+++ UP THEIR GAME +++ One of the ways that my parents would try to get us as children to do better, would be to compare us, shame us, threaten us, and at times, whup us. The latter was, unfortunately, the first in their arsenal of choices. This was more so my dad than my mom. Did they work? Some did. Others only led to hurt feelings and at times passive resistance. What do you do when the underperformer happens to be your adult team members? Trying the methods my parents used, will not get the r...
Nov 12, 2019•28 min•Ep. 138
+++ CONFLICT FOR SALE +++ In some settings, you would think that there's a sale on conflict. Everyone seems to be "wearing" it. Right? Everywhere you go, there seems to be conflict all around. Have you ever been in environments like that? Here's what I know. Life is made up of conflicts. It shouldn't surprise us when it happens. What should surprise us is our mishandling of them; how we behave. All of us are either: Going into a conflict Leaving a conflict Currently in a conflict Would you agree...
Nov 07, 2019•40 min•Ep. 137
+++ NO DIME ONLY TIME +++ Have you ever been in a tight spot where your budget didn't allow you to do some things you know would possibly help your situation? You had the time but just didn't have the dime to make it happen. That's never a good feeling. I've been there and I know what it feels like to have an idea or a desire, but couldn't because: IT JUST WASN'T IN THE BUDGET. This is frustrating in every way but more so for a leader who sees the need for new machinery, more training, more reso...
Nov 06, 2019•30 min•Ep. 136
+++ LIFT YOUR GLASS +++ I'm not sure you're interested in a glass of wine or not but you're going to get more than a glass of wine in this episode. Barefoot wine founders Bonnie Harvey and Michael Houlihan are in the hooooouuuuseeee!!! Have you ever wondered how a brand is built from the ground up to become one of the most successful in the industry? Have you ever wondered if it's possible to do the same? What if you were invited to pull up a chair and listen in on the story of two people who ar...
Nov 05, 2019•47 min•Ep. 135
+++ FAMILIARITY BREEDS CONTEMPT +++ How often have we taken something or someone for granted until we no longer had them? Have that ever happened to you where you became so familiar to your surroundings and that which was included that you took it for granted? Have you ever felt a tinge or more of regret over something or someone you no longer have around? Is part of the regret that you have come from guilt? I've had my share. It's when I no longer had what I took for granted and became so famil...
Oct 29, 2019•29 min•Ep. 134
+++ DON'T BE SCARED +++ Many leaders today aren't discussing what most of their people are wondering or concerned about ... their jobs. Will automation and artificial intelligence aka AI, replace them. Do you know anyone who is concerned about that? Are you? We are hearing that automation will take away people's jobs, which has caused some anxiety for workers and even leaders. I read where 1.8 million jobs will be made obsolete as a result of automation. But what if those stories were not true? ...
Oct 25, 2019•50 min•Ep. 133
+++ ENERGIZE THEM +++ The Energizer Bunny created a mascot in 1989, to become one of the country's most identifiable brand mascots. Their tagline? "Still Going!" The point is that the energizer battery is the catalyst for a keep-going attitude. How do leaders/business owners energize their people to keep going and do their best work even when ...? You'll discover the answers as you listen to this episode. Having strong people skills that are being practiced regularly is the key, and in this epis...
Oct 24, 2019•37 min•Ep. 132
+++ BAD BOSS HEAR DAY +++ Note: It's not a typo! The phrase "bad hair day" is normally associated with someone having a difficult time getting their hair to cooperate in the way they'd like. So the use of the phrase without the H.A.I.R spelling is intentional. We could say bad bosses don't hear or listen well. For the most part, they are clueless about what's happening around them. They are too busy "bossing" people around while the mass exodus of their best people is taking place. In essence, t...
Oct 22, 2019•37 min•Ep. 131
+++ IT'S MAGICAL +++ It's aahmazing what can happen when we truly accept ourselves through and through, flaws and all. But to do so requires that we become honest with ourselves by asking and answering that one question as our guest - Oleg Lougheed - discusses on today's show. When we as leaders become honest with our own struggles, disappointments, and pain, we create a connecting point with the people we lead. They will see us as people who hurt and bleed just as they do. These are some of the...
Oct 15, 2019•47 min•Ep. 130
+++ IT'S AUDACIOUS +++ Such audacity! Have you ever heard, said or thought that? Normally, this word is used in a negative context and because of that it is reserved for those moments. Right? What if you hit the pause button and take a second look at the word by simply changing it to AUDACIOUS? Our guest today - Alicia Couri - is a big proponent on the use of this word but more as an adjective to describe something desirable. Who is Alicia? Alicia Couri strives to Influence, Educate, Inspire, an...
Oct 10, 2019•56 min•Ep. 129
+++ GEE, A RAISE +++ Have you ever had to conduct a performance review or have one done on you? Do you recall what it was like prior to the meeting? Knots in your stomach. Uncertainties. Stress. And then to walk away from it feeling like discouraged, deflated, and possibly depressed. And to know you had to wait a whole year for this. Really? In this episode, you'll discover 3 reasons why HR annual performance reviews are archaic and could be costing a company in more ways than one. Please share ...
Oct 09, 2019•34 min•Ep. 128
+++ KILLING SO SOFTLY +++ There's an oldie but goodie song that was very popular in the 70's sung by the Fugees, entitled: Killing me softly that I loved. The chorus went like this: "Strumming my pain with his fingers Singing my life with his words Killing me softly with his song Killing me softly with his song Telling my whole life with his words Killing me softly with his song " I know this might be dating me and maybe you if you remembered it. If you don't, no worries because it is really not...
Oct 08, 2019•34 min•Ep. 127
+++ TOO TOXIC, I'M OUT +++ Have you ever been surrounded by toxic co-workers or find yourself working for a toxic boss? Do you remember what it was like or are you currently going through the pain of one? It's not a nice environment to be in. You feel stuck because you may need the money but you wish you could be somewhere else. You go to work and just do what you have to do and leave. Right? When this happens, I blame the leader. Do you? He or she can or should be doing something about it. Unfo...
Oct 04, 2019•40 min•Ep. 126
+++ MAKEOVER OPPORTUNITY +++ There are so many makeover-shows that adding one more makeover to the mix could easily cause you to go "Oh no, not another one." If that is your first reaction, I fully understand. But could you humor me and not be so quick to conclude this is another one? Because it really isn't. This episode is like a master-class by our guest expert - Paul Grau Jr - on how the DiSC assessment is used in helping to identify people's strengths and how it shows up in the workplac e. ...
Oct 03, 2019•1 hr•Ep. 125
+++ EXTROVERT DILEMMA +++ Do you know an extrovert? Are you an extrovert? Do you know that they can be annoying to someone who is wired quite the opposite from them and without self-awareness, can cause harm to relationships around them? They are great "cheerleaders" and the world needs them, but they have some limitations that undermine their credibility. However, because of their persuasive strengths, they tend to compensate until their greatest fear becomes their reality. In this episode, you...
Oct 01, 2019•23 min•Ep. 124
+++ D-DAY +++ When most people hear the phrase D-Day, they generally think of it being a war-associated phrase. I'm one of those. But to some people, it may mean something else. What does it mean to you? Another way some have thought about it is that it's decision day. I have used the decision-day more often than that of the war-association. However, it could mean a number of other things. In this episode, it means a personality style known as Dominant. It is based upon the universally known DiS...
Sep 30, 2019•22 min•Ep. 123
+++ LIKE THE PLAGUE +++ There are a number of precautions I take to avoid certain things in life such as the spread of germs. I hate it when I'm in a crowded space and someone lets out a huge sneeze and not cover their mouth. They'll put their head to the side or face down towards the ground as if the ground or space is going to absorb their germs. Uggh! Disgusting! Do you feel that way too? When that happens I try to quickly cover my nostrils. Like my attempt to avoid acquiring someone else's g...
Sep 24, 2019•34 min•Ep. 122
+++ END A STANDOFF +++ Have you ever been in a conflict with someone that lasted longer than it should? Are you in one now that's dragging on and on and on with no seemingly end in sight? Are you waiting for someone who have offended you to make the first move but nothing has happened? If this describes you, you are in a STANDOFF. The question is, how do you end it? Is it possible? There's no guarantee that what is suggested on this show is going to end it. But you'll discover some ideas as to w...
Sep 13, 2019•33 min•Ep. 121
+++ FASTEST READER +++ When I look at my bookshelf and see how many books I have not read and those which I've started and not completed, I just wish ... ... I wished I read faster ... I wished I could remember more of what I read even a few minutes ago ... I wished I had a systemized way to improve my reading speed and retention capability Am I the only one like this? Do you relate? What if you could change that? What if there was an easy way to make it happen? In this episode, you'll hear from...
Sep 12, 2019•58 min•Ep. 120
+++ GUILTY AS CHARGED +++ How easy is it to blame or point the finger to others for something that we are guilty of. Do you know anyone who does that? Do you do that? We all are at some point guilty as charged. No one can say I've never done it. When people are leaving the workplace in droves or are less engaged in their work, some leaders are quick to point the finger and not take responsibility for what might be their doing. But it's not all on the leader. Sometimes the leader is working with ...
Sep 11, 2019•34 min•Ep. 119
+++ WINNERS LOVE SCORECARD +++ Who is keeping score? This statement have different meanings. In relationships, there is someone who is constantly keeping score to make sure their is fairness. It's their way of building up their arsenal for a later time. In a game, it is used to make sure everyone knows the outcome. Winners love to point to the scorecards. Not so much for losers. But scorecard is also used in the area of leadership. Someone is keeping score on how you are performing. The question...
Sep 10, 2019•46 min•Ep. 118
+++ DIGITAL WOES +++ Indeed we are no longer in the industrial era and it shows. Automation. Artificial Intelligence. Robotics. Job losses. Retraining. Now what do we do? Let's see what the recent research by IBM has to say about this. 120 million people in the workforce will need to be retrained within the next 3 years It takes 12x longer to be retrained now than it did 5 years ago Behavioral skills are the new currency of the digital era Still at a loss? In this episode, you will hear more abo...
Sep 09, 2019•31 min•Ep. 117
+++ TOO BURNOUT TO KNOW +++ There was a time in my life that I would say I had symptoms of burnout but didn't know it. Actually I didn't want to know. If I did, I more than likely would not have acknowledged it or agreed with the diagnosis. Burnout implied weakness. As a man, not to mention a Caribbean man at that, I should be able to handle anything. I simply had to "tough it up." Don't feel was my motto to life's situation. Just deal with it. I don't think I'm the only one who thought this way...
Aug 28, 2019•28 min•Ep. 116
+++ THUMBS DOWN TO THIS ONE +++ Clicking on a thumbs down icon or image, signifies a dislike, disagreement or distaste for something. Often, when I read an article that is meant to help me solve a problem, I'm given the chance to show my reaction to the content. This is done with two options: a thumbs up or a thumbs down. From time to time, I will click on one or the other. I've noticed that my clicks tend to be on the thumbs down more than the thumbs up. Why is this so? Is it because I don't ge...
Aug 27, 2019•31 min•Ep. 115
+++ WON'T BE THE SAME +++ Every now and then there seems to be a food war among fast-food companies. Each one is trying to outdo the other by making a similar kind of product and promoting it as better than the other. The one that was first on the market - product #1 - has conditioned people's taste buds as to how that product should taste. Some people will have a hard time accepting product #2 as equal or better than product #1. So it is with Artificial Intelligence (AI). It is product #2 when ...
Aug 24, 2019•25 min•Ep. 114
+++ BEST WHEN EQ’d +++ Recently I was eating something and it just didn’t taste fresh. My taste buds recoiled when the taste of the product leaked out from my chewing. Ewwww! My brow knitted, my eyes shut tightly closed for a minute, and my facial muscles contracting. Have you ever had one of those moments? Immediately, I looked at the date label to see what it said. Here’s the very first thing I read: “Best if used by ___”. I realized that it was beyond the suggested date. Had I eaten the produ...
Aug 21, 2019•23 min•Ep. 113
+++ POWER TO THE PEOPLE +++ Before you get the wrong impression, this is not a call to some kind of rebellion. Quite the contrary as you'll read and hear. But there comes a time when we've got to realize we are more powerful than we are. Too often we hear so much victim stories, that we've almost accepted that as the status quo of life. I see and hear about this a lot in the workplace. And there are many reasons why it continues. Leaders who aren't skilled or insightful enough to intentionally s...
Aug 20, 2019•29 min•Ep. 112
+++ LEVERAGE YOUR POSITION +++ Andy Stanley, pastor of one of the largest church in America - Northpoint in Atlanta, made this statement about leadership: “ You leverage that power for the benefit of other people in the room.” Many people in leadership positions do quite the opposite. They use their power and position to serve their selfish agenda. Little do they know that this approach will work against them and their organization, in the long run. How often have I heard, or read of people purp...
Aug 16, 2019•53 min•Ep. 111
+++ IT'S ALL ABOUT THE 5 +++ You have 5 fingers, 5 toes, and 5 domains. Domains? Yes. Here's what the Cambridge dictionary say about the word domain: it's an area of interest or an area over which a person has control. In my book: The Emotelligent Leader - Succeed Where Others Failed, I mention five domains, which are: Physical Intellectual Emotional Relational Spiritual They all need to be addressed. To do and not the other leads to imbalance. Many people find their lives out of balance when th...
Aug 10, 2019•23 min•Ep. 110
+++ THE MOMENT +++ The moment when their lives change forever. The moment when their world turn upside down. The moment when the thing you feared the most happened to them. What do you do? How do you lead yourself and those are going through these experiences? Is there a protocol? Are there steps one can follow? Is it possible to guide those in pain, in shock, in disbelief, in ________? (fill in the blanks) Here are 5 don'ts: Don't rush to judgment Don't say, "If I were you I would ..." Don't ac...
Aug 06, 2019•30 min•Ep. 109
