Okay. Awesome. So let's dive in. Why are you here? Get connected to purpose. Clarity and focus. Clarity and focus, alignment, to heal, To reset my nervous system? That's cool. Implement. Implement? Okay. Great. So here's what we think. Okay. We think perhaps you want more time. Who wants more time to do what's most important to them? Let me see what's show it. You guys in the back? You guys are good on time? Just curious. You good? Oh, you're good.
Congratulations. Okay. Great. Awesome. Who wants more money? Let me see if I show a hands. Alright. Money follows purpose. And who wants more freedom? Let me see if I show a hands. Okay. So the other thing is we see people really want more impact. Who wants to make more of an impact out there even if you're already doing that? Who wants to have more purpose in life? Obviously, that's the title of the workshop. Right? But, also, who sent it clarity? Who wants
clarity? Yes. What the do I do? Okay. I got you. And finally, also, who wants to get started? Who's ready to get started? Alright. What about create momentum? You said by show of hands. Most importantly, who wants to never go back? Okay. You are in the right room. Okay? It is nice to meet you. You have arrived at Hogwarts. Okay. Welcome home. So look around. These are your people. And by the way, this is not Slytherin. This is Gryffindor, bitches. Okay? Okay. This is
Gryffindor. These are your people. If you're used to meeting people who are not your people, That ended the 2nd you walked in this door. Okay? Because these are people not because it's a cult, because you guys have the same values. Whatever we're putting out into the world, the messages that we're putting out there, you resonated with that on a values level, and the people around you did too. So this can become a new tribe for you who follows. Does it make sense? Okay. Awesome. So
let's start from the very beginning. I need to know what stage of purpose you're in. So just kinda See here. Don't raise your hand just yet. I'm gonna give you these different stages. 1st one is I don't know what my life's purpose is or if I have one. I thought I knew what it was, but then I lost it. I know what it is, but I'm not living it. I'm living it, but I'm not thriving, or I'm living it, and I'm thriving in it. So just for a second, think about where you are right now.
And have you always been there, or has it been different before? It shifted. It's been growing. But today, where are you? So who's at number 1? Let me see if I show hands. Okay. Cool. Number 2? Number 3? Number 4. Number 5. Nice. I'm between 4 and 5. Closer to 4 or 5. I have at work and at home. So How are you? Sure. Sure. I understand. Okay. So you can see around the room that there's a lot of people at different stages here. I have to talk to all of you
and unite the room around common definitions and stuff like that. Okay? Now no matter what stage you're at, one of the things people are always debating is when should I start? Right now. Right now. Well, okay. You say that now, but let's talk yeah. Exactly. Exactly. When is the right time to start? After I'm clear. No. No. Not after I'm clear. We'll tell about why in a second, for sure. The right time to start was Yesterday, so we'll settle for win. Now you need to become
a procrastinator. Okay. And the the the archetypal procrastinator is the rabbit in Alice in Wonderland who's late for an important date. Okay. Well, I gotta fucking do this shit. Right? That's how I I'm I've been that way since I was born. I don't know why. Okay? But I like to do shit now. I don't have a sense of the future. Like, I'll do it in 6 months. That has never been how I've been, but after working with so many clients, there's this
debate about when the right time to start is. I'm a show you the graph. Alright? So here's your birth, And here's your death. Where do you start? Here's what I think people believe. You tell me. So I was too young back in the day, and in the recent past, I was too old. And today, it's too late. Whose things that may have been how you thought before you walked in here even? Let me see if I show your hands. It's too late. Is anyone feel like
it's too late? It's okay if you are. It's a good thing to admit. Who here feels like it's almost too late? Who here does not wanna admit they feel any of those ways because when you admit that it's late. It's embarrassing. Anybody who's curious? Okay. So so this is how most people think is that it's too late. That's too late. Okay? Now here's what actually is true. This is the actual truth. Okay? Birth and death. Okay. Now so still good. Also good. Also good. Also
good. Even here, good. But when you die, It's too late. Who here is dead? I don't think anyone has died. You're dead? How did you raise your hand? Right? We have a zombie in the room. Yes. A zombie. Right? Is it too late, ladies and gentlemen? No. No. Look left and right and go, it's not too late. Alright. So let's do this. Alright? Now I wanna start with this. Do you know what to do, but you're not actually doing it? We've talked about
it a little bit. Who here has read the books, taken the courses, done the thing, and I'm still not doing it? Let me see if I show hands. Okay. Awesome. So let's talk about that. What part of you is most responsible for you actually taking action? The adult part. Functional brain. Some part of my brain. Very good. Yes. Your nervous system. It's your nervous system. Okay? It's not your muscles. It's not your bones. It's your nervous system, and, yes, your
brain is a part of it. It's actually not the most of it, though. The majority of your nervous system is here down. It's here down. So I know why is this so I don't know. By the way, if you ever don't do this right now, but if you ever Google the nervous system and all you saw was the nervous system, like, extracted from the human body, it looks really nervous. But it looks nervous because the eye there's nothing around the eyes. It looks like it's going like this or something. Like, it's really
it's it looks kinda nervous. Right? It does. Okay. So we wanna understand that understanding alone keeps you stuck. If all you're seeking is mentalization, understanding, that's why you're stuck. We wanna get to embodiment, meaning the actual shift in your body. Who follows? Okay. Understanding here does not lead to new
action. Okay. In neuroscience, that means cortical, which is a mental concept that you understand in the prefrontal cortex, I'll show you a graph in a second, Is where understanding exists. Shifts actually in behavior are subcortical, meaning limbic system down into the body. My is it you guys with me on this? Okay. Very important. The other way you can think about it is a nervous system terms, inflexible nervous system versus
a flexible nervous system. You might have a flexible fascia. You may have flexible hamstrings. You may be able to do lotus pose or whatever. Cool. Awesome. Right? But if you don't have a nervous system flexibility, you get stuck in emotional states, and you can't get out. Who follows? Right? And so we'll talk about that more in, like, right now. Okay? So here's this is the brain now. This is not the entire nervous system. Okay? And this
is not exactly accurate. It's just the best one I could find. Okay. So here's a great quote. Brains are wired through hands on interaction with the physical world. No amount of study will get you there. No amount of understanding will get you there. You can't think yourself into a meal. No. Okay. I see broccoli, kale. All my macros are there. Perfect. I'm home. I'm full. That's not how it works. Right? You actually gotta eat. Right? So we wanna get the actual shift. So in the cortical brain, we
have executive function. We have critical thinking. We have creativity, problem solving, And, also, the prefrontal cortex and the cortical brain comes on later in development. Okay? Which is why when you have a child, they can't Think through things because they don't have the machinery yet. Okay. We're born with subcortical stuff, which is emotional reactive and younger And subconscious. So when you get into your reactive self, you're back in those default patterns. Is
it cortical or subcortical? It's like you guys are getting so smart. It's awesome. It's all good. Okay? I'll you'll be, like, at your therapist later, something like, yeah. Well, that's a very subcortical response. They're like, what did you say? Right? So cortical brain is Thinking things through executive function. And here's the thing, when you get triggered emotional, stuck emotionally, what happens to the cortical executive functions, all the important stuff? Goes completely offline. So in
many ways, this is not a judgment. It's just true. Scared is stupid. And what I mean by that is you're not stupid, but you're behaving in a way that's not smart because you're not using the part of your brain that's actually smart. You're in response. Who follows? Right? So part of our goal is to get that executive function back online. But the other thing is is that to do that, we have to have a subcortical shift. So what comes cortical or subcortical?
Subcortical comes first. You gotta have a body shift before you can actually get it online. Okay? And, like, everything in trauma healing and everything, executive Function therapy, all that stuff. The goal is to get this the cortical mind here. I can think things through. I can see more options. Since I can be optimistic and pragmatic at the same time, I can have an emotional response and go, hey. That's my history, not my present moment. Let me make a different
shift, But you cannot do that by yourself. That's not how this works. Well, we're getting to that. Okay? So what creates the inflexible nervous system then? That's right. What type of trauma, though? There's lots of types. That's right. Emotional trauma. Emotional trauma creates a flexible nervous system. Now let me ground this in symptoms that you might understand. Okay? Because sometime people do not understand what trauma is At a at a large
at a at a large level. And I realized this during the whole Kavanaugh doctor Ford thing. You guys remember that, like, about a year ago? Right? Like like, people were like, don't believe her. She's lying. It's like, woah. That's not how traumatic memory works. Like, in traumatic memory, you remember the Trauma very clearly. It's like the lodge in the hippocampus, but you don't remember before and after. It's gone. And they asked their questions about before and after to discredit her,
and then people believed it. Was like, how the do you believe it? That's not how trauma works. So what I realized was okay. Cool. That's an injustice, and it's bad. There's all the kinds of politics, But it's also ignorance of what trauma is. Because the trauma informed conversations is bubbling up, but it's not mainstream yet. Part of my intention is maybe Mainstream. Very important. Very important. Okay. So let's talk about it. Here are
some symptoms. Okay? Anxiety, depression, PTSD, insomnia, shame, anger, fear, Hypervigilance or perfectionism, procrastination or the inability to achieve goals, lack of empathy or bullying, impaired capacity for self protection, Self doubt or imposter syndrome, feeling worthless or defective, self harm, suicidal ideation, lack of trust or reciprocity in relationships, ADD or chronic disorganization, oppositional defiance disorder, bipolar disorder,
dissociative and personality disorders. Essentially, the entire DSM, except for a couple, except for a couple, there's a couple actual medical things in there. But in general, the d what is the DSM? The diagnostics and statistics manual for mental health disorders, volume 5. Okay? The DSM, which is what Clinicians use to diagnose you with different disorders, okay, is simply a list of all the different ways the human nervous system can become dysregulated
Based on emotional trauma and their history. Almost every one of them. Almost every there's a couple. Okay. Now What is the purpose of the DSM and those diagnoses? What's the purpose of it? There's only 1 purpose. Not just insurance. And so the clinician Can you get paid by insurance? So the DSM exists as an economic agenda for the healthcare system. It does not give a about you. And here's the thing. Don't go to the butcher to try to be a vegan. Don't do that shit.
Don't you understand you're killing the animals? No. I'm a butcher. This is what I And do. Right? If you wanna be a vegan, go to the kale field. Okay? Not the butcher. Go to The vegetable aisle. Okay? Don't go to the meat aisle. Because is the supermarket gonna get rid of a meat aisle because of your philosophies around veganism? No. Right? So is the mental health community, which is not bad, but is it gonna get rid of the DSM because we say that it's not what it's supposed to be? No. It has a
purpose. That's what it's for. It's for the medical model to be able to have practitioners to make money. That's what it's for. Cool. It's just not accurate. It's not trauma informed. And part of my job is to help clinicians make money in a different way so they don't have to do that shit. Right? That's very important because I believe Dissociative identity response, depressive response. And by the way, treatment resistant depression, that's not your fault. That's a treatment's fault.
Everyone's nervous system has an appropriate response to what's happening. So if someone's treatment resistant, it means a treatment sucks. It doesn't mean that something's wrong with you. Who follows? Oh my god. You're suffering from treatment resistant depression. Actually, do you think as a clinician, maybe you're just a bitch and I don't like you? I don't know. I don't know. Right? I don't know. Because here's the thing. I'll tell you what's true. Okay? Look. I'm
not against clinicians. The system needs to shift. The system needs a shift. What creates transformation and for practitioner client relationships is you have safety between the client and the practitioner. Is it treatment resistant, or is it appropriate response not feeling safe? Probably that for the the for the second one who follows. This makes sense? So Start to think about where where what what symptoms do you have? You
they're in the workbooks. I'm gonna check them out, and you can see how long have they been there. And maybe you've overpathologized yourself because here's the thing. That's right. We'll get to that. That's correct. Yes. So here's the thing. Okay? The diagnoses based on symptom clusters are accurate. Here's a cluster of symptoms. What's not accurate is where the come from. Because medication may or may not work long term. May or may not.
It may save a life in the short term, but here's the thing. If you had a traumatic sexual encounter as a child. No amount of Zoloft is gonna undo that. You gotta heal the nervous system who follows. Right? So we have to have a complete shift towards that, And I can't wait around for all the evidence to take 20 or 30 years to come to you. I'm just pushing it forward uncredentialed, but fully disclosed about what I have and don't have. Okay. That's my goal. So start to think
about where are you here? Okay? And Paul just said this. He wrote polyvagal theory. This is one of my favorite things ever. Okay? There's no such thing as a bad response. These are adaptive Responses. Procrastination, perfectionism, overthinking, not completing things, stress, anxiety, depression are adaptations That your nervous system has brilliantly made because of what happened to you. And you may not remember what happened to
you, but your nervous system does. Who follows? See, there's 2 types of memory. There's implicit and explicit memory. What the does that mean, Mastin? Implicit memory very simply states, it's the stuff that you don't know you know. It's like, I just feel anxious, and I don't know why. I feel sad. I don't know why. That's there's an implicit memory in there. Something happened in your history That's causing you to have a response now, but you just don't know what
it is. Explicit memory is, oh, that's what happened. You get clear about that. And one of the most important things we can do Is to make what's implicit, meaning not known to us, but in there,
explicit, meaning we know what it is. That's a huge deal because as a child, we don't have the skill sets To use words sometimes, to get our needs met sometimes, and so we just repeat the same wound over and over and over and over again, but we don't know and it sounds like, my picker's broken in relationships.
The thing was, what if you don't remember? You do remember. It's just what part of you does and what part of you is not letting your conscious mind remember because dissociation Is not knowing what you know. That's what being dissociated means. I don't know what I know. I'm pushing it away,
and that's a survival response who follows. This makes sense? So the cool thing about neuroscience is it helps us deshame and depathologize what we've been told about what we think may or may not be wrong with us. Because nothing is wrong with you. You have brilliantly coped. You've made it, and that shit is over. Now we have to let your nervous system know. It's the follows. Okay? Very important. Okay?