Ask Sharon: I’ve changed, but something still isn’t working

Sometimes our partner can’t see that we’ve changed, and keeps bracing for the backlash that used to come.

One woman shared how her husband still expects to be punished when he goes out with friends, even though she’s no longer upset about it.

Another is doing all the work to reconnect, but still feels no desire for her partner.

And she’s wondering if that’s a sign.

But desire isn’t just emotional—it’s hormonal.

And it doesn’t magically reappear. It needs care. It needs attention. It needs to be fed.

But if the foundation is strong, there are ways to reconnect that go far beyond just “trying harder.”

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.