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Back to you. No, back to you. All you. The home with Duncan pumpkin spices where you want to be. I hi, everybody. And welcome to another episode of The Matcha Diaries with your favorite cohosts, Kara and me. Today we have a very surprise. We have a very special episode. No, this is number two of our Autumn Diaries series. We have tried to set on a terminal mood, but we've had a bit of a Leo says it's summer weather over there, so she's had to create, you know, she's done the books in
the background, a little cute house, got her wicked mug, right? Yeah, this is my favorite auto terminal mug. It says and then extra strength magic potion drink at your own risk. I love it. I've got my pumpkin and then the little mouse mouse. I'm drinking. I'm drinking. You're going to be like I'm drinking is like a pomegranate tea, so it's like fruity and it's okay and Leo doesn't like fruity tea, so I know. I like a tea apart from fruity teas and apart from licorice teas. Those that I would
have judged you even more for a Mark or like a liqueur. No, no, no, I hate I hate licorice, so. Me too. No, are my colors. To be fair. Yes! To be fair, I drink this at home, so it's like it's quite nostalgic for me, which I feel like it's perfect for the autumn season. So there was a thought process there. Same with my tea, so to be fair, I do think my tea in general is good for the season. It's the classic
tea. She's good. And it tastes very like, is there a coat? I see. Of course, there's a coat. What is the coat? The coat is love is the highest of all virtues, which I know. And I used to always, I grew up drinking a lot of yogi tea and I do think the German coats are better. Someone explained that to me. I think the English ones are always a bit basic, but whatever. And I always used to drink the chocolate
yogi tea with it, just a splash of milk, but the original one is also good. I'm going to go do like a tea shop very soon and I want to try some different flavors. I can review in the next installment of our of our recording because we try like a different tea each time. Yes, let's do it. I mean, yeah, okay. Right now we're going to our plan is to bulk record a little bit, like we're going to record two to three episodes, TBD, how far we come in this setup. So obviously we're
recording with video again, which we do want to start doing very regularly now. And like when we have the time, so in the next one, we'll have a different drink. Do you want to say what we're planning to talk about in this episode, my darling? Yes, well, I'm excited for this one. We obviously had us on our Instagram, which is at the much diaries if you don't follow us on there. We had asked for your guys' input into like what episodes we should do for this autumnal series. And one
of you guys actually know exactly what it was. Shout out. Suggested. Shout out, yeah. Suggested because it's the season of letting go. Obviously autumn in kind of that spirit of transitions and to for us to say or to give an overview of what we are letting go. And I, when I was doing my notes, which we both this morning, I feel like we both had very cute mornings. I was thoroughly enjoying. It was very cute. We were reading our books. I imagine us doing it in parallel even though we
are in different countries. And I think we were though. Yeah, drinking my coffee, doing my notes for this episode and how I interpreted it. And I don't know how to carry what you did. But I wrote down like things that we are letting go. And also things that I'm inviting in for the new season. Yes, I did the same. I was just thinking that I feel like for me, autumn is maybe a season of obviously things or nature dying and let me die in quote unquote. But you know, changing, but then
it's also an exciting space for something new like for a new year for a new cycle of seasons. And obviously also for like a new another magical season. And I think it's also a lot of a season for like fresh starts with new school years beginning. And I mean, we don't go to school anymore or to uni, but still it's kind of still it still feels that way, right? Like even. Yeah, yeah. So we're not going to the end of summer. So yes, it's the death of something old. And that means
that new doors are opening. So yeah, no, I agree. It's very autumn is very symbolic. And that sounds I think because literally we experience the same things in life and we follow through the seasons of it as well. So yeah, I did the same thing kind of things that I want to like go off and then things that I want to bring in. I also found a few quotes that I thought were cute. Oh, love it. Do you want to start with them? Yeah, I can start with them. So basically,
this code is which I didn't realize the great gasp we had this code. But Scott Fitzgerald said, life starts all over again when it gets crisp in the fall. I also have facts. I'm so I'm so glad I live in a world where there are octobers. That was by LM Montgomerie. I don't not say this name of Frederick Nietz. I don't know. Say the last name. Said, notice that autumn is more the season of the soul than of nature. George Elliott said, delicious autumn. My very soul is wedded to it.
And if I were a bird, I would fly above the earth seeking the successive autumn. And I love that. They're all so cute. People are different depending on the season that you are. And Karin, I were speaking about this. We feel like the podcast listeners very much relate to us in terms of like we're all autumn. Like the famous Richard quote from Gilmer Girls. Yeah, I am an autumn. Yeah. And but I most people in my life like that aren't through the podcast
are all not. Yeah. Like I feel like actually autumn. I feel like because of the community that we built that like loving autumn is such like a mainstream popular thing. But then I speak to anyone else at like my work in my French groups and everyone is like love summer and hates when autumn comes around. When we say you were saying it's a very like digital like it's all over our Instagram. Everyone like fantasizing about. Yeah. Awesome. And stuff. And then in real life everyone's just like
depressed. But I guess maybe it's just because we've built like a very specific niche. And I think that's the internet is that you can find and curate exactly the people that like love the same things that you do. And I think that's what we've done. I guess with like autumn and I just makes me so. Yeah. I told you as well. I feel like you've converted me to become a lover of autumn. I think because growing up it was always hot and I never really really experienced an autumn.
Because it was it never felt like the autumn you see in movies and you know everything. So I literally grew up where it was a cult 24 seven in a blue lobby. So I like never never ever experience that. And then yeah, I think then when I moved to New Breed wasn't as aesthetic. So I feel like I didn't romanticize it as much. But and then I used to get like quite upset about winter coming. And then just like upset about the cold. And then I've realized since shifting the mindset now
to where I'm like actually you know let me embrace the slow snowness of it. Let me embrace. I don't know, even if it's small things like the camels, the whatever ignore the ads in the background. This is YouTube free. But yeah, I'm just like embracing the smaller things and I think it's making it easier to this is like the one thing where I'm like yes you should romanticize your life in these moments because the alternative is you actually
just are quite negative about it and what's the point of that you know. I think you should romanticize your life in every moment because otherwise what's the alternative like you always just see the negative or the dirty the sad which obviously exists like we're all very aware that the bad exists in life. But I think yeah, yeah, no, I got control of what you see and how you perceive
the world around you. So I think even if it's hard and it's not like I'm walking around every day just like oh my god, it's butterflies and rainbows outside my dreams. I have them like that recently though. I like walk outside and I'm like wow. Like I'm just annoying. But no it is good. You might as well do that. You're so right because like the alternative is not good. But anyways this helped me basically enjoy my life a bit more
just having that mindset of actually no what's the point of not embracing it. It's gonna happen. So you might as well enjoy and like romanticize it. So if you are an autumn hater then come to the dark side. Be converted. Come to the the side of crispy leaves and tea and gozy books. It is also quite so
beautiful. Like the trees, the colors, everything just is so pretty. And also because for example I was in London the last couple of days which Sokar and I saw each other which was lovely and I was also staying back in my old house and one of my old housemates who I was staying with she was actually also on this podcast several times. So if you remember her she was just like she was so upset that like oh my god it was so hot and now it's so cold and it was kind of like a bit grainy and drizzly
and I was so excited. I was like this is actually perfect whether I think and I took myself on a bit of a solo date. I went on a walk. I got myself a chai from the second little stand and like when did a bookshop where we had our book club event back in the day and I let the book. I've never done this before actually I asked the bookseller for their
or Tom Null dark academia witchy wrecks and then they were so sweet. I love I think this is why independent bookshops are so sweet or I think in general bookshops are so nice because the people working there are so special. So this guy he was like oh I don't know much like I'm my manager just left so he was kind of waiting for her to come back but in the meantime he gave me like a big pile
of books that he was thinking and then she came out and she gave me another pile of books. I was just sat there for like about an hour to kind of like flicking through the different books and seeing which ones I wanted to buy. So I ended up purchasing two from the ones that she had. It's so cute. You know added to the pile and I've been reading the first one. Let me get it because this is so
I love it you've put it in the back. Oh yeah. I've already posted about it on our Instagram so then you've maybe already seen it but it's if you don't follow us it's called the witches of Brooklyn and if you're watching a video then you can actually see how cute it is. The cover is so cute. And it's very off comfort zone for me because it's a graphic novel so it's have you ever
read in your adult life have you read a graphic novel before? No because that's like obviously I grew up reading graphic novels or magazines or you know I feel like we all kind of do when I used to love it but I've not read when I think since I was like 16-17 upwards. So yeah I can really recommend this one I think it's so sweet. I'm not completely finished but pretty much so super quick. It was good because I just finished the fantasy series and that last book was like a thousand pages.
Oh my god I can't believe it's something to change the world. Fair. Fair. A nice quick read. Also they're just so yeah they're cute aren't they? Yeah okay so to actually get into the episode unless you wanted to say anything else about your week or something. I'm ready. It was nice seeing you as we can do that's all. I know it was so nice we obviously
didn't read. It was very quick. We did we finished work late and then started making. Oh that was cute that's that mean the optimal mood was I made a vegetable soup so it was like the beginning of soup season. Did you like it? Stop it Leah. I feel like that's kind of kick started now like the comfort food season of food as well which I think I'm going to touch on a little bit. But
I feel like that was just perfect. We had nice warm soup it felt healthy. Yeah nice and warm and then we watched when Harry met Sally which I've never watched before either which I finished the next day by the way because we got we started falling asleep on the sofa so we stopped it. But that's actually such a cute mood. I know we started at 1030 which is quite rogue isn't it? Yeah but so it was just like the perfect autumn all cozy day to be honest. Oh I completely agree
and that is all I want to share. I think I'm now coming out I think when I first visited London back when I first moved I was kind of like in like I hate London not I hate London but I think I had to also see the negative parts of it to be able to appreciate the positive things more about when I moved and I think now I've got a place where I'm so comfortable with my move yeah and I'm so I
know that I've made the right decision and that this is just like where I meant to be. But now when I go back to London I am also able to like see the beautiful parts of it more and I love like especially I mean this is just because I used to live there right so like especially being back
like where I used to live and doing the same walks again and seeing the parks there and the streets to me just yeah it's so beautiful and you know I'm able to I think see the and like exploring cafes and stuff like things that I used to do on a regular basis like with you know it was really lovely
yeah I still think you have such a rare um scenario of being able to like you've moved places but you still can kind of it's very it's like magical you know you can transport back in time because you're still visiting the same house that you used to live in with you know your old housemates I
think that's such a special thing it almost lets you like tap into the past for a slither of time and just like enjoy and have that experience and then you go back into your real life I think it's so cute it's so special I don't want anyone I don't want my friends to ever move away from
the house but that's kind of like a we've all said this in that French group that like someone always needs to be living in that house because it's too special to let go of something yeah another renter can ever go in well I hope I mean yeah I hope you guys stick to that
I mean even someone could like sort of family in that house you know would not be so cute so and it's a perfect I'm sorry but it's a perfect family house I knew it's sorry it is um but yeah anyways right I um had asked ChaGBT our friend and helper for why autumn is considered the season of
letting go and it gave me a little bit of a blurb and I actually feel like it's quite it's quite sweet so I thought we could read it so autumn is considered the season of letting go because it symbolizes transition change and release in both nature and human life as trees shed their leaves
it reflects the idea of letting go of the past old habits or things that no longer serve us here is a deeper look why so the first is the natural cycle in autumn trees lose their leaves to prepare for winter conserving energy and ensuring survival and harsher conditions this mirrors how
humans often at gold burdens or negative emotions to move forward or adapt to new phases of life second symbol of change autumn represents the shift from the abundance of summer to the stillness of winter this transition kind of oak reflection on the impermanence of things
encouraging people to embrace change and release attachments third preparing for renewal just as trees make way for new growth in the spring letting go in autumn is a necessary step toward renewal it's a reminder that clearing out what no longer serves us makes room for new opportunities
and growth and then fourth emotional reflection the cooling temperatures shorter days and used colors of fall aka autumn often encourage introspection it's a time to reflect on the past and make peace with what needs to be released both emotionally and mentally
autumn's atmosphere forces a sense of closure making it a fitting metaphor for letting go and embracing new beginnings that is so truth i so truth that is so truth that is truth dude um i kind of did the same thing but the only added thing that i kind of got in mind is how
um autumn is a time of balance so especially with the autumn all equinox so that when the day and night are of equal length so it's a reminder that life is a constant interplay of light and dark growth and decay endings and beginnings which i think is perfect for this episode because we're
kind of touching on those things that we want to let go and then the things that we want to bring in i love that in autumn okay thank you okay thank you thank you thank you chachi bt thank you you thank you this episode is for you by um you know chachi bt i wanted to say something and i
forgotten oh no but that's okay we'll move on it wasn't that important um carry oh i remembered what i wanted to say it was serious it was just that obviously we are saying what are we letting go of what are we inviting in but as always we want this to be a prompt to you to have a think as well
about like yeah you know you know applying this to your own life what do you want to let go of and what do you want what new beginnings do you wish for in the next season yes yes so dimmyo so so dimmyo so mindful should i start then you should start okay so in oh by the way from looking
down i'm not avoiding eye contact i just have my eye pad with my notes on it so i'm just looking at that um but in terms of things that i want to let go of the first thing i wrote down was um being stressed and overwhelmed by my nine to five job which i i've just noticed as much as i don't say
my job stresses me out because i think as a whole it doesn't stress me out i have noticed that i get so like caught caught into it during my day but i literally like typically most working days i'm sat on my laptop from 8 30 till like six o'clock and all i'm doing is thinking about work and
just getting so caught up in it and it's just it's hard for me to then like take myself out of it and have moments of like actually no live in the moment go for a walk go make a coffee do this do that so i want to try like go of that in these autumn months especially when life slows down because i
will probably be doing less stuff after work um in terms of like going out and like then you know enjoying that so i want to make sure that i'm having more moments during the day where i am feeling kind of the stillness of it but then fully in my brain feeling it if that makes sense like fully
distracting myself and um taking myself out of work another thing that kind of links to that is i want to let go of clinging to my comfort zone um oh yes and it's up to me now i'm still going to take a train no probably i mean i am i mean i so i'm flying to Jordan and
then i'm flying to New York which is something i am doing out out of my comfort zone so something that i'm really excited about actually and i people that work that know me they know that i haven't been really that excited about it but once i'm there i will be excited about it so i am going to
New York i will have like an october new york which i have heard is one of the most beautiful times to go to New York because it's just i cannot tell you how jealous i am like you are living my dream so if you don't enjoy it i'm gonna be seriously upset i know so that's gonna be quite out of my
comfort zone that you're living for the podcast i'm gonna just pretend to be you and just like live through live like how you would live it and fully experience it no i'm sure i'll have a fun time live for the girlies um so yeah i mean that's kind of gonna be outside of my comfort zone but
i'm forced to do it because i have to do it with work um but you know this is good kind of pushing myself out of it another aspect of what i've noticed i'm getting comfortable with is because of my job i'm very like i'm literally i don't i'm sitting on my ass literally all day from like
eight o'clock till six o'clock and i think i'm that's obviously not good for you so but i'm then i'm comfortable with that of that like finished work and then i just want to be cozy and stuff and i think i need to get out of my comfort zone in terms of it's actually not good for you
like it's literally not good for you so i want to get rid of that bad habit of sat down all day because that's an eight nature of my job and that's fine but then afterwards kind of pushing myself to be like okay no you do need to get out of the house you need to
go for a walk or whatever it is so yeah i want to get rid of that like bad habit of kind of a sedentary lifestyle so that's that another thing i want to let go of is caring too much about how people perceive me i've realized this year that i've been getting
like i'll have moments where i'll be acting a certain way and then i go home and then i overthink everything of like oh how did i like did i did people think i was weird because i said this or was i acting this way or this way this way and it's consuming my thoughts quite a bit pointless we don't
need to be doing this so i want to get rid of that i want to just be like you know what people don't like me they don't like me and i am the way that i am and a lot of people love me for it so i'm not gonna overthink it i am funny i am weird that is who i am she's so weird so quirky um
so getting rid of that and then or letting go of that and another one which i feel like is a running theme which i feel like we haven't had an episode or we spoke quite like deeply about how we've been feeling in a while um but just letting go of feelings of insecurity and comparison as
much as i don't compare i don't i'm not majorly a comparison person um in terms of like social media and things like that but i think just in general when i'm like walking down the street i think i've been looking a lot of people and then being like oh i wish i looked like that or that person is
so pretty or that person looks cool or that person dresses like this um which is fine if it's like uses inspo but then if it becomes self-deprecating obviously that's not good so i just want to get rid of those feelings of like insecurity and comparing how i look to other people show that to
that's a very good list can i add something else no to your list yeah go for it add something i should let go of yes i want you to let go of irregular meal patterns um bad food patterns as well or a more just like bad relationship with food in general which i yeah especially
i'm thinking about like oh you know you want to have energy to like do something off your work or you know no yeah the like if you don't fuel yourself enough you're not going to have energy you're just going to want to you know you know you have your body to want to do things or to want to move
if you're not giving it enough food to do so yeah i know that's so true and that is very true 75 percent of like this is probably a wrong quote but i heard somewhere that like 70 give it of like our bodies out there like you know is is based on like food i could be wrong yeah please
just delete this quote from your brain but food is i think it's a big part i know it's a big part yeah no no it's true ourselves right yeah or i guess another thing would just be to like be eating better food as well not only like make sure i have three meals a day but just making sure
that i'm actually putting good stuff in my body as well um yeah i actually want to get rid of like that toxic thought pattern of like thinking about food to 24 seven and then yeah restricting and then then not being healthy and then eating bad later on just because you've been restricting all day
something but i i um go on now i was just gonna say i i've noticed they get worse since i've moved to London oh and i i think it just might be because i'm going through change a little bit so i say something i'm just trying to control to some extent yeah exactly um because it i yeah
it's not something that i've been thinking about for like months and months and months it's just like a recent i always haven't had breakfast but that's just because that's how i've grown up like i never eat in the morning but in terms of then just like yeah now just thinking of it with a more
bad mindset obviously that's not good but it's quite recent i think i mean that's good at least that you can trace it back i think change definitely does have a big impact because i noticed my food habits getting worse when i before i moved to Amsterdam because i was so busy and like
i think it would have been changed coming up and yeah so i think it is often a reflection on how we're feeling especially with us girlies that have like a maybe a bit of a trickier past with it all i guess i have to just be extra mindful of how we are treating for how our food is settling to it
but now what i was gonna say is that this is something oh i don't know if i'm too far away from the microphone this is something that i spoke about in therapy because for those of you who don't know i restarted therapy i've only been to two sessions so far so i'm still like seeing whether
this therapist is the one for me but last but she said she said something really interesting because she had asked me like how often i'd felt anxious in the past like two weeks since i'd seen her and how i'm rate like my anxiety levels and when i was kind of telling her like how i've been feeling
one thing that came up was obviously that i overthink a lot and then we'll overthink thoughts that will come into my head that i perceive as negative and then i will feel the need to like confess my negative thoughts to whoever's closest to me at the time or who is with me at the time
like it's often marcoed that i obviously you know i trust him so much he knows how my brain operates i'll often just like feel the need to like just confess my thoughts and then she was just telling me like the why do you kind of just bring you again to the attention of like why
enabling thoughts is like bad or good you know and really just a thought and you should just be able to you know let it go and instead i obviously am harping on it and then like fixating on it ruminating it because i think a certain thought is like a reflection of of me and i think the same
also with food because even like you saying like oh i want to like eat better food and everything i die it's like you labeling certain foods that you're eating when i don't think that's helpful you know i think it's yeah i don't think food is bad or good obviously there's certain
like food groups which are probably if you're only eating them will not be too a balanced diet yeah but yeah i think the most thing i think that's what i mean more it's just like more nutritious yeah food where you are getting like all the nutrients that you should be getting rather than
like oh good food versus bad food yeah because everything can be bad food like if you're only eating walking grains that's bad for you or if you're only eating food in veg that's still bad for you like you need balance and you need to eat things that are fueling your mom and soul as well as your
stomach so it's all made of things i think easier said than done right but fact preach queen iconic yeah i mean i mean no that was definitely something i was thinking oh i just didn't write it down to be fair maybe and maybe not wanting to bring too much attention to it because i don't want
to admit that that's something i need to work on um so what is fine it's just because we have spoken about the food they are yeah no true true i do think i eat better though in warm in more more months as well that makes sense as in when it gets colder outside because i crave more like
good food if that makes sense good it goes on quote good as in like more soups and vegetables and things like that so i'm just excited i know which i don't know what to make right i never eat soup so i loved eating soup with you because obviously i live for the in Italian and at least my Italian
doesn't make a lot of soups doesn't like soups i don't want to generalize all the time because there's a lot of them no so damn damn girl it's fun time okay okay what are you letting go of yeah what are you letting go of
so i mean one of mine is very similar to yours kind of just overthinking in general but that's a bit of a lofty goal right like i'm an overthinking person i'm not just gonna be like oh September 2024 i'm just gonna stop thinking overthinking in the event in the event but no specifically what i
want to challenge myself to just do more is stop overthinking social interactions so that goes very i think hand in hand with like what you were saying around people perceiving you i think i will just often overthink like things i said or you know how i yeah it's often just like things i
said whether it came out weird or you know whether it's in a work environment i think in a work environment i've been i've been having it recently because i was on a work trip in London so and i don't see my colleagues very often because i'm obviously i work remotely so when i do see my
colleagues i think there's just like extra pressure for me to like i want to obviously like come across like a likable intelligent human being and after a dinner that we had i was just like oh my god like was i you know did i make a fool out of myself like did i just say weird stuff which i do on a
regular basis i think i brought a bridge of Jones like five times at the dinner so you know what but it's fine i'm just trying to be like you know what everyone's just thinking about themselves anyway so i doubt anyone actually which is true comments that i was making no no literally no one would have been unless you said something that's like completely like out of character then maybe someone would but if you're just being yourself it's just funny that we overthink
these things isn't it? Bridget Jones is very on character for me so whatever exactly so the second thing is just putting too much pressure on balancing everything kind of inspired by the episode that we recorded with Lauren Martin which is now at this one would be like two episodes ago
yeah i'd recommend this thing to the episode if you haven't already but we were kind of just talking about the pressure we were speaking about it in the context of women but i think this goes for everyone to be honest it's just the pressure of having like the perfect social life the perfect
job you know or perfect academics have fulfilling hobbies like ideally at this point now also have a side side hustle that makes money for you you know you have a good exercise routine cook well for yourself and eat nourishing food and you know all of these there's just like
Brazilian categories and also oh see your family a lot you know whatever there's just i feel like maintain every relationship with everybody exactly like i feel like i've got this one there's just oh also have a good relationship with yourself like this is so much i'm getting overwhelmed by
the love exactly and i feel like i am so guilty of just always putting like feeling disappointed in myself one way or the other like depending on which thing i've been juggling with like which one had the highest priority at that specific time because yeah again like i just i'm never able to
obviously do things equally well all the time but i think i'm realizing more and more again especially also through that conversation that's just like simply not possible yeah i want to just be a bit kinder to myself and realize that oh if i have one day where maybe i wasn't as focused as i
needed to be or like not as productive but i maybe did something else for me instead or like maybe i saw i had a really nice conversation with a friend instead or i finally got back to that one message i've been procrastinating to get back to for a long time you know like these things are
good enough and yeah and then again one thing that i'm very guilty of is just i will always focus on the lack of something like i will always be like i think this is my brain trying to protect myself obviously it's like a compensation or coping i don't know compensation exactly but it's always
i think my brain is trying to protect itself right so it's always like oh what is wrong like so that i can fix it yeah and i instead want to just again i think it's a goes a lot it hand in hand with gratitude like focus more on the positive then okay more things we're letting go of not getting
enough sleep big one like i want to keep going with a good routine i've been having of like going to bed at a healthy time i'm trying to wake up a bit earlier yeah i'm also gonna go of maybe become a virtual high intensity exercise i was going to quite a few i was like running a tiny bit
like over summer and i was doing like a couple of classes that were very high intensity which i do which i do enjoy but i do for me they feel like a very summer thing to do like it's hot you're in your shorts you know all this and then i think right now my heart is just i can feel myself like
again because i work so much at my laptop my posture i think i can feel myself getting quite a lot of like neck pains and stuff and i just want to do exercise that is a lot slower and it's very stretching focused um attachment to superficial things for example my appearance i want to be
able to like romanticize certain things about my appearance in terms of like my outfits and stuff and like you know put effort into those because it's fun to me but not be attached to photos or what i think i look like or ex-weisy pimples blah blah alcohol on the list actually because i've
noticed that i get hungovers like hungover so quickly now even if i have just one drink so i'm not saying i'm not gonna be drinking this autumn but i already i've been drinking so much less and i just just want to be more conscious of it like you know that i i just don't feel good the
morning after because i'm getting old up to be honest yeah and that's fine i feel like you don't drink that much though like i would i never i barely drink with you as well like whenever we hang out we don't drink no we always talk about drinking and then we have tea because i really i'd have no craving for it anymore now i had like i drink with work because i feel like again there's a certain like pressure to to be drinking and i maybe drink like wine with dinner like when i'm out with friends
and i think that's quite nice yeah like the few nights out i've had recently i just then the next day feel so definitely hungover yeah i think i guess there's different yeah no like what you mean i feel like there's a different level of consumption as well like but i know what you mean like moving to London i've been drinking so much more because i feel like there's that that's like one of the most like easy things to do of all let's just go to a pub and have a drink or something so i've been
drinking so much more but not a lot like i'll go for one drink or something so then or like two drinks which i think is then nice because then you're not really feeling it the next day so it doesn't feel as bad um but i'm telling you i now feel it after two drinks i had really on friday but again
this is also yeah when i'm out in London like i will also drink more because i my friends they're yeah more than the friends i have here now so they're just drinkers you know what i mean no again it's i think like the London lifestyle is a lot more like that nobody definitely is so we want to like a
perfume pop up on friday which was very cool and like an after party of the perfume pop up and i only had one spicy and i agree to and i was feeling it the next morning we were out of the night and i was like oh my god i mean i mean brave to go to do morning polaties after a night of
drinking so it was so cute actually it was great if you're north like it's probably exactly what you needed the movement studio it was amazing the teacher was the kind of teacher i have ever had in polaties she like took the time to like know every single person's name like she was very very
personable and she like recognized my friends who i went with and we're like oh my god my friends like so nice that you've come again and you've brought a friend and like it was really she was so lovely really really cute so they do reformer polaties as well we did like matte polaties but they
do a lot of different things in that studio so how like that is very very very very very taking way too long over scheduling i don't need to explain that being scared to say no also don't need to explain that saving things for a special moment this is oh what do you mean by that i think specifically
about my candle i have been given a candle when i left Samsung my old job which is a bireedo candle called like biblio take i don't know how to pronounce it properly but obviously it's like a scent of library and bireedo candles on products in general obviously like quite expensive and i
still haven't lit it and it's been over a year because i keep just thinking like oh i want to have like i want to save this candle i want to find a special moment and i saw this thing on instagram recently where it was like saving it for the perfect moment and then it's just like yeah
think of all the stickers like do you remember like as when you were a kid having like sticker books or something like that yeah yeah you can not use in your planner because you were seeing it yeah but probably so many childhood stickers went to waste that's so true because you never use them
because eventually you grow out of things and then it's such a waste of things are like you know not wearing that special coat or not wearing that dress because you don't want to see it for yeah an x-wasy day in the future when you don't know whether that day will come and you might as well
just try and enjoy it in the moment yeah so that's what i mean i love that i've actually been embracing that i've been embracing that mindset as well with the candles as well because they've they've already had to i've been here for what under two months and i've already had to like
replace almost all of my candles because i've been lighting them every single night but i'm like you know what i don't want to not lie to candle and enjoy it just because i'm trying to prolong me just getting the next one no just buy it i'll just use them and then buy any ones
they have in the moment living with marco has made me use candles less because he keeps saying that candles are unhealthy because they are very healthy and hurting to him take the oxygen from a room and then release toxins i feel like this is slander someone please look this up for me um that's probably why i'm always no i just think come on let us live like lighting a candle for an hour we'll just have the window open a little bit yeah i understand like okay if you leave a candle
burning and then like go to sleep that's probably not that good but or like if you have your door closed lighting a candle in your bedroom then you just blow it out and you don't let any fresh air in but yeah fair it's so funny yeah we protest now i'm comparing
we protest we protest right shall i say what i'm inviting in yes okay so i have more wholesome plans and activities with loved ones so i've made a list i want movie nights baking nights wine and cheese nights and pumpkin carving i really want to do that this year i did
it last year and i really had fun so i really had fun that's so much fun um so i want to do that again this year um i want to connect this is quite broad but i said connect more with others and have more meaningful experiences i what i mean by that is i've realized the most fun times that i have
is when i'm having just a really could i hate small talk and i hate really superficial conversations um and i have the most fun when i'm having just like a meaningful talk with someone it doesn't even have to be that deep but just like something i don't know someone sharing like an emotional moment
or just anything that has some meaning behind it and i think i just want to embrace more of those conversations or like put myself in situations where i'm fostering an environment to have those conversations because i just feel so much better afterwards so it's a selfish reason but we move on
it's fine um it's reading season say i want to be reading so much more i'm i'm like five books away from my goal of the year so i'm like definitely gonna hit that uh but i i just want to i don't know i'm just thinking i mean we're gonna do like a tbr of all the books to read and all of them so i just want to i want to make sure i'm reading all the cozy autumn books you know what i mean i completely agree okay good i'm glad we're on the same page part in the pump um so when i do that
um i also want to be tapping more into my creative side so i literally have a drawer not that one the one on the other side i don't know if you could see it but it literally has like all of my painting stuff and books like sketchbooks and pens and colorful art stuff which sometimes just get
trapped in there and i don't use them enough so i won't want to especially with days where like i don't want to be outside in the cold i can just be more creative so i'm gonna invite that side in um i've also i also want to invite fall movie marathons so i actually found a tech talk of someone
being like making a list of i don't know how to find it now but someone made a list of like all the movies you should watch in fall also someone did a list of all the fall the Gilmore Girls fall episodes so we're gonna collate what we find and put it in a whole podcast episode that's dedicated
to these yes exactly um so i want to do that and then i want to be what like i kind of links to something i'm letting go of but i want to just be embracing the autumn season outdoors as well so walking um enjoying the leaves enjoy like actually taking in the season changing and like
watching how it's affecting the environment around us that's it that's what i want to be inviting in cute i love it i very much agree on pretty much everything that you said get my first one was also reading amazing season art books oh my god i'm disinformed
i already have so most of these i've read but this one i actually haven't read if you can't see me on screen i'm pointing to a book pile behind me i'm pointing to you again i take gold back which is supposed to be kind of like a modern retelling of when harry met sally but in book form
boat it last year or maybe i got given it last year i don't remember but i haven't read it yet and then which is a book that i'm finishing still the others are old books that i have read will be including them in my um autumn recommendations for books but i in preparation for the autumn
tbr episode i have just spent around a half an hour two an hour like researching different books that i want to read cute and it just got me so extremely excited and i think my next one is going to be i know my next one is gonna be because i already downloaded it on my kindle
it's gonna be the very secret society of irregular witches by sangu oh my danna which is apparently a feel good fantasy about like a so cute and odd witch like someone who's like someone who doesn't quite fit in traditionally but she's a witch so cute um
and then what else obviously good my girls yeah i want to i want to actually watch some more seasonal content because i think there's so many movies that i still haven't read or like a bit more spookier movies that i haven't watched no read that i haven't watched or i want to rewatch certain
things and i haven't really been watching much at all recently and i think i i want to just yeah get do that a little bit more i don't know why i don't really have time but i'll make it i'll make it somehow i'm sorry and i'm appreciating the little moments i think this is something that
goes and i would like what you were saying in terms of like just appreciating even just like things like the leaves crunching beneath your boots or like the fact that you know you're gonna be able to wear jeans and like i was wearing my tranche coat again in London and i thought maybe
very happy and just like getting getting a chai you know from your local coffee shop again and these things and i put beneath that romanticize every day very much the same thing but just yeah yeah making an active effort to i know this is my favorite season like i got to just soak
in every moment because it only comes once a year so you know i i've got quite a lot of travel these couple of months like i'm obviously London i going to Hamburg in a couple days i'm going to Venice for 10 days actually in October so there's probably a bit more travel in there than like
i would have chosen because i love like the slowness of things in autumn but yeah at the same time i think it's gonna give me the opportunity to just see autumn in different places and i think you know i just again instead of complaining that i have to be in different places i just want to
see the beautiful things about it and i also love traveling because it allows me to read more so you know yeah you should position it that you get to experience autumn like four or five different versions of autumn in different places yes so think of it that way i do think autumn and italy
i i haven't like it's not been my summer so far but we are going to the mountains as well so i think that yeah that will be beautiful it would be so beautiful very excited then i put down quality versus quantity time i think this kind of goes and i would like me being scared to say no
like sometimes i think i'll say yes to too many plans because i want to you know do everything and not say no to anything and not miss out on anything but then i can sometimes i get overwhelmed and actually i think i want to see be more selective when saying things like yes to things because
i at the end of the day i know myself like especially with travel i always i need some times like decompress and you know i know which activities i enjoy doing so i want to just focus more on quality versus quantity and then actually enjoy the times when i am spending time with people
even more and be a hundred percent in it then this is kind of a big one no it's not but it's something that i've been trying to do which is why does that sound so bitchy i'm trying to do i want to discover my wardrobe again like i want to start i kind of been doing this a little bit like re
like discovering old pieces from my wardrobe which i have had for a while and reweir it and find ways to combine them and like be inspired by Pinterest or outfits i see on the street yeah i have just i just started making a vision board for like my terminal sets because
so i think i do have a lot of pieces that i at some point liked and either have like never worn or have worn loads with them because i word so much at a certain point like now i don't want to wear them again because you associate it with like a yeah yeah so i think and especially also
moving to a new city i think i had certain things in mind of like oh this is like for me associated to London and like what i used to wear in a corporate environment or x x wazee and i i want to yeah get rid of those associations and just you know try and have fun with my full wardrobe saying
that also again i just don't want to you know just be buying different things and be you know too affected by like oh i want to i'm not i'm not good as i am like i need to buy all these things yeah i'm saying that i did buy something new which i want to show wait i have a question
you know how you ordered your the dress from them so whatever the place is got did it arrive no no no i didn't arrive in time so i'm gonna have to go oh no i because i was silly i knew that i wanted to order it like next day delivery
and i did but i waited a day too long so then it arrived on the evening that i left so i missed it but it's fine because my friends are coming on the 25th of September so they can bring it for me so it's like i'll still have it for a big chunk of autumn yeah thanks the cutest dress ever
yeah look at the cute so cute i'm sure excited and like look at this vibe oh i'm really looking forward to it so this is the one purchase i fill out myself which i now have to wait for which is obviously absolutely hard but it's okay it's so hard and that's cute then i want to go to more galleries i
love galleries so much i will continue with my driving lessons baking i also want to do cute we we did like a baking thing together with some friends here in Amsterdam where um he's Dutch and he told us how to make an apple pie and then we were saying
it turns up like people each of us like teaching the other the other people how to make a certain you know baked good yeah and that i was we were we were eating the dough of the like the you know the pie crust now i was just reminded of how good cookie dough is like why does one stop eating
that as an adult for some reason i know i used to eat it all the time as a teenager and as a kid i just like i don't know i need to start baking it and i need to just eat cookie dough i always find that it tastes better before you like before you actually cook it
genuinely the guy i genuinely enjoy it more than after it's baked and then you're eating it i enjoy the cookie dough more same yeah yeah but i agree no i'm not sure the same even with like cake butter i literally prefer it before it becomes a cake it's just so good also i want to recommend
the puzzle that i that i mean we're still making i think we're going to finish it today but i think it's so cute and very i think a lot of the podcasts this news will enjoy it yeah it's called the greatest bookshop ever or something and i we just put it on amazon but it's so cute
because it has all of like the childhood books that like i grew up with and i had so much fun like piecing it together i'm being able to like seal the different titles and it was so sweet and hold some still just doing puzzles in general is so cute yeah and again very good for this season i
think yeah oh you know what i've been starting to do i feel like i'm gonna get back into it during the autumn months i've been doing seduco oh i love seduco and it's so fun i literally this morning was drinking my coffee and i phone my sister for a bit and while we were talking i just had my
seduco bucket i was just like doing seduco it was very very fun that's so cute i do mine on the new york times app i love the new york times app you have you still been doing now yeah i'm i still do my LinkedIn games you know i have a streak now and everything i can't believe that and maybe i
know i still recommend it it's so one one of them in particular it's kind of like seduco yes but with colors and it's very very addictive okay send it to me i will do anyways okay shall we i think that's it for this yeah we've set up so yeah definitely a good exercise to just
think about i feel like autumn is again the season of like reflection as well and like anything you want to get rid of and everything you want to begin and take forward for the rest of the year so i hope you felt inspired by this episode and i've just also had a chance to kind of
just think of the things that you want to let go of and the things that you want to kind of bring in for the upcoming seasons seasons upcoming season love it and love it this week's episode but actually we'll probably be uploading more than one episode this week so he he look forward to it amazing okay okay well have you guys speak do you in the next one bye