There are 7 primary emotions that we are either trying to feel or trying to not feel. Okay? Just 7. Anger, which also could be assertiveness or stress, sadness, which could be grief or guilt also, attachment, which could be closeness, sexual feelings, positive feelings about yourself, believe it or not, feeling good about yourself. People we try to avoid that. Okay. They're it's gonna be sad or or scared scary to feel good about yourself. Excitement or interest, and joy and
enjoyment. So what this means is think about where you're stuck in your life right now. Pick an area where you're stuck right now. Could be business, could be work, and it could be, family, could be relationships, could be health. But, like, pop it in the chat and let me know the area or in the comments. Let me know the area where you're stuck. Relationship? Okay. What else? Work, feeling safe. But what area are you feeling safe in, Donna? Is it, like, is it business
or where? Business? Okay. So let's think about on some level, do you know what you have to do to move forward? Finances. Right. Yeah. I was going back to this moving forward. Okay. On some level, do you have a cognitive understanding of what you need to do to move forward? Some basic level of understanding at least. You have a some idea of what you gotta do? Yes. I would imagine. Okay. Now as you start to move forward, what emotion do you run into? Is
it anger, assertiveness, or stress? And do you shut it down? Is it sadness or grief? Do you shut it down? Is it attachment or the lack of attachment and closeness? Do you shut it down? Is it sexual feelings? Do you shut it down? You have to feel good about yourself, but then people don't get too big on your britches. Maybe you get excitement. Nope. Gotta shut that down. Can't be too excited. I can't enjoy this. Right? So think about that. But the fear
of change manifest as what though, see. Right? And the fear of what, Lynn? What are you afraid of? Is it sadness? Is it grief? Is it closeness? Think about this for a second. Could you get on board with there are, like, 1 or 2 emotions that you basically are avoiding. And all the work that you've done on some level has been to help you feel everything but. Okay? Everything but grief, everything but abandonment, everything but
anger. I'll do all the breath work in the world, just don't make me feel grief. I'll do all the somatic work in the world just don't make me feel angry. Right? I'll do all the mindset coaching in the world, but don't let me feel good about myself. Don't let me express my excitement again. Don't let me get my hopes up. Who here can see that you've oriented on some level your life and where you're stuck around not feeling an emotion or 2. And you're basically trying to negotiate with this emotion.
Okay. Well, I won't feel grief, but I'll do parts work. Or I won't feel grief, but I'll do breath work. Or I won't feel this, but I'm gonna go do that. Who here can, on some level, start to see that there's an emotion or 2 that you're avoiding? Does that make sense? And when we orient your life around not feeling a certain emotion, well, all of a sudden, everything stops. Right? And when we talk about nervous system regulation, nervous system regulation is not calmness.
Nervous system regulation is the ability to experience the full spectrum of human emotion and not become dysregulated. So nervous system regulation is not a code word for avoiding your emotions. Nervous system regulation is like muscles that give you strength to lift more. Who falls? Does it make sense? If you get stronger when you're weight lifting, right, and the weights get lighter, Do the weights get lighter because the weight changed or because you got stronger? I'm curious.
Right? You got stronger. Right? And so it's important to recognize that this is about learning how to handle, navigate, create capacity, get stronger with these emotions, not plan your life to avoid them, not plan your life to be overwhelmed by them. Who follows? Does this make sense? Does this make sense y'all? Okay. Super, super important that we understand that. Okay? So when we think about this situation, okay, what happens with a lot of people is we get into, like, high level
coping. Okay? Because what this means is you're not maybe in, like, addiction or you're not in those types of things, but you're you are basically saying, okay. Well, I'll do the breath work, but I'm not gonna feel the grief. And so we get stuck in I wanna feel this, but don't feel this. And the problem is what you do to not feel is what's stopping you. What you do when you feel things that are hard to feel is what's stopping you. I wanna feel
this, but don't wanna feel this. I wanna feel joy, but don't feel the anger. Right? I wanna feel closeness, but don't feel the grief. Now I wanna be positive about myself, but not feel guilty. Who follows? Does it make sense? Does it make sense? Okay. And so this is the problem. Okay? And so when we start to think about the when you move forward, you're gonna move forward when your nervous system feels safe enough to feel and experience
and release specific emotions that you've been avoiding. And these emotions are everything, meaning these emotions power your decisions. These emotions power whether you can move forward or not. These are the biggest, indicators of your ability to either live the life that you want or not is how well do you navigate these emotions. It's an emotional game. Who follows? Make sense? Okay. It's it always comes down to that. So either you're avoiding or not feeling
specific emotions. And so we talk about nervous system resilience, Kipp about nervous system growth, nervous system capacity. You've come to the, weight training masterclass for your nervous system and emotions. This is the emotion weight training situation here. We're gonna help you get stronger, not to push through, not to burn out, but so that you can handle a bigger life. Who follows? Does it make sense? If you want a bigger
life, we have to have more capacity in your nervous system. And the key is to learn how to self regulate and create more nervous system capacity to experience the emotions that you've been avoiding. Okay? So here's a question for you. I'm gonna actually put this up on the screen so you can see it also. K. What would be possible for you if you were okay no matter how you quote felt? No matter what feeling you felt, you were
okay. You could still move forward. You weren't stuck in it. You weren't lingering in it. You could experience the full range of being a human being. And no matter how you felt you were okay. What would be possible for you? I'm curious. Pop it in the chat or leave me a comment in the Facebook group. Freedom. Everything. Yes. Exactly. So here's the truth. You have a problem. You wanna know what I think your problem is? I think your problem is that you're ambitious. If you weren't
ambitious, we wouldn't have a problem. You just be okay with your life the way that it is. But you want more. Is that true? Do you want more? Can you own that you want more out of your life? Yes. So if that's the case, okay, bigger goals, dreams, and purpose require that your nervous system has more capacity to self
regulate. Does that make sense? If you wanna lift more weight, which is a better relationship, which is more money, which is a healthier body, which is better relationships, all those things is like lifting bigger weight. If you wanna lift bigger weight, you have to have a nervous system that has capacity. Who follows? Does it make sense? Because without the capacity, there's nothing wrong with you. It's just there isn't the infrastructure there to hold the life that you're trying to
create for yourself. And so that's why self regulation is so very critical, so important.