Arguments between partners are completely normal, even necessary within intimate relationships. If you’re not arguing (at least occasionally!) you’re not talking about the important stuff. The problem is NOT that we argue with our partners... the problem is that we never learned how to argue. If you’re in a committed relationship, you’re going to experience disagreements and arguments. This episode will teach you how to have them. If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marr...
Jul 19, 2023•26 min•Ep. 31
Relationships are a core priority (particularly for women), which is why disconnection from our most intimate partner leads to so many problems. Disconnection leads to resentment leads to blame and opposition. How can you rebuild the connection… when you’ve got one foot out the door? In this episode, I’ll explain what it takes. You’ll walk away knowing the 5 most common things that only make things worse… plus a handful of tools that can open the door to reconnecting with your partner. If you’re...
Jul 12, 2023•31 min•Ep. 30
Making the choice to leave your marriage takes a very long time. You try and try again. When one person finally makes the decision to leave and the other person claims to have been “blindsided”… can that really be true? In this episode I’ll answer the question, “Were you blindsided… or were you just blind?” (Thank you to Kelsea Ballerini’s Blindsided lyrics for this episode’s title inspiration!) If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about findin...
Jul 05, 2023•11 min•Ep. 29
Can you consider the “lessons” you learned from your affair relationship? I know this might push your trigger points… but I invite you to open to the possibility. Yes, affairs are complicated and messy. Yes, affairs cause pain and monumentally impact our families. But in this episode, I invite you to consider the lessons you can learn from an affair relationship (and the gifts these lessons might offer). What You’ll Learn In This Episode: 4 “lessons” my clients have learned from affairs How you ...
Jun 28, 2023•11 min•Ep. 28
This episode is especially for those of you who have already made the decision to leave your marriage or relationship… but feel wobbly in the execution. This is important: Your partner doesn’t have to understand or agree with your reasons for leaving. Yes, the emotional unwinding of your relationship will be difficult, but that’s not a “good enough” reason to invalidate your own pain… to remain compassionate to his. In this episode, I’ll walk you through the reasons why literally NO ONE needs to...
Jun 21, 2023•14 min•Ep. 27
What happens to your brain when you’re falling in love (and into an affair relationship) is the same thing that happens to your brain on drugs. The good news is: You’re NOT addicted to your affair partner. You’re addicted to the feeling of falling in love. In this episode, I’ll explain why that matters and what to do about it! If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my ...
Jun 14, 2023•13 min•Ep. 26
Understanding the opposite sex can be difficult, but ONLY because we don’t know the science behind our natural (and vital!) differences. Yes, men and women are scientifically different. Like it or not: That’s the reality. We can keep pushing against this (and fighting miscommunication with endless conflict…) OR, we can accept and appreciate it. In this episode, I’ll explain how! If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, bo...
Jun 08, 2023•22 min•Ep. 25
Married men are being called to “awaken” inside relationships in a way that hasn’t happened before. That’s a very good thing! And yet, rates of divorce (and the number of affairs) remain as high as ever. In this episode, I’ll explain why I think this is happening, PLUS what we can do about it. If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are ...
May 31, 2023•24 min•Ep. 24
Are today’s women satisfied with cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the kids in exchange for protection and provision? The answer is no. It is clear that in today’s times, women can take care of themselves, and simply being the provider of the family is not enough to sustain a good marriage as a man. In this episode, we will explore the question: what do women really want in a relationship? Now, ⅔ of divorces are initiated by the woman. They want a partner, not a provider. But the issue remai...
May 24, 2023•17 min•Ep. 23
Have you had an affair and wondered if you could have a fresh start with your affair partner? Maybe you’ve seen the statistics - which aren’t helping your optimism. What does it take to make that affair relationship last? And will it be worth it in the long run? In this episode, we will explore why people get into affairs in the first place, and what you are really looking for. The truth is, when one or both of the affair partners become 100% available, the dynamic is going to change. The questi...
May 17, 2023•17 min•Ep. 22
Do you ever feel disconnected in your relationship, like there’s a gap between you and your spouse? Are you stuck repeating boring conversations about work, the kids, and the weather without any real connection? If so, you’re not alone - and the solution may be the opposite of what you think. Here’s the key: complaining does not work on men. Women understand that language, but most of the time, men struggle with knowing what to do with that information. Instead, the gap that you’re feeling is th...
May 10, 2023•21 min•Ep. 21
Have you heard that date night solves everything, nothing should feel awkward after you’re married, or you should never argue with your spouse? If you have, you’re not alone! Despite being well-meaning, people often perpetuate 7 relationship myths that aren’t true for some - if not most - relationships. But the question remains - what does work when you’ve hit a rough patch? The truth is, most solutions are not one-size-fits-all. In fact, in this episode, we will explore some of the unlikely tru...
Apr 11, 2023•29 min•Ep. 20
Does your partner ever say, “my love for you will never change”? Doesn’t that feel terribly romantic? However, unfortunately, this phrase, along with a few others, can be a sign of unhealth in your marriage, pointing to bigger problems around priorities and how you consider your spouse. In this episode, I explore three phrases that can be signs of marriage unhealth and explain why they unnecessarily place your spouse as the linchpin that holds your life together. Our spouses are of course incred...
Apr 04, 2023•21 min•Ep. 19
Are you a driven, type-A, get-things-done kind of woman? So am I, and I have found that, although these masculine qualities serve me well in my career and other areas of my life, I often find it hard to tap into my essential feminine side in my relationship. Whether you are the alpha or beta partner in your marriage, you have to learn to turn your masculine-feminine dials for optimum pleasure and success in your relationship. In this episode, I will talk about the struggles of being all alpha in...
Mar 28, 2023•25 min•Ep. 18
Do you feel as if the spark has gone out in your marriage? Do you wonder where that magical attraction you initially felt disappeared to? Well, here’s the secret - there was never any “magic” outside your control. You can bring that spark back to your marriage today. In this episode, I explore what makes a relationship feel “magical” and how you can keep that dopamine and excitement flowing in your marriage. We will talk about focusing your attention on your spouse and how familiarity suppresses...
Mar 21, 2023•17 min•Ep. 17
Even in faithful relationships, we still betray each other day in and out, even if we don’t call it a betrayal. How is that so? Well, betrayal can come in a variety of different forms, including any breach of trust. So how do you rebuild that trust? In this episode, I will explain how we betray one another in our most intimate relationships and what contributes to continued breaches of trust. We will talk about how forgiveness is not enough for healing betrayal and learn how to unwind that hurt ...
Mar 14, 2023•22 min•Ep. 16
So your partner had an affair. What do you do now? Whether an emotional or physical betrayal, any loss of trust is a big deal, and many partners find themselves desperately monitoring their spouse’s every move and venting to their friends and family. But the question remains - if you want to make the marriage work, how are you going to rebuild that trust? In this episode, I will explain how micromanaging your partner after they have cheated may make you feel safer but absolutely does not fix the...
Mar 07, 2023•14 min•Ep. 15
In any controlling relationship, there are two contributors, whether you realize it or not - the controller and the receiver. Most of us wouldn’t admit to being controlling, but almost everyone has controlling tendencies. Think about it - we all want to feel safe. And in order to diminish our fear, we often resort to controlling our partner. But do you truly want to control your spouse, or would you rather be involved in an equal partnership? In this episode, I will dive into why we end up being...
Feb 28, 2023•16 min•Ep. 14
If your marriage has become disconnected and lonely, you may yearn for “a return to fine,” even knowing, deep down, that isn’t enough. Even when pain is pushing you toward a place of transformation in your relationship, it may feel easier to simply let it all go, releasing that tension. But is that truly what you want? In this episode, I will share with you how fear factors into our relationship hesitation and how to combat it with purposeful, actionable steps to start steering toward a life you...
Feb 21, 2023•24 min•Ep. 13
When you’re trying to decide whether to stay or go in a loveless marriage, fear can be paralyzing - fear that you’ll hurt your husband, fear that you’ll end up in an even more painful situation, fear that you’ll make the wrong decision and regret it. In this episode, I teach you how to get the missing information you need to make the right decision about your marriage - one you’re completely confident you won’t regret. You’ll learn how to overcome your fears so you can break free from this place...
Feb 14, 2023•15 min•Ep. 12
In many cases, it’s not until the husband is faced with divorce that he’ll begin making the changes his wife has requested for years. But as the wife, how can you tell whether these changes are genuine? Is it safe to assume this is your “new normal,” or will he revert back to his old ways as soon as you take divorce off the table? In this episode, I explain why this phenomenon is so common in marriages and what to do when you’re faced with it. You’ll learn how to tell whether the changes your hu...
Feb 07, 2023•17 min•Ep. 11
Making the decision to end your marriage is a journey of its own… but breaching the subject to your spouse is a whole different story. How do you tell your husband - someone you likely still care deeply for, the father of your children, whose life has been intertwined with yours for years or decades - that it’s over? In this episode, I’ll guide you through how to have this difficult conversation with your spouse so you can finally start moving forward towards happiness. You’ll learn how to meet ...
Jan 31, 2023•22 min•Ep. 10
When women reach out to me about their affair, they’re often experiencing a whirlwind of emotions: adoration for their new partner, guilt over their spouse’s feelings, and, above all else, utter confusion about how to move forward. For reasons unbeknownst to them, they can’t bring themselves to let go of their marriage, yet ending the affair feels impossible - and maybe they’ve even tried and failed several times before. “Where do I go from here?” they ask me. “Will I be stuck in this spot forev...
Jan 30, 2023•27 min•Ep. 9
Until the 1970s, women couldn’t file for divorce without hard evidence of abuse or infidelity. Today, divorce rates are skyrocketing - and it’s the women who are leaving in droves. In this episode, I explain what’s caused this massive shift in modern relationship dynamics. I also explore the biological differences between men and women and what causes imbalanced marriage satisfaction over the years. If you’ve ever wondered how your husband seems “fine” while you’re falling apart... don’t miss th...
Jan 29, 2023•22 min•Ep. 8
You might’ve thought that 20 years into your marriage, you’d have it all figured out… but that’s rarely the case. In fact, the divorce rate for couples aged 50+ is skyrocketing, and it’s the women who are serving the papers. In this episode, I explore why that is and what makes relationships falter after decades spent together. You’ll learn about new challenges to anticipate in a mature marriage and how to navigate conflicting desires and goals with your partner. I’ll also share 5 warning signs ...
Jan 28, 2023•24 min•Ep. 7
Most couples acknowledge the concept of “emotional infidelity,” but what does it actually mean? Flirting? Exchanging provocative photos? Sharing intimate life details that create deeper feelings? In this episode, I’ll show you two ways to define emotional infidelity so you and your partner are both crystal clear on expectations. I also explore why emotional affairs happen (even to people who never expected themselves to cheat) and how you can avoid infidelity, either by yourself or your spouse, ...
Jan 27, 2023•17 min•Ep. 6
It’s well known that first marriages end at a rate of 40-50%. But why do second marriages end at a rate of 67% and third marriages at 73% - despite the extra relationship experience accumulated? In this episode, I explore what we take with us from relationship to relationship and how responsibility is shared in divorce. I also share ways to heal yourself and shift your “background music behaviors” so you can find success in future relationships, whether you stay where you are or seek happiness e...
Jan 26, 2023•17 min•Ep. 5
In times of desperation, it’s something we ask everyone around us - friends, family, even the internet… “Is my marriage over?” Unfortunately, as you may have found, getting outside opinions on your marriage will never lead to your own answer. In this episode, I’ll share the one path that will consistently bring you to a place of clarity so you can determine whether it’s time to reinvest in your marriage or lovingly leave it. If you’re questioning whether you can recover the feelings you’ve lost ...
Jan 25, 2023•13 min•Ep. 4
Society will tell you that marriage is the finish line… but in reality, it’s just the beginning. Too many of today’s marriages suffer from neglect (and, in turn, disconnection) because we place our marriages on a shelf, expecting them to last through the ages without proper attention and care. In this episode, I share some of my best practices for regular relationship “upkeep” to repair and maintain your bond across the decades. You might be amazed at your relationship’s potential once it’s bein...
Jan 24, 2023•22 min•Ep. 2
When their concerns are brushed off, women often give up trying to fix the marriage, leaving them dissatisfied for years on end… and leaving men completely blindsided when faced with divorce papers. The truth is, in most relationships, both parties could be doing more to give the marriage a fair shot. And if we don’t make critical changes sooner rather than later, the decision of whether to stay or go could be made for us. In this episode, you’ll learn how to improve communication on both sides ...
Jan 24, 2023•18 min•Ep. 3
