213 The Key to Confidence on Stage (It’s Not What You Think!)

rest of us don't have. They're not immune to nerves. They don't wake up every day just bursting with confidence, but they do have something, and today I'm going to tell you exactly what that is and how you can start using it immediately. You're listening to the mind over finger podcast, and this is episode 213, welcome to the mind over finger podcast where we dive into the world of mindful music, making peak performance

and crafting a Purpose Driven Life and career. I'm your host, violinist, certified performance and life coach for musicians, and your guide to unlocking your full potential. Dr Renee, Paul Gauthier, all right, I'm really excited about today's episode, because we're talking about a shift. It's a simple shift, but it's a profound change that can really transform the way that you perform. And trust me, this is something that high level

musicians know and use to their advantage every single day. If you've ever wondered, what separates the best performers, the one who are very consistent, from those who struggle with inconsistency, nerves or just feeling stuck? Well, this episode is for you. All right. So here it is, the one shift that changes everything is this. Top musicians train their nervous system for performance. Let me repeat that the best

musicians don't just practice their instrument. They practice how they perform, and this is what can change everything for you. So let's break it down and talk about why this matters. A lot of musicians think that just practicing more is going to solve their problems. If I just play this passage 20 more times, if I just put in three more hours, if I just do what I've always done, but harder, then I'm gonna finally feel ready.

But let's be honest, how many times have you walked into a performance knowing you've practiced, but you still feel shaky, you still feel unsure, you still feel like a different musician than you were in the practice room. Have you been there? That's because when you're under pressure, your nervous system takes over. It doesn't care how much you practiced, it cares how you trained yourself to perform under stress, and that is what elite musicians understand that

most people don't. They don't just practice the notes, they practice the performance. They don't just prepare for the music. They prepare for the pressure. They don't just hope they're going to be calm on stage. They train their brain and their body to respond that way. That's the secret. Let me tell you about one of my clients. When she first came to me, she was a fantastic violinist, technically, no problem. She had everything she needed to succeed, but when she

stepped on stage, it was a different story. It was like her body betrayed her. Her hands would shake, her boat would feel unsteady, and then she would walk off stage thinking, that is not how I play, like what happened? So what was happening is that she was practicing hard, doing all of the things she knew as hard as she could, but she wasn't training her nervous system for performance. So we changed that. We did mock

performances, but we did it the right way. And if you want to know what that is, we'll catch Episode 163 of the podcast where I tell you how to do that. We did adversity training, we did mental conditioning exercises. And when she walked into her next audition, no shaking. Life, no panic, just music. And she won the job. And this is something you can do too. You don't need to be born with magical abilities, like I said, you just need to shift your approach. As I've said, most

musicians focus their energy on practicing for accuracy. We play a passage until it's right. But high level performers don't just prepare for the music. They prepare for how they're going to perform the music under pressure. If you've ever played something flawlessly in the practice room, and it fell apart in performance. This is the challenge for you, so let's make this real for you. I want you to start thinking about how your practice can be different, and today I'm going to challenge you

to try this. Step one is going to be to set up a mock performance. So at the end of your practice session today, set up a mock performance for yourself. Pretend that you're stepping on stage. Imagine the lights, imagine the audience, imagine the silence before you start. Then you're going to play through a piece from start to finish, no stopping, no fixing, just like you would in real life. And before you begin, I want you to do what you would normally do before a real

performance. Maybe you're backstage, warming up and tuning then you're going to walk up to your imaginary stage with confidence, you're going to take a deep breath, and you're going to center yourself as if you're really about to perform, then start playing, and your only job is going To be to get through it without stopping. Here's what not to do during this smock. Don't stop and fix the mistakes. Don't restart if something feels up. That's the exercise, and very important, don't mentally

critique yourself while playing. So this exercise is going to reveal to you where your real weaknesses are, not just technically, but mentally as well. So don't judge yourself. Get curious. Your brain is showing you exactly where you need to train it, and that, my friends, is where the magic happens. Step two is going to be to notice what happens in your body during the performance. So after you finish playing, take

30 seconds to reflect and ask yourself some questions. Look into what happened to your body, like what happened in my body? Did my hands shake? Was my heart racing? Were my hands cold? Did my breathing change? Were my knees shaking? What was happening in your body? Then look at your focus. Where did my focus go? Did I think about technique? Did I start doubting myself? What was I telling myself as I was playing what was the ongoing monolog? If there was one, then look at what felt

different from the practice room. Did you feel tense? Did your mind race really take a second to tune in to what it felt like this performance, and instead of labeling these sensations as bad again, get curious. This is your nervous system's honest response to pressure. And now that you can see it, you can train it. And that is step three. We're going to train your brain for performance, or what I

like to call adversity training. So if you only practice in calm conditions, you're training yourself to play in good conditions. And I can almost guarantee that will never happen, not in real world performance situations. So I want you to try these three levels of challenge to condition your nervous system for performance. They used to do this with us at New World Symphony, and it was so amazing how well it prepared us for performance. So level one is

going to be the distraction training. Set up your phone. Alone and record yourself already that alone is going to add some slight pressure. You could try a bunch of things that would distract you from your normal way of playing. You could play with a backing track, with a metronome slightly faster or slower than usually like it. Or you could find a live audience. And if you have a live audience, ask them to intentionally

distract you while you play. Ask them to make some noise, to walk around, to try and talking to you, to drop stuff, whatever would distract you. So that's your distraction training. Level two is going to be the pressure simulation. I want you to simulate the stakes. So you're going to bring the high stakes of the performance on stage with you, inside of the practice room, your imaginary stage. And this is what we often not do while we practice. We have the low stakes, but now we're

bringing these high stakes in with us. I want you to tell yourself, this is the only take. This is it no redos. Here we go. And when you're ready, boost that one to level two by imposing unfamiliar conditions on yourself. So if usually play sitting down, try standing up, or play in a different room, or try with not enough light, or an uncomfortable shirt or comfortable shoes, whatever would shake things up. Try it.

Finally, level three is going to be the stress exposure. I want you to simulate the adrenaline rush of a real performance and train your body to play through it. And for this, you're going to inspire yourself from the answers you got in step two, whatever your body experience during your mocks, that's what you want to train. So try to increase your heart rate before playing. You could do some jumping jacks, run up and down the stairs, run in place, hold the plank for 30 seconds,

whatever it takes then play. Or maybe, if you're a win player, try with dry mouth or play with a bad read or play with cold hands. But be careful with this one, because you really could hurt yourself. So this is your stress exposure, your adversity training, and why this works. This combination is when your nervous system learns that it's safe to play under stress, it stops overreacting during real performances, it's going to be conditioned to play while experiencing those

circumstances. Finally, step four, repeat this and watch what happens if you do this just once a week, you're going to start to feel a shift. You're going to stop feeling like two different

musicians, one in the practice room and one on stage. You're going to build trust in yourself, because you've trained under real conditions, and you're going to walk into performances knowing what to expect, no more surprises, and my pro tip for you is to keep a performance journal after each run through and write down what went well, what felt different from the practice room, and what's one adjustment you're

going to make next time? Now this is a really great starting point, and by simply trying what I just shared with you, you can start to see some real changes in your performance. But if you want to take this further and you want a structured step by step system to train your brain and your body for high level performances, that's exactly what we do inside the music mastery experience, my signature coaching program inside of mi me, you don't just learn what to practice. You learn how to

perform at your best under any conditions. So if you're ready to stop second guessing yourself on stage and start performing with the confidence of a top level musician, go to mindover finger.com or DM me the word mme on Instagram, and let's chat and see if it's the right fit for you. So I hope this episode sparked something for you, because the truth is you're not missing some secret talent. You're just missing the right.

Training. And once you make this shift, once you start training your performances the way you train your instrument, you're never gonna look at performing the same way again. All right, that's what I have for you today, until next time, keep playing, keep growing, and I'll see you in the next episode. And there you have it. Thank you so much for spending this time with me today. If you enjoyed this episode, I'd love it. If you share with your friends and colleagues, take a screenshot,

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