Which is bigger, your head or your body? Just curious, like, Matt general mass. Like, which is bigger? Okay, not ego, but just which one? Yeah, your body. Okay, mental health is the wrong term, okay? We have to focus on the body, on the emotion. What's happening below the neck. That's why the numb. One book in trauma is not called the head keeps the score. It's not called the soul keeps the score. It's called what? The body keeps the score.
Who follows? This makes sense. So why the frick are we talking about mental health if the body keeps the score? I don't understand. Okay, so I believe everything in your system is a response to something that you've gone through, not a disorder. Okay, so PTSD versus PTSR, ADHD versus Adhr. And what I believe is that those symptoms are a protective response to keep you safe. Something happened in your history. Your system adapted, and now it does that to keep you safe.
The problem is, your history is not your future. Okay? And so we have to start to look at things in a different way. And what happens is, if we've gone through adverse experiences or something that's stressful, neglectful, whatever it might be, hurtful, our system adapts, it becomes less flexible, right? So if we have ADHD or PTSD or whatever it might be, we become less and less flexible, and we want to create more flexibility. Okay? And here's the thing.
Nervous system inflexibility limits your options, and it's the reason why you repeat the past. Who follows makes sense, okay? Nervous system flexibility gives you more options, makes things more available. Okay? So the message here today is you. Can be, do, or have anything once your nervous system feels safe. I really believe that. I really believe that once your system feels safe enough and flexible enough, you. Can be, do, or have almost anything. Okay? So here's a
question for you. Let's do some self inventory. What are your unrealized hopes, dreams, projects, goals, aspirations, and intentions? Think about that for a second, okay? Things that you hoped for, wished for, dream for. Projects you wanted to see realized. Goals that you used to set that maybe you gave up on. Hope things used to hope would happen. Aspirations or intentions. Okay? Think about that for a second. Okay? Who here has some hopes or dreams you've given up on? Let me see if I show
hands. Yeah, so most of us. Okay, now here's a question for you. What is on your vision board if you make one? What's there? Or if you haven't done one since? COVID Because COVID what used to be on your vision board? Okay, think about that for a second. Who here can see there's an incongruence between what you say you want and your behavior? Who can see that? Who can be aware of that? Let me see if I show hands. Okay, that makes a lot of sense. Okay, who here feels like you're 99.9%
ready, but you haven't done it yet. You're just about ready to get ready to start to plan, to make the thing happen, to change it, but you're planning on it just in time for the future time where you'll change it at that time, but not right now, but, like, soon.
Who knows? I'm talking about. Okay? The reason why we do the vision boarding and we don't make it happen because we dream and it doesn't come to fruition because we're ready to be ready to be ready, to plan, to plan, to plan, but never quite get there, is because on some level, your system hasn't felt safe to have those things. And the other thing to understand is you also may not have the things that you want because you have a missing skill set.
And when your system is more flexible, when your nervous system is more regulated, more flexible, you can learn more and do more, achieve more, have more, and ask for more help. Okay, so my question for you is what have you been dreaming about but haven't manifested yet? Really think about that for a second. Tap into that, and as you think about what you're dreaming about but what hasn't manifested, what high level coping have you been doing because of that?
Okay, think about that for a second, right? Maybe you've been Netflixing, right? Maybe you've been, I don't know, all over social media, right? Maybe you've been, like, super focused on cleaning, right? Whatever it might be. Okay, what has your high level coping been? That kind of doesn't help you get that next level, but it's healthier than you used to be. Okay, and for you, how flexible or inflexible would you say your nervous system is? How safe do you feel to expand into your dreams
and purpose set boundaries with people and say, no, I'm not. Going to do that. I'm going to do this instead? Okay. So my recommendation is answer these questions because what we want to really get present with is what have you given up on? What are some things that you wanted to do but aren't doing right? Because that is the limit. Whatever you're not doing in your life is the limit of your nervous system flexibility, right? Wherever you can think of it as your comfort zone. But I
don't really like to think of it that way. I think of it more as how flex or inflexible you are. We all have our limits to that.