Hi. How's it going? It's going good. I'm really happy to be here. Like, I feel like this is exactly what I need. Awesome. I'm happy you're here too. So I really related to what you were saying about the high functional I I do feel stuck, in a lot of areas, but, like, I've been working on this business for about a year, I have it all ready to go. I'm totally stuck with
pro and procrastination. I have been doing all the programs, the Tony Robbins, the UPW, the limiting beliefs, all that kind of stuff, and it just feels I just feel really stuck, and I, you know, I had I had watched I had listened to a lot of your podcasts and stuff and really, like, connected to the trauma stuff, and I know that I have a lot of it from the past. And I don't feel like I have limiting beliefs surrounded anymore, but I do feel like I've got stuff like I I I I do feel scared to go
to the next level. I do feel what you were saying. Like, I don't feel safe. Like I feel I feel good where I'm at right now, but I don't wanna just be here. I wanna keep moving forward. And, you know, I have tons of vision boards and all sorts of stuff, but I don't seem to get out of my own way. I feel I feel like I'm trapped in in the space. Yeah. So so so first of all, I am so happy that you're here. Me too.
Welcome. Like, seriously. And the other thing to know is, first of all, Tony is a dear friend of mine and one of my mentors, and nothing that I'm saying is anti Tony. Tony has his work has a place. Yeah. And I, like, take his stuff all the time. And I believe that, you know, like, I think about, the bands that I love, there's so many bands. Right? And I think that, like, there's not one way. I think there's lots of ways. And I think we need a a variety, and I'm I'm deeply versed in his
work, and I love his stuff. And what I will say is is that Tony's work is not trauma informed, and it doesn't need to be. Right? Joe Dispenza's work is not trauma informed, and it doesn't need to be. Okay? We don't need everybody to be trauma informed as a practitioner. Right? We don't need everyone to start changing their stuff. What want is we what I want is I wanna wanna meet people where they are and help people understand. Like, for example, with
Tony, the core of his work is based in neurolinguistic programming. One of the core assumptions of neurolinguistic programming is that it doesn't matter what happened to you change your state. Right? Right. And that was cutting edge in the seventies and eighties, And I I still use NLP to this day in the right context. Right? But what's important to understand is that that modality falls short of being trauma informed. And so Yeah. Can we throw it all out? No. We don't
throw it out. Okay. It just doesn't it just didn't feel like you kinda hit the nail on the head. I feel like I got a lot out of it, but then I felt like, okay. I can't I need I I in order to go further, I need I need to do some work related, some trauma informed work because it's like, you can change your state for a minute. Exactly. But then you go back to it. Right? Like, during the session, you're and you're pumped up. You're
there. And then as soon as 2 weeks later, you're back into your normal life. You kinda go back to Yeah. And and and let's, like, talk about that for a second too. Okay? So and and and, you know, I mean and Tony is probably the first to talk about the idea of immersion with space repetition. So, you know, here's an analogy. Okay? So and this I'm gonna be cheeky for a second. Okay? Yeah. So have you ever taken a shower? Yeah. I just took 1. Okay. Did you take a shower, say, 6
months ago? Yes. Okay. Have you ever taken a shower and then had a few months go by and thought to yourself, oh, that you know, that shower I took a few months ago didn't work? No. Why? I know it seems ridiculous, but just play with me for a second. I I mean, that guy I don't know because I I guess he just kinda So the expectation is that, of course, I'm gonna have to take a shower
because that's like I need to stay clean every day. Right? Right. So, like and Tony talks about training and immersion, space repetition, all those things. Right? And so it's important to understand that, like, that's what we want is we want a lifestyle change. Okay. And my goal is to create a trauma informed sort of almost like base layer. Right? I feel like everyone should do our work, and it can enhance, Like his work because they
have an understanding of their history and their past. His work is not designed to do that. And when I do his work, I'm not trying to do what I'm doing here. Right? I'm trying to literally override my system and, like, really create an energy burst, which has a time and place for it. But that's not a, that's not a sustainable approach. Right? It's not a holistic approach. And so it's important to understand That that has that
has a a place. But what I wanna say is is that the the the core assumption of the neurolinguistic programming model is that it doesn't matter what happened You we wanna change your state now. And the latest neuroscience says, actually, it very much matters what happened to you, and we need to actually look at that. So if you look at the neuroscience, Trauma net trauma has networks in the brain and in the body. Right? And and they get stronger
over time, especially because it happens when we're younger. Okay. It's important to understand that we can override and build a new network on top of that trauma network. Right? But there's still the underlying network. We do our trauma work properly, we rewire the network. Yeah. And the problem is the studies in trauma work don't look at the next level and what happens to that network yet. Right? Because the next level is more challenging and more stressful. Okay?
Yeah. And so what we want is we want to rewire and create more challenge and understand that I'm gonna bring my past with me, and that's parts are gonna show up again. So I have I I have parts. Right? One of my parts is little guy. Little guy believes nothing's gonna work, and no one's gonna show up. Right? So yesterday, during the VIP welcome call, nobody showed up. And then he was like, see, nobody showed up. It was a tech run. It wasn't like people
and it wasn't like people didn't wanna show up. Right? But that part's still there, and he's young. He's a very young part of me. And he doesn't run the show. So let's talk about you. Okay? Yeah. You wanna start a business, but you're stuck. Okay? Yeah. How long would you say you've been stuck? I have been stuck for probably about, I would say, about a I guess, maybe a year a year. Okay. And what would you say is unsafe about the
future? Because the next so the I have a business now that I'm really successful in. This new business that I wanna do is a shift, so it would be doing something new and different, and exercising, like, muscles and areas that I I'd be new at, and I think the idea of new is sort
of triggering you mentioned parts. Like, it's triggering the part of me that, like, got picked last in kickball that you know, it's it's triggering this so I'm I'm feeling unsafe to move forward because it's gonna require to me, like, To do all the social media and to get out on video and to put myself out and to put myself out there, and I'm scared of rejection, I think. Makes sense. Makes sense. Right?
So we'll start with a base of since you mentioned Tony. Yeah. I'm afraid of rejection because if people reject me, I won't be enough, and I won't get Okay. So that's kinda where the 6 needs are it goes. Okay? Now let's go further. Okay? So not only that, you have experiences that are valid where you've put yourself out there and you were not chosen. Yes. Okay. So that's not, that's not like you're just making that up out of nothing. Okay. Now. Your
nervous system is saying, this happened to me. I do not want this to happen again. Right. Okay. And so you're like, cool. Let me just chill for a year. Yeah. And here's the thing. If all you do is change your state, you can get short term momentum bursts. Okay? Yeah. Until we do the work on the underlying part of you that really feels like she hasn't been chosen right. Those parts hold on, and we'll we'll call it procrastination, but we're keeping ourselves safe for not
being chosen. Yeah. No. That's definitely because, like, the business that I'm in, I have a consulting business, but that very much is a business. Like, I have always been a lone wolf, so the the model of the business is based on my strengths, which is, like, get an assignment, go, like, do the strategy, do the work, come back, present it, kick ass, and move on. Like, I don't have to be accepted by anyone. Like like, I
can I can very much live in my comfort zone That's right? Where this new business is much more about community. So the whole business model is based on me being accepted Yeah. Which is never something that I've actually felt Yeah. Ever. Yeah. So that Hold on. Pause for a second. Yeah. Never something I've ever felt ever. Where do you feel that in your body? I feel it in, like, my, I would say, my root chakra and my stomach. So where do you feel it most? Stomach or My stomach.
Alright. So let's just for a second pause and bring your hand there for a second, And just let that part of you go know, like, wow. You've never felt accepted ever. We've never felt accepted ever. And just notice what happens. It moves up. Okay. And now where is it? Now it's in my heart. And what's the feeling there? Oh, it just it feels I think I feel sad. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. That would make sense to feel
sad. Yeah. And guess what? Going from not paying attention To not feeling accepted, to paying attention to how this part of you didn't feel accepted and feeling sad right now Yeah. That's also a beautiful state. Yeah. Because it's true. Yeah. Acceptance self acceptance is a beautiful state. It doesn't feel good all the time. No. Yeah. But can you be with that sadness for a second and ask that sadness how old it thinks you are? 10. And ask that sadness, what is keeping you safe from
Abandonment, rejection. Yeah. So let's do something counterintuitive. Okay? Let's just go to that sad part and just say, I see how abandoned you've been. I've seen how rejected you've been, And that sadness makes a ton of sense. Let's actually agree with it and not try to change it. I see how abandoned you've been and how rejected you've been, and it makes a ton of sense that you feel that way. Just notice It's like my whole body relaxed just like, the shoulders went down
just, like, acknowledging it. What a beautiful state you've created. Yeah. It's amazing. How can somebody else accept you if you're not gonna accept yourself? That makes so much sense. In this state. Yeah. Yeah. Because going back and thinking about some of that trauma that I've dealt with, it's, like, stuff that I've it's stuff that I've never allowed myself to really, like, accept or talk about or like, I just kind of pushed it aside and tried to push
keep pushing through. Yeah. Yeah. And what I can say is that, like, there's a time and place to push through. Yeah. And there's a time and place To pause and do this work. And there's a time and place for the leaf blower to show up also. Yeah. Close this door real quick. So it's important that this is this is this is live, folks. This is this is 100% live. And if you didn't believe me, now you can believe me. So the reason why I'm doing this is because, again, this is not about negating
the time to push through something. There's always a time to push through. Right until the if we went live here, I was pushing through a bunch of stuff. Right? But it's also time to go. You know what? Like, I there was there was a part of me that was neglected that didn't Get chosen. Yeah. And you know what? This part of me, until I accept this part and work with this part, she's gonna keep me nice and stuck in procrastination with this business. Yeah. Now let's ask her a
question. Yep. Are you contributing to why I haven't made more momentum in business? Yeah. No. For sure. Okay. Absolutely. Mhmm. Ask her what would have to happen for her to take a step back and let you take the next step in business. She'd have to feel safe. And ask her what would have to happen for her to feel safe. She'd have to feel loved. And what would you need to do to love her? I don't know. I know you don't know, but if you did know, what would you say?
I don't know. They're here. This is where I'm stuck right here. I know that you're stuck, but if you weren't stuck, what would you say? If I What does she need to feel loved by you? What does she need? Don't think about it. Ask her. What does she need? Included. That's right. So stop overriding her. Oh my god. Nope. Just Mastin. That total that totally makes sense because the like, my the community in connecting with people is about being vulnerable and in including that. That part is
the most vulnerable part of myself. So Yeah. By including her, it would help me with connecting with other people in the community that I'm trying to 1, haven't tried, but wanna build anyway. That's right. It's all about including her. That's right. Oh my god. That's good. Yeah. So the work now will be to make that real, and that's why we offer ongoing coaching and support because what we've just done is we've made contact.
So what we wanna do is we wanna create more training to really make sure that wiring and that connection like, we would create more wiring to the parts that we abandon, that we neglect, and more awareness. We wanna bring them forward. And, unfortunately, that's not something that you can do in 5 or 6 days. That's
why we offer more support. And whether it's with us or somebody else, I highly recommend that you Make a big piece of what you're gonna do moving forward about, like, really working with a group like us or a practitioner to help you really build that relationship So that so that so that you can include her. Because thinking that, like, I just found her right now, and I'm going to include her from now on is, like, lone wolfing. Right? Right. And it's like, you don't really know how
to do that. Right? Right. And it's about wiring. And it's like anything. It creates that training is so important. Yeah. Right? And so, like, that's why I do what I do because, like, I've benefited greatly from NLP. I've benefited greatly from Tony. I've benefited greatly from I'm Joe spends his work and many other people. Right? But until we do this work and we bring them into the present, that's just override. And we're like, why am I procrastinating? Why
do I have this limiting belief? What's my triad? Right? And by the way, it actually lines up with Tony's work because he always talks about state being so important. He just hasn't done the deep dive into trauma. That's not his place. It's not his thing. Marie Robbins is like the CrossFit of coaches. Right? Like, I am more like the TB 12 or, like, kind of like a high performance therapeutic approach, physical therapist meets, Like, conditioning coach. Right? I'm kind of a blend of
those 2. He is just high performance and and CrossFit and beautiful. You that's a great modality. But if you have a injured calf, you should not be doing that, and it's not your fault. People wanna, like, do the healing work. Does that make sense? It does. It makes a lot of sense, and it Yeah. Yeah. Now it makes a lot of sense because I was really feeling resistant, dead. The last UPW, I did, and
I was really getting annoyed at it. And, like, it makes sense to why because it was like this part of me was Saying, look at me. Yeah. Like, hello. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So it's like it's, again, it's I we believe in an integrated it's about including what we're doing in that work so that there's there's a more holistic approach. And and that's what I'm a believer in is that what we do amplifies whatever you're already doing. It's not like You have to get rid of all
that stuff. It just fills it out and makes it more more holistic, basically, so that there could be a more alignment and less self abandonment, basically, And more nervous system flexibility. So thank you so much. Thank you so much. I appreciate it. I appreciate it. Awesome. I enjoyed the breakthrough. This was great. Awesome. She had a breakthrough, ladies and gentlemen. It's here for the