In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 16 of The Mate Preview, Tucker & Dr. Miller explain how being romantic is not what you think (you don't need rose petals and candles) and how to pull it off by showing women your interest and intentions the right way....
This week in Part 1 of Episode 29, Joe talks about 3 dates he went on, including the worst date he’s had in Austin and one that started poorly but ended wonderfully. Tucker and Nils talk to Joe about how to save a bad date, give him diet and sleep advice, and continue to dig into his emotional issues and how they relate to his dates.
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 15 of The Mate Preview, Tucker and Dr. Miller explain how men evolved to show off to women and what most guys don't understand about how women look at your aesthetics and cleanliness. They then go over the attractive skills you can build and how to invest in good style without getting into awful fads....
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 14 of The Mate Preview, Tucker and Dr. Miller, explain how women don't care about how much money you have, but they do care about what your financial resources signal about the attractive traits you have. And it's not about what you have. It's how you use it. For example, fun experiences are more attractive to most women than expensive mater...
In Part 2, Joe talks about another bedroom issue he had with a different woman. Charlie & Nils tell him what can do to avoid this in the future, the two emotional needs women have as clothes start to come off, and why life is easier and more fulfilling when you see women as good friends first.
In this Q&A, Tucker, Nils, and Dr. Miller explain how to learn more about a potential long-term girlfriend (or anyone really). They give many ideas for how to force people to show you who they really are so that you can decide if you want to move forward in that relationship or not.
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 13 of The Mate Preview, Tucker and Dr. Miller explain why women in general are more attracted to your prestige in a group than they are to your fame, money, or an alpha male attitude. That is what most guys get wrong about social status. Having good social skills not only makes you more attractive to women, but also introduces you to more wo...
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 12 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain that just developing attractive traits is not enough. You must also signal (show, not tell) to women that you have these traits. They go over signals that are visual (what you look like, what you wear, etc.) and behavioral (your activities, what you say & do, etc.) and how to s...
In Part 1, Joe goes on two dates in one night and makes a big mistake in how he set these up. Charlie & Nils give him advice on giving himself the space and time to have better dates and when it’s okay to cancel dates. They also talk about bad advice Joe read from a guy who “hacked” online dating. “Don’t put a ticking clock on things that don’t need one.” – Nils Parker
In this Q&A Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain the many possible things going on when men who are not successful with women at all say that they have "high standards" when looking for women to date. What's most likely is that these guys are either very young or afraid to get rejected and fail.
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 11 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how women don't want only assholes or just nice guys, but they do want men who are tough and assertive to the world but kind and caring to them; a tender defender. They go over how to improve and display both agreeable and assertiveness. For more on the tender defender , listen to ...
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 10 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how willpower is the key to being an effective man, which ultimately is what women want ( listen to The Mate Preview, Pt. 6: What Women Want ) They go over how to build willpower, including the first key mindset that you need to adopt, the 5 steps to setting & accomplishing goa...
This week on Helping Joe, Joe has a breakthrough with the best date he has ever been on. Charlie & Tucker break down why and how this date went so well. Joe also unknowingly blows off another woman who wanted to have sex with him. Tucker & Charlie share similar funny personal stories. And they end the podcast talking with Joe about how to deal with toxic, judgmental people in his life.
The answer to this question may seem obvious (and part of it is obvious), but Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain the deeper emotional issues going on with this guy, the many problems with his mindset, and ways to avoid this pessimism.
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 9 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain the 6 types of intelligence and why women care about them. They also go over a few ways you can improve and display your intelligence to women. For more on the intelligence trait and how to display your intelligence , listen to our previous podcast episodes....
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 8 of The Mate Preview, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain why women care about your mental health (happiness, openness, and playfulness). It is a way for women to see that you are not a threat and that your brain is effective. They go over what you can do today to become more brain healthy and display that to women. For more on the mental ...
In this episode of Helping Joe, Joe gives updates on the women that he went out with over the last two weeks. Charlie & Tucker give him high level and specific advice on how to avoid social isolation (find a tribe) and where best to spend his money. They also dive deeper into Joe’s emotional issues and tools he can use to solve these problems so he can better connect with women and friends. This episode is sponsored by Land A Job You Love , a course from our own Charlie Hoehn....
In this Q&A, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how there is no checklist of skills that a real man should have. In general, women care much more about your personality traits and behaviors than any specific skill.
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 7, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils go over why your health is so important to women and why it's not just about looking good. If you have a good body and are in shape, it signals you have deeper underlying traits of effectiveness. (Remember, women care about effectiveness in men, see The Mate Preview, Pt.6 ) They also explain how you don't need...
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 6, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils go over what women want on a deep biological level and why they evolved to want these things in men. Dr. Miller is one of the world's leading experts on female mate choice. To sum up all the research, women evolved to want effective men. For more on understanding what women want , listen to our previous podcas...
This week on Helping Joe, Charlie Hoehn and Nils Parker give Joe feedback on OkCupid (see the blog notes) and Tinder after Joe gets frustrated with interactions on the dating app. They also dive into his sleep habits and ask him what a perfect day looks like. Joe does not have a specific answer. They explain why this is a big problem in his life and with his mating goals. “Right now, you have no fucking clue where you are going... You are letting life happen to you and wandering around as a resu...
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 5, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how to figure out exactly what it is you want so you can direct your mating efforts to honestly getting that with women or a woman who wants the same thing. You not only deserve to ask yourself "What do I want," but you need to. For more on understanding yourself and what you want , listen to our previ...
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 4, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils go over the multiple ways women experience the world and dating that are different than how men do, including major female fears, worries, concerns, and thought patterns in mating. These are not opinions or moralizing lessons but based on the best current research on women's psychology and sex differences. For...
This week is our second episode of Helping Joe with four people on the mics (Tucker Max, Charlie Hoehn, Nils Parker, & Joe). This episode picks up where the guys left off in Episode 23 . Joe starts by reading his crazy (but hilarious) inner thoughts that he kept track of during the past week. The guys figure out why Joe has these thoughts and emotional reactions by exploring his relationship with his mom. Joe shares stories from his childhood and learns that every one is dealt a different ha...
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 3, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils go over confidence, competence, and the sociometer theory. They explain why there are no shortcuts to building true confidence....
In this Q&A, Tucker Max and Nils Parker explain how to understand women and why they put guys in the friend zone so you don't get stuck there in the first place or can get out of it. Also, it's okay to just be friends with attractive women.
In this special episode of Helping Joe, everybody (Tucker, Charlie, Nils, & Joe) is in the same room to talk about Joe’s progress and problems over the last few weeks. They talk about how women test men to get honest signals, what building real confidence looks like, and how to interpret some dreams. They also dive deeper into Joe's trust issues and perfectionist tendencies and how to get over them so he can be more attractive to women.
In this preview series, we go over each chapter in our upcoming book, Mate: Become the Man Women Want , explaining key takeaways and what to expect. In Part 2, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils explain how Mate is different and talk about the five fundamental principles that need to govern all your mating decisions....
In this Q&A, Tucker and Nils explain how it's best to take this problem head-on, be honest about it, make a joke (they give some ideas), and be clear there that you are heterosexual.
Don't date women that lie to you! In this Q&A, Tucker, Dr. Miller, and Nils talk about what this caller's deeper issues are and why he put up with a bad girlfriend for so long.
