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πŸ’…πŸΌ From confused, directionless and doubtful to aligned & on purpose with Jacob Stella 🌟

Jul 25, 2023β€’50 min
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Episode description

This week on the podcast Bre is chatting to LUL alum, Jacob Stella who completed the very first round of Level Up and let me tell you, his transformation is actually insane.

Jacob is a Professional Make Up Artist, Educator, Content Creator, and owner of Boca J Beauty (pronounced b’kay) in Melbourne (@bocajbeauty). Before he joined Level Up Jacob was living at home with his parents during peak COVID lock downs in Victoria basically questioning everything. He was halfway through a degree he was unsure about completing and was struggling with anxiety and self-doubt. He had a very clear vision of what he wanted out of life but didn’t know how to get there. CUE LEVEL UP!Β 

Tune in to hear Jacob and Bre take a lil’ stroll down memory lane and chat about things like:

πŸ’…πŸΌ Jacob’s life before Level up
πŸ’…πŸΌ How developing an understanding about the subconscious mind changed everything
πŸ’…πŸΌ The success Jacob has had since completing LUL – especially in the last 6 months
πŸ’…πŸΌ How angel numbers played a huge role in Jacob planning his way forward
πŸ’…πŸΌ Why having non negotiables outside of biz help keep things on track IN biz
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This chat has it all. Highs, lows, inspiration and so many lol’s! Jacob is someone who has come out the other side of Level up with so much clarity as well as the confidence to implement a plan and smash his goals.Β 

You can follow Jacob on Instagram HERE
You can follow Jacob on YouTube HERE
You can follow Boca J Beauty HERE
You can listen to Jacob’s podcast β€˜Unfiltr’d’ HERE
You can follow Bre on Instagram HERE

If you are someone who has a head full of goals but no clue how to reach them, make sure your name is on the waitlist for LUL. You can join HERE. We launch next month!

As always, please don't forget to hit Subscribe! xxx

Transcript

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All righty guys, I'm joined by, I can't say favourite, but one of my favourite clients and actually oldest client older. Yes, oldest client, who is Jacob Stella and I actually was trying to figure this out in my head and my How do I get this like introduction? Right? Because you are so many things. Yeah, I do a lot of things which has been a theme in our coaching. But you are, well, you are now a salon owner, very successful one in a very short

amount of time. You are a content creator, a model of fucking Canadian, if I'm quite honest. And just like dedicated, you're a dedicated human. And you've been so dedicated to your own growth in the last two and a half years and getting to know you and laugh with you. So much has been such an honour and I just wanted to have you ever needed to talk about your wild transformation over the last two and a half years. So it's been crazy and like, it's

so funny. We've been trying to get this up for I don't know how long we were like we're gonna go do a podcast and then I think bands message patients like we're doing it. I'm like, Yeah, we're doing it with Garth. And here we go. It's I'm sorry that this is happening. I chat at any moment that I get to chat with you. I'm like, just I love it. Sorry. It's so much fun. It feels like we we go deep and light hearted and humorous at the same time. It's been fun. Yeah, yeah. So let's start.

Okay, I want you to give a snapshot of your life now. So we're gonna start with your current reality. So it's July 2023. give listeners a little bit of like a snapshot of who is Jacob Stella? What do you do? Oh my god. Okay. Hi, everyone. I'm so sorry. You're listening to this. Listen to me for the next 20 minutes. So yeah, my name is Jacob Sela. I'm a makeup artist. I've been a makeup artist nearly 10 years now. I'm on social media. I do the

influencer thing. I have just opened my brand new studio as a fed this year, which is it's been like five months already already. Mind yeah, I've done a lot of really cool stuff in like my short career, I guess like in the influencer scene. But yeah, I've shot with like a lot of global brands and I've done a lot of really cool stuff that I'm so grateful for. And this human here on the other side of the microphone has helped me It's so fucking March when it

comes to clarity. And just like you've just been like a godsend. Honestly, I'm like, so grateful for you. I'm so grateful to quit my business coach like, love you Love this. I was so like, wrapped of ego and self discovery and like my whole journey into like, all of this has been so it's been like a three year process. But I feel like my spiritual awakening, like really getting into the Whoo, was probably like, a year ago. And we've gone to so many wild and wonderful places.

Yes, we have. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, so that's where you are now, I actually want to take you back. Oh, this excites me so much. I read this. So what happened guys is that this morning, I was like, You know what? Because Jacob was the OG level up student like you are the first round that I ever Yeah, we've been working together ever since. And I was like, Ah, I know that you put in a registration form all those years ago, and I had to find it. And today I found it and I wanted to read I want to read

you your registration form. And this is so the date that I and you know why it took so much effort to be able to log back into this three year old bloody registration form, but here it is, and it's February 9 2021. So February 9 2021, I'm going to remind you of where you started and where you were at when you came into my world. This was like take COVID familiar. Yeah, okay, cool. Cool. Good job. Yeah, paint the picture. So this

cracks me up. I live at home with my parents and I'm currently a freelance makeup artist, social media and then you put air quotes influencer lol and maybe said I also attend uni at the Australian College of Art. music production, which I started in 2019. And I'm currently halfway through my course. Yeah, I remember this being a huge thing for you in level up about not knowing which direction to take. Yeah, yeah. Yeah, there

was that. And the next question was on a scale of one to 10 with 10 being the highest rate your current level of happiness and satisfaction. and explain your answer. Oh, fuck. Can I go into it? Go for it. Hey, you said four out of 10. Okay, you said although I have to be grateful for I really feel stuck in a rut, and I've become complacent and demotivated ever since COVID. Being in lockdown 2019 was a great year, I was

super busy the entire time. And the last 12 months have been okay, but I feel as though I've lost my motivation and find myself doing other things in life as a distraction, rather than prioritising and tackling things head on. Wow. Yeah, my biggest goal is to be motivated and driven and not scared to connect with people who I wouldn't. And find my way back to how I used to be. I used to be excited and curious. Oh my

god. i And then what's stopping you from achieving your goals you said and this is the part where my brain like I just exploded this morning listening to Okay, so what was stopping you was your own inner saboteur anxieties about FOMO and being left out of the loop, and then be super reliant on family and friends. What I really want is to be able to clearly visualise the one I the life I want for myself, and to get it and sweep away the self the self doubt that I have. Holy shit. Wow. Oh my god.

That's so crazy to think that that was in 2000. That was only what, two years ago, two and a half years ago. That is actually insane. Like, okay, so Oh my god, where do we even begin with that? Wow, like, that's so not me. Now. That's crazy. Like, that's an eye and I vividly remember sitting in my backyard peak COVID. And I was like, What the fuck am I doing with my life? And I saw sure a post the level up and I was like, oh my god, this is this is exactly

like what I need. And so going into it, I really didn't have many like expectations. I didn't know much about the mind and the subconscious. And the word like I was open to it. But I had no idea like, what my emotions were, in turn, join to create my reality. And so that is, is that I can't believe that it's crazy. It's so wild. And when I saw the date, I was like, that's not even like you're you're not the same person reading it didn't sound like the the Jacob I know

now. No, no, no way. And you actually I remember the conversation in one of the level up calls where you were so confused about your direction. And all you wanted was some clarity in direction. Yeah. Because you had the music thing going on and modelling and content creation and you're doing makeup, and you just want a direction. And I think it was like, week four or five. I think he just decided to put the music

production on hold. And yeah, I think by the end of that eight weeks, or however long that block was I'm pretty sure by the end of it. I ended up like dropping out of uni. I was like, yeah, no, I think like, because I remember being so confused. I wasn't sure what to do first and you were like, Jacob, you don't have to choose you like, you can do all of it at the same time if you really want to, and I was like, okay, Ding ding ding Holy shit. That's a lightbulb moment.

But then also, like, you know, what, as much as music has always been such a like a huge part of my upbringing. And like, I guess conditioning to this day, like music is my life absolutely love music always will. I knew that. In order to reach people, and to be fulfilled within myself, I felt like beauty and cosmetics and makeup was what was getting, get, like, put me on that path sooner. And so that's when I decided that you need was no longer I guess like, on the cost

to me. I was like, I gotta go. I finished up my units. And I was like, Alright, I'm done. Yeah. And you did. And then you went full in. And it's wild to think I'm trying. I'm actually trying to take my mind back to them because it feels like another lifetime ago. Yeah. But if we go back to level up, yeah. What were the things that you learned about yourself in that time that shifted you and enabled you to do all the things that you've done, particularly

in the last six months? You've grown so much, but I feel like there was a real understanding of yourself. That happened in that first few months. Yeah. What was it that enabled you To be able to keep going on this path I think it was a few different things. One of them was definitely educating myself about the way the mind works. And that was huge because I had no fucking idea what I knew

about subconscious mind. Yeah, like, Oh, my subconscious is fuckin like, making me think of rattlesnakes, I don't fucking know, like, you wake up from a dream and you're like, What the fuck that I just drink? Like, that was my subconscious mind, right? Which is, but I didn't know that the conditioning that you put yourself through through when you're awake also goes into subconscious I had no fucking idea that that was even a thing.

So then me kind of being able to recognise that and then go on this whole journey, especially in the last year of you know, kind of, like reading so many different books about it, and like reading the secret and, like so many. And now I feel like I have so many mentors that helped me so many different things just through like audiobooks, because I've never been one to like, sit there under a buck and Trina Park and read. Like, I really think I was

saying this to you. Like, I've never been the person to me, like what manifests that, like, you know, all that shit. Because like, we look like a spy like what the fuck my writing about? You know what I mean? But yeah, I completely, like understand the importance of it. And now I'm able to kind of now I'm able to set aside time, but in my own way, taking those lessons. You know, that way, it makes sense to me because I'm a very visual

person. So for me reading a book, I'm to add, I can't like sit and listen, I can't see it that low. So I Yeah, so like through like, you know, audiobooks and podcasts and your podcast, and you know, listen, and actually, that's actually how it began. I remember reading the secret, and I was like, okay, cute. We'll see how we go. And I remember listening to your podcast, and you're interviewing all these different fucking

people. And I was like, Holy shit, this they and then it just kind of reaffirmed everything that I learned in level up. Everything kind of just came together and made a lot more sense. And now that I've been looking into, I guess, the more like spiritual side of being a business owner and I don't know looking at things more holistically. It's completely shifted my mindset. Late one ad, they want to get my anxiety still bad. Darren still in the corner. We haven't forgotten about

here. I was waiting for fucking data to come up. Can you explain to everyone who does that is so does that is that is my inner saboteur. He's the little nagging voice in this in like the back of your mind. That's like your shit. FARC and you can't do it. You can't you can't do it. Like, why are you doing that for years like an idiot? They think you'd be like, he's that fucking voice

and he's still there. But now, I now have so much more self confidence to know that that's not the truth, which I never had before. So I've gone off on a rant, I don't even know the fact that question was good. It's where it goes. It's

good. And it's perfect. And obviously, like, okay, so then if we go in the last six months in particular, like, well, you, okay, and there's, there's a pattern that I noticed in Jacob A while ago, where it's like, I've got it, I've made a decision, and I want it yesterday and I'm gonna like you move. I'm really passionate about getting clear for people. Manifestation is not sitting around under a tree and doing your kumbaya hours and singing a song and yeah, wishing for

things to happen. The reason that you created so much success and I've said this to you for years, you will be successful in whatever you do. Because you're like, where the rubber meets the road. And you take so much action but when you got your mind aligned with like that, you know, it was coming from a different frequency a different place. Instead, that's what you've that's why you've created and even now, like your business has just been so successful. So fast. Yeah, because of the

action you take. So what was that like to decide actually, because that was and again, you've done things even when you're scared. Like, you were scared signing, getting the keys, finding the place, getting all that like choosing where to have the salon, can I afford it? What am I what is my budget gonna be like? Yeah, you've done things being scared, and that's why you've got to the place where you are now. And what was

that? Like, if we go back to like, Okay, I think I'm gonna open a cell on like, Oh, I remember that phone call with you. I remember talking to you, and you're like, Alright, Let's fucking do it. Where are we going? What are we doing? What's the guard? And I remember talking to you about it. And I think at the time, I was, I mean, obviously like financials play like a huge part in everything but It comes to

Korea. And so I was looking for places that I found one that I had my heart set on, but the floor plans drawn up fell through Fuck my life, what I'm going to do now, I too, like awake to the day I literally, like at night prayed about it because I was like, No, I'm gonna fucking make this happen. And that goes into taking aligned action, which I'll go into later. But I like really kind of like so anyway, a week to the day I found this place where I'm in now. And it

happened. Like, you know, when you do have to say things fall into place, things just happen. That's literally exactly what happened here. Like, I found this, I found this location. And three days later, my name was on the lace. Yeah, it just happened that quickly took place. Before that the one I had my heart set on, it was like pulling teeth trying to get a fucking answer out of a real estate agent.

And like, so. Yeah, and that's the thing, it's kind of like when you start to like, yes, you have to write things down. And like, I literally preach journaling to everyone, because it is the most like if you if you want to know, like, where your mind where your heart where your soul is at, write it on a fucking piece of paper and like just rant on a page. And when you do that, you just kind of catch yourself on, like, certain patterns that you

have, or whatever. So anyway, so I have a journaling about it. And I had to do all of that. But then I also knew that I had to take aligned action, like making those, like those, like, you know, what are they called? When you look at something, what do they call it? When you go and look at inspections? Yeah, go on, go for the inspections, talk to real estate agents. I had no I've never, no one in my family has been in business before. I've one of my uncle's who's had a business for

a very long time. But like, my parents aren't business people, my brothers actually has a business. But you know, but it's not like a brick and mortar business studio. So it was just kind of like going in blind, but in a way you just kind of find your way. And when things are meant to happen, they just happen for you. What were the best that came up along the way, especially if you don't come from a family or conditioning where this is the norm? Did you feel like there was doubts along

the way? Or was it more like, I'm doing this despite doubt, like what came up for you in that time? Um, it was a bit of everything. It was mainly like, Okay, this place, like where I am now is like, it was it's like, you know, a lot more expensive to be here compared to where I was looking originally. And what my initial what my initial, like budget was, for example, so yeah, for me, it was like, Holy fuck, what if I can't, like, come up with a plan to be able to, like, pay my rent

for the month? What if? And, you know, or is it? It's the what if it's the what if chain, it just keeps on going? What if, what if, what if, what if whatever? And then eventually, I was just like, well, what like an option do I have, it's either I stay stuck in my little bubble. Or I pushed myself and it was just, it just came down to being like the perfect timing. So even though all of those feelings did come up, it wasn't like, there was an

element of doubt. But that was also a projection from like my parents who, like I said, on business people and other people around me like okay, well, it's like the the rents expensive. What are you going to do? How you're gonna pay for it? What? What's your plan? Like? How are we going to go about so in a way, that wasn't a bad thing? Because it forced me to think of things a bit more broad, broadly, right in like a in a bigger picture.

But yeah, I guess like the self belief, I was just like, well, I don't have an option. This is what I'm doing. It was what's it called? radical acceptance. It was I just, I just accepted. I was like, This is it. This is what I'm doing this. This is me for the next you know, how many years? And yeah, it was fucking hard, though. There was some moments and it was really cool to see you like,

grow. I feel like it's been really cool because it was almost like an invitation and an opportunity for you to grow and evolve again. Like, you have to step into like full leader and business owner and CEO energy. Yeah. And, like I really like so Jacob, are you? Do you have any money dates set up? I'm like, What the fuck is you need to look at your money now. Oh, yeah, we should hire and you're like, yeah, like, we got to start like, we got to start

thinking about these things. I'm like, okay, yeah, yeah. And then a very next session. In any goal, it had been a mark, was it a month or the second month or so it was quick. It was. I think by the second month, we had already hit like my first goal, which is crazy. And now you've already added on like you've added another 33% to that in the previous month. Yeah, it's wild. It's wild. And why, like, if anyone is listening, that's like, how, because everyone's like that.

How are you doing this? Like, what's the how give me the how, what has been your focus, especially if we look back and we're like, okay, confused, kind of at uni, but kind of want to do Salem thing, but kind of dunno, I just need clarity. And then you get your clarity. Yeah. What would you say has been your howl for creating that vision? Um, I had to stop barking up the wrong tree with a

lot of people. Like, I had to really stop asking, Okay, the way that I put it, this might sound so a bit bitchy of me, right. But it's like, given it if you're trying to buy a Lamborghini, you got to stop asking a Toyota Corolla driver for advice. Right. Like, I know, that might sound really bitchy. But if you want to level up if you want to do better, be better. You really got to ask the right people the right questions. So I didn't really know how I was going to get

here. I just knew that trusting in the process and trusting in the universe and like me and my fuckin Angel numbers, they literally were like happened like flying at me every single time like, Okay, I've got this thing with Angel K. And what is this thing? I've got? I got to deal with Angel numbers, right? Literally anytime that I feel like I need guidance from the universe, or I just need a sign. I literally say out loud, show me a sign. And it's always in a

bowl of numbers. It's always like, if I see triple one, it means right place at the right time. If it's a triple two, it means things are manifesting like they're in. So I have different symbols for what different numbers meet. So when I see them pop up. That's how I know that all right, I'm gonna be good. So I'm asking universe for a shit tonne of signs. And I thought that I even went out looking for them because you don't they need to come to you.

And sometimes the universe giving you no sign is a sign. Yeah. All right. So it kind of goes both ways. So I don't really know like how I jumped up the courage to really put everything into place. But I'm asking the right people the right questions make definitely made a huge difference like asking my best friend who's an architect. Okay, how much would it be to fucking rent or a real estate agency, which is what

this was before? Okay, calling up my my family, friends who earn, you know, like so many, like commercial leases. Okay, what should I look for in my lease? Like, I'm lucky enough to have like those connections and are there not everyone does? So, it's a matter of Yeah, finding a good lawyer. If you can find a good accountant, find someone who can who's done this before. You can show you the ropes. I know. It sounds so cliche. Everyone fucking says that but a spiritual

guy. True. And it's like, I think you're the embodiment of okay. I don't actually know the how, but I'm going to put one foot in front of the other and figure it out. Like, that's what I've watched you do? It's like, I don't know. But I'm going to figure it out. I'm going to figure it out and just keep putting one foot in front of the

other. And the other thing that I see you do that's really cool to witness like, you note, you said, you do your journaling, which cracks me up because I don't think he loved it years ago. I think you kind of rolled your eyes. I was like, are like all these influences are like, Okay, I'm just gonna like write and manifest my life. And I was like, okay, the same. Yeah, dead eyes. And now and then like after I had my main TV a couple of years ago. I Oh, man.

Yeah, there was some times Yeah, after I had my main TV a couple of years ago, and I and I started instead of like, just writing about my, what I wanted in my life. It was more so I call it rage to a page. Gabby Bernstein if anyone's listening Gabby Bernstein talks a lot about this and I just read this in one of her books. I think it's called a happy days. And she talks about rage on a page and I'm like, Oh my God, I've been doing this for fucking

years. So now I've got different journals for different things. Now I've got my radar page journal where like I'm just ranting, alleges like living thing. blurting things out. And then I've got my journal for when I want to sit down and really tap into, like, I put like the delta waves on, like Zen. And I really write down like what I want in the next. And then I always write like, I mean, you've taught me to write saying, I'm so happy and grateful now that Bob Proctor

love. Thank you so much, Jim. Yeah. And so you know, I always start with that. But I also start to write dates. I said, on the 23rd of November 2023, I went to like, this place, this time I checked my bank account had this amount and like, I write dates for everything and the script. I scripts. Yeah, yeah. It's so cool. And I think like, what, because I remember you being slightly resistance to journaling, until a few things which you now like you get along

you get on board with. But something you mentioned when you're doing your journaling is that you start to recognise patterns. And you've been really using your business journey and your spiritual journey and your self development journey to mirror back to you the pieces of yourself that actually maybe you can improve, or where you might have a few shadowy behaviours playing out or patterns feeding

themselves. Yeah. So what are some of those patterns that we have been working on behind the scenes that people might not realise they might be watching you on? Going? Puck an hour, like, he's just so creative, and he just gets it done. And he's such a generator, and he's so like, passionate, but you're also doing some stuff behind the scenes, that's actually been, you know, self awareness level. So, what were some trips that you've noticed in yourself that

you've been working through? Um, I'm just gonna adjust my mic real quick. Okay. I think that's the biggest one was, like you said before, I need everything done yesterday. I, which is like, a blessing and a curse. Because I, yeah, it's like we now have we now have this like, running like little comment code. We're not rushing, I'm not

rushing, we're not rushing. And it's just because like, in time, I'm such a like, gogogo person that I really don't stop to smell the roses much, which is one way journaling has helped so much, but kind of forces you to sit and think about what you're actually writing on a page. Which then comes into self awareness and reflection of that kind of thing. That helps so much. But both are going with the patterns that you've seen in yourself.

Yeah, but we're not rushing. And then I remember you mentioning in one of our calls like, I think you I think you described it as calm chaos. No, not calm chaos. It was it was it was calm, urgency, urgency, urgency, and I feel like because in my personal life, I'm very just go with the flow. Fine, but in business, I'm actually no sorry. In my personal life on the opposite. business wise, I'm very patient. Personal life I'm Go, go go.

Yeah, so I've really had to kind of like separate those two and know when and where the right time and places for that calm urgency, and when it's time just to just let it be. Just let it be just let it go. Yeah, the reason I pointed that out to you a while ago was because I could see you hitting so many goals. And I was like, Jacob so many goals and you like I remember one of our last

session. You just hit this big financial milestone you'd been in your salon for like, not even three months, like not even a quarter. And you're like Yep, cool. Let's let's put out this whole let's do this whole new online course thing. And I was like, Jacob Yeah, we've been here. Yeah, we're not rushing No, we're not doing that. And I'm like, Yeah, you're right.

Because you also told me you're exhausted two seconds before and that's been cool because I have seen you start to like almost calm it's like this it is it calm urgency. Emergency. Yeah. Yeah. And another thing that's really helped is having non negotiables which is like a huge thing. So for me like I'm very much a kind of person I need to focus on one thing at a time it's what I'm doing too much. It's just the map. I'm spreading myself way too thin. So you Yeah, non

negotiables. For me, it's it's journaling that that helps me so much obviously. And going to the gym was another non negotiable for me because that's an hour a day right? I can just focus on what the hell I've got to do and just focus on me that kind of thing. I'm not saying that's like going to be everyone's because it's different for every single person, but having non negotiables gives you the leeway to be able to rest and recoup before tackling the next thing. So, yeah, and I'm just kind of

coming back to that now. And I'm five months into my business. So, yeah, yeah, it's taken. It's taken time. But so quick at the same time. Yeah, yeah, yeah, you're right. RMP on a call as well, you like Jacob. So how are you feeling about you know, opening and I'm like, oh, like, great, like, you know, be nervous, blah, blah. You know, I feel like, Oh, my call, you know, it's been like, even though it's been like, such a slow process. Like, I feel like, you know, I'm like, ready

ball. But yo, Jake, it's been two fucking months. No wonder you're overwhelmed. Yeah. Yeah. And I think that's the beauty of having someone reflect back to you, because you're so in it, like you're so in it. And it's sometimes nice. I know, I've always got a mentor. And I've always got someone that can hold up a mirror and remind you that like how you're very in it, and this is what I'm seeing. And this is what maybe we can spend some time just looking at. Yeah, that's definitely helped a lot.

Definitely. And sometimes holding the mirror up is me doing it to myself through writing. Yeah. Oh, no. That was definitely not me. She was gonna have he's like, It's so wild. It's so wild. And so and I want to like this is for any of this is a little bit like Rogan off the off topic, but you have created a very fucking cool reality for yourself. And it started when you were young, and it's doing things that like, you don't you don't go to your teachers at

school. When I grow up. I want to be a model and a beauty influencer like you've pretty much tried. You don't you don't? I don't know. I'm basically when I was in high school was wasn't Yeah, yeah. And then that you created so much success for yourself at such a young age doing something that was pretty much off the beaten track? Like, yeah, you know, and for people that are listening that are like, Oh, but I'm being

unrealistic. Or that's not a real thing, or whatever else like I did you cop any of that? Like, what was your experience in creating your path? And what would you say to people who are actually interested in pursuing anything creative, or just outside of their box of conditioning? First thing is to really navigate. who's around you, firstly, and what they're doing around you. So are they a friend or a partner? Are they a parent? Are they an auntie, grandmother,

whatever. So I remember when I first left my retail job in makeup, and I wanted to pursue social media, I had to have so many conversations, conversations with my parents, because my parents are like, like my grandparents, like migrated here from Italy. So my parents only know to go to work, get paid come home. That's it. So having a conversation with them about a job that didn't exist yet that I was like, No,

I'm gonna make this work. And give me a year, like, I'm going to, you know, hit the ground running as much as I can. And then just being like, All right, get out of your system. Good luck, like, they really would they do not understand at all. And that's totally understandable. Yeah, they get it. But you know, and I feel like now, like, for the younger generation, especially, it's

normal. Like, I feel like we're in generation number two of influence our world, right, like kids are growing up with parents with influences. So it's become a lot more of a mainstream normal kind of thing. When I was uploading to YouTube, it was still fucking weird. And like, early weirdos did that. So like, you know, so I guess like for anyone who's wanting to kind of tackle in to the, whatever industry it is, whatever,

whatever it is. I would just say that you've because I'm just like, trying to think back of like, how I kind of grew my self confidence, but I don't really know. I think I've always just been the person that's like, Yeah, I'm gonna do this. I'm gonna do this. I'm gonna do that. I'm gonna do that. And then obviously, like, I can then like, I lost my wife for a little bit and then I kind of found that again. And now that I ended when I did find that I just kind of hit the

ground running. So definitely, like, pick up a couple books and To start kind of really like, learning about the mind and like re parenting yourself on specific things and talk to someone, whether it's a friend, whether it's a coach, a therapist, whoever about what patterns you have noticed, that maybe you don't like about your parents, but you're also emulating yourself that you're trying to like, stop that, like the generational curses, you've, you've kind of you need to start

tapping into like the that self that self awareness, which is quite hard to do at first. There are heaps of mediums and heaps of different ways that you can do that now, which makes it so much easier to do. Because the information that I think it gives, we just don't know how to access that often time. So yeah, I don't know. Good. And I think the answer Yeah, it does answer. But also, I think there's so much in like, you've always had a certain level of self belief

and you back yourself. And yeah, that's the piece there that like if someone listening goes, I don't know how you've done like, that's the piece that I think needs to be worked on. Because, like I've said to you for years, you've just got the tenacity. And the you're, you're just going to do it and you believe in yourself. And that's the piece to that I think people need to work on. I think, like, I never been in a nine to five in my entire life. And the thought of that scares

the shit out of me. Because I've just never because I'm such a creative weird or I just can't like so I don't know, fuck, I wasn't born with that. I suppose we try a nine to five, by self belief. Yeah, I never like an innocent thing. So that's always going, that's always gonna go on about so I never really saw any other routes as an option than me. It was like, like, that was what I was going to do where I was going to be. And just trusting in that path.

I know. It sounds crazy. But there was really no. I didn't already know how to put it like that failure wasn't even on the cards. It wasn't and there was no other way. Yeah, there was no other way that I could do my life honestly, like I couldn't like, yeah, not. Oh, I knew I knew that. And like, even in high school, like I like a lot of my friends would be like, I'm gonna do like a Bachelor of Arts, whatever. And then like, they went into like teaching or like more, whatever.

And then though, but they weren't sure whether like that was what they actually wanted to do. But for me from the beginning, I was like makeup, makeup is my like that, like, that's where I want to be. That's where I want to go and find that passion from age 16 I think definitely helps. But yeah, there's um, yeah, I don't know. It's just there's never been any other option. It's just been like, yeah, that's like, Isn't it like that's, that's it?

I love it. It's like, I passion and be there's no other options. So let's go. Yeah, literally, instantly. If there was like a hashtag for you, it'd be like, Let's fucking go. Let's fucking exactly you. Never we're not rushing, not rushing? Yeah, because we need to tap into the Let's fucking go energy. And then we need to tap into that we're not rushing, rushing. We've got both. That's it. What for? What's the rush?

And you've done things become urgency so much in the last six months that like, I don't want it. What's the word I'm looking for? I am excited. And nervous to see like not nervous. But like, I don't know where you're gonna stop. I don't know. I don't know where we'll be in another two years being like, remember when we did that podcast two years ago? Yeah, I wouldn't have. I wouldn't have guessed that. You'd be here two years ago when you were finishing, you know, music stuff.

Honestly, I wouldn't have thought that I'd be here either. It's just crazy how. It's just crazy how the universe has its way Hey, it just it just happens the way that it needs to. And sometimes like we're always looking for signs or we're looking for like the like, I don't know, like the silver lining, but sometimes you just gotta let it happen. Yeah, I think sometimes we because we're in a I feel like because we're in like a society. But we have so much control over everything. We try to over

control everything. I'm just repeating myself, but you know what I'm saying? So I feel like sometimes just letting go. Yeah, is the secret to surrender pace. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. Yeah. Like I'm so excited for what I know is coming that I get to just relax and like, take my foot off. It's crossed the inner process that it's gonna Yeah, yeah. and your salon was the perfect example of that, like when it fell through and it was like

disappointing. But you pretty quickly anchored back into surrender like something better, something better will come. There was so many signs, and you just will like surrender. Yeah. Crazy. So where can people actually you've got a podcast which hopefully killer content so I know I know I really need to get on board with that. Yes, I do have a podcast it's called unfiltered at the moment it's like monthly but I'm trying to like say that up to like bi

weekly if not weekly. So yeah, fingers crossed. I like I'm not even in the makeup and beauty industry. And I've listened to your last episode just because I want that. I just want entertainment. I've said this for so long. Like, I want you to have a podcast with so many reasons. But I'm, I've always enjoyed your content. And I've always enjoyed just watching you grow. So thank you so much for being here. And just for being in my world. You're the OG like real?

Thanks. Cause I know you've come from this mindset to be like, my mine school and yeah, I'm Brianna Mae. And yeah, it's so exciting. It's so I fuckin love seeing people elevate and change and like, rebrand. It's so exciting to see because it just means that there's a whole new, like, there's a whole new trajectory that's about to come along with it. It's just it's so cool. So cool. So where can people connect with you and watch all of your stuff?

You're gonna follow me on Instagram and tick off mainly Instagram actually, you can follow me on Instagram and YouTube that's and that's Jacob and then my business name is the kBT so it's Jacob backwards and then you can't have anything that's pretty much everywhere. Did you not know that? Why did you not know I'm sorry. Did you not realise that? No. That's the first time I've actually clicked Oh by God Breanna Davies silly insert by whatever

people like to like. Because people like how did you come up with your with your brand name? Really? Yeah, I'm like, it's just shaking backwards. And they're like, Oh, my face just did exactly that. Pull it together. Brianna. Don't look shocked. So good. I love that. Oh my god. I'm gonna put it all in the show notes and if there's anyone where is it in Melbourne? Which suburb? Essendon So guys, if you're in Essendon you can go and get all of your all of your stuff done there. I wish I

could. I can't wait to come and see. Literally same. I can't Yeah, you need to come there. You need to come you're gonna win need to do something. It'd be so much fun. It would be I can't wait. Thanks for being here. Thank you. Thank you for having me.

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