The KYLO Show

Setting Healthy Limits

Of all the KYLO Principles the most misunderstood is Principle #5… Healthy Boundaries. To have healthy boundaries you need to know what they are and what they are not… As well as how to set and keep them. You’ll get the answers to these questions and more in this week’s episode of The KYLO Show. -- Do you want to develop your character, your relationships, and build a whole, healthy family of your own? Visit https://lovingonpurpose.com/ and get our online training and resources to build healthy ...

Modeling Respectful Communication to Your Kids

Do your kids ever act disrespectfully? If so, you may be wondering where they even learned to act that way. Danny and Brittney have the answer in this week’s episode of The KYLO Show. (Hint: It might not come from where you think) You'll also learn about the "Big Red Button", helpful communication techniques, and how to attain high levels of respect and responsibility in your home. -- Do you want to develop your character and build a whole, healthy family of your own? Visit https://lovingonpurpo...

Build a Heart-to-Heart Connection with Your Kids

In all relationships we are pursuing one of two goals. One goal leads to deep covenant relationships and the other creates chaos and power struggles. On this week’s episode, Danny and Brittney explain what both of these goals are and how to choose the one that leads to thriving relationships. -- Do you want to develop your character and build a whole, healthy family of your own? Visit https://lovingonpurpose.com/ and get our online training and resources to build healthy relationships. Stop livi...

Using Love and Fear in Parenting

When we talk about choosing love over fear in parenting, we’re talking about what is motivating our behavior toward our kids––and the motives we want to foster in them. We are actively trying to get them to manage themselves to make choices and behave in ways that promote and protect healthy connection. A reminder that as we look at parenting, these truths not only apply to listeners who have children, but also help us understand our relationships with our parents, with authority, and with God h...

Powerful Parenting vs. Powerless Parenting

For the next five episodes, we’re going to dive into how to apply the 5 KYLO Principles in parenting. If you’re not a parent don’t tune out because this is still going to be helpful for you! These episodes are about parenting, but it is ultimately rooted in our relationship with God and how He parents us. One of the greatest classrooms for your relationship with God is being a parent. Today we’re going to zone in on #1: Be powerful. -- If you want to develop your character and build a whole, hea...

KYLO Principle 5: Honor Healthy Boundaries

A healthy boundary keeps in what you want to keep in your life and keeps out what you want to keep out. When we make the powerful choice to say yes to a relationship, that “yes” means saying “no” to other things. So, Boundaries are ultimately about protecting and honoring our “yes.” Danny and Brittney will explain further in this week’s episode of The KYLO Show. -- If you want to develop your character and build a whole, healthy family of your own, visit LovingOnPurpose.com and get all of our on...

KYLO Principle 4: Practice Respectful Communication

Do you want to be; A) a passive communicator, B) an aggressive communicator, C) a passive-aggressive communicator, or D) an assertive communicator? Here’s a hint- the answer is D! Unfortunately, knowing the answer and practicing the answer are two different things. In this week’s episode, Danny and Brittney talk about the #1 reason for communication breakdowns and how to become a better communicator. -- If you want to develop your character and build a whole, healthy family of your own, visit Lo...

KYLO Principle 3: Pursue the Goal of Connection

In every relationship we’re pursuing one of two goals; the goal of connection or the goal of distance. And in case you didn’t know the goal you want to pursue is connection. It's a really simple concept but it can feel very hard to do. In this week’s episode, Danny and Brittney teach on how you can pursue the goal of connection (always), the 7 Pillars of a Healthy Relationships, and you’ll get to hear an amazing listener testimony. This is an episode you’ll want to listen to over and over again....

KYLO Principle 2: Choose Love Over Fear

Hiding, avoiding, blaming, manipulation, and using people are all fear-based tools that create relationships full of anxiety. This is not the way it should be. In this week’s episode, Danny and Brittney talk about how to move out of self-preservation and into connection so that you can love like Jesus. If you want connected, life-giving, relationships then buckle up and get ready for this week’s episode, and KYLO Principle #2, Choose Love Over Fear! -- If you want to develop your character and b...

KYLO Principle 1: Be Powerful

In the last 8 episodes, Danny and Brittney laid the groundwork for why whole, healthy families are going to save the world. In these next 5 episodes they're going to launch into how to keep your love on with The 5 KYLO Principles, starting with Principle #1: Be Powerful. Being a powerful person does not mean being angry, loud, or destructive. Being powerful means loving God, others, and ourselves like God loves. If you want to become a powerful person then cut the distractions and tune in becaus...

Our Family Mission

God gave the human family a mission to be fruitful, multiply, and subdue the earth. In essence, to build family and build culture. Specifically, a kingdom culture. Our original mission was to expand heaven on earth. Sin didn’t remove the mission or mandate, it perverted it and caused it to be full of pain, frustration, futility, and strife. We’ve created hell on earth. Jesus came to redeem all of that and renew our mission. Our mission is to build the family of God, kingdom culture–and to bring ...

Identity

Being made in the image of God means being made in the image of family. We are not atomized individuals who just hatch out of the ground or get made in a factory. We are persons connected to other persons and to God in the design of family. This means our identity is relational AND that we can’t know who we are, why we are here, and what we need to be doing with our lives apart from this relational identity. -- If you want to develop your character and build a whole, healthy family of your own, ...

The Marriage Covenant

The current divorce rate is nowhere near 50 percent and has never been close to the 50 percent mark. Instead, the vast majority of marriages last a lifetime. Top experts continue to project divorce rates of 40 to 50 percent, but these are future projections based on various assumptions, and we’ve never come close to that high of an overall divorce rate. Most marriages (about 80%) are happy, but there’s a strong cultural message that most aren’t, which creates fear and discouragement about the in...

Male and Female

There us unity in diversity. We see it in the Trinity and in the human family. The Godhead is “three in one,” and in the human family “two become one” and produce children to make three. Each part is a whole person that is essential to make the whole family. We are complementary to one another and our differences were designed as a gift. Then sin entered. As a consequence, God explains to them that their relationship is not going to work as it was designed. Now there’s this dynamic of domination...

The Heart of the Father

We are in a cultural moment where there’s a battle over our inheritance and our national story. There’s one narrative that wants honor, preserve, and live more fully from what we’ve received from our founding fathers. To forgive them for their faults but also thank them for the inheritance they gave us and try to live up to it. There’s another narrative that’s about distancing ourselves from and criticizing our fathers and rejecting our inheritance, which just perpetuates the fatherlessness and ...

The Trinity

In this episode, we’re going to unpack some of the big concepts we introduced in the last episode's brief theology of family. We want to talk about this idea of God being a family. What kind of family is God and what kind of family did He design us to be? Jesus’ whole mission, of course, was to reconcile us back to the Father and restore us to their divine family.

God's Design for Family

We often say that each person is made in the image of God. This is true. But if you look at this verse, you have God describing Himself in the plural--let US--and then making mankind in the plural--male and female--as his image. God--Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, is a family, and the human family is His image.

Introduction to the KYLO Show

Welcome to the KYLO Show, the podcast where we talk about how to keep our love ON no matter what and how to build healthy, whole families.

Welcome to The KYLO Show