Let's dive in. Okay. So after 20 1,000 hours y'all of doing this work and working with thousands of people and being in doing this work for over 15 years, I'd have to be, well, I have to not be paying attention to not notice a few things. Okay? Now I'm a college dropout, which I've shared, but I dropped out of college to get my dream job. I would
argue, though, that my knowledge base is pretty significant. I can go toe to toe with most PhDs and MDs and and all the type of stuff on knowledge base and also being an entrepreneur myself and, living life. The lived experience has been very powerful, but here's what I'll tell you. Okay? And I want you to just really hear this for a second. Okay? Human beings repeat what they don't resolve. We repeat what we don't resolve. Now we know this all the
way back from Freud's work. He called it repetition compulsion, but we have a tendency to repeat what we don't resolve. Now who here has ever dated the same person different shoes? You thought, oh, if I just change the person, the outcome will be different. Who's I'm talking about? Right? Maybe you started multiple businesses. They all ended up the same way. Maybe you've lost a £10010 times, 10 different ways. Right? But if you
gained it and lost it and gained it and lost it. Right? Over and over and over again. Who here has ever repeated the same shit over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over again. I'm curious. Okay? Alright. So here's the deal. We repeat what we don't resolve in relationships, in business, in life, in health and wellness, in every area of life who follows. Does it make sense? Right? And as you consider that, what does it feel
like to get to think about that? Right? What's it sound like to think about that? What do you notice when you start to recognize that could be possible that what you're repeating is what you're not resolving? What happens in your body emotionally, physically? Right? What do you think about? What happens for you when you consider that? Is it frustrating? Is it liberating? Is it exciting? It feels defeating. It feels frustrating. It feels sorrow. Okay. So deflating. So why do
you think that you're responding that way? Right? Why do you think it's sorrowful, deflating, discouraged? What do you think that's about? What do you think the frustration is about? Why is it not like, oh my God. I just need to go resolve this. Right? Why do you why do you think that most of us start to go, I feel like, ugh, this doesn't feel so good. How come? Feeling stuck? That's right. Because here's this is what I think. Okay? You haven't had the skill set to know how to resolve it. That's
what I think. It's a missing skill set. You don't know how to resolve it. And here's what I mean by this. Okay? The thing they don't talk about in trauma healing land is that when you increase complexity in your life, it increases stress. As you
increase stress, it presses back on the old pathways. So you go from a single to in a relationship, in a relationship to maybe you're gonna be, engaged, engagement to married, married to having children, children to starting a business together, every step along the way increases challenge.
Right? You have an idea for a business, then you register the domain, you actually get the LLC, then you start putting yourself on social media, then you start, you know, making sales, and you start coaching people, and you have to hire a team, and then you get to all it gets more and more complex who follows. This makes sense? Right? So what we believe is levels of resolution happen at certain levels. So the example would be a video game. Right? Jumanji. Right? Level
1 resolution. Level 2 resolution. Level 3 resolution. Level 4 resolution. Some of y'all are on level 71 resolution, level 99 resolution, level 55 resolution, level 7,456 resolution. Meaning, every time we try to level up, we repeat our history in some version because we're putting more stress on our system. And as we do that, we default back to old survival reflexes. So when we resolve trauma from the past, we do it for our current level of stress who falls. This makes
sense? Because remember, when you drop down, you drop down in your states when you increase stress. And so it's important to recognize that there is no permanent resolution if you're ambitious. Your problem is your ambition. If you weren't ambitious and you're okay with things the way things were, we wouldn't have a problem, but you want more. Who here wants more? You want more, just pop in the chat. Give me a thumbs up. There is no permanent resolution. So we repeat what we don't
resolve and we don't resolve. We are not resolved for our next level ever. So you get to the next level, you hit a baseline, then there's another level baseline. Another level baseline goes on forever. Who follows? Does it make sense? And they do say new level, new devil. It's actually new level, same devil. Right? Because we have 5 or 6 conditioned ways in which we respond to the past, and it's just a new version of it. Right? You do it with no money in the bank, a $1,000,000 in
the bank, $10,000,000 in the bank, a $100,000,000 in the bank. The next level, we have not resolved yet. Who falls? This makes sense? So we wanna be nicer to yourself. Okay? And what I could tell you is I had to learn this the hard way. If you recall, you know, I did all that work. I, like, went to the seminars, did the somatic work, like, did all the talk therapy, did all the stuff, and I finally created what looks like success. And then in many ways, it was there was a lot of success in what I
created. Right? On Oprah, Louise Hayes coming to my events, offering me book deals. But what I didn't know at the time, so I was so busy focused on manifesting and not, understanding achievement and healing on the nervous system that I didn't know that I would recreate my childhood conditions in my business, my finances, my relationships, or my health. And so I thought I was doing something wrong. I thought I was doing something wrong. Right? But I didn't recognize that, wait a minute. I'm gonna
repeat this shit. Just because I talked about it one time with my therapist, I figured out where it came from doesn't mean it's resolved for my next level of hardship, my next level of desire, my next level of creativity. Right? If you wanna go from making no money to $1,000,000 in your business, that's gonna be more complex. If you wanna go from single to married with kids, that's more complex. If you wanna go from overweight to a a a highly efficient fit
body, that's a more complex life. Who understands now that your ambition is making your life more complex? Does that make sense? You're increasing stress because you want more. Okay? So it's important to recognize as you increase stress, as you do progressive overload, you stress the system, the old reflexes start to come back. And so we wanna be aware of that. Okay? Because we repeat our childhood conditioning in our relationships, in our finance, in our business, and in our health. We
do. That's what we've noticed over so many years of doing this work is it's like, oh my god. Here we are again. It's just showing up differently this time. Okay? And so what we believe, what we've seen is being stuck in healer or achiever dominance and be a sign that you are recreating childhood programming in your manifesting journey. So if you're stuck in healer, if you're stuck in achiever and you're burning out, or
you're feeling, feeling, feeling, feeling, feeling, but not doing, Okay? Those are signs you could be repeating childhood conditioning again. So let me give you some examples of common signs of what we've seen might indicate that you are repeating childhood conditioning. So if you're constantly putting other people's needs before your own self care and you're neglecting yourself, that could be it. Perfectionism, the fear of making
mistakes, blocking action, that could be a sign. Difficulties celebrating successes or receiving praise could be a sign. Procrastination on big goals out of the fear of failure could be a sign. Overworking to, prove your worth or leading at least a burnout could be assigned. Avoiding asking for help, even when you're overwhelmed and really need it. I have very I work on this still. I'm I'm like, I can't just asking for help for me is still so hard. I work on it so much,
but that's a big one, for me personally. Difficulties setting boundaries with other people can be a sign. Hesitate to speak up or share your ideas when you have them. Downplaying your abilities or accomplishments.
Feeling unworthy of abundance or success, being afraid of failure because you've failed in the past, thinking that you aren't smart enough or you aren't good enough, needing the permission of somebody else, a spouse, a partner, a husband, a friend, somebody else, before you move forward with the things that you want to do, and never having the time or money to do the things that you want to do. So if you have any of these things, the the likelihood that you're recreating traffic
conditioning is significantly high. Whoever it feels like, you see yourself in 1 or a few of these things. Okay? Because we're starting to identify the issues. Okay? So we can go, wait a minute. Hold on a second. I always tell myself I don't have the time for this. The things I want. I always tell myself I don't have the money for this. I always wanna get somebody else's permission, go around to committees, and ask for things and don't even know. I always tell myself
I'm afraid of failure because it's not gonna work for me. Who here, if you really think about think about it, could really be honest with yourself and go, you know what? Every time I wanna move forward, I tell myself the same shit about why I can't. You say it's always time. It's always money. It's always other people's approval. It's always fear. It's always guilt. It's always shame. It's always something. Right. Who here can be willing to admit that to yourself at the next level, you tell
yourself the same story. You give yourself the same reason for why you can't. Is that true? So here's the deal. Okay? Through a healing lens, the reasons why you can't are parts of you that we want to resolve through performance, through a new action. So what that means is going backwards is not gonna help you resolve it now. We wanna create a new outcome. Okay? But let's just know you're always gonna tell yourself, I don't have the time. I don't have
the money. I don't have the capability. I'm too afraid of this. I have too much guilt. I have too much shame. It didn't work in the past. It's never gonna work for me. It's never gonna work. It's easy for everybody else. Every time. It's gonna happen every dang time you level up. Okay? God forbid you have a setback, then you're really gonna tell yourself those things.
Okay? So let's just be so clear that we have default reflexes on why we think we can't that could be based in true experiences that we've had, but may not be useful now. Who falls? Makes sense? Okay? We're just we were with so many people not to see this. So let me be clear about something. Okay? What happened in the past is not your fault. What happened to you? Or if you're neglected in my case, what didn't happen to you, not your fault. But it is up to you to make the most of it now. Who
follows? Makes sense y'all? Okay. So we wanna be I wanna be very clear about that. Okay. So we're not blaming you for the trauma, but we are saying, hey. You're in the driver's seat. I got one more thing to tell you. I got one more warning. I'm gonna give you a warning. Okay? Here's the warning. People who manifest their dream life do the right thing when it's the hardest thing to do. We do the right thing when it's the hardest thing to do. We don't ask for
better conditions. We make the best of what we got now. Yes or no. Are you in, are you here to do the right thing when it's the hardest thing to do? Not when it's convenient? Yes or no. So that you could have the life of your dreams so that you could have the relationship that you want so that you can be able to have the body that you want so that you can make the impact that you wanna live so that you can find
your purpose so that you can not let your past define you. So we wanna start to recognize that your blocks are pretty familiar actually because we human beings store our experiences and use, what we've been through to condense the response into a reflex. So we just reflexively get quiet. We reflexively procrastinate. We reflexively do these things. It's because in the past, it was the most efficient thing for you to do based on what happened
in the past. Okay? Who follows? This makes sense? So we start with this assumption because we repeat what we do not resolve, and we're always growing, so we haven't resolved the next level yet. Okay? The next thing to do is you get trauma informed, manifesting coaching and support. So if you understand, okay, I'm going on this journey. I'm going to recreate on some level my conditioning. I just know that because that's how that's how we're wired as as
humans. The first thing I need to do is get trauma informed manifesting coaching and support because I can't do it by myself. If If you do it by yourself, you're gonna, end up right back where you are. The third thing to do is to find a purpose for your manifesting that is stronger than your healer or achiever dominance. Right? Who is this for? Is it for your children? Is it for a cause that's greater than you? Is it
because you don't want to have the people who hurt you win? Do you want to be a cycle breaker where you're the 1st person in your lineage to break this cycle? Right? Why are you doing this? If you realize you're likely gonna recreate your patterns, if you recognize you need trauma informed manifesting support, and then you say, you know what? I have a reason beyond my current conditions to do this. Then we can start to move. But
without those things, you're not gonna know. And here's the thing. Okay? Part of the reason why piecing things together is so complicated and hard is you're not going in the same direction. The thing about purpose in life is that it organizes a direction for you, and it organizes a reason why. Most of us I would say probably nobody here is a narcissist. So it's not like you need to be the center of
attention at all times and your reason is because you're so great. Most people do it for their kids, for their parents, to cycle break because there's a mission they feel called for. It's the reason when you don't wanna do it that you do it anyway. Right? I don't wanna feel these feelings. I don't wanna slow down, or I don't wanna actually, stretch myself because I need to I need to resolve it 1st. Nope. We gotta move it forward. Right? And let me just give you an example here. Okay? Especially
for the healer types. Okay? Okay? Think about all the things we tell ourselves about why we can't. We We gotta resolve it first. I have to be aligned with minor minor self. I have to feel it. I have to feel good. All these things. Right? Now cancel cancel universe is just an example, but just hear this for a second. Okay? Let's just imagine you're in a movie theater. Okay? And the screen catches on fire. Okay? What are you gonna do? You're gonna run. Okay. Great answer. Love that.
Leave. How fast are you gonna run? How quickly are you gonna leave? How fast? Look around for help and then leave. Okay. Like you've seen bolt. Very okay. But what if Mercury's in retrograde? What if Mercury's in retrograde? Is that could you should you stay inside? Come on, guys. Mercury's in retrograde. We can't hit you take action right now. Okay? Hold on a second. But what if you're a Pisces? Come on, y'all. What if you didn't talk to your
oracle card deck yet? What if you didn't pray to Jesus yet? Come on. You didn't do your cold plunge. You didn't do your morning routine. Come on now. Come on. Right? Did you ask your partner for permission first? Right? Why are you moving? Yes. Bleed the blood, but then bleed. Yes. Okay? Right. It's the only solution because you have a sense of danger. Okay? And the thing is most of us wait until we're in danger to move. Okay? We wait way too long. Purpose helps
you move sooner. Having a reason why helps you move sooner. It helps you move through the uncertainty. It helps you move through the things that would normally stop you. But if you recognize I'm gonna repeat shock and conditioning, I'm gonna have some type of trauma informed coaching and support. And I have a reason beyond myself. Now we can really get into performance. Who follows? Does this make sense? Because if you're doing it for someone else or for something larger than yourself,
right, what can you go through? Is it worth slowing down? Is it worth speeding up? Right. Think about that for a second. What's possible for you. If you have a strong enough reason why, if it's to be a cycle breaker, if it's to, because you have to, for your kids or you have to, for your parents, you have to, for this mission, Right. Anything is possible. That's right.