there's just a lot going on. And I will be calling on the podcast community over the next few months to help us reach out to schools and get this out there a little bit more, you know, so that we can really impact

massive change. But yeah, there's there's just a lot going on within this space. There is and maybe we will do a separate pod and we can just delve a little bit deeper into it. But that's just Yeah, that's so exciting. Thank you. Okay, we're at the last question and this will kind of lead into the next This episode for us, but someone has written in and said it's so you're working with a sex coach, tell us everything.

Yeah, I've mentioned this a couple of times, on previous episodes that you have been working with the beautiful groobie. Who is a sex coach? Yeah. Tell, tell the people what's been going on and what they can look forward to actually. Yeah, well, this is actually we've been getting a lot of questions about this. And

it's really cool. A lot of I've been speaking to some one on one clients who have actually been a little bit inspired by because I share things like I don't coach on sexuality and sexuality at all, just not my thing, not my forte. So I'm so happy to share what I'm learning, but I don't, you know, it's not my thing. And a lot of clients have actually been really interested in because they're seeing some

shifts. So cool, actually one client this week, because like, I can see, like, there has been some sort of shift where there's just more it's, it was really cool having a conversation with her and, and that in, inspired her to go and do a bit of work, because she realised there was some, you know, intimacy stuff. And you know, sexuality is a whole thing like a whole thing.

And so we're actually going to interview Ruby on the next episode of recess to just talk about my experience and any questions that listeners have, they can submit particular questions for my coach and for myself. And yeah, we're going to just go a bit deeper, because like I said, it's not my forte by any means. But I have done so much work like, a lot of work over the years in this in this space. And I think it's a really powerful thing for other women

to listen to. And I hope that by people, yeah, you're definitely not alone. And I think it'll be really beneficial. If Yeah, if people have specific questions that they want to ask you about your experience, or they want to ask Ruby something based on what they've got going on for themselves. I'm really looking forward to that episode. And Ruby's just amazing. Yeah, she's great. She's just so professional, and safe and all the things so it'd be great to have her on here.

Amazing. We'll stay tuned for that. That is next month. That's it. That is the end of every that was a long recess. Mandy's thank you so much to everyone that submitted questions this month. I'll put those links in the show notes that we talked about today, and see you next time hearing back in December. Bye. Bye. Thank you for tuning into another month of recess. We hope you loved listening as much as we loved answering. If you would like your questions answered.

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