There are 3 parts of the nervous system, not 2. And you can think of it like a stoplight, green, yellow, red. Okay. And as you can imagine, green is where we want you to be yellow, and red, less and Okay. Green is called the ventral vagal system, and we'll give you a slide on this in a second so you can see it. Okay. And that's pro social. When you're green, You're pro social. You're, like, making stuff happen. You're connected.
There's healing, growth, and restoration. You're playing. You're, like, getting collaboration. You're getting support, all the things that you need. That's what happened when we're green. Yellow or sympathetic is fight or flight. Fight or flight. We know this one. Who knows fight or flight? Pretty good. Who feels like I know sympathetic? I could I can do anxiety Mastin. I'm I am really good at anxiety. I can do that share really good. Right? So that's fight or flight yellow.
And then below yellow is red or what we call dorsal vagal, which is shut down. Immobilized, invisible. Okay? And there are phases in between. So if you have green and yellow together, that's Kipp play, Okay, mobile eye mobilization with safety. And if you have yellow and red together where you have anxiety, but you're not moving, that's more of a fawn response where you're freezing. But you still have stress. So there's levels here. Okay. And so it's important
to understand that we have these different levels. Now What determines what level we're in, green, yellow, or red, the hierarchy? What determines it? What's the main indicator of whether we're in ventral, sympathetic, or dorsal. What is it? Is it your star sign? Is it your rising sign? Is it what your What is it? What do you think? Nervous system. So we got feel safe, response, edibles, maybe Okay. Events? Okay. The vagus nerve nurse? Okay. No. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Nope. Here's the answer.
Kipp. Polyvagal theory, ventral sympathetic dorsal, green, yellow, red. The state that you're in matters, based on how much challenge you're experiencing. So if you wanna be in green, ventral, you need to reduce challenge. Or be better able to handle it. So if you are in yellow, that's because there's more challenge than there was before in green. If you're in red, that's because there's more challenge than there was in yellow. Challenge.
How much challenge you experience will determine what state you're in. Your state changes based on how much challenger, and that's why when we look at EMDR and all these different therapies out there, they're not taking into consideration the uncertain future and increasing levels of challenge. Who follows? Does this make sense? And by the way, if you're avoided, who here identifies more as an avoidant or lone wolf? Let me see if I show your hands. And the real avoids and lone wolves are
not raising their hands. Okay. I got you. Okay. Either way, The best way for an avoidant to decrease the amount of challenge they're in is to join a group and get help. Okay, to get support. Getting support decreases challenge, socializing, being connected decreases challenge. As well. Doing it on your own increases challenge and puts you in yellow and red. Who follows? This makes sense? Okay. And then the 3rd is that we have the
neuroception. We have the hierarchy, and then we have co regulation. The co regulation piece, the safe connection. Is so vital, okay, because that's part of our how we were socialized. We have, you know, groups of people or tribes because it spreads out the challenge. There's so many things to do. Okay? You try to grow a business on your own through auto regulation doing it by yourself, you will burn out. You're burned out because you don't know how to get help.
You're burned out because you're trying to do it all by yourself. Right? If you wanna be in green, we need to learn how to not do it all by yourself. Who falls? This makes sense, but Mastin in every person I ever met has put me in yellow or red. New people. We need different people. We're not talking about people from your past. Okay. It's about a different type of person. Okay. And so what that means is is that we have 3 parts of the nervous We can bring this slide up, I
think. Can really show y'all. Okay. So we have green, yellow, red. Alright. The parasympathetic Ventral Polyvagal system. That's the that's our system of safety and connection. It's pro social. It uses our prefrontal cortex. And when we're in a Greens virtual state, we're regulated, we're joyful. Who here wants to feel happiness, joy, love, passion, all the good feelings. Let me see about your hands. Those are all ventral emotional states. Okay. Green. Okay. Yellow is mobilization.
Fight or flight. Let's get out of here. Let's go. Let's make it happen. A lot of you, some people in the VIP lunch, We're like, okay. So this is what happened, and this is my relationship to what happened. Well, now what the thing I gotta do? Let's go. Right? And that's that yellow part taking over. It's like, yo, let's, like, Let's slow it down. Okay. Let's slow your role with that. Gotta go. Okay? The reason why you're not going slow
is because you haven't learned what's good about it yet. Here's a deal. Abundance can find you when you go slow. Believe it or not. Abundance on a higher level than you're used to can find you when you go slow. You just don't know that yet or parts of you Okay? Now if we're in green, things are pro social, we're good. Life is good. Okay. We get some challenge. All of a sudden, we drop into sympathetic. We gotta fight. We gotta flee. We gotta go. We gotta crush it. We gotta make it happen. Right?
And if it gets too hard, we go red and dorsal, and we disappear. It's too hard. Who follows? Now the pandemic put the entire world in red. And the mental health cost is just unmeasurable. Unmeasurable. Because being in red immobilized is the worst thing you can do to a mammal. Especially if it's without safety. In mobilization, without safety, is trauma at the worst. Think about what we do to someone in jail. The worst thing we could do solidary confinement. And we've all been in that
for almost 3 years. That's why it's so hard because it's hard. Who falls? Does this make sense? Now here's the problem. Who here sees this? Let's see it this way. Who here sees this slide? And you're like, I wanna be green. I green is for me. Right? Who wants green? Let me see if I show your hands. Okay? And if we're honest, especially in the area where you're, like, at a 1 or a 0 that we started within today, who here feels like in that area of your life, you are red dorsal.
Let me see about your hands. Alright. You want the good news or the bad news on that? Here's the deal. To go from red to green. You gotta go through yellow. What does that mean? It means that if you go from being immobilized to pro social, you probably gotta get angry first. And some of you have to improve your relationship to anger or to frustration. Or to things not being the way you want. Right? Some of you are scared of yellow. That's
because yellow without green is dangerous. And you probably had people growing up who were very yellow without safety, and that can be very scary. Who follows? Does that make sense? But what we wanna do is we wanna bring green to both. Because when we bring green to yellow, we bring safety to mobilization. That is play. That is fun. That's excitement. When we bring green to red and we're mobilized and safe, that's Kipp spooning. You ever just see, like, a cat
just, like, chilling all quiet? And this looks so peaceful or a dog. And did you see those pictures on Instagram where they're just, and they're so happy. When we see pictures of mammals who are safely immobilized, we go, because it's not natural for mammals to be still and safe up until recently because we'd be Mastin otherwise. Who follows this makes sense? So what we want to do is realize that there's what happened to you. There's the response to what happened to you.
You didn't know that that was happening necessarily. And the relationship between those two things is missing green. It's missing green. Who follows? We gotta bring green to it. Now if you look at, like, mental health, diagnosis, and disorders, basically the entire DSM 5, except for a couple medical diagnoses, are different categories of yellow or red. Basically. Right? We have general anxiety disorder. That's a
straight yellow. Bipolar, yellow, red. Right, dissociative identity, all of them, right, with a a red focus. Right? So what we have to realize is is that there's a control panel called the Vegas pathway where we can be green, yellow, or red, but we have to reduce the amount of challenge. And to do that, we can't be alone. Who follows? Does this make sense?